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Quiet Courage (Saying Yes When You’re Scared) (S4) S52:E3 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hey guys.
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  Good evening.
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  It is John C.
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  Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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  So you're tuned into, ladies and gentlemen, another
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  powerful, amazing episode of the ever popular Inspirations
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  for Your Life show.
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  Today's Monday.
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  Yes.
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  And our Monday episode of the Inspirations for
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  Your Life show.
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  This is the daily motivational show.
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  This is a show that helps you think
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  sharper, feel stronger and lead your life on
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  purpose.
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  By the way, this is John Seymour, serial
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  entrepreneur, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach,
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  graduate student and a passionate lifelong learner.
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  And I'm here to guide you through practical
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  high impact mindset shifts you can actually use
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  in the real world, not just as a
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  repost of quotes.
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  So tonight's master topic in spotting real life
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  is quiet courage, saying yes when you're scared
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  and our focus is doing the right thing,
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  the next right thing.
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  Even when you're a little nervous, if you've
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  been hesitating on a decision, overthinking your next
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  move or waiting to feel ready, this episode
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  is just for you.
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  So without any further ado, guys, let's go
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  ahead and kick this show off.
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  OK, number one, you don't need to be
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  fearless.
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  You don't need to be fearless.
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  You need to move while afraid.
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  Fear can ride the car, but it doesn't
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  get to touch the steering wheel.
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  And when you move anyway, that's where quiet
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  courage starts to grow.
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  Number two, guys, the scariest yes probably built
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  you the most.
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  Think back.
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  Your scariest yes starting, leaving, speaking up probably
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  built you more than any safe choice you've
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  had.
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  Remembering that your biggest growth came from your
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  boldest yes makes the next one easier to
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  give even with butterflies.
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  Number three, guys, if you wait to feel
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  ready, you'll never start.
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  Ready is usually a story your brain tells
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  to delay discomfort.
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  Start before you feel ready with one imperfect
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  step and you'll discover readiness is not a
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  prerequisite for action.
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  It's a byproduct of doing.
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  Number four, guys, your comfort zone never claps
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  for you.
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  Nope, never does.
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  Your comfort zone is safe and familiar, but
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  it never claps for you.
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  Real applause inside and outside shows up when
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  you cross the invisible line into risk, growth
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  and possibility.
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  Number five, ask, will I like who I
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  become if I do this?
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  Before any risk, ask, will I like who
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  I become if I do this?
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  When decisions are anchored in who you're becoming
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  instead of what you might lose, even messy
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  outcomes feel more peaceful.
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  I think that's a challenge for a lot
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  of people.
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  Fear doesn't always mean stop.
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  Fear doesn't always mean stop.
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  Sometimes it just means pay attention.
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  Be alert.
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  Ask, is this fear protecting me from danger
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  or just from a discomfort that I have?
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  And then move, well, thoughtfully instead of automatically
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  slamming the brakes.
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  So I've told you before, when we move
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  autonomously and we are not tuned into the
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  moment of life, well, we rob ourselves from
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  the joy, from the beauty, from the creativity.
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  Number seven, guys, you can renegotiate decisions.
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  You're not signing your life away with one
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  choice.
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  Most decisions are experiments you can tweak or
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  exit.
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  Telling yourself, I'll try this for 30 days
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  and review gives your brain a safety valve
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  and makes action possible again.
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  Number eight, guys, the real risk is staying
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  stuck.
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  The risk isn't only what if I fail,
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  it's what if I stay here forever?
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  When you factor in the cost of an
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  unlived life, staying put often turns out to
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  be the more dangerous option.
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  It may not seem it, but it is.
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  Number nine, guys, you already survived your worst
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  days.
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  You've already survived heartbreak, loss, disappointment, and you're
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  still here.
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  Remembering your resilience shrinks the fear around one
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  more bold move to something you can actually
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  handle.
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  Turn big change into three tiny experiments.
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  I must change everything paralyzes you.
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  I'll run three tiny experiments, get you moving.
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  Break big goals into small tests like one
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  message call, one call per week, one tweak,
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  and you'll find the mountain is really just
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  three pebbles deep.
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  Number 11, are you perhaps terrified and maybe
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  you're committed and wondering how that can coexist?
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  You're allowed to be both terrified and committed
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  at the same time.
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  Yes, you are.
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  Courage is choosing to move in the direction
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  of your values while fear screams the background.
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  Number 12, guys, I think this is an
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  important one to to to understand a very,
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  very important one.
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  I think you're definitely going to want to
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  understand.
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  And I'll tell you guys that.
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  It's important to to understand this.
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  If it scares you and excites you, well,
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  look closer, that mix of fear and excitement
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  often signals an opportunity that will grow you.
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  Instead of running, ask, is this danger or
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  is this me stepping into a bigger version
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  of myself?
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  Number 13, write down the worst case scenario.
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  Get the monster out of your head and
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  onto paper.
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  Once you see the real worst case scenario,
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  you can make a plan to cope, recover.
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  And fear just shrinks.
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  Catastrophic and now manageable.
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  I think that's what a lot of people
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  want to see.
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  They want to see that, you know, we
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  can make these changes in our life.
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  And we don't need to be imprisoned by
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  something that someone's telling us.
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  Number 14, guys, a good risk makes you
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  more honest.
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  A good risk doesn't just make you more
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  impressive, it makes you more honest.
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  The best risks bring your outer life closer
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  to your inner truth, even if they don't
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  look flashy from the outside.
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  Number 15, you don't have to broadcast every
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  brave step.
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  You can take courageous steps without announcing them
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  to the world.
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  Quiet courage happens in private emails, applications, boundaries
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  and decisions.
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  You never post about those.
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  Number 16, tiny brave acts still count.
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  Sending the email, booking the call, right?
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  Asking the question, asking the question.
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  These tiny moves count.
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  Small brave acts, repeated compound into new opportunities,
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  new skills and a new story about who
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  you are.
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  I think that's an important thing to understand.
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  Number 17, fear is loud.
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  Your values are quiet.
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  Fear yells, your values whisper.
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  Great silence long enough to ask what actually
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  matters here and let your values guide you
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  instead of your panic.
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  Number 18, let future of you be the
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  advisor.
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  Ask a future me, told the story.
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  Would they be proud?
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  I tried.
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  Future you usually cares less about perfection and
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  more about the fact that you didn't abandon
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  your own potential.
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  I think when we can brainstorm about potential,
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  I think that's something a lot of people
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  don't really get.
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  Sometimes where we are in the moment is
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  important, but it's not everything.
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  We have to understand what this is, and
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  I think that's something really important for us
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  to to grab a hold of, thinking about
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  what all these things mean, thinking about what
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  they can do for us, thinking about how
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  our life can change by just being in
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  the moment.
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  Number 19, please start with the smallest version
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  of the scary thing.
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  Take the smallest version of what scares you.
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  Speak to five people instead of 50.
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  Post once instead of weekly.
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  Take one class instead of enrolling fully.
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  Small versions are still real reps and they
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  build confidence.
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  So why is it that we don't take
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  those?
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  Maybe you don't think there's a choice.
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  But actually, that choice that can help us
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  to get closer to what we want is
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  what we should be embracing.
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  Number 20, guys.
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  Your first yes can be a calendar block.
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  Your first yes doesn't have to be a
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  contract.
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  It can be a calendar block.
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  When you schedule 30 minutes for the thing
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  you've been avoiding, you move from vague intention
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  to real commitment.
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  And I think that's something a lot of
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  people don't understand, is that commitment is not
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  something we just do once.
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  Commitment is an ongoing diet of things that
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  we have to keep doing.
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  I think that's an important piece, is understanding
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  what that commitment really means to us and
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  how it's going to embrace us, right?
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  I think that's a very important thing.
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  Are you committed in life or do you
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  just show up when it's convenient for you?
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  I mean, I'm being honest here, guys.
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  Do you just show up when you have
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  the time or is it more than that?
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  I hope it's more than that.
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  Number 21, guys.
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  Being responsible doesn't mean staying stuck.
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  Being the responsible one doesn't mean tolerating situations
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  that drain you.
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  True responsibilities includes responsibility to your energy, your
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  health, and your long term well-being.
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  That's right.
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  I said your long term well-being.
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  That's something that a lot of people just
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  don't seem to, they don't seem to understand
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  like what that means.
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  And I want to tell you that it's
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  important.
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  It's really, really important.
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  Number 22, you're not indecisive.
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  You're afraid of consequences.
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  You're usually not indecisive.
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  You're afraid of consequences.
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  You haven't named yet.
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  Write them down so you can problem solve.
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  And then instead of letting a vague fog
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  of fear freeze you, look at what is
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  there and what you can do.
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  I think these are very powerful things that
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  a lot of us don't realize.
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  Number 23, guys.
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  Ask what would I do if I trusted
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  myself?
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  What would I do if I trusted myself?
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  To cut through overthinking, ask what would I
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  do if I trusted myself?
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  Very often, guys, the next right step appears
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  quickly.
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  You've just been waiting for someone else to
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  co-sign it.
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  And that's a very interesting thought.
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  If we want to brainstorm that for a
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  minute, you know, we have to think about
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  what that means.
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  Number 24, brave can look boring from the
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  outside.
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  Courage isn't always dramatic.
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  Sometimes brave is therapy, budgeting, turning off your
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  screen or choosing a healthy relationship.
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  Things that look boring but change your life
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  are where your secret sauce lies.
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  And it's actually our secret sauce that gets
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  us to be better.
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  It gets us to understand why we're doing
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  something a certain way or why we're not
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  doing something.
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  I think that's an important point.
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  Because we have to understand that.
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  OK, I think that's an important piece.
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  That we can understand.
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  And we can basically try to, let's say,
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  to think.
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  Right.
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  I think.
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  When we can embrace a moment.
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  OK.
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  And with that moment, we can start to
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  maybe make some of our own deductions.
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  We can say, look, this is where we
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  are right now in our life.
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  Now, it might not be where we currently
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  want to be, but it's a part in
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  our life that can make a huge difference
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  for us.
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  If we understand where we are at the
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  moment and we understand how we're traversing through.
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  That's going to make a big difference for
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  everybody.
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  Maybe you're not thinking about it because somebody
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  else says, oh, you don't need to do
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  that.
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  But really, guys.
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  You do need to do that, OK?
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  You do need to do that.
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  And I will tell you.
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  That if you understand where you're at.
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  Again, you may not like where you're at
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  right now, but you at least understand where
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  you're at and you know where you're going.
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  I think that's a very important thing to
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  understand and that's a very important thing to
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  understand.
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  And hopefully you can gain more insights to
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  say, wait a minute, like now I see
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  why I'm this way or why I'm that
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  way.
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  That's a very important thing to be pondering,
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  thinking about the moment as we're talking today
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  about quiet courage.
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  Quiet courage is not.
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  When you're loud and boisterous, right.
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  It's not when you're trying to let everybody
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  know what you're doing.
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  Being quiet.
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  Is an inner result and it's that step.
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  It'll actually take you to another part of
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  your life.
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  Just being aware of quiet courage, quiet courage
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  doesn't ask for anything.
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  Quiet courage becomes.
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  Like a pull of strength, it becomes.
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  One of the.
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  The corner.
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  Foundations, pieces.
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  Whatever reason we don't necessarily think about that,
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  and that's something that a lot of people
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  get confused about.
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  You'll say, well, gee, if it's quiet courage,
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  how am I ever going to go anywhere
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  with it?
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  Saying yes when you're scared.
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  Is a very important part of quiet courage.
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  Because we all get scared.
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  But to say yes and do it anyway.
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  That's quiet courage.
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  That's not you getting up on a soapbox
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  or getting up on a stage.
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  It's you just being in the moment.
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  That's pretty powerful, guys.
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  Extremely powerful, actually, if you ask me.
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  Very powerful.
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  Number 25.
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  Stop auditioning your dreams.
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  Stop putting your dreams in front of an
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  imaginary judging panel.
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  Advice is fine, but at some point you
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  must decide your dream is a responsibility, not
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  a group project.
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  A lot of times when we do this,
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  we cause procrastination.
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  We cause ourselves to backpedal.
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  We've done so great work.
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  And then we start analyzing every little crevice.
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  And the little bit of, let's say, positive
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  feelings we have just sort of fall apart.
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  Number 26, guys.
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  If you tell your friend to go for
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  it, why not you?
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  You'd probably tell your best friend in your
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  shoes to go for it.
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  Tonight, give yourself the same encouragement you'd give
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  them and take one step in that direction.
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  Encouragement is a priceless piece of advice.
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  Encouragement helps raise the dopamine in our brains.
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  Encouragement helps us to ponder life's questions.
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  Encouragement helps us to celebrate the victory and
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  then come back and do it again next
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  time.
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  Number 27, guys.
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  You don't need a five-year plan, just
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  a five-minute action.
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  Long-range plans are helpful, but they can
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  also become, well, procrastination.
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  Ask, what can I do in the next
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  five minutes to move this forward?
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  Then do that.
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  One small action consistently is your key.
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  One small action.
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  One small action is the key to success.
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  Number 28, guys.
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  Don't ghost your own potential.
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  Courage.
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  Deciding not to ghost your own potential anymore
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  is key.
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  Show up for your ideas and gifts even
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  briefly and you teach yourself, I am worth
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  my own time and the energy.
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  Number 29, guys.
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  Imagine regret and then move to avoid it.
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  Imagine the future you saying, I could have
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  tried, but I didn't.
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  And feel that sting for a moment.
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  Let that imagined regret push you into one
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  honest, courageous action today.
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  Again, I've said to you to keep a
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  hold of what is going on.
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  Keep a hold of what your mind is
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  doing.
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  And I say this to you because we
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  have to be aware of things in our
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  lives.
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  We have to be aware of where we
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  stand right now, what we believe in right
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  now.
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  We also have to embrace the challenges that
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  sometimes surface when other people don't support our
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  dreams.
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  But you're your own best supporter.
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  You need to continue with that, guys.
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  You need to always be your best supporter
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  because you'll always be your best cheerleader.
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  And when that happens, it's like, well, they
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  say you've got a friend in me, right?
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  Remember the movie?
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  It helps us to ground ourselves, to think
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  about who we were yesterday, to think about
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  who we are today, to think about change
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  in our life.
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  I think that's a very important point, change
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  in our life.
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  Change in our life happens because we made
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  a realization that we're not happy where we
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  are at the given moment.
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  We've made that deduction in our own mind.
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  And we have to remember that doing something
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  and being scared sometimes is the best way.
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  Even though it might not seem it at
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  the moment or at the time.
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  When we focus and we can exude quiet
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  courage, we become an unstoppable force that no
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  one can stop.
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  No one can redirect.
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  I think that's important to understand.
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  I think if we can ponder the fact
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  of who we are right now in the
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  given moment, we can anchor ourselves.
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  We can choose to be better.
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  Notice I said, ladies and gentlemen, we can
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  choose to be better.
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  I didn't necessarily say we are better.
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  I said we could choose to be better.
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  I think that's a very...
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  I think that's an important thing that a
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  lot of people just don't get.
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  But we can choose to be better.
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  We can choose to be better right now.
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  Number 29, guys.
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  As I said, imagine that regret, as I
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  told you, and avoid it.
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  Keep the lesson.
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  And going back to number 30, say yes
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  to the next right step.
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  Not the whole staircase.
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  You don't have to say yes to the
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  whole staircase.
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  Just say yes to the next right step.
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  Clarity lives in motion.
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  And one small yes at a time is
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  how you quietly, okay, climb what once looked
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  impossible.
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  You've been listening or watching the Inspiration is
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  Your Life ever popular podcast show with myself,
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  Johnson Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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  Let's start showing some quiet courage and success
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  will show up in our lives.
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  Have a great one, everyone, and be well.