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Showing Up Again and Again (S5) S25:E7 Friday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello everyone.
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Welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I'm glad you decided to join me.
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It is Friday.
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This is June 19th, 2026.
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Yeah, so something very interesting I want to
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talk to you about.
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First is the June 19th holiday.
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Now, us being a private company, we don't
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observe that holiday.
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We stay open.
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So June 19th, I discovered this because I
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went to the post office to mail something
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and I was going to have them check
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the weight and I realized they were closed.
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June 19th is celebrated as June 19th National
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Independence Day, which commemorates the emancipation of enslaved
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African Americans in the United States.
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It became a federal holiday on June 17,
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2021, making the day when Union soldiers announced
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freedom for slaves in Texas in 1865.
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Now, June 19th is recognized as Juneteenth National
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Independence Day as a significant holiday in the
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United States that commemorates the emancipation of enslaved
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African Americans.
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So on June 19th, 1865, it marked the
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day when Union soldiers were led by Major
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General Gordon Granger arrived in Galveston, Texas to
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announce that the Civil War had ended and
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that all enslaved people were free.
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This announcement came two and a half years
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after President Abraham Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation
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on January 1st, 1863, which declared the freedom
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of slaves in Confederate states.
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Now, the federal holiday recognition established as a
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holiday, Juneteenth, was officially recognized as a federal
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holiday on June 17th in 2021, not too
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long ago, when President Joe Biden signed the
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Juneteenth National Independence Day Act into law.
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The day is celebrated with various events, including
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parades, family reunions, and cultural activities, often featuring
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foods with red colors symbolizing the bloodshed for
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freedom.
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And so Juneteenth is celebrated annually on June
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19th across the United States, serving as a
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reminder of the ongoing struggle for equality and
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justice for African Americans.
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It is often referred to as America's Second
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Independence Day, highlighting its importance in the narrative
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of American freedom and civil rights.
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Now, here's the interesting thing that I thought
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you would like to know.
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Both the UPS carrier and FedEx, as well
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as Amazon, were still operating as schedule and
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delivery packages.
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However, since the United States Postal Service is
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part of the government, in some way, shape,
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or form, sort of, because they don't get
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100% funding from it, they closed.
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It's interesting.
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All right, guys.
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So if this is your very first time
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joining me, I want to take the opportunity
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to say thank you, and I want to
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say welcome.
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Have you been here one time, five times,
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100 times, or maybe even more?
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I like to say thank you.
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Welcome.
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And I also want to say the words,
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welcome back.
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It really means a lot to me that
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you are here with me today.
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you, feel free to go grab something.
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All right, guys.
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Let's just kick this show off.
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I can't wait to share everything I've got
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to share with you.
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So this, ladies and gentlemen, is the Inspirations
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for Your Life show.
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And it's so great to be with you.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, and so passionate to be
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a lifelong learner and grateful to now be
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a published author.
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We're wrapping up the call, no pun intended,
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of our topic, Answering the Call, series 5,
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show number 25.
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And this is episode number 7.
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And that is all about showing up again
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and again, series 5, show 27, episode 7.
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Again, today is Friday.
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Your superpower is showing up.
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Why imperfect action always wins long term.
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Yeah.
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That's a very important thing, I think, that
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a lot of people miss, you know, what's
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happening and how different things change our lives.
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Because, you know, these perceptions we have actually
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become our reality.
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And we don't realize it because a subtle
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shift can do nothing overnight, but then suddenly
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we wake up and it's like, wait a
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minute, how did that even happen?
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Right?
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So it's slow at first, but then it
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happens overnight.
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But it's not happening overnight.
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It's happening over time.
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And we just notice it all at once.
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So today we're closing the week with something
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simple, but very, very powerful.
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It's not theory, guys.
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It's not motivation, spikes.
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It's not perfect planning.
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What is it?
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Well, we're talking about showing up again, again,
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again, and again.
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Because you see, showing up is where everything
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starts to change.
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Everything starts to change.
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So our core message today is this.
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Week has been about answering the call all
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week.
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And it's not the phone call.
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But answering the call is not a single
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moment in our lives.
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It's a pattern.
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It is repetition.
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It is discipline in motion.
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And today I break down the final truth
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about that.
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You don't become consistent by being perfect.
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Nope.
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You become consistent by refusing to disappear.
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Basically means you keep going and going and
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going like the Energizer putty, right?
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So let me give you some insights, 30
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points today that are going to help you
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change your way.
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Showing up as a decision before it becomes
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a habit.
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As it starts as a choice, not identity,
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but it slowly becomes who you are.
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Number two, imperfect action creates more progress than
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delayed perfection.
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Waiting removes momentum.
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Action just builds it, okay?
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Number three, discipline is built in repetition.
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It's not intensity.
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What you repeat matters more than what you
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do once.
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That's why I always appreciate those of you
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that decide to come back to the show
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again and again.
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Number four, consistency is a form of self
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-respect.
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Every time you show up, you reinforce your
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own inner value.
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Pretty cool.
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Number five, motivation is unreliable.
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Systems are not.
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You cannot depend on feelings to build results.
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Number six, small actions compound into identity shifts.
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What looks small today becomes structural tomorrow.
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Number seven, missing repeatedly is more damaging than
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failing once.
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Absence creates distance from your goals.
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But when you keep doing it over and
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over again, it sends a message to people
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that, you know, you may not be as
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reliable as people once thought you were.
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And I think that's an important thing.
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We talk about accountability, right?
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Accountability is very, very important to understand.
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Number eight, presence creates opportunity.
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Visibility.
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You cannot be noticed if you're not present.
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Pretty simple, right?
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Number nine, progress is often invisible.
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While it's happening, most growth is quiet before
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it becomes obvious.
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Number 10, action reduces overthinking.
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Movement replaces mental loops with clarity.
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I think sometimes the reason we don't do
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something is because we don't understand.
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And if we don't understand something, it's like
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we're lost, right?
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We don't know what to do.
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We don't know where to go.
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And I think that's a very big problem
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for, again, a lot of people, a lot
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of people.
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So we have to first get clear on
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what we want in our life before we
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can ever start to execute it.
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Number 11, waiting increases doubt.
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Delay amplifies hesitation and, of course, uncertainty.
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So that brings us to number 12.
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Showing up reduces fear over time.
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Not in one moment, but over time.
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Familiarity weakens emotional resistance.
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So when we get to know people, we
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get to know a situation, we're like, oh,
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I get that.
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I understand it.
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And now I'm less threatened by it, right?
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Number 13, discipline is emotional regulation in disguise.
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What are you talking about, John?
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You're controlling behavior through your own structure.
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I said before that to have success, you
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need to have structure and consistency.
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With how one, success is basically something you
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can't even conceive or grasp.
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Number 14, repetition will always build trust in
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yourself.
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You begin to believe your own follow through.
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You know, what we tell ourselves, what we
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say in our minds.
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See, that's the stuff that creates our reality,
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okay?
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That's the stuff that does it.
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And if we don't understand that, then we're
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going to keep missing the opportunity.
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Because you see, the opportunity may swing around
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once and never come again.
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It may swing around a couple of times,
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but if we're not ready, we're never going
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to get it.
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If the door opens and we're like, well,
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I'll wait.
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It's open now, but it'll probably open again.
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It may not open again.
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See, the wheel of opportunity keeps going around.
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The thing is, as the wheel keeps going
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around, the door that you had to open
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may not be there when it spins around
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again.
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It may be closed.
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Somebody else may have taken that opportunity.
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Interesting way to think of it, right?
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A wheel of opportunity, it's spinning.
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So we have to take deliberate action to
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go through that door.
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Even if we're scared, we have to go
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through that door.
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Because when we do, we become empowered to
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do so many other things.
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You know, there's lots of opportunities out there.
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I've learned this.
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But if you're not in a state to
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receive them, you will miss them every time
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they come around.
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Every time.
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And that's a sad thing, because you're waiting
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at that stop.
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And you're like, well, I know it should
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be around again, but wait a minute.
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The door's locked.
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Yeah.
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The opportunity is not available anymore.
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So when it comes by the first time,
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enter.
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Grasp the opportunity.
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Number 15.
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Identity is formed through our behavior patterns.
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You are what you repeatedly do not want.
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You intend.
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It's what you do, not what you intend.
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So you are what you do, not what
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you intend to do.
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Right?
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We get what we are, not what we
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want.
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So that's why it's important to become in
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alignment with the things that we want.
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Number 16.
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Micro-wins.
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The small wins.
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The ones that we don't want to celebrate.
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Create momentum chains.
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And small completions lead to large execution cycles
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when we truly celebrate them.
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Number 17, guys.
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Energy follows movement.
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Action creates motivation.
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Not the other way around.
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Many people get it mixed up because they
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don't understand what's happening in their life.
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They don't understand.
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And I think that's a big problem for,
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again, a lot of people.
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Number 18.
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Avoidance becomes heavier than effort.
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Not showing up costs more than showing up.
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When you miss an opportunity, I've already said
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it's priceless.
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The door may never open again.
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Right?
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The door may not even be near you.
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So it may not be near you.
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And if it's near you, it may never
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open.
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Number 19.
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Consistency, guys, removes decision fatigue.
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You stop debating and you start doing.
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There are a lot of thinkers and a
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lot of procrastinators out there.
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Nothing wrong with thinking, but you can't keep
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thinking forever.
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You have to eventually do, do, do, do.
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Right?
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You have to do.
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You have to do.
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And if you do, things will change quite
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a bit.
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That's important to understand that.
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Number 20, guys.
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Execution builds clarity faster than thinking.
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Action reveals what planning cannot.
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So you might say, well, John, what if
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I make the wrong choice?
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You're going to learn.
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Right?
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And when you learn, you're going to say,
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oh my gosh, I can't believe what I
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just did.
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I think a lot of people just don't
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understand the mission.
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Right?
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They understand the mission because of where they
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come from.
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Right?
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Where they are.
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I think that's an important piece that's about
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life, guys.
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It's about truth.
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It's about who we become.
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Right?
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And who we become changes who we become
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changes.
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I think that's an important thing.
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Okay?
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I think if we understand truth, I think
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if we understand our direction, we'll be able
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to get through the challenges.
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Right?
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When I was younger and a challenge came
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my way or a door closed, I'm like,
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oh my gosh, what am I going to
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do?
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It's over.
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Now I'm like, okay, the door closed.
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I've got to rethink this.
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I've got to make sure that if a
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door closes again, that I don't get stuck
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behind it.
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But it's not a time to have a
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pity party.
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It's not a time to cry.
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It's not a time to complain.
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It's a time to take action, to think.
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Number 21, progress favors those who stay visible.
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Out of sight often becomes out of progress,
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out of mind, out of action.
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Number 22, discipline turns chaos into structure.
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Repeat action creates order in uncertainty.
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And when we figure out how to order
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chaos, that's when magic happens.
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Number 23, guys, imperfect effort is still forward
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movement.
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Direction matters more than polish.
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You don't have to be perfect, guys.
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There's no need to be perfect, but you've
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got to show up consistently.
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You've got to have structure.
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Number 24, reliability becomes your personal brand.
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People trust those who show up consistently.
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So let me share a story.
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I was meeting somebody about six, seven months
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ago, and they wanted to get involved with
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one of my groups that I run.
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And we confirmed the time, the date.
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And this person was maybe about 45 minutes
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away from me.
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And so we had messages, so they're back
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and forth, and we confirmed, and we text,
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and we confirmed back and forth.
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And about a day or two before, I
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think it was the day before, I confirmed,
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hey, you know, we're meeting tomorrow.
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Oh, yeah, seven o'clock, right?
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Yeah, a.m. Oh, dude, I'm going to
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be working at 7 a.m. I think
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I'm at 7 p.m. And I was
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very clear that it was 7 a.m.
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So I decided to reschedule with the person
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for whatever terms.
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They never were able to schedule with me
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because they were always too busy.
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So there was a place I went to,
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and this person happened to be there.
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And I very nonchalantly approached the person like,
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hey, the missing person, I thought you fell
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off the earth or the planet.
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He just looks at me and I said,
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what happened?
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We were supposed to meet.
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He was like, oh, yeah, I know.
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And I just kind of turned around like
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it was no big deal.
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That's someone who's noncommittal to what they say
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they're going to do.
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And once someone does that to me.
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I'll give them two tries.
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Third try they're out.
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And there's no valid reason.
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You know what I say next?
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That's not because I'm trying to be discriminative.
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It's not because I'm trying to be better
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than them.
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It's because my time is valuable.
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And if people don't value you or value
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me, it's next.
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End of discussion.
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Number 25, momentum replaces resistance over time.
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What was hard becomes automatic, seemingly even easier
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than you thought it could be.
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But it takes time to have this realization.
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We never know when we're going to get
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a realization.
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We just don't know.
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I had one not too long ago, and
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I got to tell you something.
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I had a realization that I didn't think
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was even possible.
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I didn't think it was possible.
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And it changed my whole belief of life.
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You all know what happened to me when
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I wrote my book, right?
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Drain to Driven.
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This was another one of those epiphanies.
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But the thing is, I wasn't expecting this
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one either.
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Now, there was nothing wrong.
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There was nothing like I was burned out
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or anything like that.
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But it just came upon me like a
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gift.
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And I was like, my mindset changed.
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I don't know how that happened.
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But all I know is I'm completely grateful
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for it.
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That's an important thing.
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Number 26, guys.
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Habits are built through repetition under imperfection.
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See, perfect conditions are not required.
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Most people say, oh, I can't do that
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because I'm not perfect.
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So they never even try.
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Maybe they try once, like, oh, I can't
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do that.
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I think sometimes we overthink it.
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I think that's important to know.
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Interesting, right?
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I'll tell you that sometimes our mind's decision
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of where we want to go and our
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body's alignments don't match is because our energy
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is off.
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When our energies at alignment, magic happens.
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I'm going to compare this to an analogy.
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Many of you don't know that my mom
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had a dry cleaning plant many years ago.
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My mom's side of the family had that.
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It was the third generation that had one.
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And there's three things you need.
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I never forgot this from the chemical people
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that did our chemicals for the shirts.
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You need chemicals, okay?
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You need hot water, and you need mechanical
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action.
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If you don't have mechanical action, hot water,
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and the right chemical formula, well, you don't
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have clean shirts.
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And that sat with me.
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And this is why we hired this company,
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I'm not going to mention their name, they're
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still in business, to come up with our
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formula for our shirts.
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No one else knew this formula.
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And this formula was one of our trade
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secrets to making our shirts white and making
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them come out amazingly.
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And we hired them to make sure that
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our formula always stayed in tolerances.
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Number 27, guys, showing up as a form
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of commitment to your future self.
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You're investing forward every time you show up.
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Now, when people do this, I don't care
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whether they're younger than me, older than me,
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that is no excuse to not show up.
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And when that person I told you did
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what they did and didn't show up, I
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first thought something was wrong.
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I said, oh my gosh, you okay?
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Is everybody okay?
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And they're like, no, everything's fine.
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And when I went down there and I
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saw they're at this place, I was like,
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let's talk.
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And they really weren't interested in talking.
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I said, well, I'm here, let's have the
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meeting.
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Oh yeah, I don't want to meet now.
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They did this, you know, with their mouth,
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they open, open, close, open, close, open, close,
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open, close.
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People do a lot with their mouth, but
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not a lot of action.
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They talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk,
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talk, talk, but don't do anything.
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There's a lot of people like that.
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Number 28, success is cumulative.
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Attendance is built by being there repeatedly, right?
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When you want to have a good attendance
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in school, you got to be there every
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single day.
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So let's take a look.
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So how many absences, let's just say, can
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you have in high school before you fail?
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So attendance matters.
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And so what the law requires, every school
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district in New Jersey must develop policies that
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clearly outline expectations.
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New Jersey's attendance law creates a graduated response
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system that escalates interventions based on the number
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of unexcused absences.
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For the first four unexcused absences, the school
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focuses on communication and early intervention.
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You can expect the school to contact you
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before the next school day to notify you
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of the absence and work with you to
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determine the cause.
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When the absence reaches five to nine unexcused
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absences, response becomes more intensive.
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Schools will evaluate whether previous interventions were effective
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and develop a comprehensive action plan.
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This may include referrals to intervention teams, academic
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or behavioral assessments, consideration, or even alternative education
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placements.
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Once your child reaches 10 or more unexcused
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absences, guess what happens?
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You ready?
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They're officially considered truant under New Jersey law.
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At this point, schools must consider whether to
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make a court referral while continuing to work
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with you and involved agencies to support your
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child's return to regular attendance.
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Now, the court referrals and legal consequences, the
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law provides two pathways for court involvement depending
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on the circumstances of the school.
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Officials determine the unexcused absences violate education law.
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Parents may be referred to municipal court.
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Alternately, if there is evidence of a juvenile
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family crisis, the student may be referred to
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Superior Court Family Division.
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Before any court referral, schools must provide a
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written report detailing all actions they've taken to
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address the attendance issue.
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This ensures that legal intervention only occurs after
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appropriate support measures have been attempted.
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If your child has a disability, all attendance
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policies must be applied in accordance with their
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individualized education program, their EIEP, and this ensures
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that attendance requirements consider your child's specific needs
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and circumstances.
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What parents should know, they have to stay
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proactive about communication, document everything, address problems, know
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your rights, responsibilities, seek support when needed, and
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respond promptly to school contact.
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Wow, showing up is important.
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It's not just in business, it's in school
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too.
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And I think the reason why they're so
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strict about this, it's the education, but it's
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also to teach the child that showing up
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is something people are expect from you your
27:06
entire life.
27:08
So get comfortable now and start showing up.
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Number 29, your breakthrough is usually hidden inside
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consistency, not a moment, but again, a pattern.
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Our last point, 30, show up again, again,
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again is the real superpower.
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Everything else is secondary to consistency.
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And that's the real message, ladies and gentlemen,
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show up.
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In closing, so as we close today, this
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week, here is the real truth.
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You do not need to be perfect.
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Nope.
27:40
You do not need to be ready.
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Nope.
27:43
You just need to be present because presence
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creates progress and progress compounds into transformation.
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I'm John Sumorli, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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We'll catch you soon.
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Start showing up when you're young and keep
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through it your entire life.