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Autistic People 3 Mistakes YOU Make Daily! · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  Hey, I'm talking to you autistic people.
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  Here are three mistakes that you make daily all out plus more is
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  coming right up so don't go anywhere.
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  Hey guys welcome back to the ASP world.
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  My name is Dan, I have autism, ADHD, OCD and dyslexia and I
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  make weekly videos all about this stuff.
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  So if you're new around here and you want to learn more in an
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  awesome environment, make sure to hit that subscribe button by
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  clicking the notification belt down below to make sure you
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  don't miss a video. I'm covering 3 really
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  interesting points that mistakes that you make daily being in the
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  spectrum. Don't worry, I'm not calling you
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  out, I'm just expressing something in a way for you to
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  become a little bit more confident in who you are.
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  So mistakes autistic people make, I know that we all make
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  mistakes daily. And you know, making mistakes is
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  good because mistakes lead to something potentially being a
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  failure and failure is actually a really good thing.
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  hard. Because when you fail at
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  something that shows you that that's not the thing that you're
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  supposed to do. You need to find an ulterior
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  road and do something else completely different, which
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  means that failure is actually a good way of testing things.
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  It's kind of like what we've all done since the dawn of time,
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  trial and error and trying our best.
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  OK guys, let's get on with the video.
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  OK, so the three mistakes, what are they?
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  Like I said, we were only looking at the word mistakes
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  here as being something that is non negative.
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  More learning, so less negative, more learning.
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  You're still awesome and I love you dearly.
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  So number one is don't apologise for being artistic.
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  Many artistic people, I see this dearly.
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  They'll apologise for their autistic behaviour like you
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  know, oh, I'm sorry, I'm I'm autistic or I can't do that.
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  I'm sorry I'm autistic. They'll they'll say that I'm
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  sorry for being autistic, like being in the autism spectrum
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  isn't something you need to be sorry for.
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  It's not something that you actually, you know, need to to
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  worry about. It's something that is, is
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  should be celebrated as part of who you are, right.
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  And it's kind of bizarre that we find ourselves run to apologise
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  and because of the world we live in and disabilities like
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  neurodevelopmental conditions like autism, they're always kind
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  of scene with skepticism from some people.
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  You know, some people will say, oh, it doesn't exist.
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  It's just excuse for bad behaviour and yada, yada.
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  You know, you've heard the rhetoric.
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  And I think we as autistic individuals will find out that's
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  a pressure on us to make sure that we say, oh, oh, I'm sorry,
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  I'm on the auts of the spectrum. Well, all stops today, Dan me,
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  I'm allowing you to say no more. Just stop apologising for being
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  autistic. You're awesome just the way you
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  are. People need to expect that and
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  they need to accept it. If you're enjoying studios for
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  Five Guys, please give it a thumbs up.
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  Really does help me be awesome if you could.
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  OK, so the next thing I'm going to talk about is I'm asking you
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  a question. Are you autistic and ADHD or are
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  you just autistic? Like let me know.
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  Do you have comorbidities or you just autistic?
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  I want to know who I'm talking to and the way you're watching
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  from and stuff like that. So pop it in a comment down
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  below. If you're autistic or you're
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  autistic and ADHDL or DHD is when you'll call it, let me
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  know. I respond to every single
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  comment because I read every single comment.
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  OK #2 is that the biggest mistake I think autistic people
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  do is you push yourself into uncomfortable situations,
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  especially social situations because you don't want to let
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  down somebody. Like see, you've got a group of
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  friends and you they, your friends like, hey, we're all
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  going out for a beer after work, you're going to come with us.
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  I mean, you're gut instinct to say no, I don't want to offer a
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  beer because that's not me. That's not who I am.
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  I want to go home, snub on my blanket, watch every rear out of
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  Doctor Who whilst also on Wikipedia learning about why
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  cats have claws and why cats are so small.
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  Now you know, there are so many different things and they know
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  that you, you're watching this right now.
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  Give the video a thumbs up if I just called you out.
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  And there's so many things that we want to do that don't involve
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  go out socializing because those things are hugely anxiety
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  ridden. You know, they're, they're high
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  in anxiety, they're high in stress and they're in
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  comfortable situations. But I see so many autistic
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  people wanting to fit in, wanting to to mask the situation
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  and they'll just go out and they'll do that thing.
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  And then of course, what happens?
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  They burn out, you're going to burn out.
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  So a number 3 is don't acquire your voice because autistic
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  individuals are so typically the people who will sit in the
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  background and not speak out even when they know something is
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  a wrong or B not advocating for yourself.
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  Like if there is something that you have a problem with, if
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  there's something that you're not quite happy with, you have
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  to speak out. Don't think that you're a burden
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  or you're, you're a pain because, oh, you want, you know,
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  the light to be different, or you want to put your headphones
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  in, or you want to kind of turn the heating down in the room.
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  Or there is some issue that you as a resisted person will
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  definitely have, but you won't voice your voice because you
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  think that you're not as important as somebody else.
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  I see it all the time. We are sometimes our own worst
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  advocates because we want to advocate for all these people
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  and all these disabilities. Yet when it comes to us, we're
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  the quietest voice about ourselves.
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  So make sure you're #1 make sure your voice is heard.
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  Do not quiet here and the reason this all helps and reason these
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  three mistakes that you make daily impact your life is
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  because these impact your ability to be confident and we
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  all need to be confident, but autistic people specifically
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  have an issue of confidence. I actually did a course all
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  about this. It's a program called chaos to
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  confidence in 90 days for autistic people.
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  And I'll leave a link for it down below if you're really
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  interested in checking it out. But this is how you know super
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  into this. I am I I just can't believe that
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  we leave all of this confidence building stuff on the table and
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  we end up being less confident as people and autistic people
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  are the people who need confidence the most.
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  Now, if you think this video was valuable, please give it a
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  thumbs up and share it on social media to help other people.
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  Now guys, check out the video I've left here for you because I
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  think you're really going to enjoy it and I'll see you in the
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  next time guys, peace. Hey guys, thank you so much for
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  checking out this podcast. Make sure you are subscribed
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  See you in the next one. Iece.