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Mean Adults · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: Okay, we got a question for American mamas. Dear mama's
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  Speaker 1: do you remember as a child an adult being mean
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  Speaker 1: to you?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask rad Reckan mama's Mamma, mama, she said.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama's tearing Nutaville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burtlessen. And joining us now, our American mama's tearing
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  Speaker 1: Nutaville and Kimberly Burtlessen.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, you must have somebody in mind, Steven.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sorry. One person.
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  Speaker 2: I do have that, you know.
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  Speaker 4: I saw a study that talked about children because they're
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  Speaker 4: so impressionable. They're very small, and they have very few
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  Speaker 4: memories and experiences. If you are mean to a child,
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  Speaker 4: it has a lifelong impression on them. And it made
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  Speaker 4: me think of myself and I thought, well, who's been
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  Speaker 4: mean to me? And I can tell you exactly the moments,
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  Speaker 4: the times, the people. I don't remember any teacher, I
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  Speaker 4: don't remember any names of people I knew when I
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  Speaker 4: was little. But I remember miss young Blood and when
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  Speaker 4: I was talking making a Christmas project, calling me up
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  Speaker 4: to the front, and I was very quiet. I was
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  Speaker 4: a very good little girl. She opened my hand and
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  Speaker 4: she popped my hand with a metal ruler, and I
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  Speaker 4: never forgave her for it. Well, great were you in
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  Speaker 4: third grade? I was devastated. It hurt my heart so
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  Speaker 4: much because it felt.
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  Speaker 3: So because you're one of those because it wanted to please.
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  Speaker 4: I wanted to please you know, So it was I
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  Speaker 4: never forgot her, and I thought she was the ugliest teacher.
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  Speaker 4: And from then on I couldn't stand her.
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  Speaker 3: Well, no, I need to find her. What about you?
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  Speaker 3: I can't handle it what someone's meaning to my sister's okay,
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  Speaker 3: so I the only time I can remember. I don't
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  Speaker 3: you know, I've said this before. If people were mean
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  Speaker 3: to me, I didn't realize it because I thought why
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  Speaker 3: would they, you know, I thought they were having a
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  Speaker 3: bad day. I don't really know, but I do remember
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  Speaker 3: Miss Fridge fourth grade, when she probably didn't mean to
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  Speaker 3: be mean, but it crushed my soul. Were a learned
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  Speaker 3: I was not good at math and no way, this
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  Speaker 3: is still not fourth grade. And she said she was
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  Speaker 3: introducing fractions, and she said she introduced it in such
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  Speaker 3: a way like this is going to be a hard one.
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  Speaker 3: We might need to part.
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  Speaker 1: Uh.
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  Speaker 3: You know, Miss Banks, I think you need to scoot
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  Speaker 3: your desk over with miss Shepherd. Susan Shepherd, my friend,
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  Speaker 3: and she said, Susan, you're gonna have to help Terry
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  Speaker 3: with the whole. I was so embarrassed. I was fourth
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  Speaker 3: grade and I was so embarrassed. Of course, I used humor.
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  Speaker 3: That's how my family, you know, operates, so I did.
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  Speaker 3: But this is what I remember about it that I
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  Speaker 3: was so crushed. But I went home and I was
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  Speaker 3: so sad and what nine nine years old? Ten years old?
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  Speaker 3: And Dad said, what's wrong? And I said, I told
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  Speaker 3: him the story, and I started bawling. I said, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not stupid. I know I'm not stupid. And he put
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  Speaker 3: me on his lap, sat on his laugh and he said,
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  Speaker 3: he said, Terry, look, let me tell you something. Let
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  Speaker 3: me tell you something about the Misbridges of the world.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell you what you have that miss Bridge
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  Speaker 3: will never have. You've got a heart for people. People
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  Speaker 3: respond to you. You're going to go so far in
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  Speaker 3: this live, Terry, because you get people, you understand them.
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  Speaker 3: You're very smart. You may not know math, and we'll
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  Speaker 3: get a tutor if you need that, but you have
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  Speaker 3: something she didn't have, that social skills. And from that
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  Speaker 3: point it went onto this whole thing, and I felt
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  Speaker 3: like I was elevated to the sky. I thought, I've
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  Speaker 3: got to conquer anything and everything. My dad just told
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  Speaker 3: me yeah, and so I don't know she was being mean,
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  Speaker 3: but it was one of the days I'll never forget
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  Speaker 3: as long as I live. The other one was the
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  Speaker 3: remember those ladies that kept us at the at the nurseryom,
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  Speaker 3: mom and dad.
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  Speaker 2: We go to church.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, at the wait not BB and uh like when
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  Speaker 4: that lady hit you, Yes, oh my gosh. So she
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  Speaker 4: I was little Terry and I were going to daycare.
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  Speaker 4: Terry's sixteen months younger than me, so I felt like
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  Speaker 4: I was so much older. And Terry did something in
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  Speaker 4: a teacher slapped her and then put her in the corner,
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  Speaker 4: and I went and stood in the corner with her,
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  Speaker 4: and I remember, remember that with me.
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  Speaker 3: My sister was in the corner with me.
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  Speaker 4: It was the last time, last time we ever because
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  Speaker 4: then you told Mammy.
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  Speaker 1: And that was it.
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  Speaker 3: We never did go back.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Wow yeah. So how do you think those those moments
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  Speaker 1: of adults being mean to you still affect you today?
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  Speaker 4: I think it still affects you in how you treat children.
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  Speaker 4: Because of going through an experience where someone's mean to you,
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  Speaker 4: you never forget that that you never want to make
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  Speaker 4: another child ever, Like we talked about the Karen at
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  Speaker 4: the Philly game, you know, and taking the ball from
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  Speaker 4: the boy or the CEO, you know, taking the hat.
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  Speaker 4: Those kids will never forget that experience. But I'm telling
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  Speaker 4: you what, they will never let that happen to anyone else,
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  Speaker 4: any other kid. So sometimes I think those kinds of
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  Speaker 4: experiences are important because it helps us have empathy, but
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  Speaker 4: it also helps us in our own educating other children
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  Speaker 4: or well.
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  Speaker 3: And also it's like, you know, y'all know that I
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  Speaker 3: love to collect books about the greats. The great you know, athletes, coaches,
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  Speaker 3: business leaders, presidents, and what makes them so great is
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  Speaker 3: the adversity they get around, whether it's a person, whether
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  Speaker 3: it's health, whether it's financial, christ something has come into
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  Speaker 3: their life and they were forced to get around that.
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  Speaker 3: So I always look at that and I think, I
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  Speaker 3: never want to be that chapter in someone's book where
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  Speaker 3: I was the adversity that they had to get around
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  Speaker 3: to become great. I never wanted to be that chapter.
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  Speaker 3: And there are coaches in my children's lives that I thought,
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  Speaker 3: that's your chapter. You know that, that's you. I'll never
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  Speaker 3: be that in someone's chapter. I'll do everything I can
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  Speaker 3: to not be.
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  Speaker 1: That's very interesting because I definitely want to be much
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  Speaker 1: more of a mentor than an obstacle for sure. For folks, that's.
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  Speaker 2: More where my goal is.
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  Speaker 4: Now.
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  Speaker 1: Whether I achieve that or not, that's you know, that
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  Speaker 1: can be very that's up to someone else's interpretation.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, that's my.
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  Speaker 3: Goal for sure. I think that's everybody. If you're in
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  Speaker 3: this world and you want to be catapulted to your
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  Speaker 3: own greatness, your own destiny, then that's all you can
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  Speaker 3: really imagine wanting to do is to be that person
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  Speaker 3: that's gonna uplift encouraged. Be like my dad. He made
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  Speaker 3: us feel like that we could conquer the world, you know,
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  Speaker 3: just be that.
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