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Sovereign Woman Rising From High Achievement to Deep Alignment · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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Speak to what it is that she really wants.
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The first, most critical step is to establish a reconnection with
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the self, with specifically the most resourced part of
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themselves. Because when a woman comes to
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you all, when a woman comes to me, they come.
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And this is the presenting problem and this is my issue,
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and this is what I need to get rid of.
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Or they're feeling stuck, stopped, can't get traction,
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momentum, whatever that is, only that is, that is a moment in
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time. It's the current state.
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But it's also transient because deep down there is a very
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resourced part of you that you're actually just not
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connected with. And that's showing up as
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stuckness or as depression or as debilitating self sabotaging
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behaviours. So how to tap back into the
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desire is to reconnect with the most resourced part of yourself.
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And when you begin to feel yourself and recognize, wow,
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there is a part of me that knows how to show up and be powerful.
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There is a part of me that knows how to open myself to curiosity.
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There is a part of me that knows how to receive when you tap
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into. Hey, and welcome, welcome to the
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Genius Zone. And we've got a very much needed
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broadcast for you today. So if you happen to be a high
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achiever and you feel like you're constantly rescuing other
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people, you're always there for the people and taking
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responsibility even for those that you don't have to take
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responsibility for. And yet you know that at the
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core of your very inner truth, you're not being completely true
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to yourself. This is going to be all about
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coming back to your inner core. This is going to be about coming
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back and being true to who you are.
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And I am going to bring a beautiful lady.
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This lady is a hypnotherapist. She's a Pilates instructor,
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teacher trainer, and she has done extensive study on the
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topic, including even being an engineer in her field Once Upon
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a time. So thank you for joining us.
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Danielle, how are you? Good morning, Terry.
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I'm fabulous and it's such a pleasure to join you on your
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show today. It's an absolute pleasure to
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have you here and I think I could probably need a lot of
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your instruction today. So I guess what I'm going to
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start off with is the question, what is it about high
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performance women and high achievers that tend to neglect
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themselves and really be so busy taking care of other people that
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they forget who they are? An excellent entry point, Terry,
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just to put this into perspective, high achieving,
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high performing, high functioning women actually have
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developed a very intelligent way to manage moving forward in life
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where demands are very high. They're multitasking, they're
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raising families, they're pursuing challenging careers,
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they're working to level the playing field in male in our
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dominant male systems. Let's just leave it at that.
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And they're actually very good at it.
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That being said, there is a consequence.
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There's a cost for all this high functioning, over delivering,
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over accomplishment that actually I would say cost them a
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part of themselves that leads to a disconnect, their inability to
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sense themselves, to recognize what it is that they really
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deeply most desire from a soul level.
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So just to normalize that, it's not that it's anything wrong to
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be high achieving or high functioning, but if you, if
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that's the only thing you're good at such that it costs you
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yourself, your connection with yourself, then there is an
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issue. So you're a hypnotherapist, as I
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am as well. And I understand the
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subconscious brain. And the reason that we do things
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sometimes seems quite ludicrous. And one of the things is that
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when we are sabotaging ourself, quite often there is a higher
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purpose. So it's almost like what you're
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talking about is in reverse. Perhaps if we looked at this
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woman who's leaving herself behind, neglecting herself, not
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really being true to who she is and she's compensating for being
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high performing and taking on that role of almost being so
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that she is burdened. The fact is that she came from
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an era and a family of origin where the chances are that she
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learnt to take on that pattern when she was young.
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And I don't know about you, Danielle, part of the genius
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zone is most of the people that come on board and they're really
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specializing in their field. They know what it's like to be
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in that position themself. So I dare say you're a high
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achieving woman and I'm a high achieving woman.
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And I do know that I was one of those people.
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I think I was one of your classic clients that was so high
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performing. I burnt out in real estate.
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So I had to go all the time and I didn't stop.
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But really what I was doing is I was running away from something,
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but I was also falling into that performance trap maybe because
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as a child, because as children we don't really always have the
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true perspective of what's happening.
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So maybe if I was given attention, which I know I used
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to get a lot of attention from my father, if I did well, then
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automatically I think, oh, if I do really well and if I achieve
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a really high, then that's going to be great.
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But then it comes at a cost. So I know you've got a story and
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I want to move over to your story.
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But my story really has taken for not once, not twice, but
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perhaps three times where I've hit the wall.
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And I think the third time, the most recent one was a big shake
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up call of where I was able to go.
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Oh, I was able to see life and take it into perspective and say
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hang on a minute, I need to come back to who I am.
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And even though I don't regret developing those attributes, I
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guess I can say that I learnt them from a broken part of
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myself. But now I'm trying to bring them
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together. But tell us about your story,
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because I think you hit the wall yourself and just went not this
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is it. Thank you for sharing your
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story, Terry. I want to say that the
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experience you had growing up with your father, what you've
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shared with us is an experience that demonstrates what it means
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to associate love being conditional on performance.
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Meaning when I do well or when I do what's expected, what's
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required of me, then it feels safe.
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Then I feel like I belong. Then my father gives me warmth,
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then he's giving me attention. And just to speak to your
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experience sharing here, that's where these patterns of
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perfectionism, over performing, people pleasing are actually
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born. So I think your experience, as
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well as my experience, they're not.
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They're actually more universal than we can ever imagine, which
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is why it's also important to talk about this, because so many
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women actually feel that their struggle is uniquely theirs and
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their own, but it's actually a lot more common.
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Yes, absolutely. And I always say to that really
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we've got to remember where we did come from.
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And no matter how successful we become and many people who do
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become greatly successful, I think it's always a really good
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strategy to always just refer back.
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Now, one of the things you're trained in is a mechanical
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engineer. So I totally get that because a
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mechanical engineer, you've got a very good brain, so you're
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able to work things out. How have you been able to bring
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that into your service and really bring that to light to
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help other women? I love this question.
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So my first profession was as a mechanical engineer.
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What does that mean? You look at a system structure
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and you analyze it, you look at what's coming in, what are the
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inputs, what is the load, what is the capacity, what gets
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generated, where is their compensation, where is their
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dysfunction? And I guess that was being
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applied to mechanics, machinery. But when I stopped working in
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industry and became a mother full time, I recognized that
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this lens to be analyzing systems and patents.
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What's coming in, what's going out?
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Where is their overload? Where is their compensation?
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It was like that way of thinking was ingrained and I began to
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take that with me further along my trajectory.
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So I became a mother and alongside motherhood, I stepped
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into entrepreneurship. I built my own business.
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I founded my Pilates studio. And there I was drawing upon
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these unique lens again. But my object of study was the
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human body. Women were coming to me to train
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their cores, their pelvic strength before after
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childbirth, seeing patterns and symptoms show up again and again
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and recognizing, OK, yes, we can work with movement patterns.
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We can see where is the where is the system compensating?
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Where are we having inefficient movement and breathing that's
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costing you more energy than it really needs.
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So the system's lens thinking was already developed and it was
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being applied in a movement human body context and of recent
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years of the mind. Yeah, because I, as you said,
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I've, you mentioned, I'm a hypnotherapist.
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I'm also trained in transformational coaching.
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And that's also very much about being able to recognize what is
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the pattern here, where is there leakage of capacity, of
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authority, of vitality, of aliveness, What's the underlying
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narrative, What is the cost, what is the consequence and how
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do we want to use that to inform how we move forward.
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Well, those are some powerful questions, girl.
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I know one of my teachers, and she made her first million in no
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time being this incredible business coach.
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But she had a moment when she was doing a Pilates class.
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And they say that your body doesn't lie.
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And this is something that keeps coming up on all my podcasts
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lately. How we have trapped energy in
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our muscles. And she talks about how she was
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doing a class and she did a particular movement and I think
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it was down in the pelvic region, like the hips and the
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pelvis. And she moved and she released
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something that was obviously she'd been she'd gone through a
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marriage breakdown, She'd gone through a huge crisis.
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And apparently she fell apart in front of the whole class and she
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just totally wept. She was just crying.
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It was like her body just released.
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And I feel like it's these moments of time where we are
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going through a crisis that really take us into our
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superpower. But that's not always the case
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because some of us never learn. Some people are just repeating
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their patterns over and over again.
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But you said something to me backstage which I can really
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relate to, and that is that people are not accustomed to
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saying what they want, but they instead say what they don't
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want. So this is very typical.
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If people come to me, it's always I'm coming to you because
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I'm depressed, or I'm coming to you because I've got this
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emotional trauma, or I'm coming to you because I've got this
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addiction. But I'm yet to hear anyone come
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in and say I'm coming to you because I want to build a life
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that is fully aligned, that is full of vitality, where I can
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feel my best, where I'm healthy, vibrant and glowing.
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I'm yet to hear anything like that.
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I'm going to go through your step by step process, which
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people are going to absolutely love.
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And the first step is igniting potential and what do you want
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and what do you desire? So how do you elicit people to
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come to know what it is they want and what they desire?
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Yes, what you're speaking to Terry is my lived experience as
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well, especially in the realm of high functioning women who lack
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language or capacity to share with another what it is that
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they really most truly desire. And that is indicative of a
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pattern which is a disconnection with self.
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And when you ask me, OK, so how do you get a woman to speak to
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her desire, speak to what it is that she really wants?
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The first most critical step is to establish a reconnection with
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the self, with specifically the most resourced part of
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themselves. Because when a woman comes to
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you all, when a woman comes to me, they come.
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And this is the presenting problem and this is my issue,
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and this is what I need to get rid of.
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Or they're feeling stuck, stopped, can't get traction,
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momentum, whatever that is, only that is, that is a moment in
14:35
time. It's the current state.
14:37
But it's also transient because deep down there is a very
14:39
resourced part of you that you're actually just not
14:44
connected with. And that's showing up as
14:46
stuckness or as depression or as debilitating self sabotaging
14:50
behaviours. So how to tap back into the
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desire is to reconnect with the most resourced part of yourself.
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And when you begin to feel yourself and recognize, wow,
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there is a part of me that knows how to show up and be powerful.
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There is a part of me that knows how to open myself to curiosity.
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There is a part of me that knows how to receive.
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When you tap into that part of yourself, then you can begin to
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extrapolate the vision. Wow.
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Yeah. This is what I most deeply
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desire. For me.
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This is what I'm yearning to express.
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This is what I most deeply want to contribute.
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This is what I'm longing for. But that can't happen when there
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is an internal disconnect. Yeah, yeah.
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And it's almost as if people need to hit the wall first.
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Do you think that a lot of people crave what they don't
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perceive they have? Do I think that people crave
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what? They don't perceive they have if
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they don't perceive, like Tony Robbins, for example.
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So growing up, he had four stepfathers, apparently a very
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broken, dysfunctional family. They didn't really get to
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celebrate those celebrations that families do.
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So he craved to have that family life.
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He craved to have the ability to feed children and to give people
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that ability to live their fullest life and not be broken
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because he grew up broken. So that's where I'm saying, do
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you feel that people come from their deficit?
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I'm going to say yes or no. I think it's actually more
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nuanced. I definitely feel that depending
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on your family of origin and what you're exposed to, what
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your experience was, that can definitely create, I don't want
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to say deficit, but can create, let's say, gaps where you feel
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this is where I became stunted in my growth.
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And I'm not suggesting that's the thought that goes through
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your head. It's this is what I missed out
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on. That's what it feels like.
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This is what I was craving for, but I didn't get it.
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And that can be a driver because it's a gap and there is a
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yearning there to bridge that gap from where your growth
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became stunted to where this is what I'm capable of and actually
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I really have a great capacity to give myself.
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On the other hand, it can be that when you turn inwards and
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begin to recognize your own unique gifts, talents,
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contributions, uniqueness, that there is, I'm going to use a
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special word here, your Intelloki, your original group.
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Taloki. Oh, I haven't heard of that one
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before, it's not French. No, it's Greek.
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Oh, it's Greek. Oh, I should have known that.
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Yeah, you're, I'm saying on the one hand, it can be born from a
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gap. You spoke to the deficit, but it
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can also be born from destiny. This is what I'm.
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Hearing I love that this. Is what I'm here to become.
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And that is your Intelloki, the art of becoming what you are
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here in your through your own unique blueprint.
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What the universe? I love that.
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This is your language now, Tony. What you here are destined to
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become, to contribute, to express through you, that is
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your intelli key. I'll give you an example, and
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I'm drawing upon this, the sharings from Doctor Jean
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Houston, who's been one of my great mentors in terms of
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intelli key. What is intelli key?
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Let's make this more visceral and tangible for our audience.
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A rose doesn't just become a rose, it's a rose.
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Seed is destined to grow and bloom into a rose, and acorn is
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destined to become an oak tree. So the imprint is already there.
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It's just bringing that seed, that starting point, into an
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environment with the right conditions so that it can truly
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become. That's what Intelli Key is, and
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it's no different for humans. I love that the art of becoming
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beautiful. I'm pretty sure what I.
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Thought it's so hard to become we, we're human beings and yet
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we act like we're human doings we're doing and that art of
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becoming and what you did say, because we have air and we have
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abundant air, we're not looking for air because it's there.
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And I guess if people have got really good health, they may not
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be looking for health because they've got it.
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But then what will happen if they lose it, if they suddenly
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lost? Like I, I went years thinking
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that I wanted to be successful. And all I ever taught on was
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health, freedom, success. And that was it.
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Health, freedom, success, health, freedom success.
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They're not bad, right? Health and freedom, fabulous.
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But this success business, it was very performative.
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So you were the high achiever, you were the people pleaser, you
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were doing and then you were burning out and you weren't
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sustainable. And what I did find, and this
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has come through my third wave. When I say third wave, let's
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call it the dark night of the soul.
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That third dark night of the soul, which was recently really
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brought my life to a standstill where I recognized what truly
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was important. And that art of becoming was not
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forced, because forced sounds again like a doing word, but it
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became part of who I became as a result of the dark night of the
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soul. And then I was able to see
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success. What is success anyway?
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And that's when I was able to really come into what is really
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important for me. So when you're helping people to
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discover what they're desiring and what they're longing for and
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what they're yearning, tell me a little bit about that.
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What happens for them when they discover it?
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There's a very unique energy that can be witnessed.
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There's like a different animation in my clients whole
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features, their whole expression on their face, their posturing
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in their body. It's almost like something has
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been ignited or electrified or kicked start or sparked and it's
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tangible, it's visible and it's almost like a rebirth.
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So you've spoken several times on this chat already to deficit
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and breakdown and my third wave, my my dark night of the soul.
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These are all threshold moments. You reach a point in your life
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that you recognize it no longer fits.
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And that's quite a scary. It can be quite scary, scary for
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maybe maybe a better word might be could be debilitating because
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who you've known yourself to be again, this is not who you're
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here to become. This is an evolution.
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This is you lose yourself. And I feel like you find
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yourself when you lose yourself. Oh, beautiful.
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That's the point. The question is, do you take
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that leap and trust that who that step is to bring me further
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towards who I am here to become? Because many women, they will
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delay. They will delay because it's not
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the right time, it's inconvenient.
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I'll focus on it next quarter when my kids are grown up, when
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I've finally figured my life out, when I've and it's.
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These are all hidden internal agreements to not to essentially
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not act. And I'm not saying this in any
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this is not shaming. This is non judgement.
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This is observation. From life.
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From my work, that delay can cost you your life.
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Not I don't mean your life, but your capacity to be leading a
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life fully alive. Let's put it that way.
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This is where I loved the quantum leap vision of literally
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leaping into the future, you would say when you're 85 years
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old and having the opportunity to look back and go, Oh my gosh,
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why didn't I just do that? Because all those things that we
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are making excuses up for is really our subconscious mind
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wanting to protect us. And yet, if we had a different
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perspective when we got out of the way of ourself, you know
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that's going to change everything, right?
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Yes, yes. The reason why it feels so risky
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is because it's asking us to be someone we have not yet been.
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It's asking us to find a way of moving through life for which we
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have no set reference point. That's why it feels uncertain.
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It feels like a threat, but it feels very risky.
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And at the same time that, Terry, that is the growth edge,
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that is what's asking you. That's so good.
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Yeah. Yeah, that's so good.
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The growth edge, we're on edge Radio Australia.
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Oh. My God, I love that.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I, oh gosh, that's just, there's
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so many gold Nuggets just right there.
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And I know that what you love doing is breaking that glass
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ceiling for people and teaching these women who are high
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performing, high achieving that they are good enough.
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They are good enough as they are, as who they are at their
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core. They don't have to perform
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anymore. And look, this goes for men too.
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Look, there's men out there. I work with men and women and
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they have very high expectations and very high standards and put
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themselves under a lot of pressure.
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But let's talk about smashing the glass ceiling.
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So obviously we all have a ceiling and we all have that.
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Ah, yeah, that's where I can go. I can't go any bigger and better
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than that. So do you think it takes a
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person to lose themself to literally?
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Like for me, one of the things, I won't go into detail, but I
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have done exactly what you just spoke about, which is all my
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reference points have been shifted, but not by any kind of
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intention, but because half of my life has changed.
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So all my reference points have gone half of them.
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So that causes you to emerged and I guess rebirth, but could
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that be a key that if you practice the right techniques
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like what you're doing here, that can also help us
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breakthrough that glass ceiling of limitation?
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Absolutely. And what I want to share with
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you in that process is that it requires a very specific, I'm
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going to use the word container of holding, a container of
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holding. So you spoke to, I almost feel
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like I had to lose myself. And what you were losing was
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your identity of that time. Oh my gosh.
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Because it's all about it identity work at the end of the
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day, yes. Absolutely.
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But I want to keep this tangible for our audience.
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What do you mean, Danielle? Your identity, like we said,
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it's who you've known yourself to be, how you've oriented
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yourself in your space, in your environment, in your greater
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circle of friends, acquaintances and colleagues at your work, at
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home. It's like you have all these
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different roles, but it's who you've known yourself and how
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you've normally functioned and the process of losing yourself.
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It's really, how about I've out putting on put let's try this on
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for size. What if I've outgrown this
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context I of being and that can indeed feel like a sense of I'm
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losing myself. It's really I've outgrown this
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way of being functioning in Oftentimes it shows up as pain
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points, as symptoms. It's not like you wake up and
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you say, oh, I'm fed up with this way of being.
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No, it's actually showing up and out picturing as self sabotaging
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behaviours, coming back to the high achieving woman or or the
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one who over functions the cost people pleasing or taking care
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of other people's needs at nauseam without any reflection
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or consideration of your own. This is how it shows up and you
27:35
recognize this is not sustainable.
27:37
This is not how I want to keep being.
27:39
I want to show up in a life with the identity of a woman that
27:42
recognizes my care belongs in my greatest circle of care.
27:46
That's an identity shift as opposed to it's my job to take
27:50
care of everybody else's needs 1st and then I'll take care of
27:53
myself. So that is the identity shift.
27:55
Just giving you a real example for our listeners because I want
27:58
them to also feel what does that really mean to shift identity
28:03
and coming back to your inner glass ceilings.
28:05
Those are essentially just underlying scripts, let's say,
28:09
deeper narratives, old stories running in the background of our
28:13
mind that are actually out picturing as our reality.
28:18
That sounded very abstract, I agree, but it's basically
28:21
that's. Great.
28:22
That's great. Yeah, it's basically what is the
28:26
inner glass ceiling. It's basically an internal
28:29
narrative, a story that dictates who are you, who are others, and
28:35
what is and isn't possible for me.
28:37
And depending how that narrative is rolling out, it could be
28:41
limiting you, capping you, stopping you, holding you in
28:44
place, or it could be inviting you to expand.
28:48
But at that point of the process, it's usually, let's
28:50
identify what is that inner story?
28:53
What is the story beneath the story that's keeping you stuck,
28:56
that's dictating what you can and cannot achieve, what you,
28:59
what is or isn't possible for you, what you do or don't
29:01
deserve. That's the process of breaking
29:04
the inner barrier because there are stories there that are not
29:07
serving you and your growth. And that's what it means to
29:09
break that level. Yeah, so smash that ceiling off
29:15
you guys. And you know what we've
29:18
discussed so far, I'm just going to reiterate is step one
29:22
igniting your potential. And I love the way Danielle asks
29:27
these absolutely kick butt questions.
29:30
So you can only imagine if you're in the hot seat next or
29:33
beside Danielle, what that's going to look like in your life
29:37
with questions like what is your deepest desire and what are you
29:41
truly longing for or and what do you yearn for?
29:44
And then tapping into those barriers of those constructs of
29:50
your family of origin and where you set up your beliefs and
29:55
coming into your own truth and reflecting on how you can become
30:01
deeply alive. And then Step 2 is breaking the
30:05
glass ceiling, releasing those subconscious limiting beliefs
30:09
and survival structures. And that, as you've heard
30:14
Danielle talk about, is all around your identity.
30:17
Who the heck am I? You could be asking that
30:20
question, who am I? Who do I want to be and who am I
30:24
in that situation? I find myself asking that a lot.
30:27
If I'm meet with a challenge, I will say who am I in that role?
30:33
Because I'm probably, as you're talking about, referring back to
30:38
something that's triggered me, that's caused my identity to
30:42
shift in that limiting belief. This is what Danielle does and
30:47
what she is going to help you do is to literally shift the needle
30:54
breakthrough. And then we're going to come up
30:58
to Step 3, which is the breakthrough story.
31:02
So let's go over and beyond into the story of who you be.
31:09
Can you talk to us about the Breakthrough story?
31:12
Yes, the breakthrough story is also an incredibly powerful step
31:17
in the process because that is what is what gets to be born
31:23
from your true essence? What is a deeper truth about who
31:29
you are? What is the deeper truth about
31:32
what is possible for you? And that is a beautiful moment
31:35
when a woman recognizes wow. It's it's not up to anyone else
31:39
who gets to decide what I can be or do or achieve or have
31:45
ambition for. It's like a realization I am a
31:50
powerful creator or I am an extendedly happy woman in a
31:56
beautifully growth nourishing marriage.
31:59
These this is what it means to have a breakthrough story.
32:01
A woman begins to recognize my needs.
32:04
My needs and preferences and desires matter just as deeply as
32:07
those in my circle of care. And it becomes from these almost
32:11
like power statements, but they begin to create the arc of a new
32:14
story which begin to navigate then your life, specifically the
32:18
behaviours of being going forward, which leads us into the
32:22
next step, which I'm not sure. You want to introduce, this is
32:25
the number four step is very exciting.
32:28
And I will add too, I think it's fair to say that when you are
32:32
working with Danielle, so Danielle works in a bespoke way.
32:36
So she will meet you personally where you're at.
32:40
So Danielle believes there are no two blueprints, there's only
32:43
one fingerprint. She will work with you
32:45
specifically when you are moving through these steps, as we're
32:51
being taught here, you're going to find that stepping into that
32:56
breakthrough and then into that new narrative is going to come
33:00
easy. But then we go to the most
33:04
important part. And NLP has a little
33:08
presupposition about this and it that is the map is not the
33:11
territory, but you're talking about mapping the growth
33:16
pathway. Is that remapping?
33:20
Remapping. I would say it could be
33:22
perceived as remapping. It's basically starting to be
33:31
and move through life in ways that reflect that new narrative.
33:37
What is an ecstatically, happily, What is an ecstatically
33:41
happy woman look like? How does she move?
33:45
How does she speak to her spouse?
33:47
How does she engage with him? How does she connect?
33:49
How does she receive from him? And these are all questions that
33:54
or prompts that get you to step into a different way of being
33:58
that is synonymous with the new story.
34:00
And when you map how this growth actually looks, it's not just
34:05
what does it look, taste and feel like.
34:08
It's also a shift in mindset, but it's also a recognition of
34:12
maybe I do need to develop specific skills and capacities
34:16
that have been missing or got stunted in my growth.
34:19
Maybe I would need to call upon this and this resource or this
34:24
person and they can help me how to better navigate conflict
34:27
resolutions or not just that. It's not just the shift in
34:29
mindset or the recognition of what skills and capacities do I
34:32
need to build here. It's also about what structures
34:35
are going to support this becoming so.
34:37
It's a recognition of putting support pieces, resources, even
34:43
people into a way that are going to support the moving through
34:48
into the embodiment, the being, the behaviours of the new
34:51
narrative. And when those new behaviours
34:55
stick, that is when you can say transformation has taken place.
34:59
Because we can have as many insights and aha moments and
35:02
breakthrough moments as we like. But only when you can
35:06
consistently move through life. Life happens, obstacles come,
35:10
setbacks come, and the old pattern could and may resurface.
35:15
When you see it, you recognize it, and you choose a different
35:19
way of responding. That is when you know growth has
35:21
happened. That is when transformation is
35:23
beginning to stabilize. Wow, this is the highest level
35:28
of coaching from an engineer and engineering this whole process.
35:35
And as we were talking backstage, I've got the copy
35:39
here. So I love the word embodiment.
35:41
So Danielle touched on embodying and that's huge.
35:47
Aligning your actions with your inner truth because congruence
35:52
is so important. Leading from essence rather than
35:56
exhaustion. So this is what Danielle is all
35:59
about. So she's going to teach you how
36:02
to lead from your core and the center of you so it's
36:07
sustainable. So you're not going to be burnt
36:10
out, washed up offshore 6 months from now, but you're going to be
36:15
in that total vibrancy of your life where you can lead from
36:21
essence without exhaustion, creating relationships because
36:26
Danielle understands that relationships is really the true
36:29
heart of everything. So that's all rooted in
36:34
authenticity. So we don't have much time for
36:37
much, but I'm just going to go through the Sovereign Guide
36:39
principle and that was around relationships, performance being
36:46
dissolved and presence replacing pressure.
36:52
So, so presence replacing performance.
36:58
So how do people get in contact with you so that they can come
37:04
into re anchoring themself and regulating their nervous system
37:12
and reconnecting with who they truly are?
37:15
Where will they find you? Sure.
37:19
I would suggest first point of contact would be
37:22
daniellemoves.com which will Orient you to specifically my
37:28
services around transformational coaching and hypnotherapy.
37:33
You can easily book into a conversation there.
37:36
I start with a conversation with all people who are interested in
37:40
this kind of work. It is deep work and I would say
37:44
trust rapport is absolutely required.
37:48
And 1st, it's a non binding, non committal conversation to test
37:53
for readiness and for it to help you recognize or self identify,
37:59
self locate. Am I indeed standing at one such
38:02
threshold? And that will become apparent in
38:05
our conversation. So the easiest way is to reach
38:07
out via danielmoves.com and to if you're ready to have that
38:11
conversation with myself again, it's non binding, non committal
38:14
and you will definitely have clarity by the end of that call
38:18
whether it's right to move ahead or to move in a different
38:21
direction. And we have extensive show notes
38:27
and you will be able to find all Danielle's links in those show
38:31
notes. And you know, if you're ready to
38:34
reconnect with your true essence, become really crystal
38:39
clear in your desire and your direction in life, whilst really
38:45
coming back to who you are and releasing all of these external
38:50
limiting barriers that have been keeping you stuck, then you've
38:56
got to get in contact with this lady.
38:58
But it wouldn't be the genius sign if I didn't ask this one
39:01
question because I know that the moment people get off the show,
39:06
they'll go, oh, if there was one thing you would love to say to
39:11
that person who is praying for your service, what would it be?
39:16
Or what would you reiterate that we've already spoken about?
39:21
I know myself, you've said so much about grounding breath,
39:26
what you've touched on so much. What would you say to that high
39:31
performing woman that is at the end of the her tether?
39:39
A beautiful question. What I want to say, most of the
39:42
high achieving, high functioning woman is this.
39:46
You are not broken. You do not need fixing.
39:49
You do not need another optimization hack, protocol, or
39:52
strategy. What you first need to do is to
39:55
listen to yourself to those signals that your body has been
40:00
giving you for a long time, and to actually give yourself
40:05
permission to respond to those signals you already know.
40:12
You already know you're on the cusp, standing at that
40:16
threshold, ready to start directing your life in a way
40:21
that is. Synonymous with your destiny
40:24
path, meaning you get to choose who you become and how you want
40:30
to leave. Leave your life feeling fully
40:33
alive and fully present. Wow.
40:38
I tell you what, I got a lot out of this.
40:39
My whole physical presence changed just by sitting in front
40:45
of you and listening to your questions.
40:48
Danielle, I want to thank you so much for coming on the show and
40:52
you're welcome back anytime because I think the journey has
40:55
just begun. It's been my pleasure, Terry.
40:59
Thank you so much for a beautiful session.
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I've thoroughly enjoyed this conversation.