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Believe in Yourself: The Journey of Risk, Goals, and Vision · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Why pay the price? Why work this hard? Why go
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  Speaker 1: this far? Why try to learn this much? Why try
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  Speaker 1: to do it all? Why try to see it all?
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  Speaker 1: Why try to have it all? Why do it? Why
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  Speaker 1: learn it? Why study? Why put yourself out? Why try
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  Speaker 1: to take on this much responsibility? Why develop yourself to
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  Speaker 1: the full? Why try to become all that you can
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  Speaker 1: possibly become?
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  Speaker 2: Why try to earn.
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  Speaker 1: As much as you can earn, share as much as
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  Speaker 1: you can share, Develop every skill you possibly can, see,
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  Speaker 1: every human you possibly can, go to, every class you
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  Speaker 1: possibly can touch, everybody you possibly can.
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  Speaker 2: Why do that much?
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  Speaker 1: Why go that far? Why share that much? Why give
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  Speaker 1: that much away? Why try to see everything? White? Try
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  Speaker 1: to do everything white? Try to become everything. That's a
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  Speaker 1: good question why, And you're the only one personally that
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  Speaker 1: can answer that question for yourself. You've got to have
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  Speaker 1: your own list of whys. Here's what I want you
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  Speaker 1: to do when you go home after you've left this extravaganza,
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  Speaker 1: work on your list of whys. One of the big
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  Speaker 1: thrust for success is to come up with a strong
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  Speaker 1: enough why.
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  Speaker 2: In leadership training, here's what we learn.
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  Speaker 1: If the why is powerful, the how is easy. But
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  Speaker 1: if the why isn't strong. If your goals aren't powerful,
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  Speaker 1: if the vision isn't clear. The old prophet said, without
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  Speaker 1: a vision, we die. Without a vision, we perish without
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  Speaker 1: a dream. Where nothing From the movie The Professionals. I
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  Speaker 1: listened to Bill Haro and give his testimony yesterday. From
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  Speaker 1: the movie The Professional As have said, we joined because
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  Speaker 1: we believed. We stayed because we were committed. We left
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  Speaker 1: because we were disillusioned, but we came back because we
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  Speaker 1: were lost. Without a dream, we are nothing. Goals are
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  Speaker 1: important for a genuinely success oriented person. Without them, you're
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  Speaker 1: just playing around. The difference between a goal directed individual
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  Speaker 1: and someone without goals is like the difference between a
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  Speaker 1: Wimbledon champion and a kid batting a tennis ball around
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  Speaker 1: on a court with nonet, no opponent to bring out
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  Speaker 1: the best in him, and no way of keeping score.
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  Speaker 1: Despite everything that's been written about the importance of goal setting,
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  Speaker 1: very few people actually put it into practice. It's always
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  Speaker 1: amazed me the way the average person devotes more thought
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  Speaker 1: and effort to planning his or her too weak vacation
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  Speaker 1: than to planning his life. Goals represent challenge in its
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  Speaker 1: most positive form. Leaders have their personal goals as well
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  Speaker 1: as those of their organization clearly in focus. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: one of the principal responsibilities of leadership is defining goals
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  Speaker 1: for the vast majority of people who aren't able to
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  Speaker 1: do it for themselves.
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  Speaker 2: Over the years, I've developed.
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  Speaker 1: Some ideas about effective goal setting, and I'd like to
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  Speaker 1: share those with you. I also want to point out
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  Speaker 1: some traps of goal directed behavior that aren't usually talked about,
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  Speaker 1: but certainly ought to be. When I was a kid,
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  Speaker 1: I used to dream what it would be like to
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  Speaker 1: buy a ticket on a train and just go someplace.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't really think about where I'd be going or
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  Speaker 1: how long it would take to get there. I just
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  Speaker 1: love the idea of getting on the train and letting
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  Speaker 1: it take me someplace. I guess there's still something appealing
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  Speaker 1: about that idea, but it's not really the way you
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  Speaker 1: should live your life as a mature human being. When
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  Speaker 1: you grow up, you buy a ticket on a train
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  Speaker 1: or a plane because you want to go someplace and
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  Speaker 1: you know exactly where you're going. You may have to
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  Speaker 1: change planes in a different city. Your flight may be canceled,
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  Speaker 1: or you may have to switch to another flight. You
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  Speaker 1: may not feel like talking to the person seated next
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  Speaker 1: to you, but you will persist. You know where you're headed,
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  Speaker 1: and you're quite determined to get there. That's goal directed
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  Speaker 1: behavior in its simplest form.
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  Speaker 2: There are short.
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  Speaker 1: Term goals and long term goals. Sometimes you're flying across
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  Speaker 1: the country, other times you're just walking down to the
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  Speaker 1: corner grocery store.
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  Speaker 2: Long term goals are the equivalent of a major journey.
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  Speaker 2: When you reach the.
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  Speaker 1: Point where you've achieved your long term goals, your life
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  Speaker 1: will be fundamentally changed, and the process of getting to
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  Speaker 1: that point will have transformed you into a stronger, wiser,
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  Speaker 1: and higher performing person. How can you identify your long
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  Speaker 1: term goals? On a sheet of paper or in a notebook,
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  Speaker 1: write these five headings one what do I want to do?
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  Speaker 2: Two? Who do I want to d? Three? What do
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  Speaker 2: I want to see? Four? What do I want to have? Five?
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  Speaker 2: Where do I want to go?
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  Speaker 1: Under each of these categories, write down several.
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  Speaker 2: Possible long term goals. Be very relaxed about this.
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  Speaker 1: Just allow your mind to flow and come up with
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  Speaker 1: three to six ideas for each category.
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  Speaker 2: Don't worry about a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of details at this point, and don't spend too much
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  Speaker 1: time describing a particular goal. For example, refer to category one.
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  Speaker 1: Suppose you want to write a book about the history
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  Speaker 1: of your family, going back to the arrival of your
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  Speaker 1: great grandparents in the United States. Just quickly jot down
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  Speaker 1: family history. Then it occurs to you that you've always
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  Speaker 1: wanted to see the pyramids in Egypt, so you write Pyramids.
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  Speaker 1: Keep writing down ideas. As long as the list of
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  Speaker 1: categories continues to inspire you, you'll probably be surprised at
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  Speaker 1: some of the things that turn up.
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  Speaker 2: You may have kept a great many.
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  Speaker 1: Desires and aspirations hidden in the back of your mind,
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  Speaker 1: but the opportunity to write them down will move them
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  Speaker 1: to the forefront of your consciousness. That's one of the
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  Speaker 1: benefits of this technique. When you're satisfied with your list
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  Speaker 1: of long term goals, read through the list once again.
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  Speaker 1: Then beside each item, write the number of years that
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  Speaker 1: you believe it will take you to achieve.
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  Speaker 2: That particular goal.
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  Speaker 1: It's best to round off the numbers into one year,
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  Speaker 1: three year, five year, and ten year timeframe. For example,
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  Speaker 1: you may estimate that it will take you ten years
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  Speaker 1: to research.
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  Speaker 2: And write the book on your family.
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  Speaker 1: History, but you'll need only five years to reach a
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  Speaker 1: position where you can take a trip to the pyramids.
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  Speaker 1: Create a timeframe like this for every one of your
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  Speaker 1: long term goals. When you're finished entering your time frames,
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  Speaker 1: there should be a fairly balanced distribution for all your goals.
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  Speaker 2: If there are.
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  Speaker 1: Many one and three year objectives but only a few
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  Speaker 1: in the ten year category, maybe you need to think
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  Speaker 1: more about what you really want your life to add
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  Speaker 1: up to, what kind of life you really want.
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  Speaker 2: To build over the long run.
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  Speaker 1: But if there's a preponderance of ten year goals and
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  Speaker 1: relatively few of the shorter term variety, this may be
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  Speaker 1: an indication that you tend put things off. Keep working
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  Speaker 1: on your list, adding and subtracting goals with various time
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  Speaker 1: frames until you've created a more or less even distribution.
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  Speaker 1: Now comes the really challenging and interesting part. So far,
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  Speaker 1: you've just been adding things to THLISS. But now it's
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  Speaker 1: time to start making some selections. Now you're going to
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  Speaker 1: start asking yourself it's really important compared to what might
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  Speaker 1: just be fun. Choose four goals from each of the
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  Speaker 1: four time frames one year, three year, five year, and
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  Speaker 1: ten year. You now have sixteen separate goals. So far,
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  Speaker 1: you've only referred to them in shorthand fashion. But now
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  Speaker 1: you're going to start seeing them very clearly in your
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  Speaker 1: mind's eye. You're going to see each goal just as
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  Speaker 1: if it were being realized this very minute, and you're
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  Speaker 1: going to write down a detailed description of exactly what
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  Speaker 1: you see. Do you intend to open a handmaid furniture
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  Speaker 1: store in three years? What will the store look like
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  Speaker 1: from the street. Will there be gold leaf lettering on
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  Speaker 1: the windows or will there be a sign hanging over
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  Speaker 1: the door instead. How many square feet will the store contain.
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  Speaker 1: Will there be a showroom area for the furniture in
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  Speaker 1: front and a workspace and back or will the furniture
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  Speaker 1: be built at a different location. Do you intend to
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  Speaker 1: have any employees or will you run the business entirely
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  Speaker 1: by yourself. Think of all the questions that need to
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  Speaker 1: be answered in order to see your goal with absolute clarity,
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  Speaker 1: and then write the information down.
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  Speaker 2: That written record will.
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  Speaker 1: Become one of your most important personal possessions.
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  Speaker 2: But that's not all.
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  Speaker 1: Any goal is a powerful motivator only if there's a
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  Speaker 1: powerful reason behind it. Why do you want to achieve
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  Speaker 1: your goals? Why do you want to own a handmade
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  Speaker 1: furniture store, or a private airplane or a newspaper in
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  Speaker 1: a small town in Vermont. Why do you want to
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  Speaker 1: compete in a triathlon or visit the Australian Outback, or
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  Speaker 1: be the first woman in your family to earn a PhD.
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  Speaker 1: Write down your reasons for wanting each goal in the
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  Speaker 1: same degree of detail that you use to write your descriptions.
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  Speaker 1: If you can't find a clear and convincing reason for
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  Speaker 1: each of your sixteen goals, do some serious reevaluating. You
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  Speaker 1: may have more whims or pipe dreams than real goals,
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  Speaker 1: and now is the right time to make that discovery.
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  Speaker 1: Keep working on your list until you have sixteen clearly envisioned,
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  Speaker 1: strongly motivating long term goals. At regular intervals, review what
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  Speaker 1: you've written, and keep careful track of your progress toward
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  Speaker 1: these objectives. Above all, persevere goal setting is a very
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  Speaker 1: important first step, but goal achievement is a continuous, lifelong process.
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  Speaker 1: That's what makes it so challenging. That's also why it's
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  Speaker 1: so extremely rewarding to finally attain your long term goals.
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  Speaker 1: Some people never will have much they're too cautious. Now
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  Speaker 1: you can also be too reckless, but you can also
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  Speaker 1: be too cautious. This is called the timid approach to life.
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  Speaker 1: And my caution was always the risk risk us to
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  Speaker 1: drive me right up the wall. I used to say,
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  Speaker 1: what if this happens. It's called the language of the poor,
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  Speaker 1: what if this happens. And on top of that, if
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  Speaker 1: this was to happen, look at the fix I'd be,
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  Speaker 1: and I'd better not try.
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  Speaker 2: I could always ace myself out.
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  Speaker 1: Then I'll tell you what changed my whole life when
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  Speaker 1: I finally discovered it's all risky.
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  Speaker 2: The minute you were born, it got risky.
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  Speaker 1: If you think trying is risky, wait till they hand
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  Speaker 1: you the bill for not trying. If you think investing
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  Speaker 1: is risky, wait till you get the tab for not investing. See,
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  Speaker 1: it's all risky. Getting married is risky, having children is risky.
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  Speaker 1: Going into business is risky. Investing your money is risky.
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  Speaker 1: It's all risky. I'll tell you how risky life is.
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  Speaker 1: You're not gonna get out alive.
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  Speaker 2: That's risky.
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  Speaker 1: The Englishman says, well, if that's the way it's gonna
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  Speaker 1: work out, let's give it a go, right, that's what
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  Speaker 1: it's for.
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  Speaker 2: Give it a go.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody says, yeah, but I'm looking for, sayfty and security. Fine,
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  Speaker 1: then huddle in a corner. We'll cover you with a sheep,
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  Speaker 1: bring you three meals a day, and we'll protect you.
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  Speaker 2: Feed you, look after you, care for you.
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  Speaker 1: We won't let anything happen to you, and you'll probably
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  Speaker 1: live to be one hundred. The guy said, well, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'd live to be one hundred. But what a way
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  Speaker 1: to live, right, What a way to live safe and secure?
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  Speaker 1: Don't ask for security, ask for adventure. Better to live
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  Speaker 1: thirty years full of adventure than one hundred years safe
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  Speaker 1: in the corner. And see, it's not important how long
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  Speaker 1: you live. What's important is how you live. I have
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  Speaker 1: two rules for setting goals. By following these rules, you
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  Speaker 1: will achieve a great deal and become more than you
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  Speaker 1: ever could have imagined. Here's the first rule. Don't set
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  Speaker 1: your goals too low. In leadership, we teach a similar guideline.
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  Speaker 1: Don't join an easy crowd. You won't grow. Go where
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  Speaker 1: the expectations are high. Go where the demands are high.
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  Speaker 1: Go where the pressure is to perform, to grow, to change,
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  Speaker 1: to read.
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  Speaker 2: To study, to develop new skills.
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  Speaker 1: I belong to a small group of people that conducts
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  Speaker 1: business around the world.
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  Speaker 2: You would not.
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  Speaker 1: Believe what we expect of each other in terms of excellence.
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  Speaker 1: Why so that we can each grow, so that we
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  Speaker 1: can contribute something unprecedented to the benefit of the group.
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  Speaker 1: It's called living at the summit. Go where the demands
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  Speaker 1: are high. Go where the expectations are so strong that
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  Speaker 1: they motivate you, push, you urgently, insist that you not
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  Speaker 1: remain in the same place. That way you will grow
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  Speaker 1: and change. So don't set your goals too low. What
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  Speaker 1: about the guy who says, well, I don't need much
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  Speaker 1: is guaranteed not to become much. Here's rule number two
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  Speaker 1: for setting goals. Don't compromise. Don't sell out. There were
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  Speaker 1: some things back in the early years for which I
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  Speaker 1: paid too big a price. If I had known how
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  Speaker 1: much it was going to cost me, I never would
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  Speaker 1: have paid that price, but I didn't know it at
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  Speaker 1: the time. Don't sell out, And as the old saying goes,
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  Speaker 1: count the costs. Remember in that ancient story Judas got
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  Speaker 1: the money. That sounds like a success story, and it
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  Speaker 1: is true that thirty pieces of silver in those days
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  Speaker 1: was a sizable fortune. But having a name that is
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  Speaker 1: synonymous with trader is not what I would call a
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  Speaker 1: success story. Interestingly enough, when Judas got the money after
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  Speaker 1: becoming a trader, he was unhappy. He wasn't unhappy with
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  Speaker 1: the money. He was unhappy with himself. You see, the
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  Speaker 1: greatest source of unhappiness doesn't come from the out side world.
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  Speaker 1: The greatest source of unhappiness comes from within. To alleviate
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  Speaker 1: his unhappiness, Judas tried to return the money, but no
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  Speaker 1: one would take it back, so he decided to just
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  Speaker 1: throw the money away. Why would he throw his fortune
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  Speaker 1: away because he was so unhappy with himself. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: that wasn't the end of the scenario. Throwing his fortune
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  Speaker 1: away did not change what Judas had become a traitor.
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  Speaker 1: In total frustration, he hung himself. Why did Judas have
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  Speaker 1: such a tragic end Because he was so unhappy with himself,
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  Speaker 1: he sold out. He paid too big a price. Don't
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  Speaker 1: compromise your values. Don't compromise your virtue, don't compromise your philosophy.
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  Speaker 1: There are two words from ancient scripture you need to
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  Speaker 1: keep in mind. The first is beware. This is the
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  Speaker 1: negative word. Be aware of what you become in pursuit
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  Speaker 1: of what you want. Don't sell out Indeed, if Judas
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  Speaker 1: were to advise us today, he would tell us to
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  Speaker 1: beware the second word. Behold is the positive one. Behold
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  Speaker 1: the possibilities and the opportunity. Behold the drama, Behold the awesomeness,
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  Speaker 1: Behold the uniqueness, Behold the majesty.
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  Speaker 2: What a positive word. Behold?
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  Speaker 1: Set the kind of goals that will transform your life,
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  Speaker 1: that will make you far better than you are, far
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  Speaker 1: stronger than you currently are, and you will behold