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BONUS: All The Questions About VPR Season 11 · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to the bonus episode of You
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  Speaker 1: Give Them All a Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: If you listen to Wednesday's episode, you guys know.
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  Speaker 1: That today I am addressing any questions I guess, the
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  Speaker 1: top questions that you guys have had for me throughout
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  Speaker 1: the course of season eleven. I know that many of
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  Speaker 1: you have said that I surround myself with yes people.
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  Speaker 2: That is not true.
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  Speaker 1: I have a lot of people in my circle who
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  Speaker 1: are tremendous support systems. But when I look back on
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  Speaker 1: my life, especially starting season four to where I am now,
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  Speaker 1: a lot has happened in my world. I've gotten sober,
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  Speaker 1: I've gone through a really tough breakup. I've handled myself
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  Speaker 1: in a very eloquent way, and then I've burned that
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  Speaker 1: to the ground. Many of time, you don't go through
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  Speaker 1: the types of changes like I've gone through in my life,
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  Speaker 1: the evolution that I've gone through in my life, what
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  Speaker 1: we call I guess in Hollywood or TV biz a
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  Speaker 1: character arc. You don't go through the one that I've
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  Speaker 1: had being surrounded by yes people.
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  Speaker 2: You just don't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm proud of where I am. I am still human
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  Speaker 1: and make many mistakes. I'm okay with that, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: too proud to admit that there are times where I
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  Speaker 1: go Damn, I've had a really humbling moment just now.
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  Speaker 1: They happened to me all the time, and it's never
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  Speaker 1: going to change that. I will always continue being my
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  Speaker 1: biggest fan, because if I don't continue to practice self
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  Speaker 1: love and self support, I can go into a dark place.
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  Speaker 1: So I do have many people around me who support me,
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  Speaker 1: but they check me a lot, and I'm grateful for
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  Speaker 1: that today because I've been told I'm surrounded by yes people.
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  Speaker 1: I have pulled producer John, who you guys know from
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  Speaker 1: the regular episodes. He's going to ask me the questions
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  Speaker 1: again I've been off social media. I had him come
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  Speaker 1: through all of the top questions. He wrote them down.
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  Speaker 1: Unless it's a RAMS game, he's not tuning in. So
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  Speaker 1: he became aware of La La Kent when my home
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  Speaker 1: podcast network said Hey, you'll be producing a show called
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  Speaker 1: Give Them Lala and he's like the RAMS What So.
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  Speaker 2: Here's producer John.
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  Speaker 1: He does not know much about anything but sports and
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  Speaker 1: the podcast that we do together, but as far as VPR,
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  Speaker 1: he's an outsider.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome John.
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  Speaker 3: It feels great to be on camera. Holy moly, I
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  Speaker 3: have a beaniance, so none of you guys are gonna
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  Speaker 3: get blinded by this bald head.
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  Speaker 2: So we love it. He's not a yes man.
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  Speaker 1: He's just gonna simply ask the top questions that y'all
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  Speaker 1: have asked throughout season eleven.
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  Speaker 2: I will answer in my truth and we'll move on.
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  Speaker 3: All right, let's ride. Number one. Are you upset bpr
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  Speaker 3: is paused?
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm quite the opposite. I feel like I need
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  Speaker 1: a break. I feel like the rest of my cast
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  Speaker 1: needs a break. As much as I love filming the show,
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  Speaker 1: it can become very volatile. We are I'm hyper sensitive
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  Speaker 1: and emotional, especially being pregnant. To be honest, when I
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  Speaker 1: heard we were paused, it was like an elephant lifted
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  Speaker 1: off of my chest because it was like, I get
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  Speaker 1: to create a very peaceful environment for this new baby
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  Speaker 1: that I'm bringing into the world, and I just feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's meant to be.
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  Speaker 3: All right, let's move on. Number two. Are you trying
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  Speaker 3: to get on the valley? You bought a house there.
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  Speaker 1: I have not had any conversations about entering the valley.
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  Speaker 1: I have had no thought about going on the valley.
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  Speaker 1: I bought a house in the Valley because I could
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  Speaker 1: not afford a home that was large enough for my
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  Speaker 1: family with a yard in the flats of Beverly Hills.
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  Speaker 1: When you're ready to be a homeowner and you make
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  Speaker 1: what me or my friends.
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  Speaker 2: Make, you move to the valley.
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  Speaker 1: That's just what you do. There was nothing behind it
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  Speaker 1: except this is what we can afford, and it's a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful space for my family. We're suburban people.
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  Speaker 3: Now, I guess, welcome to the Valley.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Next question, did you really pitch your own spinoff?
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  Speaker 1: I have never pitched a spin off about my life.
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  Speaker 3: No, all right, let's move on to the next one.
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  Speaker 3: Did you get pregnant for a storyline?
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  Speaker 2: Is that really a question?
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  Speaker 3: That is a question? I got it right here.
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  Speaker 2: The thing about like, I don't. I don't even know
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  Speaker 2: how to answer this because it's.
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  Speaker 1: Such an absurd thing to say someone to say, like
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  Speaker 1: a storyline.
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  Speaker 2: This show we filmed two months out of the year.
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  Speaker 1: It would be crazy of me to go and prep
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  Speaker 1: my body and get a donor and choose single motherhood
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  Speaker 1: for the next eighteen But really probably twenty one, twenty two,
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  Speaker 1: twenty five, thirty, who the fuck knows forever? To have
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  Speaker 1: one season of a storyline. It just wouldn't make much sense. No,
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  Speaker 1: I love being a mom more than anything. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to give my daughter a sibling. I knew that I
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  Speaker 1: wanted them close in age, and I feel so grateful
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  Speaker 1: that I was able to bring a baby into the
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  Speaker 1: worlds and not have a partner. It's like the best
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  Speaker 1: of both worlds that is sold to meet and what
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  Speaker 1: people are saying, But it also doesn't it tracks because
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  Speaker 1: there's many people on Bravo Mauricio and Kyle, for example,
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  Speaker 1: They're staging their breakup for a storyline. They're changing the
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  Speaker 1: dynamic of their family in twenty seven years of marriage
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  Speaker 1: for a storyline.
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  Speaker 2: It's absolutely absurd. No, I am not bringing.
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  Speaker 1: A child into the world stretching my body in all
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  Speaker 1: different ways for a story. Wow, Oh, I'm sweating wants.
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  Speaker 1: Some people say that, ye all right.
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  Speaker 3: All right. Next question, why do you feel your situation
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  Speaker 3: is so different than Ariana Randal versus Tom You yourself
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  Speaker 3: said they are both dangerous.
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  Speaker 1: I think I have a way of pulling things from
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  Speaker 1: my situation and applying them to things that make sense.
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  Speaker 1: And there were things about the cheating part of my
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  Speaker 1: situation with my ex that really triggered me when it
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  Speaker 1: came to Tom Sandoval to say that Tom Sandoval and
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  Speaker 1: my ex are the same person. No, the way that
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  Speaker 1: they moved with creeping around on myself and Ariana, there
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  Speaker 1: were many things that were running parallel. It's difficult with
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  Speaker 1: my situation because I want to say eighty percent of
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  Speaker 1: the information I can't share. I just can't. I can't
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  Speaker 1: talk about it. If you guys want to google, if
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  Speaker 1: you want to look things up, You're more than welcome to.
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  Speaker 1: There are things and reasons for my hardlines. There are
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  Speaker 1: reasons for me entering a custody battle, and I'm just
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  Speaker 1: going to leave it there.
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  Speaker 3: Enough said, all right, are you jealous of Arianna because
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  Speaker 3: of the way people rallied for her and not for you?
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  Speaker 2: When my.
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  Speaker 1: Situation happened with my ex, I was so blindsided that
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  Speaker 1: just putting one foot in front of the other, simply
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  Speaker 1: waking up was like a huge win for me. There
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  Speaker 1: are times that people have said, it must have been
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  Speaker 1: so difficult to go through what you were going through
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  Speaker 1: in public, And honestly, I didn't even realize I was
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  Speaker 1: going through it in public because it wasn't a breakup
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  Speaker 1: that I was going through I was going into a battle.
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  Speaker 2: For ocean.
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  Speaker 1: And as time passed and I did like the season
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  Speaker 1: nine reunion, which was very difficult. That was just a
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  Speaker 1: couple weeks after I had left my situation and was
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  Speaker 1: overwhelmed with information and knowing like why I have to
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  Speaker 1: protect my seven month old.
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  Speaker 2: And then seeing people say like you deserved this, This
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  Speaker 2: is your karma.
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  Speaker 1: When you see things like that or hear things like
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  Speaker 1: that and you're looking at your baby, you develop like
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  Speaker 1: a different strength in that moment.
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  Speaker 2: It's wild.
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  Speaker 1: And I truly wouldn't wish that upon anybody. That time
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  Speaker 1: in my life was nothing short of torture, mental torture.
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  Speaker 1: When everything happened with Ariana, I was thrilled to see
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  Speaker 1: the audience rally around her. Do I wish I would
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  Speaker 1: have gotten that, Yeah, that would have been really, really nice,
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  Speaker 1: But I didn't. And I'm okay to ask if I'm
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  Speaker 1: jealous of Arianna. I find her to be extremely talented.
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  Speaker 1: I enjoyed watching her on Broadway. I truly believe that's
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  Speaker 1: where she deserves to be. She has proven herself tremendously
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  Speaker 1: in that space, and I stand by that. I also
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  Speaker 1: stand by the fact that she made film me, a
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  Speaker 1: television show that we've been filming, some of them eleven years,
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  Speaker 1: ME eight extremely.
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  Speaker 2: Difficult this year.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't hold that against her, because it was
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  Speaker 1: funky for all of us. We were all in unchartered waters,
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  Speaker 1: and I wasn't trying to be tough on her or
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  Speaker 1: make her move along in this process quicker. But I
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  Speaker 1: knew we were filming a TV show, and just like
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  Speaker 1: Lisa vander pump had drilled me in her kitchen about
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  Speaker 1: my situation, did I enjoy that?
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  Speaker 2: Not at all?
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  Speaker 1: But I knew we were filming a show, and I
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  Speaker 1: knew there were people out there in the audience who
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  Speaker 1: were going to wonder these things. So with Arianna, when
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  Speaker 1: filming a television show, I asked her the things that
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  Speaker 1: I felt the audience may want to know. I, in
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  Speaker 1: no way, shape or form, was trying to move her
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  Speaker 1: along in a process. I was not upset about the
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  Speaker 1: opportunities that she was getting. I was not mad that
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  Speaker 1: she got so much love all of those things.
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  Speaker 2: I was thrilled for her about. That is fact.
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  Speaker 1: It's also fact that filming a show with her this
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  Speaker 1: year was very, very hard.
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  Speaker 3: All right, Next question, why the hypocrisy? When it comes
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  Speaker 3: to setting boundaries and respecting them. For example, you told
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  Speaker 3: Katie she didn't need to understand your life, but felt
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  Speaker 3: the need to understand Ariana's.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like that's a completely valid question,
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  Speaker 1: and Ariana was right in talking about her boundaries and
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  Speaker 1: saying that I didn't need to understand them. She's absolutely correct.
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  Speaker 1: You're allowed to set boundaries. It doesn't matter if I
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  Speaker 1: understand them. It's her life. I was simply asked, answering
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  Speaker 1: the question that Andy asked me and film me at
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  Speaker 1: TV show.
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  Speaker 3: And what exactly was your storyline this season? Given it's
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  Speaker 3: all you talked about, while also saying Ariana brought nothing.
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  Speaker 1: This season was extremely difficult. None of us were really
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  Speaker 1: able to have a storyline. We had to talk about this.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't even a divide in the group, like this
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  Speaker 1: had demolished the group. I don't even know how to
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  Speaker 1: answer that question, because so many times there were a
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  Speaker 1: lot of us who tried to push past talking about this,
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  Speaker 1: and we simply couldn't.
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  Speaker 2: We couldn't.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, my life at this point in time, I
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  Speaker 1: was wanting to have a baby. I was going down
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  Speaker 1: a path of healing and sinking into what my reality is,
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: trying to let go of a lot of anger. And
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  Speaker 1: I think you saw at the beginning of the season.
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  Speaker 1: You know where I lose it on Sandoval on the
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  Speaker 1: boat and I have to catch myself.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: The triggers for me run very, very deep, and if
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  Speaker 1: I don't start checking myself, and I've said this during
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  Speaker 1: the season, I'm gonna end up in a.
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  Speaker 2: Really bad spot.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know what people want me to say.
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  Speaker 1: As far as what my storyline was, I showed up.
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  Speaker 1: I was willing to talk about anything and everything. Unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: least something that Tom Sandoval did destroyed the dynamic of
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  Speaker 1: the group. And unfortunately, and fortunately we film a television
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  Speaker 1: show based on this group. There was no avoiding the conversation.
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  Speaker 1: I also would have liked to have moved on. Many
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  Speaker 1: of us wanted to move on. We tried to move
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  Speaker 1: the needle. It was hard, and I think that most
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  Speaker 1: people will not understand because they don't film a show.
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  Speaker 1: Their lives are not a show. When you have to
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  Speaker 1: combine the two, it really is fucking hard, especially when
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  Speaker 1: something as traumatic as Scanned of All happens in a
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  Speaker 1: group of people who have known each other a decade plus,
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  Speaker 1: been filming a show for eleven years. It was challenging,
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  Speaker 1: and the fact that we pulled it off eighteen episodes
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  Speaker 1: fucking wild to me.
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  Speaker 3: From last season to this season is so confusing. Why
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  Speaker 3: would you go after Tom that way in the reunion
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  Speaker 3: and then ride so hard for him this season?
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  Speaker 1: Well, Number one, I didn't ride for him so hard
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  Speaker 1: at all. I didn't show up to any of his
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  Speaker 1: events that he invited me to. I simply practiced compassion
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  Speaker 1: and acknowledged that a.
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  Speaker 2: Human being was a human being.
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  Speaker 1: And it's wild that I was actually lit on fire
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  Speaker 1: because of it.
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  Speaker 2: This season.
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  Speaker 1: I did not jump on the Tom sand of All
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  Speaker 1: train in any way, shape or form. I acknowledged where
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be in my life mentally and emotionally,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that I was going to bring a child into
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  Speaker 1: the world and I wanted to be in a healthy space.
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  Speaker 2: I did that all for me.
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  Speaker 1: I think people are fixating on the Tom Sands of
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  Speaker 1: all of it. Take Tom out, insert someone else, it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't matter. This was my journey of healing. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: see me switch up a lot. That's how life works.
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  Speaker 1: I don't just pop up on your screen once a year,
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  Speaker 1: for fifteen weeks, for ten minutes.
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  Speaker 2: Max, I live a life every single.
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  Speaker 1: Day from the time I wake up to the time
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  Speaker 1: I go to bed and we start over, and I
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  Speaker 1: experience different things during those days that shape me differently,
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  Speaker 1: make me look at life differently. When I have this baby,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna look at life differently. I'm changing every single day.
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  Speaker 1: So while I understand the audience feels like the reunion happened,
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  Speaker 1: and then the next day that's what I was acting like.
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  Speaker 2: Time had passed for me.
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  Speaker 1: I was not directly affected by scandabal Arianna, and I
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  Speaker 1: felt for her, but my life had kept moving. And
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  Speaker 1: I am not someone who is friends with Tom Sandoval.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't friends with him before this happened. I most
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  Speaker 1: certainly wouldn't be friends with him after this happened. And
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  Speaker 1: there were many times this season that he did invite
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  Speaker 1: me to his concerts, the hangouts. I didn't go to
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  Speaker 1: any of them because number one, it wouldn't make sense.
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  Speaker 1: I would never go if we weren't filming a show.
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  Speaker 1: And number two, even though I had questions for Ariana,
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: because that's just what we do in this environment that
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: we've been doing for many years. I would always pick
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: her still right now, us not seeing eye to eye.
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  Speaker 1: If you said pick Sand of aal or Ariana, it's
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  Speaker 1: a no brainer.
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  Speaker 3: That brings me to my next question. Good segue right there.
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  Speaker 3: Why did you really unfollow Katie and Arianna? Are you
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  Speaker 3: really not friends anymore or not on speaking terms again?
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  Speaker 1: I think that time does very crazy things. When I
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  Speaker 1: think about time, I always, for some reason go back
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  Speaker 1: to my dad. And it was like one day I
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  Speaker 1: had a dad, and in a matter of seconds I didn't,
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  Speaker 1: And then I spiraled for a really long time, and
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  Speaker 1: time passed and I have healed a lot. Something that
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: you feel like you can never come back from, you
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  Speaker 1: suddenly come back from.
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  Speaker 2: That's what time does.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm not going to say that I would never
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: be friends with them again. What I do know is
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: this season was very tough for me. I felt like
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: there were moments where I was being I was having
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: people come at things that had nothing to do with
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  Speaker 1: the show. Right it got dark, and there are things
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  Speaker 1: that I do sometimes to kind of bring me back
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  Speaker 1: to the light. And if one of those things happens
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  Speaker 1: to be unfollowing people who don't really make me feel
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: good in the moment, I'm going to do that, and
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: I think anybody and everybody should exercise doing whatever they
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: need in the moment to feel good. You don't need
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: to explain it to anybody unless you're doing this podcast.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: But like, I just wanted to feel good for a moment.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, this season, I was really being obliterated. It
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: was very loud, and I'm used to having seasons where
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: I'm not people's favorite, but the amount of hate that
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I was getting this season that had nothing to do
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  Speaker 1: with what was being shown on TV, it was a lot,
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  Speaker 1: and it really hurts my feelings. So if I needed
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: to delete social media and unfrint a few people on
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: Instagram to keep me where the light is, especially being pregnant,
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  Speaker 1: then that's what I'm gonna do.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: You claim to be a girl's girl, Why can't you
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  Speaker 3: support Ariana?
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I don't know when I've claimed to be a girls girl.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: Do I prefer chicks over men?
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  Speaker 2: Hell?
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, But that doesn't mean that just because you're a girl,
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  Speaker 1: I blindly go into this and support you. I mean,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: for the most part, the people who are dragging me
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: down to the depths of hell this season have all
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: been women who don't know me. So do I prefer
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: women over men, Yes, But to call me a girl's girl,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know that I've ever said that I'm a
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: girl's girl. I think people labeled me a feminist after
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: season six where I was like, pussy runs everything, and
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  Speaker 1: I do believe that.
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  Speaker 2: But just because you or.
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  Speaker 1: A woman does not mean that like I'm gonna mess
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  Speaker 1: with you, because, like I said, it's women who really
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: try to like bring me down pretty hardcore and they
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: don't even know me.
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  Speaker 3: Were you a production puppet this season because you thought
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: you were going to be rewarded.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I've been in this game a long time. You're not
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: rewarded for things like that. There's a tear system in place.
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  Speaker 1: I went in and I was authentic and things that
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: didn't make sense to me. I asked questions if I
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: felt it, I said it like I said, I will
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: always have an opinion. It's what allows me to go
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: in and make TV. And I'm happy the audience has
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: an opinion because they are what makes it so that
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: we can have a successful show. Without us both having
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: an opinion, there's no show to be discussed. I have
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: never been anyone's puppet. The audience knows me. I know
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: that I can change up quick. I ask questions if
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: things don't make sense, I can go from slicing you
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: with my words to being putty in your hand.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: It is what it is. This is the way I've
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: been since I was a young kid.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: I went into this season like I go into every
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: single season. This is how I feel, and people can
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: try to change my mind. I'm open to, like I said,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: healthy debates, healthy conversations. I love not seeing eye to
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: eye with people because it opens such fun, intense conversations,
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: and I thrive off of environments like that, which is
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: why I keep exposing myself to reality television because I
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: enjoy it.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: I've never been anyone's puppet, and I certainly was in
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: this season.
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: Why did you feel the need to disclose a private
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: conversation with Katie that happened off camera and bring your
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: conva with Arianna where she apologized.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Back up, The conversation that I had with Katie was
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: not private. These were things she had said to production,
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: and the phone call that I was referring to production
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: was on the phone. She has been a part of
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: this show since its conception. She knows the drill. It's
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: always been the same. It's been the same in my
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: eight years of doing it. That conversation that I brought
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: up had to do with production, and she knows that.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: The second what was the second part of the question and.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Why did you bring your convo with Arianna where she
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: apologized back up?
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Because there are things that I've apologized for many times
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: where they bring a flashback up. I mean the amount
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: of times I've seen me getting my hair done, talking
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: about the range drover I got after letting someone hit
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: it the first night, or me calling my excess stand
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: up guy. I mean, I've seen this flashback more times
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: than I ever cared to see ever in my life,
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: and I wanted it to be a fair playing fields.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: You may have apologized.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: I've apologized for things too, but I'm still held accountable.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: So it was my way of kind of saying, like,
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: can we get a flashback that Ariana has not always.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Been this perfect girl's girl.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: She didn't acknowledge me at all when I had a
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: party to celebrate the longevity of the Give Them La
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: La brand. She has openly stood there while Tom Sandoval,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: her then boyfriend, had belittled and degraded people like me,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: people like Stacy, and she also watched Charlie laugh at
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: me when she was saying that I basically wasn't a
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: good enough gold digger.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Where are the flashbacks, y'all?
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: Do flashbacks to me in my not proud moments that
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: I've apologized for.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: All the time. Can we get the flashback?
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: So I was happy to see that they did the flashback,
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: and I was also happy to see that they put
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: an her apology.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: That was it.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: It was that simple. We're all going to get flashbacks.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: None of us are going to forget our past. Let's
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: have a level playing field.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: If you don't care about Katie's business, why should she
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: care about yours.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: I care tremendously about Katie's business. I have done nothing
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: but support something about her since they came up with
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: the idea. Again, these were things that she had spoken
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: to production about and me, and we're filming a show
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: something about her was conceived on vander Pump Rules finale,
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: season nine.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: These were the.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: Same types of conversations that Tom Sandbal and Tom Schwartz
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: had to have about Schwartz and Sandy's So I felt
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: like what she had said to production and myself and
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: then decided last minute that she didn't want to do
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: any of that. She was worried about her business. I
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: didn't feel like anything she was saying would destroy the business.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: They were completely valid things that she was saying. It
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: just doesn't it didn't make sense to me. I could
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: see if I said, you need to bring these things
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: up because I want to fuck with your business. I
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: want to burn it to the ground, because she literally
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: said that on the phone to me. If you're gonna
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: fuck with my business, I'm gonna fuck with yours. And
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I did feel at that point in time that there
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: was no business to speak of that she had. Mine
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: was actually supporting my family is supporting my family. I
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: just didn't understand, like why she couldn't have conversations that
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I've watched the Toms have many times, and they opened
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: a very successful bar and we're filming a TV show.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: I just didn't understand, like how the game had changed
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: and Schwartzy has come for my business before everyone knows
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: how that ends. I almost Teresa judaize the table on
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: Tom Schwartz when he tried to clown on my business
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: that was on TV.
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: Do you think you're a bad friend?
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: I think I'm a friend. I don't think I'm a
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: great friend. I don't think i'm a good friend. I
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: think I'm a friend. I'm thirty three years old. I'm
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: past the point of being in the sandbox saying you're
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: my best friend. I have a family. I'm always gonna
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: pick them over you. I can call you on the
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: phone here and there, send you some text messages, let
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: you know I'm proud of you. But if you're looking
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: for someone to really be blindly loyal and show up
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: and be a best friend, I'm not it. And I
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: also don't expect that from my friends. My priorities are different.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: I have a baby, I got a mama, I got
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: a brother. We all live together, like I have my pod.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: So if you're going to be a friend who's needy
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: and needs things for me, that's going to take away
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: from my pod. Like I'm not the friend for you.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I have no problem saying that I'm a friend. If
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: you're looking for a great friend or a bad friend,
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: I'm in the middle.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: I'm just the friend.
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: What is your biggest regret from this season? There is
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: a change in your energy and approach. What happened?
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of things happened. I think season ten,
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: I came off very angry, and by the way, the
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: only reason why it was validated was because scandival happened.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: It was like, oh, well, it makes perfect sense, you know,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: had Scannaval not happened. I was looked at that season
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: is angry and bitter. This season, I'm acting the way
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: everyone wanted me to act season ten. The problem is
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: is I was dealing with a lot of trauma season ten,
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: sand or Scannaval happens and it's like, oh shit, the
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: perfect storm.
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: Everything I was saying I was being vindicated on.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: When you have downtime and you come off of the
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: high and you realize, I'm in a custody battle still,
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: I want more children, and the plan was to have
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: more children now, and the plan was that the custody
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: battle was going to be wrapped up, and the plan
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: was X, Y, and Z, And you realize the plan
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: has still not happened.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: So what do you do.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: You crawl into a hole, you continue to be angry,
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: you continue to put your life on hold, or you
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: say fuck it, I'm taking my life into my own
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: hands and I'm gonna be a grown ass woman and
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: I'm going to handle my shit with ocean and handle
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: this custody battle and remain hopefules as fuck. I'm gonna
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: heal my heart so that I can go out and
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: have fun and laugh and be around straight men and
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: date at some point. And I'm also going to bring
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: another baby into the world, and you know what, We're
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: going to create a beautiful environment and show my kids,
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: my two little girls, that you can go through some.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: Real shit.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Where you think you're gonna be taken out and still
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: find a way to live like a really, really.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: Meaningful, incredible life, and not only have that, but do
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: it all on camera.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: With so many people judging the way that you choose
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: to process, the way you choose to move through life.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: And by the way, this isn't just me Ariana goes
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: through it, Tom Sandoval Sena.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: We're all going through it.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: And even though we don't see eye to eye right now,
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: like there's a bond between all of us because we
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: all know what it's like to be brave enough to
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: live this shit in real life, but on camera it's
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: such a wild ride. But I'm extremely proud of what
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: I have done from the time I entered this show
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: to where I am now, and I want my cast
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: to be proud of where they are too. I'm glad
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: the audience has opinions.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: That's why we get to make a show. And even
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: though my cast and I may not be fucking with
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: each other right now, that will never take away from
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: the fact that I truly respect each and every one
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: of them, because this is not easy. My loves there
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: was the non yes man asking all of the top
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: questions that you guys had for season eleven. I want
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: to thank you guys for watching. I know it was
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: a wild ride, but I hope that you enjoyed this season.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: I'm grateful for you guys. I'm grateful for a summer off.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed this episode of the Give Them
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: Lalla Podcast. And now I would truly like to put
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: season eleven behind me and incubate this new baby girl
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: that I have growing inside, who is a fighter. I
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: will say, she's kicking and punching and she's doing well,
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: and I'm just it's wild that it was such an
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: intense season, but I am the happiest that I have
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: ever been in my life. And to experience those two
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: things at once and have them coexisting has been a trip.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: So I love you guys, and I will catch you
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: next week.