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136. Roadblocks to Your Best Self · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hey team, thanks for being here. Hope you're having an awesome
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  week. Today in this episode, I want to
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  ask the question and discuss what keeps you from being your
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  best, your best self, the best version of you?
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  What keeps people from rising up and being able to achieve that
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  best self. You know, we're all kind of
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  striving as humans to become better versions of ourselves,
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  whether it's in our career or relationships or athletics or
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  creative endeavors, whatever it might be.
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  It's sort of just a way of being for humans.
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  We often are striving to become better.
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  It's this idea of having a growth mindset.
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  It's wanting to pursue excellence in different ways.
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  And I love this conversation because I've had the privilege
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  of being able to talk to a lot of different people from all
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  walks of life and see what separates the people who are
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  really rising up and striving and achieving versus the people
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  who are struggling and not really living up to their
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  potential. When I think about all these
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  different conversations, I find that in order for people to be
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  able to make successful change or to pursue something and
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  really achieve it, to rise up and to become a better version
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  of self, I think it's important for them to 1st understand
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  what's in the way, the roadblocks.
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  And I think about this a lot. And so I came up with a list of
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  seven things that have showed up the most in my conversations
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  with people over the years, common things that keep people
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  from being their best self. And I wanted to share these with
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  you today in case any of them resonate and you might be able
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  to identify a roadblock that's been in your way for a time.
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  So the first one is lack of awareness.
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  Lack of awareness is a big roadblock.
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  Most people don't even realize that they're living below their
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  potential. They don't even realize that
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  they're not showing up as their best self, that they have more
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  to give or more to live. So many individuals are in
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  autopilot. They are reacting to the world
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  instead of reflecting or being proactive.
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  We've talked about that many times.
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  There's not a lot of radical ownership happening in the
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  world. And because of that, there is a
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  lack of awareness. And without awareness, there's
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  no opportunity to course correct.
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  You can't change what you're not aware of.
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  You can't change what you don't know.
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  And this is the first one for a reason.
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  I think if we were to start anywhere, it would be to start
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  with our own self-awareness so that we could become better
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  leaders, better communicators, better spouses, better family
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  members, friends, and with a little more self knowledge, we
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  could find the solutions that we're looking for to help us get
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  to where we want to go in life. The second one is fear, and this
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  could be fear of failure. It could be fear of success,
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  honestly, sometimes. But fear is a huge thing that
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  keeps us from being our best. Fear keeps people playing small.
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  It could be fear of not measuring up, maybe fear of
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  disappointing other people, of being judged sometimes,
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  ironically. It's fear of succeeding and not
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  not being able to keep it up, not being able to sustain it,
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  maybe not be able to sustain the wealth that we've created.
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  It's this question that we ask ourselves, what if I give
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  everything I've got and it still doesn't work?
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  So that fear is a very powerful motivator and it shows up in so
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  many different ways, in so many different disguises.
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  The third thing that keeps us from being our best is somewhat
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  related to fear, but it's all narratives and limiting beliefs.
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  And the reason it's related to fear is because fear is often
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  the root emotion behind old stories and limiting beliefs.
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  I call them saboteurs, but you might call them the inner
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  critic. The inner critic is so loud and
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  stories from our childhood, maybe past failures, past
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  relationships, being in comparison with other people, it
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  can convince us that we are not enough, that we're not worthy,
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  that we're not, we don't belong, that we're not smart enough or
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  fit enough or disciplined enough.
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  And beliefs, the stories that we have, the beliefs that we carry,
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  they shape our behavior. If someone believes they're not
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  worthy, they'll act accordingly, even if those beliefs are
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  subconscious. The 4th 1 is low energy and poor
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  health. And this one is so incredibly
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  important because our biological energy really does determine how
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  we can show up in the world. When your body's depleted, it's
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  almost impossible to be your best self.
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  And poor sleep, nutrition, chronic stress, inflammation,
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  all of those things will erode our energy, our physical energy,
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  our mental emotional energy, they all chip away at our
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  ability to have that 10 out of 10 energy like we all strive
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  for. It's hard to think about
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  becoming our best self. It's hard to think about self
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  actualization when you're just trying to get through your day
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  and survive. So low energy and poor health is
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  number 4 #5 is lack of clarity. People don't know what their
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  best self actually looks like. Most of the time, it's because
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  they haven't defined what they want.
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  They haven't defined what matters most to them or who they
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  want to be. And so without a target, there's
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  really no direction. They don't know where they're
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  going or what they're shooting for.
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  Clarity is power. Clarity is so helpful to
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  understanding who am I at my very best?
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  Without that clarity, people just kind of drift and they end
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  up being that person who's tossed in the waves of life,
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  constantly reacting to the next wave.
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  The 6th 1 is our environment, and I'm talking about the people
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  in the spaces around us. People in spaces shape us.
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  If someone is surrounded by negativity or chaos or constant
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  stress, or people who don't value growth or the things that
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  they value, it's really hard to rise above that.
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  You don't need a perfect environment, but you do need an
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  intentional 1. You always hear the saying
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  you're the average of the five people you spend the most time
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  with, and this is a similar sentiment.
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  The people in the spaces around you will shape you.
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  And so we have to think about who are the voices that we're
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  hearing most of the time? What is the music and the
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  podcasts and books that I'm listening to or reading?
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  What is the news and the social media that I'm consuming, and
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  what is the energy of the space that I'm living in?
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  For the most part, my home, my work environment, where I'm
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  spending most of my time. All of that stuff matters.
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  Your environment influences you. And finally, the seventh thing
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  that I believe really keeps people from becoming the best
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  version of themselves is a lack of support or accountability.
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  Because trying to grow alone is hard without people who
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  encourage you or challenge you or reflect truth back to you
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  like a mirror. It's really easy to miss things.
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  It can be easy to stall out. It can be easy to settle.
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  You've heard me talk about scaffolding before.
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  The support system that holds us up as we're trying to build.
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  Just like the scaffolding around a building, we have to have it.
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  We have to have something that will hold us up during a storm
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  or as we're trying to grow. Our transformation thrives when
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  we have connection. And so it's really important to
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  ask ourselves who can we surround ourself with that will
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  support me and cheerlead me and encourage me, but also hold me
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  accountable to the things that I say that I want in my life to
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  hold me accountable to becoming a better version of myself.
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  Those people are the gold in your life team.
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  If you have them, hold onto them.
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  If you don't feel like you have those people, seek them out
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  because it is a huge part of becoming the best version of
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  ourselves. So my challenge to you this week
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  is to just think about these seven and identify is there any
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  of these that really feel like they're missing in my life?
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  If so, how can I start to lean into that a little bit and find
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  a way to move that roadblock, find a way around it so that I
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  can access the solutions and start to rise up into my
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  potential? Because you've got it, baby.
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  You've got a lot to offer the world.
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  There is so much impact that you have the ability to have in this
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  world. We just have to know what the
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  roadblocks are so that we can move them out of the way.
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  And this is a great start. So I hope this helps.
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  I know that if you're listening to a podcast like this, you are
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  one of those people who is striving to become a better
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  version of yourself. So I thank you for that.
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  We need people like you in this world.
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  It's just all about that information and inspiration so
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  that we can continue to become powerful people in the world.
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  Thank you for being here and for listening.
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  And as always, thank you for being ready to Impact Team.
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