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7. A Father's Wisdom w/ LaFontaine (elite.oliver on TikTok) · Damaged Goods with Andrea Abbate

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SPEAKER_05: Yeah, but so now they take me to uh the holding place in Englewood.
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SPEAKER_05: This is that's where I kind of lived over there at the time.
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SPEAKER_05: I'm the only girl in a bathing suit on the bench with you know, tied up.
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SPEAKER_05: And so I'm trying to tell them I'm in this program that I'm sweating the drugs out of my body.
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SPEAKER_05: That's why I can't pass, and that's why I was driving poorly.
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SPEAKER_05: Finally, luckily, luckily, they got a hold of this guy.
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SPEAKER_05: Why did you tell them that?
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SPEAKER_05: You're supposed to shut the fuck up until the lawyer gets there.
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SPEAKER_05: I didn't get a lawyer.
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SPEAKER_05: I didn't, I'm I don't have time for all that.
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SPEAKER_05: I don't have to jail cell.
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SPEAKER_03: You ain't got nothing but time.
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SPEAKER_05: I will, but no, because I'm not going in there.
0:43
SPEAKER_05: You can't keep me.
0:44
SPEAKER_05: I'm wet.
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SPEAKER_05: I'm cold.
0:45
SPEAKER_05: I'm gonna catch a cold.
0:46
SPEAKER_05: I weigh like a pound.
0:48
SPEAKER_05: I'm thin now.
0:49
SPEAKER_05: I was thinner then.
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SPEAKER_05: You know, and I had a lot of drugs too sweat out of me because I had done a lot of speed and coke at the time.
1:00
SPEAKER_02: Damaged goods.
1:02
SPEAKER_05: Welcome back to Damaged Goods with Andrea Abbott.
1:05
SPEAKER_05: So glad you're here where we celebrate the dents, the cracks, the bad decisions that we've made that make us who we are.
1:13
SPEAKER_05: And you know, no one's getting through this life with in mint condition.
1:17
SPEAKER_05: No one's getting through this life without a scratch, at least.
1:20
SPEAKER_05: I'm salvaged.
1:21
SPEAKER_05: Speaking of me in card terms, I've been salvaged.
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SPEAKER_05: Two three times.
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SPEAKER_05: Salvage title, You Can't Get a Smog Check to Pass on Me.
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SPEAKER_05: No, but I'm still here.
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SPEAKER_05: I can take a lick it and keep on ticking.
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SPEAKER_05: And today I am so excited.
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SPEAKER_05: I'm here with my co-host, Alex DuFont.
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SPEAKER_05: How are you doing?
1:40
SPEAKER_05: I'm doing good, and I'm so excited because I've got one of my favorite comics, my favorite new people that I've met this year, La Fontaine.
1:49
SPEAKER_05: Hey LaFontaine.
1:51
SPEAKER_05: How are you doing?
1:52
SPEAKER_05: I'm so glad to see you here.
1:54
SPEAKER_05: Look at that smile, girls.
1:55
SPEAKER_05: Look at that smile.
1:57
SPEAKER_05: Um, LaFontaine, tell us how you got into comedy and what you did before comedy.
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SPEAKER_04: Well, when you say get into comedy, I started doing stand-up consistently in January.
2:08
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
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SPEAKER_05: Just in January.
2:10
SPEAKER_05: He's like this.
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SPEAKER_04: Um, but before that, I did I do social media.
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SPEAKER_05: I know.
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SPEAKER_04: Um I've I did comedy on social media, like talking, telling stories about my life, you know, uh since I was 17.
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SPEAKER_05: Oh, wow.
2:23
SPEAKER_05: And that's so three years now.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm 24.
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SPEAKER_04: But close, you know.
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SPEAKER_04: Close.
2:29
SPEAKER_05: But didn't you ever play ball before that?
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SPEAKER_04: I mean, like, I played different sports in high school and like before high school, but after high school, I didn't play any sports.
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SPEAKER_05: Oh, wow.
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SPEAKER_05: I thought I I don't know why I imbued you with some kind of football thing.
2:41
SPEAKER_04: Because I'm ginormous.
2:42
SPEAKER_04: That's why.
2:42
SPEAKER_05: You're ginormous, and I think in my mind.
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SPEAKER_05: You're ginormous.
2:47
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, that's what I also thought you would hurt your leg.
2:50
SPEAKER_05: I had a whole backstory for you.
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SPEAKER_05: But I didn't hurt my leg in high school.
2:54
SPEAKER_05: I'm psychic, you guys.
2:55
SPEAKER_05: I'm psychic.
2:56
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_05: But then you said to me, uh, because we got a lot of cameras here over here that you can't see.
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SPEAKER_05: And he said to me, I'm gonna have a hard time not looking up at myself in the camera.
3:05
SPEAKER_05: And I said, I've I've been out with a couple football players, and let me say, you can't even walk by a window without them checking themselves out.
3:14
SPEAKER_05: Look at this.
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SPEAKER_05: I'm like, wow.
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SPEAKER_04: It's really like I don't know what it is.
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SPEAKER_04: It's like it looks like a vain thing, but it's really just like my own reflection catches my attention.
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SPEAKER_04: It's like I feel like it's an ADHD thing.
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SPEAKER_05: Like that is a vain thing.
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SPEAKER_05: No, my my own reflection it is what it is.
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SPEAKER_05: But you know what?
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SPEAKER_05: If you look cute, you want to see.
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SPEAKER_05: Of course, and you also don't want to have anything messed up.
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SPEAKER_05: Like I'm always checking my hair.
3:39
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah.
3:40
SPEAKER_04: I gotta make sure all my locks are in there.
3:42
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah.
3:43
SPEAKER_05: You're on a locks journey.
3:44
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
3:45
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
3:46
SPEAKER_04: Sure.
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SPEAKER_05: So, but you've been doing comedy since you're is that how you pay the bills with your online stuff?
3:52
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
3:53
SPEAKER_05: Damn.
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SPEAKER_05: Damn, okay, good.
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SPEAKER_05: So I imagine uh, so I'm gonna ask you this because I ask everybody, if you were gonna rate your life, you're 24?
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_05: Okay, baby, little baby.
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SPEAKER_05: I've it I have a 24-year-old son.
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SPEAKER_04: Same age, same age.
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SPEAKER_05: Yes.
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SPEAKER_05: Uh, but anyway, if you're gonna rate your life uh so far on Yelp, what rating would you give it?
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SPEAKER_05: And why?
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SPEAKER_04: Um how many stars you get?
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SPEAKER_04: You get five stars?
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SPEAKER_04: You can out of five stars?
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SPEAKER_04: Okay.
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SPEAKER_04: Uh I would give myself like a like a mean 4.8.
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SPEAKER_04: You know, because whenever I see a place and they got five stars, I'm like, oh, your family members did that.
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: Like people you know left them reviews.
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SPEAKER_04: So I would give it a 4.8 likes.
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SPEAKER_04: We'd have had some bumps along the way, but every time I done got it back right.
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SPEAKER_05: There you go, there you go.
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SPEAKER_05: Now, would you think like on Yelp, you could have every person you've ever been with could could be putting their stars on there for you, like an Uber driver.
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SPEAKER_05: Now, how much now what would the rating be?
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SPEAKER_04: Define with girls.
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SPEAKER_04: If girls are gonna be I mean, like if I've been with like as of my girlfriends or just women I've been with.
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, be people you've been with.
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SPEAKER_04: Okay, I'm a sweet kid.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm a great guy.
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SPEAKER_04: I think I think I'm a nice guy.
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SPEAKER_05: So no one stars are coming on there.
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SPEAKER_04: Nobody has any retaliation or I don't think nobody got nothing to retaliate against me for.
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SPEAKER_04: I done definitely like have some stuff in not so hot.
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SPEAKER_04: But most of the time I try to like, I try to come in how I left.
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SPEAKER_04: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_04: I try to leave things how I left it.
5:33
SPEAKER_05: Oh, that's good.
5:34
SPEAKER_05: That's good.
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SPEAKER_04: Try to do good in people's lives.
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SPEAKER_04: If I feel like I can't do you know good in your life, I ain't gonna I ain't gonna bother you.
5:39
SPEAKER_05: Oh, La Fontaine.
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SPEAKER_05: You I would yes, I'm gonna give you my just even being in my life only as a friend.
5:46
SPEAKER_05: I'm giving you a five because I appreciate that.
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SPEAKER_05: Yes, because you are sweet and you are a good communicator.
5:52
SPEAKER_04: I appreciate that.
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SPEAKER_04: See, this is how you get five stars, is somebody who know and cares about you.
5:57
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
5:57
SPEAKER_05: That's it.
5:59
SPEAKER_05: One time we were at a we were doing comedy, Alex, and some guy got up on stage.
6:05
SPEAKER_05: Remember, he was saying something about me, like, oh, your laugh or whatever, and then La Fontan says, We like her.
6:11
SPEAKER_04: We do, we do like Andrea.
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, he was he was it was one of those times where you could tell, like, he was working through some things right now.
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SPEAKER_04: I don't know what was going on with her.
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SPEAKER_04: I think I asked him, I think I asked him afterwards.
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SPEAKER_04: I was like, has anybody ever told you you have like an abrasive personality?
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, he was like, Sometimes.
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SPEAKER_05: Oh, yeah, that guy was abrasive.
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SPEAKER_05: He was saying a bunch of stuff.
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SPEAKER_05: I had to run.
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SPEAKER_05: I do, I bet you were looking like where'd she go?
6:35
SPEAKER_05: But I parked my car illegally.
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SPEAKER_04: Love doing that.
6:38
SPEAKER_05: Oh love doing that.
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SPEAKER_05: I got some good spots, stores that uh I don't want to say their names, but stores over there on Melrose that are closed at night.
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SPEAKER_05: Hit the little parking roll right in there.
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SPEAKER_05: I've I've gotten away with it like three times, parking for a couple hours at your store.
6:54
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
6:55
SPEAKER_04: If you give me a ticket in a parking lot, that's I feel like that's messed up.
6:59
SPEAKER_05: That is messed up.
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SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you know what I mean?
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SPEAKER_05: Plus, the signs in LA are so hard to read.
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SPEAKER_05: You're like, okay, you can't park here from four to six every other Sunday, unless you're a Virgo.
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SPEAKER_05: And over here, you It's like three signs stacked on top of each other.
7:12
SPEAKER_04: And you're all contradict each other, yeah.
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SPEAKER_05: All contradicting, no parking.
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SPEAKER_05: Somebody wrote to me and said they saw a sign in conference that says no parking at all in this city.
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SPEAKER_05: And I'm like, what?
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SPEAKER_05: And then right below it, that some other directions like, what are you saying?
7:28
SPEAKER_05: Unless it is a racket because they want so much money for those parking tickets.
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SPEAKER_04: And it got me a couple times, and you know what they do to me?
7:35
SPEAKER_04: When I get a parking ticket, they'll throw like the no front tag enhancement onto the ticket.
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, it like cost me more money.
7:44
SPEAKER_04: I just want to let them know right now, you'll never get that front plate on that car.
7:48
SPEAKER_04: You'll have to take it and put it on yourself.
7:50
SPEAKER_04: I'm never putting that front plate on my car.
7:53
SPEAKER_05: I had did you pay these tickets or are they still sitting around?
7:56
SPEAKER_04: I paid them.
7:56
SPEAKER_05: But I that what that fixed ticket mean to me, bruh.
7:59
SPEAKER_05: It's not going on the car.
8:01
SPEAKER_05: I had to put one on my car.
8:02
SPEAKER_04: They got you.
8:03
SPEAKER_05: They got me.
8:04
SPEAKER_05: And they're a thing.
8:05
SPEAKER_05: I get well, I didn't know I had an option of like you'll never get me.
8:08
SPEAKER_05: I was like, okay, but I saw this cool thing on Instagram.
8:12
SPEAKER_05: I don't know if anybody does it, but if they do it, let me know how it works.
8:16
SPEAKER_05: My husband says it's illegal, but whatever.
8:18
SPEAKER_05: It is a thing where you kind of press on these letters on the letters of your license that makes it unreadable when you go through a light.
8:27
SPEAKER_05: So just your your your thing looks white when you drive through.
8:32
SPEAKER_05: But in real life, I'm looking, oh, isn't it J2379H5 or whatever it is, but doesn't capture on a camera.
8:40
SPEAKER_05: I'm like, that's a mess.
8:42
SPEAKER_04: That's definitely illegal.
8:43
SPEAKER_04: But if you don't get caught, that's fire.
8:46
SPEAKER_05: How could I say I even know?
8:48
SPEAKER_05: How did I do that?
8:49
SPEAKER_04: Oh, because you put it on there.
8:51
SPEAKER_05: So they'd have to have a picture of me doing that.
8:53
SPEAKER_04: I don't know if you know, but when you get taken to court, I didn't know usually it isn't a good excuse.
9:03
SPEAKER_04: They usually don't care about that.
9:06
SPEAKER_05: How are they gonna take me to court if they don't see my license plate?
9:11
SPEAKER_05: How?
9:12
SPEAKER_05: And what I guess that's the I guess that's the hey, you know, now I I have a lot of criminals in my family, and we were talking before everybody has a couple.
9:20
SPEAKER_05: And I always say, somebody that you can call in the middle of the night if shit goes bad.
9:24
SPEAKER_05: You know what I mean?
9:25
SPEAKER_05: If they're not locked up, they'll be there.
9:27
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
9:27
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
9:28
SPEAKER_05: But uh because I got a lot of thieves in my family, I know that the first thing you do when you steal a car is you switch out the plates with a similar car.
9:35
SPEAKER_05: Like, oh, I'm gonna take your car, I'm gonna find a Tesla round the block, switch out the plates so that when a cop runs it, he doesn't see it stolen and it matches Tesla.
9:45
SPEAKER_05: Okay, good, we're going.
9:46
SPEAKER_05: How come maybe that happened to me driving my car through the thing?
9:50
SPEAKER_05: Maybe somebody stole uh my wait, does that mean my car is just gonna come back registered to your name?
10:02
SPEAKER_04: Well, you know, this is a working part.
10:09
SPEAKER_04: I was registered in your name.
10:12
SPEAKER_03: Oh nah, somebody put that.
10:14
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, somebody must be a stole.
10:16
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I don't know.
10:17
SPEAKER_05: I don't think these things through.
10:19
SPEAKER_04: I just thought it was a Yeah, no, you're gonna go to jail for sure.
10:21
SPEAKER_05: Okay, well, you know what?
10:22
SPEAKER_05: I've only been to jail once.
10:23
SPEAKER_05: Have you ever been to jail?
10:24
SPEAKER_05: No, thank God.
10:25
SPEAKER_05: Well, thank God, you're only 24.
10:27
SPEAKER_05: Why did you go to jail?
10:28
SPEAKER_05: I mean, this is so stupid.
10:29
SPEAKER_05: Do you know why I was in jail, Alex?
10:31
SPEAKER_05: No, no.
10:33
SPEAKER_04: Y'all just started this whole thing together.
10:35
SPEAKER_04: You didn't even know she was a criminal.
10:36
SPEAKER_00: Uh I knew she was a criminal.
10:37
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
10:38
SPEAKER_00: Specifics.
10:38
SPEAKER_00: We kept it broad, you know what I mean?
10:41
SPEAKER_05: This was so uh such a nothing thing.
10:44
SPEAKER_05: Um, well, twice, twice I've been to jail when you think about it.
10:48
SPEAKER_05: You know, hey, I've lived a long time.
10:50
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
10:51
SPEAKER_05: Uh, but one time was, and I remember I'll remember the car I was driving, a Lincoln, uh, not a Lincoln, a Le Mans, a Pontiac Le Mans.
11:01
SPEAKER_05: You know what those cars are?
11:02
SPEAKER_05: I don't even know if they make them anymore.
11:04
SPEAKER_05: I feel like I might.
11:04
SPEAKER_05: I'd have to see it.
11:05
SPEAKER_05: It's like a, you know, when I was little, I always wanted to, I always thought, when I get big, I'm gonna have a uh Cadillac, and I'm gonna palm it like this, and I'm gonna have a bunch of jewelry on, I'm gonna be sounding like this.
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SPEAKER_05: I had it all in my mind.
11:21
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, rapper dreams.
11:22
SPEAKER_05: Yes, I was at that or a long Lincoln.
11:25
SPEAKER_05: Then they made those Lincolns short and squatty like, oh, anyway, whatever.
11:31
SPEAKER_05: I'm in this, this uh, whatever it was, Pontiac Lamont.
11:35
SPEAKER_05: It's 11:30 at night.
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SPEAKER_05: I'm in a purple bathing suit and my hair's all wet.
11:42
SPEAKER_05: Why?
11:43
SPEAKER_05: Because I was doing a program to sweat the drugs out of you.
11:49
SPEAKER_05: Okay, a sweating program.
11:51
SPEAKER_05: And they had said, when you do this program, don't leave if you feel not good.
11:59
SPEAKER_05: But I I I'm like, it's 11, I gotta go.
12:03
SPEAKER_05: Plus, I had my little dog.
12:04
SPEAKER_05: I had a little dog named Sushi back then.
12:07
SPEAKER_05: So I had my little dog, my baby, and usually, you know, you a normal person would change into their clothes.
12:12
SPEAKER_05: Fuck all that.
12:13
SPEAKER_05: I'm just with my fried blonde hair, which was way more blonde than in this little purple bikini driving down the freeway with my dog in my red leather, white uh Lamons pinstriped with my initials in red on the door.
12:33
SPEAKER_05: Okay, kind of like a prostitute.
12:35
SPEAKER_04: Anyway, I was like, I didn't know the license plate was mine.
12:39
SPEAKER_05: I know, but wait, so now I see this cop behind me, so I slow down a little bit, you know, just as you would.
12:45
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I'm on the 405, and then boom, he lights me up, and I'm like, what?
12:51
SPEAKER_05: And I go, officer, what he he comes to the and he's like looking in.
12:56
SPEAKER_05: I'm still a little bit wet from this.
12:59
SPEAKER_05: I'm who's swimming at 11:30.
13:01
SPEAKER_05: He's got a lot of questions.
13:02
SPEAKER_05: He's got a lot of questions.
13:04
SPEAKER_05: And I said, Why did you pull me over?
13:06
SPEAKER_05: I wasn't speeding.
13:06
SPEAKER_05: He goes, You were going 30 miles an hour.
13:09
SPEAKER_05: That's how out of it I was.
13:11
SPEAKER_05: I was going 30 miles.
13:14
SPEAKER_05: He goes, You need to get out of the car.
13:16
SPEAKER_05: I go, but I'm not fully dressed.
13:18
SPEAKER_05: He goes, You need to get out of the car.
13:20
SPEAKER_05: Now he wants me to walk a straight line.
13:23
SPEAKER_05: I cannot walk a straight line.
13:25
SPEAKER_05: He wants me to do the alphabet backstore.
13:27
SPEAKER_05: I can't even do the alphabet at all.
13:28
SPEAKER_05: I can't do that sober.
13:29
SPEAKER_05: Uh, no way can I do that.
13:31
SPEAKER_05: That's like a trick.
13:32
SPEAKER_05: But anyway, I couldn't touch my nose.
13:34
SPEAKER_05: So he cuffs me, leaves my car on the side of the 405, cuffs me.
13:39
SPEAKER_05: I'm like, what about my dog?
13:41
SPEAKER_05: We take my dog.
13:42
SPEAKER_05: This is such a clueless moment.
13:45
SPEAKER_05: I think I'm uh 26 at the time or something.
13:50
SPEAKER_05: Anyway, um so you got a couple years here.
13:52
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you can still screw up.
13:54
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, right.
13:55
SPEAKER_04: Be careful.
13:59
SPEAKER_04: DUI.
14:00
SPEAKER_05: I know I got out of it.
14:01
SPEAKER_05: I'll tell you I got out of it.
14:02
SPEAKER_04: You really got the DUI.
14:03
SPEAKER_04: Well, I've got 30 high trauma, yeah.
14:05
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, but so now they take me to uh the holding place in Englewood.
14:10
SPEAKER_05: This is that's where I kind of lived over there at the time.
14:13
SPEAKER_05: I'm the only girl in a bathing suit on the bench with you know, tied up.
14:18
SPEAKER_05: Obviously.
14:19
SPEAKER_05: And so I'm trying to tell them I'm in this program that I'm sweating the drugs out of my body.
14:26
SPEAKER_05: That's why I can't pass, and that's why I was driving poorly.
14:29
SPEAKER_05: Finally, luckily, luckily, they got a hold of this guy.
14:34
SPEAKER_05: Why did you tell them that?
14:36
SPEAKER_05: You're supposed to shut the fuck up until the lawyer gets there.
14:40
SPEAKER_05: I didn't get a lawyer.
14:41
SPEAKER_05: I didn't, I'm I don't have time for all that.
14:42
SPEAKER_05: I don't have a jail cell.
14:47
SPEAKER_03: You ain't got nothing but time.
14:48
SPEAKER_05: I will, but no, because I'm not going in there.
14:50
SPEAKER_05: You can't keep me.
14:51
SPEAKER_05: I'm wet, I'm cold, I'm gonna catch a cold.
14:53
SPEAKER_05: I weigh like a pound.
14:55
SPEAKER_05: I'm thin now.
14:56
SPEAKER_05: I was thinner then, you know, and I had a lot of drugs to sweat out of me because I had done a lot of speed and coke at the time.
15:03
SPEAKER_05: But anyway, enough about me.
15:04
SPEAKER_05: I'm just blabbing about me this whole time.
15:07
SPEAKER_05: What?
15:09
SPEAKER_05: I have fun, I'm not even interviewing.
15:12
SPEAKER_00: It's so funny.
15:14
SPEAKER_00: I'm glad you came to that.
15:16
SPEAKER_00: Like, we we just started, she'd have been to jail three times.
15:19
SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying, she thought you played football.
15:23
SPEAKER_00: She mistook you for another guy who looks like you.
15:27
SPEAKER_00: You know those football players.
15:29
SPEAKER_00: What do you mean those football players?
15:30
SPEAKER_05: He's not even a football player.
15:33
SPEAKER_00: He's digging from Florida.
15:34
SPEAKER_00: That's the reason.
15:35
SPEAKER_00: That's it.
15:35
SPEAKER_05: Florida State has been put putting out some football players.
15:39
SPEAKER_04: Gocains.
15:40
SPEAKER_04: There you go.
15:42
SPEAKER_04: It's all about the you.
15:44
SPEAKER_04: The you, okay, nice.
15:45
SPEAKER_05: But now I saw this girl, Alex, the other night.
15:48
SPEAKER_05: This girl's not gonna get a name.
15:51
SPEAKER_05: Here she goes.
15:52
SPEAKER_05: Throwing herself at La Fontaine.
15:54
SPEAKER_05: Oh, wait, what was this?
15:56
SPEAKER_05: Another night when we were at a place, and that girl's like, uh, remember she when we said she kind of had a meltdown on stage.
16:02
SPEAKER_05: I don't want to say her name, but then she's like, but I would be with La Fontaine, blah blah blah.
16:05
SPEAKER_05: I'm just like, wow.
16:08
SPEAKER_05: Is that happened to you a lot where girls just throw themselves or really overtly like wow?
16:15
SPEAKER_05: And how do you handle that?
16:18
SPEAKER_04: I mean, you saw how I handled it.
16:20
SPEAKER_04: You were smile and wave.
16:21
SPEAKER_04: Yes.
16:23
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I ain't finna, you know, I ain't finna do the most because like I ain't finna be mad at you for shooting your shot just because I don't want to reciprocate it.
16:31
SPEAKER_04: So I could just be like, oh, thank you, appreciate it.
16:33
SPEAKER_04: I had a situation like that a little bit ago where she was putting the pressure on me.
16:39
SPEAKER_05: A comedian?
16:40
SPEAKER_04: No, no, no, no.
16:41
SPEAKER_04: It was it was at like a it was at a like a like a party situation.
16:45
SPEAKER_04: Oh, a party.
16:46
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, she was trying to fuck me to the flow, and I just kept saying, Oh, stop it.
16:51
SPEAKER_04: Oh, you uh thank you, I appreciate it.
16:54
SPEAKER_04: That's all I do, just say thank you.
16:56
SPEAKER_05: And how but she didn't take the hint, this girl.
16:58
SPEAKER_04: No, no, she kept trying, but you know, you had a party, liquor flowing.
17:03
SPEAKER_04: I ain't finna like judge her too much.
17:05
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, you're a good looking guy, yeah, yeah.
17:06
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
17:08
SPEAKER_05: I did another show, Alex, with La Fontaine, and there was one of the most beautiful girls I've seen in a long time.
17:19
SPEAKER_04: She's very pretty, very pretty.
17:22
SPEAKER_05: I can't tell you her name because he never introduced me.
17:25
SPEAKER_05: This girl sat there like a little statue, and I finally pieced it together because I'm like, I wonder who this girl's here, and then I was seeing love in over here, and then oh, there she is, and then oh, there's oh well, he might be with this girl.
17:38
SPEAKER_04: I I arrived with her, but that was my friend.
17:41
SPEAKER_04: That was my friend.
17:42
SPEAKER_04: She's she came to support, you know, came to show love at the show.
17:45
SPEAKER_04: She's a she's a great person, great girl, very, very pretty.
17:48
SPEAKER_04: Very pretty.
17:49
SPEAKER_04: Um, but yeah, that's that's like the homie, though.
17:51
SPEAKER_04: That's my dog.
17:52
SPEAKER_04: Okay, she's a homie.
17:53
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
17:54
SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
17:55
SPEAKER_00: Do you have any like crazy ex-girlfriend stories or like crazy women you've been dealt with?
18:01
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
18:01
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, sadly.
18:02
SPEAKER_04: No, yeah.
18:03
SPEAKER_00: Sadly.
18:03
SPEAKER_00: No names or anything, obviously.
18:05
SPEAKER_04: I told a story about that at the show she's talking about.
18:08
SPEAKER_04: Talk to her.
18:08
SPEAKER_05: Oh, yeah, tell, tell it.
18:09
SPEAKER_04: This is funny.
18:10
SPEAKER_04: Uh, it was the story about the first time I got cheated on.
18:13
SPEAKER_04: I found that I had cheated on.
18:14
SPEAKER_04: Oh god.
18:16
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
18:16
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
18:17
SPEAKER_04: It was, it was, it was a it was a rough one.
18:19
SPEAKER_04: Tell the people.
18:20
SPEAKER_04: How old were you then?
18:21
SPEAKER_04: Uh when I found out, yeah, I was 20.
18:26
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
18:26
SPEAKER_04: I would think I was like freshly 20.
18:28
SPEAKER_05: And you guys had been together for a minute.
18:30
SPEAKER_04: We had been together for a little minute.
18:32
SPEAKER_04: Um, been together for like two years.
18:34
SPEAKER_04: Uh, and it was a situation where like I had let her move in with me.
18:38
SPEAKER_04: Uh, so she was living with me at the time, and I just she was do she did things over time that made me become increasingly more suspicious about what was in that phone.
18:48
SPEAKER_04: Yes, you know, yes, yes.
18:50
SPEAKER_04: Like she was lying about little stuff.
18:52
SPEAKER_04: Okay, and you would catch her in it.
18:53
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I would catch her in the lot.
18:55
SPEAKER_04: Was this Florida?
18:56
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, okay.
18:56
SPEAKER_04: I would catch her in the lot, and it was like you know how like if you with somebody who lied a lot, sometimes you'll just catch them in a lot and you'll just be like, I'm not even gonna address this one.
19:05
SPEAKER_04: Like, I'm just gonna I'll let you have that one.
19:08
SPEAKER_04: Even though I caught you, I only want to have that conversation today.
19:11
SPEAKER_04: Like, okay, and so I I I I I I told I told the story.
19:15
SPEAKER_04: I was like, the the moment I knew I was gonna go through her phone was one day, you know how like you be playing with your girl, and y'all be like, Oh, stop, dah da da.
19:22
SPEAKER_04: Well, she grabs my phone and I'm like, oh, give it back, da da da.
19:26
SPEAKER_04: And we like playing, I'm tickling her.
19:27
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, then I grabbed her phone, but this girl's like 125 pounds, but she yanked me across the couch.
19:33
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, shirt was a little stretched out.
19:35
SPEAKER_04: I was like, I was like, damn, you should not be that strong.
19:38
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, superhuman strength.
19:39
SPEAKER_04: Me grabbing your phone should not put you in the survivor mode.
19:42
SPEAKER_04: Like, you know what I mean?
19:43
SPEAKER_04: Like, and so in that moment, I'm sitting there, I'm like, you know what, bro?
19:46
SPEAKER_04: When I get that password, bro, that's open.
19:49
SPEAKER_04: Oh yeah, I'm I I'm gonna start building, man, I'm gonna start building that Rico.
19:53
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
19:54
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
19:55
SPEAKER_00: That's smart.
19:55
SPEAKER_00: So for future reference, if you're with somebody and you're suspicious, just go for their phone really quickly and see how they react.
20:01
SPEAKER_00: If they go after it, they're hiding something.
20:03
SPEAKER_00: But if they're they're just like, why did you grab my phone?
20:05
SPEAKER_00: You know they're that's how I was.
20:06
SPEAKER_04: Like, I I gave her, I realized in that moment, I was like, she has the phone, the password to my phone.
20:11
SPEAKER_04: And she be changing her password a lot.
20:13
SPEAKER_04: For what?
20:14
SPEAKER_05: For what now?
20:15
SPEAKER_05: How did you how did you sneak to get the password without her noticing?
20:20
SPEAKER_05: Girls, listen up.
20:21
SPEAKER_05: We need to know about this.
20:22
SPEAKER_04: Not my finest moment.
20:24
SPEAKER_04: It was a time we were uh we were chilling in my room.
20:26
SPEAKER_04: She's I think she's living with me at the time.
20:29
SPEAKER_04: She's we're chilling in my room, in our room at this point.
20:32
SPEAKER_04: Um, and we're doing homework.
20:34
SPEAKER_04: She needed a graphing calculator.
20:36
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
20:37
SPEAKER_04: Because I'm in college right now.
20:38
SPEAKER_04: I was doing like physics homework.
20:39
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
20:39
SPEAKER_04: You know, and and she needed a graphing calculator.
20:42
SPEAKER_04: I had one on my phone, so I let her use it.
20:44
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
20:44
SPEAKER_04: And then I was like, Oh, I gotta look something up for this problem.
20:46
SPEAKER_04: I gotta look up an equation.
20:47
SPEAKER_04: She goes, Oh, just use my phone.
20:50
SPEAKER_04: Code is da da da da.
20:52
SPEAKER_04: So when she said the code, I was like, We got her ass.
20:55
SPEAKER_04: We got her ass.
20:57
SPEAKER_00: How long was this between that and that point?
20:58
SPEAKER_00: How long did that take?
20:59
SPEAKER_02: Oh, like a year.
21:03
SPEAKER_02: Fuck yeah.
21:04
SPEAKER_00: You were waiting.
21:06
SPEAKER_04: Because it was like, I don't got enough, I don't got enough on the Rico yet to hit these charges and make them stick.
21:12
SPEAKER_04: That's right.
21:13
SPEAKER_04: And so you were doing a conversation.
21:18
SPEAKER_04: At the same time, bro, you better button it up.
21:20
SPEAKER_04: The DA on you.
21:22
SPEAKER_05: The DA on you.
21:24
SPEAKER_05: And and did you make up the fact that you needed your her phone to do this geography thing?
21:29
SPEAKER_04: No, I really needed it.
21:29
SPEAKER_04: It was like one of those moments where I was like, oh fuck, I gotta look something up real quick.
21:32
SPEAKER_04: She was like, Oh, just use my phone.
21:33
SPEAKER_04: And I was like, That's perfect.
21:37
SPEAKER_04: She told me her password, and I did that thing you do when you get the password.
21:40
SPEAKER_04: I just kept saying it over and over my head, and I was like, Oh, I'm gonna go get some water.
21:44
SPEAKER_04: I went to the kitchen, opened one of the junk drawers, grabbed the Chinese menu, and wrote the password on it so I wouldn't forget it.
21:52
SPEAKER_04: Took it, put it in the cabinet of butter microwave.
21:54
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
21:55
SPEAKER_05: Where no girl's gonna reach, it's too hot.
21:58
SPEAKER_00: They're right.
21:58
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, next time you go to China.
22:00
SPEAKER_00: And he's like, Can I get the number 9316, please?
22:05
SPEAKER_05: Comes with herpes.
22:07
SPEAKER_04: Chowman.
22:08
SPEAKER_04: Chowman.
22:09
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
22:10
SPEAKER_04: So I'm I'm I when she falls asleep.
22:12
SPEAKER_04: That same night.
22:13
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
22:13
SPEAKER_04: Oh, I ain't waste no time.
22:15
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
22:15
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, because she might be changing her code again.
22:17
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, we've been putting this case together for a year.
22:20
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah.
22:20
SPEAKER_04: It's time depth.
22:21
SPEAKER_04: She gave me across that couch about 13 months ago.
22:26
SPEAKER_04: And so when she falls asleep, I start going through her phone.
22:30
SPEAKER_04: And I'm I'm fine and shit, I'm fine and shit, but like the more stuff I find, it's like it's manageable.
22:35
SPEAKER_04: It's bad, but it's manageable.
22:38
SPEAKER_05: It's just what when what is bad with manageable?
22:40
SPEAKER_05: Just talking to guys.
22:41
SPEAKER_05: No, what is manageable in your mind?
22:43
SPEAKER_04: I find out like more stuff she lied about.
22:45
SPEAKER_04: Like, and then I knew the moment it was time to like time, the moment it was time to wake her up, it was like, oh yeah, because I woke her ass up.
22:53
SPEAKER_04: Nice.
22:54
SPEAKER_05: But what did you find that was like it's time to get up?
22:56
SPEAKER_04: I was going through the messages and I'm looking up all the words that could lead to her being with a dude.
23:02
SPEAKER_04: I'm looking up love.
23:03
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
23:04
SPEAKER_04: You know what I'm saying?
23:05
SPEAKER_04: Boy, guy, like all that stuff.
23:08
SPEAKER_04: And so I look something up, and somebody asked her, she was like, she was texting one of her friends, and her friend was like, Do you love him?
23:15
SPEAKER_04: And she was like, Yeah, I think so.
23:18
SPEAKER_04: Like, I think he means a lot to me.
23:20
SPEAKER_04: And I'm reading it, and I'm like, oh, that's so sweet.
23:22
SPEAKER_04: Thinking it's you.
23:23
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, and then she keeps going, and then she's like, Because I mean, after all the shit we went through in high school, and I'm like, hold on.
23:32
SPEAKER_04: I met I met you in college.
23:35
SPEAKER_01: Who the fuck are we talking about?
23:37
SPEAKER_04: So I keep going through the thread, da da da, and I'm I'm trying to find them.
23:41
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, yeah.
23:42
SPEAKER_05: But I couldn't meet.
23:43
SPEAKER_04: She didn't scrubbed most of the stuff relating to him, but I'm finding conversations about him.
23:48
SPEAKER_04: About him.
23:48
SPEAKER_04: But and so what got her was man, I tell you, I went through everything in that phone.
23:53
SPEAKER_04: Not my proudest moment.
23:54
SPEAKER_05: How many albums?
23:55
SPEAKER_04: I was going through that jump for like like two and a half hours.
23:58
SPEAKER_04: So is it one like three to four a.m.
24:00
SPEAKER_04: Oh yeah, I'm sitting up like a gargle sweating over the phone.
24:02
SPEAKER_04: Like it's bad.
24:03
SPEAKER_04: I'm not gonna lie.
24:03
SPEAKER_04: I ain't gonna lie.
24:04
SPEAKER_04: It was not my proudest moment.
24:06
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
24:06
SPEAKER_04: Where she messed up was because I looked through everything.
24:09
SPEAKER_04: I looked through the notes, I'm looking through Instagram DMs.
24:12
SPEAKER_00: You think she put like a note on her phone?
24:14
SPEAKER_00: Pictures, he's just trying.
24:16
SPEAKER_04: I'm cheating on my I'm bringing this Rico.
24:20
SPEAKER_05: Yes, that's right.
24:22
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
24:22
SPEAKER_05: You gotta do all that.
24:24
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
24:24
SPEAKER_00: I'm going through your voice memos, dear.
24:27
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
24:28
SPEAKER_00: Thorough.
24:29
SPEAKER_00: That's what you call thorough.
24:30
SPEAKER_04: I don't know when I'm gonna get another chance.
24:32
SPEAKER_04: I got you right to, you know what I'm saying?
24:33
SPEAKER_04: This is it.
24:34
SPEAKER_04: She deleted everything, but what she didn't delete was a screenshot.
24:40
SPEAKER_04: Because you know how you know how it'd be when you're arguing with the person you're with.
24:43
SPEAKER_04: You'll take a screenshot of it, send it to your homegirl.
24:46
SPEAKER_04: She deleted the messages, did not delete the screenshots.
24:49
SPEAKER_04: So I searched up.
24:50
SPEAKER_04: Oh I went to the time where I assumed all the transgressions was happening, found the screenshots.
24:57
SPEAKER_04: We got our evidence.
24:59
SPEAKER_05: And so did you send it to yourself so you had it in case you needed it, in case she I think I might have, but at the same time, I knew I was about to.
25:10
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I knew it was open shut.
25:11
SPEAKER_04: I was about to blow the lid off this case.
25:13
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, okay.
25:13
SPEAKER_04: So when that moment happened, bam! I close the phone, I I look back at her, I wake her up, I'm like, A sleepy head.
25:23
SPEAKER_04: And so I wake her up and I'm like, I'm asking her, I'm like, yo, so you remember that time we went through that little shit, and you was you went, you know what I'm saying?
25:32
SPEAKER_04: You went back home.
25:32
SPEAKER_04: Like, was you with anybody during that time?
25:34
SPEAKER_04: Bruh, I ain't gonna lie, she tried to keep the lie alive.
25:37
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
25:38
SPEAKER_04: She put it on her life, her mama life, our whole relationship, and she was not gone.
25:46
SPEAKER_04: And then so I was like, oh, so I just looked through your phone and I just found out that you was talking to all the color drain from her face.
25:53
SPEAKER_04: She gets the crying, burst into tears.
25:56
SPEAKER_04: Oh, and then she coming clean.
25:57
SPEAKER_04: That's when that's when they drop the evidence on the desk and they like boom.
26:01
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
26:01
SPEAKER_04: They take the donuts out the room.
26:03
SPEAKER_04: Now you know you, yeah.
26:04
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, you did it.
26:06
SPEAKER_04: Look at this video from 7-Eleven we have.
26:08
SPEAKER_04: And I and she told me everything, and I ain't gonna lie, I ain't I ain't leave immediately.
26:16
SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna be honest.
26:17
SPEAKER_05: You mean immediately, like a couple months?
26:19
SPEAKER_05: You see, you let it sit down.
26:20
SPEAKER_04: No, not no couple months.
26:21
SPEAKER_04: Okay, not no couple months.
26:22
SPEAKER_04: I stayed in it for like a week, maybe, maybe a week.
26:25
SPEAKER_05: Because you were impressed with her coming clean?
26:28
SPEAKER_04: No, she did not come clean.
26:29
SPEAKER_04: Oh.
26:30
SPEAKER_04: I had to catch her in 4K.
26:31
SPEAKER_04: No, she didn't, she did not do no coming clean.
26:34
SPEAKER_04: Because it was like she only came clean after I told after I said his name and what she did.
26:39
SPEAKER_04: And then when she told me, it was much worse than what I actually thought happened.
26:44
SPEAKER_04: I was like, damn, did you you love this nigga?
26:48
SPEAKER_04: You got you're engaged.
26:49
SPEAKER_05: You're engaged?
26:51
SPEAKER_04: Did you love him?
26:51
SPEAKER_05: Like, what the fuck?
26:53
SPEAKER_04: And so was your heart broken?
26:56
SPEAKER_04: Into a million pieces.
26:57
SPEAKER_04: Like, I was so my heart was so broken at one point when she comes clean, she telling me everything.
27:02
SPEAKER_04: And she's like, you know what?
27:04
SPEAKER_04: I can just leave.
27:04
SPEAKER_04: I can call my sister, she can come get me.
27:07
SPEAKER_04: And like in a moment of just like your head so scrambled and your heart hurting so bad, I looked at her and I was like, Don't leave.
27:13
SPEAKER_04: Man, hell no, you finna stay here and fix this shit.
27:20
SPEAKER_03: I'm telling you, it wasn't my final moment.
27:22
SPEAKER_03: But I was talking about like fix this, like my heart, ah, like my heart was broke.
27:27
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you can't just walk out.
27:29
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, but after that, after that, I had to I had to leave her alone just for my own sanity.
27:33
SPEAKER_04: So she had to move out from you.
27:36
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, it's my career.
27:37
SPEAKER_04: And then, and then, but then you saw her at college all the time, probably.
27:41
SPEAKER_04: No, no, I mean, okay, a little bit after that, but it was like, because you know, like, dang, not my proudest moment, but like another not proud.
27:52
SPEAKER_04: You love somebody and you know, like, well, you date somebody who's really problematic, they always need somebody to come like bail them out.
27:57
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, they always need somebody, they always in some situation.
28:00
SPEAKER_04: It was a couple times after that where she was in a situation, and I did go, yeah, you know, saying leave the hand, but then after that, it got to a point where it was like, bro, like, I gotta leave you alone for my own sanity.
28:11
SPEAKER_04: Because every time I look at you, I see y'all.
28:14
SPEAKER_04: Oh.
28:14
SPEAKER_04: Every time I look at you, I see Yeah, yeah.
28:17
SPEAKER_04: You know, and and I and I see how when I when you was lying to me and trying to deceive me, yeah.
28:24
SPEAKER_04: I was out here trying to save you.
28:26
SPEAKER_04: I was out here trying to do what was put your best interest first.
28:29
SPEAKER_04: I didn't want you to come here and switch my whole room around.
28:32
SPEAKER_04: What's all this pink shit in there?
28:35
SPEAKER_02: Yes, yes.
28:36
SPEAKER_05: Like, no, like you know, but do you keep track of her today?
28:40
SPEAKER_05: Do you know where she is today?
28:41
SPEAKER_05: Just not that you keep track of her.
28:42
SPEAKER_05: I know where she is, like what she's up to today.
28:45
SPEAKER_05: I do.
28:46
SPEAKER_04: Is she turn out good?
28:47
SPEAKER_04: She brought I'll tell you, she turned out really good.
28:49
SPEAKER_04: She turned her life around, bro.
28:51
SPEAKER_04: She in the church, man.
28:52
SPEAKER_04: She found crazy.
28:53
SPEAKER_00: That's awesome.
28:54
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, and I'm and I'm and I'm proud of her for that.
28:56
SPEAKER_04: Cause like, even though it hurt at the time, I could grow past it to the point and just look at it from the perspective of like, you know, we was young, holding a grudge against you, bro.
29:05
SPEAKER_04: It's only gonna hurt me.
29:06
SPEAKER_04: Only gonna hurt you.
29:08
SPEAKER_04: Let it fly away.
29:08
SPEAKER_04: And now I'm at the point where like I can laugh at it.
29:10
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I could tell this story and laugh at it, but I ain't gonna lie, bro.
29:13
SPEAKER_04: At the time, bro, wasn't shit funny, bro.
29:14
SPEAKER_04: Oh, wasn't wasn't a damn thing funny.
29:16
SPEAKER_04: Oh I ain't laughed for a while, bro.
29:18
SPEAKER_04: I ain't gonna lie, I ain't smiled for a minute after that.
29:21
SPEAKER_05: But you know, you know, I think guys, I I have four sons, and as you know, one has been problematic.
29:29
SPEAKER_05: My wayward son always called my buttons.
29:31
SPEAKER_04: I'm my mama's wayward son, so you are the wayward one.
29:34
SPEAKER_04: I used to get in trouble all the time as a kid.
29:36
SPEAKER_04: I used to fight all the time as a kid.
29:38
SPEAKER_04: They couldn't stop you from fighting.
29:40
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, but I grew I grew out of all the therapy and stuff helped, you know.
29:44
SPEAKER_04: Oh, good.
29:45
SPEAKER_04: And also, like uh understanding like my ADHD and getting that under control and realizing that like most of the fights is like knee-jerk reactions, yeah.
29:53
SPEAKER_04: They're just like, you know, the intrusive thoughts.
29:55
SPEAKER_04: And you're just like you're not thinking things through, you're just doing it.
29:59
SPEAKER_04: You're just reacting to it.
30:00
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
30:02
SPEAKER_04: Versus like, bro, somebody do something to me, bro.
30:04
SPEAKER_04: If my health and safety really ain't at risk, bro, bro, I could just walk away from you.
30:09
SPEAKER_05: That's fantastic.
30:10
SPEAKER_05: That's fantastic.
30:11
SPEAKER_05: Me too.
30:12
SPEAKER_05: In fact, I think that's the best way because then it throws it's hard to hate somebody who's not hating back.
30:17
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, that's what it was with with with we're getting cheated on.
30:21
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
30:22
SPEAKER_04: I was like, bro, I don't hate you.
30:23
SPEAKER_04: I just can't be around you no more.
30:24
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
30:25
SPEAKER_04: You was it was too dishonorable.
30:27
SPEAKER_04: I understand that.
30:28
SPEAKER_04: And you know what the crazy part was?
30:30
SPEAKER_04: What?
30:31
SPEAKER_04: And like this is when I asked her about it, I told her because I didn't know how bad it was.
30:38
SPEAKER_04: And I didn't think she was gonna keep standing on the lie.
30:41
SPEAKER_04: And so I told her, I was like, bro, if you tell me the truth, I won't leave you.
30:44
SPEAKER_04: And she still didn't.
30:46
SPEAKER_05: Because she knew what the truth was, that it was gonna be way.
30:49
SPEAKER_04: I can't blame her.
30:50
SPEAKER_04: Looking back, I can't blame her.
30:51
SPEAKER_05: No, you gotta stand on the lie.
30:54
SPEAKER_05: Yes, it was over.
30:57
SPEAKER_05: Yes, yes.
30:58
SPEAKER_05: But how do you do you feel like that helped you in any way to be the person that you are now?
31:07
SPEAKER_05: Helped me.
31:09
SPEAKER_04: You're not gonna be like, I feel like it taught me a lot about one, forgiveness, and two, it taught me that you can make it through anything if you just if you just stick it out.
31:22
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
31:23
SPEAKER_04: Like that's that's the main thing it taught me was when you go through something really traumatic and really like emotionally it fuck you up, it's a point where you think like you might never get over this.
31:31
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
31:32
SPEAKER_04: And so seeing that through to the end and seeing where I am now and seeing like I can look back on it, smile about it, laugh about it.
31:37
SPEAKER_04: Yes.
31:38
SPEAKER_04: You know, I'm not at a point where like if I saw her out, it wouldn't like make my stomach do a somersault, you know.
31:43
SPEAKER_04: No, no, I could just have a conversation with her, yeah.
31:45
SPEAKER_04: Or just be like, leave it where it is, you know what I'm saying?
31:48
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
31:50
SPEAKER_04: Seeing myself grow through that and out of it kind of built my self-belief in myself to be resilient and to do stuff like that.
32:00
SPEAKER_05: That's awesome, my Fontaine.
32:01
SPEAKER_05: That's awesome.
32:02
SPEAKER_04: You know what's funny?
32:03
SPEAKER_04: I think the first person I talked to was my sister.
32:05
SPEAKER_04: Because my sister, that's my dog.
32:06
SPEAKER_04: Uh, she's she's 26.
32:09
SPEAKER_04: We're close in age.
32:10
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
32:11
SPEAKER_04: So, like, you know, my sister taught me really a lot about how to deal with my own emotions and stuff and how to feel stuff, how to let stuff out without, you know what I'm saying, crashing out.
32:20
SPEAKER_04: And so, like, I talked to my sister about it, and I think I waited until I knew I was done and I knew I was past it to talk to my mom about it.
32:27
SPEAKER_04: Um Is your mom helpful?
32:29
SPEAKER_05: Was she like a helpful person?
32:31
SPEAKER_05: I ear oh no.
32:33
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
32:35
SPEAKER_04: My mom, I ain't gonna lie, bruh.
32:38
SPEAKER_04: My mom don't really do all that crying shit.
32:41
SPEAKER_04: Like when people talk about like, oh, my dad is like the tough one, and then my mom like this and the emotional one, like that shit made me realize I had two dads going.
32:49
SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna be honest.
32:50
SPEAKER_04: My dad, my mom don't really do the crying, my dad don't really do the crying.
32:53
SPEAKER_04: I call I only called my dad and told him.
32:57
SPEAKER_04: The only reason why I called my dad and told him is because I kept crying, and no matter who I talked to, it like it was just like every time I talked to him, I would cry again, I would break down again.
33:08
SPEAKER_04: And I knew if I talked to my dad, you would not break down, he would give me like that that kick in the ass.
33:14
SPEAKER_04: Snap out of it to like see through the fog.
33:17
SPEAKER_04: You know what I mean?
33:18
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, and did he and did he?
33:20
SPEAKER_05: Oh, he sure did.
33:21
SPEAKER_05: What does he say?
33:22
SPEAKER_05: Like, what what is how does he snap you out of it?
33:24
SPEAKER_05: Actually, I called him.
33:27
SPEAKER_04: I'm expecting something awesome.
33:29
SPEAKER_04: I called him, and honestly, bro, looking back, it was great advice.
33:32
SPEAKER_04: And like I called him and I immediately break down because it's the first time I'm even talking to him about it, and I feel so weird being this week talking to my pop.
33:41
SPEAKER_04: Like, yeah, it just feels uh.
33:43
SPEAKER_04: But I know my my dad, he loves me and he knows me better than anybody else on this planet.
33:47
SPEAKER_04: Like, so I call him and I'm talking to him, and I know I'm doing it because I need somebody to snap me out of it.
33:52
SPEAKER_04: So I'm breaking down, crying, and then I finally come to like a pause.
33:58
SPEAKER_04: And my daddy's like, my dad's like, he said, You good?
34:03
SPEAKER_04: You ready?
34:04
SPEAKER_04: And I was like, Yeah.
34:06
SPEAKER_04: He was like, Okay, first order of business.
34:09
SPEAKER_04: What happens when you go looking?
34:12
SPEAKER_04: You find something.
34:14
SPEAKER_04: He was like, he was like, so I get that you sad, but like didn't you get what you wanted?
34:22
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yes.
34:23
SPEAKER_04: Didn't you get what you wanted?
34:24
SPEAKER_04: You went looking because you were trying to find something.
34:27
SPEAKER_04: And you found it.
34:27
SPEAKER_04: And you found it.
34:29
SPEAKER_04: He was like, so I get that it's sad.
34:31
SPEAKER_04: He's like, I'm not trying to diminish that, but you caused this by going to look.
34:36
SPEAKER_04: He was like, he was like, bro, if you ain't go through that girl's phone, you wouldn't be on mind crying right now.
34:40
SPEAKER_04: You wouldn't, yeah.
34:41
SPEAKER_04: That's right, that's right.
34:42
SPEAKER_04: And it made me like realize, like, okay, yeah, this shit hurt so bad, but I went through that girl's phone for a reason.
34:48
SPEAKER_04: That's right.
34:48
SPEAKER_04: I had an inkling, I had a feeling, I had a, you know.
34:51
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
34:51
SPEAKER_04: And my dad, he big on like, my dad, even when I was a kid, when I would get into fights, when I would get in trouble at school, I would always be like, oh, but dad, I only did it because this person did it.
35:01
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, he doesn't like a certain excuse.
35:03
SPEAKER_04: My dad don't give a fuck about what nobody does but me.
35:05
SPEAKER_04: Yes.
35:06
SPEAKER_04: My dad would be like, bruh, I'll be like, oh, dad, I only got up and ran around because he was chasing me.
35:10
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
35:10
SPEAKER_04: My dad would be like, Can't nobody chase you if you don't run.
35:14
SPEAKER_04: Ooh, dad, shout out to dad.
35:16
SPEAKER_04: Should have told Andrew that for getting kicked by the cops.
35:19
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, right?
35:20
SPEAKER_04: That might have helped.
35:22
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, he was like, he's big on personal accountability.
35:24
SPEAKER_04: And he was like, bro, I know you sad.
35:26
SPEAKER_04: He was like, but two things.
35:27
SPEAKER_04: One, you found what you were looking for.
35:30
SPEAKER_04: So like just sit with that thought for a second.
35:32
SPEAKER_04: And he was like, also, you gotta realize, he was like, This what you did, you were you found what you were looking for, and you were right, but that was an invasion of privacy.
35:39
SPEAKER_04: And he was like, and you can't make a habit out of that.
35:42
SPEAKER_04: Because you know if you go through somebody's phone and you're right, bro, it build a little habit.
35:45
SPEAKER_04: It do.
35:46
SPEAKER_04: It do.
35:46
SPEAKER_04: It wasn't my last time going through a phone.
35:48
SPEAKER_04: Oh boy.
35:49
SPEAKER_04: I didn't pay that advice on that one.
35:52
SPEAKER_04: Because I'm sorry, Dad, but these girls are here treacherous sometimes, bruh.
35:55
SPEAKER_04: I need answers and they ain't giving them.
35:57
SPEAKER_03: You know what I mean?
35:58
SPEAKER_03: Oh boy.
36:00
SPEAKER_05: How many phones would you say you might have gone through in your twice?
36:04
SPEAKER_05: I went through two phones.
36:05
SPEAKER_05: Only two phones.
36:06
SPEAKER_05: Two, like two.
36:07
SPEAKER_05: Who's that guy?
36:07
SPEAKER_05: I got two phones.
36:08
SPEAKER_05: I got two phones.
36:09
SPEAKER_04: Kevin Gates.
36:10
SPEAKER_04: There you go.
36:10
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I went through two phones.
36:12
SPEAKER_04: Both times I found what I was looking for.
36:14
SPEAKER_04: Both times I was not ready to do what I needed to do with that information.
36:19
SPEAKER_04: Wow.
36:19
SPEAKER_04: Um, but you know, after that, I was just kind of like, man, maybe you just need to just live in ignorance.
36:27
SPEAKER_04: Maybe.
36:28
SPEAKER_04: But I ain't been in a relationship since then.
36:29
SPEAKER_04: So I guess.
36:30
SPEAKER_00: Oh.
36:31
SPEAKER_00: What uh what wisdom do you give your kids?
36:33
SPEAKER_05: Wisdom.
36:35
SPEAKER_05: Look at it.
36:35
SPEAKER_05: I don't even know that boys do this.
36:37
SPEAKER_05: Wear a condom.
36:39
SPEAKER_05: That is the biggest thing I say.
36:41
SPEAKER_05: Wear a condom.
36:43
SPEAKER_05: If a girl is making is and doesn't care if you do, she doesn't care who anybody does.
36:49
SPEAKER_05: You're not the only one.
36:50
SPEAKER_05: You're basically having sex with all the other guys.
36:53
SPEAKER_05: That's what you're doing.
36:54
SPEAKER_04: You gotta put a hat on, bro.
36:55
SPEAKER_04: You gotta put a hat on.
36:57
SPEAKER_04: Wrap that up.
36:57
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, so that's my big advice.
36:59
SPEAKER_04: And also that's mom's big advice to their kid, to their son.
37:04
SPEAKER_05: Yes, wear a condom.
37:06
SPEAKER_05: I don't care what you do, who you're doing, wear a condom.
37:08
SPEAKER_05: And then you know they bring them in and you see them like, oh, thank god they're wearing a condom.
37:12
SPEAKER_05: Oh, thank the Lord.
37:14
SPEAKER_05: My one, my one son, that one son brought a stripper home one time.
37:19
SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
37:20
SPEAKER_04: That's enticing.
37:22
SPEAKER_05: She left her jacket at my house.
37:24
SPEAKER_05: I still wear it.
37:26
SPEAKER_05: I love that jacket.
37:27
SPEAKER_05: She had style.
37:28
SPEAKER_05: You know, yeah, she had style.
37:31
SPEAKER_05: She had style.
37:32
SPEAKER_05: She had a lot of issues.
37:33
SPEAKER_05: Well, yeah, you know, not to put down strippers at all.
37:37
SPEAKER_05: I'm sure there's fantastic ones out there, but this particular one also had a drug problem and also telling me about just want to get custody of my.
37:44
SPEAKER_05: I'm just like, custody of your kids, drugs, stripping, a lot of trauma.
37:49
SPEAKER_05: Like you two do not need to be together.
37:52
SPEAKER_05: But anyway, you know, as a mother of four sons, I have to say you always like, you want to like the girl, and you like them to your detriment.
38:04
SPEAKER_05: Because if you like them and they break up, nobody nobody wants to be talking to you.
38:10
SPEAKER_05: You get blocked just like them.
38:11
SPEAKER_05: Like you're on all her Instagram thing, boom, block, block, block.
38:14
SPEAKER_05: I'm like, oh, I wonder what's happening with Tiffany.
38:16
SPEAKER_05: I'll never know.
38:16
SPEAKER_04: Um, girls block you when they care about you.
38:20
SPEAKER_05: Oh, you think it is a good thing.
38:21
SPEAKER_04: That's in my case.
38:22
SPEAKER_04: Like when a girl blocked me, it's like she loves me.
38:26
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, she can't, she can't see this, she can't see the way I'm about to turn up.
38:29
SPEAKER_04: Because she knew who I was before she met me.
38:32
SPEAKER_04: She knows I'm about to.
38:33
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
38:34
SPEAKER_04: And she can't see it.
38:35
SPEAKER_04: But she'll still like the girl that block you will still call you.
38:37
SPEAKER_04: Oh.
38:38
SPEAKER_04: The girl that blocked you will unblock you.
38:41
SPEAKER_04: The girl that block you will unblock you to call you.
38:43
SPEAKER_04: That's right.
38:43
SPEAKER_04: The girl that blocked you will look at your IG from her friend phone.
38:46
SPEAKER_04: Oh, that's true.
38:47
SPEAKER_04: What do you even block me for?
38:48
SPEAKER_05: Yes, because this is like we're learning, these are wisdoms.
38:53
SPEAKER_05: I love what your dad said about big on wisdom.
38:56
SPEAKER_04: Like my dad really taught me, my dad taught me the ropes to life.
39:00
SPEAKER_04: You know, he taught me, taught me how to be a man, taught me how to, you know, carry myself with dignity, integrity, things like that.
39:08
SPEAKER_05: Damn, and accountability.
39:10
SPEAKER_04: Accountability, he's big on that.
39:11
SPEAKER_04: My dad don't, bro.
39:12
SPEAKER_04: If you start talking about somebody else, bro, he'd be like, bro, that ain't my kid.
39:17
SPEAKER_05: Exactly, exactly.
39:18
SPEAKER_05: Does he excuse anything?
39:20
SPEAKER_05: If you were getting like if you would get in trouble like one of my kids did, what would be his response?
39:26
SPEAKER_04: Like your kids?
39:26
SPEAKER_05: Uh-huh.
39:28
SPEAKER_04: Man, my dad would have let me up there.
39:31
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
39:31
SPEAKER_04: My dad would have let me let me up there to think about what I did.
39:34
SPEAKER_04: Wow.
39:35
SPEAKER_04: Right.
39:36
SPEAKER_04: My if I got into trouble and I was in jail, bro.
39:38
SPEAKER_04: My pop would let me sit in there for a little bit.
39:40
SPEAKER_04: Because you got to.
39:41
SPEAKER_04: Amen.
39:42
SPEAKER_04: Amen.
39:42
SPEAKER_05: Amen.
39:44
SPEAKER_05: Um, he I have a criminal streak in my family.
39:47
SPEAKER_05: I believe that some families, like some families, have cancer and my heart goes out to them.
39:52
SPEAKER_05: My family has felonies running in our blood.
39:56
SPEAKER_05: I mean, I don't know what it is.
39:57
SPEAKER_05: I don't know what it is, but I got a niece, a nephew, and an uncle, a stepmom, a son, a father, a brother.
40:04
SPEAKER_05: Everybody has been.
40:05
SPEAKER_04: Everybody got a couple, you know.
40:07
SPEAKER_05: Everybody's got a couple, but we got more than a couple.
40:10
SPEAKER_05: You know what I mean?
40:11
SPEAKER_05: We got more than a couple.
40:12
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
40:13
SPEAKER_05: But we're healthy.
40:17
SPEAKER_05: What do you mean?
40:18
SPEAKER_05: Is it really healthy to keep going back to jail?
40:20
SPEAKER_05: No, but what I mean is if I had to have diabetes.
40:24
SPEAKER_05: What I mean is I don't have diabetes and I don't have like my back pain.
40:29
SPEAKER_04: I see what you're saying.
40:30
SPEAKER_05: I mean, I you know how you people always say you love your own problems more than others.
40:34
SPEAKER_05: Like you could say, oh God, my problem.
40:37
SPEAKER_05: But then would you say, you want to switch and uh be have this person's problems?
40:42
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
40:42
SPEAKER_05: No, you don't.
40:43
SPEAKER_04: I see what you're saying.
40:44
SPEAKER_05: You kind of like it and embrace your own problems.
40:47
SPEAKER_05: So, so now do you feel like you're attracted to more uh honest girls?
40:53
SPEAKER_04: I've I ain't gonna lie, I've kind of just like the where where I'm at right now, I'm I'm not really like doing too like dating.
41:00
SPEAKER_04: I really don't got no no nothing, no type of nothing in my life.
41:04
SPEAKER_04: But like if I find myself really attracted to a girl, I kind of just tell myself, like, but just think twice, man.
41:11
SPEAKER_04: Cause like your track record, not too of your picking.
41:14
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, if I if I'm like really attracted to a girl and I wanted to commit to her, I'm like, oh, she's probably a liar.
41:18
SPEAKER_04: That's why you feel that way.
41:22
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah, oh yeah, she's tricking you.
41:24
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, that's what that's what's going on.
41:26
SPEAKER_04: So I kind of just at the current point in my life, I don't really enter into like long-term committed type situations.
41:35
SPEAKER_04: I know.
41:35
SPEAKER_04: I see.
41:36
SPEAKER_04: And I'm a big truth teller too.
41:37
SPEAKER_04: Because after you I will I was before I got cheated on, but after you get cheated on, I feel like you kind of go two ways.
41:44
SPEAKER_04: You kind of either go to where like everybody gonna pay, or I'm never gonna put that type of pain back out into the world that I had to deal with.
41:52
SPEAKER_04: And so I kind of went that way of like I ain't about to lie to nobody, cheat nobody, say you know dreams.
41:59
SPEAKER_04: I'm I'm gonna just tell you the truth.
42:00
SPEAKER_04: If you can deal with the truth, then let's go.
42:03
SPEAKER_04: And we could we could rock.
42:04
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, yeah.
42:06
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
42:06
SPEAKER_05: Gosh.
42:07
SPEAKER_00: I'm very what?
42:08
SPEAKER_00: I was gonna ask, have you ever got caught cheating?
42:10
SPEAKER_00: Me?
42:11
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
42:12
SPEAKER_00: Oh gosh.
42:13
SPEAKER_00: You don't seem like the type to get caught.
42:14
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, exactly.
42:15
SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
42:16
SPEAKER_00: What you would cheat but not get caught, exactly.
42:18
SPEAKER_04: For sure.
42:19
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, for sure.
42:19
SPEAKER_04: You would cheat, but you wouldn't get caught.
42:21
SPEAKER_00: Not recently.
42:21
SPEAKER_00: Back in the day, obviously.
42:22
SPEAKER_00: Not in the day.
42:22
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, back in the day.
42:23
SPEAKER_00: Not recently.
42:24
SPEAKER_05: I wake up.
42:25
SPEAKER_05: I've been I've been married to my current husband, who doesn't like to be called current husband, but I've been married to my current husband for a while now.
42:33
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
42:34
SPEAKER_05: And I have never cheated on him.
42:36
SPEAKER_05: Of course.
42:36
SPEAKER_05: And I've had a lot of opportunity.
42:38
SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
42:39
SPEAKER_05: A lot of opportunity.
42:42
SPEAKER_05: Before him, though.
42:44
SPEAKER_05: No, but wait, but I'm just want to say, and even in that we've been together, and I don't want to be cheating, and I don't, I don't give it, I don't follow up any offers.
42:58
SPEAKER_05: I probably have uh five or six cheating dreams uh year where I am cheating on him, and in my dream I realize I can and I'm feel so guilty enough.
43:14
SPEAKER_05: I'm like, you gotta tell him.
43:15
SPEAKER_05: And you've been cheating on him for all these years.
43:19
SPEAKER_05: In my dream, I'm remembering all the people that are like, and you gotta tell.
43:23
SPEAKER_05: And I was just like, oh, I wake up.
43:24
SPEAKER_04: I wake up feeling terrible.
43:26
SPEAKER_04: Oh, I wake up like in a sweat, like that'd be happening to me.
43:30
SPEAKER_04: I'd be having real telling dreams.
43:31
SPEAKER_04: Not the cheating ones, though.
43:32
SPEAKER_04: Not like me cheating.
43:33
SPEAKER_04: I don't have those.
43:34
SPEAKER_04: Well, what good do you have?
43:35
SPEAKER_05: What do you have?
43:36
SPEAKER_04: Um, there's a not the one that we were just talking about, but there's a particular woman from my past.
43:43
SPEAKER_05: Oh, and I might know her.
43:45
SPEAKER_04: You do, I do, yes.
43:47
SPEAKER_04: Who I did I will have recurring dreams about, and who I love, by the way.
43:51
SPEAKER_05: From what I know, I just want to give a shout out to you, nameless person that I love you and I think you're amazing.
44:00
SPEAKER_05: I'm a fan.
44:01
SPEAKER_04: A blind I'm a fan.
44:05
SPEAKER_04: And I have dreams where like she pops up.
44:08
SPEAKER_04: And it's like, I've told her before, but I was like, bro, it's like you be haunting me.
44:12
SPEAKER_04: Every once in a while, when when I talk to her, I'll ask her, I'm like, yo, did you do something?
44:16
SPEAKER_04: Did you do something?
44:17
SPEAKER_04: You take a block of my hair to somebody.
44:19
SPEAKER_04: And like, you know what I'm saying?
44:20
SPEAKER_05: Put some voodoo on me.
44:22
SPEAKER_04: Because it feels like at some time, I'm like, bro, we we haven't talked in X amount of time.
44:25
SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, bro, you're justn't that interesting.
44:29
SPEAKER_04: You wake up on the side of the bed sweating.
44:31
SPEAKER_04: You know?
44:31
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, just like well, I'm that, but but back to uh cheating, I did cheat a few times, and it was a couple, not a not a lot.
44:44
SPEAKER_00: Well, you can't you can't go through a landline phone, you know.
44:47
SPEAKER_00: It's kind of hard to get caught.
44:48
SPEAKER_04: Well, Alex.
44:50
SPEAKER_04: I would have wired to the wall.
44:51
SPEAKER_04: It's true, because if she was cheating on me through the landline, I would have never found out.
44:54
SPEAKER_04: It ain't no screenshots.
44:56
SPEAKER_05: I was once caught.
44:59
SPEAKER_05: I was caught once.
45:00
SPEAKER_05: I was engaged to somebody.
45:02
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
45:03
SPEAKER_05: And they, you know what?
45:04
SPEAKER_05: I've been engaged 11 times.
45:06
SPEAKER_05: So that's a lot.
45:07
SPEAKER_05: But this guy, I'm sorry, that's wrong.
45:10
SPEAKER_05: That's wrong.
45:10
SPEAKER_05: Seven times, seven times.
45:12
SPEAKER_05: Anyway, this guy only got engaged me because uh he suspected I had moved that I was not as attentive as I had been.
45:24
SPEAKER_05: He was a very well-to-do guy.
45:25
SPEAKER_05: I met him in college, and he did not have the same uh values as me.
45:31
SPEAKER_05: He was way more into things, you know.
45:33
SPEAKER_05: He was way more into things than me.
45:35
SPEAKER_05: He had this kind of portion that gave me lessons.
45:38
SPEAKER_05: So many guys, girls, do you hate this?
45:40
SPEAKER_05: Give you lessons on how to close the door of their Porsche or this.
45:45
SPEAKER_05: No, you're closing it too soft, you're closing it too hard.
45:48
SPEAKER_05: Listen, listen to this sound.
45:49
SPEAKER_04: I'm like, I ain't never had a girl close my door too soft.
45:53
SPEAKER_04: But you had him do about that thing.
45:55
SPEAKER_04: That's what you're doing.
45:55
SPEAKER_04: You're slamming the shit out of you, but you get concerned about how they close the door because you're slamming it and you grabbing it by the glass.
46:02
SPEAKER_04: You throwing it.
46:03
SPEAKER_05: I do do the glass.
46:04
SPEAKER_04: I yo, like you'll walk over to her side of the car where you opening the door and be like, bro, you see all these fingerprints, bro?
46:10
SPEAKER_04: My side don't look like that.
46:11
SPEAKER_05: I know.
46:12
SPEAKER_05: Look at I have been I've been tutored on car opening and car closing by a thousand guys.
46:20
SPEAKER_05: Look at this.
46:21
SPEAKER_05: Is a car, listen to that sound.
46:22
SPEAKER_05: This is I was like, it's a fucking tennis lesson.
46:25
SPEAKER_05: Like you hear, like when the bat hits the ball at the right time.
46:29
SPEAKER_05: Like it's like you hear that?
46:31
SPEAKER_05: Oh my god, I know how to open a lot of cars.
46:34
SPEAKER_05: Oh, one time I was dating this guy and he drove a Ferrari, a spider, something called a spider.
46:41
SPEAKER_05: It was red.
46:42
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
46:42
SPEAKER_05: And we were going uh on the freeway someplace, and he got pulled over at gunpoint.
46:48
SPEAKER_05: It's called a felony traffic stop for speeding.
46:51
SPEAKER_05: If you're speeding so fast, yeah, it could be called a felony traffic stop.
46:55
SPEAKER_05: He got pulled over at gunpoint and you did?
46:58
SPEAKER_04: It wasn't at gunpoint, thank God, but I did have one of those ones.
47:01
SPEAKER_04: He could have hit me with the felony, yeah.
47:02
SPEAKER_05: Yes, and took this guy to jail.
47:04
SPEAKER_05: But guess what?
47:05
SPEAKER_05: Uh he got bailed out.
47:07
SPEAKER_05: But I uh I he his license was couldn't drive for six months.
47:12
SPEAKER_05: I had the Ferrari, so he's but he just was one of those kind of guys that wants to give you stuff and kind of keep you there with things.
47:20
SPEAKER_04: Uh the worst.
47:22
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, buy you.
47:23
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
47:24
SPEAKER_05: And I can't, I'm driving a Ferrari.
47:27
SPEAKER_05: Like I, you know, when you drive a Ferrari and you know what you're doing, you're making a lot of noise.
47:31
SPEAKER_05: Your mind just like putt putting along.
47:33
SPEAKER_05: I can barely turn the wheel, doesn't have the power steering.
47:36
SPEAKER_05: You're like, oh, I was like, I can't keep driving this thing.
47:39
SPEAKER_05: This is too hard.
47:40
SPEAKER_05: So I just let it park in front of my house for all that time.
47:43
SPEAKER_05: But anyway, it was really hard.
47:45
SPEAKER_05: But why am I saying, oh so one of the guys that uh that I got engaged to, um, so I started seeing this other guy that I actually was my person, my my uh person.
47:59
SPEAKER_05: Oh, I almost did that name, but I was my person.
48:03
SPEAKER_05: And it was so funny.
48:04
SPEAKER_05: I'm dating a guy with a Porsche and a bunch of Porsches, and I'm dating this musician guy who had wore a pink shirt that said Porsche across it.
48:12
SPEAKER_05: A guy that has guitar picks in his pocket.
48:15
SPEAKER_04: And a guy who's glitters ain't gold.
48:17
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
48:17
SPEAKER_05: And so, and a guy who's driving, so I'm falling for this guy in the Porsche shirt.
48:22
SPEAKER_05: So the guy with the Porsche is like, we should get married, and blah blah blah.
48:25
SPEAKER_05: And look at all these diamonds, he's bringing diamonds home from the to like it's just uh anyway, not to excuse, as your dad would say.
48:33
SPEAKER_05: I don't care what that's not my child.
48:35
SPEAKER_05: What did you do?
48:36
SPEAKER_05: What did you do?
48:37
SPEAKER_05: Cheating and cheating and telling that guy that I just need time to be by myself.
48:43
SPEAKER_05: To I don't even know what the fuck I was saying.
48:46
SPEAKER_05: I need time.
48:47
SPEAKER_05: No, I don't.
48:48
SPEAKER_05: I need time to be with this other guy.
48:50
SPEAKER_04: Well, I was saying they'll be like, Oh, I gotta go find myself.
48:55
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah, yeah, you're finding another guy, exactly.
48:58
SPEAKER_05: He walked in.
49:00
SPEAKER_05: This is back in the day, how stupid I was.
49:03
SPEAKER_05: I did not lock the door of my apartment.
49:06
SPEAKER_05: I've been partying all night with this guy that I really like.
49:10
SPEAKER_05: We're sleeping dead asleep.
49:13
SPEAKER_05: Here comes the guy I'm engaged to, walking in his business suit, who drove over to hand me this huge long note here, you know, letter he had written me.
49:24
SPEAKER_05: Because we said I said we shouldn't talk on the phone for a couple weeks.
49:27
SPEAKER_05: And walks in, sees champagne, pot, blah, blah, blah.
49:31
SPEAKER_05: And then us like both naked, laying there with the sheet.
49:35
SPEAKER_05: And then you know what he did?
49:37
SPEAKER_05: A plus on this.
49:39
SPEAKER_05: He woke me up at a start and he said, I came over to give you this letter.
49:44
SPEAKER_05: Um, um, and then this person woke up and he said, But nice to meet you.
49:50
SPEAKER_05: Nice to meet you.
49:51
SPEAKER_05: And he shook that guy's hand and he walked out.
49:54
SPEAKER_04: Wow.
49:54
SPEAKER_04: That was the fiance who walked out.
49:56
SPEAKER_05: The fiance walked out.
49:57
SPEAKER_04: Good for him.
49:57
SPEAKER_04: Class act.
49:58
SPEAKER_04: Good for him.
49:59
SPEAKER_04: Most dudes, they waking everybody up.
50:01
SPEAKER_00: Everybody's up.
50:02
SPEAKER_00: Everybody's gonna do a few.
50:04
SPEAKER_00: If that was you, bro, you'd be like flipping shit.
50:06
SPEAKER_00: What would you do?
50:07
SPEAKER_04: Flip number, but I ain't gonna lie, bro.
50:09
SPEAKER_04: Well, what would you do?
50:11
SPEAKER_00: I would have started crying.
50:12
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah, I'm gonna cry.
50:13
SPEAKER_04: You gotta give me them tears, bro.
50:15
SPEAKER_04: You just broke my heart.
50:16
SPEAKER_04: I need to listen.
50:17
unknown: I gotta cry.
50:20
SPEAKER_05: I gotta cry a little bit.
50:21
SPEAKER_05: You could cry in your car.
50:23
SPEAKER_05: But here's the thing I admired you.
50:27
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I really admired the way he handled it.
50:30
SPEAKER_05: I did not admire myself, but that was a class act.
50:33
SPEAKER_04: Because that's what I said, that's another moment where it's like my dad always taught me, bro, life is choices.
50:37
SPEAKER_05: He said, I want to talk to him.
50:39
SPEAKER_05: Can I call him afterwards?
50:42
SPEAKER_04: He probably worked, but you know, I you can try.
50:45
SPEAKER_04: My dad always told me, he said, bro, nothing in life is ever just happening to you.
50:50
SPEAKER_04: Along the way, you made a choice that kind of turned you down this street.
50:54
SPEAKER_04: Turned you down this path.
50:55
SPEAKER_04: So, like with the with the uh with that situation, he in that moment made a choice.
51:02
SPEAKER_04: He was like, you know what?
51:04
SPEAKER_05: I'm gonna leave with the the taking the high road.
51:06
SPEAKER_05: He was doing it in Obama.
51:08
SPEAKER_05: You go low, I'll go high.
51:09
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I'm gonna leave my respect.
51:11
SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna just uh uh I'm gonna let you know that I know what's going on, but I'm not gonna crash.
51:16
SPEAKER_00: And he made a decision to stay with you when he knew shit was happening anyway, like earlier in the relationship, too, right?
51:22
SPEAKER_00: Or did he know you were cheating?
51:23
SPEAKER_00: He knew he knew something, he knew something.
51:24
SPEAKER_00: You know, you always know something.
51:26
SPEAKER_00: There's no phones to go through back in the day, right?
51:28
SPEAKER_05: No, so but he knew I was pulling away.
51:30
SPEAKER_05: But you like disappearing all the time.
51:33
SPEAKER_05: I don't know what I was doing, but we just I was shocked when he proposed to me because he wasn't an emotional kind of guy.
51:39
SPEAKER_05: He gave me some hangups, not to be blaming him.
51:42
SPEAKER_05: He told me that I had funky eyebrows once, and I was cute.
51:46
SPEAKER_00: You said he had you said he had a bunch of Porsches, he said, you said?
51:48
SPEAKER_00: Yes, he had a bunch of so Porsche's not really emotional.
51:52
SPEAKER_00: Did you date Jerry Seinfeld?
51:54
SPEAKER_05: Ha!
51:55
SPEAKER_00: No, that would have been crazy.
51:57
SPEAKER_00: No, but he also You broke Jerry's heart.
52:00
SPEAKER_05: He also told me once that uh I had peasant legs.
52:07
SPEAKER_00: Peasant legs.
52:08
SPEAKER_03: That's awesome.
52:11
SPEAKER_05: And I don't.
52:13
SPEAKER_03: I'm so sorry you said it to me.
52:14
SPEAKER_05: I know that's me.
52:16
SPEAKER_05: What are you on, dude?
52:18
SPEAKER_05: My side.
52:18
SPEAKER_03: I'm on the side of justice.
52:20
SPEAKER_03: That's right.
52:21
SPEAKER_03: You can't tell no lady she got peasant legs.
52:25
SPEAKER_04: You're not even supposed to tell a lady her eyebrows funky.
52:28
SPEAKER_04: Let it go.
52:28
SPEAKER_04: You're right.
52:29
SPEAKER_04: Say she built like a like a peon.
52:31
SPEAKER_04: Like, what's the job?
52:32
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, he's Greek.
52:33
SPEAKER_05: He was Greek, and he said, What is your nationality?
52:36
SPEAKER_05: And I said, Well, this, that is Portuguese and and Danish and German.
52:40
SPEAKER_05: He goes, Oh, German, that explains why you have peasant legs.
52:44
SPEAKER_05: Oh, wow.
52:44
SPEAKER_05: Because they're good.
52:45
SPEAKER_05: They were in the fields picking all those potatoes and stuff.
52:48
SPEAKER_05: I'm like, I don't even know that Germans do that.
52:52
SPEAKER_05: But next, you guys, I do not have to that's fucked up.
52:55
SPEAKER_04: That's fucked up.
52:56
SPEAKER_04: You shouldn't say nothing like that to nobody.
52:58
SPEAKER_04: You shouldn't say that to a dude, let alone like a lady, bro.
53:01
SPEAKER_04: No, you're right.
53:02
SPEAKER_04: If you tell a dude he got peasant legs, bro.
53:04
SPEAKER_05: Oh, it stays with you.
53:06
SPEAKER_05: It stays with you.
53:07
SPEAKER_04: But fuck your self-esteem up.
53:09
SPEAKER_04: Exactly, exactly.
53:14
SPEAKER_00: Years later.
53:15
SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry.
53:15
SPEAKER_00: It was so funny.
53:16
SPEAKER_04: But let me come around to the point where you can find that monster.
53:20
SPEAKER_05: And you know how he did catch me back later on.
53:22
SPEAKER_05: He got his just desserts.
53:23
SPEAKER_05: I'll tell you.
53:24
SPEAKER_05: Not about the peasant legs, but about me cheating on him.
53:27
SPEAKER_05: Oh, he did.
53:28
SPEAKER_05: So now I I cut to like three years later or four years later or something.
53:33
SPEAKER_05: I have a kid.
53:34
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
53:35
SPEAKER_05: All right.
53:35
SPEAKER_05: I'm not married.
53:37
SPEAKER_05: I'm divorced.
53:39
SPEAKER_05: I have a kid.
53:40
SPEAKER_05: I'm divorced.
53:40
SPEAKER_05: I go, somehow we connect back up and we start dating again.
53:47
SPEAKER_05: He loves this kid.
53:48
SPEAKER_05: He's like, oh, he's putting a little polo shirt on.
53:52
SPEAKER_05: He drew me in because I remembered all his friends, everything.
53:57
SPEAKER_05: Oh, look who's back, you know, blah, blah, blah.
53:59
SPEAKER_05: Drew me in.
54:01
SPEAKER_05: We had a lot of fun.
54:04
SPEAKER_05: Boom, he ended it in like, but it was like, oh.
54:08
SPEAKER_05: And now you could see how it felt.
54:10
SPEAKER_04: He wanted to make you feel worthless, like he like he felt.
54:15
SPEAKER_05: And he had every right to do that.
54:16
SPEAKER_05: I mean, he had every right because I did him wrong, and he did me.
54:20
SPEAKER_05: I don't even want to say, but I'm just saying he got it was karma, it was karma.
54:24
SPEAKER_05: It was karma on me.
54:26
SPEAKER_05: On me.
54:26
SPEAKER_00: So this is what you should do with your girl.
54:29
SPEAKER_00: They should draw her back when you're famous now in LA.
54:34
SPEAKER_00: And you could just just fucking cut her off quick.
54:36
SPEAKER_04: She she right at the end of the day, Ress, she just a I don't think she a completely, I don't think she's a bad person.
54:42
SPEAKER_04: I just think she was young and made some mistakes.
54:44
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
54:44
SPEAKER_05: That's right.
54:46
SPEAKER_04: I don't even think she don't deserve no revenge.
54:49
SPEAKER_04: No.
54:50
SPEAKER_04: I I think I think I think in general, because like looking back, to do that to somebody who was doing as much for her as I was, you gotta be in a real fucked up place.
54:59
SPEAKER_04: Yes.
55:00
SPEAKER_04: So it's like, bro, that's punishment enough that you was in that place and then you had to deal with the consequences of the channel.
55:04
SPEAKER_05: Do you see the consciousness that he has?
55:07
SPEAKER_05: Beautiful.
55:07
SPEAKER_05: He is a beautiful person.
55:09
SPEAKER_05: Absolutely.
55:09
SPEAKER_04: Your dad did right by you.
55:11
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, man.
55:11
SPEAKER_04: Life will kick you in your ass enough.
55:13
SPEAKER_04: I don't gotta do it, man.
55:14
SPEAKER_05: Oh, Lafontaine, that's really cool.
55:17
SPEAKER_05: Would you what would you say the best advice your dad ever gave you, like something that is sticks in your mind of something your dad said?
55:24
SPEAKER_04: A lot of things.
55:24
SPEAKER_04: A couple things.
55:25
SPEAKER_04: First thing is uh what you do the most and what you spend your time on is what you will become the best at.
55:32
SPEAKER_04: I remember one day it was summer vacation, I'm in high school.
55:35
SPEAKER_04: He had always said it, but I remember this time, like it stuck with me.
55:38
SPEAKER_04: It was summer, and I had been in the crib for days, like not going out, not doing nothing, playing ball, nothing.
55:44
SPEAKER_04: I was just watching TV, watching Netflix on the iPad.
55:47
SPEAKER_04: He came in our room, he was going to work, and he was like, Hey, just to let you know, like whatever you do the most is what you're gonna get better at.
55:53
SPEAKER_04: And I know this your free time, this your summer, but right now the only thing you're gonna get good at is watching TV, bro.
56:00
SPEAKER_04: And so he was like, So just keep that in mind.
56:02
SPEAKER_04: He's like, I think it's I think it would behoove you to get up and do something that you actually want to become good at.
56:07
SPEAKER_05: And did that have an impact on you at the time?
56:11
SPEAKER_05: That's those are true words, and it still has an impact on me today.
56:14
SPEAKER_04: Like when I be bullshitting today, I can hear my dad's voice in my head.
56:17
SPEAKER_05: Oh, I want to hear his voice in my head.
56:19
SPEAKER_04: He sounds like me.
56:21
SPEAKER_04: Does he?
56:22
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I'll meet people who like know my dad, and they'll be like, bro, you look and sound just like me.
56:25
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah.
56:26
SPEAKER_04: That sounds awesome.
56:27
SPEAKER_05: Okay, so that's one of the things he said.
56:29
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, um, this is some wisdom we can all learn from.
56:33
SPEAKER_00: I love this.
56:34
SPEAKER_00: This is great.
56:35
SPEAKER_04: The next one is when I would when I would be young and I'd be I'd be fucking up my dad, he would like getting in fights or whatever, not doing homework.
56:42
SPEAKER_04: Not even that, but just like like when I was fucking up in school.
56:45
SPEAKER_04: Oh, I see.
56:46
SPEAKER_04: Or when I wasn't applying myself.
56:47
SPEAKER_04: Okay, my dad would tell me he would he would say, Hey, the way you live in your life right now, you're on track to be very average.
56:56
SPEAKER_04: And he'd be like, and I know you don't want to be average.
56:58
SPEAKER_04: I know you're better than anybody, you're not that type of dude.
57:00
SPEAKER_04: But the choices you're making now, you can't see it.
57:03
SPEAKER_04: But this is gonna cause you to be average.
57:05
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
57:05
SPEAKER_04: I know you don't want that.
57:06
SPEAKER_04: He said, if you do, I'll shut the fuck up.
57:09
SPEAKER_04: I won't say nothing to you, I'll let you live your life the way you want to live it.
57:12
SPEAKER_04: He's like, but I I I know you, I know you don't want to be average.
57:15
SPEAKER_04: And you're gonna track.
57:16
SPEAKER_04: You gotta slow that snowball down, you gotta start making changes.
57:20
SPEAKER_05: Boy, what's great is he's telling you things and being perceptive and being upfront, but without putting you down.
57:27
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, it's not really like, hey, you do this, you're gonna be a fuck up and suck.
57:31
SPEAKER_05: No, you're on track to be average.
57:33
SPEAKER_04: What you're doing right now, bro.
57:34
SPEAKER_04: You don't you're gonna be a bum, bruh.
57:36
SPEAKER_04: If you don't want to be a bum, turn the ship around now.
57:38
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, turn the ship around now.
57:40
SPEAKER_04: But the longer you keep doing it, harder it's gonna be.
57:42
SPEAKER_04: The harder it is.
57:43
SPEAKER_04: That's right.
57:44
SPEAKER_05: Ooh, those are good.
57:45
SPEAKER_04: He said, bro, you're making choices right now.
57:47
SPEAKER_04: Yes.
57:48
SPEAKER_04: You're not making the choices of somebody who wants to achieve at a high level.
57:52
SPEAKER_05: Ooh, I love that.
57:54
SPEAKER_04: And I like how he he he he would always he would tell me something and then he would task me with something.
58:00
SPEAKER_05: Like what?
58:01
SPEAKER_04: Like he uh uh I remember I got in trouble one time in school.
58:05
SPEAKER_04: I ain't gonna say what I did, but I I fucked up.
58:08
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
58:09
SPEAKER_04: I ain't gonna lie, I got some big trouble.
58:11
SPEAKER_04: After the storm cleared, and you know saying all the trouble had been gotten, and I got my consequences, my dad, he he came in my room with a poem.
58:20
SPEAKER_04: He had it in like a like a plastic case.
58:22
SPEAKER_04: It's like set up on my dresser.
58:24
SPEAKER_04: And he was like, Every day I want you to read this poem, go over it, and then at night I want you to come recite it to me and tell me what you learned, and tell me what it means to you.
58:32
SPEAKER_03: Wow.
58:33
SPEAKER_04: Oh my gosh.
58:34
SPEAKER_04: I would I would do that every night.
58:35
SPEAKER_04: It's called Um the name of the poem is If by uh Rudyard Kipling.
58:40
SPEAKER_04: Kipling If.
58:41
SPEAKER_05: That is a great poem.
58:42
SPEAKER_05: I read the poem, but I don't know.
58:44
SPEAKER_05: Do you have it by heart in your head?
58:46
SPEAKER_05: Some any of it?
58:47
SPEAKER_04: I don't, but I do know, I do know like a couple lines of it.
58:50
SPEAKER_04: It's like, you know, if you can keep your head while everyone else around you is losing theirs.
58:55
SPEAKER_04: Um, you know, if you can take the the the wins with the losses and treat them both the same, things like that.
59:01
SPEAKER_04: Yes, you know.
59:03
SPEAKER_05: Oh, what a great father.
59:05
SPEAKER_04: My dad taught me how to how to stay grounded, how to be humble.
59:09
SPEAKER_04: Like he'd be like, don't get too high off the praise.
59:11
SPEAKER_04: Because if you get too high off the praise, the same thing could happen with you know, saying with the criticism and the hate.
59:16
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
59:17
SPEAKER_04: He said, every day just wake up, chop wood.
59:20
SPEAKER_04: That's your job.
59:21
SPEAKER_04: It's not your job to worry about what people saying.
59:23
SPEAKER_04: He said, What a great dad.
59:27
SPEAKER_04: I tell like my dad, he wanted nothing more than for me to succeed and like to make cry.
59:35
SPEAKER_05: I'm so happy.
59:36
SPEAKER_05: It's such a wonderful.
59:37
SPEAKER_05: I see why you get to tears.
59:39
SPEAKER_05: What a wonderful guy.
59:40
SPEAKER_04: It choked me up too, like thinking about having somebody in your corner like that.
59:45
SPEAKER_04: Yes.
59:46
SPEAKER_04: Having somebody wanting you.
59:49
SPEAKER_04: It's like having somebody that wants you to be better than them.
59:51
SPEAKER_04: That's right.
59:52
SPEAKER_04: Having somebody that wants you to have more than them, having somebody that wants you to succeed more than them.
59:56
SPEAKER_05: Yes.
59:56
SPEAKER_04: Having somebody that's willing to give you the tough love when they know you need it.
1:00:01
SPEAKER_05: Yes.
1:00:01
SPEAKER_04: Not just being like, oh, gonna placate you, tell you what you want to hear.
1:00:04
SPEAKER_04: Right.
1:00:06
SPEAKER_04: That's gonna make you feel better.
1:00:07
SPEAKER_04: Like, yeah.
1:00:08
SPEAKER_04: My dad'll tell you, he like you'd be sad about this shit.
1:00:11
SPEAKER_04: Like, and I kind of take this approach where like, if something ain't going right, he'd be like, Yeah, this is messed up.
1:00:16
SPEAKER_04: I was like, what we gonna do?
1:00:18
SPEAKER_05: He's calling it.
1:00:18
SPEAKER_05: He's calling it.
1:00:19
SPEAKER_05: What are we gonna do?
1:00:21
SPEAKER_05: You know one thing I have good to say, and uh this happened to a friend of mine.
1:00:26
SPEAKER_05: Her grandfather said it to her, and my grandfather said it to me.
1:00:30
SPEAKER_05: Now, this is a really cool thing to pass on.
1:00:34
SPEAKER_05: Uh but and but it's more specific.
1:00:37
SPEAKER_05: So my grandpa uh said to me when I was little, I'm gonna put my hands in my pockets, and you can hear what's in there, and you tell me you can have what's in either one.
1:00:48
SPEAKER_05: I said, Okay.
1:00:49
SPEAKER_05: So he puts his hand in his pocket and I could hear all this change going back and forth.
1:00:53
SPEAKER_05: So I knew there's some money in there.
1:00:54
SPEAKER_05: And the other one, there's I couldn't hear anything.
1:00:58
SPEAKER_05: So he says, So what do you pick?
1:00:59
SPEAKER_05: So I picked the where I could hear all the change, and I got like, oh, so much change, like five dollars of change, which is a lot.
1:01:06
SPEAKER_05: And then he goes, That's what you got.
1:01:07
SPEAKER_05: And I'm like, Yeah, I thank you, Grandpa.
1:01:09
SPEAKER_05: And he goes, and here's what you didn't get.
1:01:10
SPEAKER_05: He pulls out a big roll of bills, a wad, a wad, and he says, So you remember that change makes noise, money don't talk.
1:01:20
SPEAKER_05: Change makes noise, money don't talk.
1:01:23
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, and I thought, wow, and as uh I've been in my career writing shows, doing comedy, change makes noise.
1:01:34
SPEAKER_05: Like, for instance, you think if you know, like you see somebody and they've got a show that's coming tomorrow and it's at whatever, and they're like, Oh, yeah, I got this show, and then I'm busy the next night too.
1:01:44
SPEAKER_05: And you're like, Oh, that's good.
1:01:45
SPEAKER_05: Do you feel like De Chappelle when he's talking with friends saying, Oh yeah, and I got a show right now, and then I'm gonna have another one?
1:01:54
SPEAKER_05: No, because that's the last thing he wants to talk about.
1:01:57
SPEAKER_04: For him, you feel like it's just business as usual.
1:01:59
SPEAKER_05: It's business, and I don't want to talk about business.
1:02:02
SPEAKER_05: I want to talk to you.
1:02:03
SPEAKER_05: I'm not gonna be talking to you, and guess what?
1:02:05
SPEAKER_05: I bought, and guess what I have?
1:02:07
SPEAKER_05: Guess how much money I have.
1:02:08
SPEAKER_05: That is change.
1:02:09
SPEAKER_05: That's change noise.
1:02:11
SPEAKER_04: It's an old saying.
1:02:12
SPEAKER_04: And my uh I I feel like everything I know is probably because of my dad, but what what you do speaks so loud that I can't hear what you say.
1:02:22
SPEAKER_05: What you do speaks so loud I can't hear what you say.
1:02:25
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, your actions speak so much louder than your words.
1:02:28
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, everything is about actions, everything's about choices.
1:02:31
SPEAKER_05: 100%.
1:02:32
SPEAKER_05: It's why I don't really like to promote myself of like, oh, well, guess what I have got?
1:02:38
SPEAKER_05: Because I feel like if I was, let's just take a famous actor, Denzel Washington, you think he's sitting there talking to somebody, oh, guess what movie I have coming up?
1:02:46
SPEAKER_05: No.
1:02:47
SPEAKER_04: I will say though, there's a probably a happy medium between the two.
1:02:50
SPEAKER_04: Because if you believe in what you're doing, if you feel proud about it, I I don't think anybody can take it away from you being proud about it, being happy about it, talking to people about it.
1:02:59
SPEAKER_04: But just make sure that's not all you're doing.
1:03:01
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
1:03:01
SPEAKER_05: Well, I I went the other way.
1:03:03
SPEAKER_05: I mean, I went.
1:03:04
SPEAKER_04: Because also the other side is like, bruh, if you're not willing to promote it, who else is gonna promote it?
1:03:09
SPEAKER_04: If you don't believe in it, who else is gonna believe in it?
1:03:11
SPEAKER_04: So like I say, promote it, and then you know, say put your head down and get something else to promote.
1:03:17
SPEAKER_04: Like, keep going.
1:03:18
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I like what your dad said.
1:03:20
SPEAKER_05: What you doing, what you do is so loud I can't hear what you're saying.
1:03:25
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, and he and I know my dad had his hands full with me.
1:03:29
SPEAKER_04: Cause even though, like, even though I can recite the lessons now, it was so many times when he was like, I used to he was looking at me and he was like, I get it, bruh.
1:03:37
SPEAKER_04: You don't want to hear this shit.
1:03:38
SPEAKER_04: He would be looking at me and he'd be like, I can tell you still gonna do the wrong thing.
1:03:42
SPEAKER_04: Oh he'd be like, bro, go ahead, fuck up.
1:03:46
SPEAKER_04: When you're done, come on back and we'll we'll take it from there.
1:03:49
SPEAKER_04: And we'll take it from there.
1:03:50
SPEAKER_04: He's like, I can tell you you got that itch in you.
1:03:52
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, you got it in you, you ain't gonna, you don't, you don't want to hear this.
1:03:55
SPEAKER_04: He said, but one day you're gonna look up and you're gonna be like, damn, Papa's right.
1:03:58
SPEAKER_04: Oh it's been so many times since I since I moved to LA where I've called him.
1:04:03
SPEAKER_04: Well, like uh whenever I whenever I seen he came out to visit me, and I was like, bro, you know how many times I didn't been sitting there and I was like, God damn it, right?
1:04:10
SPEAKER_04: That motherfucker will write again.
1:04:12
SPEAKER_05: Oh right again.
1:04:14
SPEAKER_05: This is like a shout out to your dad.
1:04:17
SPEAKER_05: What's his name?
1:04:18
SPEAKER_04: Uh we have the same name.
1:04:20
SPEAKER_05: La Fontaine.
1:04:21
SPEAKER_05: I don't even know your last name.
1:04:23
SPEAKER_05: Oliver.
1:04:23
SPEAKER_05: Oliver.
1:04:24
SPEAKER_05: La Fontaine Oliver Jr.
1:04:26
SPEAKER_05: Yep.
1:04:27
SPEAKER_05: Dang.
1:04:29
SPEAKER_05: You know some stuff, but boy, too bad you didn't have a hundred kids.
1:04:33
SPEAKER_05: We need more people to be walking around with your wisdom.
1:04:38
SPEAKER_04: My dad, my dad, I got a sister, and she she got her head on straight.
1:04:42
SPEAKER_04: See, my sister was like, she had her head on straight.
1:04:45
SPEAKER_04: Oh, well, the whole way I knew it.
1:04:46
SPEAKER_05: She was straight as an arrow.
1:04:48
SPEAKER_04: My dad had to get me right.
1:04:49
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
1:04:49
SPEAKER_04: He had to, he had to get me right.
1:04:51
SPEAKER_04: He had we had to uh man, long nights, long conversations, long this, long this.
1:04:55
SPEAKER_04: Like, but my sister just it was like she always knew up from down, she always knew right from wrong.
1:05:01
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
1:05:01
SPEAKER_04: Like you didn't have to tell, you don't have to tell my sister to do something she knows she's supposed to be doing.
1:05:06
SPEAKER_05: And did your mom, we're talking about your dad all this time, did your mom say anything?
1:05:10
SPEAKER_05: Was she a was she a person that passed on words of wisdom?
1:05:13
SPEAKER_04: From my from my mom, yes, she did, she did pass on words of wisdom.
1:05:18
SPEAKER_04: But uh one thing I got from my mom is a temper.
1:05:22
SPEAKER_04: That's like, yes.
1:05:24
SPEAKER_04: Actually, but like one thing's a great body, yeah.
1:05:29
SPEAKER_00: This beautiful curvy body.
1:05:31
SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'm sorry, bro.
1:05:32
SPEAKER_00: My call, I'm sorry.
1:05:33
SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry, man.
1:05:34
SPEAKER_00: I'm just trying to make this funny.
1:05:35
SPEAKER_00: We're all crying about our dads right now.
1:05:37
SPEAKER_00: Oh, trying to get some laughing here.
1:05:39
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
1:05:40
SPEAKER_04: One thing I learned from my mom is sacrifice.
1:05:46
SPEAKER_04: I learned sacrifice from my mom.
1:05:48
SPEAKER_04: My mom's a teacher, she raised two kids.
1:05:51
SPEAKER_04: She my mom put a lot of things on hold to make sure we was all right.
1:05:56
SPEAKER_04: You know?
1:05:57
SPEAKER_04: And my mom is like seeing.
1:06:00
SPEAKER_05: her work so hard and go so hard for something that was completely outside of herself it taught me like a real selfless nature of like if this really matters to you what you gonna do for it that's right so like my my my mom she yeah just a soldier a soldier she even even if everything going wrong my mama she'll still show up that's right she'll still smile we were poor growing up and my mama ain't never had me eating no off brand cereal my mama always made sure it was frosted flakes in the cabinet you know I was like growing up that means a lot that means a lot we was poor and she'll let us know but even though she like she let us know she kept it my mom kept it real like real with us yeah yeah yeah this is where we at but she didn't make you feel poor like my mama would still take you to the park we going to the aquarium we going to the to the zoo we you know saying she would spend time with us she would really like she would really like I'd be sitting there just my mama grading papers late at night I'm sitting there just holding her leg watching TV just like being around her you know my mama taught me okay this is the crying episode this is how like my mom taught me my mom taught me how to like stick up for myself okay earlier when you were like oh your mom gave you a temper I was like yeah my mama ain't finna take shit from nobody bro okay like my mom when I was getting into fights when I was a kid I remember like the rules for me had to change over time like first the rule was yeah first the rule was like bruh if you think somebody about to hit you like don't just stand there like a dummy and let them hit you like bruh go ahead swing on them we'll deal with that later and then like after I started getting into somebody fight my mom was like all right you gotta wait till he touched you first you gotta wait till he put hands on you then you could tee off on him and then I kept getting in trouble and she was like I ain't gonna lie bro don't touch fucking nobody stop fucking touching people like y'all gonna fuck why bro you cannot get expelled and my mom was a teacher yeah and so she was always like that's what my mama taught me like how to go to bat for somebody my mama would show up to school and stop me from getting expelled I did something one time and bro by every letter of the law I should have got expelled and my mama came out there and she sat there and went to bat for me and argued for me so many times like bro it was times when my mama knew I was dead ass wrong she was like what they said you did that sound like my son but we finna go in here and get right they ain't finna just they don't have to prove it tell them do they job like my mama my mama wasn't going for she had my back and when we got in the car she was gonna tell me what I did but like my mom always let me know like if I could got a count on somebody bro she coming to say the day every time God bless it this is this is an emotion you know I used to say about Pearl I would always say my mom my mom was like a cloud just so ethereal kind of floating by and you could look at her and go wow she's pretty and she's nice I wonder if she notices I'm here but Pearl would love you like a tiger.
1:09:07
SPEAKER_05: Yeah like oh don't mess with me boots on the ground yeah boots on the ground boots on the ground and you felt so safe around Pearl I felt so safe around Pearl my mama man my mama almost uh you know how many times that something like I remember one time I we was at the library and I was young as hell so I would go to the girls' bathroom right yeah with her and yeah my mom would be like okay when you done come out and I I remember this lady old ass lady came in and she started like yelling and carrying on and at the time why are you in the bathroom I'm scared but keep in mind I'm a little ass kid bro my mama almost beat the dog shit out this lady and bruh they had to come get everybody come come get them oh my god they had the kid bring the whole library to get my mama away from this lady bruh my mama don't play by her kids not at all bruh like not in the slightest oh that's a great that is a great duo your parents you got like superman and superwoman together my parents really did a great job they did a good job anything they could do they did it yeah they did it I remember my grandpa once when I was little he's Italian well Sicilian he always says Sicilian I'm not Italian they like they they they they want you to be very specific so uh I was four or five and we're out to dinner him and my my grandma and they let me walk around I was so spoiled I was so spoiled but they would let me walk around in my little dress I remember exactly what I was wearing and I would walk around to other people's tables and just say hi and thinking I'm gonna grace them with my presence I'm sure they're gonna want to hear and talk to me so I'm walking around like I work at this place and so now I get up to these two ladies and they're sitting by the window and they're older and they said why don't you go back to your own kind like that and I was like they were not wanting to talk to me and I was like hi they go you mean like kids or like no go to your own table like no you go to your back to your table you go back to your own kind I just remember that word and so I walked back like tears of my saucer I was like oh my god and then my papa was like he was not having that he told the he that's where I got the concept that they were old bitties.
1:11:32
SPEAKER_05: He was like we don't need to be listening to the we we are leaving the restaurant we are not having anything we you can build those ladies with our food.
1:11:40
SPEAKER_04: We're out of here and I was like yeah I'm not going back to my own kind but anyway imagine just thinking that you're so great that you should be walking up to tables and gracing them with your presence but at the same time bro anybody who's gonna talk to a kid like that fuck them yeah fuck them bro everybody in good company to keep that's right you know that's right in good company to keep just because they they reaction to you in that moment bro I'm a kid having fun like bro you can bump on me like that what did you go through it got you and yeah and don't tell me I have peasant legs either peasant legs is nasty as fuck that's fucking funny though because he didn't say chicken legs he didn't say like something that already exists that nigga made his own shit up yeah peasant legs I want to wear a dress next time to show people my legs because they're not peasant legs.
1:12:30
SPEAKER_05: I'm still trying to prove myself with a peasant if you had some advice to give to somebody who's starting out doing comedy or who's just in life just in life going through a hard time what advice would you give a person?
1:12:44
SPEAKER_04: So I had a teacher right before I dropped out of college I was a kinesiology major Mr Fisher he did a lot of stuff in his life and as somebody who wanted to do a lot of things in their life I asked him I was like how did you find time to do all this stuff and he he gave me a couple pieces of advice the first thing he said was was front load your life he was like the thing that you really want that should be the thing that comes first that should be the thing that you spend the most time on the same thing with my dad said bruh if you spend your day scrolling on your phone you're gonna get real cold at scrolling.
1:13:17
SPEAKER_04: Yeah you're gonna get real cold at consuming stuff you're gonna get real cold at that but like you're gonna look up a month from now you're not gonna be cold at what you wanted to but like anybody starting comedy or life in general you in a hard place or where you are today can be real different than where you are a month from now two months from now three months from now that's right if you just every day just do focus on it just do one thing.
1:13:40
SPEAKER_04: Yeah just do one thing and then if you become the type of person who wake up every day and do one thing that person is no longer going to be satisfied with just one it's gonna turn into two that's right into two same thing with scrolling on your phone you used to scroll for a couple minutes and then get off now you're scrolling for an hour two hours three hours now your screen time up to 12 hours because you didn't practice it.
1:13:59
SPEAKER_04: That's right if you become the type of person that get up every day and be like bro I'm gonna work towards my dreams I'm gonna work towards having a better mental state I'm gonna work towards you know I'm saying the bills piling up I'm gonna work towards getting these getting these bills paid whatever it is you can do it that's right you you front load your life front load your life and then also organized effort don't nobody get where they want to be alone I like this organized effort what is that I've never heard those two words put together organized effort if you are working towards a common goal yeah oh with someone else with others or if if you and all of your goals align yes that's another thing that's an organized effort yeah it's like one's going this way and one's going this way we're all going this way it's like it's like how can we get I used to uh love physics how can we get all the vectors pointed in one one direction exactly how can we get everything going that way it's it's it's possible it's not gonna change in a day and if you ever look up in your life and you like oh I figured it out I got it I did it today bro that's just no that's not true.
1:15:04
SPEAKER_04: No and then if you if you move with that idea like it's not it's not gonna work you have to wake up every day and just be like I'm gonna chop wood chop wood every day that's my motto I love that every single day you wake up and chop wood you gotta do it.
1:15:16
SPEAKER_05: I love exactly I love did you say or weed I said I said don't wait oh don't wait okay okay yeah chop wood I'm a hustler and I love to just go hard if I'm doing like this podcast let's do it if I'm doing comedy let's do it if I'm writing let's write like I'm gonna wake up that it gives me the best satisfaction is having this production like look what I did I got all this accomplished today and even if there was some losses but I did but this thing but this thing and and purposely putting my attention on the positive and trying to ignore the negative and concentrate on the wins you know so that's good.
1:15:58
SPEAKER_04: That's why I like you so much Thought Fontaine we have a similar mindset similar mindset yeah and you a hustler I am a hustler yeah and anything anything you want to do if you bro if you work towards it that's right it's it's a matter of time you don't know when it's gonna happen but it's gonna happen but I know one thing for sure bro if you don't work you'll never get there that's right if you don't try you'll never get no yeah what do they say you miss all the shots you never take yeah you can only see where you're like your feet is at that's right you gotta if if you're trying to see too far ahead into the future be like oh but I want I want this big thing.
1:16:32
SPEAKER_04: Yeah okay well what little steps do you do every day to get to that big thing?
1:16:35
SPEAKER_05: Yeah to get there because that's the only thing you can control because it can be delusional if you're just focusing on that I know some people that do that.
1:16:42
SPEAKER_05: So LaFontaine tell people where they can find you on socials on YouTube or what all the things uh you can find me on Instagram uh at lafontaine.Oliver um TikTok elite.Oliver elite is my middle name oh lafontaine elite oliver is that your dad's as well he's senior I'm junior oh my brother's a a junior too I got a tattoo I got a tattoo on my leg it says I will not lose it's like a family mantra does your dad have a tattoo on his leg too my dad don't do no tattoos no when I first showed it to him he was like bro why are you marking your body up and then and then and then he was like I was like but look what it says though it says I will not lose he was like I ain't going nowhere you can call me I'd tell you that anytime you need it you don't need to mark it on your body I could just tell you just give me a call thank you so much for joining us and please look up La Fontaine he is very funny and very appealing and does great at comedy you can find him all over Los Angeles I'm sure you promote it on your socials as well I do I do yeah okay good follow me on Instagram yeah yes find him on Instagram and um I really want to thank you guys for joining us today at Damaged Goods with Andre Abbott and remember we're damaged but we're not broken we're priced to move baby you can take a licking and keep on ticking see you next week it is there it is boom wasn't that fun damaged goods