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(50) 5 SILENT HABITS BLOCKING YOUR DREAM LIFE ✨STOP POSTPONING YOUR DREAMS · Alignment With Jenn

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  On the 10 Things to quietly eliminate in Order to live your
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  life with no regrets. I recently had an experience and
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  within about a month I lost two people in my life who were
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  really important to me. One of them was my aunt, and
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  then one of them was a good friend and they both passed away
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  within about two weeks. Whenever that happens, whenever
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  I've been faced with death in my life, I.
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  It always reminds me of the most important thing I can do to
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  honor that person's life is really to just live my own life,
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  love my own life. Really, really live my life
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  right. Not live a shadow of a life, but
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  actually genuinely be the person that I came here to be.
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  Do the things that I came here to do right, Be the fullest
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  expression of myself. That's really how you honor
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  someone, right, is by living your purpose.
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  And that's how you honor yourself.
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  So I wanted to make this episode about the five regrets of the
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  dying. There's this book called The
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  Five Regrets of the Dying. It's by Brawny Ware, and she
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  worked in a Hospice facility for a very, many, many, many years.
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  And she wrote this book about these five regrets in order to
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  help people understand what people that are about to die are
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  most afraid of and what they most regret, right?
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  What do they wish they had done differently?
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  And because we all have, as we're listening to this podcast,
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  the gift of life, I wanted to make this episode where we go
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  into the five things, but I want to give you tools for each of
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  the five things of how you can actually not have that regret
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  and how to really live your life to the fullest.
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  Because I believe everyone that listens to this podcast, that's
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  what they really want, right? You want to really live your
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  purpose. You want to have that dream
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  relationship, that level of income that you want.
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  You don't want to just half life.
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  You want a full life, right? And so this episode, I want it
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  to be an amazing tool kit for you.
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  And I really, really hope that you absolutely love it.
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  Regret, number one, I'm going to give you the regret and then I'm
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  going to give you the tools and then we'll kind of flop through
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  those. So number one is I wish I had
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  the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others
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  expected of me. That one I just like, feel so in
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  my soul, like that is the most painful feeling.
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  I've shared this before. I spent eight years in a
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  corporate job where I felt that exact thing, where I felt like I
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  just really didn't like it, right?
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  I felt so unfulfilled, but I didn't know how to make money
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  another way. I didn't know how to get out of
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  it, and I used manifestation. I use the tools that I teach to
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  completely change my life, right?
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  I really believe right now I'm the happiest I've ever been.
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  My life is the most amazing it's ever been because I have
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  consistently done the tools I'm about to teach you of how to not
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  do this regret. So something that happened
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  during COVID, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer.
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  Fortunately, she's fine. But my mom is like my person,
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  like I love my mom so much. And when she was diagnosed,
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  there's this period of time when you don't know what's going to
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  happen, right? You don't know the prognosis.
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  And so all I knew is my mom had breast cancer.
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  And I like went through this dark night of the soul where I
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  really had to grapple with this idea of like, I could
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  potentially lose someone that was so important to me.
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  And what does that actually mean for me, right?
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  How do I want to live my life? And at the time, I was in my
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  corporate job and I had my supplement business as well.
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  And I decided like almost overnight to quit my corporate
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  job and sell my supplement business because I knew neither
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  of them were my true calling. Having this experience with my
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  mom really like brought it to the forefront where I was like,
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  I don't want to live the life that's not meant for me because
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  life is not guaranteed, right? We so effortlessly live in this
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  place of tomorrow of I'll do it tomorrow of tomorrow is
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  guaranteed. It is not guaranteed, right?
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  And recently, the reason I'm doing this episode is because
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  recently I was reminded of that, right?
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  It's so easy to forget, but one of the greatest gifts we can
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  give to honor someone's life is to live our own lives in our
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  most authentic way. Something that Carl Jung talks
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  about is the concept of the unlived life, and he describes
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  it as the aspects of the personality that never get fully
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  developed. They're the pieces of you that
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  hide, right? Your childhood dreams that you
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  want to go after, but you don't because you're afraid of what
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  people will think. It's the path you haven't taken.
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  It's the deeper parts of ourselves that live just
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  completely hidden from other people.
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  It's the things that we want to share with our partner but we
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  never do or share with our friends, but we're too afraid to
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  share them. We're too afraid of what they'll
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  think, right these pieces. And what happens is it shrinks
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  and shrinks and shrinks our life.
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  My goal is I want you to like bust through all of those things
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  so you're no longer shrinking your life, right?
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  You're genuinely going after the things that you want.
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  You're taking the risks that you want to take.
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  Your betting on yourself. Another part of this unlived
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  life too, is the desires that you never go after, right?
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  I think most people have dreams that just live in a little box
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  inside of them and they never, ever open up that box to
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  actually express it to the world because they're so afraid.
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  But I also believe that nowadays, today, it's the
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  easiest it's ever been to achieve your dreams with social
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  media, with AI, we literally have this massive support system
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  to create anything we want. I created 50 songs this week
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  using AI. I've never created a song in my
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  life. And I learned how to create a
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  song. And like, that's so cool.
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  You know, never before in history was that possible.
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  So for you to not have this experience of not having the
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  courage to live the life that you want, what's that going to
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  take? So let's talk about the three
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  pieces. So number one is stop tolerating
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  the things that you know or that are meant for you.
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  The relationships, the jobs, the habits, right?
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  If you're like, I want to have the best possible body I can
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  have, then start giving that to yourself, right?
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  That's an act of self love. I recently had a client and I
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  was so inspired by this. She had a client that wasn't
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  serving her right and she let this client go so she could
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  focus on her own business. She's literally living
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  completely in the opposite of this regret.
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  She's not going to have that regret of even though I was
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  making a lot of money from this client, I trust myself enough to
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  let it go and know that I'll be OK.
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  It takes self trust, right? It takes courage #2 is let your
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  freak flag fly. So have you seen the movie The
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  Family Stone? It's super cute.
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  It has, like, so many great actors and actresses in it.
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  And there's this cute scene where Sarah Jessica Parker is
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  like, kind of uptight and like, businessy.
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  I can't remember the actor that she's dating, but they're like,
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  they're hanging out at this bar and they're so cute.
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  And she's like, starting to get a little bit more drunk.
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  And he says to her, he's like, you just need to like, let your
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  freak flag fly. Basically, you need to like, let
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  yourself be seen. You need to let go of these
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  fears. You need to just be your
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  yourself, be your genuine self. Eliminate being so concerned
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  about what other people think, right?
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  That is the most liberating thing you could ever do because
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  #1 they're probably not really thinking about you.
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  Everyone's so obsessed with thinking about themselves,
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  they're not really thinking about you.
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  And #2 the people who you actually would want to like you,
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  right, are not the people who are sitting there in harsh
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  judgement of you. Those people that are judging
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  you so harshly, they've got some inner work to do on themselves,
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  right? And it doesn't mean they're bad
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  people. It just means that those people
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  who are judging you, that's about them.
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  It's not about you letting go of those judgments.
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  Where in your life are you not doing something because you're
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  afraid of what people will think?
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  I feel like a lot of people listening are like, oh, IA lot
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  of areas, right? That's one of the biggest things
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  that stops us. I really think if I could like
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  reach into the brains of everyone I work with and remove
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  that so that way they could take action in spite of what people
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  think of them. I wouldn't need to do anything.
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  Like I could just chill forever because that's the biggest thing
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  I think that holds people back. And so the antidote I have to
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  this is do one thing every single day that scares you.
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  I think that was an Eleanor Roosevelt quote.
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  Do one thing every single day that scares you and what will
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  happen is your comfort zone will become the size of the world
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  because you will constantly be stretching your comfort zone,
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  right? Talk to a stranger.
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  Let go of something that you no longer need.
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  Wear something that is a little bit edgy, right?
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  Change your hair. Do these things because what
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  happens is you become more and more comfortable with you.
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  And when you become more comfortable with you, you stop
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  caring as much what other people think of you.
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  So I want to give you a couple of mantras to counteract this
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  regret. So my favorite one is I release
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  the need to be accepted by everyone and return to the
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  sacred work of being myself. I love that.
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  The sacred work of being myself. That's why you're here is to be
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  you. You're not here to be anybody
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  else. I choose the life that is true
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  to my soul, not the life that makes me easiest to understand.
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  I choose the life that is true to my soul.
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  Like, write these down, make them the background on your
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  phone, put them on your mirror. Remind yourself of these things,
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  right? So you don't have those regrets
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  when you're sitting on your deathbed because we're all going
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  to be there one day. As morbid as that is.
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  The regret number 2 is I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
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  I had this amazing call with this woman and she is a
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  journalist and she shared with me that she has stage 4 cancer.
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  And she, we were talking about her joining my program and she
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  ended up joining the program. And what she shared is that
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  she's like, you know, I'm OK with dying, but she's like, I
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  have worked so hard my whole life and I've worked for
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  everyone else. And she's like, I don't want to
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  die without finishing my own projects, right?
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  She has a book that she wants to write.
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  She has all these projects that she wants to do.
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  She didn't want to die without doing those things.
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  And it moved me like, and this was maybe a week after I had
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  just lost two people that were really important to me.
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  It just really moved me because we in society are so focused on
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  working right, especially in the United States, on achieving that
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  next level, right, reaching to that next level.
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  When I get there, I'll be happy. When I get there, I'll be happy.
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  The problem is that tomorrow is not guaranteed.
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  How can you re prioritize what what actually matters to you and
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  how can you make your time reflect that?
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  How can you make your life reflect that?
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  And this regret is really about postponing your life, postponing
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  your life until you achieve something certain.
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  When I achieve this, then I can look for a relationship, right?
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  I have a lot of people who will tell me like, oh, you know, I
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  have this great friend actually, and she is extremely successful
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  and she spent all of her 30s working on her career, right?
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  And now she's in her 40s and she really wants to meet someone.
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  And she's like, I just never prioritized it, you know, and I
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  wish I had. We want that connection, right?
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  And So what are you pushing off that you should be doing now so
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  you don't regret this? That's the really the first
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  piece, right is eliminate prioritizing work over
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  everything else. I have been guilty of that many
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  times in my life and do one thing every single day that is
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  joy maxing. So something every single day
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  that is purely for your joy. And it could be for a project
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  you want to work on. It could be going to the beach
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  with your friends. It could be going, you know,
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  taking an extra long shower. It could be jamming out in your
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  car. But how can you appreciate this
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  amazing life that we already have, this amazing world that we
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  already live in? And I think that's kind of the
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  essence of all of this. This whole episode could be
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  distilled down into one word, and that's gratitude.
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  The way that you really live a life that you love is being
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  grateful for the life that you currently have.
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  Being grateful every single day for all of the opportunities
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  that you have, for everything that you have, even if you're
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  not where you want to be, right? Stop focusing on what's wrong
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  and start focusing on what's right.
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  And you're going to expand and you're going to get more of
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  what's right, right? Let me give you a mantra.
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  So for regret #2 it's I create from overflow, not depletion.
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  I let my joy become part of my strategy.
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  So with that, how can you make your work that you do more
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  enjoyable, right? How can you love it a little bit
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  more? How can you be more playful?
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  When I used to work in corporate, there was this guy I
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  worked with and he was just straight up fun.
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  Like no matter what we were doing, he was having a good time
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  and he was enjoying himself. He was cracking jokes.
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  He'd be in the presentation in front of the entire company, and
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  he'd be cracking jokes, right? He was such a fun person and so
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  enjoyable, and he made everything fun, right?
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  How can you make everything fun for yourself and the people
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  around you? Because that's really magnetic.
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  Hey, regret three. I wish I had the courage to
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  express my feelings when I first heard about these regrets of the
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  dying. It was like many years ago and I
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  was dating. This is like in my early 20s.
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  I was dating my one of my longer term relationships and I was in
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  love with him and I wanted to tell him and I heard this
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  regret. And so I told him I loved him
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  first and I was so proud of myself.
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  And even to this day, I'm like proud of myself for that, even
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  though we're not together anymore.
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  So where can you express your feelings, right?
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  Where can you tell people, man, I really love you or I really
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  appreciate you instead of keeping it in, even just
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  complimenting someone, Wow, I love your shirt.
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  Where can you express how you're actually feeling or the things
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  that you're struggling with, right?
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  We connect with people not because they're perfect.
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  I, I fall in love with people's vulnerabilities and I think we
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  all do. Where can you express your
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  authenticity, who you really, really are?
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  Because that's going to create such deeper connection for you.
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  So it's expressing the good things as well as the
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  challenges. And this is really important in
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  our relationships because if we are constantly keeping things
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  bottled up, A, that's not healthy, but B, we don't give
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  the other person a chance to meet us where we need to be met
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  if we're never expressing anything.
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  And I know for my clients, and I think for a lot of women, this
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  is a challenge, right? We're very easy at being like,
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  oh, it's not that big of a deal. It's not maybe a big deal in
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  that moment, but over time it becomes a big deal, right?
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  And this is not unloading everything on someone.
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  You can even make it fun. You can make it enjoyable.
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  The one thing that I would love for you to do today with this
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  one is tell one person today how you really feel until it becomes
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  normal. So every single day, tell
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  someone how you feel until it becomes normal.
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  And it can be, it can start off really, really small if this is
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  very uncomfortable for you. I got this e-mail from one of my
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  clients today and it was her sharing with me that she needed
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  support on something in my program.
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  And I'd never gotten that feedback before, but I was so
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  proud of her because it's A, it's not easy to give feedback
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  on something, right? She doesn't know how I'm going
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  to respond, but B, the fact that she expressed what she needed,
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  you know, I need this support. Can you help me with this?
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  That's it. It's expressing what we need.
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  It's expressing what we feel. Your life will be a million
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  times better when you start sharing those things.
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  Maybe you text someone. I miss you.
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  Can we catch up right that you haven't talked to in a while?
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  And this is a big one. Stop putting others needs above
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  your own. Squash people pleasing and over
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  giving. I really think one of the
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  biggest reasons that we don't create the lives that we want is
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  because we are too afraid of what people think and we
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  prioritize other people's needs over our own.
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  And this can be in microwaves in a conversation of, well, I don't
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  want him to not like me, so I'm not going to share how I'm
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  really feeling or I don't want to make him upset, so I'm not
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  going to share how I'm really feeling.
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  But what you're doing is you're negotiating away your own sense
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  of safety and security and how you feel, and you're negotiating
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  away the potential of that relationship.
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  So same with work. One of my friends told me this
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  years ago. She used to work at Google and
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  she said that she's like, I never got a promotion.
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  And I was like, why do you think you never got a promotion?
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  And she's like, because I was always over giving.
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  And I was like, what do you mean?
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  And she said, she's like, you know, I would always go above
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  and beyond, like I would do everything.
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  And she's like, and there was other people on the team who
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  didn't do that, you know? And she's like, they got
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  promoted. And she's like, they didn't need
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  to promote me because I was already over giving everything.
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  I was like, that's an interesting way to think about
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  it, right? And so where are you over
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  giving, right? Where are you giving so much of
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  yourself that it depletes you and it doesn't allow you to feel
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  like your best self? So the mantras for this regret
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  are every time I express myself honestly, I return home to
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  myself. So cute.
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  I can be loving and honest at the same time, right?
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  Something that kind of blew my mind is I learned kind of
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  recently actually, that you can bring something up with somebody
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  and it can be fun and playful. Instead of like this heavy
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  weighted thing. You can share it in a fun,
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  light, playful way. 4 I wish I had stayed in touch with my
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  friends. Oh my gosh, that's a big one.
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  This is something I'm not great AT.
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  And my best friend is so good at it.
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  She's always, she sends Christmas cards to everyone and
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  she's extremely busy and she handwrites these Christmas
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  cards. She messages people all the time
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  to stay connected with them. She's so good at this, right?
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  But it's not everyone that you have to do it with.
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  Who are the people that you really care about, you know, and
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  who do you want to stay connected to in your life?
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  It's interesting to think about this like these people at the
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  end of their life. They don't regret not working
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  harder, not working more. They regret not calling their
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  friend. They regret not making a trip to
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  see someone, not having a dinner with someone.
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  They regret letting the connection fall.
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  Not not, you know, doing one more sit up.
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  It's interesting to think about one tool for you about this is
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  eliminate the myth of tomorrow. Stop saying you'll reach out to
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  someone tomorrow or stop saying I'll do it tomorrow.
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  I'll make a plan tomorrow. Do it today, right?
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  Do these things today. So the mantra for number 4 is my
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  relationships are treasures and I tend to what I treasure.
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  These mantras are so yummy. Five.
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  I wish that I had let myself be happier.
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  That's what they regret. They wish that they had let
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  themselves be happier. So instead of delaying joy for
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  another day, joy maxing now, right?
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  Allowing yourself to feel joy, appreciating each moment,
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  cultivating fun. I shared this in a few episodes
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  of just doing things for the fun of it, right?
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  Just because energy, I am going to do something just because
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  it's fun for me instead of delaying it for tomorrow, right?
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  Let yourself actually be happy now.
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  Instead of saying I get to be happy when you know, I lose 10
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  lbs and I have this much money and La La La La, la, la, like
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  why can't you be happy now? Why not?
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  It's going to help you with everything.
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  The manifestation rule that I've given in other episodes is if
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  you just focus on how you feel and you focus on being happy,
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  you will attract everything you want.
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  It's true. Stop delaying your happiness.
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  One way that you can do this is to eliminate needing everything
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  to make sense before you bet on yourself.
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  One of the reasons that people, I think don't feel happier is
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  because they settle for OK. This job is OK.
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  This relationship is OK, right? My health is OK, but they don't
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  allow themselves to want or push for more.
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  And So what happens is they stop betting on themselves, right?
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  They stop taking those risks. And so where in your life can
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  you bet on yourself, right? It makes you really happy,
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  right? Happiness and fulfillment are
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  very, very connected. So maybe it's starting that
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  business, maybe it's taking that trip, maybe it's striking up
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  with a conversation with somebody who looks cute at the
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  cafe. And another way to allow
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  yourself to be happier is, again, gratitude.
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  But it's also choosing long term fulfillment over short term
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  pleasure, right? What are the things like
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  scrolling is such short term pleasure.
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  The people on their deathbeds are not like, Dang, I wish I had
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  scrolled more or I wish I had spent more time on my computer.
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  No, nobody's going to say that, right?
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  I wish I had been more connected to the people I care about.
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  I wish that I had let myself be happier.
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  I wish I had let myself laugh more.
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  One of my really good friends, I saw this like transition in her
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  and it was really cool because she basically kind of decided
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  that she was going to. This was before she met her.
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  She wanted to show up how she would show up with her soul
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  mate. And she was like, I just let
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  myself be really happy. And she's like, I let myself
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  laugh freely instead of like stifling my laugh.
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  I just let myself laugh and enjoy myself and enjoy my life,
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  you know? And I was like, it's so true.
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  It's in these tiny moments that happiness is created.
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  And so where can you allow yourself to be more happy,
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  right? Maybe you pick up and drive your
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  kids to school every day, right? Maybe you play some fun music
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  like Spice Girls or something during those times to make it
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  more fun, to make it more enjoyable, to cultivate that
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  happiness. There was this quote that I feel
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  like was really big on Instagram in like 2012.
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  And it was like choose happy, choose happy.
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  And it really is a choice. You get to choose if you want to
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  be happy because you get to choose how you filter every
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  circumstance. It always brings me back to
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  Viktor Frankel and the book A Man Search for Meaning and he
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  talks about how in every circumstance, the last of a
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  person's rights is the ability to choose how you perceive that
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  situation. You get to choose if a situation
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  makes you happy or not. I know some people don't believe
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  that, but I think the people listening to this do.
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  So 5th mantra is I trust the desires that make my soul come
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  alive. Going after your desires.
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  So I hope that you have loved this.
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  If you want help pursuing those dreams, pursuing those goals
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  that you have for yourself, send me the Word Podcast.
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  That's what I do in my community.
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  It's all these amazing women going after their goals and
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  their dreams and their visions. Send me the Word Podcast on
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  Instagram at alignment with Jen and I will send you a 5 minute
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  video about that. Also, please subscribe to this
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  podcast. It helps it get pushed out which
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  is always so fun and I appreciate you all for being
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  here. Bye bye.