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I'm Really About to be a Husband | Getting Married | Better Together | Ep 9 · Dear Son,

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[SPEAKER_03]: May y'all already know what is you are now tuning with your dad, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: This is better together with your dad, Joe T. Rich and Joe, Jay Black, Dean Johns, what's the word, man?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Listen, I don't know if y'all know about the time this air, you'll still understand what it is.
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[SPEAKER_04]: We are 24 hours, 72, 48, this ain't been a week, man, this ain't been a week.
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[SPEAKER_04]: We're two days away from our moments as a case, man.
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[SPEAKER_04]: That work.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Bloody Jolti is about to get married.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Just certain.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So the time that it's recording, we do days out in the way.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So how do you feel about it?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, what's your, what's your in-the-moment thoughts you want to share with us?
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm excited, bro.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm happy, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I got my dad a little bit right now, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: My family and I made it safe in the time.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, man, babe, we've just been talking, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's your own in the moment, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I am in the moment, but having the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to have the desire to
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that's it?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, that's it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So, uh, sophisticated?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Masterball it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: for my vows, yeah, oh, talking to God, talking to the most out of a lot, yeah, oh, it's, my cousin's my life, my best man, I've been talking to him a lot, you know?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, oh, that's it, baby, that's about it, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, it's all about it, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I really just more so been meditating on scripture than I'm gonna send them my vows in.
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[SPEAKER_03]: more so because you know I know how I feel about I know what I want to commit to.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I know what I'm committing to him as far as I know.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm married, what I'm looking forward to.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I live in the center back to him more so than what we expect more than one another.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's more so than what he expects of the covenant.
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[SPEAKER_03]: The first and then you know us what we need to do for each other to make that
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[SPEAKER_04]: You are about to do and you have a clear cut vision for your household, your marriage, your life, your union, etc.
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[SPEAKER_04]: that I've heard you verbally, express and words using the words that, hey, I need this, this, I don't like, I'm not sure on certain, I'm communicating these things to my partner and those that are already involved.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, what's your opinion on this?
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[SPEAKER_04]: How did you feel about doing dealing with this in marriage?
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[SPEAKER_04]: And I applaud that because a lot of times we as me and we went to it's a problem.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Years down the line to now say, Maybe I wish I would have talked to somebody.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I had questions.
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[SPEAKER_05]: So, like Amber, we always talk about
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[SPEAKER_05]: the agreement, but the agreement is what sealed the code, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: And as you say and take the vows, man, that's the best I know of a part about where you are in life.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Excuse me, is that both of you all are going to have a clear understanding of the agreement.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: We talked about it all the time.
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[SPEAKER_05]: When it comes to the
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[SPEAKER_05]: to the farm term that you, as a biblical reference, the equal to yoke, the equal to yoke is about the work yoke I do.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: Saturday is the starting line.
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[SPEAKER_05]: And I think a lot of times, again, my favorite word, a lot of times the ideology as people looking at Saturday as those thinnest ones.
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[SPEAKER_07]: Right, man.
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[SPEAKER_05]: I just sent this box, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: And a lot of times, that's was ruining marriages, is that people are not signing up.
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[SPEAKER_05]: They're signing up to be yoked.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They just not sign enough like work.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, I think a lot of people are practicing for the performance of the wedding, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I told you a thousand times, if not ten, I'm more excited about the day after.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna beat it up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I'm gonna beat it up, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I might shake a little bit, you might say that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I might use some footage of that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I gotta shake with you, my god.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I might have read some of some of some of some of some shows in that, but,
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[SPEAKER_02]: just having twenty twenty-one years of hindsight in all of the cat.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, all of the, all of the, all of the, I wish I had to be more intentional.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wish I had to read the room that I wish I wish I, I wish I would ask more questions.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wish I would have been open to the conversations that you seek out.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was an open tool.
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[SPEAKER_02]: My head full of access to them, great example in the house.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Eight, my parents suck.
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[SPEAKER_02]: 50, two years in, and a few weeks.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They'll be saying, two years in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I had access to all of that, but I tried to wing it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So the version of what may sound like wisdom from me is really experience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Wisdom is the ability to navigate without having had the experience personally in my opinion.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Man, let me say this, man, you know, I really appreciate that because y'all have helped me with a lot of preparation, like I really listened, you know what I'm saying uh, coming from my background, you know, I've always said, you know, none of the men in my family are married, but when it comes to the description, when he said, he's the father to the father of this week, you know, he's put me in my life that has gave him a wise counsel man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: So I do want to say I appreciate that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And, you know, we have to take heed to when he's giving you that information and not just, you know, assume like, you know, because you're going into a thing, you have not done.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I have not done this.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And that's one thing that has turned down my anxiety to be able to say, you have not done this before.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like it's okay to listen to people who's doing it, who's been doing it, right?
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, who has figured it out, who has went through some dark places and came out on the other side.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And when you hear people who have went through this thing, to me, listen to that matter, it's all beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's the process of it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So to know, man,
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[SPEAKER_03]: This is a puzzle that you pull out of box in a lot of pieces.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And over time, they're gonna start fitting and it's gonna start making sense.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But to be able to look back at the wires, Councilman and say, that's how I was able to fit them pieces.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_05]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_05]: What I want to talk about
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[SPEAKER_05]: even the way that you hear, the way that you, you, um, you deposit things, man, because the book also tells us, man, to gain knowledge, but in all you do, also gain understand.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Um, right, you, you're not just a, you're not just a hoarder of information from us, you don't, I'm saying you're, you're gaining understanding on because again, bro, it's not that, it's not that we got a lot of,
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[SPEAKER_05]: Um, what to do?
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[SPEAKER_05]: Because we ain't never been married to your wife, but I guarantee you we got a lot of what not to do.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying, which is applicable across the board.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know, so you see a lot of times we, we, we, we gonna give you insight.
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[SPEAKER_05]: That's gonna help Joe team.
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[SPEAKER_05]: But you still have to be married to your wife, even even, and that's the understanding, because you also have to understand that some of what we might give you might not be applicable.
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[SPEAKER_05]: And that's the only way that you're going to even get to that point is not you're just saying, well, Ray is told me to do this.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Like, not Ray is told me to do that if it applies.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: And that's what I honor about the way you hear things.
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[SPEAKER_05]: It ain't like you hear it like this.
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[SPEAKER_05]: It's just the gospel, but it is, it is why it's counts.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, when it comes up to deal with it, I know what certain things my book, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: So this is, I already, you know, the covenant of 10th place, the second.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I've already been operating.
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[SPEAKER_03]: as the husband.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You operate as a husband before you become a husband.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Me.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So that's a major thing.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like, why would I wait to get to the I do to start trying to communicate effectively or get better in.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Why?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Why don't wait to the I do to deal with my lack of affection if I get it or my lack of
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[SPEAKER_03]: being honest or being vulnerable when you're dealing with it right now.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like, and then I ain't even looking at it like I'm getting ahead of things.
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[SPEAKER_03]: No, I'm just realized and like, I'm trying to do forever with you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and I love that you said that because we are in a time where you'll often hear people say,
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, once we get married, say, you gon' love who I am.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, it's gonna try that someone's gonna do it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: That don't work for me, right?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Because again, it's not a hoax to try to, oh, I just want, I want you to show me and give me everything you would give me as a wife to convince me that you are a wife.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not saying that, but what you're not going to do is tell me that this shadow of a person that I'm witnessing now, I'm only this shadow of a person because we're not married yet.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You are who you are.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Mm-hmm.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Now, I can understand if you're saying, and don't get me twisted.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not saying it all well.
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[SPEAKER_04]: She not.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Sleeping with you yet because y'all not me I don't deeper than that people I'm telling you if you say hey, you're not nurturing enough and then see and you mentioned this to her like hey We're having active conversations prep and I say else to see dating is this to trial Are you marriage material?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Are you who I need as a wife?
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not talking about what's written what a wife is I don't want to hear about what the fear it says what a wife is
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[SPEAKER_04]: Are you suited to be James' wife?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Because if you're not Jay Blacks wife, you can be the best wife on earth for J.O.T.
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[SPEAKER_04]: or for the John's or Reds, but you trash as Jay Blacks wife, then guess what?
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[SPEAKER_04]: You're not for me.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And I have to know that through dating you and communicating to you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So if I communicate to you, hey, I just don't like how when I come to you with an issue or tell you I'm dealing with something.
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[SPEAKER_04]: the thing I'm attracted to, the wife that I would be attracted to would be more nurturing in that situation with me than what I'm getting from you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Perhaps you, the type of person you are in this scenario, another man would be, I would not tell you something like that I just need you to back off and detach a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And if that's who you naturally are, y'all are perfect for each other.
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[SPEAKER_04]: But if I'm telling you, this is what I need in order to thrive and flourish and pour into you and be dedicated to you and commit it to you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And I have blinded someone because I don't see the world because I can't wait to get back to you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: It's because of how you're treating me or how you're nurturing me or how you're pouring into me How you make me feel as a man as a father as a husband because all those things started home between this bond on the connection we have like I could be a great father But if you weren't me down and in my ear and nagging me and I'm nagging you and I'm not supporting you you're not supporting me
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not even in the mood on a headspace to be the great father that I'm built to be, because I'm absolutely two different parents and two different husbands.
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[SPEAKER_04]: My father and the husband, I was in my first marriage.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I hate that I have to say this out loud, but it peels in comparison to the father and the husband I am in this marriage.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I can honestly say the maturity, I am matured, but also the quality of woman who this woman is.
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[SPEAKER_04]: The way she communicates with me, I want to operate in the space and the energy that I operate with this woman.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So, yeah, you're living your learns just like we had this conversation before.
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[SPEAKER_04]: The comments, oh, only a man could have a second chance as though I don't care how you feel about my life, man, keep rising.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I have been given an opportunity to where I didn't have to cast myself out into the shadows and the darkness and the depths of the earth.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Because my first marriage didn't work.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Man, get over yourself.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You're living in your learned.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Be happy.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Enjoy us that the phase you in your life right now.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm hearing the communication in you that I didn't learn until I got in this second mayor.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So that's a blessing for you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I ain't just telling you that, cause you're sitting here, I'm listening and watching, cause if I see something, I'm gonna say something.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, dude, you're still so little.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'll treat running to say I'm a forget man.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I ain't never had to say that.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, because I had seen no food business like that, you know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So, I think it's dope and you use the analogy of a puzzle, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think that's a great analogy, but I think the difference for you is,
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[SPEAKER_02]: you've been practicing getting good at puzzles.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, it puzzles can be frustrating if you never put a puzzle together before.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Let alone, if you dump out all of the pieces and throw the box away, don't know the picture.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's the thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I didn't know what you're trying to say.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what you're trying to say.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You gotta say it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And forcing something to fit out of frustration.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think you've...
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[SPEAKER_02]: In your advantage, the advantage that both of you have is you growing up through some of those things already, and they'll be enough to try to just roll it down.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: but you have purpose in your mind that the challenges are not going to outweigh the benefit of it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you understand this person is somebody that you want in the challenges and in the happy times.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's easy to be married to somebody that you're happy with.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Can you be married to somebody that y'all got to go through it?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Look at my house going through a thing at right now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And the conditions were different and we had chosen
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know that I'd be fit to be saying anything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And because it's not, and it's not that it will ever be perfect or it was perfect at a time, the temperament that I selected because I was intentional about that, I am comfortable going through whatever you have to go through with my selection, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I haven't started.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There hasn't been a situation like, man, if I don't do that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'll have nobody in my role in that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Or, LeDex, I don't have that, and again, it doesn't mean that I've enjoyed every moment I've appreciated the aggregate of the moments to be, to be operating in the space that we are right now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wouldn't.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Man, the dice for what they were for to me to see what else would have happened.
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[SPEAKER_03]: But I always remember, you chose her.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's what nobody wants to live with.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Or acknowledge that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Man, she, man, she, she, she used to be like, I hope she wasn't.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They're right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The same way that she was the 10 years ago.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They're right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The core things for sure.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But the things that they're, I say, irritate me and I know I got a thousand, they're, say, her.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It wasn't like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: we advertise differently.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, you can't be mad that you saw a thing that you knew you couldn't tolerate and with and with for the sake of going through with.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No bads.
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[SPEAKER_05]: I went and broke.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Pops give me you.
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[SPEAKER_05]: It give me you grade a insight because you are making an educated decision too.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_05]: So you're not choosing based on just you, you're not choosing just based on.
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[SPEAKER_05]: feelings.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Man, you choose and based on compatibility, you choose and based on not just compatibility, compatibility from the moment.
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[SPEAKER_05]: It's just saying like, man, you got to have some, you got to have some foresight to say, man.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Can we go through some things together, right?
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[SPEAKER_05]: Can we have some children together?
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[SPEAKER_05]: Can we pay some bills together?
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[SPEAKER_05]: Can we fall off together?
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[SPEAKER_05]: That's the biggest question right there, Bob, because again, the test is coming.
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[SPEAKER_06]: What's that?
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[SPEAKER_05]: I'm not saying the test coming, because again, you want to be 20 years old now.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You want to have the test memories.
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[SPEAKER_05]: from the test.
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[SPEAKER_05]: But the problem is, bro, a lot of times, just like when you're saying with the puzzle, if we not figure out how to put this thing together together, again, you might be putting one side, I'm putting this side up, but still the ultimate goal, got to say like, okay, how do we come together?
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[SPEAKER_05]: to put this, they don't matter where you start and you feel like you better over here or this than the third, it's still got to collectively come together.
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[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Man, you know, when he told me that, I, I, my brain reflected on understanding that I, that I did it to sir.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like I noticed, this is the only woman everywhere.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I was like my brain are saying, come down, communicate.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Don't do that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I have never, in my life, had moments where I'm like, my, I wouldn't want to hurt him.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I wouldn't want to make up you.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I wouldn't want to, I ain't never.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: In the full flesh, knowing, I can shoot out.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And we in this argument, intellectually, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: My brain is saying, you can't do that to hurt me.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Well, that doesn't feel good.
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[SPEAKER_05]: But the winning is the understanding, that's what I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Like, see, you're still winning even without the argument, because it's saying like, even if I don't say this right now, or if I don't say a period, it's still a win because I understand who my old lady.
21:07
[SPEAKER_03]: And I want to, and I always want us to be in peace.
21:12
[SPEAKER_03]: Like, I always want to, when we finish this conversation, what's the end result?
21:19
[SPEAKER_03]: I still, I want to, I want those bills still enjoyed this meal a lot of it.
21:23
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
21:23
[SPEAKER_03]: I want those to watch TV and chill.
21:25
[SPEAKER_03]: I want to be able to reach it and touch a leg and then they know, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
21:49
[SPEAKER_03]: Communicated affective meat has worked, you know.
21:53
[SPEAKER_03]: And we, unless it's therapy, they told us, you know, about these communicators that, like, our communicators that's like, I'm gonna hit us through them.
22:02
[SPEAKER_03]: Because of my background, you know, I can spit out information for your fans, yeah.
22:06
[SPEAKER_03]: She's a turtle.
22:07
[SPEAKER_03]: She got a duck or a head in her shed and processed this information.
22:11
[SPEAKER_03]: And then come back and have time to say it's very, very, very, very, very, very.
22:14
[SPEAKER_03]: And then knowing how this information actually process in it and you utilize it.
22:21
[SPEAKER_03]: I watched how many times this works if you do what's necessary versus this.
22:30
[SPEAKER_03]: ego winning, pride winning, being selfish winning, but being manipulative winning, duh.
22:38
[SPEAKER_03]: Having a conversation where I don't want an argument if they're walking the bathroom and looking at the mirror and saying, you look at who she thinks she is.
22:47
[SPEAKER_03]: Because I have done it, I've done it in my past, I've done it, you know, in the beginning of I, you know, with that old me, but why to have,
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[SPEAKER_03]: we could be a harmony and unity of one by doing the right things.
23:09
[SPEAKER_03]: You know what it could be?
23:10
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, and then my brain, I always try to run out and say, what about later on that love?
23:15
[SPEAKER_03]: Now I'm enjoying it.
23:16
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, right?
23:17
[SPEAKER_04]: That's right.
23:18
[SPEAKER_04]: There was two things about that.
23:21
[SPEAKER_04]: One, people often ask, how do you know, how do you know that person's the person?
23:26
[SPEAKER_04]: There will be signs.
23:28
[SPEAKER_04]: And everything that you just said speaks to, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science, there will be science
23:56
[SPEAKER_04]: But so, that's the first part about their will be science, but also sometimes we're ruined today, we're in about tomorrow, because for all you know, today is bliss, but imagine if y'all continue to grow together, even closer, after the wedding, after the marriage begins, and even your thoughts you have today about tomorrow could be in comparison.
24:24
[SPEAKER_04]: Once those days actually get here, it could be greater than what you were expecting.
24:28
[SPEAKER_04]: But sometimes again, we talk ourselves out of something by saying, yeah, but she ain't gonna always be like, it's this thing.
24:35
[SPEAKER_04]: I gotta prepare my mind for the love and all, this is just a high writing that is gonna live a lot of, but how long is it gonna fall?
24:44
[SPEAKER_04]: Why are you telling yourself that?
24:46
[SPEAKER_04]: Maybe it's only up from here.
24:48
[SPEAKER_04]: Maybe it's only great from here.
24:49
[SPEAKER_04]: Maybe it is the baseline.
24:51
[SPEAKER_04]: And you have yet to see the peaks that it's got to reach.
24:56
[SPEAKER_04]: we'll outthink our sales to a point where we box ourselves into a sale of this the best she got from it right here.
25:06
[SPEAKER_04]: You don't know, so if you tell yourself into this being the best that she can offer, and you don't spark anything in this one, just like her, you protecting herself.
25:19
[SPEAKER_04]: Now you can see, you could have been vulnerable.
25:24
[SPEAKER_04]: and showin' all the level of vulnerability that would have elevated higher and her elevation now would have brought you up again and now for you know it y'all elevate each other repeatedly repeatedly that you look up 10 years from now y'all gonna recognize yourselves however I love who we all done you see what I mean it's not gonna be perfect but because you're goin' at it with the approach of
25:50
[SPEAKER_04]: You perfect for me.
25:52
[SPEAKER_04]: If you weren't perfect for me, you couldn't have got this close to me.
25:55
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, fat.
25:57
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not.
25:57
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not.
25:58
[SPEAKER_04]: That's a big fat.
26:00
[SPEAKER_04]: You don't know what it takes to get this close to me.
26:04
[SPEAKER_04]: And you did it without a roll map.
26:07
[SPEAKER_04]: I didn't dare you.
26:08
[SPEAKER_04]: I didn't even show you how to get it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You were yourself.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And here we are.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
26:14
[SPEAKER_01]: I couldn't even tell you how to get it.
26:18
[SPEAKER_02]: I think about the puzzle man and maybe maybe it's just the way that I was taught to approach it but you always frame it out.
26:36
[SPEAKER_02]: You always create the border, which are your boundaries and you work to the center.
26:43
[SPEAKER_02]: Right?
26:43
[SPEAKER_02]: If you're so busy trying to get to the image without properly protecting the borders, it'll be distorted and anything can attack that center if you ain't got the right boundaries around it.
26:54
[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm talking from a place I'm learning, right?
26:57
[SPEAKER_02]: The other thing is, who better to tell you about a consequence than somebody that's actually experienced a consequence?
27:04
[SPEAKER_02]: That's right.
27:04
[SPEAKER_02]: So for all of the commentary about this field, why would you listen to them when you don't know what, like I know the consequence?
27:12
[SPEAKER_02]: to redness point.
27:13
[SPEAKER_02]: We've never been married.
27:15
[SPEAKER_02]: We can't put ourselves in your situation.
27:18
[SPEAKER_07]: Right.
27:18
[SPEAKER_02]: But we can tell you a lot about the situation.
27:20
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to put ourselves in this one thousand last things you could choose to avoid.
27:26
[SPEAKER_02]: If you choose to avoid.
27:27
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
27:29
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I can choose some, because a man under a bridge could absolutely tell me the consequences of gambling and risking it all.
27:38
[SPEAKER_02]: Why would you listen to him?
27:40
[SPEAKER_04]: All right.
27:40
[SPEAKER_04]: That's the first thing.
27:42
[SPEAKER_04]: That's the first thing.
27:43
[SPEAKER_04]: And a new genius going to tell you.
27:46
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
27:46
[SPEAKER_04]: And a new bridge can't tell me nothing.
27:49
[SPEAKER_04]: And under a bridge can tell me a lot.
27:51
[SPEAKER_02]: And y'all have a lot in common with y'all sitting next to each other.
27:54
[SPEAKER_03]: That's why I'm telling me if I didn't let a lead me to prison, I didn't let him in with.
28:02
[SPEAKER_03]: You see what I'm saying?
28:05
[SPEAKER_03]: You want to prove it.
28:07
[SPEAKER_03]: You were sleeping.
28:08
[SPEAKER_03]: You were right.
28:09
[SPEAKER_03]: It worked for you.
28:10
[SPEAKER_03]: What's I sitting to say that I said, yeah?
28:12
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
28:15
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
28:15
[SPEAKER_03]: You were right.
28:16
[SPEAKER_03]: He was right.
28:17
[SPEAKER_03]: He was right.
28:18
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm telling you.
28:19
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm excited about being a mayor, oh good man, I really have, you know, one of the things I think why is because I've learned it.
28:29
[SPEAKER_03]: If they know, this ain't no box chain, this ain't no, this ain't no, this ain't something that I want to do, this is something that I want to be, I want to be a husband
28:47
[SPEAKER_03]: And it helps me come out sad more of myself.
28:53
[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
28:54
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, it's another selfless thing.
28:56
[SPEAKER_03]: I've been selfish.
28:57
[SPEAKER_03]: I've been like, you know, you know, time and time.
29:03
[SPEAKER_03]: You get one of the biggest benefits of my platform.
29:07
[SPEAKER_03]: My journey has been.
29:11
[SPEAKER_03]: They don't care myself to other people.
29:13
[SPEAKER_03]: They don't care myself to other people.
29:15
[SPEAKER_03]: I watch them give by me being on service like to go.
29:23
[SPEAKER_03]: So give ready to experience this.
29:24
[SPEAKER_03]: I've already been watching like being more attentive, being present, being watched how it's beneficial.
29:31
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, it ain't no.
29:33
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm looking, you're serving me.
29:36
[SPEAKER_03]: And then somebody turns, you turn somebody into resenting you of a bitterness angry.
29:43
[SPEAKER_03]: You watch all of these things.
29:44
[SPEAKER_03]: And then you wonder, well, how did you turn on me?
29:48
[SPEAKER_03]: And I was like, I learned that lesson from being in the streets.
29:52
[SPEAKER_03]: I learned, I've heard of these rappers talking about if you don't feed your wolves, obviously they'll eat you.
29:58
[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah, yeah.
29:59
[SPEAKER_03]: I watched in the street thinking, everything was about me.
30:03
[SPEAKER_03]: And then, by the time, I'm thinking, oh, they still supposed to protect me, but I don't burnt out my breath.
30:08
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't ran you in the ground.
30:10
[SPEAKER_03]: Everything, I always ended up to my benefit more than it did to y'all.
30:15
[SPEAKER_03]: So at the time, you woke up and realized,
30:19
[SPEAKER_03]: Man, we shouldn't over turn the hell.
30:21
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, it's coming.
30:23
[SPEAKER_03]: After both, you know what I'm saying?
30:25
[SPEAKER_03]: And watching my dad and friends, I used to get angry because I would always say to myself, man, you ain't never been to my life, but these people love you.
30:34
[SPEAKER_03]: And he would always tell me, like, his character, how he treated people from where he understood the word, he took for granted.
30:41
[SPEAKER_03]: And then, who he was before, he went to prison.
30:45
[SPEAKER_03]: And the character that he straightened in there, how he treated people, how he dealt with people, how he was honest, how he kept his word.
30:52
[SPEAKER_03]: I can't people do this today, that in my life.
30:55
[SPEAKER_03]: Right, right.
30:56
[SPEAKER_03]: But it was him to become a selfless and it's just so.
31:02
[SPEAKER_03]: It just worked that way, yeah.
31:04
[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
31:05
[SPEAKER_03]: I was watching them.
31:05
[SPEAKER_03]: I relate to you.
31:07
[SPEAKER_03]: Just be as selfless like this come, come down.
31:10
[SPEAKER_03]: And she do the same.
31:12
[SPEAKER_03]: I've submitted myself, I've been told a hundred thousand times.
31:18
[SPEAKER_03]: She's supposed to submit herself to you.
31:20
[SPEAKER_03]: I was watching me submit myself to her and it didn't fit me.
31:27
[SPEAKER_03]: I was sure it comes suffered by me coming down.
31:32
[SPEAKER_04]: Because that's a safe space in zone for her.
31:36
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, so she gets, it's like a, they're a thorns on the stem of a rose.
31:41
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, a rose is absolutely beautiful.
31:45
[SPEAKER_04]: And it starts out but it, and the more you nurture it, sunlight, water, and time, it opens up to the beauty that people actually appreciate.
31:58
[SPEAKER_04]: But if you reach an inch, I'll snatch it too fast.
32:02
[SPEAKER_04]: If you just reach your hand and that bush trying to just snatch you one of them pretty rows, that's consequence.
32:08
[SPEAKER_04]: That's the one that's protective layers that are going to make you regret not delicately taking your time to reach them now and obtain one of those beautiful flowers.
32:22
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm going to tell you something I told my cousin earlier.
32:25
[SPEAKER_03]: I said watch how happy my women is now even though we're gonna clap now because everything is going on.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.
32:32
[SPEAKER_03]: I said I've never seen a black woman this happened.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I've never seen her be celebrated by so many people.
32:39
[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah, yeah.
32:40
[SPEAKER_03]: I've never watched media understand that my mindset is to keep this level of happiness and joy to the best of my ability.
32:50
[SPEAKER_03]: I ain't seen in my mind, I'm an experienced man.
32:52
[SPEAKER_03]: I want my daughter to, I want my needs to, I ain't seen my granny, that one of my brothers, even the men, I've never seen, I have never seen this level of bliss
33:05
[SPEAKER_03]: I've made it to this point and I don't like I'm genuinely happy, like to watch her own the phone with her friends, her family members, like even once she looked at me.
33:16
[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
33:16
[SPEAKER_03]: It is before we was getting to this day like what we have been and that it's been so many times like I ain't never seen it.
33:23
[SPEAKER_03]: like just level of joy in a person's heart.
33:27
[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
33:28
[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
33:29
[SPEAKER_03]: That's major to me.
33:31
[SPEAKER_03]: It's like a general, it's a generational curse being broken.
33:35
[SPEAKER_03]: They're running in you.
33:37
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
33:38
[SPEAKER_03]: Like, I'm like, dang.
33:39
[SPEAKER_03]: This is the same to even see because you don't even think like this is possible.
33:46
[SPEAKER_05]: And bro, to even put up for the more positive
33:53
[SPEAKER_05]: you are creating a legacy.
33:55
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
33:56
[SPEAKER_05]: So like when you're, when you're daughter, do what you're doing.
33:59
[SPEAKER_05]: Whoever, whoever in line next row, like that's the, that's the honorable part about breaking persons.
34:07
[SPEAKER_05]: Is that I get to create a new legacy?
34:11
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
34:11
[SPEAKER_05]: Or now we get to, we get to create,
34:17
[SPEAKER_05]: what we thought was a fairytale, come on with it.
34:19
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
34:20
[SPEAKER_05]: Now it becomes reality.
34:23
[SPEAKER_05]: Just like, you know, you're often to go to Italy.
34:28
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
34:29
[SPEAKER_05]: But right, my father brought a William station in Germany.
34:33
[SPEAKER_05]: Tell me a week when he was stationed in America.
34:36
[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
34:36
[SPEAKER_05]: And the other station in Germany, I remember coming back in the summer, 72.
34:40
[SPEAKER_05]: Coming back to Arkansas.
34:41
[SPEAKER_05]: This was in the 90s.
34:46
[SPEAKER_05]: I was a pro, I only never coming back and just looking at catch things.
34:51
[SPEAKER_05]: How it was a fairytale for me to tell them I'm coming from Jordan.
34:55
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
34:57
[SPEAKER_05]: And bro, to me, it's like, man, like, bro, I promise you, I won't go to.
35:00
[SPEAKER_05]: But the problem is bro, if you never get exposed to it, see now you exposing your baby to something else.
35:05
[SPEAKER_05]: You might be exposing your mom on your daddy to something else.
35:09
[SPEAKER_05]: To where now they see, like, listen, man.
35:13
[SPEAKER_05]: It's honorable to watch my son do what I never done.
35:16
[SPEAKER_05]: It's honorable to watch my uncle, my daddy's.
35:19
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying to a coin-weighter?
35:22
[SPEAKER_05]: Um, and I think a better way of looking at these bro, it's just looking at it, not like the curse you breaking, because that that is what you're doing.
35:31
[SPEAKER_05]: But the legacy I'm creating is bigger than the curse than I'm breaking.
35:37
[SPEAKER_05]: The map too?
35:38
[SPEAKER_05]: We're all again.
35:39
[SPEAKER_05]: When you,
35:42
[SPEAKER_05]: Come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, come
36:14
[SPEAKER_05]: In a fashion where she understands the covenant, she understands the responsibility.
36:24
[SPEAKER_05]: She understands because I get to experience, I get to be exposed to.
36:33
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, bro, I ain't.
36:34
[SPEAKER_05]: And the reason why I'm making most good up things about eating for my girls, bro.
36:43
[SPEAKER_05]: You get to expose her to the same thing that you're saying, you were never exposed to.
36:53
[SPEAKER_05]: The thing that you felt like was an empty space, profited and filled that space in, bro.
37:08
[UNKNOWN]: Yeah, that's right.
37:09
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, because now,
37:11
[SPEAKER_04]: Think about, think about your provide and the thing that wasn't provided for you.
37:16
[SPEAKER_04]: Come on, bro, just like what you just said.
37:19
[SPEAKER_04]: And I'm sitting here listening to the parallels because I can go down through the line, starting with my household, and work my way outside.
37:32
[SPEAKER_04]: And
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[SPEAKER_04]: I have a, I've countless amounts of funds that never got married, and we all grew up, I don't want to say we all, the majority of my cousins on my mom's side as I'm thinking through, it was coming to grow up in a single mother house, and we kind of found out
38:05
[SPEAKER_04]: to manhood, you know, to us through phone calls and father figures and coaches, sports really was out there and that gave us that.
38:17
[SPEAKER_04]: So the end, when we became adults and I jumped out and when I jumped out and got married, I can't tell you how many family members walked
38:33
[SPEAKER_04]: And not in a malicious way.
38:36
[SPEAKER_04]: They actually meant way up on saying this real stand-up.
38:41
[SPEAKER_04]: Like, what did you get this from?
38:44
[SPEAKER_04]: How did you know the doomsday?
38:45
[SPEAKER_04]: How did you even know this was a thing?
38:48
[SPEAKER_04]: How did you know how to do this?
38:50
[SPEAKER_04]: How did a cousin that I was raised with as a brother?
38:53
[SPEAKER_04]: because like I say, our mothers were sisters and again, single mothers trying to find a way, it was more beneficial to two resources than we all grew up in the same household, 90% of our childhood.
39:08
[SPEAKER_04]: So as a man, he sat down with me and asked me, man, whether you draw this from, he was like, I want you as a husband and as a father and I just, we didn't have that.
39:23
[SPEAKER_04]: And as I look at you, I feel like, I like how you do what I feel like you're doing it right.
39:29
[SPEAKER_04]: He said, but I'm equally confused because where did you get this from?
39:35
[SPEAKER_04]: Where did I have this?
39:37
[SPEAKER_04]: How did you know how to do this?
39:39
[SPEAKER_04]: And my answer was, I don't, man, I'm going out feeling.
39:44
[SPEAKER_04]: If it feels right and if I feel like this was what I was lacking,
39:50
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm trying to provide things that I feel like I earned four as a young man as a child.
39:56
[SPEAKER_04]: Because I know how that would have felt to me if somebody were to took the time to share that or give me that.
40:03
[SPEAKER_04]: So that don't make it right or wrong, but it's at least a starting point or baseline for me.
40:08
[SPEAKER_04]: Uh, this is what I think having this looks like.
40:13
[SPEAKER_04]: And that's what a communication come in for that woman to say.
40:17
[SPEAKER_04]: Yes, I know, and now I have to adjust to what she's telling me yes or no it is because again, to like we said earlier
40:27
[SPEAKER_04]: I might be a great husband, just not her great husband.
40:31
[SPEAKER_04]: The version that it takes for her to say, I'm proud to call you my husband publicly.
40:37
[SPEAKER_04]: Like I want the world to know her.
40:39
[SPEAKER_04]: You, my husband, without fail.
40:41
[SPEAKER_04]: Like am I doing the things to encourage that behavior because again, at that orange, is what make you continuously say, how can I how do my yesterday?
40:53
[SPEAKER_04]: I want to be better tomorrow because I love the reaction I got from this woman when I act this way or I move this way, can I meet or exceed that tomorrow and if you take it step by step like that one you're not going to get all the way on and two you're constantly striving for happiness
41:19
[SPEAKER_04]: I love, so imagine pouring into somebody that's not grateful.
41:26
[SPEAKER_04]: You're gonna see that prior to the, hopefully prior to this phase of saying, yeah, it's gonna be my wife.
41:32
[SPEAKER_04]: Right.
41:34
[SPEAKER_04]: A detriment to a good, solid, healthy marriage, cause healthy marriage is dope.
41:40
[SPEAKER_04]: A good, solid, healthy marriage is contempt, complacency.
41:48
[SPEAKER_04]: Yes, we go.
41:48
[SPEAKER_04]: This regard, or guess what?
41:52
[SPEAKER_04]: We now take this time for granted.
41:55
[SPEAKER_04]: It's been so great, so long.
41:57
[SPEAKER_04]: It's no longer great, it's the standard.
42:00
[SPEAKER_04]: Coaster.
42:01
[SPEAKER_04]: So that's cool, that's good.
42:03
[SPEAKER_04]: Until you know, realize you've treated a bit like a you go.
42:11
[SPEAKER_04]: You ain't even checking all in a month.
42:14
[SPEAKER_04]: You put regular gas in the disted of the spring.
42:17
[SPEAKER_04]: You ain't kicked the tires, you haven't rotated the tires.
42:21
[SPEAKER_04]: This, you are so spoiled that you've been in a luxury vehicle for so long.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You think there's not one, nothing else exists.
42:29
[SPEAKER_04]: And everybody in a luxury vehicle.
42:32
[SPEAKER_04]: And every mayor is like this, don't y'all do this normally.
42:35
[SPEAKER_04]: You're telling me that you go home and your spouse don't hug you or kiss you on.
42:41
[SPEAKER_04]: Ask how your day went or communicate or talk.
42:45
[SPEAKER_04]: You get sick, your spouse don't make you soup.
42:48
[SPEAKER_04]: So you'll start this ask questions like that because if that has become your norm, to where now am I making you feel appreciated for this level that you maintain so long?
43:02
[SPEAKER_04]: You maintain greatness so long, that's how I'm saying it, thank you.
43:06
[SPEAKER_04]: And now it's like, hey, hey, hey.
43:09
[SPEAKER_04]: You realize what I'm doing every day to sacrifice is I'll make it.
43:13
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not looking for a pet on the back, but it's showin' looked at me like, dang, man, you put, you put strawberries on my crepes, he hasn't the day.
43:24
[SPEAKER_04]: Well, baby, you still got crepes, don't you?
43:27
[SPEAKER_04]: I don't know too many people that have crepes for breakfast, so don't, that'll be the trap.
43:32
[SPEAKER_04]: don't get complacent or in a zone of his supposed to be good like this.
43:39
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, but acknowledge it, time stamp it, but he showed good to me.
43:45
[SPEAKER_04]: I know, but you tell me every day.
43:46
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, but I know, and I ain't just blowing smoke up your skirt, but you show good to me.
43:53
[SPEAKER_04]: That is encouraged me.
43:55
[SPEAKER_04]: And that's the type of thing
44:01
[SPEAKER_02]: I thought that was just said about the luxury vehicle because you can, you can convince yourself that something is a luxury that is it.
44:11
[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm not talking about this side at all, I'm talking about, you like the music plan out of that Shabet.
44:19
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,
44:32
[SPEAKER_02]: You don't even care the sea's talking of an ACA working because they're playing their favorite song on repeat.
44:40
[SPEAKER_02]: I'll repeat.
44:42
[SPEAKER_02]: I'll repeat.
44:43
[SPEAKER_02]: I'll repeat.
44:44
[SPEAKER_02]: I'll repeat.
44:45
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
44:46
[SPEAKER_05]: But you know what I'm like when you say just because I think it's hard to not appreciate each other when there's mutual service.
44:56
[SPEAKER_05]: I wouldn't, you know, saying that you are already committed to serving your old lady bro is going to automatically become contagious to where.
45:13
[SPEAKER_05]: that the service is reciprocal.
45:15
[SPEAKER_05]: And I think one of the hardest things and this for the ladies out there, the hardest thing about marriage for men is the lack of reciprocity.
45:24
[SPEAKER_05]: But come on.
45:25
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
45:27
[SPEAKER_05]: So, they go, try you.
45:29
[SPEAKER_05]: Because everybody knows, everybody knows.
45:36
[SPEAKER_05]: Everybody knows what the man is supposed to do in a marriage.
45:43
[SPEAKER_05]: But everybody don't know what the wife supposed to do all the time.
45:47
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
45:48
[SPEAKER_05]: Because it's natural for fathers and mothers to teach their daughters how a man suppose to treat you.
45:54
[SPEAKER_05]: How you know what children really looks like and what respect looks like and what everybody ain't teaching what how you honor that man.
46:04
[SPEAKER_05]: That would go great here.
46:05
[SPEAKER_05]: How you respect that man.
46:07
[SPEAKER_05]: How you how you what it looks like to be submissive without it being tough and you know what I'm saying?
46:15
[SPEAKER_05]: And that's the thing, bro.
46:17
[SPEAKER_05]: that a lot of times, it's taken for granted in the reciprocity area, is that, and that's where you tell my objective, where it also comes, where it's a little bit dishonorable, and it's unappreciated, because everybody knows what a husband and dad is going to do, like that's what you're supposed to do, right?
46:41
[SPEAKER_05]: But it's hard to turn that mirror and say like, but that's what you're supposed to do.
46:46
[SPEAKER_05]: I can tell my girls a lot of times, like man, y'all the only entity that can make this relationship all man.
46:57
[SPEAKER_05]: And especially, as much as I love being a father, y'all the only entity, y'all can, they all don't want that make this relationship.
47:05
[SPEAKER_05]: Especially a twin.
47:06
[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
47:08
[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
47:08
[SPEAKER_05]: This obedience and this on.
47:10
[SPEAKER_06]: Yeah.
47:10
[SPEAKER_05]: Outside of that, I'm a work witch.
47:13
[SPEAKER_05]: I'm going to work with you.
47:14
[SPEAKER_05]: You got me.
47:15
[SPEAKER_05]: You got the coolest daddy on earth.
47:16
[SPEAKER_05]: If you, if you are on a boy and we're special.
47:20
[SPEAKER_05]: Would you become dishonorable?
47:21
[SPEAKER_05]: This is back when you probably got the worst daddy on earth.
47:24
[SPEAKER_05]: Right on the side.
47:25
[SPEAKER_05]: Right on the side.
47:26
[SPEAKER_05]: Right on the side.
47:27
[SPEAKER_05]: I'm going to stay on one.
47:29
[SPEAKER_05]: I'm must.
47:30
[SPEAKER_05]: But again, that's the same thing in May or is man.
47:32
[SPEAKER_05]: Like, I tell my daughters right now.
47:36
[SPEAKER_05]: Those two things.
47:38
[SPEAKER_05]: If you came honor and respect the man, that is not going to give you a way too.
47:45
[SPEAKER_05]: I'm not giving you a way to this on and disrespect no man.
47:48
[SPEAKER_05]: All right.
47:49
[SPEAKER_05]: I ain't gonna do it.
47:51
[SPEAKER_05]: Why?
47:51
[SPEAKER_05]: Because you ain't ready.
47:53
[SPEAKER_06]: All right.
47:54
[SPEAKER_05]: Right.
47:54
[SPEAKER_05]: And I ain't gonna meet just to tell him like man, listen, we're going to be a teacher in my bed like this, but do it like this.
48:00
[SPEAKER_05]: But I'm gonna tell you that, because I know she's ready.
48:03
[SPEAKER_05]: Oh, she's ready.
48:05
[SPEAKER_05]: I'm only giving her to you, because I know she's ready.
48:09
[SPEAKER_02]: That's what I was in.
48:11
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what she would and that keeps me up at night sometimes is how they decide.
48:24
[SPEAKER_02]: How will they decide?
48:26
[SPEAKER_02]: What they will be open to?
48:28
[SPEAKER_02]: What they have to experience along the way or what they choose to experience along the way.
48:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I have a granddaughter now, but I don't have a son-in-law, right?
48:38
[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm not saying that it's odd that that happens, but that comes with, like, now it's a package deal, right?
48:47
[SPEAKER_02]: And I know what it is to assess the package deal.
48:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
48:52
[SPEAKER_02]: I will note that every young man out here understands what it is to assess and accept the package deal when the benefits come before the services are quiet.
49:06
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying, it's real cool, it's real cool, it's real cool, it controlled environments.
49:13
[SPEAKER_02]: We do it this day, bring it out a lot, right, because there's, there's a level of enjoyment.
49:22
[SPEAKER_02]: less with my ability and that's it right and he could present as respectful and engaging and enjoying all the moments with you and the talent knows concentrate his moments.
49:38
[SPEAKER_02]: But when it becomes his reality that, oh, no, no, no, this is 24-7, right?
49:44
[SPEAKER_04]: It hit different.
49:45
[SPEAKER_02]: It must vary, right?
49:46
[SPEAKER_02]: It must vary different, right?
49:47
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's like the whole stepfather being a stepparent.
49:53
[SPEAKER_02]: It's not for anybody, and accepting it alone is a the audible thing.
49:58
[SPEAKER_02]: honoring it after you accepted his own the honorable thugs.
50:02
[SPEAKER_07]: That's right.
50:02
[SPEAKER_07]: That's right.
50:03
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, if you name for you, name for you, I don't have no stake in that argument.
50:08
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm fired with my choice, certainly.
50:10
[SPEAKER_02]: Twenty, twenty-two years later, I stand on my choice.
50:14
[SPEAKER_02]: I know a lot of people that don't.
50:16
[SPEAKER_02]: A lot of people that didn't realize the gravity of their choice until you're two or three.
50:23
[SPEAKER_02]: Because I'll...
50:25
[SPEAKER_02]: This child ain't what I thought it's gonna be.
50:26
[SPEAKER_02]: Well, he ain't invested in nothing actually on the stand.
50:29
[SPEAKER_02]: When the child, the sex was too loud.
50:31
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey.
50:32
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey.
50:33
[SPEAKER_02]: That's not what you're sexy in a white.
50:35
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my God.
50:37
[SPEAKER_02]: When it says he's quiet, what things do you hear now that you chose not to miss it to her early?
50:41
[SPEAKER_02]: We're in right now, he said the word.
50:43
[SPEAKER_02]: The sex was too loud.
50:45
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my God.
50:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Too loud.
50:48
[SPEAKER_02]: Can't hear reality.
50:49
[SPEAKER_02]: Can't hear.
50:50
[SPEAKER_02]: You can't hear the disrespect, because you come.
50:53
[SPEAKER_04]: Oh my God.
50:54
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, man.
50:54
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, throw it.
50:55
[SPEAKER_04]: What if I want more than this?
50:57
[SPEAKER_04]: If this turns to episode one, he is driving me crazy.
51:01
[SPEAKER_04]: Except for my grandson.
51:04
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real, that's a real
51:26
[SPEAKER_03]: didn't be able to get out of work.
51:31
[SPEAKER_02]: And I wrote back to the studio.
51:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I was not on the stand in the old life.
51:41
[SPEAKER_03]: That's what I meant, man.
51:42
[SPEAKER_03]: I was just, you know, listening to every story that'd be a sad.
51:46
[SPEAKER_03]: I mean, I just started, like, I don't even know what I done in the desert.
51:50
[SPEAKER_03]: It's well, well, I receive it.
51:55
[SPEAKER_04]: We can't let that be short-leave because that tells the land of imposter syndrome.
52:02
[SPEAKER_04]: You do know what you do.
52:04
[SPEAKER_04]: Then, as you carry yourself a certain way, you submit to who you supposed to submit to.
52:11
[SPEAKER_04]: You have a clear cut on the standard and public relationship with your create.
52:15
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
52:16
[SPEAKER_04]: And because you are checking those boxes that those boxes,
52:21
[SPEAKER_04]: You've got people out of here doing things that are superficial because I'm how it looks on the exterior You're doing things that whether not a soul on earth knows just happening It's happening this happened and because you're being obedient to those columns
52:40
[SPEAKER_04]: then you're absolutely reaping what you saw it.
52:43
[SPEAKER_04]: You saw on the seeds with your faithfulness, and your deliverance, what you say this was, then I'm gonna do this on the act on it, I'm moving on.
52:53
[SPEAKER_04]: And then anybody that talked to you, if anybody talked to you and said that, they don't know what you stand, but you're a relationship with God.
52:59
[SPEAKER_04]: They're they haven't talked to me and told this and So because of your obedience, this I've read the promises that's in writing that you ought to receive If you take these steps and do these things I you do these things are taking step data So I Don't feel that
53:25
[SPEAKER_04]: You truly don't know what I understand because it's easy to get caught up in there, man.
53:30
[SPEAKER_04]: I've made some mistakes, I feel a short, I've done some things that I'm not proud of, she's a done, and I feel like the rewards that are being placed in my lap at certain phases of my life.
53:46
[SPEAKER_04]: with the mistakes I've made, but they're aligned with who you're hard to solve.
53:52
[SPEAKER_04]: Thanks.
53:53
[SPEAKER_04]: You see what I mean?
53:54
[SPEAKER_04]: These are the rewards of your hard and your soul, because you can fake and smile all you won't, with anybody on planet earth.
54:02
[SPEAKER_04]: The worst person you've been lied to is yourself.
54:05
[SPEAKER_04]: So because you know sometimes, if you really want to know how a person is living to or how they hard is made,
54:12
[SPEAKER_04]: just look at our favor that's bestowed upon them.
54:16
[SPEAKER_04]: When life just, you're like, man, I don't know for a fact.
54:19
[SPEAKER_04]: Dude, I'm seeing somebody do what I thought I saw this man, and do what they just did make him grow up.
54:25
[SPEAKER_05]: I promise you, Jake, like, as you talk, and that's what I'm saying.
54:29
[SPEAKER_05]: And that's what I'm thinking as you say and what you say at Joten is,
54:38
[SPEAKER_05]: Think about, and this is what I heard in the spirit, bro.
54:41
[SPEAKER_05]: It's like, you're saying, I can't believe this fruit is this fruit.
54:49
[SPEAKER_05]: I don't know.
54:49
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, you mean?
54:50
[SPEAKER_05]: Because again, the roots there, the tree there, the branches there, everything there.
54:59
[SPEAKER_05]: See, sometime, bro.
55:00
[SPEAKER_05]: And then we don't understand, sometime, the fruit.
55:04
[SPEAKER_05]: Now, all the time, the fruit ain't for us.
55:07
[SPEAKER_02]: It's never for the tree.
55:08
[SPEAKER_05]: It's never for the tree, but the thing is it's you're just saying like man I know I planed this thing in furrow soil.
55:18
[SPEAKER_05]: I know is rooted in the right thing I know the the trunk is strong.
55:25
[SPEAKER_05]: I know these branches strong Man sometimes I can't believe how sweet they say this food is because it's coming from the outside
55:35
[SPEAKER_05]: You said, we got to hear, we got to hear them say, man, the sweetest oranges I ever gave you.
55:41
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.
55:43
[SPEAKER_05]: Because the fruit ain't for you, right?
55:46
[SPEAKER_05]: And so sometimes that's what we'll give us that imposter syndrome is saying, I don't get the taste of fruit.
55:55
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
55:56
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, but you, you, you, the full bear.
56:01
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
56:01
[SPEAKER_05]: And a lot of times, bro, it's just the concept, it's the biblical concept, it's the human concept, the universal concept of someone who's reaping.
56:10
[SPEAKER_05]: And bro, you've just seen a harvest season.
56:14
[SPEAKER_05]: But just like any pastor should tell you, throw harvest season is the hardest season.
56:20
[SPEAKER_05]: It's the season that you reap everything, it's the season that you benefit.
56:24
[SPEAKER_05]: But again, bro, Saturday, don't make it easy.
56:32
[SPEAKER_05]: Saturday is the easiest part about what you've been doing.
56:39
[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
56:40
[SPEAKER_05]: Sometimes I think that's the thing that I envy in this space is that you get a clear cut understanding.
56:49
[SPEAKER_05]: This is going to be the easiest thing we're going to do.
56:52
[SPEAKER_05]: It's going to be the most beautiful thing.
56:53
[SPEAKER_05]: It's going to be the most biblical thing we're going to do.
56:57
[SPEAKER_05]: It's honeymoon, but this is the easiest thing we can do.
57:02
[SPEAKER_05]: the race starts Saturday, and that's not going to be long, like you know what I'm saying?
57:11
[SPEAKER_05]: Listen again, with people with nipsy and everybody else talk about the marathon, bro, like listen, marriage is a marathon and you're going to need some help, you're going to need some people come bring you some, or there's some water bring you some water, get them, the
57:31
[SPEAKER_05]: I said, but bro, that's the beauty of understanding we signed it up for America.
57:37
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, yeah.
57:38
[SPEAKER_05]: That star said to me.
57:43
[SPEAKER_02]: What you've been, uh, you've been, you've been getting your miles in.
57:47
[SPEAKER_02]: They're all scheduled.
57:49
[SPEAKER_05]: Come on.
57:51
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm willing.
57:52
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
57:52
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
57:52
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
57:53
[SPEAKER_02]: So, to watch the thing at the inside, you want to participate in the thing.
57:56
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
57:57
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
57:57
[SPEAKER_03]: Thanks.
57:58
[SPEAKER_02]: You showed up to the thing because you had been preparing.
58:01
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
58:02
[SPEAKER_02]: For the thing.
58:02
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
58:03
[SPEAKER_02]: That's a big deal, man.
58:04
[SPEAKER_02]: Yep.
58:04
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
58:06
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm willing, man.
58:06
[SPEAKER_04]: And I'm excited to watch it on fall.
58:08
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm alive.
58:09
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
58:11
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm truly happy for you.
58:13
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not just saying that again because you.
58:15
[SPEAKER_04]: It's a great thing when you see great people do a great thing right now because you'll see it and you can Sometimes it just look like people go on through the motions But when you see How vested and hands on and really committed Emotionally and mentally to something
58:35
[SPEAKER_04]: It looks different and you ain't just to be a homo and look like I'm going to see me I'm going to see you.
58:44
[SPEAKER_04]: That's a good thing, man.
58:45
[SPEAKER_04]: And at that, a long time ago, man, as I was here to tell me, out of two is all contagious as yours worth catch.
58:57
[SPEAKER_02]: A thousand of them, man.
58:59
[SPEAKER_04]: So it's...
59:01
[SPEAKER_04]: the love, the infectious love that's going to be in that room Saturday, there are going to be attendees that need it.
59:14
[SPEAKER_04]: And not to make it about anybody but your whole because it's a by-job, that's just going to be a by-product.
59:22
[SPEAKER_04]: And that's what you're looking for, I guess, with the by-product of how amazing that
59:31
[SPEAKER_04]: over the time.
59:34
[SPEAKER_03]: It's been a very few times of my life I had nowhere to go.
59:37
[SPEAKER_03]: I have nowhere to go.
59:37
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know.
59:38
[SPEAKER_03]: It's just so good up.
59:38
[SPEAKER_05]: This is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this is the, this
1:00:14
[SPEAKER_03]: He could have his conversation short yesterday.
1:00:15
[SPEAKER_03]: I ain't never seen him have to be with that.
1:00:18
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
1:00:18
[SPEAKER_03]: When you said he had the study.
1:00:20
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
1:00:21
[SPEAKER_03]: He never talked to me for 15 minutes of conversation.
1:00:24
[SPEAKER_03]: The problem kind of 30.
1:00:25
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
1:00:27
[SPEAKER_03]: You know, he just talked to me about, you know, this journey, what I'm committed to, you know, he was like, I'm about to get out of here with like, I love it and he was like, you know,
1:00:41
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm here and I know he won't let the be here, so I feel like I stand in that gap, bro.
1:00:52
[SPEAKER_03]: Man.
1:00:55
[SPEAKER_03]: So I appreciate that.
1:00:56
[SPEAKER_03]: This.
1:00:57
[SPEAKER_03]: Still.
1:00:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Anyway, I know he won't be saying do I. I don't know y'all do it yet.
1:01:05
[SPEAKER_05]: Or bro, I'm gonna tell you.
1:01:16
[SPEAKER_05]: airtightness is it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it's it
1:01:33
[SPEAKER_03]: That's the fact.
1:01:35
[SPEAKER_03]: That's the big of a call.
1:01:36
[SPEAKER_03]: Man, listen, I know that.
1:01:38
[SPEAKER_04]: For I roll a seat, yeah, I know that.
1:01:40
[SPEAKER_03]: For I roll a seat, yeah, I know what you're about in your car all the way through.
1:01:44
[SPEAKER_03]: Either if I had this rule of this, any day.
1:01:48
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, especially moving forward.
1:01:50
[SPEAKER_04]: She'll test you, she'll test you, you need anything.
1:01:54
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not just silly.
1:01:55
[SPEAKER_04]: I don't offer myself to feel like being like that.
1:01:59
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, man, I know somebody else is somebody else.
1:02:03
[SPEAKER_04]: Personally, if you need someone to tell her and know that, you need to talk one at a time.
1:02:11
[SPEAKER_04]: I don't care what the deal.
1:02:12
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I don't care what time it is.
1:02:14
[SPEAKER_04]: I fall in love with my phone never on the end then that's true.
1:02:17
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, I know that, I know that.
1:02:20
[SPEAKER_02]: And let her know what our accountability to each other is.
1:02:26
[SPEAKER_02]: She needs to understand that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She knows that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: to show you know that it's an out of the even being able to just be like, man, I'm red or these are weighing.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's safety there and even saying, man, it's dead, man.
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[SPEAKER_05]: But bro, I'm building a wise council.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah, I don't want to, I don't want to receive
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[SPEAKER_05]: anything from anywhere.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, man.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying.
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[SPEAKER_05]: That's the beauty of, that's even like being a line right now in the church or being a line right now.
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[SPEAKER_05]: And like man, I don't want to be nowhere to check no box.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_05]: I don't, I'm not in a space where I'm going to give you something, just to say I get you to do that now, I don't do it, I don't do it, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to do that, I don't need to
1:03:31
[SPEAKER_05]: from me calling you about the content and sometimes I'd be reluctant like not long, you know, you know, I'm a shoot this whole day, no, I hate asking man and I think that's so super power.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, if you the earlier you asked the lesser,
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[SPEAKER_02]: The more likely you can avoid a blow, but at least lessen the blow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I chose right into a lot of, oh, you hit, oh, it hit, oh, it should be like that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's low.
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[SPEAKER_07]: Yeah, it's low, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then, if you hit enough, you can bench yourself, they're taking the hit, it's a stand-up thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I could take the punches.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You know you, but you're not working right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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[SPEAKER_02]: Would you be able to say cousin?
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, that's fine, I'll tell you, let me get make sure you're on the, uh... Yeah, that's right, that's all, uh... Make sure you're on the screen, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I don't think, man, this was a good study guy for me, I'm not very, you know, the CEO of the film, you know, saying give me facts, I'm very tired, and I knew it was wrecked something in up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got from two pairs, I got from...
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[SPEAKER_00]: 52 years and no one told me, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then one of our ways is, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: With my dad's talk, you know, you know, every season ain't the same.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You'll see your part, the same.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, so my mother's a phenomenal woman.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I know where times you need to get all it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When they get, they still find them through, you know what I'm saying?
1:05:25
[SPEAKER_00]: The struggle of my last lives, how I'm making it for too many years.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, the home comes accountable, holding each other accountable, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This was a great study guy for me, you know what I was saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because when I walked in through it, I wanted to be red.
1:05:38
[SPEAKER_00]: I thought people would go down there just to say, they had a red.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes the red is bigger than the marriage.
1:05:44
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's people cry, you know what I'm saying?
1:05:47
[SPEAKER_00]: They like the fans, it's soup.
1:05:49
[SPEAKER_00]: They like the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, you know, our pictures and all, you know, that is going to do it for the glamour man, but, you know, how's it going to be read?
1:05:57
[SPEAKER_00]: Like that cook, cook, the emotion, you know what I'm saying?
1:06:00
[SPEAKER_00]: He shows some of the music, and he got everybody's, that's how I know you're out, Siri.
1:06:04
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, man, about the cooking, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So then I, I appreciate the talk.
1:06:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just, I was just listening to appreciate you let me say something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the other press that a guy for me.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Man, and this, the park has a better together, man, if you haven't been too near like it, it's been for itself.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like we literally better together, you know.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Corinthians, I can't remember what Chaps is.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I was gonna say it's in the 15th or 13th when they taught it back in parts of the body.
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[SPEAKER_03]: The leg is no good without the arm, you know.
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[SPEAKER_03]: They hear it, no good without the nose, like every part, function the good, and move properly.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: So when it comes to marriages, listen to the y'all, it take a village in this thing.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: You have to be open to receive this stuff, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I have not gotten as far as I have got.
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[SPEAKER_03]: about not being able to receive from people who have more information than man, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Who have paid the way that, uh, it wasn't my biggest problem for all that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Before any of this was thinking I do everything.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: I had no problem with listening.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'll just grateful that I made them say expressions.
1:07:23
[SPEAKER_03]: I know the trust people that I know come and come from a genuine place.
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[SPEAKER_03]: to leave me in a good place.
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[SPEAKER_03]: At that, yeah, with my best interest in my life, you're ain't waiting to see me falling there, celebrate that, you know what I'm saying, in silent or in a human's joke.
1:07:46
[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying now, right?
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[SPEAKER_03]: And I know better place than be in to know, you know, people got your best interest in and you can talk.
1:07:55
[SPEAKER_03]: And, you know, if you listen to it, it's good, it's good information, so I know there's going to be a journey.
1:08:04
[SPEAKER_03]: And I'm gonna say this for Ed and Man, listen to it, it's been considered, it's been on your heart.
1:08:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, I don't know what it's about to be a journey.
1:08:12
[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, I have not, uh, I'm not in the now about, you know, the ups and downs.
1:08:18
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm one day at a time, oh, I'm not expecting, I'm not saying to myself like,
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[SPEAKER_03]: awaiting for the horrible, more than the good.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I am going to clean to the good more than the bad.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm not going to allow my mind to always break up the negative that forget all the good time we had with friends and family.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And I want to learn life is a journey within itself.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And like I told a cousin earlier, my first covenant was to the most I have before her, how am I, my head, to about the covenant in his marriage when I have to treat my first covenant just as well.
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[SPEAKER_03]: If I'm afraid, if I'm okay with it,
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[SPEAKER_03]: being this obedient and reckless in my first covenant.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's no way my second would have homework.
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[SPEAKER_05]: I'll say the same thing.
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[SPEAKER_05]: We talked about it.
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[SPEAKER_05]: And just to reiterate, bro, it's beautiful that you say that because again, now in that covenant, you know that that's his daughter before your life.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_04]: This.
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[SPEAKER_05]: You know what I'm saying?
1:09:41
[SPEAKER_05]: That's what, that's what again, I was not privy too.
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[SPEAKER_05]: 25,000 years ago.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
1:10:13
[SPEAKER_05]: Everybody like, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold
1:10:40
[SPEAKER_02]: even your relationship would go right you know what I'm saying to honor your relationship with one of his dollars man you know what I'm saying so that's that's that's that's no that's a pivotal moment to understand that treatment based on the daughter because any man I mean I say any man a man can be
1:11:07
[SPEAKER_02]: horrible in his dealings with women and treat his daughter like a pressist and not be able to negotiate the how the the actual parallel between the two when you say that guy's daughter thing I think that why he said that he said that I'll laugh because that that that that that holds into the accountability that you can't unsee because
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm under the jail of my daughter.
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[SPEAKER_05]: I'm gonna tell you, I'll tell you, oh, don't, let me, let's go deeper.
1:11:39
[SPEAKER_05]: God ain't got no brain children.
1:11:42
[SPEAKER_05]: Hmm, never saw this daughter.
1:11:44
[SPEAKER_05]: So the way you treat your daughters, it's still his daughters.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_05]: The main is brain daughters.
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[SPEAKER_05]: It's what I'm saying.
1:11:52
[SPEAKER_05]: So that's what make what you're saying.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Even more complicated, bro, because again, it's still,
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[SPEAKER_05]: His daughter, your daughter, so she's his daughter.
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[SPEAKER_05]: The man who's brain-builded.
1:12:07
[SPEAKER_04]: See that?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Unstricted.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, totally.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And you can walk away with something I promised.
1:12:14
[SPEAKER_04]: I don't care where you had it in your locker life.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, if you don't walk away with something, that would be good, it'd be good, it'd be good.
1:12:21
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm gonna leave this with a scripture of a perfect no-the-case after here.
1:12:25
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't know what it is, I don't know what you, you know, I'm saying the phrase of what I promise you of.
1:12:31
[SPEAKER_03]: I want that side with him or the, that perfect little case I afraid you need to understand it.
1:12:35
[SPEAKER_03]: In that perfect little, it's talking about accepting flaws in our understanding who you do it and being there to understand that we do, we doing this together.
1:12:50
[SPEAKER_03]: they're part of your little case at this three because you'll feel you don't come from a place so thinking about the unknown.
1:13:00
[SPEAKER_03]: The unknown of what it looked like five years now, right?
1:13:03
[SPEAKER_03]: What it looked like when I followed you with.
1:13:05
[SPEAKER_03]: What did the argument mean?
1:13:06
[SPEAKER_03]: The perfect little case I had that first deal with him when it happened.
1:13:09
[SPEAKER_03]: He had a conversation, the different conversation.
1:13:13
[SPEAKER_03]: Or it meant that whatever it is that you did and with the promise, being vulnerable, be transparent to the best, to the best of your ability and whenever it hits your dough, because if you sit on it, it ain't no more room for the enemy.
1:13:29
[SPEAKER_03]: air single tire in the gaps and when he come through, they're perfect little going cares that they're fair.
1:13:40
[SPEAKER_04]: But they're being saved now.
1:13:43
[SPEAKER_04]: I mean this always be mine.
1:13:47
[SPEAKER_04]: Nothing fits what we say about what we're about to say like this occasion that's coming up Saturday.
1:13:56
[SPEAKER_04]: time stand the moments in life that matter most so that you can always have love and good sweet memories to look back on time stand live in the moment something as great as this I'll get caught up in the meat and greet of all the family and friends and relatives checking and making sure everybody is having a good time nobody takes the time to tell the couple
1:14:24
[SPEAKER_04]: Soak this moment in here.
1:14:25
[SPEAKER_04]: This is not.
1:14:26
[SPEAKER_04]: So I need to walk up and say, stop.
1:14:29
[SPEAKER_04]: Hmm.
1:14:29
[SPEAKER_04]: That's just got mad.
1:14:31
[SPEAKER_04]: And just look at each other and sit there and inform them.
1:14:35
[SPEAKER_04]: And let that soak in.
1:14:36
[SPEAKER_04]: I'll just got married.
1:14:38
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, you good?
1:14:39
[SPEAKER_04]: You good?
1:14:40
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, hey, hey, hey, oh.
1:14:43
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, it's a big reunion.
1:14:46
[SPEAKER_04]: But no, it's at some point, I got to quiet.
1:14:48
[SPEAKER_04]: While you're there, yeah, I just got mad.
1:14:56
[SPEAKER_04]: I understand that.
1:14:57
[SPEAKER_04]: Make sure it is time-stab.
1:15:02
[SPEAKER_04]: You see, that's what I got.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That'll be good.
1:15:07
[SPEAKER_03]: That'll be good.
1:15:08
[SPEAKER_04]: That'll be good.
1:15:09
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
1:15:09
[SPEAKER_04]: It's...
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yes, sir.
1:15:12
[SPEAKER_04]: All right.
1:15:13
[SPEAKER_04]: Now I got two most out of the life of it.
1:15:15
[SPEAKER_04]: That'll be good.
1:15:16
[SPEAKER_04]: Two more.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Two more.
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