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#56 - Love, Connection & Relationships | Valentine’s Day Special! · Brandon Fogal Evolution

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Not everybody is in a relationship. Not everybody has that, you know?
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And not everybody absolutely needs it, you know? Some people are good not being with somebody else.
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Or what do you think, Jessie? On the other hand, they really want to be with
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somebody, and there's just nobody good out there. Nobody good? Yeah.
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Okay. So I know relationships are very, very, very tough.
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And we've been together for 15 years now, over 15 years.
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It will be our 16th this may but it's
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so it's been a while since i've been out on
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the playing field you know and so and same with you
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same with you but what do you what
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would you say to someone that is wanting to
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be in a in a relationship and i have a couple friends that
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are in that position and then they try to find go to
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church and find somebody there's nobody they try to
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do facebook dating and it's just creepers
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i mean they show their true colors
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so early on it's not they're not even trying to
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hide it you know like what are you
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talking about like why are they creepers i mean it's
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not creepers just just big turn offs like
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right away like no one's even trying to hide
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their true colors even in the beginning well
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i mean it's probably a good thing to cut them loose before you
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get too involved but and people i've
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been talking to lately they're saying like you don't set
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the bar too high you do show neglect the beginning
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so that you can make it better as you go along have
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you heard this is this a new fad or no i i just been hearing someone says that
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that's like andy bernard it did make me think of exactly like andy bernard yes
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well i like your dress but you could have better hair or something everything
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has to have another A backhanded comment. Yeah, backhanded comment. Don't do that.
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No, don't do that. And they might have just been saying it in jest. I don't know.
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But so with people out there that are seeking someone to be with,
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you know, because that is a real problem today is people feeling lonely and not having someone.
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And I mean, I wanted to kind of put this out there for everyone out that jumps
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in the chat that wants to put anything in there.
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Let us know what is your current relationship status? Are you single? Are you dating?
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Are you married? and then also where
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if you are married or with someone like a boyfriend or.
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Girlfriend where did you first meet and where.
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Did or where would you claim that you first met.
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At because i think that sometimes can be a little bit different because we
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met at a couple maybe a couple different places but usually the place
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we claim is the ymca that's usually
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where we started actually talking but we did kind
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of cross paths cross paths before then yeah so
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but i and then like because i mean some people
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are don't want to say exactly where they met because maybe they're
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not too happy about it you know like everybody's different you
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know but what do you think i'm yeah i'm thinking
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about like all right because if someone said i met my husband
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or wife at a bar would you think that's a bad thing
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i'd say that that like a bar is like a wonderful place
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to meet people it's just a restaurant yeah a restaurant yeah like
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or even a club or something like that like that because
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those places are are there for that
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purpose you know so so people can socialize and meet
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someone and i've heard like actual clubs
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and like loud environment the music blaring
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it does create the atmosphere of if
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to have to kind of get into that kind of personal space
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because you got to get closer you got to get closer so what'd
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you say what'd you say and like so i can actually hear you and
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that can actually that can be good because it breaks down that
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barrier where you can actually or that
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bubble yeah that some that people might have up yeah but
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what do you think is that yeah is that kind of awkward is that kind of no that's
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true like as far as places you don't like well admit you met them like it used
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to be it shouldn't be but for some reason some people like oh i met him online.
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On a dating site who cares most people are doing that now that's very common.
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I remember, wouldn't you think like a while ago, like it's kind of like I'm
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online or something like but it shouldn't be like that. It's like.
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That's where you go. People like-minded people go to find somebody. What's wrong with that?
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I, yeah, I don't, yeah, I, I, I know people that would feel like that,
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you know, like you feel like you are just,
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that's the only way that you can find someone is because it,
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I mean, it's tough to really meet someone like to actually start dating because it's not, you think,
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Oh, we just had a very serendipitous encounter at the grocery store or at church
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or at, or something or whatever.
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Or they just ran across each other or I met
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someone in London you know that like some weird
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place you know not what do you think about like soulmates
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is is Pete is a god
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kind of orchestrating this like are we meant to
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have one person in our life that's out there and I
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was taking a little bit deep what do you think about that yes but I
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mean some people meet their soulmate and then they might
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pass away and they meet someone else and they're just as happy with
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them you know I think that is tough that is very tough you know and what is
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like what is your definition of a soulmate and what is like what is like i guess
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like who you're just destined to be with destined i mean i guess or just who
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god wants you to be with who like i think of it as it's like you.
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You're that that person out there is the one who completes
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your heart like you you feel complete but i
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mean but it's always different it's but that's dangerous because as
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far as the christian mind worldview i guess you don't a
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person does not complete you you're complete in christ
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and that's why i think that's why people might are unhappy
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or unhappy in their relationships because they think that you're supposed to make
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me completely happy and you can't i can't make you completely happy only god
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can complete you that way yeah yeah i do think of that because That is a really
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good point because before it was weird in our relationship because I just became
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a Christian and then we met and started talking and hanging out.
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But like before that, I was always searching for someone and I'm sure you were
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too. You know, everybody is searching for someone.
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And I found that I wasn't ever.
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Going to be satisfied or like fulfilled in whoever I was finding.
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And I didn't ever feel at peace, whoever, like the time, the people I spent
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my time with and all that, like girls or whatever, because, and I think God maybe put it that way.
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He, because I needed to find my peace in him first and completeness in him,
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because if I'm just out there,
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just trying to fill that void of
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whatever it is loneliness in my heart without meeting
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him first if i'm just going to put it on another person that
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i'm going to be let down and even after you found him you're still going to
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be let down but yeah like what do you mean by that by me what do you mean we
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let each other down all the time it's just human nature no one can be completely
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whatever what you need to be yeah So what do you think?
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To me, marriage is definitely a, it's a furnace. It's a crucible. It's a testing.
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It can be. It can definitely be.
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Are you agreeing? or so kind of makes
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it sound bad but yeah it it but like
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i don't think like we we always think
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about everything has to be we're not happy until we find
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that person that makes us feel in love we're in that's our that's the thing
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i fell out of love as opposed to the christian mindset is you it's love is an
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action and it's like it's something you do it's not something that you just
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it's not a feeling it's something that you you carry out you live out you know daily you know,
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it doesn't, you might not feel it, but you still do it kind of thing.
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And I mean, I'm in our marriage. I would say apart from the grace of God,
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you know, we would not have not have made it.
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And, you know, and apart from the grace of God, we, you know,
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we going forward, you know, we need his grace daily.
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I mean, I always think about apart without Jesus, you know, we would easily
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fall, fall away, you know, and not because sometimes we want to kill each other, you know.
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But I don't think we should set people up for failure and put them in a light
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that like marriage is the end all be all be all and you're gonna find you're
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gonna be nothing's gonna go wrong it's like you're gonna have a honeymoon forever
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it's never gonna stop everything's perfect forever and ever whereas,
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that's why people do the whole marriage counseling before they get married i
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mean that's when we started kind of kind of seeing different seeing differently
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during the counseling or so that was big thing.
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I, it was tough. I loved the, the pastor that we did it with,
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you know, but it was, it was, it was definitely tough, you know,
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like just like, cause we were actually having to really actually talk this out.
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What are your wants? What are my wants? What are you like?
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And it did not, it was not completely smooth as I had hoped.
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It was, it was tough, you know? And I really remember our very first fights started happening.
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Like I can remember like probably six months before we got married.
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I remember it was at Christmas where I really like you went to your grandpa
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Moody's and grandma Moody.
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They're, they're like for Christmas or whatever. I remember we were fighting
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for some reason. You were, you were there with.
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No, I wasn't there. I wasn't, I wasn't, I wasn't there, but we were like, for
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some reason we were starting like kind of
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to disagree i don't know we were like
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five six months away from the wedding and
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we were starting to kind of see differently and
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it's tough you know it might be like when
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you're dating and stuff you want to put just your best foot forward and
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all we had to worry about was where are we going to eat and what movie are
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i'm going to see and i'd be like i don't care like i don't care you know
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what is there to fight about and then when you start
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to get like commitment in there you almost like almost pushing the boundaries like
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are you really gonna stick around you know and
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see how serious are you maybe yeah there's a
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lot of that definitely i mean there's a lot of that and then just remember
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when we were scanning for our wedding stuff what was it called the registry
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thing we started to see oh we have different opinions about things that's when
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you started getting an opinion well like i said what else is there to to have
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an opinion about when you're just you know going out or watching that show or whatever.
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Nothing i don't care about that you want to make the other person think that
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you are perfect you know you're just you're in a delicate flower you're an angel
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nothing you go with everything you are or whatever and when once you jesse once
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you said i do you just said now things are changing,
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no you didn't but but it did but it did things
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did get tough and i you know well everybody
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brings their baggage everybody brings
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their issues everybody's got issues you know i
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had no idea about how you were before about what just certain things yeah oh
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yeah oh yeah i'm i'm a go-getter though i'm a go-getter that's what you're that's
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what you're inspired by right that i don't know,
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but what do you so jesse valentine's day people were out there searching for
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someone you know what would you say to them?
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You know, what, what do you think? What, like, what should people be seeking
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and doing and how, how can they meet the right person if they have not yet?
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See, that's the thing. I always, not everyone is a Christian out there.
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Not everyone cares about what God wants and everything, but that's what I think about.
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So if someone's coming out from that angle, I'd be like, you just follow after God.
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You're walking on your path and you look to your right and your left and in life.
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And whoever's kind of doing the same thing alongside with you,
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that's who you can keep walking with.
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But it's not always that easy just to find somebody. Yeah.
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To me, I think of it, you can't even be looking for somebody.
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To me, you got to even almost, from what I remember, you got to be out of that
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mindset because if you're looking for, I mean, everybody's different.
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But to me, I think almost you got to be just looking towards Christ and living
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your life for him and going towards him and doing whatever.
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And like you said, God will bring the right person into your life.
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I agree with that. But then it's like, i
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always have this conversation with my friend molly like do you
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just in life do you just sit there and wait for him
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to be like okay you go to this college throw it in your face here
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here's your husband drop him in your lap or do you just go out and be like i'm
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gonna try this and see if it works out or date i mean that's how you why you
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date people is you kind of just try them out i mean they're like if you're not
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in college you don't you know you have a job that you go to let's Say you're
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a teacher. There's not many men there.
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How are you supposed to ever find anybody unless you look for somebody like online or something?
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Yeah, I mean, that's... Are you saying like, just don't be obsessed about it?
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And like, I got to find a man. I mean, I've had friends, boys and girls.
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They're like, I just want to find a good Christian girl or guy.
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But except they're different ages or something. I couldn't put them together,
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but... Yeah. I don't know.
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It's really sad to me. You have a good Christian, my girlfriends,
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a couple of them, who just wanted a good guy.
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And it just hasn't happened yet. It's been a very long time.
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It's very sad. We don't need to make it seem like the people,
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if they don't have someone, that their life is ruined, their life is a failure.
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It's not. But if they really want it, I mean. Because, I mean,
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the Bible makes it seem like it's almost a greater gift if you can go live your
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life without someone. It makes it seem like that, you know?
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I know. Paul says, I wish everyone was like I am. But he wasn't wanting a spouse.
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That's fine. But these people want it. And it's, you know, that companionship
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and that love, you know? Yeah. It's sad.
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Well, so say you're on a first date. And I wanted to actually even talk about dating in general.
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Do you because I've went back and forth about this about dating and
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Because we used to say courting. You're courting someone. You were the one.
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We never said that. You introduced me to that phrase. No, I didn't.
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I never heard of such a thing. But it made sense.
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It's just a more holy version of dating, I guess. Because I've went back and
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forth. I think it's good to date.
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And I don't know many people that disagree. But maybe some people do disagree with the dating of it.
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What does that mean? They throw another label on it.
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They call it courting. you know but in that i think it's the same thing well
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you're just you're going you're getting together someone you're learning if
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you see if you if you're compatible is it i don't know,
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there's got to be a definitely a difference this can't be just this thing that
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we create a different word for no reason it's got to be something yeah well
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either way i i think dating's good i think dating's good because i mean i the
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fundamental test of it is what would we promote for our children,
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you know, and are we going to let them just go out one-on-one with somebody
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as opposed to being in a group with people like,
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because you can trust your children all day long, but like, you don't know if
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you can trust the other people that they're with, you know? Yep.
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And I think guys, especially they are the gas pedal to the metal.
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Their mind is one thing, one thing only, you know, especially in high school.
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And especially, you know, I'm not going to like quickly, easily forget about
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it just because I have 20 years now of a different mindset.
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I can still remember what it was and how all the kids were, you know,
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and I'm sure they are like that still, you know,
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guys are like, if they're not in a fundamental or in a, I don't even say fundamental,
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just like in a Christian like community, they're just, all they are is influenced by the world.
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And that's they have the world's values you know and they see just what tv tells
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them what a relationship should be you know and it can be not so wholesome and
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good yeah so i mean we almost have to be protective of our children you know
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like in a sense you know like but.
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You know, like, how do you allow love to flourish? You know,
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how do you how do you do that?
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You know, like as far as like our kids growing up? Yeah, I think you almost have to. I don't know.
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They're in high school. I mean, what are they? I mean, yeah,
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people have high school sweethearts. They marry them sometimes. But I don't know.
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I'd be good if in high school, I go out in groups.
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And if he wants to come over here, that's fine.
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Yeah, because I think what even when we were dating together,
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like a lot of times I would come over to your parents house you know and
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that we would hang out there you know and mom would be like go out
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you're always here i didn't want to spend money
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we just wanted to hang out at home is it yeah i mean
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and that's and that's what's fun you know you just want to be with
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the person you know you don't want to be out you don't need to be like we we went
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out you weren't you weren't a person that oh yeah we went out occasionally but
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like you weren't a person that like needed to go out
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and spend money or anything like that honey you're a diamond in
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the raft is that what it's called rough a diamond
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in the rough yes okay yeah my mom
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got on to me about that today we're not shopping and like
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through lunchtime and i i didn't stop to eat anywhere
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because i like my own food and i didn't want people she's like
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yeah i just like you to save your money i brought snacks well
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that's that's how you are and i i'm i'm very thankful for that
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you know not not every not every guy has that a wife that is so careful with
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money you know it's a good thing you can say it what cheap you're not you're
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not cheap well i don't know that's okay you prefer frugal yeah you're good with
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money you care about money you know and i i'm the same way you know.
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Jesse don't let's not go down that road okay jesse so
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all right on so say people are dating now like let's go through we're gonna
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go through the top 10 questions to ask on a first date okay so i'm gonna go
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through these because it'd be funner to hear what your response would be okay
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jesse number one jesse number one what's something you're really passionate about,
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god okay all right should be more passionate about but because that's what i
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tell my friends who are trying to date around.
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Just put it right out there in the beginning. One of the first questions,
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where are they with God? And if they're not, you know? Yeah.
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But I think a lot of people aren't in that mindset. I know, and that's why I
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don't— You're like, who are you attracted to, you know?
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And you still need that if you're a Christian or not. But it's like,
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how are you coming at me with a question? I'm always kind of thinking about the Christian mindset.
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But I mean, if you're—I don't even know how to think the other way.
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I mean, just similar values, I guess.
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Which I don't even because I mean like if you that's got to be the biggest thing
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but like I think there is a difference between like maybe if you're just out
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there on the market and you want to find someone if someone says that they're.
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Not a Christian then that would be
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one thing as opposed to someone that like maybe just
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in name saying they're a Christian when like you might
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not be so sure I say if it might be a deal
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breaker at the beginning if they're openly not like
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a Christian at all you know if they just don't even want any part
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of it but yeah that is it is
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like we might seem all like hoity-toity or not
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really or just like it always comes across that
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way i understand you know uh holier than thou but
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like it is a huge thing it is like if you get that
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wrong that's going to set you up completely for.
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Failure you know and you're going to be unequally yoked to someone you
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know even if it's just for a short time maybe like maybe i guess it
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is who you marry you don't want to marry someone that you're off
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you're not aligned on that you know
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you have to be on the same page with god
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and in christ you know that's what i tell
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the kids like it's hard enough being married
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as a christian when you're both christians you know can
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imagine if you didn't have that holding you together
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even harder yeah but i
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mean the divorce rate in christians is just the same so i
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mean i've heard different studies about that i've heard that people say
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that and then but that could be just because a
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lot of people that are a christian in name only
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you know but they don't necessarily no one knows
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but god right you know but yeah that's that's definitely a
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tough one what would you say to that then what i'm passionate about
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yeah if i'm just just meeting you for the very first time yeah
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like which you already did you i i would say yeah what i'm passionate about
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yeah i'm a christian i'm passionate about christ like i would start off with
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that you know set it like set it how like the most important thing in my life
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i would start with that yeah do you remember right there in the finish floor yes yeah yeah.
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And I said, hey, Brandon, what's been going on?
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And what did you say? I said, I've had a lot of big changes in my life.
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And I was like, like what?
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And I said. I said, I just became a Christian. And I did like an Elaine to you,
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I think. I said, get out. I am too.
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And I probably was, I was setting like, I was saying, you're not getting through
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Matthew, to me, until you get through Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John,
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you know? And I'm like, they're my best friends.
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We're fine. because i did like i i probably
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i didn't know anything about you so i was really just
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throwing it out there i had no idea about you at all so i did set
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it you know i just you know i put it put it out there you know i because i that
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was the most important thing in my life that was like and i had just become
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a christian so that's all i was thinking about all i was taught like talking
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about that's all i cared about you know so so that was like it was definitely
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the most important That was almost like the fuel.
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I already kind of like Jane and everything, but fuel for the fire.
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Just learning that, you know.
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All right, number two. How do you usually spend your weekends?
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So these are good questions to ask if you're dating someone.
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Just out there. How do you usually spend your weekends? You're asking me? Yeah.
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Currently? Sorry, we're on a first date. I'm just asking you,
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how do you usually spend your weekends?
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Think about like... With our kids. No.
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No, we're not married. We're on a date. So back then?
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I guess. Or yeah. I'm going to watch the movies with my friends.
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That's what you would say? I guess.
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How do you usually spend your weekends? I would probably have said like,
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oh, I play some sports. I play basketball. I like basketball a lot.
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Because that was my thing.
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Probably basketball. I would probably try to make it sound cool.
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I go out and hang out with friends. I do stuff like that.
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All right, number three. What's the best trip you've ever taken? Our honeymoon.
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I'm just joking. best trip cruise with my family okay
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what i would say best trip i've ever taken oh gosh
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see i've never i've never been about a person about
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conventionality i that's my thing i'm not i can't just speak in conventional
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conventionalism like i got it like i it's it's painful for me to just i don't
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even know how to describe it but what you mean like like chitty chat yeah and
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just like I guess what is expected to say,
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like to be said in a certain sense and that people are good with talking or whatever,
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small talk and anything like that, or just something in general.
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If I feel like it's the thing of the moment to say, I can't say it.
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I have to force myself to say that because I'm not like that.
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I want to almost... Then nobody wants you to be like that.
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But a lot of people are a lot more personable and they're able to interact with
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people that have that capability. so but if you ask me that what best trip I've
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ever taken I don't know I'd probably say going down to Mizzou with a like.
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My class you know like to to the wrestling state championship
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and just doing that and hanging out with friends just something
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yeah all right four do you have a favorite book movie or tv show pearl harbor
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movie oh yeah i would probably know most of these for you scarface yeah jesse's
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favorite movie scarface no
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yeah my favorite movie is scarface oh yeah yeah tony montano Tony Montana.
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Yes. So, okay. You can't? That's okay.
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He's up there. He's always watching. He's looking down on us.
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Yes. So, yours would be Pearl Harbor.
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And TV show. I could probably say Friends. You would say Friends.
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Friends for you? Office. My favorite TV show?
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Maybe. That's tough. Maybe. I would probably default to Friends. Yeah.
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All right. So, number five. what's your
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ideal way to spend a free evening so
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what what's up what's your
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ideal way to spend a free evening my lady like by
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myself anything what do you got well i
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didn't have this 15 years ago but tiktok in
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front of the fire tiktok in front of a fire that's cool yeah
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i mean that i think that's most people today you know that's to me it would
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be just honestly right now it would be reading it would be reading and having
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I drink rock stars energy drinks that's my favorite thing in the world I love it you know,
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i mean yeah i love like the it's probably
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terrible for you and i i've seen you know
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horrific videos of people that drink energy drinks but
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it's got some good stuff in there i love i love i love it you know that and
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coffee i love coffee coffee and reading a book you and caffeine get along dude
25:53
yeah but yeah so that's what you but you are you shy away from the caffeine
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i cannot believe it but i'm good with that you know it's keeping you the way
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you are you know it's keeping you Boring. Fresh.
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No, I mean, you should see her on caffeine.
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Remember the very first time, whenever I saw you on caffeine,
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she was pounding some tea, and she started going, da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. Dancing a jig.
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Yeah, she was doing a jig right in front of me. Right in front of me.
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Unashamed. So, she didn't even know what she was doing, and I just called it
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out. I said, Jesse, do you know what you're doing right now?
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And she just started doing it.
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She was a little elf. I'm not done it. A little elf. Okay.
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Okay. All right, six. What's something new you've tried or learned recently?
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That's a tough one. That's definitely.
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The first thing that came to mind back then, I recently ran a barrel race I've never done before.
26:44
Like riding a horse? Not just riding a horse, doing a barrel race on a horse.
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That's what you would say? I guess.
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Because I've never done it before. These questions are gold.
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What's something new I've tried recently or I've learned?
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Oh, man. And you're thinking back then? See, that's hard because that's a long time ago.
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Are you supposed to be answering it like you would back then yeah you're on
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you're on a date you're you can it can be any time of your life you know just
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you're on a date you're on what you say whatever you want you don't it can be
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anything you're there are no restrictions.
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Nothing is holding you back you are i it
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is because i can't answer now because everything is tied up with you
27:21
guys that's sweet okay so nothing is
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my own yes but it's good
27:27
it's good you marriage you get inner
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everything is interwoven everything is completely interwoven and
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it's just just the way it is but something
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i i wouldn't even know how to even answer that like i'd be like that's a good
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question i don't know what i would say to that what was the question what's
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something new you've tried or learned recently oh if it's like actually current
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all this techie stuff oh yeah that would be something yeah like for me currently
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yeah i would be like learning this type of stuff,
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learning how microphones and cameras and videos. Yeah.
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Yeah. All right. So number seven, if you could have dinner with any historical
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figure, who would it be and why? And you can't say Jesus.
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Why? And you can't say, no, you can't. Let's say, let's say you can't say Jesus.
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Cause that is, that's anyone who, who, who out there is not going to say Jesus. A lot of people. Yeah.
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But they would love to. Adam. Adam? Beginning of time. And why? Naming the animals.
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Yeah. Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve. So just Adam? That's a good one.
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I was even thinking like who I would say. You weren't thinking biblically. You were thinking.
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Yeah. I'm going to go George Washington. George Washington.
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I crossed my mind. The president. The first president of the United States.
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I want to know the real story. I want to know the...
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Okay, just leave it alone. That's all right. All right. We're having some technical difficulties.
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All right. So I would say George Washington, because there are so many things I would like to know.
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The founding of this country, what people say about you, what's correct,
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what's not. How was it really?
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You know, because, I mean, there are so many different stories that people can't
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get straight on. And he was, I mean, that's like only like 300 years ago?
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200 years? Like 250? 250. Pretty much 250. Yeah. And so. That's who I would
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say. It would be somebody interesting. George Washington.
29:25
All right, number eight. What's a random fun fact about you that most people
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don't know? I'm not very fun, but fun fact.
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What's a random fun fact about you that most people don't know?
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I guess I'll go with my fourth grade arm wrestling champion.
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Lame, because I wasn't really in arm wrestling. Oh, that's a good one.
29:44
I didn't arm wrestle everyone in the grade.
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So you were the strongest person in your fourth grade. Technically, no.
29:52
Like but like boys boys too or yeah i remember were they letting you in was
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or was that real i mean at fourth grade everyone's the same everybody's about
29:59
the same strength except i know there's a couple boys i didn't and they were
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like like they're really big ones.
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So but i was declared the champion i don't know that that is a good one that's
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a i don't even know what i would say what's a random fun fact about me that most people don't know.
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I've studied Greek and Hebrew. I've studied Greek and Hebrew.
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Most people don't know. And I don't normally share it. Typical language.
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But that was like, whenever early on when I became a Christian,
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I prayed to God. I wanted to learn the languages. I wanted to.
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And then I actually got to go to school for it.
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And I would always want to go back and take some more classes.
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I think it'd be so fun. Those are the funnest classes.
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School can be fun if it's something you love. All right.
30:44
So nine. what's your favorite type of food
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or go-to restaurant i don't know like i said i
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don't i like to eat my own stuff at home so boring remember
30:54
like uno's that pizza place but it went out of course oh yeah and then that
30:59
was really good before that it was remember when we were younger chi chi's i
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can't believe you like chi chi's i cannot i cannot believe you like chi chi's
31:06
don't say chi chi why what is it sounds dumb now but i mean i i don't think I knew that place.
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I don't ever, I ever remember really ever going to it.
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Oh. But like, but I, I don't know why.
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You just don't like Mexican now. Yeah, I guess I, I'm not a fan of too much.
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Unless it's Taco Bell. I love Taco Bell.
31:24
I love Taco Bell. Taco Bell is awesome. That's not Mexican. That is Mexican to the core.
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We have a message from Sherry Lynn Fogle. What did she say?
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She said, I thought you'd pick all Brandon.
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Oh, I tried to pick something outside of the Bible.
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So if I did pick in the Bible, I would choose the Apostle Paul. Yeah.
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Hands down, the Apostle Paul. And then second to that would be King David.
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So those two right there. But the Apostle Paul, I mean.
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I'm old school. I'll just say Adam or Noah. I go way back. Yeah.
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Really? I mean. The inning of time. I know. Walking with God.
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Man. Naming the animals.
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And Noah. Like what? Yeah. Well. You're the only people left on the face of the earth.
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I've always wondered about that. Like, yeah, they're the only ones there.
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You would think that it would be easy to get along with everyone then.
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Because no one's really there. You know? And then the people that you are close
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to are your family, you know?
32:29
But they still had strife. They still had battles within.
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But that would be a good one. Thank God someday we will be able to see.
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We're going to be going through and just talking to all these titans of the faith.
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And it doesn't have to be a person that's well-known. Everybody is bringing
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their own story into heaven, into the kingdom of God.
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We think, oh, heaven, that's just a fantasy land. That's fantasy land.
32:56
You know but like that's as real as it gets baby
32:59
heaven and god's throne room
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we are almost right now what we are experiencing this is
33:05
like what you would call the dream state this is like more
33:08
of a dream state of fantasy land than what
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god's presence is that is like like we
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think of physical like that this it's if
33:17
it's physical it's real as opposed to i just
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think of the move or the book the great divorce by c.s
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lewis and he talks about when he goes like he takes that
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trip up into heaven and things just become
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so much more substantial there and it's like
33:31
as opposed to here is kind of like the shadows and
33:34
it's just like it's there's not really any like meat
33:37
to anything you know it's just like it's all fluff here
33:41
as opposed to that's where it gets real i know i get
33:43
to go on a tangent but i love i love talking about that that's all
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i mean that's the most important thing that i care about you know
33:50
it's all i would talk about and i think that's what heaven will be
33:53
it'll be talking about just that kind of stuff and talking about
33:56
things of god you know for eternity speaking of
33:59
the flood though it says don baker hey don oh hey don we're gonna talk to don
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sometime about the flood oh that would be really cool in the impact geological
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impacts of the flood we're talking about and i'm just an idiot i know he's so
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smart what what did What did he say?
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I don't even. You don't remember.
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Yes. Don, he knows so much about the weather. Oh, yes. He's a meteorologist. That's what I'm saying.
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And he's super smart. And I got all of my. Storm chaser, too.
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He's a storm chaser. I got all my weather information from Don on Facebook. Yes.
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There's. Yeah. But yeah, he wants to talk to you about the flood stuff.
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Oh, that would be so cool. That would be absolutely awesome.
34:42
All right. So. All right. And then. Oh, which one do we just do? Okay.
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Number nine. What's your favorite type of food or go to restaurant?
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Oh yeah that's where we went with that that was what we just did
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you said uno's i guess and we
34:56
kind of know we derailed what it's kind of lame but chipotle
34:59
it's pretty that's oh yeah that's what i would think of for you
35:02
chipotle mine i i always go barbecue i
35:05
a smokehouse or or jack stack though i
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i would go something barbecue that's what i'm that's probably
35:11
my favorite you know i always used to say pizza
35:14
yeah me too but like i'm over it i'm
35:17
i'm more i'm not as it as into it
35:20
as i used to be but uh so i would probably go
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more barbecue and then lastly uh what what's
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one goal you're currently working toward so now jesse we've we've we're not
35:31
doing this anymore we're not doing this anymore okay it's whatever you wanted
35:35
to be back then it was probably just get through college get a job now it's
35:40
these online shops that we're doing oh yeah yeah yeah Yeah,
35:45
I would do that as well.
35:47
I would say, yeah, same thing. I like kind of just...
35:50
The online stores and building things up on online and talking about that.
35:56
And I would, I would love to like throw in there, you know, like I would love
35:58
to go for another type of, even if it's not a full degree, you know,
36:03
in biblical languages or, but something like that, you know,
36:07
the next thing would be a P a doctorate, you know?
36:10
And I don't think I would ever have time for that. That, that takes a lot of time.
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I mean, you have, and that's a lot of writing you have to do like a lot.
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I mean, that would be like a full-time job. people that go for that
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is like a full-time that's all they can
36:24
do because you yeah you had the stuff to
36:27
work you know but a lot of times it's their spouse that's having to work you
36:30
know and do it during that time you're taking out a loan just to live you know
36:33
which would be tough you know but pay off in the end if you're if you're doing
36:37
what you love and you know kind of can make up for lost wages you know so yeah
36:42
well that was that's very interesting i would say like Like,
36:45
so what's one thing about, like.
36:48
We would give to the people out there that are seeking a relationship.
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They're not in one, but they want to find the right person.
36:54
I'm just, this is, like, to me, this is a real issue. And, like,
36:59
I think of it now because I'm married with you, you know, a guy like you and a girl like me.
37:04
No, but, like, so this doesn't just have to,
37:08
and I'm not going to take it in a crazy way, but
37:11
like this can also apply in guy to
37:14
guy and girl to girl in a sense that finding a right friend out
37:17
there somebody a person that you can connect with
37:21
you know and i've heard something recently that i
37:24
watched about like we think of it as weird like
37:26
a guy can date a guy to in the sense of to find a real friend out there you
37:33
know choose finding a friend or somebody that is like it's going to be on the
37:37
same level with you that's going to be a person that you want to be with you
37:41
treat it as like dating in a sense like have you heard this.
37:46
Like they say a guy's a guy out there. We want to find other friends that are guys like that.
37:51
You're going to actually jive with, you're going to connect with,
37:53
you're going to want to like do things with treat it as almost dating. It is almost dating.
37:59
You know, this was, well, I mean, just, this is one person's perspective,
38:02
but this is something different that I'd never really even thought of.
38:05
It seemed kind of weird when I heard it. Dating is seeing if you're compatible
38:08
with, I don't know, same values and all that, you know?
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And if you, yeah, connect and friends or yeah. Yeah.
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Cause I'm all about like, I want to put the people in my life that I want to be around.
38:20
I'm, I've really changed my mindset on that. Like that I used to like surrounding
38:24
myself around with people that like lift me up.
38:28
And like, if people are going to do say things and just like leave me in a bad
38:32
impression, I want to kind of as much as possible, get them out of my life.
38:36
You know, as much as, you know, Christianly as possible, you know,
38:40
all that, all that good stuff.
38:44
But this is a real deal because relationship is the name of the game it's a
38:50
huge thing that people are experiencing in their life they're wanting to find
38:54
people out there that are similar to them,
38:58
I think everybody can find that just keep going but you have to almost have
39:03
your mindset that you're going to look for Christ first let him feel the only
39:09
thing that he can feel and then he'll maybe bring someone in your life that
39:11
you can have a real connection with.
39:16
I just feel so bad for those who want it so bad. I did too. I wasn't single
39:20
all that long and it was lonely.
39:23
And I would date people who I'm like, oh, I should not be dating them.
39:26
But I was like, nah, we go out to movies or whatever, you know,
39:29
because we're just wasting each other's time, you know?
39:34
And it's like, you know, when you're the person that you're with,
39:37
you, I just keep hearing like an echo in here or something like whatever.
39:41
It's, do you hear that? It just keeps doing something. All right.
39:44
So either way, I just think of the people that you like, like what you're saying.
39:49
What did you just say? I lost my train of thought. What did you say?
39:52
What did I say? take what's the what did you say that that noise is really throwing
39:56
me off that's a dishwasher,
39:58
don't say that it's not the dishwasher these are this is
40:01
real life situation this is in real life IRL what's that mean it's not that
40:05
it's not the dishwasher it's like almost it's all it sounds like a UFO almost
40:08
it's like okay what did you just say Jesse he said like what'd she say Bonnie
40:16
She wanted to marry someone so bad.
40:19
Oh, yeah. She went to the movies, but... Wasting their time. Yeah.
40:24
So many people. You felt like you're wasting their time and they're wasting yours?
40:28
I knew I didn't want to be with them, but I wanted to go to World of Fun,
40:31
or I wanted to go to the movies with them, or just... Just don't want to have to sit at home.
40:36
Yeah. But I mean, but I knew they most likely liked me, but I don't know.
40:41
I knew they weren't Christians.
40:43
Yeah. I'm like, eh, I'm lonely.
40:45
Okay. Not good. Well, all right. We'll close it out at that.
40:49
So everyone out there, have a wonderful Valentine's Day.
40:52
You know, keep going, you know, keep and find the right person that makes you happy.
40:58
You know, that's the most important thing.
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All right. We'll leave it at that. Thanks, everyone. See y'all.