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Interview with Danielle Benzon: How Connection, Community & Coaching Help Us Grow · The Inspired Speaker Network

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Hey, everybody.
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Are you having a great day?
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Yes.
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Oh no, you're not.
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It's okay.
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I got you.
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I'm Tif Loeffler.
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Welcome to Positively Yours.
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I'm going to share Tif's tips, techniques, and
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a little bit of magic to help you
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up level and have a great day every
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day.
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Are you ready to get started?
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Yeah.
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Oh, you're not?
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That's okay.
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I still got you.
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Let's go.
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Oh my gosh, everybody.
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I am so excited.
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Because I have a guest today.
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I love interviewing people.
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I love bringing people to other people.
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I love being a connector.
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That's one of the ways to have a
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great day for me is to connect with
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people.
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It's just the best.
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Now, moving forward, I have made the executive
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decision that I would like to have a
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top Tif tip for having a great day
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at the beginning of each podcast episode.
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Today's is one that is a personal favorite.
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I call it a celestial service announcement because
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when it rains, it pours and I'm talking
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about water.
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So Tif's top tip for having a great
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day is to make sure that you stay
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hydrated.
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There are many schools of thought.
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Some people say you have to have eight
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glasses of water.
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Some people say just drink whatever you're thirsty.
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I'm feeling slightly parched.
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I am actually going to take a sip
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of water right now.
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And if you have a glass, I raise
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this to you and we can have a
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sip of water together.
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And I just think it's important to make
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sure that you have a glass of water
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with you throughout the day.
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You certainly don't want to be dehydrated.
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That is no way to have a great
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day.
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So to recap, water is awesome.
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We are mostly made of water.
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We need to have some water.
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And I have this, I think this is
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very cute.
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I heard this from a doctor and she
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said, no matter what happens with the rest
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of the day, I know I had a
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great day.
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She actually said this because I had a
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glass of water as soon as I got
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up in the morning.
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And I thought that was great.
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So this is even a tip on how
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to start your day off.
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Great is to no matter what, just take
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a glass of water, throw that thing down.
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You're going to feel great.
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And throughout the rest of the day, you
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can just say, look, no matter what, I
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had that glass of water.
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Remember, it's also nice to have a little
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prompt that you can continually go back to
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and feel good about and celebrate because in
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season two, I am so excited that I
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am going to have so many more tips,
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so many ideas of how a great day
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can be created.
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And yet sometimes autopilot is nice too.
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When you're just wait, I didn't even realize
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I'm having a great day.
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Ooh, yes I am.
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Now for me, I have really enjoyed looking
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at how to have a great day through
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the lens of this podcast experience.
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So just a moment, I am going to
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bring on my very first guest and this
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woman is near and dear to my heart.
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She is absolutely phenomenal.
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Incredible.
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Her hair is gorgeous.
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Her face is too.
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I could talk to her for days on
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end.
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I know I'm building this up, but do
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you know why it is so important when
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you are having a great day to be
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able to share it with someone and for
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a long time, it was hard for me
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to have a great day because I didn't,
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I had, I have friends, I have lots
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of friends and I'm very lucky, I have
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lots of acquaintances.
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I have loving family.
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And yet once in a while you need
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that special someone, you need a mentor, you
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need a coach, you need a professional, you
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need someone who really can guide you.
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And I was so blessed and honored to
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be asked to be a part of the
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Inspired Speaker Network.
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And so without further ado, I simply must
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bring her onto the stage.
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The incredible, the incomparable Danielle Benzon of the
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Inspired Speaker Academy, Danielle, I am so thrilled
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that you are here today.
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Thank you so much.
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Oh, Tif, thank you so much.
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I'm absolutely thrilled to be here today.
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And you are one of my favorite client
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friends that I get to call a client
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friend, because sometimes you have friends and sometimes
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you have clients and sometimes you get lucky
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and one person gets to be both and
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you are definitely one of those and thank
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you so much for having me here.
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I'm honored.
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It is my pleasure.
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Now, here's what I want to talk about
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with you, because I really love to talk
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about things through the lens of being a
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woman in business and what I was so
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appreciative of, this was one day and everybody,
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I might take better notes in the future,
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but I just go into the way back
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machine that there was a day that Danielle
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said, Hey Tif, can we have a chat?
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I want to bring something up.
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I want to see what you think.
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And here's the cool part.
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Because in business, I've heard a lot of
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no, like, and trust.
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Okay.
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It's just, you need to know someone like
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someone trust someone.
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And the great part about Danielle is that
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of course I know her.
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Do I like her?
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Absolutely.
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And trust her implicitly in ways I, I
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didn't even know at the time, but I
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said, sure, let's hop on a call.
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And she suggested that we work together.
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And here's why I want to bring this
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up and why Danielle, and I'll give you
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a word edgewise in a little bit, but
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I was just so excited.
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Because here's the deal.
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I was ready for some change in my
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life, in my business.
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And there's a saying that when the student
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is ready, the teacher appears.
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And Danielle appeared as if she dropped down
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from the heavens.
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And there was the, and she said, look,
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I just, I, I would love to work
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with you.
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I think I can, you know, I can
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help you with this, this, and this, and
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what do you think?
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And here's what I wanted to share about
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that.
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Also.
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In the past, I would have immediately, my
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mind would have gone to, yeah, but how
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much is it going to cost?
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Because I had such a low self-esteem
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on the mindset of could I actually afford
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things and is it really going to work
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out this time, but here's where I want
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to give us all that inspired moment.
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And I'm sharing it because it was so
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wonderful to have that.
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I call it, you know, once in a
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lifetime moment and not just for that moment.
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And it wasn't just once, but it's kind
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of convoluted, but it was just, you know
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what, the timing was great.
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Maybe I'm going to say great timing.
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It was great timing.
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And there are going to be moments in
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your life where you get to connect with
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someone and it is great timing.
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And yes, you might think, okay, I don't
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know how I'm going to be able to
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afford this and my goal, and you know
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what?
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It's usually not about money.
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It's about time.
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And if it's not about time, it's about
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that self-worth, that esteem.
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Can I actually do it?
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And yes, finances can play a part.
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And when someone offers you this cool thing
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that you could do together and you have
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that moment where it is either yes, or
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it's, I just can't, it's just a no.
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And the best part about this was I
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was all, I was all yes.
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And there wasn't hesitation.
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If there was any doubt, well, no, there
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was no doubt.
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I just wanted to say yes.
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And so Danielle, I wanted to thank you
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so much.
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The reason I also thank you is because
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you didn't know what you didn't know about
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my circumstances at the time.
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And you, I feel we're taking a stand
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for my greatness and wanted to offer something
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and just see what happens.
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And really it's not what it's all about.
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And I was able to say yes.
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And I was so glad I said yes.
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And now asking you, do you, I, you
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know, it's just kind of fun.
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I don't mean to put you on the
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spotlight.
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Do you remember like, you know, like, Ooh,
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I wonder like, Ooh, maybe she's ready to
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work with me.
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And because we had just kind of recently
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been reconnected, we had known each other for
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a while, just hadn't seen each other.
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Then all of a sudden I saw you
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again.
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I was like, this is awesome.
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And then we're talking and then the offer.
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And I'm like, yes.
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So what, what did you have?
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Do you have anything to, to comment on
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that once in a lifetime, but maybe it's
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not once in a lifetime, but it's the
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great moment.
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It's just feels great.
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You work with someone.
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I like that's a great moment.
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A great moment.
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Yes.
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I have something to say about our great
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moment.
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I definitely, uh, I I'm not one to
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just go out and solicit my services.
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That's not really my style.
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I don't do cold calls.
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I don't do that kind of thing.
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And we, we did know each other and
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we had connected and I only do that.
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I don't do it very often.
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I only do it with people I really
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like.
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I'm like, Oh, I really like this person.
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I really like to work with them and
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people who have indicated to me that they
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have a problem that I could solve.
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So you may not have said it to
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me directly, but at some point in our
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conversation, like in a networking group or something,
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you'd said something about wanting to improve your
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speaking skills, or you'd said something about.
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You said something that made my ears go,
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Oh, Oh, maybe I can help.
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So it wasn't just that I was like,
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Oh, I'm going to call everyone on the
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networking group.
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It wasn't like that at all.
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That is not how I work.
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Tif and I had a connection.
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I already knew that I loved you just
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yourself and that we'd, we'd be a good
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fit to work with each other.
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Cause I loved your energy.
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And then you said something that made me
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think, Oh, Tif is working on something.
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She has a goal that I help people
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with.
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Maybe she'd be interested.
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It doesn't hurt to ask.
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And so that was my attitude going in.
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I wasn't like, Oh, I need to make
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a sale or I don't network that way
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at all.
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And I seldom approach people from networking groups
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with my services, but she had mentioned it.
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I knew we vibed really well.
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And I thought, you know, what's the worst
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that can happen?
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What's it can happen if she says no,
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and we have a great conversation.
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So, you know, there's really no, there's no
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lose in that.
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So I thought, why not just try it?
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And I do, I'm very careful about, because
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my services are extremely high touch.
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I spend a lot of time with my
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clients.
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I am very careful who I offer, who
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I make offers to because we have to
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be a good fit.
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It's, it's like choosing, choosing a speaking coach,
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choosing any sort of coach.
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It's kind of the same as choosing a
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therapist or anything else.
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You have to get along.
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And it's very much about the relationship.
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So we already had a good relationship.
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So it was a lot easier for me.
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Oh, I am so glad to hear you
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say that.
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And I love that you brought that up
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because I do want to let people know
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that you're in business.
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You have a service to offer.
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You have things to give people.
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It is everything right and great to offer
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that to people when the moment presents itself.
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And I just think that's so important.
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And what I also love it, and there's
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just like so much flowing in my head
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right now that I wanted to ask you,
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but I will say this.
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The best part about, well, there's so many
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parts, but one of them is that, yes,
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Danielle, thank you for bringing up the high
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touch.
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It is well worth the investment for me
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to be your client because I appreciate how
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much you give and it is so appreciated.
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And I couldn't thank you enough, especially in
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the next part that I want to talk
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about, but especially that there, there are people,
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I've heard this said about like a coach
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is like a professional friend.
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And I thought that was kind of cute.
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And I like that because a coach, you
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do need to, you, you do like someone
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who's a friend, but you also need someone
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who's going to guide you in a way
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that they, they're just, they're seeing how you
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need that.
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And I appreciate in the initial conversations.
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And as we were developing this relationship and
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how you were helping me and joining your,
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your course for speaking, which by the way
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is super awesome.
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And we just wrapped up, which, okay.
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I'm only going to do this just for
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a moment, because here's the great part.
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When you work with someone, there's always a
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way to continue.
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We only wrapped up part one.
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We only wrapped up part one.
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Okay, good.
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All right.
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That's it.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Thank you.
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There's more.
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Because if there's one thing I would also
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offer is just a little tidbit for someone.
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It's just to make sure that when you
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have the end of a certain segment in
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your goods or services, there are some of
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us that are squishy marshmallows.
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And when you go, okay, yep, that's it.
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We're done.
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We're just like, oh.
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That not might be what you mean, but
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little did I know that not only were
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we engaging in this amazing speaking course, but
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then Danielle do tell, what did you drop
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into my lap?
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That was a gift that I was not
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expecting.
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And it was about this big and I
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could barely see over the edge of it.
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And it had to do with the podcast.
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Oh, I don't know.
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What gift did I give you?
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Oh yes.
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Well, again, I mean, you say it's a
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gift.
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I mean, it's a product.
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We are again, working together.
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So it was an opportunity, but it was
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a special opportunity because launching this network, I
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needed to choose who I was going to
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launch with.
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You can't launch a network all by yourself.
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Well, you can, but then you're the only
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person on the podcast.
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Well, that's really embarrassing.
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So I needed to find people that I
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liked that I wanted to launch with and,
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you know, work with and figure it out
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together with, because this is an adventure for
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me too.
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So I, yeah, I just, I went through
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my clients who I knew were interested in
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podcasting.
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I went through my clients who I knew
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should be doing a podcast, even if they
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hadn't mentioned it.
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And also friends and people that I knew,
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and I made a short list of, I
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think, I think I made a short list
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of seven and five said yes.
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So that was pretty amazing.
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And Tif was definitely on the, well, obviously
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you were on the short list, but you
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were right up there, right up, right up
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there on the short list.
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Because we'd already, and we'd already kind of,
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we'd had a prototype already because we did
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a couple of live streams because I was
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thinking, damn, I got to get Tif doing
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a podcast and she wasn't taking any of
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my hints.
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So, so what I did instead was I
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invited her to do a few lives with
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me on LinkedIn.
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And we had such a great time doing
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that.
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I thought that would make it an easier,
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an easier sell for you to do your
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own podcast now, because you could tell that
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you could do it.
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I am chuckling, but I want to, if
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I had a drink of water and do
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the spit take, because that is the first
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time I have heard you say that.
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Like, that's why we did the lives on
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LinkedIn.
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I thought they were so great.
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And then we didn't do them anymore.
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And I was all like, I'm so sad.
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Well, we're not doing them anymore.
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Then she brought this opportunity again, another once
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in a lifetime.
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That's why it's like, is it once in
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a lifetime?
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It's whatever that opportunity happens in your lifetime.
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You just feel it feels right.
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And it feels great.
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And I don't know if I had mentioned
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to you at some point, I did want
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to actually have a podcast, but I didn't
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know what that entailed.
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But guess what I thought it entailed.
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I thought it entailed a lot of stuff
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I don't know how to do.
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So I don't know if I can do
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it.
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Probably can't do a podcast.
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And I tried before and it was just
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too hard.
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And then I just didn't do it.
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And it's not that I gave up on
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it, but it was certainly in the back
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burner.
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And then you just brought it right to
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the front and said, and now that as
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we're talking, I, of course, we'll try to
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incorporate why I feel this is how we
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have a great day.
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You know how to have that positively great
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day.
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Well, here's the deal.
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It's really nice to have consistent times with
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people who are helping you uplevel, grow, stretch.
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Maybe there's a little bit of struggle.
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Maybe there's a little bit of, I don't
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know if I could do this.
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Someone who has your back and Danielle, I
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can tell you absolutely has her clients back.
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Like you go to bat, you are there
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in ways that I, I just, I still,
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to this day, I'm so impressed with and
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I really appreciate it.
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And it just means so much.
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And the only reason that I, I can't
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tear up at this moment is because I
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just start bawling.
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And then the whole rest of this would
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be like, I love you so much, but
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it's true because having a great day, truly,
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I just feel it's the key of C
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and I like saying that.
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Cause I kind of just thought of that
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during the season one, but I really like
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it.
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And for me, the key of C, the
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one is connection.
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You want to be connected to your great
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day.
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If you want to be connected with people
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who help you stay connected to having a
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great day.
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And once in a while, I'll admit Danielle
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has told me some things gently guided me
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or flat out said things.
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And I'm like, I think one of my
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favorites I'd like to share with everybody.
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And when she you've said, you've got to
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make a decision because I up until a
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certain point, I was just so awfully, I
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love waffles, but you should eat them.
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You shouldn't be them.
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Okay.
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I should not be a waffle where I'm
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like, maybe this, maybe that.
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And thank you, Danielle.
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Okay.
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Just it's saying, taking that declaration, make a
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decision.
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You can always change it, but you have
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to make a decision.
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It's been a very long time since someone
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has said that to me.
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And you said it in a way that
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was direct and loving and all the things.
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And I'm so grateful that I, I just
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thought, okay, I will start to take direction.
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Okay.
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I'm going to start to make decisions.
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And I appreciate that.
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I would, I would love to jump in
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here if that's okay, please, please.
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Yeah.
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Because you said something a little, a little
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while back, I'm going to backtrack a tiny
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bit.
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You said something about how, you know, we
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have a lot of fun together and, but
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it's also challenging.
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Yeah.
17:32
And for me, I think that is essential.
17:34
It is really difficult to master any sort
17:38
of skill if it's always hard, you know,
17:41
because you're not going to do it because
17:42
it's unpleasant.
17:42
It's not fun.
17:43
Why would you do it more?
17:44
Why would you do it?
17:45
So creating as much fun and as much
17:48
play in a process that is inherently difficult,
17:51
like public speaking or inherently scary, I think
17:54
that's where the magic happens.
17:56
Because if we're not having fun, if we're
17:59
not enjoying the process, if we don't have
18:01
each other's back and we're not, we're not
18:03
giggling and you know, all that stuff, doing
18:06
the difficult stuff becomes impossible.
18:09
So having that mix of levity, it doesn't
18:12
make, it doesn't undermine it.
18:13
It's not about distracting from the pain.
18:16
It's about allowing yourself to embrace the pain
18:19
through laughter.
18:20
You know, we're humans.
18:20
We do this very human thing where we
18:22
like to mix emotions together.
18:24
And there's a very big difference between playing
18:27
the fool to distract from the lesson and
18:31
using the pain or the challenge of the
18:34
lesson to create fun and to create joy
18:38
and silliness and play.
18:39
And those are two very, very different things.
18:41
And you do this very well, Tif.
18:43
And I think this is extremely important.
18:46
And there was something else I wanted to
18:48
say.
18:48
Ah, oh, and as a theatre kid, I
18:52
really feel this and especially doing this podcast
18:55
network because we did this whole thing in
18:58
a month.
18:59
And it was a challenge.
19:00
It was a challenge for all of us.
19:02
It was especially a challenge for James and
19:04
I to, we had many sleepless nights getting
19:07
deadlines, but it was so fun.
19:10
It was so much fun because we had
19:14
this deadline, we're all coming together.
19:16
It wasn't, you know, it's not brain surgery.
19:18
If we don't hit the deadline, no one
19:20
dies.
19:20
So there was that.
19:22
But also we all really wanted to hit
19:23
it because we were so close.
19:25
And the way the group came together, that,
19:30
that reminded me of my theatre kid days
19:32
when you're all, you're like, oh, we've got,
19:33
we've got a week to put this production
19:34
on and the costumes aren't ready and the
19:36
lights aren't ready.
19:37
And I don't know my lines.
19:37
And how's this all going to happen?
19:38
And then somehow it just magically all comes
19:40
together at the last minute.
19:42
And somehow on opening night, everything is amazing.
19:45
And it kind of felt the same way.
19:46
This, this podcast launch, this network launch rather,
19:50
the network launch felt like putting on a
19:53
play.
19:54
And that opening night was amazing.
19:56
And it just, it gave me something special.
20:00
So thank you for being part of that,
20:01
Tif.
20:01
And for everyone who was part of it,
20:03
I'm indebted to you all.
20:06
I thank you so much because I love
20:10
to be a part of this network and
20:13
yours is the Inspired Speaker podcast.
20:18
I hope I'm saying that right.
20:19
Did I get it right?
20:21
And we also have Surfing Your Edge and
20:26
The Guiding Parent and Awakening Women on the
20:29
Rise and also Evolving with Elle.
20:32
So I have to make sure that in
20:34
the notes, everybody's podcasts are in there because
20:37
I am so excited for all of us.
20:39
They want to make sure that right away
20:40
I was like, yes, we are absolutely going
20:43
to promote because it's so important.
20:46
Because if I were to have one more
20:50
point about this, that I really appreciate about
20:53
working with Danielle and spoiler alert, I'm going
20:57
to be talking with Danielle throughout season two,
20:59
because there's so many other things that I
21:01
want to talk to her about.
21:01
And we just can't have it in one
21:03
episode.
21:04
So season two is going to be a
21:07
lot of, we need a whole season and
21:09
that's what's happening.
21:10
I'm so excited.
21:11
And this is a part of that connection,
21:13
that group, that I'm going to say sisterhood,
21:16
that you helped us create all of the
21:19
ladies with our podcasts.
21:21
And I'm just so grateful because talk about
21:25
setting ourselves up to have great days.
21:29
I was pretty impressed that we got it
21:30
together when we did.
21:32
Also again, Danielle, I think it was so
21:34
awesome and funny when later on you told
21:37
us, you said, guess what?
21:38
It was an arbitrary date that I picked
21:39
because we just had to pick a date.
21:41
Otherwise, two years from now, we can still
21:44
be talking about it.
21:45
And there was no time for talk.
21:46
The world needs us now.
21:48
And we did this together.
21:51
And speaking of, you know, we're, as I'm
21:54
wrapping up this season with you, which is
21:56
awesome.
21:56
And now season two will be together, be
21:57
even more awesome.
21:59
We are still on a journey.
22:01
Together, all of us in our different podcasts.
22:04
And I think that's so tremendous.
22:05
And we have this, we have this bond
22:09
now.
22:09
We have this energy that is helping us
22:12
to sustain those, those great days, which I
22:16
love.
22:17
I'm just so excited because I have things
22:19
to look forward to.
22:20
And, and that's just means a lot to
22:23
me.
22:23
Thank you.
22:24
And that was something surprising everybody.
22:25
If I were to say, it's really fun
22:28
to have surprises in your, in your having
22:30
a great day means having some surprises.
22:32
And one of the surprises for me was,
22:34
wow, they're going to be a part of
22:35
my future great days.
22:36
And this is an awesome thing.
22:37
And I'm really excited.
22:38
And it gives me a boldness and feeling
22:42
of responsibility.
22:43
And it feels really great.
22:45
Yeah.
22:46
And I do think that that's really important.
22:48
I think community as part of having a
22:51
great day, as part of your, as part
22:53
of your system.
22:55
You know, that you maintain to help you
22:58
to continue to have a great day.
22:59
Cause it doesn't happen by accident.
23:00
It's definitely from knowing Tif, I have learned
23:03
many things about having a great day.
23:05
And one of the things that I've learned
23:06
is that you design it and you plan
23:08
for it.
23:09
And that is one of the things that
23:10
you need to curate is a community because
23:14
when you are alone and something bad happens,
23:18
the only person who can pull you out
23:20
of it is yourself and you're already having
23:21
a bad day.
23:22
So that's much harder to do.
23:23
Whereas if you have a group of people,
23:26
when you get knocked down, you can just
23:29
call someone and say, Hey, just help me
23:31
out.
23:31
I'm not having a great day.
23:33
And just that connection is sometimes enough, but
23:35
often they have something wonderful to say as
23:37
well.
23:37
And this group has really, oh, you have
23:40
supported each other in a way that I
23:42
didn't imagine.
23:42
It was a surprise to me, but it's
23:44
so exciting because I did, I had this
23:47
fantasy about creating this community and everyone's going
23:49
to be together.
23:50
And I do think that the short timeline
23:52
was a huge part of that.
23:54
I don't think it'd be as close as
23:55
you are if I'd given you more time.
23:58
So I do think that it was a
23:59
very smart but manipulative decision on my part
24:03
to create our random launch date.
24:07
But also you have all, you all took
24:09
the challenge, you all stepped up and not
24:11
only stepped up for yourselves, but you stepped
24:13
up for each other.
24:14
And the amount of support and love I
24:17
have seen in this group, it gives me
24:20
hope for humanity, you know?
24:22
I feel that.
24:24
I do.
24:25
Yeah.
24:25
And I thank you because, well, I love
24:29
that you talked about manipulation.
24:30
My boyfriend likes to say it's positive manipulation.
24:33
Okay.
24:35
But also what a savvy business move.
24:38
I love it.
24:39
And also understanding the psychology of the human
24:42
brain, it was fantastic.
24:45
We all, it wasn't trial by fire though.
24:47
It was just, it was a short timeframe,
24:51
but you also gave us the tools and
24:55
you gave us your support and you gave
24:58
us a framework, a blueprint.
25:01
And that is so wonderful because you know
25:04
what?
25:04
You can have your organic great days, the
25:06
days that just pop up.
25:07
There's just like, yep, it's just happening, which
25:09
is great.
25:10
But again, sometimes it's a challenge to rely
25:13
on that, especially when you have a great
25:15
project you're working on, like helping launch a
25:18
podcast network.
25:19
And so that's where the planning and the
25:22
support come in.
25:24
And I just am so delighted that we've
25:27
had some time together.
25:29
Is there, is there anything else that you
25:31
would like to add about the experience of
25:33
launching this network?
25:34
Because I think this is tremendous that you
25:36
are helping so many people have great days,
25:38
not just for us who have been a
25:41
part of this first level launch, the initial
25:43
launch, but also all the people who are
25:45
going to be listening to our podcast.
25:47
I'm just so excited.
25:48
People are already listening.
25:49
It's very exciting.
25:51
I know people are listening to us speak
25:52
right now.
25:53
Isn't that crazy?
25:54
Oh, right.
25:57
Yeah, no, I do think it was, it
25:59
was a really surprising experience.
26:01
I learned so much.
26:02
I think we all grew a lot over
26:03
the last month.
26:04
I definitely grew in ways I wasn't expecting.
26:07
I learned things that I don't think I
26:09
would have learned if I hadn't put myself
26:11
under pressure.
26:12
But it was, it was wonderful because typically
26:15
when I give myself projects, I put myself
26:17
under way too much pressure and I don't
26:18
have enough support and I burn out and
26:21
I collapse.
26:22
And this was the first time in a
26:23
long time that I've had enough support that
26:27
the goals were realistic.
26:29
There was a push, but they were realistic.
26:31
And also if we didn't reach them, I
26:33
had a backup plan as well.
26:35
So there was also that.
26:36
So that was nice.
26:37
I didn't want to use the backup plan
26:39
for pride, but there was one, so it
26:41
was okay.
26:42
And there were just so many things that
26:45
came together magically that I didn't anticipate.
26:51
But also the big gift was that the
26:56
five of you kind of dived in blind
26:58
with me.
26:59
I said, Hey, I want to do this
27:00
thing.
27:01
I've never done it before.
27:03
I have a good idea of what I'm
27:04
doing, but I know that I only know
27:09
50%.
27:09
You know, you know, you don't know what
27:11
you don't know.
27:11
And I was very aware that I didn't
27:13
know what I didn't know going in.
27:14
I think I planned well, but you never
27:17
know.
27:18
I'm anticipating a lot of challenges, unforeseen challenges
27:22
along the way.
27:23
This is a big experiment.
27:24
Would you like to come and be guinea
27:26
pigs essentially with me?
27:28
And you were all so keen.
27:30
It was so fun to experiment and to
27:33
be allowed to be messy and to be
27:35
allowed to not know what I was doing
27:37
and to go like, Hey, I'm going to
27:39
figure it out.
27:40
I know what our goal is.
27:42
I know at least 50% of the
27:44
pieces.
27:45
We'll figure out the other pieces on the
27:47
way.
27:47
As long as we keep communicating, as long
27:49
as everyone stays flexible and stays positive, we'll
27:52
get this done.
27:53
And it was such a wonderful experience because
27:56
that need to be perfect and to know
27:59
everything before you start, that's a very strong
28:03
temptation.
28:05
And I very purposefully, like Christine Goad of
28:09
Surfing the Edge says, you know, you got
28:11
to just sometimes you just got to throw
28:12
yourself into the deep end and see what
28:13
happens.
28:14
And I am not usually one who does
28:16
that kind of thing, especially with my speakers,
28:18
because I don't believe in shocking the nervous
28:21
system.
28:21
But this wasn't that.
28:22
This wasn't throwing us into the deep end.
28:24
It was just, I've got a challenge.
28:26
It's a realistic, it's a big challenge, but
28:28
it's a realistic challenge.
28:30
And I just want to be messy and
28:32
experiment and see how far we get.
28:34
And you all came with me and we
28:36
got way further than I thought we would.
28:38
And it was so cool.
28:39
And I'm so stoked.
28:41
I am too.
28:43
And I, I so appreciate that you offered
28:47
us an adventure.
28:49
And having a great day is all about
28:51
having adventures.
28:53
So you don't have to know all the
28:55
parts of this adventure.
28:56
Just know that you're going on one and
28:58
just be open to the possibilities of this
29:00
adventure, which we did.
29:01
And here we are.
29:03
And I am so excited to say that
29:06
I'm wrapping up season one and now season
29:09
two is on the horizon.
29:11
And thank you for being a part of
29:13
that and joining me.
29:15
And I just I can't thank you enough.
29:17
And, and to Wendy and Elle and Tammy
29:22
and her daughter.
29:25
And it's just been, it's just been such
29:28
a, and Christine.
29:30
And what I appreciate is that.
29:35
Oh, cause Christine does surf on the edge,
29:37
right?
29:37
Okay.
29:37
I just want to make sure that I,
29:39
I want to name drop everybody.
29:41
Shannon is Tammy's daughter.
29:43
And Christine, okay.
29:44
Thank you.
29:45
Cause I was like, Oh, I just met
29:46
Shannon.
29:47
It's hard to keep track of everybody.
29:49
Well, that's what, and again, here's the best
29:51
part.
29:51
Like in the past, we've been like, I
29:52
can't remember if it's like, no, just go
29:54
for it.
29:54
Just start name and name.
29:55
It's going to come to you.
29:56
Thank you, Danielle for, cause I just met
29:58
Shannon and it's just so much fun.
29:59
And again, adventures continue and having great days
30:03
include continuing adventures.
30:06
And so that's why I just appreciate that
30:09
we are on a continuing adventure.
30:11
So although I, I am saying chow for
30:14
now to you.
30:15
I'm so excited that we're going to, we're
30:17
going to pick up where we left off
30:19
in season two, and that's going to be
30:20
very exciting.
30:21
So thank you for being a part of
30:23
this journey with me, not only helping me
30:25
create my journey, but being a part of
30:27
this podcast with me because you're outstanding and
30:30
I love you with all my heart.
30:32
Well, you are outstanding and I love you
30:34
with all my heart as well.
30:35
And I just thought of a really lovely
30:36
thing for me to say to say thank
30:38
you.
30:38
And goodbye is instead of waffling on, I'm
30:41
just going to say chow.
30:44
I love it.
30:45
Thank you, darling.
30:46
You are the best.
30:48
And I give a big round of applause
30:49
to Danielle Benzon.
30:51
Yay.
30:51
The Inspired Speaker Academy is a great place
30:55
to get your speak on telling you.
30:58
And the course is great.
30:59
And this podcast has been epic.
31:02
And I, I wanted to share in, as
31:07
I'm wrapping up this, this first season, it
31:10
has been so amazing.
31:11
I have so appreciated the love and support.
31:15
I do want to thank Danielle again, especially
31:17
for those moments where those moments that were
31:22
many moments where I got to feel like
31:24
a VIP rockstar.
31:25
I just, I felt both sides.
31:27
I felt like the rockstar.
31:28
I felt like the VIP behind the, you
31:30
know, just, just all the things when you
31:33
allow yourself to let someone give you tools
31:38
to have a great day, that's really important.
31:40
And that's one of the things we're going
31:41
to be talking about in season two.
31:43
So.
31:45
As I try to wrap it up, I
31:47
do want to say having a great day
31:50
does take a bit of planning and it
31:52
can happen organically.
31:54
But what I especially appreciate is that when
31:56
you allow people in your life that give
31:59
you the tools, the opportunity, the openness, it's
32:03
really wonderful when you let people into your
32:05
life.
32:06
So I would just encourage us to just
32:08
take a moment and think of someone that
32:11
we've let into our life that has helped
32:14
us have great days that we, we knew
32:17
they could, but in ways we didn't even
32:19
think possible.
32:20
And right now, yes.
32:21
Closing my eyes, thinking of Danielle.
32:24
And it is nice to take a pause
32:26
and think of someone that you appreciate.
32:28
And I appreciate all of you.
32:31
And I'm really glad that we are on
32:33
an adventure together on learning how to develop
32:37
having a great day.