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How To Flirt With Your Life · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigl Land Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land Patius.
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  Speaker 2: I'm out and I'm sal and this is too broad,
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  Speaker 2: chicks to show that shares life lessons and tips tail
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  Speaker 2: make you rich in life. And I hope you're all
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  Speaker 2: feeling a little bit, a little bit flirty.
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  Speaker 1: You're ready to float?
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  Speaker 2: Are you ready to float? Bitch? Everyone's like, uh so
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  Speaker 2: today we are talking a very on brand episode. I
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  Speaker 2: feel like for us, it's because it's fun, it's flirty,
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  Speaker 2: it's thriving, and it's how to float with your life.
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  Speaker 3: Yep.
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  Speaker 2: So there's a couple kind of podcasts and substacks all
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  Speaker 2: about this idea, and we've wanted to tap into the
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  Speaker 2: conversation because I just love the notion and idea behind this.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, me too. And it's reframing how to fall back
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  Speaker 1: in love with your life.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's a little bit I would call it
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  Speaker 2: like the little sister of romanticizing your life. Do you
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  Speaker 2: know what I mean? Like it's the same, same but different.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I feel that. And it's just it's fun, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think is why we're excited to get into it.
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  Speaker 1: But we like to start with our obsessions of the week,
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  Speaker 1: What are you obsessing over?
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  Speaker 2: lasted me like a good six months.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, ten out of ten.
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  Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is a study that was
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  Speaker 1: shared by the Washington Post and they found that six
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  Speaker 1: point four to seven point eight hours of sleep is
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  Speaker 1: the sweet spot for healthy aging.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because I always thought it was eight hour listening here,
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  Speaker 4: we've seen her like interview and Dakota Johnson says that
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  Speaker 4: she needs like ten hours, like twelve hours of sleep
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  Speaker 4: to be functioning.
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  Speaker 1: I guess that's the thing is that it's like and
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  Speaker 1: actually that's what the researchers said. They emphasize that the
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  Speaker 1: amount of sleep that each person needs really varies based
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  Speaker 1: on genetics, environment, lifestyle, and so many other factors. So
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  Speaker 1: some people need six hours while others need nine. But
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  Speaker 1: I just thought that was so interesting because we're taught
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  Speaker 1: that we need at least eight hours of sleep a night, right,
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  Speaker 1: which is you know, I'm sure that there's there would
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  Speaker 1: be lots of research to prove that across the board.
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  Speaker 2: That is a good thing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, it's very very interesting, So don't feel bad.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like if you only need six hours, or
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  Speaker 1: if you feel like you need ten. Yeah, but I
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  Speaker 1: think everybody's so.
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  Speaker 2: Different, doesn't feel like a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like six the amount that I get most
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  Speaker 1: probably yeah, and between six girl, Yeah, between six to
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  Speaker 1: seven is probably what I get.
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel rested with six to seven?
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  Speaker 1: Even if I get told like if I get like
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  Speaker 1: ten hours, I feel the same. I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: it is, but yeah, very interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Shall we flirt?
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  Speaker 1: Let's flat.
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  Speaker 2: I love flirting.
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  Speaker 1: Love flirting, love flirting. Yeah, okay, so you kind of
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  Speaker 1: you touched on this at the top of the episode.
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  Speaker 1: But we're chatting how to flirt with your life?
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  Speaker 2: But what does that actually mean? It's provocative get some
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  Speaker 2: people going, as we like.
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  Speaker 1: To say, because we all kind of know what flirting is,
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  Speaker 1: right in the context of romance. We know flirting as
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  Speaker 1: the act of chatting and getting to know somebody that
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  Speaker 1: you haven't that's maybe new in your life.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that you would think of when you think of
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  Speaker 2: flirting is like romantic, Yeah, romantic.
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  Speaker 1: And it's kind of like it's usually pretty playful and
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  Speaker 1: lighthearted and fun, and there's a bit of you know,
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  Speaker 1: risk involved and an element of surprise. So yeah, one
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  Speaker 1: of the key characteristics of flirting generally is that sense
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  Speaker 1: of unpredictability and that it's intriguing and exciting and new.
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  Speaker 1: So how can we flirt with life because that's all
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  Speaker 1: we've known, Like, you've known your life ever since you've
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  Speaker 1: worn it's been kind of the same ever since. Like,
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  Speaker 1: it's not like a new relationship. So in basic terms,
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  Speaker 1: flirting with life is a way of subtle a law
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  Speaker 1: or romanticizing the world around you and having that perspective
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  Speaker 1: shift to shake things up and pay attention to different
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  Speaker 1: details in a way that you maybe haven't before. But
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  Speaker 1: it's also like a process of becoming more magnetic and
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  Speaker 1: intentional with your life and attracting the things that you want.
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  Speaker 2: A bit more open.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, and it's I guess we're flirting as well.
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  Speaker 1: So often part of it is like the tea is right,
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  Speaker 1: and waiting for that feeling and waiting for them to
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  Speaker 1: text you back.
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  Speaker 2: And not butterflies.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's kind of what this is. It's patience
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  Speaker 1: is favored over instant gratification or always knowing what is
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  Speaker 1: going to happen next.
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  Speaker 2: I like it, and we were reading this substack when
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  Speaker 2: we were doing research for this episode, which I really
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  Speaker 2: liked the angle of it and how it went into
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  Speaker 2: linked in the show notes of but how it kind
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  Speaker 2: of ties into this theme of seduction. Right, How good
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  Speaker 2: is that word? And it's such a good word. If
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  Speaker 2: seduction was an object, what object is it? Because for
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  Speaker 2: me and no, this is weird. You know, when like
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  Speaker 2: there's a cat burglar on the side of a building
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  Speaker 2: and they have those like suction cas that's what you're thinking.
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  Speaker 2: That's just what popped into my head. But I think
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  Speaker 2: it's cause seduction. I don't know, what did you think
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  Speaker 2: of a rose or chocolate? Yours is better? Cat burglars
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  Speaker 2: can be pretty hot, very hot, Michelle fifacat woman, very flirting,
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  Speaker 2: very flirty. Anyway. I love that word because I think
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  Speaker 2: it is very encompassing of how I kind of feel
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  Speaker 2: about this topic, that there's this constant seduction of opportunity
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  Speaker 2: that you can open yourself up to in life. I
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  Speaker 2: do understand and appreciate the structure of a routine, but
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  Speaker 2: as with everything, sometimes routine can be a good thing,
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  Speaker 2: but it's like too much of anything can be a
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  Speaker 2: bad thing, right, And when we fall too much into
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  Speaker 2: routine or rules, it doesn't leave a lot of room
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  Speaker 2: for flirting. It doesn't leave a lot of room for
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  Speaker 2: like seduction in your life. And when we're constantly living
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  Speaker 2: our lives to a routine that's set by this invisible person,
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  Speaker 2: that it's like, why am I doing this? Where's the fun,
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  Speaker 2: where's the flirt? Where does that fit in? And so
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  Speaker 2: this subset kind of talks about how seduction is about
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  Speaker 2: your presence or pull and how you move through the world,
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  Speaker 2: and my interpretation of that was really about like your
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  Speaker 2: openness to the world and how, yes, seduction is mostly
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  Speaker 2: used in a romantic sense. In that context, it refers
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  Speaker 2: to the gentle persuasion to become familiar to someone and
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  Speaker 2: to kind of make it feel inevitable of like this
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  Speaker 2: person to meet you. But like if you apply that
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  Speaker 2: to your life, it's more about becoming familiar with unknown Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: because like if you're going, okay, you're flirting with someone,
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  Speaker 2: you don't know that person, or if you've just met
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  Speaker 2: you're like open to this new thing. But what if
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  Speaker 2: you put that context into just your general day today.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's leaving yourself open to the opportunities of the
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  Speaker 1: hon in a way that's exciting and thrilling, not something
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  Speaker 1: to be scared of or.
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  Speaker 2: The yes or just like what's going to happen today?
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  Speaker 2: Like that that two thousand rom com opener of like
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  Speaker 2: it's the perect day. I really want to keep going,
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  Speaker 2: but I won't.
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  Speaker 1: Be slaid that thank you lead people wanting practicing in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror.
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  Speaker 2: But just like, where could the sparkly vibes come from today?
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  Speaker 2: And having the ability to maybe look up from your
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  Speaker 2: phone and see that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I like that, and I'm sure a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people can relate to that.
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  Speaker 2: And I wonder how many people listening feel like they've
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  Speaker 2: flirted with their life recently.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we did actually pull the chicks to see
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  Speaker 1: how they're feeling at the moment. Only eight percent of
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  Speaker 1: your chicks said that you were thriving. And I know, right,
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  Speaker 1: I is.
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  Speaker 2: Really close to smacking the microphone, but then I realized
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  Speaker 2: that would hurt people's ear holes. But I hate that, No,
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  Speaker 2: I know, and I don't like that for us.
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  Speaker 1: Fifty two percent said that they're kind of in the
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  Speaker 1: middle and forty percent said that they're feeling met so
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  Speaker 1: we need to fly, Yeah, we need.
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  Speaker 2: To flirt is a catastrophe.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So if your life is feeling dull, or that
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  Speaker 1: you're lacking connection or meaning, or that everything's kind of
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  Speaker 1: been the same, which I do think is a normal feeling,
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  Speaker 1: especially at this midpoint of the year too.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the mid year slump, be slumpy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, I think it might be time to start
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  Speaker 1: flirting with your life again.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't want anyone to think flirting with your
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  Speaker 2: life is not We're not saying you have to go
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  Speaker 2: out and like carry Bradshaw your life. We're not like
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  Speaker 2: you don't need to go out or like sometimes the
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  Speaker 2: misconception with if we feel like we're in a rut
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  Speaker 2: or a slump or whatever and we're maybe in our
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  Speaker 2: flop error, which we've had a whole episode on in
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  Speaker 2: defense of that, is like you've got to you've got
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  Speaker 2: to blot like, you've got to change something really drastically.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to do something.
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  Speaker 1: Like what move to a new country.
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  Speaker 2: You don't you don't have to completely create a new life,
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  Speaker 2: a new personality and new who you are. You don't
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  Speaker 2: need to sabotage something you don't need to, you know,
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  Speaker 2: break up with your partner or if you want it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: but like you don't need to quit your job, breakup
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  Speaker 2: with your partner, or like completely uphol your life just
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  Speaker 2: to start flirting with it again. Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't have to come out out of something that
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  Speaker 1: is the destruction of something else in your life, right.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, And so I think the importance of flirting, especially
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  Speaker 2: at the moment and potentially where people are feeling within
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  Speaker 2: those like statistics above, is like focusing on flirting, especially
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  Speaker 2: in a world that's really focused on fighting. And when
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying that, I'm talking about how like rage bait
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  Speaker 2: was the word of a year. There's the rise of
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  Speaker 2: you know, hate and click bait and fake marketing scandals
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  Speaker 2: and all of those things that are designed to kind
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  Speaker 2: of make people angry and frustrated, even if it's just work.
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  Speaker 2: You know how that is. And you know where are
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  Speaker 2: you sitting in that? Like are you getting up in
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  Speaker 2: the day and approaching it with curiosity or are you
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  Speaker 2: approaching it with clenched teeth.
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  Speaker 1: My jaws?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I really am. And I'm like, if you're constantly
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  Speaker 2: like your eyebrowser up, your jaws clenched, and your shoulders
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  Speaker 2: are tense, Like we need to float a little bit
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  Speaker 2: more there, my girl. And like I'm also here speaking
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  Speaker 2: from experience, like this is not something that I'm sitting
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  Speaker 2: here going You're like, oh, yeah, I do this every
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  Speaker 2: single fucking day whenever we go into these topics. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm ready to learn. Yeah, It's like that's why we
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  Speaker 2: want to do this because because I'm like, i'd like
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  Speaker 2: to know that, dude, thank you very much. So it's
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  Speaker 2: about like maybe if you're going into work and you
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  Speaker 2: feel like you're bracing for impact rather than leaning in,
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  Speaker 2: Like if you're going about your day and you're bracing
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  Speaker 2: and be like, all right, what's gonna what's gonna go
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  Speaker 2: wrong today, what's gonna pisce me off today, what's gonna
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  Speaker 2: upset me, what's gonna make me anxious? That's that brace.
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  Speaker 2: That's that I'm letting life happen to me, which absolutely
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  Speaker 2: does happen sometimes and you can't control everything thing, but
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  Speaker 2: where are you leaning in? Where are the moments where
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  Speaker 2: you're falling? And like you have that drawl into your life? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and you're like, yes, love, ten out of ten, because
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  Speaker 2: flirting with your life means giving yourself permission to be
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  Speaker 2: interested without being committed. And that's what I like about it,
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  Speaker 2: because it gives you the opportunity to try and fail
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  Speaker 2: new things. And also if you're the kind of person
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  Speaker 2: who can't start anything without a plan hello me, or
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  Speaker 2: like a purpose or a guaranteed return on investment, then
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  Speaker 2: like this is potentially a sign that you need to
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  Speaker 2: embrace the wad if a little bit more, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: because I have become such an analytical like I describe
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  Speaker 2: myself as like a type see that. It's like loves
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  Speaker 2: a plan but also thrives in like chaos a little
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  Speaker 2: bit as well, organized chaos, organized chaos. Right, But it's
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  Speaker 2: like only that if I'm like actually a little bit
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  Speaker 2: interested in I'm like TYPEAY for things that I'm interested in,
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  Speaker 2: and then type B when I'm like I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to go get your passport, you know, I'm like, that's boring,
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  Speaker 2: what do you mean? Yeah? Where's my best? If you
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  Speaker 2: get on? I don't care, However, a holiday, let me
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  Speaker 2: create a color coded spreadsheet.
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  Speaker 1: And I've got you the spreadsheet at the outfits.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, literally, And so I do think like the world
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  Speaker 2: gives us plenty of things to take seriously and that
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  Speaker 2: are worth fighting for and worth being incredibly serious about,
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  Speaker 2: and that we do need to brace for, but there's
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  Speaker 2: also a lot of things that we can lean into
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  Speaker 2: and flirt with a little bit more as well. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: one other small sign that's a good indicator of whether
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  Speaker 2: or not you need to flirt a little bit more
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  Speaker 2: is how much like love are you giving out? Yeah, So,
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  Speaker 2: like we always say this as well, that if you
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  Speaker 2: think someone looks really nice, whether you know them or not,
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  Speaker 2: like being like I love your jacket, Yeah, I love you.
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  Speaker 2: I find myself doing that just like I try to
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  Speaker 2: find something like if I don't know someone and like
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  Speaker 2: they're in the store, I'll be like, what's like a
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  Speaker 2: way that I can connect connect? And like one time
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  Speaker 2: I went to what we were where you were with me? Oh,
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  Speaker 2: we were in Harvey Norman and the lady was like
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  Speaker 2: really friendly and she was like walking and I was
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  Speaker 2: behind her and I didn't realize and I went to
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  Speaker 2: go be like, oh my god, I love your shirt
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  Speaker 2: and she turned around. I realized it was her uniform.
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  Speaker 2: Oh oh, because imagine I walk in that way. She'd
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  Speaker 2: be like, like, it's you my uniform ripping on me.
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  Speaker 2: But I was like, I really just like your stripy shirt.
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  Speaker 2: But then when she turned around, I was.
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  Speaker 1: Like office siren. Yeah, yeah, no, I love that.
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  Speaker 2: The other thing with this is like, you know, whether
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  Speaker 2: whether you're flirting with life, whether it's opportunities, whether it's
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  Speaker 2: just your day to day, whether it's walking on the train,
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  Speaker 2: whether it's talking to a stranger, sometimes life won't flirt back. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's okay. That it doesn't mean like just because you
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  Speaker 2: like which the ball, doesn't mean someone's going to bat
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  Speaker 2: it back exactly sports sports technology, Yeah, not everyone's going
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  Speaker 2: to fly back. No. Because it's like the cab light theory, right,
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  Speaker 2: and which we've spoken with about making friends. But I
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  Speaker 2: think you can probably turn that into this topic as well.
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  Speaker 2: That In Sex and City, Miranda says that when you
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  Speaker 2: know some guys are like a cab that you know,
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  Speaker 2: they go through life with their cab light off and
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  Speaker 2: they're like going and dating and being aka the two
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  Speaker 2: thousand version of a fuck boy. But one day they
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  Speaker 2: miraculously go to bed, wake up, turn their cab light on.
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  Speaker 2: The first person that gets in their cab as the
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  Speaker 2: person they marry and have babies with. I don't agree
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  Speaker 2: with that terminology because I think that's very minimizing to
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  Speaker 2: love and connection. Yeah, but I do think there is
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  Speaker 2: this it's a good understanding that sometimes the cab light
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  Speaker 2: isn't on, whether it's to people that are wanting to
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  Speaker 2: make friends, whether it's to opportunities, sometimes the cab light
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  Speaker 2: just isn't on. So sometimes life just won't float back.
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  Speaker 2: That's gonna happen.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you got to keep trying and putting yourself out.
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  Speaker 2: You're never going to get in the cab ever. Again,
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  Speaker 2: what do you do when you can't get in that cab?
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  Speaker 2: You wait for the next one. Yeah, So it's like
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  Speaker 2: those It doesn't mean you got to walk home. You
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  Speaker 2: wait for the next opportunity, You wait for the next
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  Speaker 2: thing that floats back with you, and you just keep going,
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  Speaker 2: you know. And I really do always love that analogy
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  Speaker 2: because I think it is very easy to focus on
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  Speaker 2: the moments where a cab light wasn't on. Whether it's dating,
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: whether it's friendships, whether it's work life. But you can
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: find those moments and those moments are there. So focusing
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: on when the light is on versus when it's off,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: but not the big light buck, the big light boo,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: the big light.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no big light.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: How do we flirt with life so it flirts back?
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: There's a really incredible podcast episode by British writer and
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: content creator Florence Given who takes a notion of flirting
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: with your life but takes it a step further by
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: explaining obviously how your life can flirt back, and the
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: result is crush energy Love. How good is having a crush? Oh? Yeah?
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: So like crush energy is like the yearning and halfway
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: point of existing between getting to know someone or something
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: and feeling the rest with the fantasy of what you
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: want it to be. So do you know what I
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: take from that as well? It's basically you know how
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: we talk about all the time and be like, what
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: if this happens? What if it's really bad? Crush energy
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: is the opposite of that, where you're going, what if
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: it all works out it's really good? What if I
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: get the part? What if I get these what if
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: I find something really good at the markets today? I
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: don't know why I did that action if you want
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: to you on you, but like it's that opportunistic like perspective.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, the what if in a good way?
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And having a crush on your own life means
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: you accept the reality of it because it also comes
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: with less commitment. So you know how we like talk
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: like again, we spoke about this in our book, but
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: it applies so similar to this, is that when you
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: go on a date. On the first date, you kind
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: of go in being like this could go really well
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: or sometimes maybe good, sometimes maybe shit. Yeah, you know, we.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Might get married, I might never see you again.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Exactly, I might be telling this story for the rest
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: of my life in a good or a bad way,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: you know. And but we don't go into friendships like that,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: you know, we go on friendship thinking, well, obviously I
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: want you to be a friend for the rest of
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: my life. We don't, or we don't go into other
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: things in our life with that perspective that is maybe
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: a little bit less committal, like a little bit like
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: might be good, might be bad. But I'm just I'm
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: excited because there's something new. And so her perspective is
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: to view your life as a lover sexy right, So
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: life just wants your attention a few minutes for you
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: to stop and observe because life is a reciprocal lover,
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: but it needs you to make the first move. Hot
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: obsessed is an understatement. So we told you chicks to
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: ask you how much you regularly make time for moments
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: of joy? And I was pleasantly surprised because fifty six
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: percent of you said yes and forty four percent of
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: you said no. So I was I was actually expecting
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: more on the no, and to be honest, so I'm
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: happy that like more than half of us are making
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: time for joy. But I think if we change that
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: to joy every day, I do think we would see
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: that slip and it's like that's where we need to
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: really bring it in and put the gas on the pedal.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's kind of like that whole concept of
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: life doesn't happen.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: To you, Like you need to take what happens from you.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like you need to take control and have some
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: agency in the great things that can happen. And another
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: way that you can flirt with life is follow the
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: three principles of seduction. It's like our word of the
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: episode a deduction, and there's always one. Okay, So principle one,
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: let go of ego and embrace vulnerability. Ego is a
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: seduction killer, so be able to release it and instead
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: embrace vulnerability is a step towards more authentic connections, like
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: be willing to fail. That's not always going to go right,
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: and that you might get a bit of a bruised
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: ego if you flirt and it doesn't exactly flirt back
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: in the way that you want. Principle two embrace evocative contrast. Yeah,
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: I like this one. So to become magnetic, don't be
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: afraid to become something of a paradox. So you don't
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: have to be one dimensional. Don't reduce yourself to just
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: being one thing you know in like a friendship group
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: or even at work, like you might be the responsible
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: one or the mum friend, or you might be like
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: the crazy, silly one that always has a wild story.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: And that can be you know, sometimes it's fun to
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: live up to and it's who you truly are, and
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: it can be something to be embraced, but it can
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: be restricting as well, especially as we grow up and
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: change and evolve. And I think by doing that, your
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: presence is actually because I think we look at it
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: as like a bit of a brand. It's who I am,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: it's my identity, but being more multi dimensional and letting
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: yourself explore those different facets of your personality actually leaves
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: more of a presence than you probably would think. And
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: then Principal three, understand the power of story. Oh, don't
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: rush to impress. Instead, you can shift to the energy
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: of every conversation you're in by offering something unexpected, like
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: instead of small talk, don't be afraid to overshare or
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: tell a silly story, or ask like an out of
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: pocket random question. You don't just have to ask what
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: did you do on the weekend? Yeah, Like, ask something
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: completely fucking random, like who's your controversial crutch? Or if
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you could live in any fantasy world, what would it be,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: And just have like a little rollerdex of random questions
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: and things that you want that not only give you
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: an opportunity to actually get to know somebody else more,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: but maybe discover something about yourself because it might be
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: a random fucking question that you never even thought to ask.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: So I feel like that's a good segue to get
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: into our quick fire tips to.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: Flirt with life.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: And my first tip is to talk to a stranger.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I saw the uniform is cool exactly.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: Walk into Harvey Norman and you electric fireplace. But I
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: saw this posts from the Washington Post and they shared
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: that dozens of studies involving over thirty people found that
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: more people are happier when they're more social and that
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: we need to talk to strangers. So even for people
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: who consider themselves introverts, I might fall into that or
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: like extroverted introvert. I don't know, but I do think
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: that I'm probably more introverted by nature. But one of
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: the most surprising things that they found in these studies
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: that happiness research, is that introverts and extroverts are like,
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: feel better when they act more extroverted and socialize more.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: According to Nick Epley, the author of a Little More Social,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: he found that after having a conversation with a stranger,
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: people predict that a future conversation with another person.
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: Will be more enjoyable.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: So it's kind of like the more that you do something,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: the more you realize it's actually really fun to engage
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: with people that you don't know and have a conversation
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: with a stranger, and it takes some of that scariness
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: out of it. Whether or not you are a more
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: extroverted person or you tend to be more introverted. So
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: how you can do that is, rather than focusing on
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: what you'll say, focus on how you say it, because
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: I think people are like, oh, I don't know, how
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: do I start this conversation? What do I say next?
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: But it's less about what you're actually saying and more
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: so about like your body language. Take your headphones off,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: look up from your phone, smile at people on the street,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: actively listen, smile, be open, be willing to speak to
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: people and ask questions.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: It's the Vaca energy. Yeah, you able to do that home.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: You know, when you're on holidays and you get a
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: bit wild because you're like, nobody knows me, I can
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: be whoever I want. Yeah, and you go on a tour,
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: like maybe you're going on a boat tour for the day.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: You turn to the person next to you and you go,
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: where are you guys from? What's the occasion? What's the
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: holiday for? And because you're all there and you're all strangers,
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: you end up like talking and making friends. Like remember
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: that day in Greece when we went on that boat
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: tour and we ended up getting We ended up by
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: the end of the day, we're a group of like
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: twelve of us yeah, we all like laughing, and we're
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: all like then sad because we're like cool, are we
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: ever going to see each other again? Probably not? Or
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: like I when I was with my partner last year,
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: we all got off the boat day and then we
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: all like, okay, should we all go out for drink tonight?
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: And we all ended up meeting up and like hanging
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: out after. And it's like, we don't take that energy though,
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: into our everyday lives because every day it's a little
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: bit scarier because when you're on holidays, it's like, oh,
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: well none of us know anyone, so you know, it's
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: kind of that easy way to strike up conversation. But
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: I remember we had gone on a holiday and we'd
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: gotten back and I was with friend. This was years ago,
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: and we're at a bar and I just turned to
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: a table next to us and I was like, oh, so,
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: what are you guys doing tonight? And my friend was
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: like the fuck are you doing? Like she was into it,
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: she was like byes, but she was like, we did
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: to get gus. But because I was still in vacate
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: mode and I was still in a holiday mode of
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: just talking to the person next year and being like
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: what's the occasion. Why are you guys out for a drink?
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: And she traveled from Yeah, we live here. Yeah.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: But it was just like and just keeping that like
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: openness that you have when you're on holidays to be.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: Like anniversary, birthday waiting exactly.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Like what's the worst thing they're going to do.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: I don't want to talk to you. Oh well, that's fine.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: I also think if you can help a stranger that
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: you end up feeling so gassed, like oh my god.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: I was at the post office and there was these
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: two like older women.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: Trying to put a cask of wine cask is at
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: the right box of wine into their like weely trolley,
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: Like you know there's a little like Wheely trolleys that
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: you can.
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: Get like price Line or something. Yeah, and it wouldn't
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: fit in their bag, but they obviously, you know, weren't
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: really able to carry it. So I like walked over
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: and I was waiting in line, and I was like, oh,
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: give it to me, I'll carry it, and they're like no, no, no.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: I was like, just give me the one, yeah, come on,
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: And then like the whole time we're walking to their car,
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: and I was just chatting to them while I was
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: carrying their wine and they were just so grateful and
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: they were like this isn't also to be like wow,
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I'm so amazing and helpful. I don't mean it that way,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: but like they're like, give me buy your coffee. I
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: was like no, because I was so gassed. I was
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: like smiling on the drive home because it just felt
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: so nice to like help someone do something for a
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: stranger and like that Hope Core shit on my feet.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: Never skip a Hope Care video ever ever, and if
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: you can, like, if you see someone needing a hand,
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: you will have the best day ever if you give
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: them that hand.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I like that.
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: My tip to flirt with your life is to follow
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: the thread of mild obsession. Oh okay, So like if
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: you've googled something three times this month for no practical reason,
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: like that's a signal, like to follow it, like buy
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: the cheap book at a second hand bookstore, or like
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: watch the documentary because it doesn't have to become a career.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: We're so like obsessed with side hustles, which like pot
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: kettle because I'm also like no business idea every week,
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: but it's like not everything needs to be an expertise,
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: a career opportunity, or like something you're going to follow
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: through on. It can just be like a fun thing
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: on TikTok that goes like interesting things to learn about
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: this week, and it's all like really random topics of
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: like mysteries or conspiracy theories or like the science of eggs.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know, but like the weird things that you
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: can just learn a little bit about. And one thing
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: that I have really been obsessed with this week. This
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: should have been my obsession. Have you heard of the
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: Weekly fifty.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah I have.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I saw influenced So for Doe for talking
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: about it, is that what you saw as well? I
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: think so. Yeah. Anyway, it's this weekly trivia quiz that
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: you can go and do it in person, but you
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: can do it online and it's of like fifty questions
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: of like trending Australian topics but also worldly topics and
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: I'm obsessed. I ended up buying a yearly subscription.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: So that because basically when Rob and I like get
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: into bed, we do like a little twenty questions of
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: a trivia quiz and it's just so fun because we're
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: like learning different things. Yeah, and it's like a fun
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: thing to do with your partner. That's just not like
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: talking about your day, which like is important, but there's
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: only so much you can be like, oh yeah, then
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: I had this meeting and like it was one last
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: night that was like what's longer? Like what's bigger the
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: distance from west to east of Australia or the diameter
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: of the moon, and so for like ages we were like, ah,
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: but these public plot twist the Western Australia to Eastern
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: Australia was bigger. Australia's huge. I know. But it's just
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: like flirting doesn't require commitment, like and that's the whole point.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: So like follow through on those weird little interests you have,
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: learn about mermaids and where they came from or like
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: fairy gardens whatever.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why I love that trend of that's been
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: floating around of people having parties where you present your
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: special interest around.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Or like when we had one when some of the
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: girls came over and we did that PowerPoint night, Yeah,
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: and we all did a random PowerPoint on things. Mine
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: was how many shots it would take for me to
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: hook up with Disney dads, it was practically zero. I
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: was gonna say it was all like one for courage,
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: one for courage, one for courage.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then maybe you get to like Marie Spellstad
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: and you're like, yeah, ten yeah.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: Zero, it was blackout.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah No, I love that. My next quick fire tip
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: to flirt with your life is method dressing. Oh so
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: you know how celebrities method dress when they're on like
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: a press tool. Okay, yeah, yeah, so like Margo Robbie
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: had her Barbie error when she was promoting her film,
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Zendaya does it immaculately for every single press tour that
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: she does. But I think that like adding some excitement
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: and like who do I want to be tonight or
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: who do I want to be today? And that doesn't
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: mean that you have to completely change your wardrobe all
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: the time. You know, sometimes you're like, I can't wear that,
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: I can't do that.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: I'd need to be I need to be.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: X y Z before I can wear that when people
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: say that, yeah, or i'd need.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: To don't pull off those sunglasses. Yes you can.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: And that's what I mean by method dressing. So you
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: don't have to go and buy a whole pink wardrobe
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: because you're promoting.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: The Barbie movie.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: But if you're like, oh, I love that jacket, but
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: you know, I'd need to be more confident.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: Put the jacket on. Like, no one knows. Literally, I
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: don't think anyone has ever like walked past someone on
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: the train when they're wearing a jacket she was nervous
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: to wear. That's how they're gonna fucking that. Yeah, I
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: don't know.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like there's that meme on TikTok going around at
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: the moment and it's like everyone knows this is the
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: first time wearing capris, but that's the joke because nobody knows.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Nobody knows that you're like if you feel like you're
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: taking a fashion risk, or you know you're wearing a
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: new hats the first time that you wore it, or
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: you cut bangs and you never have before, and you
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: know you're worried about what people think, Like nobody knows.
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: And anyone that is clocking it and thinking that they're
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: not flirting with life, yeah exactly.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: And I actually saw, like we've spoken about this concept
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: on the show before as well, but I saw Abby
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: Chatfield talking about it this week too, and she had
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: this amazing jacket from the Wolfgang from the Wolfgang, and
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: it's like this Penny Lane style coat with the big
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: fur collar and it's this vinyl material and a bright
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: magenta And I think somebody was like, how do you like?
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: I wish I could pull that off, and she was like,
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: you can pull it off, just put it on.
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: So if you're like, oh, yeah, I could only wear
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: that if I was x y zed, you can be
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: x yzed. Just put it on.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: Anyone that thinks you can't pull off something that you're
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: wearing is saying that because they don't think they could.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's always a projection of yourself. Anybody who's like, oh,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: why are they wearing that, it's it's because you want
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: to and you're a bit too scared.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah. My final one is super quick, but it is
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: gap time. Ooh yeah, make this up, but I love it,
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: hip man. So gap time is now the adult version
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: of nap time.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: Okay, so when.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: We're little and we're we babbies, we will get nap time,
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: we will get time to just rest and have a
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: little fun, but we need the adult version, which is
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: gap time, which is basically our scheduled time to rest
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: because not everyone's a napper as they get older. Not
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: everyone wants to have a nap. Sometimes feel like shit,
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: But it's basically the scheduled time that you leave a
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: margin in your day with Noah's and it's not like
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: free time that you feel with errands. Okay, yeah, so
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: it's a genuine gap, Like it's twenty minutes where you're
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: not optimizing anything because we're so obsessed with productivity, like guilty. Yeah,
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: but like boredom is the waiting room where unexpected interests
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: show up. So like, let yourself be bored. We're not
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: bored anymore because we're like there, like with the seventeen
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: distractions we have in life. Yeah, but like be a
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: little bit bored, have a little bit of gap time.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: M I love that. You see what happens, Yeah, with
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: the magic happens.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: When we had Leela on the show, That's exactly what
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: she was saying, Like those moments of boredom when you're
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: not pacifying yourself with something is either when your brain
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: restores itself or when creativity happens. It's absolutely essential.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, love it, Love it chicks, Well, who's ready to
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: go out and flame?
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: Leave us a flirty comment?
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: Yes, actually this Yeah, we need this.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: It's a good lover afly thanks for having us in
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: your air holes checks. We love to be here.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: Bye bye