Latest / Reformed Thinking / When the Bridegroom Arrives: Fasting, Fulfillment, and the New Wine of Christ (Matthew 9:14–17)
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- 0:00Welcome to Reformed thinking. Today we're jumping into a
- 0:03passage in Matthews Gospel that I think really gets to the heart
- 0:07of how we understand grace in law.
- 0:09We're in Matthew Chapter 9 versus 14 through 17, and the
- 0:13scene is, well, it's pretty scandalous for the time.
- 0:17You have Jesus the Messiah, and he's not in the temple.
- 0:20He's at a meal, a feast really, with the absolute outcasts of
- 0:24society. We're talking tax collectors,
- 0:27known sinners. These are people that
- 0:29respectable society had just completely written off.
- 0:32And what Jesus is doing is putting grace on this, this huge
- 0:35public display. It's a scandalous favor.
- 0:38Right. And that kind of freedom, that
- 0:39kind of fellowship, it just naturally creates tension with
- 0:42the, you know, the religious systems of the.
- 0:44Day. Oh, absolutely.
- 0:45They just didn't have a category for it.
- 0:46Yeah, the Messiah eating dinner with a man like Matthew.
- 0:49It didn't compute. And that leads us right to the
- 0:51question that kicks off our whole deep dive today.
- 0:53Yeah, the disciples of John the Baptist who are very serious,
- 0:56very ascetic men, they come up to Jesus.
- 0:58They're probably following the lead of the Pharisees on this.
- 1:00And they ask this question that's just loaded with a kind
- 1:03of a silent judgment. It is, they ask, why do we and
- 1:07the Pharisees fast, but your disciples do not fast?
- 1:11And that's where everything comes to a head.
- 1:13This isn't just about meal planning or, you know, skipping
- 1:15lunch. This question really exposes A
- 1:18fundamental difference in how one relates to God.
- 1:21It's a clash of two totally different systems.
- 1:23It is. It's a clash between the fading
- 1:26shadows of the Old Covenant, all the ritual and preparation, and
- 1:29the bright, radiant substance of the New Covenant that has just
- 1:32arrived in person. So our mission for you, the
- 1:35listener, in this deep dive is to really unpack why Jesus's
- 1:39answer here is so much more than a defense of his disciples.
- 1:42It completely takes apart the whole idea of works
- 1:45righteousness. It shows us that grace isn't
- 1:47something you could just, you know, stitch onto your old life
- 1:50like a patch. Yeah, it demands a total
- 1:52replacement, a new administration, a new heart.
- 1:55OK, so let's dig into that question itself. 14 because the
- 1:59way they phrase it tells you everything about the spiritual
- 2:01danger they're in. It really does.
- 2:03They say, why do we fast, but your disciples do not.
- 2:06That emphasis on we versus them, It's all about comparison.
- 2:10Exactly. It shows you how quickly the
- 2:12human heart can turn a religious discipline into a competitive
- 2:19sport scoreboard. Yeah, scoreboard is the perfect
- 2:22word for it. They're not really asking for
- 2:23information, they're establishing their spiritual
- 2:26rank. That statement we fast.
- 2:28They don't. It's a verdict.
- 2:30It's them deciding who's more righteous, who's more serious
- 2:33about their faith. It's like they're reading off
- 2:35their spiritual resume to Jesus. We see that all the time today,
- 2:38right? People listing off their church
- 2:40activities, their quiet times. All to create a metric for
- 2:43holiness. And the spiritual posture of
- 2:45John's disciples and the Pharisees was really shaped by
- 2:49this idea of pentas or mourning. Their whole view of religion was
- 2:53rooted in performance. Piety was measured by how much
- 2:56you denied yourself. How severe you were, how well
- 2:59you followed the heavy demands of the law.
- 3:01It was a religion of subtraction, in a way.
- 3:04And to be fair, John the Baptist ministry had that serious tone.
- 3:07I mean, he was in the wilderness preaching repentance for the
- 3:09coming judgement. It demanded a certain gravity.
- 3:12It did, and it was a necessary and vital ministry, but the
- 3:15problem is they confuse the posture of preparation for the
- 3:20reality of arrival. That's a great way to put it.
- 3:23They're looking right at the fulfillment at the Messiah
- 3:25himself, but they're still wearing the glasses of the Law,
- 3:29which was designed to show them their need for Him.
- 3:32The sort of stuck in that mindset that God's favor has to
- 3:36be earned through rigor and penance.
- 3:39So when we pull that forward to today, that's the old Wineskin
- 3:42mindset, right? That little voice in your head
- 3:45that says I need to do more, I need to try harder to get God's
- 3:49approval. It's the constant pressure of
- 3:51the law, but Jesus just refuses to play their game.
- 3:53He doesn't get into a debate about whose fasting schedule is
- 3:56better. He flips the whole script.
- 3:58He does. He shifts the entire
- 3:59conversation away from our practices and puts the focus
- 4:02squarely on his person. He forces them to stop looking
- 4:06at what they're doing and start looking at who he is.
- 4:08And what his presence means. Yes, if we're asking how do I
- 4:11earn God's favor, we're stuck in that war mindset.
- 4:14But if we're asking how do I respond to the grace I see in
- 4:18Christ during the gospel? And that's the great divide.
- 4:22And this is where the conversation takes such a, well,
- 4:24a celebratory turn. Jesus defense isn't an excuse.
- 4:28It's a massive, staggering claim about who he is.
- 4:32It really is. He asks can the wedding guests
- 4:34mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them.
- 4:37He just lifts the whole scene out of their somber funeral like
- 4:41religion and drops it right into the middle of a wedding feast.
- 4:44That shift is huge. Jesus is saying that his
- 4:47physical presence changes everything.
- 4:49It doesn't just allow for joy, it requires joy.
- 4:51It makes all that gloomy legalistic ritual totally
- 4:54obsolete. They came looking for an
- 4:56argument about fasting and he told them the party has already
- 4:59started. They're still dressed for the
- 5:00wake and he's announcing the wedding and the title.
- 5:03He uses the bridegroom. You have to stop there for a
- 5:05second. This is a claim of divine
- 5:06identity. For a 1st century Jew, this
- 5:08would have been, well, shocking. It would have been breathtaking
- 5:12because in the Old Testament the title husband or bridegroom was
- 5:16used exclusively for Yahweh in His covenant relationship with
- 5:19Israel. You see it in Isaiah Hosea.
- 5:22Isaiah 54.5 For your maker is your husband.
- 5:26The prophets are full of this language.
- 5:28So when Jesus calls himself the Nymphios, the bridegroom, he is
- 5:31making a direct claim to be the God of Israel in the flesh, come
- 5:36to claim his bride. This is High Christology, he's
- 5:38saying. I am the one you've been waiting
- 5:40for. And by extension, his disciples
- 5:42are the sons of the bridal chamber, the wedding guests, the
- 5:47groom's closest friends. And in their culture, a wedding
- 5:50feast could go on for a week. A whole week.
- 5:53And during that week, fasting wasn't just inappropriate, it
- 5:55was offensive. It was an insult to the bride
- 5:57and groom. It implied you weren't happy
- 5:59about the marriage. So Jesus is declaring that the
- 6:01Messianic banquet, the great celebration they've been waiting
- 6:04for, has arrived. It's happening right now at the
- 6:06dinner table with Matthew. And to fast while the king is at
- 6:10the table is to completely misunderstand what's happening.
- 6:14It's a failure to recognize that the Kingdom has dawned in him.
- 6:17So the whole tension is between two mindsets.
- 6:20The law mindset says joy is conditional on my performance.
- 6:22Right. I can be joyful after I've done
- 6:24enough, but the gospel grounds our joy in a finished reality.
- 6:29The bridegroom is here. Salvation is accomplished.
- 6:31So joy isn't just an emotion, it becomes a duty, a required
- 6:35response to his presence. It is, and trying to drag the
- 6:38heavy rituals of the Preparatory Age into the presence of the
- 6:41Messiah himself is just It's incompatible.
- 6:44It doesn't fit. Which brings that question right
- 6:47to us, doesn't it? Is our walk with Christ
- 6:49characterized by the delight of a wedding guest or the drudgery
- 6:53of someone trying to pay off a debt?
- 6:55The answer to that question reveals whether we are truly
- 6:58resting in his finished work. But just as he establishes this
- 7:01joy, the mood shifts again. It gets very somber very
- 7:04quickly. With this prophecy, he gives an
- 7:06abrupt turn. He says the days will come when
- 7:08the bridegroom is taken away from them and then they will
- 7:11fast. And that phrase taken away is
- 7:14really telling. The Greek word apparo.
- 7:17It implies a violent removal, a seizing.
- 7:21Jesus isn't talking about going on a trip.
- 7:23He is predicting his own rejection and crucifixion.
- 7:26The shadow of the cross just falls right across the wedding
- 7:28feast. It does, and that taking away
- 7:31marks the great transition in redemptive history.
- 7:35While he was physically present, the rule was joy.
- 7:38But now, in this age, we live in the Church age.
- 7:41Between the Ascension and the Second Coming, fasting returns.
- 7:44But its character is completely different.
- 7:46Completely, and this is the critical point, we have to be
- 7:49clear about what New covenant fasting is not.
- 7:52It is not mourning for sin as if we're trying to pay for it.
- 7:54Because the bridegroom paid for it in full.
- 7:57Exactly. So we have to guard against that
- 7:59idea of fasting as penance or some kind of self punishment to
- 8:02earn merit. That is just pouring the old
- 8:05wine of legalism right back into the new system.
- 8:07If you fast to pay for sin, you're actually insulting the
- 8:10cross. You are.
- 8:11The reformed understanding is that fasting now is an act of
- 8:15what we call eschatological longing.
- 8:17OK, that's a big term. Let's break that.
- 8:18Down. It just means we're expressing
- 8:20our deep desire for the end, for the final consummation of all
- 8:24things. We fast because the Bridegroom
- 8:27is physically absent from us. We have His spirit, but we don't
- 8:31have Him. So it's not a fast of despair.
- 8:33Not at all. It's a watchman's fast.
- 8:36It's a fast of anticipation. We are eagerly awaiting his
- 8:40return, longing for the marriage supper of the lamb.
- 8:42So it's less about making yourself miserable to impress
- 8:45God and more about making yourself hungry for Christ.
- 8:47That's it exactly. It's a physical discipline that
- 8:49says two things at once. First, Christ is my true
- 8:53sustenance, not bread, and 2nd, I ache for the day I see my
- 8:57Savior face to face. It keeps us spiritually awake.
- 9:00It helps us live in that already, but not yet reality.
- 9:03We already have salvation's joy. But we do not yet have the King
- 9:07in person. Fasting helps us feel that
- 9:09tension properly. Which again forces that self
- 9:12examination. Are my spiritual disciplines
- 9:14driven by a Pharisee's need to perform, or are they driven by a
- 9:18wedding guest's love for the groom and a longing for his
- 9:20return? The motive is everything.
- 9:23It changes the entire nature of the ACT.
- 9:25OK, so after dealing with the affections, joy, and mourning,
- 9:29Jesus moves to the structure of salvation.
- 9:32With these two parables, He's showing that this new reality he
- 9:35brings requires a whole new framework.
- 9:38Right, he moves from the feeling to the foundation.
- 9:40He starts in verse 16. No one puts a piece of unshrunk
- 9:44cloth on an old garment, for the patch tears away from the
- 9:47garment and a worse tear is made.
- 9:49This is just a powerful absolute prohibition against syncretism,
- 9:53against trying to mix 2 incompatible things.
- 9:56The Greek uses a universal negative.
- 10:00No one. It's not advisable.
- 10:02It's impossible. The Gospel of Grace refuses to
- 10:04be just a minor update. It refuses to be an add on to
- 10:07any other system. Let's think about the actual
- 10:09mechanics he's describing. The UN Shrunk cloth is new.
- 10:12It's potent, It's reactive. Any old garment is worn out,
- 10:15it's brittle, it has no stretch left in it.
- 10:18And the problem comes when it gets wet, the new patch.
- 10:21When it gets washed, it contracts, it shrinks, and that
- 10:24powerful pulling force on the weak, brittle old fabric.
- 10:27It doesn't just fail to mend it, it rips it apart.
- 10:30Creating a Charon Schisma, a worse tear, a greater division
- 10:34than you had before. The theological point is so
- 10:37sharp. You cannot try to blend the
- 10:39vibrant life of the new Covenant with the dead rituals of the
- 10:42old. You can't mix Christ's finished
- 10:45work with your own human effort. You just can't.
- 10:48It's like trying to add something to 100%.
- 10:51The two systems are mutually exclusive.
- 10:52Let's apply this. The first this parable just
- 10:55demolishes is moralism. Moralism is so common because
- 10:59it's, well, it's flattering to our pride.
- 11:02The moralist sees Jesus as a patch, a way to fix up a few of
- 11:06their bad habits. They want to keep the old
- 11:08garment of their own autonomy, their own goodness, and just use
- 11:10a little bit of Jesus to cover the obvious holes.
- 11:13They're looking for a repair job, not a total replacement.
- 11:16But the gospel is too strong for that.
- 11:18The raw contracting power of Christ's righteousness when you
- 11:21try to sew it onto our rotten, sinful nature.
- 11:24It just exposes the rod. It rips it wide open.
- 11:27The tear gets worse because the hypocrisy is laid bare.
- 11:31You realize you don't need a patch.
- 11:33You need to completely new garment the road of
- 11:35righteousness that Christ provides.
- 11:37The outline also mentions how this applies to High Church
- 11:39legalism, specifically the Roman system.
- 11:42How is that a patchwork theology?
- 11:44Well, it's an attempt to sew the new cloth of grace onto the old
- 11:49garment of the Levitical priesthood.
- 11:51You have a system of masses of penance of priests offering
- 11:54sacrifices on an altar. It makes Grace a kind of an
- 11:58assistance program for your own merit.
- 12:00Right. It's a hybrid system and it
- 12:02creates that worst tear in the conscience of the believer.
- 12:05Am I saved by Christ's work, or do I also need to do these
- 12:08penance? Am I secure or do I need another
- 12:11mass to return to the shadows after the substances come?
- 12:15And bringing it right up to the present day, we see this when
- 12:18people try to patch the gospel onto modern secular
- 12:20philosophies. It's the same error in a
- 12:22different form when the church tries to blend the non
- 12:25negotiable truths of scripture with, say, worldly ideas of
- 12:29justice based on power dynamics or intersectionality.
- 12:32The terror is inevitable. Because those worldly systems
- 12:34have their own definitions of sin and their own paths to
- 12:37redemption that are totally alien to the Bible.
- 12:40If sin is just privilege and redemption is just activism,
- 12:44then you've created a different religion.
- 12:47You have and it's a religion that is structurally
- 12:49incompatible with the gospel of blood atonement and individual
- 12:53regeneration. The two cannot be patched
- 12:55together. The gospel demands that the old
- 12:58garment be thrown away entirely. The old self is crucified.
- 13:02We stand in Christ's righteousness alone.
- 13:05And that rejection of patching leads right into the second
- 13:07parable, which is about internal structure.
- 13:10Jesus says neither is new wine put into old wineskins.
- 13:14Right. If the batch parable is about
- 13:16external compatibility, the Wineskin parable is about
- 13:19internal pressure and structural integrity.
- 13:21So the physical context here is these goatskin bags, the ascoy
- 13:25that they used for wine. Yes, and you'd pour new
- 13:28unfermented wine into them. And as that wine ferments, it
- 13:31releases carbon dioxide. It creates an enormous amount of
- 13:33internal pressure. The container has to be flexible
- 13:36enough to expand with it. But the old wineskins?
- 13:38They've already been through that process.
- 13:39They're stretched out, They've become hard, rigid, brittle.
- 13:42There's no elasticity left. So if you pour new expanding
- 13:46wine into that old rigid container.
- 13:49It's a catastrophe waiting to happen.
- 13:51The skin will rupture, the wine is spilled and lost, and the
- 13:54skin itself is destroyed. You lose everything.
- 13:57OK, so theologically, what do the skins and the wine
- 14:00represent? The old wineskins are the entire
- 14:02structure of the Levitical system.
- 14:05The temple, the sacrifices, the priesthood, the dietary laws.
- 14:09They were God-given for a time, but they were preparatory and
- 14:12rigid. And the new wine.
- 14:14The new wine is the dynamic, expansive life of the Holy
- 14:17Spirit that is unleashed by Christ's death and resurrection.
- 14:21It's the very life of the New Covenant.
- 14:23So the explosive freedom of the Gospel simply cannot be
- 14:26contained by the old ceremonial structures.
- 14:28It's structurally impossible. This is why we don't build a
- 14:31temple and offer animal sacrifices today.
- 14:33To do that would be to pour the new wine into the old skins.
- 14:37You would destroy the freedom of the gospel and rupture the
- 14:39integrity of the old forms. This also speaks directly
- 14:42against any system that tries to recreate a Levitical style
- 14:45priesthood in the New Testament era.
- 14:47Yes, that's a perfect example when a religious system tries to
- 14:50contain the once for all finished sacrifice of Christ
- 14:53within the old wineskin of a continual sacrificing priesthood
- 14:57on an altar. The skin bursts.
- 14:59It has to. And what you lose is the pure
- 15:02gospel. You lose the clarity of
- 15:03justification by faith alone. It gets replaced by a system of
- 15:07ongoing rituals. The church itself is the new
- 15:10wineskin, a new entity with new ordinances like baptism and the
- 15:15Lord's Supper designed specifically to contain the
- 15:17expansive life of the Spirit. This has to apply to the
- 15:20individual heart as well, right? This points to the necessity of
- 15:23regeneration. It's the most personal
- 15:24application of all. The new wine of the Holy Spirit
- 15:27cannot live in the old scare of the unregenerate human heart.
- 15:31The natural person is rigid in their pride, dead in sin.
- 15:34They cannot stretch to accommodate the life of God.
- 15:37So conversion isn't just turning over a new leaf.
- 15:39No conversion. Is God giving you a new
- 15:41wineskin? It's resurrection.
- 15:44He takes out the heart of stone, gives a heart of flesh, as
- 15:46Ezekiel promised. He makes you a new creation, a
- 15:49vessel that is actually capable of containing His divine life.
- 15:52This gives us a really sharp lens to critique some modern
- 15:56church trends like pragmatism or the seeker sensitive movement.
- 16:00It really does, because they often make both of these
- 16:02mistakes. On one hand, they try to
- 16:04manufacture new wine. They try to create spiritual
- 16:07vitality through emotionalism or slick marketing.
- 16:11And on the other hand, they pour their message into the old
- 16:14wineskins of secular culture. Exactly.
- 16:17They use the structures of worldly entertainment or
- 16:19corporate business models to try and contain the message of the
- 16:23gospel. And that structure is too rigid.
- 16:25It can't handle the real thing. The minute you preach on sin and
- 16:29repentance, the skin bursts because it was designed for
- 16:32comfort and consumerism, not conviction.
- 16:34And Jesus's promise is that the right combination, the new wine
- 16:38in the new skins, preserves both.
- 16:40It does, and the only vessel designed to do that is the New
- 16:43Testament Church, operating according to Scripture,
- 16:45preaching the whole council of God, administering the
- 16:48sacraments properly. That structure is designed by
- 16:50God to hold the life He gives. OK, so let's try to synthesize
- 16:54all of this. We have the joy of the
- 16:56bridegroom, the problem with the patch, the need for new
- 17:00wineskins. Jesus isn't just improving an
- 17:02old religion, he's creating something entirely new.
- 17:06What does he abolish and what does he reorder?
- 17:09Well, first he completely abolish his merit religion.
- 17:13He dismantles the human instinct to use spiritual disciplines as
- 17:16currency with God or as credentials before other people.
- 17:20The discipline itself, like fasting, isn't the problem.
- 17:23No, the discipline is fine. The flesh is the problem.
- 17:25Our sinful nature weaponizes the discipline to build up our own
- 17:29self righteousness and Jesus will not tolerate that.
- 17:32Second, he fulfills and closes the chapter on the shadow stage
- 17:35of the Old Covenant. That's right, the old garment
- 17:38and the old wineskins weren't bad things.
- 17:40They were God ordained preparatory structures.
- 17:43The moral law, of course, is still binding because it
- 17:45reflects God's character. But the ceremonial structures,
- 17:48the temple, the priesthood, they've reached their
- 17:51fulfillment in Christ. You can't go back to the shadow
- 17:53once the substance has arrived. And finally, he reorders our
- 17:56whole understanding of piety. It's no longer about technique.
- 18:00It's about communion with the bridegroom.
- 18:02Every discipline has to be connected to the person and work
- 18:04of Christ. So what does that mean for a
- 18:06discipline like fasting then? Under the old system, fasting
- 18:10was a way to say, look how pious I am.
- 18:13Under the new covenant, it's relocated.
- 18:15It moves from self display to holy desire.
- 18:18It's an embodied prayer that says I depend on Christ more
- 18:21than I depend on food. And it sharpens our longing for
- 18:24his return. It's a confession of need, not a
- 18:26display of strength. Precisely.
- 18:28And this reordering helps us guard against two opposite heirs
- 18:31on one side, against legalism. Jesus says joy is your duty
- 18:35because the work is finished. The wedding feast is a present
- 18:38reality. But on the other side, against
- 18:40antinomianism, the idea that grace means we can be lazy, he
- 18:44preserves discipline. Right, because discipleship is
- 18:47still a battle against the flesh.
- 18:49We still need to be watchful and sober as we await his return.
- 18:52He holds both things in tension. Settle joy in his finished work
- 18:56and sober discipline in our ongoing walk.
- 18:59This brings us to a really practical pastoral call to
- 19:01everyone listening. This passage forces us to look
- 19:04in the mirror. It really does.
- 19:06It calls us to repent of spiritual comparison, to stop
- 19:09using our Bible reading or our prayer life as a badge.
- 19:13Our hearts are so quick to turn good gifts into idols of self
- 19:16righteousness. And at the same time, we have to
- 19:19repent of using freedom in Christ as an excuse for
- 19:22spiritual apathy. He freed us from boasting in our
- 19:25works, not from the devotion of loving Him.
- 19:27And any discipline we do practice, like fasting, has to
- 19:30be governed by its New Covenant purpose.
- 19:33It's not a hunger strike to get God's attention.
- 19:36It's an act of mortifying the flesh, of training our hearts to
- 19:40prefer Christ over comfort. So the final summons for us is
- 19:43about our posture. Stop using disciplines to try
- 19:45and earn what only Christ can give you, which is acceptance.
- 19:48And start using them as grateful, loving responses to
- 19:51what Christ has already. One for you.
- 19:53Full justification, full adoption, all by grace alone,
- 19:57through faith alone. When we get that right, our
- 20:00holiness starts to flow from love, not from a sense of
- 20:03obligation. This has been a really crucial
- 20:05deep dive into Matthew 9. The message is just undeniable.
- 20:10The Gospel demands replacement, not just repair.
- 20:12Jesus will not be a patch on our self righteousness.
- 20:15He won't be poured into the brittle container of legalistic
- 20:18religion. The wedding feast has begun.
- 20:21So to the religious moralists who might be listening, who's
- 20:23still trying to stitch together a righteousness of their own,
- 20:26Christ's warning here is severe. Your old wineskin of pride has
- 20:30to be shattered so you can be born again.
- 20:32You have to abandon that project of self salvation.
- 20:35But to the weary center, the one who knows they've failed at
- 20:38performance, the invitation is just glorious.
- 20:42The Bridegroom has provided a perfect righteousness for you.
- 20:45Come with empty hands. Receive the new life of the
- 20:47Spirit. And that leaves us with the
- 20:49final thought for you to reflect on.
- 20:51This passage forces us as the church in every generation, to
- 20:55ask not just what our message is, but how we are containing
- 20:58it. So what skins are we using today
- 21:00in our churches? Are they old rigid traditions or
- 21:04are they new but equally brittle?
- 21:05Pragmatic marketing techniques? How do we ensure our methods,
- 21:09the skin, aligned with the expansive life of our message,
- 21:11The wine so that is Jesus promised.
- 21:14Both are preserved.