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Joy Ortiz - A Flavor Rican Tale of Resilience · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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  Speaker 4: Everyone welcome to this episode and Cats Do It.
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  Speaker 1: This is the Cats in Butudting podcast, a melting pot
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  Speaker 1: of and now here's Jen.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody, welcome to this episode of Cats and Pudding. And
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  Speaker 3: today I have a great guest. We have Jj from
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  Speaker 3: JJ's own She is She's wonderful. She has a great, great,
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  Speaker 3: great dressing food line and a food and a bit.
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  Speaker 4: And you're making an even bigger food line now right.
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  Speaker 3: You're starting to add other other products to your food line.
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  Speaker 1: I added most recently a flower crack to the dressings.
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  Speaker 4: Wait, a flower crack.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it is a seasoned flower that you know you
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  Speaker 1: could use with chicken, with your with vegetables. You know
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  Speaker 1: you could put in the air fryer. You can fry it,
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  Speaker 1: but it's amazing. It's a I call it. I call
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  Speaker 1: it JJ's flower crack. It's so addict.
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  Speaker 3: Your your dressings are delicious. I got my first taste
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  Speaker 3: of it actually at Brenda's house when we were at
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  Speaker 3: That was the first time I met you. And I
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  Speaker 3: think we have a mutual friend Brenda case.
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  Speaker 1: Star, Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, And we have a couple of other mutual friends.
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  Speaker 3: Some of the girls on the Housewife. Ye're very close
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  Speaker 3: with Dolores, you know Dolores, Yes, and her her dressings
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  Speaker 3: are phenomenal.
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  Speaker 4: How did you.
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  Speaker 3: Start this whole this whole thing, How did this all happen?
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  Speaker 1: Let me take you back like twelve years now. So
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  Speaker 1: I basically really started with five hundred dollars in a dream.
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  Speaker 1: You know. I wanted to be a household name. I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to make something that everybody would love, the adults,
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  Speaker 1: the children. And when I tell you five hundred dollars
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  Speaker 1: in a dream, that's how it started, you know. I
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  Speaker 1: I made. I used to own a cafe and I
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  Speaker 1: used to make you know, these things in the cafe.
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  Speaker 1: And this was in Jersey and Garfield, New Jersey.
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  Speaker 3: This is that's where you grew up in Jersey or
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  Speaker 3: were you from originally Brooklyn.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, I'm Jersey all day every day. I say it
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  Speaker 1: all the time. I'm Jersey all day every day. But
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  Speaker 1: I was born and raised in New Jersey. I live
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  Speaker 1: in the same town my whole life. I serve as
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  Speaker 1: the vice president of the Board of Health in the
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  Speaker 1: time that I live in. I'm all about the community,
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  Speaker 1: the people. But I wanted to be a household name.
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  Speaker 1: And people would come into the cafe. It was called
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  Speaker 1: the lunch Box Cafe, and I had a little lunch boxes,
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  Speaker 1: you know, around the store, and they would ask me
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  Speaker 1: for like if they were having parties, could you make
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  Speaker 1: that dressing or could you make that mayo that we
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  Speaker 1: had with the sandwich. And then I just decided I.
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  Speaker 4: Always loved to cook, like you just started like.
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  Speaker 1: You know, honestly, I was in the mortgage business back
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  Speaker 1: in the day, and a big job. It was a
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  Speaker 1: big job, yeah, and it kind of like plummeted, you know,
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  Speaker 1: And for the first time in my life, I found
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  Speaker 1: myself laid off, you know. And I and I started
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  Speaker 1: to watch the Food Network and I feel like I've
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  Speaker 1: never been to school. I'm not a chef, but I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I'm a sponge. I watch something, I absorb it.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, I'm very good with flavors, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like I can get into the test kitchen and put
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  Speaker 1: all these flavors together and come up with something amazing
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  Speaker 1: that these these dressings and marinades, I've made all six
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  Speaker 1: of them. I've I've created all six of them. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I know how to put all the flavors together,
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  Speaker 1: the flavory again and I love it. Yes, Yes, that's great.
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  Speaker 3: And I like all your I love your hat, I
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  Speaker 3: love your sweatshirt. I definitely want to get I definitely
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  Speaker 3: want to get one of those. And you brought me
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  Speaker 3: such great I love my gifts. Yes, yes, at bag
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  Speaker 3: I love.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. So this is I hope I leave you hungry
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  Speaker 1: with every bite. So I do food reviews on TikTok.
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  Speaker 1: This is great, and that's what I say at the end,
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  Speaker 1: I hope I leave you hungry with every bite.
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  Speaker 4: You know, this is great. And then you gave me
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  Speaker 4: a towel. I love the.
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  Speaker 3: Beach towel because you know, I'm always at the beach
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  Speaker 3: all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, I want I want everybody to represent the flavorikan
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  Speaker 1: at the at the beach.
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  Speaker 4: At the beach. Yes, you can rock away in the Hamptons.
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  Speaker 4: I'll be there.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. Listen, I was just in the Hamptons
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  Speaker 1: this weekend. I loved it. We we ate our way
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  Speaker 1: around the Hamptons.
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  Speaker 4: I ate in Southampton.
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  Speaker 1: I was in Southampton and I was in Riverhead, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and uh, what an experience, so much fun. We went
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  Speaker 1: to all different places. We ate lobster, we ate ice cream,
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  Speaker 1: we ate shrimp.
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  Speaker 3: He has a lot of good foot out in hand,
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  Speaker 3: a lot of big food, a lot of Michelan chefs
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  Speaker 3: out there.
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  Speaker 1: We just went to rock spiros Ill Pelicano in Southampton.
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  Speaker 1: He's a five star Micheline chef. It was excellent, delicious.
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  Speaker 1: I have to tell you, when I first looked at
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  Speaker 1: the menu, I was a little like skeptical. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna like this. It's cast everything.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it was amazing and he was there and
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  Speaker 1: he's absolutely dull, a nice, nice guy.
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  Speaker 3: Before my brother in law is a chef. I don't
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  Speaker 3: know if I've told this before, but he was a
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  Speaker 3: chef for years.
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  Speaker 4: He went to school, he.
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  Speaker 3: Went studied in Italy and then he now what he
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  Speaker 3: does is he placed his chefs all over the country
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  Speaker 3: and he places and now he's doing like hostesses, which
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  Speaker 3: is very important for restaurants to have a good hostess.
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  Speaker 3: And absolutely, but he has. I mean he's like friends
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  Speaker 3: with Rocco. He knows, uh, he's good friends with Multi Mario.
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  Speaker 3: Like he's been already sat cook before. But he when
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  Speaker 3: we go to a restaurant, we get like the taste
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  Speaker 3: the menual when we walk in there like that.
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  Speaker 4: That's which is amazing.
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  Speaker 1: So you want to taste every time, you.
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  Speaker 4: Want to tell Yeah, so you know that.
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  Speaker 3: I just loved that whole world. I wish I was.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I guess I'm a miniature connoisseur with food.
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  Speaker 3: But it's just amazing that world.
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  Speaker 4: It's it's like they're they're artists, these chefs.
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  Speaker 1: It's they are and you know what you know, me
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  Speaker 1: as a you know, content creator, you know also with
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  Speaker 1: the business, I love to taste all these creations that
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  Speaker 1: they make. I mean, I'm a foody all the way. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I travel, I taste food, you know, food from all
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  Speaker 1: over the place. From I just did most recently a
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  Speaker 1: thirty day bagel challenge, and you know it's it's fun.
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  Speaker 4: It was the best bagels. They better be got to
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  Speaker 4: be in Brooklyn.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, I'm going to tell you the winner of that
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  Speaker 1: was Po Bagels and Staten Island. Really, Yes, did you
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  Speaker 1: go to Brooklyn? Yes, I went to a place in Brooklyn,
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  Speaker 1: so I went. We did a thirty every single day.
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  Speaker 1: So it was my sandwich. It is an everything bagel
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  Speaker 1: with lettuce, tomato, bacon, well done cream, cheese and oil
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  Speaker 1: and vinegar. It is so good. And every day for
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  Speaker 1: thirty days, I went into a different place. And at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the challenge, I rated my top three. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So so stant Island was number one.
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  Speaker 1: Stanton Island was number one. Yeah, what about uh too?
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  Speaker 1: I believe it was Jersey Bakery, Rockland Bakery. Maybe, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not sure. Maybe it might be in a place
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  Speaker 1: in Carlstat, New Jersey. But it's you know, it's all
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  Speaker 1: about the water.
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  Speaker 3: And I was just gonna say, I was gonna say
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  Speaker 3: because the water makes the difference.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, bagel is a New York babel.
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  Speaker 1: Listen. I traveled, you know, all around, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: when you're not New Jersey, New York, there's nothing that
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  Speaker 1: tastes the same. You need a dirty water dog, right
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  Speaker 1: you dog in New York. Right on the pizza to
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  Speaker 1: the pizza.
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  Speaker 4: Pizza, there's nothing like pizza.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 1: And the bagels, I mean, they're hard to find Jersey
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  Speaker 1: all day every day.
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  Speaker 4: It's so true.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know about you, but like I have
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  Speaker 1: a controversy with is it tailor ham, egg and cheese
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  Speaker 1: or is it pork roll, egg and cheese.
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  Speaker 4: I would say it's pork roll.
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  Speaker 1: You killed me, I say, Taylor ham on Taylor ham
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  Speaker 1: all day.
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  Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I say that it must be a New Jersey,
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  Speaker 3: New York thing.
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  Speaker 1: I think so. I think so.
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  Speaker 4: There's a couple of differences between them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I get, I get, I get a little controversy
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  Speaker 1: in the comments, you know.
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  Speaker 3: But I like, you know, like you said, the water
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  Speaker 3: is so is a big deal because I mean, look,
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  Speaker 3: any restaurant, I mean, Florida, there was a it was
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  Speaker 3: actually a restaurant of Florida that was importing from New York.
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  Speaker 1: There there is a lot of people that do that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of people that do that because it
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  Speaker 1: just doesn't taste the same.
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't the bread doesn't rise the same.
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  Speaker 3: It's just it's just the text. It's not Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 3: just whatever it is. It's just, it's just nothing.
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  Speaker 1: It's true. It's true. No, I agree with you. I
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  Speaker 1: agree with you. The water is everything.
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  Speaker 4: Why do you think the best pizza is right now?
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  Speaker 1: It's Listen to the City no more.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry. I love Monattan.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you I love ellen B.
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  Speaker 4: They're not as good as they used to be.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I have to tell you. I can't
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  Speaker 1: tell you what they used to be because I'm I'm
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  Speaker 1: kind of new to it. I I think I, you know, back.
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  Speaker 4: In the day, but they're not as good as they
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  Speaker 4: used to be.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I love Listen and it's a different
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  Speaker 1: type of pizza. It's a it's a square, it's a
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  Speaker 1: Sicilian opposed to a regular slice, you know. But I
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  Speaker 1: feel like, but yeah, I love ellen B. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I feel I love to sit out there in the courtyard.
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  Speaker 1: It feels like old school, feels like home. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you sit down and you have some pizza. But I
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  Speaker 1: love it. I love the doiness of it and the
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  Speaker 1: crisp of it. I mean, look, their pants must be
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  Speaker 1: seasoned all ship, you.
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  Speaker 3: Know.
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  Speaker 1: But honestly, like I've eaten a lot of pizza, you know,
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  Speaker 1: in a lot of different places. And New Jersey and
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  Speaker 1: New York are are are my favorites?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Down the shore, Jersey Shore, you know, seaside those huge slices,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I love I love the pizza from Jersey.
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  Speaker 1: From New York.
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  Speaker 4: There was there's there's a pizzeria that you got a visit.
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  Speaker 3: It's uh just to tones On in Upton Avenue in Brooklyn.
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  Speaker 3: Talk about it, but they only sell it by the pie.
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  Speaker 4: They don't sell it by the slice, okay.
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  Speaker 1: And is it is it a straight? When you hold
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  Speaker 1: it does a flop? This is a difference now flop.
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  Speaker 3: But it's now when you This is also a Brooklyn thing.
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  Speaker 3: Did you fold over your pizza and eat it? Or
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  Speaker 3: did you eat it straight? I actually do the fold Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I a beautiful That's the East Coast Brooklyn thing. And
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  Speaker 3: that's how you know people are from New York if
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  Speaker 3: they fold over their pizza and eat it. Yeah, that's
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  Speaker 3: a that's a thing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm definitely a fold over. Hey god, Yeah, so you're
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  Speaker 1: Italian in the hotel listen. I have so many Italian friends,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I feel I feel like you know, being
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  Speaker 1: Puerto Rican and Italians so much alike. You know, you
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  Speaker 1: talk Spanish, you talk Italian. You kind of understand each other,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and I feel like the cultures together, you know,
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  Speaker 1: they do connect. Connect absolutely, they do connect.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, defintely do.
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  Speaker 1: They tell me sometimes like are you are you?
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  Speaker 4: Are you?
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  Speaker 1: Are you Italian? I said no, They're like I never
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  Speaker 1: met a Puerto Rican. They use their hands so much
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  Speaker 1: because I use I use my hands, you do, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I say, if I have to come back as as
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  Speaker 1: another another nationality, be Italian, right, I mean, listen, I
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  Speaker 1: love being Puerto Rican. The flavorrecan. I love my heritage.
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  Speaker 1: I love Spanish food is my favorite Spanish It's my favorite.
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  Speaker 1: It's got so much flavor. It's it's just it's I
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  Speaker 1: love Spanish food. That's my first go to.
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  Speaker 4: But is that how you started developing the No.
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  Speaker 1: No, actually has nothing to do with that, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to be a household name and I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to make something that everybody would love, you know,
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  Speaker 1: And it's been a long road.
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  Speaker 4: You know, how did you develop them?
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  Speaker 1: Like?
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  Speaker 4: What started it?
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  Speaker 1: So after being in the cafe, you know, I went
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  Speaker 1: into Whole Foods, I started in Whole Foods. I went
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  Speaker 1: into Whole Foods and I looked at what they had
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  Speaker 1: because I wanted to make something that they didn't have.
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  Speaker 1: So I created my first dressing and it was the
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  Speaker 1: basil vinegarette, right it was. I went to the test kitchen,
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  Speaker 1: I made two recipes of it, and I ended up
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  Speaker 1: choosing the first recipe, and that's my first dressing. And
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  Speaker 1: from there went the second one, the cilantro lime, the
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  Speaker 1: white bussom, the ginger soy, the honey mustard, and the
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  Speaker 1: house red wine. So I have six flavors.
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  Speaker 4: I have six flavors flavor.
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  Speaker 1: So I started with five hundred dollars in a dream
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  Speaker 1: and one flavor and one Whole Foods. Twelve years later,
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  Speaker 1: fast forward, I now have six flavors and a website
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  Speaker 1: that sells around the world. But getting there was not easy,
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  Speaker 1: you know. I mean, this is why I wear this shirt,
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  Speaker 1: and this is why I tell everybody you know, like,
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  Speaker 1: I never gave up. I've been knocked down so many
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  Speaker 1: times that you know, getting up probably wasn't even an option.
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  Speaker 1: So many people along the way said, just give up,
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  Speaker 1: it's not going to work. The numbers don't make sense.
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  Speaker 1: But in my mind, it made sense. It made sense.
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  Speaker 1: I knew that I had a product that was amazing
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  Speaker 1: and that if I could get it out to the masses,
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  Speaker 1: that they would love it. And you know, currently my
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  Speaker 1: website has only been open for about three years now,
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  Speaker 1: and in three years we are like, it's sixteen thousand orders. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's a lot and a lot of them
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  Speaker 1: are returning custom mers. And you know, with social media
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  Speaker 1: and being on TikTok and you know, creating recipes and
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  Speaker 1: doing that, a lot more people you know, know who
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  Speaker 1: I am, and they you know, support and they go
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  Speaker 1: and they end up loving it.
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  Speaker 3: You know, do you are you doing anything besides you know,
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  Speaker 3: running the running the fact because you have a factory obviously,
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  Speaker 3: I have a store, a store, yeah, also a place
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  Speaker 3: that you you you know, you bottle the dressing and everything.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is under one under one roof. We we make it,
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  Speaker 1: we bottle it, and we ship it out. You know,
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  Speaker 1: everything is there. And you know, most recently I moved
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  Speaker 1: into a new location and uh, I thought it was
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  Speaker 1: going to be you know, home, you know, I thought
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  Speaker 1: it was going to be home. It's in Woodridge, Woodridge,
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  Speaker 1: New Jersey, Bergen County, five minutes away from home, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like it was a great location. My childhood friend owns
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  Speaker 1: a busines and it's a couple doors down, you know,
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  Speaker 1: so it was it felt good, you like, it felt
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  Speaker 1: like the right thing. I started to move in. I
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  Speaker 1: started to renovate the place, and two months later I
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  Speaker 1: get a knock on the door from a management company
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  Speaker 1: that the person that I signed the least with went
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  Speaker 1: into foreclosure and now you know, they own the property.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, what am I going to do?
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  Speaker 1: Like what does this mean for me? And they said,
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  Speaker 1: no problem, you could stay here. You'll just you know,
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  Speaker 1: have to deal with us, and you know, okay, And
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  Speaker 1: I was like cool, I continue to do what I
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  Speaker 1: had to do. I was finally ready to go into
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  Speaker 1: the town to get my CEO to like officially kind
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  Speaker 1: of open, and I was going to renovate because I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to do retail because now I have merchandise, and
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  Speaker 1: I wanted the customer to be able to actually come
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  Speaker 1: in and purchase the dressing because right now you can
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  Speaker 1: only purchase the dressing online. If you're local, you can
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  Speaker 1: come into the store and pick it up, but right
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  Speaker 1: now it's just online. Well, when I went to get
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  Speaker 1: the CEO, they told me that the owner had owed
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  Speaker 1: back taxes and they refuse to give me the CEO,
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  Speaker 1: which left me to have to shut down JJ's own.
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  Speaker 1: And for for me, I mean, it's been my whole life,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like the last twelve years of my life.
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  Speaker 1: I've dedicated my heart and my soul to this business.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: And to have to shut it down is you know,
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: crucial for me. It's my livelihood. Yeah, you know, I
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: mean this is and this is your dream, it's my dream,
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: you know. And and as I sit here today with
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: this shirt on, you know, the one thing you'll never
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: see me do is give up, you know, I say.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: You know, life gives you lots and lots of things,
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: and sometimes it gives you a bed deck, you know,
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: and the way you handle yourself and the situation is
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: really the way it's going to go.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: I get up every day and I thank God for
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: the breath that He's given me, and and I just
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: you know, I try to take whatever comes my way.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: You know, I've I've learned a lot of a lot
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: of valuable lessons along the way, you know, about people,
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: you know, just about business, about a lot of things,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: and you know it. Sometimes it hurts. Sometimes the knife
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: feels a little sharper than others, you know, And they're
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: just lessons along the way, you know, and and and.
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: You know, every day is a learning experience, it is, right,
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: And no matter how old we are, Like you're the
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: same age as me, Right, you're in forty nine.
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: Well, all right, so you're in the same group.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: All yeah, I'm a little old up.
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, you learn, and I know too
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: from you know, business, and and you know friends and
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: it's said or even family. You know, sometimes if you're
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: if you're successful, or you're following your dream, not everybody
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: is in your corner. And it sucks when sometimes you
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: find out that you think they're in your corner and
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: they're really not.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: You know, I feel like, you know, the more things
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: you do and the more people you're around, and the
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: more events you get invited to, the more jealous people get,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: the more the more hate people, the more hate, the
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: more hatred there is, you know, Like here I'm like
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: feeling like I'm living my best life and like I'm
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: on top of the world. You know, And and I
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: was hearing you before say something of you know, you
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: get a thousand wonderful comments, but it's just that one
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: that affects you, you know, and you're human. You know,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: you're human. You have a heart. I mean, I do
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: you know what you know, it hurts when people hurt.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: People hurt people, you know, and you know, you think
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: somebody's on your side and they're not, you know, and
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: and and and that hurts, you know, but you just
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: you can't let that get in the way. You know,
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: you really really can't. You gotta you gotta, like you know,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: weed out the negative and just go with the positive.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: Like you know, I've had people come and go in
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: my life.
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: Are you happy?
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: Do you feel that the people that would you have
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: changed the people that you were around before. Let's just say,
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: do you do you think that that people hindered you
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: in the last twelve years. There's certain people that hindered
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: you that you had to get.
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: Rid of in your life.
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: I mean, listen or not even you knowing that they
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: were hindering you and then realizing that they were maybe
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: holding you back because.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: You know, I think that, like I think that people
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: come into your life for reasons and seasons, you know,
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: And I think that you know, like not everybody's rooting
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: for you, you know, or they're rooting for you for
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: the wrong reasons, you know. And I think that everybody
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: in my life that I've met along the way, I
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: feel like you make a memory with somebody, yeah, and
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: good or bad at one time it was a good memory,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: you know. So I try to say, like I say this,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I have my friends since I'm a child, you know,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: I have childhood friends. And they say you can count
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: on one hand how many If you can count on
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: one hand how many friends you got, you're a blessed person.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: You're blessed. But you know, I feel like as as
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: you go through life, you know, not everybody's going to
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: be on the same page as you know. Sometimes you know,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: you do mean to, you don't mean to you know,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: And sometimes things happen in life, and you know, you
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: you you wonder why someone feels a certain way or
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: why something happened, or why did this situation end up
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: this way? But you know, I have to tell you
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: that as I grow older in life, it's easier for
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: me to let people go because my happiness is within myself,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: you know, like nobody's going to take care of me
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: the way I'm going to take care of me. You know,
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: nobody's paying my bills. That's so you know, nobody's nobody's
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: doing those things. So you know, sometimes you know, a
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: good person does a bad thing, yeah, or a bad
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: situation happens, you know, and and listen, you choose to
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: have that person in your life or you choose not to.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: That's your choice. At forty nine years old, I'm an adult,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I've grown. I have the choice whether I want you
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: in my life or not. And that my choice and
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: my choice true. And I that's I say that all
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: the time. It's so much easier for me to let
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: to let people go.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: With this age then years of you know, when you're younger,
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: it's hard to let people go because you're so much
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: leave accent.
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: But then when you get older, you're like, do I
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: need this.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Drama in my life?
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Do I need this effect that somebody is gonna put
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: on me because you're getting older and you just don't
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: want that.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: You just want peace, peace?
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: Right, You want peace.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: I was just ready to say, you know, I want
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: to put my head down at night and I want peace.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: That's what I want. You know, Like, listen, be kind
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: to people. It doesn't hurt, you know, it doesn't cost
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: anything to be kind, you know, And on my shittiest day,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: I put a smile on because you know, you just
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: never know, you never know what the next person's going through.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: And sometimes I say to myself, wow, like I bitch,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: like oh I got this, I got that. But you know,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: there's so many people in the world that have it
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: so much worse, you know, like, I'm so I'm so grateful,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I'm so blessed to have what I have. I may
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: not have everything I want, but you have everything you need,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: but I have everything I need. Yeah, I say, you know, God,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: God's not going to give you everything that you want,
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: but He's definitely going to give you everything that you need.
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: It's so true. It's so true.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: And you know, listen, being in I have my own
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: business too, and I know I worked, and I was
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: just telling the last guest, I said, you know, when
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: people look at you, they don't care how you got there.
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: They don't care. They see what you have and they
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: can then they're jealous of it, but they don't care
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: how you got there.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: They don't care what it took and what you had
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: to go through to get what you have.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: And that's what's said about about how people are.
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: And you know what, those are the people that you
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: really you don't need around you because they're not wishing
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: you well.
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: You know they're it's not wishing you well.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I feel like now at this point in the game,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: I need to surround myself with positive people, people that
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: are ambitious, people that you know, want to have a
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: better life for themselves. You know what I mean levels
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: of people, different levels of people.
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: Sometimes the people.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: That you do grow up with. Like I'm like you,
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: I have friends that I've been friends with my whole life.
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: Do I have those friends in every single one of
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: them in my daily life every day? But that's what
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: you know what is I have a few that are
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: in my life every day, but not everybody because I can't.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: I have to love them from a distance some of them.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: Listen, you know, the definition of a true friend is
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: someone that you can pick up the phone, whether it
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: be every day, every month, or every year. Yes, you
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I have friends that I you know,
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: grew up with that we we shoot it. They're a
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: text message for the holidays, for birthdays. We don't forget
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: about each other. That's a friend. You know what I'm saying,
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: that's a true friend exactly. Life gets busy, you know,
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: I'm all over the place. Sometimes I don't even know
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: whether I'm coming or going. And I'm not a good
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: you know, you text me, I'm not a good text
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: or backer. I'm not you know, I don't I don't
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: call back all the time. But that doesn't mean I
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: don't love you. Doesn't mean that I'm not your friend.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: You know, I say I'm a person, that I'm a
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: good friend. If I'm not your friend anymore, it's because
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: you gave me the scissors to cut the rope, you know.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm loyal to the soil. I really truly am.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: If I love you and you're good to love you,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: I love you with my whole heart. Yeah, and and
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: and and that's where, like, you know, the disappointment in
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: life comes in sometimes, you know, with people, you learn
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: a lot about people and their actions, and you know,
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: what you would do for someone doesn't mean that they're
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: going to do a few expectations expectations like I I
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: just you know, I used to get excited about things,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: you know, when somebody said I'm going to do this
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: for you or you know this is going to happen.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: I used to get so excited. I used to work
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: myself up and you know, and then came the disappointment
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: when it didn't happen or the person didn't follow through
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: or you know. And now I just lived my life
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: like with no expectations, like if something I think is
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: going to happen for me, when it happens, I'll celebrate
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: it right until then.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: You know, or count on it until it happened, correct,
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: Because that's how you do get disappointed.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: You do, and you learn, you learn throughout life to
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: do that, you know, to get yourself excited to only
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: be disappointed, you know.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: And and you know what, when you have your own
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: business and when you're when you do this, your your whole,
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: your whole concept, your whole company.
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: You developed yourself. That was it, your brain.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: You did that, You developed it on your own, You
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: did it.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: That was you, that was all you.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: And I'm a one person show. I mean like in
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: the beginning, I mean I made it, I packed it,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: I said into the stores, I advertise it. I mean
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: like I am like the walking salad dressing. You know
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like you know, I can sell you know,
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: like nobody's gonna sell it the way I can.
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: You know, but because you know, because you know your product,
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: I do it.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: But also to you know, the product speaks for itself.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: It's everybody wants it. Everybody's in it. You know. It's
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: not only not only looks pretty. You know, it's in
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: a glass bottle, looks pretty, the presentation of it. It
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: tastes good and it's good for you. Keto friendly weight,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: watch your friendly low and sugar low and sodium. The
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: only one that's not gluten free is the ginger soil
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: because of the soy sauce. But you know they're great.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: You can use them to for your salads or you
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: can marinate anything, chicken, fish, shrimp, steak, potatoes, vegetables, process anything,
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: use your imagination. There's just so many things you can
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: do with it.
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: Are a lot of a lot of places in Jersey
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: using them in the restaurants.
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: And things like that.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: No, I'm strictly I'm strictly website only, you know, going
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: through the stages of jj'sone. I was in Whole Foods,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: I was in Stu Leonards, I was in Shop Right,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: and those places took me to the next level, and
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: then from there to the next level. And I actually
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: had a situation with shop Right. Was I used to
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: own a salad bar. During this process, I opened the
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: salad bar, the jj'sonn salad Bar. I'd make all these
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: amazing salads, create all these salads, but the only salad
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: dressing you could use was jj'sone. And I got to
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: deal with Shop Right, and I left my small little
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: place and moved to a tremendous warehouse because I had
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: to fill over three hundred and fifty locations. Well, you know,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: shop Right, you know, they kind of failed me. They
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: picked up their first order and never picked up the
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: second order really and never ever called me back. I
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: communicated with a gentleman multiple times, back and forth, back
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: and forth, and he kind of totally like forgot about me.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: And I had my customers and like you know, viewers
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: and followers saying, you know, I'm in this shop right,
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: it's not there. Where is it? Hackeme, it's not there.
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: And I went back and forth for almost a year,
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: and they, I feel in some way they were like
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: a demise from me. You know, I went from a
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: small place.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: You know, and then you moved into a big place.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I moved into a big place. I was paying eight
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: hundred and fifty dollars a month in the in the
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: salad bar, and went from eight hundred and fifty dollars
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: a month to sixty five hundred dollars a month. And
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: that was just to walk in the door.
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: You know, the employees, everybody.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: Correct all the ingredients, all the everything, everything that comes over.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: Everybody thinks like that's what people don't look at the
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: behind the scenes of it. Yeah, it's a lot, you know. Listen. Yeah,
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: you look at a bottle. You know, you have have
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: the label, the nutritional value, the cap, the seals, everything,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: everything you know accounts for something. You know. It's it's
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: not that easy, you know. And it's I just what
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: what they did to me. I listen. I maintained it.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: I stayed there for two years and then I said
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: to myself, what am I doing here? I'm paying all
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: this rent. I the place was so big that I
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: only used a small portion of it. But I feel like,
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: shame on, shame on you, Shame on you shop right,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: such a big company that you came in to a
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: to a I was I was small, I mean small, company,
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: and you did this to me and you never responded back, never, nothing,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: like they didn't care that They just you know, basically
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: drowned a company you know that was was doing so well,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: you know, and I said, I got to get out
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: of here, you know, and then I found this new
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: place and and then this happened. So like I I
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: feel like, you know, like a lot of things have
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: been happening in my life, and you know, I feel
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: like God is just weeding out everything along the way,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: even people too, you know, you know what people think
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: going to.
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: Steer you to where you're supposed to be.
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and listen, I was like, why did this happen
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: to Why does this have to happen?
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: You know?
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: But there's reasons why we have to go through certain
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: things in life, and we have to we have to
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: go through that to get to where we're supposed to go.
• 30:26
  Speaker 4: For whatever, we.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: Might not want to go down that road that might
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: be done and scary and sketchy, however you might have
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: to go there to get to that that promise land.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: It's the journey, listen, it's it's it's it's uh, it's
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: the destination that you're ultimately looking for. But you got
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: to enjoy the journey along the way. You know, if
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: you don't enjoy the journey along the way, then why
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: are you even on the path.
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: It's you know what I'm saying, like to enjoy it.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: I've had victories and I've had failures, and I've learned
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: from both of them, you know, and and listen, whatever
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: comes my way, I accept it. Look, I'm here with
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: you today, you know what I'm saying. I'm happy to
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: be here today, you know. And and I say, I'm
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: going to experience everything that life has to give to me,
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: you know, like I want to do a lot of things.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I'm not done yet, and I'm never going to give up,
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: And you know what you're wearing your you're you're wearing
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: that and you're i mean not just wearing it on
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: your on your chest as a montage, but you are
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: wearing that as you're exuding that because you're saying, I'm
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: not giving up, but.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: What I'm doing, I'm not going to stop.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: And that's that's what most that's where successful people are,
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: you know. Not it's success is not easy.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's not. It's not a.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Success shone because you're succeeding somebody else. It's not easy
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: to get to that point. It's hard, it's hard.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: It's hard work.
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: It is hard, hard work.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: It's every day, you know. I used to walk into
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Whole Foods when I first you know, Whole Foods is
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: so separately, like if you're not on a planogram, you
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: have to be invited into each store. I used to
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: walk into Whole Foods with a ziplock bag of vegetables
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: and a little container of my dressing and say, you
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: guys got to taste this. I gotta be on your
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: on your on your shelves. And that's how I did it,
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: every day in a new store, trying to get in.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: And then finally one person listened, and I made it
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: into my first Whole Foods. My first demo, I sold
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: probably fourteen cases of the of the basil vinigarette that
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: the manager came over and said, what is this? Every
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: person on the on the on the lanes habit, and
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: it just it just kind of like went from there,
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: you know. But it's not been easy, you know, it's
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: it's hard. You know. There were times when I really
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: thought I was going to give up, you know, and
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: and many times you people get into your head. You
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: know you it's not gonna work. It's not gonna work,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: but you know, and when you're at your lowest, people.
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: Like to kick cares.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: They're like, kid you, Misery loves company.
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: Because then because like you said that Mirilla's comin, they're
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: not happy with their life and they want to see
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: you down and don't say and even the friends, even
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: your same friends, I'm sure when you would when you're
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: when you were down with them in the same area.
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: Let's just say you were feeling your woes, they were
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: your find and then all of a sudden, when you
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: started feeling better, that's when they you know the way,
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: That's what said some people.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: I feel too, Like you know, I'm going to say
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: the word entitlement. People feel entitled because if I'm your
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: friend and and you're going somewhere or you're doing something,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: they feel entitled because they're your friends to be able
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: to be there and to do those things. And when
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: they're not invited, and not for any reason, but just
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: because that's what it is, what it goes for. You know,
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: sometimes I'm not invited with a plus one or sometimes
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm invited with own only one. Right, you know.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: And I feel like, you know, the the entitlement that
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: people feel entitled.
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: They have to be with they have and if they're
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: not with you, then they're like, oh, you didn't take
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: me with you too.
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: Well, I can't always take everybody. Yeah, you know the
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: same thing.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: And I understand that I have a I have I
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: had friends before, Like when especially in the beginning, I'm like, I.
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: Can't take fifteen people.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, listen, I would love to listen. I'm a
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: person like I love.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: If it's my party, you know, every listen, everybody could
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: come me.
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: Everybody, They'll bring the truckloads, if I hear you.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: I love a good party and I love everybody. But
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: sometimes not, you know, you can't bring everybody, you know,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: and and and sometimes people don't understand that, you know.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: And I think that that's where the jealousy comes in,
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: and that's where the the digs, you know, And that's
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: the part that that's the hardest.
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: Feel like it's because I feel like invited to let's
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: just say, you go somewhere with Let's just say, like
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: I go with somewhere with like Catherine Deducci, like she's
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: a good friend of mine, yeah, I went down and
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: I'm walking through me and I'll go down to Marlborough
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: Street a lot and go hang out different restaurants and stuff.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: I can't take five of my friends with me because
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: I'm with Katine, you know what I mean?
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean.
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: But it's like.
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: It's not because I don't want them to come, But
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: what am I going? I can't tell Kasin can I
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: take my.
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: Five friends with me?
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: Exactly?
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: The super giving host off and then I'm with her
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: and then you know, they're like doing stuff with me
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: and horror and things like that. So it's like it
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: doesn't mean like you don't want them now, but I
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: just can't.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: You know, certain people. You know, I'm friends with certain people,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: and I can't bring everybody everywhere I go, right, you
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: know what I mean? And and like I'm not that
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: person like I would if you invite me somewhere and
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: you invite me, I'm never gonna say, can I bring right?
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I would never do that.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: But if it's me, I bring them all? You know
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That that's who I am.
• 36:01
  Speaker 4: I can't just say I wouldn't. I would not.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: I'm not that person that I'm going to ask if
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: I could bring somebody with.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: Me either mine, I just neither mind just won't.
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there's one time on my birthday I did ask,
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: I did ask Sabrina from the Cover Girls if I
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: could bring more than one person to the pre Style shower.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: But I but that was my birthday. But otherwise I
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: never ever ever yes. I just don't, you know what
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: I mean. I'm just not like if somebody says, John, oh,
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: here's an extra ticket if you want to bring somebody.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: I'm gratefull owes me too, but the same way and
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: I and.
• 36:32
  Speaker 4: I get that, and I do get that.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: It's it and it's hard because you know, when you're
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: when you're elevating.
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: Yourself to something.
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: Now, I'm not saying that my friend or your friends
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: are on a difficult like beneath you or you know
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying, But if they're not aspiring to do
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: something else and they're more in the public we're more
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: in the public eye.
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: And then now it's.
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: Like, these are the things I have to do to
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: keep myself and my business out there.
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: Correct?
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: Correct? You know, it's my life. You know, I wake
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: up in the morning, and I'm I'm go from the
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: minute I wake up to the minute I go to sleep.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm constantly thinking. I'm constantly trying to, like,
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: you know, think of new things. You know, I do
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: food reviews on TikTok, and I'm constantly going to different places,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: you know, and sometimes I can't be accessible to everybody.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: I'm one person, and I'm one person running this business
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: trying to you know, continue its growth. You know, I
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: can't be everywhere at the same time. I can't please
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: every person at the same time, you know, And that's
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: where you know, the friend comes in. You know, some
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: friends will understand that and something friends, you know.
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: And how about your family is I mean, I know
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: you're close.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: To your mom, right, I'm very close to my mom.
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: Page the whole thing with what was it? Was it
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: not Ricky.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: Martin Mark Anthony. She was scammed. She was scammed. She's
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: eighty two years old. She was scammed. She loves Mark Anthony.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: And I took to social media, and you know, within
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: a few hours, I was talking with you know, Mark
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: Anthony's people. We got to go to two of his
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: shows and we got to go backstage for him to
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: tell her that it wasn't him. You know, I lost
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: my dad four years ago during COVID, and he was
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: like the love of my life. He's the only man
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: in the world I've ever loved, you know. He was
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: my heart. You know, he's my twin, you know. And
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: when we you know, my mother and father married fifty years.
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: Great childhood growing up. You know, I was no I
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: have two I have other brothers and sisters as well,
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: but you know I was Daddy's girl. I'm the baby, yeah,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: you know, and I could do no wrong in his eyes.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: And we lost him during COVID, in the early part
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: of COVID, in April when it first started, and I
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: thought my whole world was gonna, you know, come to
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: an end. But you know, God gives you the strength,
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: you know, to keep going, you know. And I don't know,
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: I don't know how I how we did that, you know.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: He we kept him home for a little while. He
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: started to get a fever. We kept him home as
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: long as we could, and I said, we can't keep
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: him home anymore. We got to take him to the hospital,
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: you know. And this was when COVID was like they
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: said that like if you went to the hospital. It
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: was in the air right, you know, and I made arrangements.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: I had him, you know, picked up in a private
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: ambulance and I took you know, we took him, and
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: you know, as he walked, as they you know, strolled
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: him out, I said to my mother and my sister,
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: say goodbye to Daddy now, because I don't believe he's
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: going to come back. And it was probably one of
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: the hardest moments of my life, you know. And every
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: single day I laid down with that phone on my chest,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: waiting for the phone call, you know, they had. When
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: he first went in, he was tested for COVID. He
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: came out negative. By the time he got to the hospital.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: They called me up and they said, if all the
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: tested negative positive for COVID pneumonia. My mother and I
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: went to get checked and we were both positive without
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: synthom So we had to stay in a house where
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: my father was dying in the hospital, and we couldn't
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: even be next to one another, or we couldn't even
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: go see him. A man that was loved by so
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: many and that was never alone a day in his life,
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: died all by himself. I watched them, I watched them
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: die on my cell phone on a FaceTime and it
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: was the hardest you know, probably thirteen days of my life,
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: you know, and it was just it was terrible, you know.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: But what I say now is that in the real
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: estate world, he can't be here, but he's got the
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: best seat in the house.
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and he's watching wants you to be successful.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: He sure does. Yeah, what do you.
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: Where do you see yourself going with this? Now?
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: Like where do you say? I know you have you
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: have you gonna eventually? Do you think you're gonna move
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: into a new spot?
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm in I'm currently searching for a new location.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: I'm saying Jersey all day, Jersey all day, every day.
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: But but yeah, I'm looking for a new spot in
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: New Jersey. Or I may honestly even entertain a manufacturer,
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: you know, if it's the right right fit for me.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: And honestly, jem, I might even entertain someone purchasing JJ zone.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: You know. You know what it's there's so many things
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: out there, you know, and there's so there's so much
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: I feel like the one problem I have with JJ
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: zone it's not selling it. It's not the product, it's
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: getting it out to more people.
• 42:02
  Speaker 4: It's hard to get get a product out.
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: It's you know, and there's so many products and now
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: because of the Internet and social media, people are just
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: flooded with so many things. So to make it stand out.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: But look at but look at what you've accomplished so far.
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: You could do it.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you could do it. I'll figure it out. Yeah,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: never get off, you could do it.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell you, I'm going to have you back here,
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: and I know, I'm guarantee you.
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: I'm going to either hear you either sold it or
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: you bought it.
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, because you're because you're you're gonna you're
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: hitting the pain.
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: For right now, ready to do.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: I'm a hustler from the beginning. I really am the
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: ones that are gonna make it, make it, and I
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: stay true to it, you know, I stay true to
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: what I say, what I do. I say what I
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: mean and I mean what I say. It's important.
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: That's where you're gonna This is where it's gonna pay off.
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: It's going to pay off. Just keep keep on, keep
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: it on.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: That's what I keep on trucking, Keep on trucking.
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: Tell every but where we could find you and where
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: they could purchase JJ.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: Yes, so JJ's own dot com and I am on
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: TikTok JJ the flavor Reeken I love that. And then
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram just joy j U s j o
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: y twenty one and.
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna tag her and everything that after we we
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: we we air the show.
• 43:23
  Speaker 4: This is a great show. I'm so glad you came
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: in we finally.
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, I'm so excited to.
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: I could sit and talk to you for hours. I
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: love listening.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you for having me.
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: No, I we met, Yeah, when I met a couple
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: a few years ago when we connected, and I just
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: you know, I think you have such a great story
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: and I love your whole the whole thing about you.
• 43:42
  Speaker 4: It's just no, it's good. I think you're I think
• 43:45
  Speaker 4: you're a good person.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: You deserve you all the success from in the world.
• 43:49
  Speaker 4: You really do.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: Your mouth to Godzias, It's that's it.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: Yes, Yeah, and it's gonna happen for you because you're
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: gonna make it happen.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: You go get up. I am thank you and for
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: beat on my show. And I love to have you back.
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: Thank you. I love to come back.
• 44:03
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: Enjoy your can't you And I forgot that, I forgot
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: the show.
• 44:08
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna be wearing this.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna I'm gonna put this on my I'm gonna
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: put this on my my Instagram to me cooking in this.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope I leave you hungry with everybody love it.
• 44:22
  Speaker 4: I love it.
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: Thank you so much, You're very welcome and everybody. I
• 44:25
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