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Train Your Mind to Be Unshakeable | Morning Motivation · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You know, I think we dot ourselves more than anybody
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  Speaker 1: else ever doubts us so and I fight that too.
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  Speaker 1: I fight that every day, especially, you know, with these
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  Speaker 1: new jobs and businesses that I never thought that I
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  Speaker 1: would be in. I never knew I could be and
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  Speaker 1: I'm supposed to or could be any good at. And
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  Speaker 1: I think the thing the routines that I have, my
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  Speaker 1: routines are very simple. I find out what the job
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  Speaker 1: is and I bust my ass to get it done.
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  Speaker 1: It's not half the stuff is not that complicated. For
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  Speaker 1: for GMA, I understand it. I need to read. I
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  Speaker 1: need to read a lot. I need to know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about before I open my mouth. And it's
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  Speaker 1: something great about that because it's challenged me in a
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  Speaker 1: way that haven't been challenged that live. I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: to do that live. I could take two minutes to
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  Speaker 1: read the questions that I'm going to ask the guests,
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  Speaker 1: and then the rest of it was personality driven, so
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  Speaker 1: I could get away with just you know, being there
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  Speaker 1: and just being you know, I guess, joyful and entertaining.
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  Speaker 1: Where GMA requires some of that, but it required for
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  Speaker 1: you to have some knowledge on different things and That's
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  Speaker 1: what I love about it. It takes me back, to
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  Speaker 1: be honest with you, to football, and it relates to
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  Speaker 1: football to me because not growing up playing, I was
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  Speaker 1: still learning my fifteenth and final season, right, I never
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  Speaker 1: got bored with the game. And that's how I feel
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  Speaker 1: about GMA. I don't think I'll ever get bored because
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  Speaker 1: every day it's so different and every day is a challenge.
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  Speaker 1: And so for me, it's about just studying and knowing
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  Speaker 1: what my job is and knowing what my job description
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  Speaker 1: is and knowing what I'm what I can bring to
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  Speaker 1: the equation. And the toughest thing, you know, going to
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  Speaker 1: GMA for me was figuring that out because you have
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  Speaker 1: Georgia and now Robin Man Amy av Lera, and you
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  Speaker 1: have people who have been established on the show that
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  Speaker 1: has been established for a long time, and how does
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  Speaker 1: my personality fit in. So it's been like in running
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  Speaker 1: into a wall here and there until I can find Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'll fit into that slot and I let me find
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  Speaker 1: the next one. And it's a work in progress. I'm
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  Speaker 1: you know, I work every day. You know, there's the
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  Speaker 1: wheels are spinning in my head of I'm sitting there
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  Speaker 1: with the camera on my face that I'm talking to
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  Speaker 1: about how to be myself within a situation that you
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  Speaker 1: usually don't have a chance to inject personality into. But
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  Speaker 1: that's what they want. But it's been it's been a challenge,
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  Speaker 1: but it's been fun. It's been exciting, and I wake
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  Speaker 1: up every day and I love being there and I
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  Speaker 1: love making the people around me happy that I'm there.
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  Speaker 1: That's important to me too. It was always bigger than
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  Speaker 1: me and I had success on a football field, singular success, right,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I've been Defensive Player of the Year a
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  Speaker 1: few times, and it's like I can't celebrate this or
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  Speaker 1: a team at Lotti records, Like there's no I never
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  Speaker 1: found much joy in something that was a singular success
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  Speaker 1: the best time. Does anyone ever ask me what is
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  Speaker 1: the best thing from your career? It's like it's a
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  Speaker 1: super Bowl. It's everybody being able to celebrate the accomplishment
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  Speaker 1: of us as a team and not me as an individual.
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  Speaker 1: And there is definitely a switch you have to have.
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  Speaker 1: And to me, I do love people, and it's natural
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  Speaker 1: for me to be nice to people. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: any other way. I don't know why you wouldn't be,
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  Speaker 1: but It's also has worked for me because in anything
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  Speaker 1: I do, I have to be fake. I don't have
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  Speaker 1: to be something I'm not, so I don't have to
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  Speaker 1: be nice to you here and then leave and you
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  Speaker 1: see me later on, because I've been around a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people like that, and it's as if they're a
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  Speaker 1: different person, like I just saw you ten minutes ago,
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  Speaker 1: who this guy? And I never wanted to be that.
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  Speaker 1: I always wanted to be myself the entire time, which
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  Speaker 1: works great for me. I love psychology of things. That's
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  Speaker 1: why I think I love a team. I love getting
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  Speaker 1: people on the same page in the psychology of from
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  Speaker 1: football to me. In the media, with football and simple things,
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  Speaker 1: you get the game program every week and it's the
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  Speaker 1: same picture throughout the whole year of the guys. But
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  Speaker 1: I had a ritual. I would look at the program,
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  Speaker 1: I would look at everybody on my team, so you
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  Speaker 1: got and then I would look at the other team's guys.
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  Speaker 1: And when you're a young player, you get intimidated by
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  Speaker 1: faces and some guy sitting there looking like that, and
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  Speaker 1: you're like, oh man, that guy the killer. Oh I
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  Speaker 1: don't look scared. But as I got older, I said,
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  Speaker 1: it was like psychologically, if somebody looks like that, then
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  Speaker 1: they're you know, then okay, But how much more afraid
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  Speaker 1: would you be if somebody you don't with a killing
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  Speaker 1: they just smiled. So in my program ficture, I'd be
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  Speaker 1: like this, it looked like a glamorous side. It looked
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  Speaker 1: like I went to the mall and it was like,
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  Speaker 1: this is the guy. His must be crazy to be
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  Speaker 1: smiling these photos like this, and so like I went
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  Speaker 1: just dot little silly things like that. With the media.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't talk every day to the end, I said,
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  Speaker 1: I talk one day week, I talk to thursdays. And
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  Speaker 1: I did it because if you talk all the time,
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  Speaker 1: it's like going to the same restaurant, it's not special.
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  Speaker 1: And especially in the media of New York, when there
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  Speaker 1: are so many different people and so many outlets and
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  Speaker 1: everybody just with so much content, you need yours to
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  Speaker 1: stand out. So if you want to talk to me
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  Speaker 1: and you only get me one day a week, I
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  Speaker 1: guarantee you when I talk to you, you're gonna cherish that.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna use that. And I would mix it up
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  Speaker 1: on the media as well as they would give me
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  Speaker 1: a hard time, I give them a hard time I'll
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  Speaker 1: tell you one question today. I'm not a bad mood,
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  Speaker 1: but I just act like I give me one question,
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  Speaker 1: ask me one answer to ask me a second. I say,
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  Speaker 1: you hear what I said? I said one, I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 1: I gotta go another days I sit there and I
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  Speaker 1: would chat how your wife's doing, you know, everything's good,
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  Speaker 1: and I would just mix them up, keep them off
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  Speaker 1: their off, off balance a little bit. And I just
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed the psychological battle of football. I enjoyed the psychological
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  Speaker 1: battle of the media. And in a lot of ways
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  Speaker 1: now it's not quite the same, but I still like
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  Speaker 1: that that aspect of psychologically getting everybody on the same
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  Speaker 1: page to be successful. But everyone thinks this either everyone
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  Speaker 1: thinks you're not scared if I tell you, and everyone
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  Speaker 1: thinks you haven't had failures, or that I've had plenty
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  Speaker 1: of failures, but I don't look at failure. I've never
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  Speaker 1: looked at a failure and said woe is me? Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just programmed saying I didn't work, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: let's go next thing, work harder, figure something else up,
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  Speaker 1: keep going. I'm not programmed to go it didn't work
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  Speaker 1: out and let me contemplate and feel sorry for myself,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, and and go over here and get sympathy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just I don't know if it's where I was
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  Speaker 1: brought up or if it's from a business of football,
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  Speaker 1: where it's a win or lose. It's like success or failure.
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  Speaker 1: And if you lose a football game, I don't have
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  Speaker 1: time to think about how I lost it and what
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  Speaker 1: I did wrong, because if I'm doing that, thet the
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  Speaker 1: guy I'm playing next week is getting ahead of me.
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  Speaker 1: So I got to worry about what's coming up next
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  Speaker 1: and push for what's next, and get better for what's next,
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  Speaker 1: not get better for what's in the not not worry
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  Speaker 1: about what I wasn't good enough in the past. Right,
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  Speaker 1: And I've done Sitcom fail, business of fail, you know,
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  Speaker 1: but you figure it out. Life is about figuring it out.
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  Speaker 1: Life is not going to be perfect, and if you
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  Speaker 1: expect it to be perfect, you're fooling yourself. And a
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  Speaker 1: perfect life without a challenge is not a perfect life.
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  Speaker 1: If it's a boring life boring if you do something
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  Speaker 1: and your name is on it, my name is right there.
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  Speaker 1: If it's not successful, who's gonna get blamed for it? Right, you,
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  Speaker 1: if it is successful, who's gonna get credit for you?
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  Speaker 1: And I found that if I'm going to get blamed
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  Speaker 1: for something because it's happened before that I didn't really
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  Speaker 1: put everything into it. I'm pissed that I'm being blamed
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  Speaker 1: for something failing because I didn't put all the work
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  Speaker 1: into it. Right. But yet, for me, if I'm getting
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  Speaker 1: all the credit for being successful and I know I
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  Speaker 1: didn't put anything into it, feel like a fraud. And
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  Speaker 1: you gotta put up with that for yourself. And maybe
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  Speaker 1: some people are comfortable with that. I'm just not comfortable
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  Speaker 1: with that. So that's why all the businesses I'd like
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  Speaker 1: to be a part of because I don't. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to feel like a fraud. I want to if
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  Speaker 1: someone asked me about I don't want to talk to
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  Speaker 1: you about it. I'm real. I don't have to make
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  Speaker 1: up some story and then go home and go on.
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  Speaker 1: You know why, I sure have to lie about that.
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  Speaker 1: That's not a good feeling. So if you're gonna get
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  Speaker 1: blame for failure, accept it. Hey, I put all my
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  Speaker 1: I put everything I had into it. It felt move
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  Speaker 1: on to the next. But I know I busted my
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  Speaker 1: ass and if you're getting to credit and everybody getting
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  Speaker 1: cre credit for success, you can feel good because you
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  Speaker 1: truly have been a part of that too. And that's
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  Speaker 1: something that keeps me involved in everything. And like I said,
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  Speaker 1: those of the Rock and Kevin are like, bust your ass,
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  Speaker 1: bust your ass workers, man, I appreciate that like you.
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  Speaker 1: My father worked really hard. And if my biggest complaint
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  Speaker 1: is being on an airplane and sleeping right, then I
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  Speaker 1: got a problem. And if I'm complaining about that, So
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  Speaker 1: I keep everything in check by thinking back. But how
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  Speaker 1: hard and how realistic life is, and how you know
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  Speaker 1: I've been very fortunate. I don't take it for granted.
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  Speaker 1: It's not if you really want something back, it's not
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  Speaker 1: gonna be easy. And you can see where you want
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  Speaker 1: to go, but there are so many things you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have to go through to get there. But truly, if
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  Speaker 1: you focus and know where you want to end up,
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  Speaker 1: you will be there. It may not be at the
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  Speaker 1: exact time you want, which is now is kind of
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  Speaker 1: immediate for most people, but you'll eventually get there at
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  Speaker 1: your time when you're supposed to