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How to Stop People-Pleasing & Walk in Purpose | FT Tameria Weaver | EP86 · Jess Ask

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  Speaker 3: That's all a y'all, welcome back to another episode her.
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  Speaker 1: So we're doing we have a special guest and she
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  Speaker 1: bless you if you let it, bless you. Doesn't tell
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  Speaker 1: them both how you feeling, girl, because they want to
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  Speaker 1: know I'm telling great great as in great gray or
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  Speaker 1: that's my real that's the real answer. When people ask
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  Speaker 1: me that, like you giving the truth, I do, so
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  Speaker 1: I pause and they be like, why are you pausing?
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  Speaker 1: I'm black because I just want to make sure my
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  Speaker 1: my answer is real. Yeah, and most of the time
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  Speaker 1: it is. It's interesting that you even bring it up,
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  Speaker 1: because the person that is here today is gonna tell
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  Speaker 1: us how to be real. What I say is I
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  Speaker 1: just feel the anointing already. I already already feel it
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  Speaker 1: because she's dangerous. She's dangerous. But before we get into
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  Speaker 1: our special.
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  Speaker 3: Guests, listen, because she's special.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all already know what the time is. The time is
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  Speaker 1: community highlight time. Okay, it is community highlight. We gotta
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  Speaker 1: get a special name. We gotta come up with a
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  Speaker 1: different name, community highlight.
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  Speaker 3: It's just that sounds boring.
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  Speaker 1: That sounds boring, so we'll come over with something. But
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  Speaker 1: this community, how like, is a special community high Like.
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  Speaker 1: She's special to both deserate and our deserated. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know who it is. I don't think she does. I
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  Speaker 1: don't think you know. But you're gonna you already know
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  Speaker 1: who it is, all right. So this woman of God
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  Speaker 1: has really been She's just genuine. I've never seen like
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  Speaker 1: a pure the purest heart, right so day one, just
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  Speaker 1: as she's actually been a guest one time on this
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  Speaker 1: platform when I got my desiree, she was a guest
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  Speaker 1: on the platform and we just had so much fun.
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  Speaker 1: She dropped so much knowledge, and she is just an intercessor.
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  Speaker 3: She's a quiet storm like you. You all look at
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  Speaker 3: her and think she ain't got it, but she got it. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: she got it.
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  Speaker 1: I am giving this community highlight to none other than
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  Speaker 1: Catherine Mayers. Oh my god, Sis, we miss you, We
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  Speaker 1: miss you. We overdue for some time. Okay, we overdo
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  Speaker 1: for some time. But personally, yes, we know that. But
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  Speaker 1: she does support the community. She's always on social media
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  Speaker 1: amp with us, praying for us. I know she's a
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  Speaker 1: part of some our covering that she don't even have
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  Speaker 1: to say it. I know she praying for us. I
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  Speaker 1: know she's interceding for us. And so Catherine, I want to.
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  Speaker 3: Say thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I want to thank you for just being the embodiment
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  Speaker 1: of the love of love of God. You are literally
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  Speaker 1: that purest example of what it is to be loved
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  Speaker 1: by God and to be to exemplify the love of God.
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  Speaker 1: And I even extend the love of God to you
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  Speaker 1: because even when when you're full of something, thank you,
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  Speaker 1: Holy Spirit, when you're full of something, the enemy will
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  Speaker 1: trick you into believing that you don't have what you're
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  Speaker 1: able to expose. But I pour the love of God
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  Speaker 1: into you again and again and again. This show forever
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  Speaker 1: be your portion and it no longer will you feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's something that's being taken from you. But because
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  Speaker 1: it's being released, that mean God has to add more.
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  Speaker 1: And so I pray that God continues to show where
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  Speaker 1: he's adding, Thank you, Holy Spirit, where he's adding into
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  Speaker 1: your life. And so I don't don't think it's strange
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  Speaker 1: when God really exposes you and it allows you to
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  Speaker 1: see where you're overflowing into.
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  Speaker 3: And so God, I thank you for my sister.
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  Speaker 1: Catherine Good and Catherine, I want we want you to
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  Speaker 1: know that we love you here and just ask the
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  Speaker 1: podcast y'all give it up with my girl. Y yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo, yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo. Oh, it's time to try
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  Speaker 1: something real quick. Just okay, you about to do the.
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  Speaker 3: Now I gave you applause, but I'm looking Jessica. Just
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  Speaker 3: do it again, thanks, Brad Rodney.
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  Speaker 4: Then they gave you applause, But then you can't tell
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  Speaker 4: me that. Thank you for the brand.
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  Speaker 1: Lord.
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  Speaker 4: We appreciate it, y'all, y'all, Jamie, I can't.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry, Okay, it's okay, it's okay. Y'all pray for her, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: y'all pray for her. But yeah, I'm glad you found that.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm so glad you found that.
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  Speaker 3: But and it says applause, so I don't have to guess. Okay, Brad,
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  Speaker 3: thank you. It's the little things for me.
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  Speaker 1: Baby, out the details you care about, the details you
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  Speaker 1: care about.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, Deliree, listen.
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  Speaker 1: See the Woman of God is trying to hold her laughter.
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  Speaker 1: But you are not doing a good job. You are
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  Speaker 1: not doing a good job.
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  Speaker 5: Y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all pray for Desiree.
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  Speaker 1: If y'all don't have her on y'all prayer list, please
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  Speaker 1: add them at okay if for real though, yeah, put
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  Speaker 1: them put praying hands on the chat now, don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Now we do come against which is warlocks and all
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  Speaker 1: of the all of the book. We come against the money. Baby,
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  Speaker 1: don't try to don't try it because we we we
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  Speaker 1: old up over here. Okay, But anyway, the genuine prayers,
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  Speaker 1: the Kingdom prayers, the godly prayers, the Bible, the biblical prayers,
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  Speaker 1: the biblical decorations.
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  Speaker 3: You can send that on right on over here. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: all right, bed it anyway.
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  Speaker 1: So now that Desiree has played on her playground, Yes, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: this special guest today, she's a sister. She's definitely a sister.
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  Speaker 1: She's shown herself worthy of that name.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 3: I don't call everybody's sister.
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  Speaker 1: And even I'm learning now that when you use the term,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that y'all talk all the time.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't mean that y'all depth in relationships.
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  Speaker 1: She has shown herself worthy of that title, right, and
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  Speaker 1: so she's definitely a sister in Christ. This lady is
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  Speaker 1: a O renowned I would say, mental health professional, and
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  Speaker 1: that's like she lives out her purpose. I'm really excited
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  Speaker 1: for her because we're really gonna get language or some
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  Speaker 1: things today. I feel like that we haven't had language
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  Speaker 1: too before, not just for our mental health, but us
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  Speaker 1: as women, right.
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  Speaker 3: She specializes. That's her heartbeat.
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  Speaker 1: Seeing women thrive and go forth and being them full
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  Speaker 1: self like that is her heartbeat. So much so that
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  Speaker 1: she has a community called God's Daughter. You can't have
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  Speaker 1: no community called God's Daughter and not have a heartbeat
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  Speaker 1: for women, babe, Okay for real, because I was the
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  Speaker 1: one that was saying I'm not doing them okay, but
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  Speaker 1: she does.
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  Speaker 3: She specializes, She specializes in it. Also.
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  Speaker 1: She's a great mother, she is a great wife. She
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  Speaker 1: is just a servant. This is the thing about this woman.
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  Speaker 1: You can serve so well. But then on the flip side,
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  Speaker 1: you doing out here doing conferences, you out here slaying folk,
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  Speaker 1: You are just doing community so well. She is the
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  Speaker 1: purest example of what it is is to be able
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  Speaker 1: to be a servant leader. And so I am super
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  Speaker 1: excited to have none other than my sister, our friend,
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  Speaker 1: our confident baby, another other than to marry.
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  Speaker 6: We fears in the background.
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  Speaker 3: I am.
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  Speaker 1: Just do it again. Go ahead, so get out yourself. Yeah, okay, can.
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  Speaker 3: You please get desiree? Do you need to tiss you
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  Speaker 3: from laughter?
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  Speaker 1: Because she's trying to figure out what button to push anything.
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready, let's go.
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  Speaker 5: I am tickle.
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  Speaker 1: This is a whole time, and I'm glad we got
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  Speaker 1: to do this with you because I know you get it.
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  Speaker 3: This is how you feeling, how you doing.
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  Speaker 5: I'm so good. I am just I don't know. I'm
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  Speaker 5: smiling so hard because I love to see the people
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  Speaker 5: of God in the element and so listening to y'all
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  Speaker 5: all this back end, I was down here laughing so
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  Speaker 5: hard because that's a right that moment for her when
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  Speaker 5: that button was like everything that happened, challenge if beforehand
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  Speaker 5: was done.
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  Speaker 3: She told me listen, she told me to hold on.
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  Speaker 1: That's the I'm glad for her, but she this is
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  Speaker 1: the these are the things that we pray for, Sis,
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  Speaker 1: and I know you can relate to it, like when
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  Speaker 1: you you're going through the seasons of being obedient and
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  Speaker 1: and listening to God and hearing God, and then you
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  Speaker 1: finally get a button that can do the.
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  Speaker 3: Applause, the.
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  Speaker 1: Only demand applause, like like this minimal effort, just go
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  Speaker 1: ahead and hit the button right here. She blow red, yes, yes, yes, Sis,
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  Speaker 1: we go back, we go back, We go back, we
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  Speaker 1: go back.
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  Speaker 3: You all is cis you all it?
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  Speaker 1: Des A Ray is not only excited about this button,
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  Speaker 1: but she's definitely excited about having you here.
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  Speaker 3: I have to tell y'all, y'all, come get her, Come
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  Speaker 3: get her to Maria.
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  Speaker 1: We got a lot to talk about, sis because I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what the Lord gonna send us, but he
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  Speaker 1: can send it in us because he sent on oili one,
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  Speaker 1: he sent on ol of one.
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  Speaker 3: So let's let's let's get into it.
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  Speaker 1: I I want to personally thank you for just being
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  Speaker 1: the woman that you are.
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  Speaker 3: You are.
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  Speaker 1: You are definitely a gift to this this world, this land.
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  Speaker 1: You you walk heavy, but you also walk transparently. And
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  Speaker 1: I I'm really curious as as to like where did
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  Speaker 1: you get that from? Like did you did you learn
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  Speaker 1: that from like childhood? Have you always been like that?
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  Speaker 1: Or did you have to fight to be visible? Did
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  Speaker 1: you have to fight to be present with yourself? Did
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  Speaker 1: you have to fight for that level of transparency?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it was. It was a major battle. Well, people
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  Speaker 5: don't know about me because they see me outwardly all
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  Speaker 5: the time. People think that I'm instantly extroverted like that
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  Speaker 5: I live in that space on a daily reality. No,
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  Speaker 5: I am a person that it's more private, you know,
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  Speaker 5: prior to this social media epidemic, I'm a private person.
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  Speaker 5: And in addition to that, I'd rather sit sometimes in
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  Speaker 5: my plush socks, a good pair of Christmas pjs, and
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  Speaker 5: I mean Christmas pj's all year round, not just around
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  Speaker 5: for or I'm all year round, and I would just
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  Speaker 5: sit back and enjoy. But when we start realizing that
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  Speaker 5: there is a call and a purpose to who we
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  Speaker 5: are trying to show up in the call and not
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  Speaker 5: only show up, having to stand in it. That means
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  Speaker 5: standing in our truth, standing in challenges, standing in moments
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  Speaker 5: that didn't quite work out, standing even after we've fallen,
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  Speaker 5: and then have to reassure ourselves to get back up.
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  Speaker 5: And if it's in a public space or everybody's looking
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  Speaker 5: to you to be that source, you know, sometimes as
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  Speaker 5: leaders we're the source for people. And so having to
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  Speaker 5: fall and regain balance or having to leap and try
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  Speaker 5: to make sure we're landing. That hasn't always been for
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  Speaker 5: me the easiest, and so learning how to stand in
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  Speaker 5: truth and trying to be authentic in this thing that
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  Speaker 5: God called me, it literally has taken a fight for me.
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  Speaker 5: And it's not just a fight that happens seasonally. There
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  Speaker 5: may be times that it happens daily. Come it's it's daily.
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  Speaker 5: I never want to mislead people in thinking that this
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  Speaker 5: space that we walk in is always just a stroll.
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  Speaker 5: Sometimes we're gonna stub somethings, sometimes we're gonna make and
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  Speaker 5: we're gonna trip. But being transparent and authentic in this
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  Speaker 5: walk has really freed me from trying to people please
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  Speaker 5: in order to look like I was always.
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  Speaker 1: Standing Come on, girl, I'm sorry, woman of God. Were
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  Speaker 1: because a girlfriend? You you?
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  Speaker 3: You? You spent the last sixty seconds in a sermon. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: like you if.
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  Speaker 1: We walked, we walked, the talk, the walk, the walk
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  Speaker 1: on this sermon? You because you just said it. You
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  Speaker 1: said such a mouthful. So even let's tap into that.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get into the people pleasing role, because I too.
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  Speaker 1: I think Desilray has also identified herself as a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 1: Like what the dangers of being what? What do you
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  Speaker 1: can said of the dangers of being a people pleaser?
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  Speaker 1: And how do how does one come out of that? Oh?
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  Speaker 5: There's to me, there's a lot of dangers in that one.
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  Speaker 5: You can never truly have your own voice, your sound
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  Speaker 5: would always be predication the room. Your sound would always
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  Speaker 5: be predicated by the space that you're standing in. Your
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  Speaker 5: sound will never be authentic because you're always trying to
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  Speaker 5: camouflage it or imposter yourself just to seem in a
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  Speaker 5: place that you're not. And so what is the meaning
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  Speaker 5: of stepping into purpose? But you're trying to please people,
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  Speaker 5: So that means God can't authentically use you because there's
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  Speaker 5: somebody that needs your trueness, your true identity, without trying
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  Speaker 5: to staple your identity to what someone else believe you
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  Speaker 5: should be, the opinions of others and those thoughts. And
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  Speaker 5: so when we staple ourselves and people pleasing, the true
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  Speaker 5: identity of you never get a chance to show up. Now,
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  Speaker 5: it's like a chameleon that no matter where you are
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  Speaker 5: and what you do, you're trying to fit an image.
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  Speaker 5: But what if you just stood in your image? And
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  Speaker 5: so no one ever sees the real version. You're always
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  Speaker 5: going to be a depicted or a marau of what
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  Speaker 5: you could be. And so the potential is never really
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  Speaker 5: there because you're trying to say yes to everybody or
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  Speaker 5: create what someone else think you should be. So the
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  Speaker 5: dangers in it is there is no true identity in
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  Speaker 5: who you are. There is no real purpose in who
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  Speaker 5: you are. You're pitching from everybody else and then doing
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  Speaker 5: it to please them instead of being yourself to please God.
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  Speaker 3: Mmm. I think we're gonna be taking a lot of
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  Speaker 3: deep breaks. I think we're gonna be taking a lot
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  Speaker 3: of deep briels because.
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  Speaker 1: You came for that like you you hit that target,
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  Speaker 1: like like target.
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  Speaker 3: That's that's so good.
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  Speaker 1: So even even what I what I heard you say
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  Speaker 1: is that we never really get to know. I say
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  Speaker 1: people pleasers are lost, are not ever found because they
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  Speaker 1: haven't found themselves in God.
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  Speaker 3: Right, And so I think that I.
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  Speaker 1: Can relate as where until until I really found out
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  Speaker 1: who I was in God? Which you brought up a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful point, noticing that this is a daily walk, like
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  Speaker 1: noticing that the opportunity is not just something that I'll
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  Speaker 1: figure out, but understanding that my purpose looks different depending
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  Speaker 1: on the position that God wants me to be in.
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  Speaker 1: My purpose today may not be the purpose for tomorrow,
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  Speaker 1: but today's bread, today's askings looks like this today. And
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  Speaker 1: sometimes we can get ahead of ourselves because now, as
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  Speaker 1: a people person, I'm not even focused on my tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: I'm focused on day tomorrow. I'm focused on their future.
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  Speaker 1: I'm focused on day next year. I'm making goals for them.
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  Speaker 1: This is me, this is me. I'm making goals for
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  Speaker 1: people I serve and not even thinking about my own goals,
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  Speaker 1: like not even thinking about opportunities that I have for myself.
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  Speaker 3: I don't have room for that. And now I'm frustrated
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  Speaker 3: and I've become in a low.
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  Speaker 1: Place because now I've pleased people, but I have not
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  Speaker 1: pleased for one and two, I have not operated at
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  Speaker 1: an overflow mentality.
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  Speaker 3: So good girl is.
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  Speaker 5: Let you know what you look at it You abandoned you.
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  Speaker 5: So that's why you feel you know, those that are
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  Speaker 5: people pleasing, and I was guilty. We feel low because
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  Speaker 5: we've abandoned ourselves. We abandoned the things that are interesting
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  Speaker 5: to us. We've abandoned the things that we truly want
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  Speaker 5: to do. When we're people pleasing, we're constantly saying yes,
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  Speaker 5: even if we don't have the capacity to do it,
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  Speaker 5: and so we find ourselves at stake of burnout, and
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  Speaker 5: so we abandon our ability to even find rest because
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  Speaker 5: we're wanting to please everybody else. And so the reason
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  Speaker 5: why we feel so low at times is because you've
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  Speaker 5: abandoned everything that is important, the value of who you
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  Speaker 5: are exactly because we cannot all the line and separate boundaries.
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  Speaker 3: You're talking good, You're talking good. You're talking good. Can
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  Speaker 3: you see my fingers? Boundaries? That's a word that keeps
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  Speaker 3: coming up.
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  Speaker 1: I know in my life my therapist had just told
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  Speaker 1: me that I create walls and not boundaries. I know
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  Speaker 1: you therapy people, So can you explain the difference as in,
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  Speaker 1: because now as a people pleaser, now I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: make this change and I don't know boundaries, but now
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to present them. How do I not get
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  Speaker 1: into the trapment of building walls.
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  Speaker 5: It's really good, you know, I think it's a fine line.
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: If we're not healthy. If we're not healthy, the line
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: becomes figmented, it becomes distorted because we have to sort
• 19:59
  Speaker 5: through how to navigate emotionally and mentally. And so if
• 20:04
  Speaker 5: we're if we're not healed, meaning we're not in one
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: with ourself about the reality of how severe is our
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: people pleasing Because I do believe it's levels to that.
• 20:14
  Speaker 5: You know, some can only you know some problem may
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: be you know, I over extend myself. Some may say, well,
• 20:20
  Speaker 5: I don't know how to say no, and then others
• 20:22
  Speaker 5: I just try to fit every room.
• 20:24
  Speaker 6: So what level are.
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: You on in it?
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: And in order to ensure that you're not building walls,
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: you gotta I first identify with yourself by being honest
• 20:33
  Speaker 5: about it.
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  Speaker 6: The first breaker.
• 20:36
  Speaker 5: Of that is being honest as to you know what,
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: I believe that this is where I am. And if
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: you're not honest with yourself, then how can you really
• 20:45
  Speaker 5: do the work that's required to ensure that you break
• 20:50
  Speaker 5: the cycle. And so that requires for you to spend
• 20:53
  Speaker 5: time with yourself, That requires for you to do a
• 20:56
  Speaker 5: self assessment. How many times do I say yes when
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: the reality is I needed to know? Or how many
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: times have I put myself in a position when the
• 21:07
  Speaker 5: reality is I really need to sit down and see
• 21:10
  Speaker 5: about me? And so the self assessment, it really does
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: allow you to really find out what is the true
• 21:18
  Speaker 5: deficit in my life that I feel such a dependency
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: on people? What is the deficit in my life what
• 21:25
  Speaker 5: is missing? Was I rejected? Was I abandoned? Did someone
• 21:29
  Speaker 5: make me feel inadequate? Did someone tell me no when
• 21:33
  Speaker 5: my hope in that person was always going to be
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: a Yes, we have to assess where did your dependency
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: on people become so great? And it's not until that
• 21:43
  Speaker 5: point when you self assess what's really happening that you
• 21:47
  Speaker 5: can really make a true, true assessment to say, I
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: people please. Now Here is what I need to do
• 21:54
  Speaker 5: to put boundaries in place, because boundary says I'm healthy,
• 21:58
  Speaker 5: Wall says I'm not ready. Yeah, boundaries depict you know
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  Speaker 5: what I'm so well and who I am that if
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: I tell you no and this relationship doesn't work, I'm
• 22:12
  Speaker 5: okay walking away because I gave my best to this face.
• 22:15
  Speaker 5: So really you may have lost me. But Wall says, well,
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: let me try to compromise because I need you because
• 22:27
  Speaker 5: it's something missing in me and you feel avoid in
• 22:30
  Speaker 5: my life that I shouldn't probably put you at I
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: put a mandate on you to feel something in me.
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: So you got to depict where you are. But you
• 22:42
  Speaker 5: gotta self assess first. Oh, it's the look what it's
• 22:48
  Speaker 5: the look says.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it is my next my neck here because I
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: don't feel it anymore. This is there. I think you
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: still got a cop? Do I have edges just a
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: little bit? Is the red dye is it still here. No,
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: that's so.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you you you just came for so many of
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: our necks with that because the wall thing. I don't
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: think we're thinking we're protecting ourselves, but we really open
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: ourselves up to like, Okay, no I need you. No,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: you read me like field like like.
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: Like you you read me like the piece of.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Something that I am, Like, I don't even have no
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: comeback for that, like because that's as as you read
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: me my rights. I'm sitting here looking at this like, oh,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: it's so easy for me to be with walls, and
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: then I end up compromising what I really want based upon.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: I've invested in the people.
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: I've invested in my heart, I've invested my emotion, I've
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: invested my identity. If you really think about it, people
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: pleasing is now I instead of investing in myself, I've
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: invested my identity into theirs. So that's another way to
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: even digest that. You say that, so well, So what
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking about is, Okay, it seems like what I've
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: been experiencing lately to is that when I encounter another woman,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: they seem to have a level of people pleasing of
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: people that I've circled myself around. That's one of the
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: hardships that they have. It's like people pleasing. And so
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: when you think about being God's daughter, right, how does that?
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: How does that idea work in trying to find yourself
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: in Christ?
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: Like? Does that? What does that storyline look like?
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: How do I become God's daughter and be able to
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: see myself as God's daughter versus the people pleaser that
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I've been portraying myself as.
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: It's just so good. So, you know, lately, I'm gonna
• 25:03
  Speaker 5: say it really got heavy this year because I've been
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: through I've been through some things over the last few years,
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: and these tests that I've been through just being transparent,
• 25:16
  Speaker 5: it had tested my character a lot. God took me
• 25:20
  Speaker 5: to a place to study the Accuser of the Brethren
• 25:23
  Speaker 5: and in my opening to understand and really realize how
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: the tactics of the enemy work. A lot of times
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: when we're looking and we're trying to find ourselves to
• 25:33
  Speaker 5: be God's daughter, we have to first understand like the
• 25:36
  Speaker 5: authority and the power that.
• 25:38
  Speaker 6: We walk in.
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: And that really came for me when I started studying
• 25:43
  Speaker 5: the Word of God more. And I'm not talking about reading,
• 25:46
  Speaker 5: I'm talking about studying, and then I began to realize
• 25:50
  Speaker 5: that some of the tactics, that the things that I've
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: dealt with, some of them were trauma responses to the
• 25:57
  Speaker 5: character that people were trying to come against me with.
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: I realized that a lot of it was jealousy toward
• 26:05
  Speaker 5: things that I really hadn't discovered in myself. People were
• 26:09
  Speaker 5: looking at me indifferently because I genuinely love God, and
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: in that that may have been some flaws, but my
• 26:15
  Speaker 5: intentionality is, you know, I love to see the people
• 26:19
  Speaker 5: of God come together. So it wasn't until I started
• 26:21
  Speaker 5: to study more to understand how these spirits work that
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: it really is not the people, it's the spirit that
• 26:28
  Speaker 5: we battle, and sometimes it just constantly resurfaced itself into
• 26:33
  Speaker 5: different people if we're not careful. And so as I
• 26:36
  Speaker 5: began to narrate that, and God had started showing me
• 26:40
  Speaker 5: exactly who I was, you got to catch that part.
• 26:44
  Speaker 5: He began to show me who I was as I
• 26:48
  Speaker 5: released people pleasing, I had to come one with God.
• 26:53
  Speaker 5: Now who am I if I'm no longer picking off
• 26:57
  Speaker 5: of people? So it came fort I had to isolate
• 27:02
  Speaker 5: myself a little bit because I noted that I struggled
• 27:06
  Speaker 5: with who I was because I would see what someone
• 27:10
  Speaker 5: else was doing and it appeared to be working, and
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: so I would dedicate my identity to try to get
• 27:20
  Speaker 5: the remnant of what they had. I needed a remnant
• 27:26
  Speaker 5: from you so it can adapt to me and then
• 27:29
  Speaker 5: I can walk in who I was. But that wasn't
• 27:32
  Speaker 5: my identity, and so it wasn't until I spent time
• 27:36
  Speaker 5: with God, and I mean truly read his word and
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: began to study. And then God started showing me who
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: I was. Can I be honest, the flaws and all?
• 27:45
  Speaker 5: And when I saw it, When I saw that, Samiria,
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: if you stopped trying so hard, I'll show you that
• 27:56
  Speaker 5: the thing that I have in you requires no effort.
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: Just show up, if you stop trying so hard. And
• 28:07
  Speaker 5: I see women because you mentioned it earlier. I navigate
• 28:10
  Speaker 5: here with women on the daily. We struggle as women
• 28:14
  Speaker 5: because there are a lot of people that missed the
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: object of truly going back and getting your sister or
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: this is not competition, let's collaborate. And when you feel
• 28:26
  Speaker 5: like nobody stretching out that hand to pull you in,
• 28:30
  Speaker 5: you begin to feel that your worth is only the
• 28:33
  Speaker 5: remnant of what they drop off to you get to
• 28:37
  Speaker 5: feel that your value is only what's left after somebody
• 28:41
  Speaker 5: shared with you what it is. And so I had
• 28:45
  Speaker 5: to understand that if I bring value to a table
• 28:50
  Speaker 5: and a relationship, I don't have to over succeed. I
• 28:54
  Speaker 5: don't have to over extend for you to take the
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: hand to accept me.
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: Hm hm.
• 29:02
  Speaker 5: And so God's Daughter began to birth when God showed
• 29:05
  Speaker 5: me darter, you the apple of my eye. You are
• 29:11
  Speaker 5: the apple, and I'm like, God, wait, I'm I'm the
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: heartbeat in your eye.
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: God.
• 29:17
  Speaker 5: So if you see me like that, why can't I
• 29:20
  Speaker 5: see me like that when I'm presented to others?
• 29:25
  Speaker 6: M m Yeah.
• 29:27
  Speaker 5: It took me to realize, girl, you valuable to God.
• 29:34
  Speaker 5: You're gonna stop undervaluing yourself because you see someone that
• 29:38
  Speaker 5: tapped in their lane and you're trying to find yours tea.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: Do you you you you that bar? That that bar
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: you just hit? That was a bar.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: Because the thing about it is is when we when
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: we realize our lane is our lane.
• 29:57
  Speaker 5: Mm hmmm.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: We I see two ways because I'm on the other
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: side of this now. It was one instance where if
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: I can be transparent, I was just doing we talk
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: about that remnant.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: Right, I'm thinking even.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: My own coach, My coach had to get me out
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: of this, you know what I'm saying. She'd be like,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: you know, you're with me for a reason. The Guy
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: has allowed you to be covered by me and go
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: through these processes because yeah, what I have is attainable,
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: but how I'm getting there is different. I'm trying to
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: sound like a prayer, like a preacher, like a you
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, But coach ain't podcasting, like not
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: right now in this season. That's not something that she's
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: teaching me. This is not something that is in her
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: rem So I literally had to be led by God
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: because I didn't even think.
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: I didn't even think of a podcast. I really didn't
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: understand what a podcast was.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I heard of them, I heard people talking, and I
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: see YouTube and stuff like that. But like when I
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: started getting into my lane, now it's the flip side
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: of me trying to get people to understand what God
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: is doing. That's still a form of people pleasing. If
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I'm now that I'm talking to you, that's a form
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: of people pleasing. I'm trying to get you to understand
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: what I said yes to God. To what I think
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: that's God yes about.
• 31:13
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you're over extending yourself. You don't have to do that.
• 31:17
  Speaker 5: And let me just say this because I want to sprinkle.
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: I see you in the midst of what you're doing,
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: and women, those of you that are tapped in and listen,
• 31:25
  Speaker 5: and let's become familiar with this space about what I'm
• 31:27
  Speaker 5: getting ready to do right here in this moment. Let's
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: become familiar with doing this for our sisters. Since I
• 31:32
  Speaker 5: see you, I see everything you're doing, and what I
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: love about it is it's so authentically you and it's
• 31:39
  Speaker 5: so purposed by God that even if someone tried to
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: start a podcast next year and tried to take your blueprint,
• 31:45
  Speaker 5: it won't work because this was your assignment. This is
• 31:48
  Speaker 5: exactly what it is that God have charged you to do.
• 31:51
  Speaker 5: And it's beautiful because it allows you to be you.
• 31:55
  Speaker 5: I see you so free in doing it, and you
• 31:58
  Speaker 5: don't look like you have to try and remember that
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: effortless mark. You're effortlessly doing exactly what it is that
• 32:05
  Speaker 5: God have charged you in. And the people that are
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: gonna be a part of your audience, those that are
• 32:10
  Speaker 5: being called to your name, My God, they're in for
• 32:12
  Speaker 5: a treat. When they continue to ride out this thing
• 32:15
  Speaker 5: with you, I just see it continually evolving. God, people
• 32:20
  Speaker 5: need to start calling you to be a part, not
• 32:22
  Speaker 5: you having to reach out to people say hey, I
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: need to get onto this space. I ask God, God,
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: I need to be on her space and look at
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: what God did. So there are gonna be people that's
• 32:31
  Speaker 5: going to pray. I would love to get on her
• 32:35
  Speaker 5: podcast because I love to see what it is that
• 32:38
  Speaker 5: God is doing through her. It's going to be a
• 32:42
  Speaker 5: moment that you're gonna say, Man, God, you did this
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: for me. God's gonna say I called you to this moment.
• 32:49
  Speaker 5: I was just waiting on your Yes. That's when you
• 32:53
  Speaker 5: know I found my lane.
• 32:57
  Speaker 6: People are praying.
• 32:58
  Speaker 5: To be in this space with you. It's purpose. So
• 33:03
  Speaker 5: God just been waiting on you the whole time.
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 5: I'm sorry because I see you, and I'm sorry to
• 33:14
  Speaker 5: do that. I just I see you. I've been seeing you.
• 33:17
  Speaker 5: And one thing I used to always say when I
• 33:19
  Speaker 5: would watch you, and then when I would see you
• 33:21
  Speaker 5: as I was breaking the barriers in my life, sys
• 33:24
  Speaker 5: because they were breaking when we first met, I wasn't
• 33:27
  Speaker 5: at one hundred percent healed and I was struggling because
• 33:31
  Speaker 5: everybody tried to muzzle me. And then I started to
• 33:34
  Speaker 5: lose my voice because I started questioning things that I
• 33:37
  Speaker 5: was hearing from God. I began to doubt who I was,
• 33:40
  Speaker 5: but not anymore. And so I see you. I've been
• 33:43
  Speaker 5: seeing you, and I said, man, when she find.
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: Her lame, my God, you're not lying.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: And I'm gonna confirm something because I told you earlier.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: I was like, man, the Holy Spirit brought something. Uh oh,
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to do.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: So I was driving and preparing for our time together,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: and the Lord reminded me of a time we spent
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: together and we were I think we were in Atlanta.
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: For that's who it is, Jaquelin car. Yeah, we were
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: in Atlanta and we went to go get something to
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: eat or something like that. But then we stopped to
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: get our nails done. She wanted to have y'all. She
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: wanted to get her nails done so bad, and I
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: was like, okay. And at that point, the Lord opened
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: the door for her to talk to me about self.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: Care and what that looked like.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: What that meant because you've always seen me in a
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: place of serving and I think that made you curious,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: like what do you do for yourself?
• 34:56
  Speaker 5: Right?
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: And I want us to die like talk about that
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: because I feel like we're, you know, targeting women in
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: this conversation.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: But even men can understand this because we got some
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: men shout out to the men that watch.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: But when we're talking about women and we're talking about
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: the realm of self care, I think that's a hard thing.
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: Like some people think self care is cleaning up or
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: doing something, but you was like, no, you need to
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: do something for yourself, Like what do you want? Like
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: do you know what you want? Do you know what
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: you like? Like you would just you would give me
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: the business. I was like why, why, what's she coming from?
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: But the Lord reminded me of that moment and I
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: started to get better at trying to figure out, like
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: you were calling me like this one no one conversations.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: She was texting me like, Okay, what did you do
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: for yourself? Did you schedule a day for yourself? You
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: can at least give yourself one day after month, just.
• 35:50
  Speaker 4: Like it was.
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: She was adamant about this thing, and I was like,
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: what is wrong with you?
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: So can we talked about that that and what that
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: looks like maybe even with the reasons why we don't
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: really give ourselves that opportunity to love on ourselves.
• 36:10
  Speaker 5: I think that that can be that can have a
• 36:13
  Speaker 5: plethora of answers. So many times in the space where
• 36:16
  Speaker 5: I'm providing services as a therapist and I find out,
• 36:20
  Speaker 5: you know, why is in self care a part of
• 36:22
  Speaker 5: your journey? And you know, I hear so many very reasons,
• 36:27
  Speaker 5: and then all of them, if you kind of pull
• 36:29
  Speaker 5: them together in a pile, they do make sense of why.
• 36:32
  Speaker 5: It's it's it looks like it's a collective of reasons.
• 36:35
  Speaker 5: But what I see the most is spending time with ourselves.
• 36:39
  Speaker 5: We feel like we're going to miss a moment. Spending
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: times with ourselves make us feel that we're not going
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: to be able to show up in something. So the
• 36:48
  Speaker 5: fear of missing out if we just took some time
• 36:52
  Speaker 5: to sit back and take care of us. A lot
• 36:55
  Speaker 5: of people say, well, I don't engage in self care
• 36:57
  Speaker 5: because I'm so busy wearing the multiple hats that we
• 37:01
  Speaker 5: wear as women, whether it be mom, wife, friend, or
• 37:06
  Speaker 5: you know, whatever it is that you're choosing to show
• 37:08
  Speaker 5: up in. We feel like taking time out to see
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: about us, we're taken away from what we can be
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: doing for somebody else, or they'll just say, man, by
• 37:18
  Speaker 5: the time I get to meet I'm just too tired
• 37:22
  Speaker 5: to really do it. And I think even when I
• 37:24
  Speaker 5: was talking to you at that moment, you have been
• 37:27
  Speaker 5: you had so much on your plate that the spillage
• 37:31
  Speaker 5: was you would never have time for yourself. And if
• 37:36
  Speaker 5: we compile so much on our plate, y'all, that's how
• 37:40
  Speaker 5: we do get burned out quickly. And so self care
• 37:43
  Speaker 5: really is your time to look at yourself, to take
• 37:47
  Speaker 5: care of yourself, to pamper yourself, to love on yourself.
• 37:51
  Speaker 5: And the only reason why I would see you not
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: wanting to do that is if it's something that make
• 37:55
  Speaker 5: you feel like you don't truly love yourself, or you
• 37:58
  Speaker 5: don't really want to see who you are so spending
• 38:01
  Speaker 5: time alone. Some people have said to me, well, I
• 38:04
  Speaker 5: don't even know what I like anymore because it's been
• 38:06
  Speaker 5: so long, so you've evolved in so many different settings,
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: or you've evolved over the years so much so that
• 38:13
  Speaker 5: you didn't even take time out to figure out what
• 38:16
  Speaker 5: do I enjoy now? What's the thing that I need
• 38:19
  Speaker 5: now that people pleasing it's tying into that. And then
• 38:23
  Speaker 5: sometimes it's just the reality of we rather depend on
• 38:27
  Speaker 5: others and our spaces versus taking time to really look
• 38:30
  Speaker 5: at ourselves, and so we really have to pause as
• 38:34
  Speaker 5: seasons change. Let me not say, I don't I look
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: at this new year, new me thing, and I'm like, man,
• 38:42
  Speaker 5: we don't have to wait for a new year to
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: look So when I see that at the beginning of
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  Speaker 5: the year, I'm like, oh my god. On social media,
• 38:50
  Speaker 5: I try to stay off, like I don't want to
• 38:51
  Speaker 5: see it, because man, you can pick any day of
• 38:55
  Speaker 5: the year to reassess you and enter do yourself. Like okay, y'all,
• 39:02
  Speaker 5: I maybe yesterday I like this, but let me introduce
• 39:05
  Speaker 5: myself this week because I feel like ivy fall. But
• 39:08
  Speaker 5: you got to spend time with yourself to know what
• 39:10
  Speaker 5: that is.
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  Speaker 3: That's so good.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: You brought up a good point of people weren't waiting
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  Speaker 1: to the new year or the next day. I would
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  Speaker 1: even dare to say, you can. You can choose to
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: be different now, Like it's Hebrew eleven one where it
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  Speaker 1: says now faith now it's the substance. It's a now
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: faith thing. Even even thinking about Christine King man, she's
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: she's so bumbed. I don't know if you know who
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: she is or not, but she's a I think she's
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: a pastor, but I know she is a minister. And
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: I witnessed one of her messages and in the message,
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: she was talking about Moses coming to Farah and Pharaoh
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: asking Moses to stop the plague right and it was
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: the plague of the frogs, and he was like, well,
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: when do you want me to tell God to stop this?
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: And Pharaoh's response tomorrow. And her point of it is
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: is that the thing you want the frogs gone, but
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: you ask for him to be gone the next day.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: And God, as powerful, as as instantaneously as he started it,
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: you can stop it. And so sometimes the burden is
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: the wait. Sometimes there's a net, thank you, Holy Spirit.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: There's a necessary waiting period and there's an unnecessary waiting period.
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: And now we gotta have.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Look at the discern between which waiting are we doing?
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Is it my waiting or is it God putting me
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: in waiting?
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: Is God? Is it God?
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Because, thank you, Holy Spirit, what I'm hearing right now
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: is because God's waiting includes preservation. And so there's a
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: peace when you're being preserved. There is a cooling and
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: being preserved. There is a process to it. Yeah, there's
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: a lot of things, but there you could see things
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: getting better. Oh thank you Lord. You can just see
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: the evidence of God just getting getting better. And so
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: when you even say that, like, no, I'm not waiting
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: for my next like even now I have a great therapist,
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: I thank you Lord, I got a great I love
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: my therapist.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: I love her like she's so real with me, she's annointed.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: I've given her permission to bring up my spirit, spirituality,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: my religion, my faith in the conversation. So she don't
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: overly do it, but she she gets me in totality.
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: So I appreciate her. And so even like having those
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: realizations like I want my like I want to be
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: well now, like I'm investing into my wellness now. And
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: so even talking about self care, I've been saying that
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: that's been the part of self care that I've enjoyed
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: the most. Like sometimes self care can be looked as
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: like I'm investing my nails on my hair or something
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: like that.
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: For me, self care right now is therapy.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: It's being able to talk to somebody because I need
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: to talk freely.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, and can that's self care though, you being able
• 41:58
  Speaker 5: to find a safe landing path for your thoughts, your
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: emotions and how you feel to things, you know what
• 42:03
  Speaker 5: I mean, And so that's a form of self careacter
• 42:05
  Speaker 5: how many times have we had conversations that we wanted
• 42:08
  Speaker 5: to open up about the in depth part of us,
• 42:11
  Speaker 5: but we didn't feel that there was a safety pad
• 42:13
  Speaker 5: that we can really land our emotions and our feelings
• 42:15
  Speaker 5: on and then not navigate out into other places and
• 42:18
  Speaker 5: not leak out into other atmospheres. And so what you're
• 42:22
  Speaker 5: doing is exactly what God don't call me doing this
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: season and it feels so good.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: Let's let's talk about that. Let's talk what does this
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: season look like for you? Because we talked about what
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: it used to be in some of the stuff. I'm
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: not even going to say that you're not still going
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: through or processing through some things. But you have this
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: glow about you that is like genuine and you've been
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: outside like you've been out, you've been doing the dog
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: one thing that boys ain't that boy's there. If you
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: lost it, you found it.
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: Put me in the loss and found section.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: Please, So how does this what does this season look
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: like for you.
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  Speaker 5: It's been good.
• 43:07
  Speaker 6: Let me.
• 43:10
  Speaker 5: I'm not gonna cry. So let me tell you. I
• 43:14
  Speaker 5: had a moment where God showed me like a Jacob
• 43:20
  Speaker 5: in me and I found myself this year wrestling with God,
• 43:28
  Speaker 5: and I told God, I refuse to let go until
• 43:34
  Speaker 5: you change me, until you do some things in me.
• 43:38
  Speaker 5: And God was showing me this year Jacob has to
• 43:42
  Speaker 5: go because there's a mandate on Israel. There's a mandate
• 43:48
  Speaker 5: on the you that I'm birthing you into, and so
• 43:52
  Speaker 5: the old you has to go. There were some things
• 43:55
  Speaker 5: about your former that I cannot use in what I'm
• 43:59
  Speaker 5: calling you into. But it required work. And so just
• 44:03
  Speaker 5: like when we read that story, you know, Jacob was
• 44:06
  Speaker 5: asking God to bless him, and in that space, it
• 44:10
  Speaker 5: was like, well, what is your name? And out of
• 44:13
  Speaker 5: all the things we pray for, God was wanting to
• 44:17
  Speaker 5: know about Tameria, what is your name? What is the
• 44:20
  Speaker 5: thing about you? And as I began to just pour
• 44:23
  Speaker 5: out the things that I really needed God to help
• 44:25
  Speaker 5: to marry you through, I begin to realize there's beauty
• 44:32
  Speaker 5: on the after side of it. And so what God
• 44:34
  Speaker 5: has called me to in this season, He's allowed me
• 44:37
  Speaker 5: to birth a spaces very new and it's called she
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: Heals Faith plus therapy, and we're going to merge faith
• 44:46
  Speaker 5: and therapy, biblical concepts, therapeutic practices. He's allowing me to
• 44:51
  Speaker 5: see that there has to be a merger in this
• 44:54
  Speaker 5: season of the couch and the altar that has to
• 44:57
  Speaker 5: be emerged. There are so many of the leaders and
• 45:01
  Speaker 5: the kingdom. There are so many kingdom people that are
• 45:03
  Speaker 5: mandated in the marketplace, that are mandated in their in
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: their space of what God had called them to and
• 45:10
  Speaker 5: they got faith concept, but they're bleeding. There are things
• 45:14
  Speaker 5: about them that are not healed and made whole. There
• 45:16
  Speaker 5: are things about what we do that God says, if
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: we can merge the couch and the altar, I want
• 45:23
  Speaker 5: my people freed mentally where they can move. I want
• 45:27
  Speaker 5: them to be healed emotionally, where they can think things through.
• 45:30
  Speaker 5: I want my people engaging in relational intelligence where we
• 45:35
  Speaker 5: know how to have an intelligent relationship and not pour
• 45:39
  Speaker 5: more out than we're getting in and then and not
• 45:41
  Speaker 5: move hurt and then block new people. Because we've been
• 45:45
  Speaker 5: burned by so many and so God wants his people
• 45:49
  Speaker 5: healed and made whole in our minds. Sometimes if we're
• 45:52
  Speaker 5: not careful, it can be a battlefield. And a lot
• 45:55
  Speaker 5: of times in our seasons, people don't realize. They think
• 45:58
  Speaker 5: that it's other people sabbage tijing. But sometimes because we're
• 46:01
  Speaker 5: not mentally well, we self sabotage and so we everybody else.
• 46:05
  Speaker 5: But the reality is it takes work to be made whole.
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: The woman of God that stretched her hand to the
• 46:12
  Speaker 5: hem of his garment, that had to be a mental
• 46:14
  Speaker 5: mind for her to stretch past where she was to
• 46:17
  Speaker 5: know that there has to be something greater than what
• 46:20
  Speaker 5: I've experienced over the last twelve years. And so God
• 46:23
  Speaker 5: is really calling me to merge the gate between faith
• 46:26
  Speaker 5: and therapy, the couch and the altar. There has to
• 46:30
  Speaker 5: be a merger, and so Tameria is now and you're
• 46:33
  Speaker 5: the first to hear it. I will be the mental
• 46:35
  Speaker 5: health therapist. I'm going to be your strategist. I am
• 46:38
  Speaker 5: going to be the therapy therapist for entrepreneurs that is
• 46:42
  Speaker 5: in the process of being trademarked. So I am the
• 46:45
  Speaker 5: therapist for those individuals that is operating in the Kingdom
• 46:50
  Speaker 5: of God, those that are called to the marketplace, and
• 46:52
  Speaker 5: those that say I need to be made well mentally, emotionally,
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: and spiritually. That's what God has called me to do.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: That's so good because what we're missing is in the
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: in ministry, especially if you're talking about me, because I
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: would be your target audience, right if you're we're using
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: me as an example in ministry, it is very hard
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: to digest the revelation not being sometimes the revelation that
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: you receive. So even an example of Okay, God, you
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: give me this this responsibility of this revelation of obedience. Right, yeah,
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, I obey God, but the enemy is also
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: telling me when you didn't obey God? Here you didn't
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: you need like I'm mentally fighting myself because I'm seeing
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: I'm seeing myself as God sees me, but I also
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: seeing myself as I see me.
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: And and that's the most.
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: Conflicting part for me as a as a woman of faith,
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: being a leader in faith. You get what I'm saying,
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: like a developing as a legal in faith to like
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: digest Okay, I get to expose the perfection of God,
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: but I'm not perfect. That balance and that understanding will
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: drive you up a wall. And I need to know
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  Speaker 1: how to navigate that. I need somewhere to release with it,
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: so that counching the alta.
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  Speaker 5: It's such a good navigator because how many of us,
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  Speaker 5: you know, as we do say we walk in purpose
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  Speaker 5: that sometimes we don't feel the adequacies of the things
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  Speaker 5: that we're doing. God is just enough. And when we
• 48:35
  Speaker 5: don't feel that way, we begin to deplete ourselves, thinking
• 48:38
  Speaker 5: we have to do more in order to feel the things.
• 48:42
  Speaker 5: And then how many times where you know, because we've
• 48:45
  Speaker 5: responded to God, and then we begin to feel like, man,
• 48:49
  Speaker 5: that response cost me some things that yes, that yes,
• 48:54
  Speaker 5: they'd be like, oh God, you know, I laugh at
• 48:57
  Speaker 5: the memes when they'd be like you want to call
• 48:59
  Speaker 5: and ask God? I got I'm just checking this month
• 49:01
  Speaker 5: and I own the strong, mighty list. I just need
• 49:03
  Speaker 5: to find that this. Oh where do I lay?
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: Where am I least on the list?
• 49:09
  Speaker 6: Listen?
• 49:09
  Speaker 5: What's going on? Like can I see the blueprint this week?
• 49:13
  Speaker 5: And it's because mentally we become like man, God, this
• 49:17
  Speaker 5: can be a lot, and so it's so healthy. It's
• 49:21
  Speaker 5: so important, like you said earlier, not even grab it
• 49:24
  Speaker 5: into this space that your therapist has been, your sense
• 49:30
  Speaker 5: of letting me do my self care And imagine how whole.
• 49:36
  Speaker 5: She's putting things together, and I look at it like
• 49:39
  Speaker 5: a puzzle piece. Growing up, I used to love to
• 49:41
  Speaker 5: put a puzzle together, and I would start with the outside,
• 49:44
  Speaker 5: but the inside it's a little bit longer. It's strategy
• 49:50
  Speaker 5: because we need to make sure we put the pieces together.
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: But if all of them kind of look similar, we
• 49:56
  Speaker 5: have to now navigate how to put it together. And
• 49:59
  Speaker 5: so so if we can now merge the couch and
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  Speaker 5: the altar, we can have I say, a holy ghost
• 50:06
  Speaker 5: therapist to help navigate the complexities of life, the challenges
• 50:12
  Speaker 5: that we face. The mental backset of my childhood doesn't
• 50:18
  Speaker 5: need to be pushed off. I need to deal with
• 50:20
  Speaker 5: it so that I can be a whole adult and
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: I can make adult decisions, and I can have adult choices,
• 50:26
  Speaker 5: and I can make adult actions and not make them
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: predicated on what happened or what was. But I can
• 50:32
  Speaker 5: move in what is and what's coming. That's where we
• 50:36
  Speaker 5: come in. That's where I come in, where I say, hey, sis,
• 50:39
  Speaker 5: let's look at this road map, Let's look at this blueprint.
• 50:42
  Speaker 5: Let's identify the key pieces. Let's find out why why
• 50:45
  Speaker 5: did you pick up that piece instead of this piece?
• 50:47
  Speaker 5: It truly allows you to get step closer toward being
• 50:51
  Speaker 5: made whole when we can truly deal with the things
• 50:55
  Speaker 5: that we chose to put in the backseat.
• 50:58
  Speaker 3: The whole idea.
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  Speaker 1: The pull just took me to another level in my brain,
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  Speaker 1: like that was such a good analogy because that's true.
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  Speaker 1: Like we can get the outside pieces done very quickly,
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: very well, because we can see the edge.
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: Yep, come on, what the line is made.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: We can see where where it finishes and where it starts,
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: and we can depict the four corners.
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: But to get the full picture, you gotta go to
• 51:23
  Speaker 3: the inside.
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: You gotta When you start picking pieces and you're like, oh,
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: I see this, Oh my god, I see this piece.
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: But the piece don't look like it goes anywhere right now,
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: and so now having to put it back in the box.
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: Now having a placement for I've identified something, but I
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: don't know where it goes.
• 51:43
  Speaker 5: That's so good, but watch it says this is so god.
• 51:46
  Speaker 5: But even the further we're still talking about this puzzle
• 51:48
  Speaker 5: and it's us right. It's so easy to dress up
• 51:52
  Speaker 5: that's the outside. It's so easy to make things look away,
• 51:55
  Speaker 5: that's the outside.
• 51:57
  Speaker 6: It's so easy to show up in the room.
• 52:00
  Speaker 5: But we show up because the inside is incomplete, it's broken,
• 52:05
  Speaker 5: it's not made whole. And so if we look at ourselves,
• 52:09
  Speaker 5: we have to see. Man, how is it that this
• 52:12
  Speaker 5: woman a God keeps showing up while I'm showing up?
• 52:14
  Speaker 5: Because the outside is what I present to you. The
• 52:17
  Speaker 5: inside is what me and God need to take care of.
• 52:19
  Speaker 5: And God, I need help for the inside. That takes maturity. God,
• 52:23
  Speaker 5: I need help.
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: So much surity.
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: You just you just hit something like okay, so what
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: do I even the adjustment of being able to see okay,
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: when the picture is done right, let's say we got
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna say we're in life. We got multiple puzzles
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: because we can feel like we completely different puzzles. Okay,
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: I've completed this puzzle. Now I now I just need
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: I feel like I got to go to the next puzzle,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: the next puzzle, instead of embracing what just just was
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: completed and even being able to see the puzzle, the
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: picture of the puzzle and that it's staying. Do I
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: need to back away from it for a little bit?
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: Do I need to come closer to what what just happened?
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: It just was created? What was just completed, Like, what
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: do I do after it's completed?
• 53:05
  Speaker 5: This is it? Let me say, this is so good?
• 53:08
  Speaker 5: How many times? And that's a form of self care,
• 53:11
  Speaker 5: that's a form of value. How many times have we
• 53:13
  Speaker 5: missed over opportunities to celebrate small wins because we feel
• 53:17
  Speaker 5: like we're missing out because we can't keep up with
• 53:19
  Speaker 5: what everybody else doing. So once we prayed for a
• 53:22
  Speaker 5: thing and God then to go and work on a thing,
• 53:25
  Speaker 5: we ready to hop on to the next space. We
• 53:27
  Speaker 5: don't take a moment to celebrate the completion of one
• 53:31
  Speaker 5: space because we find in our mind, God, I'm missing out.
• 53:34
  Speaker 5: I need to keep going. We begin to power on.
• 53:37
  Speaker 5: Oh I need to Oh, they're thinking I'm supposed to
• 53:40
  Speaker 5: be doing. Oh I didn't sis you just you completed
• 53:43
  Speaker 5: a whole space that had been voided. Who mm hmm celebrating.
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: You completed. I'm sorry, I gotta run that back. You
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: completed a whole space that had been voided. It that's
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: something worth celebrating.
• 54:06
  Speaker 5: Tee jazz, this is it's so good.
• 54:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is divide them in today.
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: I didn't know I needed man, man, I gotta make
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: sure we get into this because it's something like even
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: right now, like I'm leaping, no pun intended, But I've.
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: Been th third, I've been th third hoding in. You
• 54:30
  Speaker 3: just thirred me some more earlier.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: I know, we talked about your guy's daughter and you
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: have new ventures. But you you birthed something out a
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: few years ago and you've been running with this thing.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: You got an event coming up? Can we talk about that?
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: Is it the called the Leak Conference?
• 54:48
  Speaker 5: It's called the Leak Conference?
• 54:50
  Speaker 3: Tell us about this? How did that start? What can
• 54:54
  Speaker 3: we look forward to?
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: I think it was in January twenty fourth, twenty fifth,
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: that's correct, that it's all coming up.
• 55:04
  Speaker 5: So it's so exciting, and I was so grateful you
• 55:06
  Speaker 5: guys got a chance to come to the very first
• 55:08
  Speaker 5: one last year January or twenty twenty.
• 55:10
  Speaker 3: Three, on my birthday, on your birthday.
• 55:13
  Speaker 5: You were present, and it was so exciting to have
• 55:17
  Speaker 5: you there. I was like, Oh, my goodness, but LEAP
• 55:20
  Speaker 5: Conference twenty twenty five coming up, Leap conference in general. God.
• 55:24
  Speaker 5: Really he charged me. He charged me to say, to Mary,
• 55:28
  Speaker 5: you're capable of doing the things. I need you to
• 55:31
  Speaker 5: put together a space where my people can find out
• 55:35
  Speaker 5: how important it is to not remain where you are.
• 55:38
  Speaker 5: And sometimes we say, well, I'm gonna walk towards the
• 55:41
  Speaker 5: next I mean, I'm gonna take steps toward. God said, nah,
• 55:44
  Speaker 5: I want us leaping into the things that he called
• 55:47
  Speaker 5: us to and understand that when we land, our land
• 55:51
  Speaker 5: is going to be marked safe. I look at my
• 55:54
  Speaker 5: son who plays baseball, and you know, sometimes when the
• 55:57
  Speaker 5: opponent is getting ready to throw the ball to them,
• 56:00
  Speaker 5: they'll say slide, and they'll slide to the base. And
• 56:04
  Speaker 5: when we're leaping, we're leaping right on and it's a
• 56:07
  Speaker 5: direct hit. And so this year twenty twenty five, God
• 56:11
  Speaker 5: is calling this theme to be called Builder's Manual, and
• 56:14
  Speaker 5: so Leap Conference twenty twenty five the Builder's Manual. God
• 56:17
  Speaker 5: is really calling all I'm calling them game changes, pioneers, trailblazers,
• 56:23
  Speaker 5: those of us that are in the Kingdom of God.
• 56:25
  Speaker 5: And we're building something, whether we're building internally within ourselves,
• 56:30
  Speaker 5: whether we're building our family, we're building our business, we're
• 56:33
  Speaker 5: building a stronger relationship with God, We're building in our faith,
• 56:37
  Speaker 5: we're building a better prayer life. Whatever you are building
• 56:40
  Speaker 5: in the Kingdom, God is charging us that next year.
• 56:44
  Speaker 5: He keeps showing me like an architectural format, like it's
• 56:48
  Speaker 5: going to be a year for the architect, those of
• 56:50
  Speaker 5: us that are called to do something, and He's wanting
• 56:53
  Speaker 5: to give us the divine blueprint in that moment. And
• 56:56
  Speaker 5: so some things has to be made by a solid foundation.
• 57:00
  Speaker 5: Upon this rock, Peter, Upon this rock, Peter, I will
• 57:04
  Speaker 5: build my church. And God is showing that foundation has
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  Speaker 5: to be solid in order for our new year to
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  Speaker 5: be successful. So lead conference twenty twenty five. We're kening
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  Speaker 5: out the builder's man. You were recalling the space for
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  Speaker 5: the architect so that we can build on solid and
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  Speaker 5: firm foundation in God.
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  Speaker 1: This is so good question. How do I know I
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  Speaker 1: need to be at a conference like this?
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  Speaker 3: Like? How do I know that I'm the architect?
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  Speaker 5: Oh, that's a good question most of us. When I
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  Speaker 5: get this question, I smile because I say, well, what
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  Speaker 5: is your heart desire? Do you feel that twenty twenty
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  Speaker 5: four Do you feel like you pursued after what God
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  Speaker 5: called you to? Do you feel that you've reached the
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  Speaker 5: potential that you feel that you can put in for
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  Speaker 5: what God has asked you to do. Do you feel
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  Speaker 5: as though you're at a place in your life that
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  Speaker 5: you've reached and you've gained everything that you need to
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  Speaker 5: be who God have called you to be. Do you
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  Speaker 5: feel that you've reached out on your level of max
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  Speaker 5: capacity where you know what God, I got it. I've
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  Speaker 5: not met a person that said God, I got it.
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  Speaker 5: I'm always saying God, I need you. And in any
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  Speaker 5: space in our life where we need God to help
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  Speaker 5: to grow us spiritually, if you just need more knowledge mentally,
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  Speaker 5: if you need God to engage you emotionally, and you
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  Speaker 5: just say God, I just need a place an alter
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  Speaker 5: where I can lay out what I have and God
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  Speaker 5: you deposit what I need so that twenty twenty five
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  Speaker 5: can flow for the rest of the year. That is
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  Speaker 5: your space, This is your call. We have to get
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  Speaker 5: in the room. We got to get in a posture
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  Speaker 5: to receive what the spirit of the Lord wants to
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  Speaker 5: pour out for us. I do not want old wine
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  Speaker 5: and wine skin, and so the things that work in
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  Speaker 5: twenty twenty four may not be the things that God
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  Speaker 5: going to have me to do in twenty twenty five.
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  Speaker 5: I need new results. So my new results, your new strategy.
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  Speaker 5: It require a new mindset, It requires new focus. If
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  Speaker 5: I want more and I don't want what I got
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  Speaker 5: this year. I need to get into the room so
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  Speaker 5: that I can say, God, what is my poor for
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  Speaker 5: twenty twenty five? I need you want I'm scanned.
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  Speaker 1: But that's that's good. That's good. So listen. You got
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  Speaker 1: the explanation, y'all. Y'all got the understanding of it's time
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  Speaker 1: to lead. But this is specifically for the pioneers, specifically
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  Speaker 1: for the builders. If you have a builder's anointing on
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  Speaker 1: your life, if you leap, listen to the turf, that
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  Speaker 1: is your sign. I'm just gonna Sometimes we were like
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  Speaker 1: Lord centers a sign your belly just leap.
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  Speaker 4: That was it?
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  Speaker 3: That was it? Your belly just leap.
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  Speaker 1: That is evident that you need to look at the
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  Speaker 1: website that's under this Uh what is it the description
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  Speaker 1: under the description that's connected to this woman of God.
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  Speaker 3: Listen, man, that's right.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta give you a moment, because she she just
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: then came and slapped the brain like mental health professionals.
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  Speaker 1: She to open our brain, open our head like, unscrewed
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: it like effortlessly, took the brain out, said tap tap,
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  Speaker 1: and then put it back in there and screwed the
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  Speaker 1: brain back the head back on, like what is this.
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  Speaker 1: Why do I do this to myself? I really feel
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: like I do this to myself. Do y'all, girl, girl
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  Speaker 1: does a ray. I'm not talking to Tea right now.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: I'm not talking no more because she been, she been open.
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  Speaker 1: She in the third heaven somewhere. I don't even think
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  Speaker 1: she here. No, this was good, of course, you know again,
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  Speaker 1: I love to sit back and just listen and gathering
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  Speaker 1: and just allow, you know, the Holy Spirit just to
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  Speaker 1: show and you know, all the things, and so one
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  Speaker 1: thing that just keeps, he just keeps from before you go.
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  Speaker 3: Too deep, you need to change it to yourself. See,
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  Speaker 3: I have to get on. I was trying. I was
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  Speaker 3: giving her a look, but she wouldn't looking. Thank you,
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  Speaker 3: thank you.
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  Speaker 1: One thing that the Holy Spirit continues to remind me
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  Speaker 1: of because I struggled with people pleasing, right, is that
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  Speaker 1: it's the body and what the body is designed to
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: look like, you know, And when we find that place,
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  Speaker 1: when we find our lanes that we're supposed to be
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  Speaker 1: flowing and operating it, it could be the exact same
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  Speaker 1: thing that somebody else is doing.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 1: But the reality is we're all called to a certain
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  Speaker 1: person people, and we're all called to do something unique
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  Speaker 1: in the body, and we have to step into that
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  Speaker 1: authentic place in order for the body to function and
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: flow how He designed to do it. So as we
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: open ourselves up to therapy, as we open ourselves up
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: to allowing Holy Spirit to show us the things that
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: we need to work on, it puts us in a
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  Speaker 1: place where we can step into who God has.
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  Speaker 3: Already called us to be.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, Timyria said that earlier, like we're not becoming
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  Speaker 1: anything outside of what God has already called us to be.
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  Speaker 1: It's just we have to remove some things so that
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: we can see and walk into that. So this whole
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: conversation has just been confirmation, has just been really good,
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: a good moment of self reflection, just to kind of
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: be honest with yourself, to kind of just see where
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: you are. And when you open yourself up to being
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: self aware, you now know the things. You now allow
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: Holy Spirit and God to really show you the things
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  Speaker 1: that he needs to work on so that you can
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: be your authentic self. Yeah, and that's the that's the gift.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: Like the gift is really fighting out who God created
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: you to be. Like we really look at the tangible
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: things that other people have the gift, like you can
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: be a millionaire and be ignorant. Yeah, that's why you
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: have people unlive in themselves, you know what I'm saying.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: Like you got people that's really struggling here with the
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: money thoughts.
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  Speaker 3: And and and.
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: Self and golf thoughts, like really out here battling because
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: they don't know who the who they are. There was
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  Speaker 1: a lady on my future wife, dear my future wife
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: or dear future wife, get it, get it right, girl, dear.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 3: Future wifey, and.
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  Speaker 1: The lady was talking about, you know, living in her
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  Speaker 1: car and just being but being happy in God, like
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: she was about to get her car told and but
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: she was just so you can't think this type of joy,
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  Speaker 1: like the ladies talk about being homeless and all this stuff.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: And he had this lady on the platform and all
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: she could do was just rejoice. And I think you
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  Speaker 1: don't get that level of confidence unless you know who
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: you are, Like God, I'm nothing without you, Like you
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  Speaker 1: can take all of these you can strip me of everything,
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: but I'm good because I know me, and not only
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: but because I know me, because I know you. And
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: so like this this conversation got I got some homework.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in my therapy session now, I
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: got some homework, but that's my.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 3: Homework to do.
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  Speaker 6: Girl.
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  Speaker 1: This has been such a pleasure to have you here.
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  Speaker 1: But before we leave, I want to give you the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to expose another love of your heart. If they
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: didn't hear anything you said this whole owl that we've
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: been talking, what would you like to leave with the audience?
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  Speaker 5: That's good? Healed people here, different, help people move, different,
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 5: heal people see different. Are you healed? Are you in
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 5: the right circle? And have you found your moment?
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  Speaker 3: I ain't never heard it put like that before. If
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  Speaker 3: y'all need therapy.
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  Speaker 1: Look, she can't therapy be but she can probably therapy
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  Speaker 1: y'all lost. You'll know the web of the guy.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: They're legal.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: You gotta be legal. Okay, she ain't therapy the ones
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  Speaker 1: that she knows and don't ask. Okay, you know legally,
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: But if you don't know her, go to the website.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 3: Is it gonna be on the website? Okay?
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: So does the availability to connect with her to get
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: a consultation.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, we do things in DCC in order.
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  Speaker 1: If there's somebody interested in wait, where are you licensed
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 1: at Georgia?
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  Speaker 3: Obviously and then.
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  Speaker 5: Georgia right now, okay, all right, yeah, and then.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 3: Georgia and Alabama is the Alabama next, So.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm working on That's what I was gonna say.
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  Speaker 5: It's funny because I'm working on certifications to make sure
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 5: that I can be able to move in different states
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 5: for any you know, anyone that's looking. You know, I
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 5: have not been able to take insurance and yet, so
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 5: it is pay But when you go onto the website
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 5: and book your discovery call, you have options on how
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 5: we can kind of meet together. So I only twenty
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  Speaker 5: twenty five will I'll be birthing the faith in Entrepreneurs cohort,
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 5: but I'll also be moving from one on ones and
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 5: strategies to groups and mentorship programs so that you can
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 5: kind of take it at a pace and maybe see
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 5: me once a week or you know, once a month
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 5: with the self guided courses that are implemented into the system.
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  Speaker 5: So just book your discovery call and we can kind
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 5: of narragrate from there.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. I also want to
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  Speaker 1: release this to you. I just saw you on a couch.
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  Speaker 1: I saw you on a couch on the stage, so
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  Speaker 1: I even feel like this well let me not say
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: feel like I even see that this obedience of merging
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  Speaker 1: the altar in the couch is going to expose you
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  Speaker 1: to bigger stages, bigger platforms, because from one you have
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: the character to maintain who you are on those platforms,
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: and God has given you experience on this level with
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: the couch so that you can bring that couch wherever
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: you go. And so I'm just super super excited for
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: what's happening right now, like what I'm seeing right now.
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  Speaker 1: So you guys, thank you so much for tuning in
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  Speaker 1: to this week's episode, y'all. Tamiriya, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: Does Ray.
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  Speaker 6: That's all right, I love you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, Jessica, this is this is a great, great
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  Speaker 3: episode until next week.
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  Speaker 1: Until next time, remember life could be much more simple
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  Speaker 1: if you just asked.
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  Speaker 3: You almost made me miss up. Thank you for tuning
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  Speaker 1: I know I won't see you back until next week,
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  Speaker 1: but until then, remember to love always yourself and always thank.
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  Speaker 6: Thank God for one another day.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, hey, I know we could be another way. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: pray thank God for another day. Hey Hey, I'm just
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  Speaker 2: thankful for another day. Hey hey another day, Oh, another
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  Speaker 2: day wise, another day to get it right, another day
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  Speaker 2: to rise up, another day living, another day. We loved ones.
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  Speaker 2: I always remember hold it down for a ball one.
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  Speaker 6: Yuh