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#HURDLEMOMENT: F!%k Impostor Syndrome · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: the way. For this week's installment of Kurdle Moment, I
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  Speaker 1: am chatting to you all about impostor syndrome in order
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  Speaker 1: to do that, we first must address what impostor syndrome
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  Speaker 1: really is. Well, it's exactly what it sounds like when
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  Speaker 1: you feel as though you're an impostor but you shouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: Impostor syndrome is when you question if you've succeeded only
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  Speaker 1: because of maybe luck or circumstance and not because of
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  Speaker 1: your qualifications or your talent. Now I totally experience imposter
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  Speaker 1: syndrome on the regular. It's something I am consciously working on,
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  Speaker 1: this idea of taking up space and owning who it
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  Speaker 1: is that I am, what my strengths are, and what
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  Speaker 1: is truly fact. Recently, I thought imposter syndrome creep in
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  Speaker 1: with hurdle to be honest, you know, as I'm approached
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  Speaker 1: by brands or networks to collaborate, or as I'm reaching
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  Speaker 1: out to guests, I wonder things like am I ready
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  Speaker 1: to be at this table? Or is this guest too big?
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  Speaker 1: Would they make time for me? And then I take
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  Speaker 1: a step back and I ask myself, why not me?
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  Speaker 1: Why not me? Why not you? How awesome is it
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  Speaker 1: that I have a platform, that we all have the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to have a platform. Again, when I take a
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  Speaker 1: step back, and I look at the facts, I see
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  Speaker 1: that I am doing this good for the community. I
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  Speaker 1: am doing well. Period. Impostor syndrome is something that so
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  Speaker 1: many of you have also reached out to me about
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  Speaker 1: over the past years, so I am happy to be
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  Speaker 1: chatting about it for this week's Hurdle Moment. Today, I'll
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  Speaker 1: be bringing you strategies to navigate it and overcome it.
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  Speaker 1: How to navigate imposter syndrome. I've been there. It feels overwhelming. Still,
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  Speaker 1: it happens. You are not alone, and so that's why
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  Speaker 1: today I am bringing you strategies on how to navigate
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  Speaker 1: and overcome imposter syndrome. The first strategy own the facts.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes when we are going full speed, we forget to
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  Speaker 1: take inventory of what's actually happening around us. For instance,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people struggle to identify as runners. But
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  Speaker 1: the thing is when these individuals that struggle to identify
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  Speaker 1: that way. If you take a look at your weekly routine,
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  Speaker 1: you might notice, Hey, I'm running one, two three times
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  Speaker 1: during the week, and when you do that said activity
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  Speaker 1: that many times, shocker, that makes you a runner. No
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  Speaker 1: person has ever set forth some benchmark that you have
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  Speaker 1: to run a certain pace or a certain distance to
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  Speaker 1: consider yourself a runner. An athlete can look anyway, have
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  Speaker 1: any belief, live anywhere. There is just no arguing with
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  Speaker 1: the facts. I've told this story before. Back in twenty sixteen,
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  Speaker 1: when I was working at self magazine, Good Morning America
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  Speaker 1: asked me to come on the show and lead a
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  Speaker 1: fitness segment. Now, I am and was at the time,
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  Speaker 1: a personal trainer. I was the fitness editor at the magazine,
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  Speaker 1: and for some reason, I still felt so scared to
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  Speaker 1: show up and just do my job. I thought there
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  Speaker 1: are people that could be better for this, or maybe
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  Speaker 1: look better than me, and God about the potential criticism.
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  Speaker 1: But the reality is that I was so qualified to
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  Speaker 1: do that segment, and I did it, supported by friends
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  Speaker 1: and sweating in the summer heat in the middle of
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  Speaker 1: New York City a national TV. By owning the facts,
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  Speaker 1: my credentials, and my story, I showed up to set
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  Speaker 1: confident and excited. A little nervous again because Hi National TV,
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  Speaker 1: but excited. Strategy number two, stop comparing yourself. Theodore Roosevelt
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  Speaker 1: said once that comparison is the thief of joy. You
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  Speaker 1: can make so many big strides and then do something
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  Speaker 1: like open up Instagram and instantly feel completely inadequate. You
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  Speaker 1: are not inadequate, You are unique you. When we are
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  Speaker 1: busy comparing ourselves to others, we are missing out on
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  Speaker 1: what's happening in real life. Reduce your stress by focusing
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  Speaker 1: on you instead of worrying about the person next to
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  Speaker 1: you or thousands of thousands of miles away. Tip number
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  Speaker 1: three truly believe in yourself and be confident. Owning the
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  Speaker 1: facts is the first part. Yes, but you have to
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  Speaker 1: truly believe in your capabilities. It's easy to see through
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  Speaker 1: someone who is nervous or ensure of what they have
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  Speaker 1: to bring to the table. Will see that in their mannerisms,
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  Speaker 1: or in the way that they present themselves or how
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  Speaker 1: they speak. But when you believe in what you have
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  Speaker 1: to offer and you know that you've got this, that's
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  Speaker 1: when the little voice in your head it takes a
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  Speaker 1: back seat. That's when imposter syndrome doesn't stand a chance.
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  Speaker 1: Tip number four. Log your successes. I am so guilty
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  Speaker 1: of working my butt off and not taking the time
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  Speaker 1: to be appreciative of the wins or success as they happen.
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  Speaker 1: So sometimes when imposter syndrome it creeps in, it's easy
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  Speaker 1: for me to forget about some of these big moments,
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  Speaker 1: some of the things that have made me feel like
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  Speaker 1: an expert in my field or qualified to stand on
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  Speaker 1: my own two feet. So I encourage you to write
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  Speaker 1: things down. I am taking my own advice right now.
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  Speaker 1: I am thinking about how I'm going to do this
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  Speaker 1: in the morning. When you write things down this way,
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  Speaker 1: you can look back on how you felt during these
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  Speaker 1: big moments. Also, maybe it's important to keep a box
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  Speaker 1: of sorts. I have four of them in my living room.
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  Speaker 1: I'm staring at them right now, and inside these boxes
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  Speaker 1: that's where I keep mementos of the good times of
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  Speaker 1: my big wins. Maybe it's a card from someone that
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  Speaker 1: you've helped or that you've had an impact on. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's something like a personal training certificate or a photo
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  Speaker 1: from graduation or the night you got promoted at work,
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  Speaker 1: a receipt from a celebration that you shared with a friend,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is that you are holding on to, these
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  Speaker 1: mementos can remind us just how important it is to
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  Speaker 1: appreciate the good times, to remember how far that we've come.
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  Speaker 1: Strategy number five. Talk about it. It can be so
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  Speaker 1: powerful to share what you're feeling, not just with imposter syndrome,
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  Speaker 1: but across the board, from personal to professional, whether it's
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  Speaker 1: with a friend or a family member or a therapist. Whoever,
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  Speaker 1: when we talk about what we are going through personally
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  Speaker 1: and we get vulnerable, we have the chance to feel
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  Speaker 1: less alone. By saying things into existence, you also realize
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  Speaker 1: that the doubt that you're experiencing is certainly something that
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  Speaker 1: others experience as well. By saying it out loud, you
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  Speaker 1: then also sometimes have the chance to hear how silly
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  Speaker 1: it could be to own to take authority over who
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  Speaker 1: it is that you are, instead of letting the doubt
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  Speaker 1: overtake you. There's no time for that. Tip number six
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  Speaker 1: Visualize what success looks like. Visualization is a really powerful tool.
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  Speaker 1: By visualizing what you want an outcome to be or
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  Speaker 1: how you may act in a certain situation, then you
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  Speaker 1: can better tackle it. Once you are there. This also
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  Speaker 1: holds true, I think for manifestation a little bit. A
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  Speaker 1: friend once challenged me to take five minutes and write
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  Speaker 1: down all the things that I want, just you know,
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  Speaker 1: broad like that. It felt a little overwhelming, but also
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  Speaker 1: really exciting because there were no limits on the exercise.
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  Speaker 1: I had to get over the hurdle of things being
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  Speaker 1: a little crazy, of my goals feeling a little crazy.
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  Speaker 1: But the exercise helped me to visualize what life could
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  Speaker 1: look like if I dream crazy, What life could look like, say,
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  Speaker 1: if I had a two bedroom apartment in a doorman
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  Speaker 1: building with an office turned podcast studio. It helped me
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  Speaker 1: understand how far I've come and what it is that
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  Speaker 1: I'm reaching for, why it is that I'm working so hard.
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  Speaker 1: It's an exercise that I encourage all of you to do.
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  Speaker 1: When you visualize what you want, when you visualize the crazy,
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  Speaker 1: you open the door in a way that maybe it
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  Speaker 1: hasn't been before. And lastly, remember, no one knows what
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  Speaker 1: they're doing. I think it was Robin Arzon who said
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  Speaker 1: in the Roar Organics episode, no one knows what they're
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  Speaker 1: doing period. A lot of the time, the people who
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  Speaker 1: are making something of themselves are the ones that are
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  Speaker 1: brave enough to take a risk and aren't so afraid
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  Speaker 1: of failing or worried about what other people think. Founders
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  Speaker 1: like Dinah Trout of Health Aid and Gtdayeve of gt'
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  Speaker 1: Kombucha and Hayden Slater from Press Juiciery and doctor Jason
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  Speaker 1: worseland up the Agon, all past guests on the show.
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  Speaker 1: No one handed any of them a roadmap on how
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  Speaker 1: to be successful. But they have been successful, and that's
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  Speaker 1: because they didn't let imposter syndrome ruin their big goals
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  Speaker 1: or their big dreams. Whatever it is that you want,
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  Speaker 1: whoever it is that you want to be, whatever crazy
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  Speaker 1: idea you're keeping close to your heart, everything is at
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  Speaker 1: your fingertips if you believe that you can do it.
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  Speaker 1: So own your skill set, stay true to yourself, own
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  Speaker 1: your value, establish your why, and remember you deserve to
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  Speaker 1: take up space. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time,