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Laura can't do it in good conscience · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Wake your ass up, John Jay and Rich? What's crack
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  Speaker 1: a leg? And this is the big Boss dog snoopy Deagle,
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  Speaker 1: double gigsel bang boom, what you don't do?
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  Speaker 2: We're not talking.
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  Speaker 3: About Rin ten Tam.
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  Speaker 2: We're not talking about last year. It's the one and
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  Speaker 2: only go you all the glassy lastly big snoop Eagle,
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  Speaker 2: double gizsel in your face to me and in the
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  Speaker 2: place to be And you're listening to John Jay and Rich,
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  Speaker 2: wake yours.
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  Speaker 4: Our phone number eight seven seven nine three seven one
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  Speaker 4: four seven text line text jj R whatever's on your mind?
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  Speaker 1: The ninety six eight ninety.
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  Speaker 4: Three Laura sent me a message and she wanted to
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  Speaker 4: know how to get advice from the four of us?
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  Speaker 1: Am I right, Laura?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, that's right. It's a crazy story. This is one
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  Speaker 3: of my closest friends then has decided to reunite with
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  Speaker 3: her baby daddy. They have a twelve year old together.
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  Speaker 3: But this guy has multiple baby baby mamas as well,
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  Speaker 3: so I believe that they're another five kids, grand kids
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  Speaker 3: involved everything. So where my friend comes in places. Then
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  Speaker 3: all of a sudden, after twelve years, they have realized
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  Speaker 3: that they are still in love. This guy has never
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  Speaker 3: paid child support. He doesn't even live in the same state.
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  Speaker 3: As a matter of fact, I think he lives like
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  Speaker 3: four or five states away. He is in jail for
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  Speaker 3: abuse and everything to one of the ex wife, and
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  Speaker 3: my friend has decided to quit her job. She has
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  Speaker 3: gone in debt, all of her credit cards are maxed out,
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  Speaker 3: her car doesn't even run right. This guy has never
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  Speaker 3: paid anything, and she is dropping everything in here. She
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  Speaker 3: has gone from being working in a fast food restaurant
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  Speaker 3: to managing like hospitals, and she is dropping everything to
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  Speaker 3: go and be with this guy to help him. He's
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  Speaker 3: still in jail, and she's planning a wedding and she
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  Speaker 3: wants me to be her maid of honor. And I
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  Speaker 3: love her, I really do. But I think she called
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  Speaker 3: me by surprise. So I was like, oh, okay, and
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  Speaker 3: I haven't spoke to her since it's been like two
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  Speaker 3: three weeks and I don't know you no. Well, I
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  Speaker 3: told her kind of yes because I was kind of
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  Speaker 3: like shocked. I was like, oh yeah, sure, And I
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  Speaker 3: was like, well, what is your other friend doing? But what
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  Speaker 3: is your other friend doing? You know, I think she
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  Speaker 3: kind of got this, you know, she got it. And
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  Speaker 3: I was like well, what is your other friend? You know,
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  Speaker 3: your other best friend. And I want to support her
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  Speaker 3: as a friend, but I don't support what she's doing.
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  Speaker 3: She is throwing her life away. She is even leaving
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  Speaker 3: her daughter behind to go and be with this guy.
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  Speaker 3: And I mean, I've been married for over twenty years
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  Speaker 3: and I even tell my husband, I love you so much.
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  Speaker 3: But if we were on the same situation, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you go, do you boo and whenever you have everything ready,
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  Speaker 3: you know will come and meet you. Because there's no
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  Speaker 3: way that I would, in any way in any world
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  Speaker 3: that I would leave our two girls to come and
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  Speaker 3: help you build a life at fifty five years old.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so what is your advice to us? What are
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  Speaker 1: you asking us for?
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  Speaker 3: How do I tell her? I mean I have already
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  Speaker 3: tried to talk to her, or her family has already
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  Speaker 3: try to talk to her. She's not listening to anybody.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to be rude. I want to support
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  Speaker 3: her because I love her, but I cannot support her
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  Speaker 3: marriage and what she is doing. Is there a way
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  Speaker 3: for me to get out of not be her maid
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  Speaker 3: of honor and not do any of that? Or if
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  Speaker 3: my friendship with her pretty much ruined the moment that
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  Speaker 3: I open my mouth.
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  Speaker 2: It's a good question.
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  Speaker 5: That is really hard because I mean, yeah, the easy
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  Speaker 5: hout to just say I can't do that. I don't
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  Speaker 5: support this marriage. I don't think you should get married.
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  Speaker 5: So I can't stand up next to you. I want
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  Speaker 5: to because i'm your friend, but I also see what
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  Speaker 5: you can't see right now because you got the love
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  Speaker 5: blinders on. But also, yes, that will definitely affect your
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  Speaker 5: friendship because if she's already said no to her family,
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  Speaker 5: and she's already said no to you, I'm going with
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  Speaker 5: this guy, she's probably gonna cut you out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you objecting to the marriage, it may make
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  Speaker 2: her go into I'm going to prove you all wrong exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And then when you could do it anyway, well, when
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  Speaker 1: she is proved.
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  Speaker 3: Right, you know, she's probably gonna come back and say, hey,
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  Speaker 3: I really messed up.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, eventually maybe your guys gets friendship can
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  Speaker 1: remand but right, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: She's already Yeah, she's already like pushing me away as
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  Speaker 3: a friend. Like our girls have been friends since they
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  Speaker 3: were in daycare, since they weren't in diapers. That's how
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  Speaker 3: long I've been friends with her, and it's just I
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  Speaker 3: see it like she comes and tells me, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like her bank is overdrafting, she got into a car accident,
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  Speaker 3: we try to help her fix her car, and if
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  Speaker 3: she has no money because she's putting everything on this
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  Speaker 3: man account, and I just don't understand. I'm so heartbroken
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  Speaker 3: and so towarf because of that, and I just I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how to speak to her.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, So the advice you're asking is about being a
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  Speaker 4: maid of honor. Her financial situation, all that other stuff
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  Speaker 4: that out of our hands. But as far as being
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  Speaker 4: her maiden, in my opinion, my opinion, you kept talking
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  Speaker 4: about how much you love her and how you're heard
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  Speaker 4: this friend of hers and she loves you and you
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  Speaker 4: love her. So I have a different opinion than these three.
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  Speaker 4: To me, it's like you're there for her. If she's
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  Speaker 4: gonna get married no matter what, and she asked you
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  Speaker 4: to stand up for her, then go stand up for
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  Speaker 4: her that same way you love her. She's and if
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  Speaker 4: the marriage falls apart, well you're like, hey, everybody else
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  Speaker 4: around you told you this is a bad idea. Your
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  Speaker 4: whole family told you it's a bad idea. But you
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  Speaker 4: as a friend. You love her, so she's you go
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  Speaker 4: be her friend during her wedding and then after that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, you can kind of do the old as
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  Speaker 4: things go on, kind of that old I told you
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  Speaker 4: so smirk or everyone told you so. But that way
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  Speaker 4: you don't ruin a friendship. You're there for her. That's
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  Speaker 4: my opinion.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, if you're in the wedding. I've actually almost said
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  Speaker 2: no to my buddy Chris, who asked me to be
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  Speaker 2: in his wedding, and everybody did not like his fiance
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  Speaker 2: in fact, like she threw the ring back at him
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  Speaker 2: one time. Like they got awful, awful fights. So I
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  Speaker 2: feel like, is my job is the best man and
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  Speaker 2: you stand up for your friend. But you're like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: you don't have to do this. You have to offer that,
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  Speaker 2: But if they're going to go through with it, then
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  Speaker 2: you go through it. And I said, you guys fight
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  Speaker 2: all the time, and they probably broke up in their marriage.
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  Speaker 2: They probably broke up seven or eight different times over
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  Speaker 2: the past ten years, but they're still together and they
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  Speaker 2: figure out way back to each other somehow. As long
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  Speaker 2: as you make your peace known, then I think you've
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  Speaker 2: got to support your friend.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. I guess it's one of those situations that they
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  Speaker 3: tell you that you know, people deserve grades when the
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  Speaker 3: least you know needed, I mean with at least the
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  Speaker 3: serve it. I'm sorry, and it's just I mean, I
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  Speaker 3: agree with you, John Jay. I do want to be
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  Speaker 3: there for her because I love her her. I don't
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  Speaker 3: support her choices, but I don't want to stop being
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  Speaker 3: her friend because I feel that everybody else is doing
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  Speaker 3: the same thing to her.
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  Speaker 1: So well, it just when's the wedding? When is the wedding?
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  Speaker 4: March well, nib Yeah, A lot of time. Yeah, no,
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  Speaker 4: I think there's a lot of time for a normal wedding.
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  Speaker 4: Whole lot of a normal wedding. There's not a lot
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  Speaker 4: of time for what's going on in this woman's life
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  Speaker 4: and what's going on with this guy's life and he's
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  Speaker 4: in jail. There's lots of time for lots of things
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  Speaker 4: to fall apart. Since this guy he's got five other
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  Speaker 4: kids with five other women and he's in jail. There's
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  Speaker 4: a lot of time for this waiting to fall apart.
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  Speaker 1: But so, in my opinion, say, yes, okay, so it
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  Speaker 1: is it.
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  Speaker 3: Bad for me to be like hoping that something that happened.
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  Speaker 1: No, I think. I hope things bad happen with people
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  Speaker 1: all the time.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, okay, now this helps me a lot. It makes
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  Speaker 3: me feel better. Thank you for calling me again.
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  Speaker 1: I got it. Thanks for listening. Have a great day
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  Speaker 3: Already too, Bye.