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Moving Beyond Arguments and Widening One’s Thought · Sri Aurobindo Studies

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  At some time or another, every human being has the experience
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  of having an opinion thought or idea.
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  Contradicted, the usual reaction is to defend one's position
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  whether or not it is. Well, founded and arguments.
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  Tend to ensue, it is rare. That one side of the argument is
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  entirely right and the other side is entirely wrong. when
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  looked at from a neutral perspective, Generally, there's
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  something that can be appreciated or understood from
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  any opposing or differing viewpoints yet.
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  We tend to be so busy defending our own view that we fail to
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  appreciate the positive aspects of other views.
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  SRI, aurobindo reminds us in the Life.
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  Divine that the apparent contradictions can be reconciled
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  into a higher synthesis. The mother suggest, the way to
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  accomplish this and interpersonal relationships.
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  And thereby also widen our own way of seeing and acting first,
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  there must be a status of quiet receptivity in the mind instead
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  of the naturally reactive state that we jump into when
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  challenged in our view. We must be prepared to
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  appreciate that. There is at least some basis in
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  the other party's mind to set forth their view of things.
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  Then we need to develop a mechanism for entering into that
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  standpoint and relating the two views together.
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  The mother writes, quote, for instance you are with someone.
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  This person tells you something, you tell him the contrary as it
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  usually happens, simply through a spirit of contradiction and
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  You Begin arguing naturally you will never come to any point
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  except to quarrel if you are ill-natured.
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  But instead of doing that instead of remaining in your own
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  ideas or your own words, if you tell yourself, wait a little,
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  I'm going to try and see why he said that to me.
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  Yes, why did he tell me that? And you concentrate, why why?
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  Why you stand there? Just like that trying the other
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  person continues speaking designee and is very happy to
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  for you. Don't contradict Any longer you
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  talked profusely and is sure he has convinced you.
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  Then you concentrate more and more on what he is saying.
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  And with the feeling that gradually through his words, you
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  are entering his mind when you enter his head.
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  Suddenly you understand why he is speaking to you.
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  Thus and then if you have a fairly Swift intelligence and
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  put what you have, just come to understand alongside what you
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  had known. On before you have the two ways
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  together and so can find the truth reconciling both.
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  And here you have truly made progress, and this is the best
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  way of widening on stop. If you are, beginning an
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  argument, keep quiet immediately instantaneously, you must be
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  silent, say nothing at all, and then try to see the thing as the
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  other person sees it that won't make, you forget your own way of
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  seeing it, not at all, but you will be able to put both of them
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  together and you will have truly made progress.
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  A real progress, end quote. reference SRI aurobindo and the
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  mother living within the yoga approach to psychological health
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