Latest / Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families / I'll Do Better Tomorrow: Learning to Share the Load

Transcript

I'll Do Better Tomorrow: Learning to Share the Load · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

• 0:05
  Speaker 1: Hello, Welcome to the Happy Families Podcast. It's Friday and
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: that means we've got a whole lot of housekeeping, plus
• 0:10
  Speaker 1: I'll do better tomorrow. We introspect, look at the week
• 0:13
  Speaker 1: that was, what work, what didn't? How are we doing
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: where is it all falling apart? What are we doing right?
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: How can we do it better tomorrow? As parents? It's
• 0:20
  Speaker 1: kind of like our news day really and hopefully you
• 0:23
  Speaker 1: get some inspiration for how you can do it better
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: tomorrow in your family. Today we've got minted kids, we've
• 0:32
  Speaker 1: got four year olds and pronouns, ABC interviews about scooters
• 0:37
  Speaker 1: in fact, interviews everywhere about e scooters and the man box,
• 0:40
  Speaker 1: and a whole lot more. Oh plus slowing down, having
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: operations and getting the kids involved in the kitchen when
• 0:45
  Speaker 1: they don't want to do a thing. It's a jam
• 0:48
  Speaker 1: packed podcast and all that plus more is coming up next.
• 0:55
  Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to the Happy Families Podcast. Real parenting
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: solutions every single day. This is Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast.
• 1:01
  Speaker 1: My name stops Justin Coulson. I'm here with my wife,
• 1:04
  Speaker 1: missus Happy Families, mum to our six kids. Kylie. How
• 1:08
  Speaker 1: is the energy? How are you feeling I'm slowly coming back.
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: Been a tough week.
• 1:13
  Speaker 2: It has been.
• 1:14
  Speaker 1: I'm going to talk about that in just a sec.
• 1:16
  Speaker 1: But first, as always, it's some housekeeping. We used to
• 1:19
  Speaker 1: do this thing called this Week in Parenting. I love
• 1:25
  Speaker 1: it when JAYI does that. It makes me sound like
• 1:28
  Speaker 1: I'm one of those boys prote your elchies. This Week
• 1:32
  Speaker 1: in Parenting. Heaps of stuff to talk about, Kylie, I
• 1:34
  Speaker 1: kind of. I'm I'm just going to start the first
• 1:38
  Speaker 1: thing that i want to share is that I've appeared
• 1:39
  Speaker 1: on a brand new podcast that's called Minted Kids with
• 1:42
  Speaker 1: Nicole Peterson McKinnon. It's available wherever you get your podcasts,
• 1:45
  Speaker 1: and it's about kids and money management. If you've ever
• 1:48
  Speaker 1: wanted to know how to talk to kids about money,
• 1:50
  Speaker 1: Nicole's the expert, but she thought that I could offer
• 1:52
  Speaker 1: some stuff. Check this out. She's shared a couple of
• 1:55
  Speaker 1: clips on Instagram, and this one caught my attention. They
• 1:58
  Speaker 1: paid ten percent board, okay, so whatever they earn, it's
• 2:01
  Speaker 1: ten percent. I remember one day my third daughter came
• 2:04
  Speaker 1: home and she put four dollars fifty in my hand
• 2:07
  Speaker 1: and she said, enjoy spending the four dollars fifty dad.
• 2:10
  Speaker 2: Was there quite a lot of bitterness?
• 2:12
  Speaker 1: She was dead absolutely. Yeah, She's like, what are you
• 2:15
  Speaker 1: gonna do with my four dollars fifty?
• 2:16
  Speaker 2: And what did you do with it?
• 2:17
  Speaker 3: Well?
• 2:17
  Speaker 1: I said to her, it's not your business what I'm
• 2:19
  Speaker 1: going to do with it. You pay tempercent board. We
• 2:20
  Speaker 1: want you to learn these important life lessons. And that's
• 2:23
  Speaker 1: where it stopped.
• 2:23
  Speaker 2: And did you do it like that?
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: Because that made that was a bit withering. That was
• 2:27
  Speaker 1: a bit I thought that was. Then there's the I'm
• 2:30
  Speaker 1: your dad and I know what's good for you and
• 2:32
  Speaker 1: one day you'll thank me ten percent. All the linees
• 2:36
  Speaker 1: happening now. I mean, I don't know if I've never
• 2:38
  Speaker 1: said it like that, but that's kind of the that's
• 2:40
  Speaker 1: the insinuation and what we do and the children don't know.
• 2:43
  Speaker 1: And I really hope that nobody who knows our family
• 2:46
  Speaker 1: tells our children after listen to this podcast. Yeah, so
• 2:49
  Speaker 1: that's the Minted Kids podcast, Kylie's it's a lot of fun.
• 2:52
  Speaker 1: It sounds good. Huh.
• 2:53
  Speaker 2: We caught up with Nicole recently just to it was
• 2:56
  Speaker 2: only this week during Tuesday morning, Yeah, and have a
• 2:59
  Speaker 2: chat and I commented to it that conversations about money
• 3:04
  Speaker 2: with kids are so much more fun than all the
• 3:06
  Speaker 2: emotional grams that comes with being a paranormal girls and
• 3:10
  Speaker 2: she just cracked up. She thought it was hilarious.
• 3:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, totally something else that I wanted to share with you.
• 3:15
  Speaker 1: You're gonna love this. We have not sat down with
• 3:17
  Speaker 1: our daughter Emily, who loves K Pop Demon Hunters, but
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: I got to share this with you. This is just
• 3:22
  Speaker 1: recently hit Sesame Street and it's worth sharing on the
• 3:25
  Speaker 1: Happy Family's pod. Hi.
• 3:27
  Speaker 3: Yah, me so excited because me finally get to meet
• 3:31
  Speaker 3: me heroes. Yes me, even consider me so the fourth
• 3:35
  Speaker 3: member of the K Pop Cookie Hunters.
• 3:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Cookie Monster, We're the K Pop demon Hunters, not
• 3:43
  Speaker 1: cookie Hunters.
• 3:44
  Speaker 3: Wait a minute, so you not hunt for cookies and
• 3:46
  Speaker 3: save the world one snacky.
• 3:48
  Speaker 2: At a time.
• 3:49
  Speaker 3: No, what about you hit song We're eating of Bob
• 3:54
  Speaker 3: Biz our moment. You know together we're snacking It gonna
• 3:58
  Speaker 3: be gold.
• 3:58
  Speaker 1: And cookie it. Oh, Kylie, I love this. So you
• 4:02
  Speaker 1: know you're big when not only do you have the
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: number one movie on Netflix, but you're on Sesame Street
• 4:06
  Speaker 1: with Cookie Monster and he's singing your song K Pop
• 4:09
  Speaker 1: Demon Hunters. I just want to put on their housekeeping
• 4:12
  Speaker 1: isn't important. No, does it help you to be a
• 4:14
  Speaker 1: bit of parent by knowing it? Yes? If your kids
• 4:16
  Speaker 1: love K pop Demon Hunters, it could just be a
• 4:18
  Speaker 1: fun bonding moment. I wanted to share that. Okay, next
• 4:21
  Speaker 1: thing that we need to tick off here. My brand
• 4:24
  Speaker 1: new book cover for The Book Boys has just landed
• 4:27
  Speaker 1: in my email this week. My publisher sent it through.
• 4:30
  Speaker 1: I wanted to have the very serious picture of me
• 4:32
  Speaker 1: that a photographer took some years ago on the cover.
• 4:35
  Speaker 1: They said that I looked too sultry, they said, I
• 4:38
  Speaker 1: look centraal, I'm staring with this angry face, my chin
• 4:43
  Speaker 1: resting on my hands. It's a black and white photo.
• 4:46
  Speaker 2: Oh honey, you're all mine. I can't share you with
• 4:50
  Speaker 2: anyone else.
• 4:50
  Speaker 1: They didn't want it. They've put together. I mean, I
• 4:54
  Speaker 1: told them. I just said, I'm going to be really
• 4:56
  Speaker 1: fussy about this cover. This this matters so much a
• 5:00
  Speaker 1: book and interacting with a publisher about the blurb on
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: the back and the like, the kind words at something.
• 5:08
  Speaker 2: Title, the title subject, the whole thing. We've done this
• 5:11
  Speaker 2: a lot of times now, and it's been such a
• 5:14
  Speaker 2: painful process.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, tenth book, eleventh book, something like that I'm just
• 5:17
  Speaker 1: so pleased with this cover. It Like I looked at
• 5:21
  Speaker 1: it and I was like, you wanted to hate it?
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: I wanted to hate it. I looked and I was like,
• 5:25
  Speaker 1: I like that a lot more than I thought I would.
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: And then I was like, I need to think about this.
• 5:29
  Speaker 1: And then I showed it to a couple of people,
• 5:30
  Speaker 1: including you, and the feedback was that's pretty good. I
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, I know, exactly, really good. So the
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: book Boys by Me Doctor Justin Cilson comes out May
• 5:41
  Speaker 1: June next year. We're gonna have pre orders available. We'll
• 5:44
  Speaker 1: tell you all about it. Just monitor watch the website,
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: watch the Facebook page, listen to the podcast. But the
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: cover is that like and the can I please read
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: you the blurb on the back. I know that we're
• 5:54
  Speaker 1: going to get told of it tomorrow soon, but I
• 5:56
  Speaker 1: feel like I've really got to this is this is
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: exciting for me, like properly exciting. Can I read it?
• 6:02
  Speaker 1: Can I read it?
• 6:03
  Speaker 2: Can I? Can? I? Can? I you're asking my permission?
• 6:05
  Speaker 2: It's your podcast.
• 6:06
  Speaker 1: Well it's our podcast. Come on, it's the Happy Family Podcast.
• 6:09
  Speaker 2: I see if you're going to listen to me right now?
• 6:11
  Speaker 1: Okay, Well here's what the back cover says for the
• 6:15
  Speaker 1: book Boys by Me. He's disappearing behind the closed door,
• 6:19
  Speaker 1: lost in screens, making choices that keep you up at night.
• 6:22
  Speaker 1: He's navigating a world designed to confuse him, algorithms designed
• 6:25
  Speaker 1: to addict him, a world parents don't understand and can't
• 6:28
  Speaker 1: break into. The headlines scream crisis. They warn us that
• 6:32
  Speaker 1: boys are in deep trouble and it's getting worse. But
• 6:36
  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be like this. Doctor Justin Coulson
• 6:39
  Speaker 1: has a different story to tell. In Boys, Coulson reveals
• 6:42
  Speaker 1: what decades of research suggests when boys get what they
• 6:45
  Speaker 1: actually need, they thrive not through force or fixing, but
• 6:48
  Speaker 1: through connection, meaningful challenge, and someone who refuses to give
• 6:52
  Speaker 1: up on them. This book hands you the playbook. It
• 6:55
  Speaker 1: cuts through the noise with practical, research backed strategies for
• 6:59
  Speaker 1: the battles you're find right now, gaming, pornography, self control, friendships,
• 7:03
  Speaker 1: school motivation, How to discipline without destroying trust, How to
• 7:07
  Speaker 1: stay close when he's pushing away, but beneath the tactics
• 7:10
  Speaker 1: like something more powerful. A vision of masculinity worth fighting for.
• 7:17
  Speaker 1: Boys who help others feel safer and stronger, who creates
• 7:20
  Speaker 1: surplus value who become not just good men, but the
• 7:23
  Speaker 1: best version of themselves. I'm getting weak. Means so much
• 7:29
  Speaker 1: to me. I cannot tell you how much this means
• 7:31
  Speaker 1: to me. Oh my goodness, I'm going to throw it
• 7:33
  Speaker 1: to you. I'm not trying, but I am getting weepy.
• 7:35
  Speaker 2: Yes, because we had a conversation with a young man recently.
• 7:40
  Speaker 2: He was in our home and he kind of looked
• 7:42
  Speaker 2: at you and just said, you writing a book about boys, Like,
• 7:46
  Speaker 2: what gives you credibility to do this?
• 7:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 7:50
  Speaker 2: How do you answer that?
• 7:51
  Speaker 1: Well? I was one once upon a time. I've got
• 7:54
  Speaker 1: skin in the game. I think I've got more skin
• 7:56
  Speaker 1: in the game than almost anyone. I've got six daughters.
• 7:58
  Speaker 1: They're going to be marrying these boys and helping parents
• 8:03
  Speaker 1: to raise strong, healthy, well balanced, wonderful boys. I just
• 8:10
  Speaker 1: it matters. Apart from that, I know. I know for
• 8:12
  Speaker 1: a fact that so much of what I've done to
• 8:15
  Speaker 1: help parents, I hear parents of boys saying all the
• 8:17
  Speaker 1: time what you've shared with me has changed my family,
• 8:20
  Speaker 1: Like my son benefited so much from this. I've got
• 8:23
  Speaker 1: no doubt. This is a game changer. This is such
• 8:26
  Speaker 1: a game changer. I'm so excited about it.
• 8:28
  Speaker 2: Well, I can't wait for it to come out.
• 8:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, Kylie, there are two. We never have this much housekeeping,
• 8:33
  Speaker 1: but last week there was none, and we're paying the
• 8:35
  Speaker 1: price for it this week because there's so much. It's
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: going to be alis the whole podcast. I've done a
• 8:40
  Speaker 1: lot of meetia this week, been speaking about interviews about
• 8:43
  Speaker 1: EA scooters and e bikes and whether kids should or
• 8:46
  Speaker 1: should not be allowed on them. Rather than talking about
• 8:49
  Speaker 1: it now, let's just say that this is a hot
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: topic and we're going to talk about it in the
• 8:51
  Speaker 1: next couple of weeks on the podcast as a full episode,
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: especially with Christmas coming, because you can guarantee there's going
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: to be a whole lot of eleven twelve, thirteen, four
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: fourteen year old is fifteen year old saying can I
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: please have an e bike? Oh? And also I want
• 9:04
  Speaker 1: you to take the speed limit or off so that
• 9:06
  Speaker 1: I can go fast and do monos down the main
• 9:08
  Speaker 1: street like my friends. And yesterday was on The Today
• 9:11
  Speaker 1: Show talking about the adolescent manbox research research showing that
• 9:15
  Speaker 1: the more that kids buy into the gender sterio. Oh,
• 9:17
  Speaker 1: there's some more stuff about My Boy's book. This research
• 9:20
  Speaker 1: is in My Boy's Book The more that our boys
• 9:22
  Speaker 1: buy into the gender stereotype stuff, the more likely it
• 9:25
  Speaker 1: is that they're going to have mental health challenges and
• 9:27
  Speaker 1: behave in problematic ways. It seems that some attitudes to
• 9:30
  Speaker 1: do with masculinity and manhood are damaging. So it was
• 9:34
  Speaker 1: exciting bit of media. Last one last breaking news housekeeping
• 9:38
  Speaker 1: item for me to share this week. It has been
• 9:40
  Speaker 1: revealed Kylie, that parents are being asked whether they want
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: they them pronouns used for their four and five year
• 9:48
  Speaker 1: old children attending kindergarten in Queensland. Just putting it out there.
• 9:54
  Speaker 1: In this year's cohort, forty six kindergarten children around the
• 9:58
  Speaker 1: state were nominated by their parents as they them on
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: consent forms sent out by the Queensland Curriculum and Assessment Authority,
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: and so kindergarten teachers in Queensland have to prepare a
• 10:08
  Speaker 1: transition statement to help you and prepare for primary school,
• 10:10
  Speaker 1: providing information to their new teachers about their child's strengths
• 10:12
  Speaker 1: and weaknesses. But parents also have to nominate children's pronouns
• 10:17
  Speaker 1: as part of the process. Do you want to tell
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: me what you think? Or do you just want to
• 10:20
  Speaker 1: ask me what I think? What do you think, thanks
• 10:23
  Speaker 1: so much for asking for goodness sake. Seriously, everything that
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: we know about child development tells us that this is
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: a really, really bad idea. This idea, I would go
• 10:33
  Speaker 1: so far as to call it radical gender ideology, especially
• 10:35
  Speaker 1: when we're talking about four and five year old children
• 10:37
  Speaker 1: non binary, neither male nor female. For preschool kids, they
• 10:40
  Speaker 1: barely have a concept of gender anyway, then you start
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: talking about they them. It confuses the hell out of
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: the kids themselves, but it creates confusion for all of
• 10:48
  Speaker 1: the other kids as well. I think it's a terrible idea.
• 10:51
  Speaker 1: I think that there is absolutely no evidence for it
• 10:53
  Speaker 1: being of any benefit whatsoever. There is only evidence for
• 10:57
  Speaker 1: it causing problems. Now I'm not in a conservative soapbox.
• 11:00
  Speaker 1: I'm looking at what the psychological evidence shows us, and
• 11:02
  Speaker 1: there is simply none. That is, there's nothing positive about this.
• 11:07
  Speaker 2: I think what's most disturbing to me is that this
• 11:10
  Speaker 2: is not pushed by children.
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, this is no four year old correct.
• 11:13
  Speaker 2: This is this is saying this.
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: This is the QC douba, this is the QC DO
• 11:18
  Speaker 1: way and invested interest groups. Kids that age don't actually
• 11:23
  Speaker 1: understand the underlying concepts, even if you think you've explained
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: it to them. Damaging for the children. I think it's
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: damaging for the family structure. It's damaging for children's well
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: being and health and functionality. I would call it indoctrination
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: into political ideology from the age of four, and I
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: think it's harmful. So there you go. There's my rant.
• 11:42
  Speaker 1: I'm excited to have shared everything from the housekeeping good news,
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: bad news, and everything in between. After the break our
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: older bet. It's tomorrow in record time. But we've had
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: some really great learning this week and I can't wait
• 11:53
  Speaker 1: to share it with you. It will inspire you to
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: make you family happier. That's next. You're back. This is
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: the Happy Family's podcast with Doctor Justin Coulson and missus
• 12:08
  Speaker 1: Happy Families. Kylie, Kylie, I'll do better tomorrow. I'm going
• 12:12
  Speaker 1: to step into it real quick. Slowing down is my
• 12:14
  Speaker 1: one last Saturday. So last it was last last Friday,
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: after we dropped the pod. You had a procedure which
• 12:24
  Speaker 1: pretty much has laid you flat for most of the week.
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: We had to prepare podcasts ahead of time so that
• 12:30
  Speaker 1: we could make sure that everything would work out. Okay,
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: you're finally back on your feet now. But on Saturday,
• 12:35
  Speaker 1: because you were just in what's the word, you weren't functioning.
• 12:40
  Speaker 1: I grabbed a couple of kids. I said, let's go
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: for a surf. Let's go down to the beach. They
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: jumped in the car, happily, swam hung out at the ocean.
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: Then we went to the markets and bought the fruit
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: and veggies and got all the groceries that we need
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: for the week. Came back. It was lunchtime. You were
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: slowly sort of opening your eyes and going, I don't
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: feel very good, but we just had a really slow
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: day and still got a lot of the important stuff done.
• 13:00
  Speaker 1: The kids chipped in and I don't know if it's
• 13:02
  Speaker 1: actually sustainable or not, but it felt really good, and
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: so my older bit it's moro was really simple. Sometimes
• 13:07
  Speaker 1: it's okay to lay flat on your back and have
• 13:09
  Speaker 1: a day off and let somebody else carry the load
• 13:11
  Speaker 1: and they can usually do it and hopefully not even
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: have a frantic, crazy, chaotic day.
• 13:17
  Speaker 2: I was aware of everything that was happening, but I
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: didn't have much capacity to be responsive and be involved.
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: But I would say you were out of it.
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: I heard you guys leave to go for a surf
• 13:29
  Speaker 2: and then I heard the commotion when you came home
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: and you've jumped in the pool, and I just had
• 13:37
  Speaker 2: this moment where I thought, this is what our family needs,
• 13:44
  Speaker 2: this moment, this moment in time where Dad's actually home
• 13:49
  Speaker 2: and he's able to be connected and be present with them,
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: and I actually get to take a step back. And
• 13:56
  Speaker 2: that step back was forced upon me, but it was
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: actually such a beautiful gift to everybody else as a result,
• 14:05
  Speaker 2: because it enabled you guys to have a moment that
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: probably wouldn't have happened if I was available.
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: It's just occur to me as well. We sat down
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: with the kids and said, Mum is convalescing, Mum is
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: not going to be in good shape. We've got three
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: people over the age of eighteen in this house plus
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: a fifteen year old. I reckon everyone can quok a
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: meal a night, and they've stepped up. We've actually been
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: eating pretty well. The kids are like, I can do
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: one meal this week. Yeah, that's fine, I can manage.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: We've worked out what nights it'll be and they've just
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: stepped into the void and said, okay, we can do it.
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: So we're going to continue this. Whether you're unwell or
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: well is irrelevant.
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: I'm happy to convalesce as long as you.
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: Need me to, all right. So the take home message
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: really is share the load. For anyone who's listening who
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: doesn't have someone to share the load with, I mean
• 14:49
  Speaker 1: that is really really tough. But bringing the kids in,
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: sharing the load, having your husband, wife's, spouse, partner, whoever
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: it is, just lift a little. It takes so much
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: load off the one person who's always making the decisions
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: and carrying the load like such a valuable thing. And
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: to the degree that you can, there's some value in
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: slowing down, especially as we I mean, what are we
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: up to now, It's like the seventh of November this
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: time in four weeks. Everyone takes their foot off the accelerator.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: Once we get to about the seventh, eight, ninth, tenth
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: of December, other than the Christmas chaos with trying to
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: do parties and gift shopping and things, we actually do
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: get to slow down. So let's do it. Let's sort
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: of get into that mindset, start a bit early.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: I've been reflecting over the past week as I've had
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: to slow down about life as an early mum, and
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: you know, in a young bride and this idea that
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: it's my job to kind of keep the household functioning
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: and going and come rain, hail, shine, sickness or health.
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: It was up to me to keep everything moving and
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: I did that for a really, really long time. And
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: what was so beautiful this week is just number one
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: that I've learned that everything's not going to fall apart
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: if I don't step up, firstly, but secondly that as
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: a family, we've grown to the point where we can
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: recognize when somebody's down that there's opportunities for us to
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: step in and step up. And that has been a process.
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: So for people who haven't experienced to that yet, just
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: know it doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't happen without intention,
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: like this has been a process in our family for
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: me to be able to take a step back and
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: for others to be willing to step up. And that
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: was the beauty of this week for me.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: Love it. We hope there's some inSpot for you for
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: the weekend, and hopefully our housekeeping was fun and interesting
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: and has given you some food for thought as well.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: The Happy Family's podcast is produced by Justin Roland from
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: Bridge Medium and having provides research, admin and other support.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: For more information about making your family happier, visit us
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: at happy families dot com dot au. We're back on Monday.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Teaching kids to think is our topic on Monday. Have
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: a great weekend and good luck doing better tomorrow