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Joey Bada$$ on Modern Fatherhood, Relationships & Building Family Legacy · Earn Your Leisure

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  Speaker 2: It's a pleasure to.
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  Speaker 3: Have you, Joey badass man, legendary rapper actor. You're a
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  Speaker 3: renaissance man. But more importantly, I like the role that
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  Speaker 3: you're playing now as far as a father, as far
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  Speaker 3: as you know in the relationship with your woman open like,
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  Speaker 3: I just feel like you are saying of great example
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  Speaker 3: of masculinity in twenty twenty five, because it's a lot
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  Speaker 3: of it's a lot of other things that that's put
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  Speaker 3: out there in the media, but what you're doing as
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  Speaker 3: far as how you how you're handling yourself is very
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  Speaker 3: reminiscent of a of an error that's familiar to me.
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  Speaker 3: As far as being a little older than you, and
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  Speaker 3: I feel like you're kind of like an old soul.
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  Speaker 2: So I appreciate the way that you carry yourself first
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  Speaker 2: and foremost appreciate that man.
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  Speaker 4: Appreciate Yeah, man, you know, I'm off for the collective,
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  Speaker 4: and I think that one of the main things that
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  Speaker 4: we need to be doing as a people is getting
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  Speaker 4: right with each other. And we gotta you know, the relationship,
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  Speaker 4: the family aspect is a lot of healing that gotta
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  Speaker 4: be done in that and you know, I kind of
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  Speaker 4: keep that in my sights and I take my relationship
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  Speaker 4: with my women very seriously. But you know, deeper, even
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  Speaker 4: beyond us, like I look at us as if we
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  Speaker 4: have the opportunity to course correct, we have the opportunity
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  Speaker 4: to stand on this platform and almost be an example,
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  Speaker 4: you know, to our community of what we can be
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  Speaker 4: and you know, and what we should be.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, no pressure, no pressure on everybody out there.
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  Speaker 4: I know it's definitely not easy, and I definitely don't
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  Speaker 4: want to make it seem like it's easy even being
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  Speaker 4: in that container with someone because you know it comes
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  Speaker 4: with the challenges for sure.
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  Speaker 3: Well I want to That's why I want to start.
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  Speaker 3: I want to start with family because how how old you?
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  Speaker 2: Howld you? I'm thirty, So as.
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  Speaker 3: A young man, you got a family, right, Like? Talk
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  Speaker 3: about that, Like talk about to you the importance of
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  Speaker 3: having that family and some of the trials and tribulations
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  Speaker 3: and how you're actually growing and learning how to become
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  Speaker 3: you know, a family man.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 4: I think I've always being family oriented, you know, just
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  Speaker 4: from when I was a kid, you know, barbecues and
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  Speaker 4: all of that, like at my great grandmother's house, and
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  Speaker 4: you know, I was I was grateful enough to be
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  Speaker 4: born into a big family. It's funny because I remember
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  Speaker 4: when I you know, I got to like middle school
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  Speaker 4: and I started really connecting with my friends and you know,
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  Speaker 4: going by their homes and stuff, and I was like, oh, snap,
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  Speaker 4: like everybody ain't got a big family, you know.
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  Speaker 2: And I started realizing.
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  Speaker 4: How valuable that was to to be able to grow
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  Speaker 4: up in a community that was so close knit and
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  Speaker 4: you know, people looking out for each other. So I
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  Speaker 4: think that's just something that I definitely inherited from my childhood. However,
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  Speaker 4: there's a lot of things that I did not see,
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  Speaker 4: Like I didn't I've never been to. I've probably been
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  Speaker 4: to like two weddings.
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  Speaker 2: In my life. Really, yeah, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't see any real examples of affectionate love growing up.
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  Speaker 4: So even though there was family, even though there was
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  Speaker 4: like community, I didn't really see relationships.
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  Speaker 2: Being developed in you know, cultivated like that.
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  Speaker 4: So that's something that I took with me into my adulthood,
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  Speaker 4: and you know that that's something that I tried to
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  Speaker 4: create for myself and for the following generation that's coming
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  Speaker 4: after me.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you know, my fiance. And it's funny.
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  Speaker 4: Because just last night we we like to have meetings
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  Speaker 4: with each other because we almost acknowledged the fact that
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  Speaker 4: part of being in this relationship with each other, or
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  Speaker 4: part of being in this container with each other and
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  Speaker 4: part of cultivating a future with children and goals and
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  Speaker 4: stuff like that is you you kind of got to
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  Speaker 4: approach it from a business mind a standpoint. So you know,
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  Speaker 4: we had one of our meetings, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 4: Like usually we get like a we work office or
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  Speaker 4: something like that, and we meeting there and we put
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  Speaker 4: the goals on the board, and you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 4: We we really plant it out. What's the long term,
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  Speaker 4: what's the short term, what's the what's the now?
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. What we're gonna grab off
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  Speaker 2: the short term.
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  Speaker 4: List and attack right now like the next thirty six,
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  Speaker 4: next part of me twelve weeks, you know.
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  Speaker 2: What I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: So it's just kind of like creating what we feel
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  Speaker 4: we should have seen becoming that becoming a change that
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  Speaker 4: that we want to see. And yeah, man, you know
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  Speaker 4: it's so dope because you know we're there and it's like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, our son is in there, and you know
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  Speaker 4: he only like four months now, but I'm just like this,
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  Speaker 4: this is the type of future that we want to build,
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  Speaker 4: not only for ourselves, before our children where they could
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  Speaker 4: grow up being like, oh, you know, Mom and Dad
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  Speaker 4: in the meeting room again as a meeting of the
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  Speaker 4: minds again, and they part of it, you know, they
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  Speaker 4: part of it, Like this is what we're gonna do.
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  Speaker 2: This is where we headed.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that's why a lot of relationships today
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  Speaker 4: are so doomed or they fail because you got two
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  Speaker 4: people who really don't come together in the line with
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  Speaker 4: any type of goal, direction or even business plan. You know,
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  Speaker 4: you got two people essentially just floating in space and
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  Speaker 4: not you know, it was just caught out rather long
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  Speaker 4: time ago, right, It's like I can't even necessarily remember it.
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  Speaker 4: But the analogy is pretty much like you being on
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  Speaker 4: a plane, or you being on a boat, and just
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  Speaker 4: the smallest degree of you.
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  Speaker 2: Turning one degree this, one degree.
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  Speaker 4: In this direction, or you know you're turning to sell
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  Speaker 4: that direction, you end up somewhere you never even planned
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  Speaker 4: on going, you know what I mean negatively, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: So it's all about mapping it out.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, cause some people are passengers on their
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  Speaker 4: own plane, their passengers on.
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  Speaker 2: Their own ship, if you will.
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  Speaker 4: You know, like some people don't even realize that they
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  Speaker 4: could get into the cockpit or they could get into
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  Speaker 4: the captain seat insteer the whole thing where they want
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  Speaker 4: to go.
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  Speaker 2: So you know, we apply that a lot, and.
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  Speaker 4: We make sure that we get super accountable on what
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  Speaker 4: this is and what we're creating and what we ultimately
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  Speaker 4: want to be.
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  Speaker 3: How do you pick a person that's in alignment for
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  Speaker 3: you and can you talk to us about some of
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  Speaker 3: the challenges that you guys face and how you work
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  Speaker 3: through them.
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  Speaker 4: I think that's a great question. I think that there's
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  Speaker 4: a series of like call it almost like like, uh,
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  Speaker 4: there's a veting process, and I think everybody is different.
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  Speaker 4: It's all about you have to know personally what your
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  Speaker 4: value systems are. You know, what what what do you value?
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  Speaker 4: What's what's of an importance to you? And you know,
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  Speaker 4: I'd advise people to approach it like a like like
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  Speaker 4: a business, like if you're gonna sign a contract with somebody, right,
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  Speaker 4: you're gonna have non negotiables like, nah, I ain't doing that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, and you gotta you gotta stand firm on
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  Speaker 4: what those things are. And I think again, a lot
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  Speaker 4: of people jump into these contracts or they jump into
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  Speaker 4: these situations not even understanding what their terms are. And
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  Speaker 4: then now you get into this situation and now you
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  Speaker 4: want to try to change terms and you know what
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  Speaker 4: I mean, but you already got the other party used
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  Speaker 4: to nah, like this this is what it is, This is.
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  Speaker 2: What we came into, this is what I expect now,
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  Speaker 2: you know. So I think communication, of course is key.
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  Speaker 4: You know, you gotta, uh, you gotta speak up for yourself.
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  Speaker 4: You gotta, like I said, you gotta stay with your terms.
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  Speaker 4: Are you gotta you gotta, you gotta draw the line
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  Speaker 4: and you gotta align.
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  Speaker 2: Most importantly, you know, you gotta be with a.
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  Speaker 4: With a candidate that you feel like you're gonna do
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  Speaker 4: good business with, you know what I'm saying, Like and
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  Speaker 4: I hate to uh make it so I hate for
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  Speaker 4: it to seem like a transactional thing because it's really not.
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  Speaker 4: But I do think that the business and mindset does
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  Speaker 4: align with it because you gotta think about it. It's like, yo, listen,
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  Speaker 4: we could fall in love, we could be in love,
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  Speaker 4: but at some point we're gonna have to ask each
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  Speaker 4: other real questions like so what's your like like how
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  Speaker 4: do you save money?
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  Speaker 2: Well? What what what what's your what's your money spending?
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  Speaker 2: Look like, what's what's your money havings?
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  Speaker 5: Like let's get that out at the top, you know
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  Speaker 5: what I mean, Let's let's let's let's let's change the
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  Speaker 5: direction of where we're going, Like I like to, I
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  Speaker 5: like to trim the fact, like, let's get right to it,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm not trying to
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  Speaker 5: waste my time, especially you know, me being so intentional
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  Speaker 5: with what it is that I know that I want
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  Speaker 5: to do, Like I ain't just trying to I ain't
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  Speaker 5: just trying to play around, like you know, we're going
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  Speaker 5: for the long term.
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  Speaker 4: Then we got to ask long term questions. We got
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  Speaker 4: to have that long term vision. Make sure that it
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  Speaker 4: lines like I ain't gonna wait, I ain't waiting.
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  Speaker 2: Six months to ask what you.
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  Speaker 4: Where you're trying to be you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 4: or you know, just asking important questions that a.
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  Speaker 2: Lot of people don't think about. It really hits the
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  Speaker 2: fair you know.
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  Speaker 3: So your your fiance, how you ask those questions right
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  Speaker 3: away with.
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  Speaker 2: Her, Oh listen, I sure did. Did you know? You're
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  Speaker 2: right to it?
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  Speaker 4: A lot of tough questions at the top, you know.
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  Speaker 4: And it's funny because a lot of those questions that
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  Speaker 4: I asked, like I could tell she wasn't used to that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, she wasn't used to be challenged in that
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  Speaker 4: type of way, like yo, like what like like you know,
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  Speaker 4: and and and you know she's it's been so much
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  Speaker 4: progress for both of us. But yeah, you know, at
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  Speaker 4: the beginning, and it'll almost be like what you ask
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  Speaker 4: me these questions for? And I'm like, girl, because I'm serious, Like.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to I ain't trying to play around like.
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  Speaker 4: You think this is a game. Like I'm serious, Like
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  Speaker 4: what what do you value?
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  Speaker 2: What? What do you like?
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  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Like just getting really really real.
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  Speaker 4: I don't got no time to play. I ain't joking, Ernest,
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