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- There is a specific kind of grief that lives in the smell of yeast, warm and alive, rising in a glass jar on your counter. It’s not just bread you are baking; it’s a conversation with someone who can no longer speak, carried out through flour, water, and time. Let’s unpack that for a moment. Because I know exactly what you’re thinking. You’re thinking about how strange it feels to keep something alive that isn’t technically alive. A sourdough starter is a colony of wild yeast and bacteria, yes, but we treat it like a pet. We talk to it. We worry when it stops bubbling. And sometimes, we name it after people we’ve lost. Last week, I met a woman named Elena at a small café downtown. She brought in a mason jar labeled ‘Nonna.’ Nonna had passed two years prior, and Elena had taken her original starter culture from a recipe card stained with olive oil and tomato sauce. Now, every Sunday morning, before the sun hits the kitchen tiles, Elena feeds Nonna. She measures the flour with the same precision Nonna did. She whispers about her week into the sticky, tangy mixture. It sounds poetic, sure. But let’s be honest, it also sounds a little bit terrifying to some people. How do you hold space for death in a bowl of dough? How do you let go of control when the thing you’re nurturing is literally breathing, expanding, demanding attention whether you feel ready or not? It’s giving... deeply existential. When we bake with a starter named after a deceased relative, we are engaging in an act of radical memory. In a world that moves so fast, where news cycles change by the hour and our attention spans are fractured by digital noise, this practice forces us to slow down. You cannot rush sourdough. You cannot swipe away the fermentation process. You have to wait. You have to watch. And in that waiting, you enter a state of quiet contemplation that feels almost sacred. I remember reading about a man in Kyoto who kept his grandmother’s tea ceremony tools, using them not because he was a master, but because the ritual grounded him. He said the steam from the kettle smelled like her perfume. That is the same energy here. The starter is a vessel. It carries the flavor profile of the past into the present. If Nonna’s bread always had a slightly sharper tang, maybe because she used whole wheat, then Elena’s bread will carry that same sharpness. It’s a sensory ghost story. Every bite is a reminder that love persists, even when the person is gone. It transforms grief from a static pain into a dynamic, living process. And here is where it gets messy, because grief is messy. Sometimes the starter dies. Sometimes it separates and looks like gray liquid on top, smelling like acetone or old socks. In those moments, the connection to the deceased feels severed. You might feel angry. You might feel guilty for letting Nonna down. But hear me when I say this: starters are resilient. They bounce back. And so do we. There is a profound lesson in feeding a dying culture. You don’t throw it away immediately. You feed it again. You try again. You learn what it needs. Maybe it needs warmer water. Maybe it needs more rest. This mirrors our own healing process. We think we need to move on, to forget, to be ‘over it.’ But real healing is iterative. It’s feeding the wound until it becomes strong enough to rise again. When you look at your starter and see that layer of hooch, don’t see failure. See evidence that life is happening, even if it’s ugly. Even if it smells unpleasant. The act of caring for something fragile, especially something tied to loss, teaches us patience with ourselves. It reminds us that we are allowed to be broken and still be useful. Still be nourishing. I want to talk about the physical act of kneading. Have you ever noticed how rhythmic it is? Push, fold, turn. Push, fold, turn. It’s meditative. It’s repetitive. It’s primal. When you are shaping the loaf, your hands are doing the work that your mind might be struggling to process. This is why I loved that episode we did last month about comics featuring houseplants. Finding art when no one is watching, focusing on the small, green things. Baking is similar. It’s low-stakes creativity in the best way. You aren’t trying to go viral. You aren’t trying to impress anyone. You are making food for yourself, or for your family, or perhaps just for the joy of seeing it happen. But when you add the layer of ancestral naming, it becomes a ritual of continuity. You are saying, ‘I am here. They are remembered. We continue.’ It’s a defiance against oblivion. In a society that often discards the old, that prioritizes the new and shiny, keeping a starter alive is a quiet rebellion. It says that history matters. That flavors matter. That the voices of those who came before us still have a place at our table. Let’s talk about the taste. There is a complexity to sourdough that commercial yeast simply cannot replicate. Commercial bread is predictable. Uniform. Soft. Sourdough has character. It has bubbles of varying sizes, a crust that shatters, a crumb that holds moisture. It tastes like time. When you bake with a starter named after a loved one, you are tasting their legacy. You might not recognize the exact flavor, but you feel the intention. You feel the care. It’s subtle, but it’s there. I asked Elena about this once. She told me that when she eats Nonna’s bread, she doesn’t feel sad. She feels accompanied. She feels like she’s sitting at the kitchen table while her grandmother tells her a story. It’s a comforting illusion, but illusions can be powerful. They can provide comfort. They can help us navigate the darkness. We all need anchors. For some, it’s prayer. For others, it’s exercise. For Elena, it’s flour and water. And that is beautiful. There is no right way to grieve. There is no right way to remember. There is only what works for you. What helps you breathe a little easier in the middle of the night. So, here is my invitation to you. You don’t need to start a full sourdough culture if you’re not ready. That takes weeks. But you can start small. You can buy a loaf of artisanal bread and sit with it. Really sit with it. Notice the texture. Notice the aroma. Think about who made it possible. Think about the farmers, the millers, the bakers. Then, think about your own ancestors. Who fed you? Who taught you to cook? Who shared meals with you? Write down their names. Write down their favorite recipes. Even if you never make them, the act of writing them down honors them. Or, if you’re feeling brave, try a simple flatbread. Mix flour and water. Let it sit. Watch it change. Name it after someone you miss. Bake it. Eat it. Feel the connection. It’s a small thing, I know. But small things accumulate. They build a foundation. They create a sense of belonging that stretches across generations. You are part of a long line of people who have gathered around tables, broken bread, and found solace in each other. Don’t let that line end with you. Keep it going. One loaf at a time. Thank you for listening, for baking, for remembering. Stay curious. And maybe, just maybe, feed your starter tonight. Goodnight.