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#HURDLEMOMENT: How To Protect Your Energy · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, hurdlers, but shake and Emily a body here with
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  Speaker 1: another installment of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a podcast that
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  Speaker 1: talks to everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes
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  Speaker 1: about how they got through tough times hurdles of sorts
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  Speaker 1: by leaning into wellness. Today, I am so amped to
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  Speaker 1: be hanging out with a lovely Chirsty Godso she's a
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  Speaker 1: Nike Master Trainer and all around badass and a pyrote girl,
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  Speaker 1: and we are here to chat about things that steal
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  Speaker 1: our energy, how to reclaim our power and just be
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  Speaker 1: strong and awesome. Before we get into it, quick shout
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  Speaker 1: So we're going to talk about energy stealing today. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know about all of you. I have been personally
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  Speaker 1: dealing with a lot of things and people and tasks
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  Speaker 1: and environments lately that feel like they are sucking me dry. Kirsty,
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  Speaker 1: can you really.
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  Speaker 2: Oh girl? We got to talk about it, Like, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: summer is an interesting time, right because people leave the
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  Speaker 2: city and sometimes you're like, ooh, I needed that.
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  Speaker 1: I know I needed a break, Yeah, like.
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  Speaker 2: A falced break. And it sometimes we think we're addicted
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  Speaker 2: to all of these things that fill our schedule, but
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  Speaker 2: like sometimes they're just filling our schedule unnecessarily and we
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  Speaker 2: need a little bit of space. And so I talk
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  Speaker 2: about energy leaks a lot, and you know, we can
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  Speaker 2: plug them up. We can fix this.
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  Speaker 1: We can fix this. So listen up. We've got some
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  Speaker 1: good tips and tricks coming down the pipe for you.
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  Speaker 1: As always, follow at Hurdle Podcast at Emily Body. You
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  Speaker 1: can find Kirsty at Kirsty Godso. And if you have
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  Speaker 1: a love letter to send me, I will accept it.
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  Speaker 1: It's Emily at Hurdle dot us. With that, let's get
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  Speaker 1: to hurdling, all right, So energy stealers, what does that mean, Kirsty.
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  Speaker 2: It's quite funny because when I meet people, I sort
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  Speaker 2: of classify them. I'm like, oh, yeah, that person's like
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  Speaker 2: an energy dealer. That person's an energy leak, that person's
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  Speaker 2: an energy vampire, like and obviously vampire is pretty self explanatory,
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  Speaker 2: like you don't really want that. An energy leak might
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  Speaker 2: be something that you don't first observe as draining your energy,
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  Speaker 2: but whenever you leave kind of one of those encounters
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  Speaker 2: or one of those moments, you're like, oh man, I
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  Speaker 2: feel drained, I feel white. Obviously, not everything we do
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  Speaker 2: and every person we come in contact with is gonna
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  Speaker 2: light us up right and make us feel super electric
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  Speaker 2: and be an energy dealer. But you know, there's generators
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  Speaker 2: and then there's like just stealers. So can we surround
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  Speaker 2: ourself with people that really help generate energy and like
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  Speaker 2: we can have like sound counsel and discussion with them.
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  Speaker 2: So it's not like it always has to be positive.
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  Speaker 2: But is there a greater good involved or is it
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  Speaker 2: just kind of like dwindling energy and just really unproductive
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  Speaker 2: to everyone involved?
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  Speaker 1: Totally? And I think that this is something we've talked
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  Speaker 1: about on the pod before, just this idea that there
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  Speaker 1: are faucets and there are dreams, and if we are
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  Speaker 1: too constantly surrounded with people that just like let everything
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  Speaker 1: flow out, then it's not going to be good for anybody.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, And sometimes it's about having a really difficult, honest
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  Speaker 2: conversation with yourself, especially if you are an energy dealer.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't mean that arrogantly right sitting there being
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  Speaker 2: like I'm an energy dealer and you're a dream.
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  Speaker 1: Is that your American?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why I became an American, but generally my
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  Speaker 2: American accent is okay, So what I'm gonna do is
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  Speaker 2: I'm told that's like very value girl. But if it
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  Speaker 2: makes you guys feel better when I do British, I
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  Speaker 2: can only like do like British.
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  Speaker 1: Like that's it.
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  Speaker 2: Like we might get in a bar fight. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I'll stick to New Zealand. But like, when we think
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  Speaker 2: about energy, right, I do believe it is the most
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  Speaker 2: infectious currency. Okay, So when you're around people like you
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  Speaker 2: just cannot deny that fact of how you feel when
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  Speaker 2: you're around people that are great energy, and obviously we
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  Speaker 2: all want to be great energy. And his the pro tip, guys,
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  Speaker 2: we can all be great energy, but we go to
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  Speaker 2: do all due diligence and plug up some energy leaks.
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  Speaker 1: Right, So then the question arises, how do you go
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  Speaker 1: about taking back your power and protecting your energy? Step one,
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  Speaker 1: determine what you want.
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  Speaker 2: If you don't know what you want, how on earth
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  Speaker 2: are you going to get it?
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  Speaker 1: So how does someone articulate that? Because I think if
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  Speaker 1: I was just to sit here and ask you, hey, Christy,
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  Speaker 1: what do you want? Wholly overwhelming question, you're like world peace,
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  Speaker 1: a nice significant other, a good friend to go to
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  Speaker 1: a bar with on Tuesdays, Like, I want a lot
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  Speaker 1: of things. I mean, that's where.
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  Speaker 2: I'm I mean, I was, like, I probably would have
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  Speaker 2: said coffee, avocados, twelve hundred cats, a sneak, a closet,
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  Speaker 2: jewish boyfriend. Yeah, it's I think also, like what we
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  Speaker 2: want changes a lot as we go along, and that's okay.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I think a lot of people grow up
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  Speaker 2: to on a timeline and think, oh, I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: have this by this age. I'm going to have this
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  Speaker 2: by this age. But when you're making those plans, you're
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  Speaker 2: not accounting for all this other growth that's happening and
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  Speaker 2: exploration of self. So maybe you don't hit a timeline
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  Speaker 2: necessarily where it's like you thought you were going to
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  Speaker 2: have your first child or a certain job, or when
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  Speaker 2: you thought you were going to be married, because actually,
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  Speaker 2: by the way, there was all this awesome life happening,
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  Speaker 2: and you did amazing things in your career, and maybe
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  Speaker 2: you moved to a different country or you entered a
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  Speaker 2: different realm of even your work, and there's nothing wrong
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  Speaker 2: with that. Like sometimes we're meant to take different routes,
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  Speaker 2: but knowing who you are at the base of everything
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  Speaker 2: and that being the core to what you want and
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  Speaker 2: what do you want regardless of everyone else's opinion. Like,
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  Speaker 2: I think life has become a little bit of a
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  Speaker 2: game show, kind of like who Wants to be a millionaire?
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  Speaker 2: Where we're going like, oh, fifty to fifty, or like
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  Speaker 2: ask the audience, phone a friend. I'm like, guys, phone
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  Speaker 2: a friend before you ask the audience, FYI, because if
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  Speaker 2: you're having like super intimate self declarations on Instagram, by
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  Speaker 2: the way, you don't know like ninety eight percent of
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  Speaker 2: the people you're talking to. Like, I think it's great
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  Speaker 2: to like be honest and try and share learnings, but
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  Speaker 2: like sometimes it's like not the right audience to really
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  Speaker 2: be figuring, Like you need to know who you are
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  Speaker 2: without everyone else having to tell.
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  Speaker 1: You, right, So when it comes down to determining what
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  Speaker 1: you want, it's like, write down the things that you
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  Speaker 1: really see for yourself or what it is that you're after,
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  Speaker 1: if you're looking for a promotion at work, or if
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  Speaker 1: you're looking for a new apartment, or if you're looking
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  Speaker 1: for Okay, I want to train to run a five
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  Speaker 1: k or whatever the case may be. In order to
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  Speaker 1: get to those things first and foremost, you have to
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  Speaker 1: write them down and say, like, this is what I'm
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  Speaker 1: going for, and then you can take a step back
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  Speaker 1: and go into planning mode. Because a goal without a
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  Speaker 1: plan is just a wish. That's the quote.
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  Speaker 2: Yep, really yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, hand in the cookie
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  Speaker 2: jars wish. But also it's true and also I always
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  Speaker 2: think about it. Okay, I'm bad because I live in
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  Speaker 2: the logistics all the time, and I'm very good at
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  Speaker 2: not celebrating a win because I'm onto the next thing.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm not very good at pausing and being in
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  Speaker 2: the moment. So that's something I've been trying to do
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  Speaker 2: more recently. Like, I'm very good at getting carried away
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  Speaker 2: by work because I actually know what I want all
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  Speaker 2: the time and I'm going to unapologetically go after it.
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  Speaker 2: But I don't know how to stop and enjoy it.
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  Speaker 2: And the problem when you don't stop and enjoy it
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  Speaker 2: is you never even observe it, you know, digest it.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, it's like you're not chewing your food properly.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I totally hear that.
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  Speaker 2: I totally hear that. It's like, you don't want to
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  Speaker 2: wait to go for a Kalana. Can be told that
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  Speaker 2: you're not chewing your food right, enjoy your winds, like
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  Speaker 2: have that time. Don't lose the good stuff.
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  Speaker 1: That is now the episode teaser quote, yea, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to go for Kolana chewing your food? I love it?
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Step two to taking back your power see yourself in control.
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  Speaker 1: Visualization is really important, like super important visualization.
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  Speaker 2: I think like a lot of people still kind of
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  Speaker 2: laugh at that, and I disagree. Everything that I've achieved
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  Speaker 2: in my career, especially with Nike, came from visualization and
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  Speaker 2: not without work. But if you can't see it and
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  Speaker 2: you can't really believe that it might be true. I
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  Speaker 2: just think that the power of when we see something,
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  Speaker 2: whether or not it was like it's just in your
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  Speaker 2: brain right and in your mind, whether it was in
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  Speaker 2: a dream when you're asleep, when it was like just
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  Speaker 2: conscious dreaming, it's so powerful because you're like you almost
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  Speaker 2: get that taste of it and you're like, yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: want that, Like I know what that's like now, rather
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  Speaker 2: than being like I think I know what it looks like,
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  Speaker 2: but I don't really know, so I'm trying to chase it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's like you've seen the hot eye at the bar
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  Speaker 2: and you've got the eyes on the price. Like, when
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  Speaker 2: you've done that visualization of what that goal is, you're
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  Speaker 2: not going to lose that from your site until til
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  Speaker 2: you go after it. And one of the things that's
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  Speaker 2: always guided me was that people would often very often
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  Speaker 2: say to me, they're like, oh, there's no way you're
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  Speaker 2: going to get that, and I'd be like, yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: maybe I will. And that was always my answer. I
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  Speaker 2: was just like curious, and so I would say to
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  Speaker 2: people like, feel free to dream, and like it's not
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  Speaker 2: up to other people to say whether or not you're
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  Speaker 2: going to get something, but it's up to you to
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  Speaker 2: do the work for it, right, So that's about like
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  Speaker 2: having you you're in control of each and every day,
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  Speaker 2: how much you want to assertively go off to things.
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  Speaker 1: Pivoting to our next step that would be maintaining your standards.
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  Speaker 1: I think I read somewhere recently that sometimes the issue
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  Speaker 1: is is that someone's ceiling is really your floor. So
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  Speaker 1: when you are going for something, you can't be mad
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  Speaker 1: at someone else because they're literally incapable of meeting you
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  Speaker 1: where you're at. That doesn't mean that because someone else
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  Speaker 1: acts that way or handles the situation that way, that
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  Speaker 1: you need to change what you are capable of. You
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  Speaker 1: need to own your standards. You need to be cool
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  Speaker 1: with what you want, not pivot just because someone else
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  Speaker 1: can't meet you where you're at.
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  Speaker 2: This, I actually think is a nice time to talk
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  Speaker 2: about love languages because and I I think this is
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  Speaker 2: a relevant thing for you to know about your closest
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  Speaker 2: people in your life. Like actually, like it sounds creepy,
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  Speaker 2: but like even like people you work with, even your
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  Speaker 2: best friends, like knowing what their love language is and
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  Speaker 2: the way to communicate with them is going to help
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  Speaker 2: a lot with that type of stuff. So, like I know,
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  Speaker 2: for me, my love languages are. And this is not
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  Speaker 2: me putting a dating profile up on the side, guys,
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  Speaker 2: just FYI, But I know for me that words of
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  Speaker 2: affirmation and quality time is super important. You're not going
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  Speaker 2: to impress the pants off me with gifts physical touch.
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  Speaker 2: Don't even go there. You know what is the other
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  Speaker 2: word acts of service? Ext of service is kind of fine.
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  Speaker 2: I think that was number three for me. But when
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  Speaker 2: I know with my best friends and the people I
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  Speaker 2: spend the most time with and the people that work
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  Speaker 2: for me or that I work with, if I know
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  Speaker 2: their love languages too and how to communicate with them,
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  Speaker 2: that is a game changer for meeting people where they're
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  Speaker 2: at in regards to anything. But yes, I completely agree
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  Speaker 2: ceilings flaws. And another thing to talk about is safety nets,
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  Speaker 2: because a safety net is another ceiling you're just waiting
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  Speaker 2: if you're always kind of like not going to if
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  Speaker 2: you're afraid to take the risk, and you just think
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  Speaker 2: that you might just have a safety net all the time,
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  Speaker 2: and it's just the same as a ceiling. You just
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  Speaker 2: got to go for it, right. What's the worst that
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  Speaker 2: happens if you don't get something? You learn an awesome
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  Speaker 2: lesson along the way totally.
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  Speaker 1: And the last way that we are taking back our
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  Speaker 1: power is by honoring our truth. You know, sometimes just
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  Speaker 1: because someone's doing something cool doesn't mean you have to
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  Speaker 1: do it too. There's only one you. It's hard to
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  Speaker 1: get to a place where you are just so incredibly
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  Speaker 1: proud of you. I get it. I've been there as well.
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  Speaker 1: We are all our own biggest critics, but the opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to be who you are is so special.
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  Speaker 2: This actually comes to the Drake lyrics I was talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Hopefully it's always going to come back to Drake. You
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  Speaker 2: know this with me, I do, But it talks about
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  Speaker 2: the song is the Motion, one of my favorite songs.
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  Speaker 2: It also it goes on to say that try being
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  Speaker 2: with somebody that wants to be somebody else? Oh like
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  Speaker 2: the worst and you all know, And then he goes
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  Speaker 2: on to say, I always thought she was perfect when
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  Speaker 2: she was being herself. Okay, So this is the problem.
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  Speaker 2: Social media has allowed us to have so much additional
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  Speaker 2: insight into everyone's life that I think it gets very
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  Speaker 2: easy to lose a sense of self. There's nothing more
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  Speaker 2: attractive than someone that is unapologetically them Like you can
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  Speaker 2: actually even get away with some of your bad traits.
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  Speaker 2: Like but if it's so you that it's just like
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  Speaker 2: that's who they are. Like I love I have flaws.
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  Speaker 2: My best friends have flaws. We actually love each other
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  Speaker 2: for the flaws that we have, and we're more forgiving
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  Speaker 2: of it because if they're being them and I'm being me,
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  Speaker 2: not saying like it's like, hey, don't ever try and
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  Speaker 2: you know, change some things. But if you don't know
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  Speaker 2: yourself and their system in which you're operating, and it's
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  Speaker 2: like you've got a laptop with the wrong software on
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  Speaker 2: it the entire time, Like that's annoying. So like every
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  Speaker 2: app that you keep adding on to it and like
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  Speaker 2: program is not going to work properly because it's not
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  Speaker 2: for you. So that's not how you want to operate
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  Speaker 2: yourself as a human. Right, you're your own business to run.
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  Speaker 2: So if you don't have your code of conduct for
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  Speaker 2: you and you don't understand who you are, you're always
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  Speaker 2: speaking the wrong language to yourself and you're going to
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  Speaker 2: get caught out at some moment totally.
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  Speaker 1: And it's just like so it's so intriguing and powerful
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  Speaker 1: and invigorating to be able to stand up for yourself
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  Speaker 1: and just be like, this is who I am, and
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  Speaker 1: I find so much comfort and confidence in that.
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  Speaker 2: Do you have like a team talk that you do
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  Speaker 2: to yourself when you're like when if you feel like
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  Speaker 2: you're starting to like sidestep a little out of line,
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  Speaker 2: do you have something that that ropes you back in.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, all I do is I continuously tell myself
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  Speaker 1: that all it takes is all you've got every time.
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  Speaker 1: I just when I try to show up somewhere, I
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  Speaker 1: try to show up with everything I have, because what's
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  Speaker 1: the point of showing up at all if you're not
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  Speaker 1: going to give it like that?
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's funny that yours is very similar to
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  Speaker 2: mine because mine has always been if you want it,
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  Speaker 2: go get it. Yeah, because I get frustrated with having
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  Speaker 2: complacency kills me, Like it's the worst, and I get
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  Speaker 2: really frustrated if I have the same repeat conversations with
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  Speaker 2: people over and over again. I'm like, that's fantastic. You've
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  Speaker 2: actually told me twelve times you're doing that, and it's
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  Speaker 2: been three years we've like it has the still not happened.
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  Speaker 2: I don't understand, like inefficiency and complacency is just upsetting.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, like if you want it like absolutely. It
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  Speaker 2: is on you to like go for it and and
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  Speaker 2: just give it everything everything.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for rapping about energy with me, Christie always.
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  Speaker 2: Next time we'll try to bring in drake.
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  Speaker 1: You can split the drake. You're welcome in the studio
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  Speaker 1: whenever you want. If you need us, you know how
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  Speaker 1: to find us at Emily a Body, at Hurdle podcasts
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  Speaker 1: at Christy God. So another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys
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  Speaker 1: next time.