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#HURDLEMOMENT: Repeat After Me, 'I Am Enough' · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: You are worthy, and someone that doesn't make you feel
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  Speaker 1: that way they are not your person. Hello hurdlers, Emily
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  Speaker 1: a body here bringing you another installment of Hurdle Moment
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  Speaker 1: from Hurdle. I am just so excited and feeling super
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  Speaker 1: reinvigorated to be back for season two, and like I
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  Speaker 1: said in Monday's episode, I am all about bringing you
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  Speaker 1: those fresh vibes for the podcast. My mission with Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: is simple to inspire you to be your best self,
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  Speaker 1: to move with intention and have some fun along the way.
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  Speaker 1: And I feel like Hurdle Moment really is my greater opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: a supplement if you will, to have honest, open conversations
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  Speaker 1: with this audience. And I mean that seriously. I know
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  Speaker 1: it's just me on this side of the microp when
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't get lost on me. But what I want
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  Speaker 1: from these weekly episodes, these quick hitters, is to spark
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  Speaker 1: a dialogue for you to interact with me. So please,
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying here is if what I'm putting down
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  Speaker 1: resonates with you, hit me up, whether that's on Instagram
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  Speaker 1: or over email at Emily Abody at Hurdle Podcast and
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  Speaker 1: Emily at Hurdle dot Us I just want to hear
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  Speaker 1: from you now. For today's episode, I am going to
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  Speaker 1: be talking about something that's really resonating with me this year,
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  Speaker 1: and that's the idea of self worth and owning your value. Now.
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  Speaker 1: I am not sure if it was on Instagram. It
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  Speaker 1: was probably on Instagram. I read this quote that really
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  Speaker 1: stuck with me, and it's stop begging people to sit
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  Speaker 1: down at the table with you. I'll say it again,
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  Speaker 1: stop begging people to sit down at the table with you.
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  Speaker 1: It's powerful, right, And that's because if you stop for
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  Speaker 1: just one second and you think about the things you
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  Speaker 1: were running after, you think about what it is that
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  Speaker 1: you want. If there's maybe a certain relationship or situation,
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  Speaker 1: or an opportunity at your office or with your friends
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  Speaker 1: or your family that you're running after and you feel
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  Speaker 1: like you just can't grab hold of it, there's a
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  Speaker 1: reason why I'm going to let you in on a
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  Speaker 1: little secret right off the bat. When you only open
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  Speaker 1: the door for things that serve you, for things that
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  Speaker 1: are reciprocal your sense of self worth, it's skyrockets. And
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  Speaker 1: who doesn't want that? Who doesn't deserve that? Before I
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  Speaker 1: get into the topic, I do want to take a
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  Speaker 1: And with that, I say it's about time to reclaim
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  Speaker 1: some power. Let's get to hurdling. You are enough. You
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  Speaker 1: are enough, I swear. I'd probably say that to myself
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  Speaker 1: at least once a day. It's like a positive affirmation
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  Speaker 1: right when you say it, and you repeat it over
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  Speaker 1: and over, and as you do that, the more you
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  Speaker 1: do that, you believe it, because that's just how affirmations work.
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  Speaker 1: I want you, right now, right from the get go,
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  Speaker 1: to do a simple exercise. Think about the last time
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  Speaker 1: you try to make a plan or set up a
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  Speaker 1: meeting and it just felt absolutely impossible. Now ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: why was that. Was the person on the other side
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  Speaker 1: of the computer or the text message or the phone
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  Speaker 1: call not putting in any effort to make this meeting happen,
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  Speaker 1: or was there just maybe a breakdown in communication. I
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  Speaker 1: want to stress this from the beginning of this convo. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: there will be times that there is that breakdown in communication,
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  Speaker 1: but if someone values you, if someone values your time,
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  Speaker 1: they will work with you to figure something out. What
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about today is the person that you keep
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  Speaker 1: putting in effort with who isn't giving you the time
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  Speaker 1: that you deserve. I feel like this is definitely prevalent
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  Speaker 1: a lot in dating that goes without saying you can't
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  Speaker 1: figure out what's going on with this person that you
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  Speaker 1: are so all in on Man. I have been there.
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  Speaker 1: Everything feels great when you're together, but you're just trying
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  Speaker 1: to make plans and it's not happening, and you have
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  Speaker 1: nothing on the calendar, and they're giving you the run around.
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  Speaker 1: And I hate to be the bearer of bad news,
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  Speaker 1: but there's a reason for that. Now. I'm not going
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  Speaker 1: to dive into what their personal issues might be, but
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  Speaker 1: plain and simple, when someone doesn't make time for you,
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  Speaker 1: when someone doesn't take the initiative to figure out a
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  Speaker 1: way to see you, that's because they don't feel like
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  Speaker 1: they need to. It's that bad news. They are just
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  Speaker 1: not that into you. Of course, Unfortunately, this can apply
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  Speaker 1: in a few different scenarios. Maybe it's with your friendships,
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's at the office, it's with your work relationships.
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  Speaker 1: If you are too willing to give someone something and
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  Speaker 1: they are not willing to reciprocate it back, then this
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  Speaker 1: is a relationship that you probably don't need. Now. The
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  Speaker 1: hard part, and truly I mean this, I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I struggle with it too, is being okay with not
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  Speaker 1: running after the people that don't serve you. You have
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  Speaker 1: to accept that these people or these situations they might
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  Speaker 1: not be for you. Trust me. Other things will fall
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  Speaker 1: into place, other people, other scenarios, other opportunities. It's just
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  Speaker 1: like my stance on failure. You don't work your butt
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  Speaker 1: off for things not to go your way, but failure happens,
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  Speaker 1: and when it does, you have the opportunity to learn
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  Speaker 1: and then pivot and make a change. Yeah, it's frustrating
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  Speaker 1: when the person at the desk next to you gets
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  Speaker 1: invited to the meeting with that person that you want
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  Speaker 1: their time, and of course you want to be in
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  Speaker 1: on the girl's weekend that your so called friends are
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  Speaker 1: planning without you. That stuff sucks. But I want you
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  Speaker 1: in these instances where your heart hurts to remind yourself
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  Speaker 1: that you are worthy and someone that doesn't make you
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  Speaker 1: feel that way they are not your person. I've got
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  Speaker 1: another quick exercise for you, whether it's on your cell
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  Speaker 1: phone or if you're just grabbing a pen and paper
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  Speaker 1: right now, I want you to write down the heading
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  Speaker 1: this is what I bring to the table now. I
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  Speaker 1: know it sounds a little bit silly, but sometimes we
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  Speaker 1: just need these little reminders of how awesome it is
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  Speaker 1: that we are. I'm going to say that to you again.
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  Speaker 1: You are awesome. It's easy to get down in yourself,
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  Speaker 1: especially when life feels like it's moving one thousand miles
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  Speaker 1: an hour. But right now, under this heading, what I
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  Speaker 1: want you to do is take some time to be
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  Speaker 1: candid with what it is that makes you great. I'll start.
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  Speaker 1: You're welcome. I've worked really hard to establish healthy habits
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  Speaker 1: that make me better for the people that I care
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  Speaker 1: about and the people that I interact with throughout my day,
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  Speaker 1: which means that when I'm wagging up with the sun, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it takes effort to get out of bed, but I
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  Speaker 1: am up, I'm out, I'm sweating, I feel good after.
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  Speaker 1: And so the line that I write under this heading
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  Speaker 1: of what I bring to the table is I bring
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  Speaker 1: authenticity and a clear mind because I give back to
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  Speaker 1: myself every single morning to get to this place. Another highlight,
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  Speaker 1: I am kind. I truly believe that even in instances
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  Speaker 1: where I feel like I'm met with harsh words or
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  Speaker 1: maybe whoever is on the other side of that dm
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  Speaker 1: isn't having a good day. Regardless of how this person
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  Speaker 1: and I come into contact, I try to treat them
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  Speaker 1: with respect and greet it with an open heart, and
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  Speaker 1: I'll stick by my conviction that that makes me a
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  Speaker 1: kind person. Something really special happens when you own your value,
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  Speaker 1: when you stop begging people treat you how you deserve,
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  Speaker 1: When you stop saying you can't do something and start
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  Speaker 1: saying you won't. You stand by your conviction, you stay
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  Speaker 1: by your foundations, and you stand up for yourself. And
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  Speaker 1: how awesome is that? Because in this moment, you claim
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  Speaker 1: what's yours, you claim what you deserve. And I have
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  Speaker 1: big hopes for you, guys, but I know that for me,
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  Speaker 1: I am willing to fight for that. So now I'll
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  Speaker 1: encourage you to do one last exercise. Maybe this one's
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  Speaker 1: a little bit harder. I want you to make a
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  Speaker 1: list of the situations, or perhaps the people that make
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  Speaker 1: you feel like you're not good enough. You're probably gonna
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  Speaker 1: have to be a little bit blunt, but here's the deal.
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  Speaker 1: When you look at this list, ask yourself, what is
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  Speaker 1: it about these people, these situations, these opportunities that keep
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  Speaker 1: me lingering? Why am I not walking away? I have
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  Speaker 1: a hunch that in most of these relationships you probably can.
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  Speaker 1: And if you feel as though you cannot, then what
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  Speaker 1: you owe it to yourself is to be honest with
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  Speaker 1: that person. Be honest in that situation. Confront it head
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  Speaker 1: on again the language. Instead of saying that I can't
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  Speaker 1: do that, say that I won't do that. Don't diminish
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  Speaker 1: your value to make someone else feel better. You're better
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  Speaker 1: than that. Keep your chin up, hurdlers, We've got some
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  Speaker 1: special connections to make and a whole lot of value
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  Speaker 1: to go around. At Hurdle Podcast at Emily Avadi, another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Go grab your seat at the table.