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Women Business · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: do you do business differently with the man versus a woman?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask American mama's Mama Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama's Terry Neediville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burlason. This is a very interesting question. I'm thinking
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  Speaker 1: about it, and since I got the question, I've been
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  Speaker 1: trying to think about it. From my standpoint, I don't
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  Speaker 1: think I do, but I might, you know, Like you know,
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  Speaker 1: I might be a little more flirty with a female
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  Speaker 1: waitress than a male waiter. You know, I might do that.
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  Speaker 1: But in general, I really don't think I do, but
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  Speaker 1: maybe I do. What do y'all think?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like men?
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  Speaker 3: You do and you don't know it?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.
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  Speaker 3: I was on a panel. Donnie Deutz had a show
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  Speaker 3: called The Big Idea of Donnie Deutsche Seeing him in Years,
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  Speaker 3: and I was on a panel and he asked that
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  Speaker 3: question to this panel. I was the last person. Every
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  Speaker 3: single person. Every man said no, no, no, every woman
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  Speaker 3: said no, no no.
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  Speaker 2: And he got to me and I.
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  Speaker 4: Was like, uh, yeah, yeah, it's like being real.
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  Speaker 1: So why do you do business differently between with men
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  Speaker 1: and women, And how are you different between.
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  Speaker 3: Men and well, I think there are fundamental differences between us,
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  Speaker 3: of course, and women. And there are things that you
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  Speaker 3: play to get your way, or I wouldn't even say
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  Speaker 3: it's manipulating, it's that you know what men like to hear, sure,
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  Speaker 3: and if you're trying to get your way or you're
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  Speaker 3: trying to make something work or some business thing transaction happen,
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  Speaker 3: you play into what you believe they want to hear it.
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  Speaker 3: And we're good at that, We're natural at that. And
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  Speaker 3: I think men clearly totally treat women differently because they're softer,
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  Speaker 3: they're kinder. It's not like hard ass kind of thing.
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  Speaker 3: I just can tell a difference in business that they
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  Speaker 3: do it completely different to get their way both.
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  Speaker 1: Now, that's very interesting. I have had so I have
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  Speaker 1: had coworkers working in TV news, and if you work
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  Speaker 1: in TV news, the news stations have basically almost all
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  Speaker 1: the power until you become a megastar. And so as
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  Speaker 1: they're dealing with contracts with new reporters and even medium reporters,
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  Speaker 1: they are very heavy handed in their negotiations, and you
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  Speaker 1: have to be heavy handed back. My female coworkers were
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  Speaker 1: never willing to play hardball on their contracts, and so
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  Speaker 1: they never got as good a deal as guys were.
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  Speaker 1: My contracts I'm dealing with and I you know, several
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  Speaker 1: times I went, well, good luck with your search. I'm
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  Speaker 1: walking away, and they're all like wait, wait, wait, wait wait.
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  Speaker 1: And my female co workers never did that. So I've
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  Speaker 1: seen that from that standpoint of female co workers not
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  Speaker 1: doing the same thing as a male coworker necessarily when
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  Speaker 1: we're doing contract negotiations.
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  Speaker 3: I was. I admit I was not a great boss.
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  Speaker 3: You know, when my dad died, I took over his company.
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  Speaker 3: I don't feel like was I was a great boss
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  Speaker 3: because I wanted friendships and I didn't want to hurt feelings.
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  Speaker 3: So I felt like I was very soft in the
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  Speaker 3: way that I dealt with things instead of being more
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  Speaker 3: and I felt like people took advantage of him in
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  Speaker 3: the office.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and it's just.
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  Speaker 3: Because I feel like you've got to be a little
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  Speaker 3: bit harder. But I do think that women, and this
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  Speaker 3: is just I hope nobody hates me for this, but
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  Speaker 3: I think women sometimes go too far and to yes, yes,
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  Speaker 3: have they become complete.
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  Speaker 1: You know what? I think we've all had a boss.
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  Speaker 1: That's kind of like that. It goes to the opposite
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  Speaker 1: of the spectrum saying I'm not going to be run over.
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  Speaker 1: But then okay, now you're a battle.
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  Speaker 3: Axe, yes exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And not that guys can't be jerks. You'll have certainly
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  Speaker 1: guys who are in positions of power. Again, whenever you're
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  Speaker 1: in a position of power, you have that risk of
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  Speaker 1: losing functionality in the part of the brain that controls empathy.
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  Speaker 2: You have.
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  Speaker 1: You have the risk of brain damage just by being
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  Speaker 1: in a position of power, whether you're male or female.
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  Speaker 1: But I do think it manifests slightly different.
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  Speaker 2: I do too. Well.
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  Speaker 4: I'll say this, there's a reason why my family will
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  Speaker 4: not let me, Like we're trying to sell that house
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  Speaker 4: in rust and they're like, no, no, no, you don't. You
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  Speaker 4: just stay out of it because I I am well inherently,
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  Speaker 4: like Kimberly said, we know that we talk differently to
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  Speaker 4: men and women when we're in situations, and I think that, honestly,
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  Speaker 4: I'll talk about it from the standpoint of the way
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  Speaker 4: that they treat me like they can get they can
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  Speaker 4: take advantage of me, like in the like if I
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  Speaker 4: take my car into get oil or whatever, and they say, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that's a thousand dollars. Oh okay, okay, and that's a
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  Speaker 4: good deal. Are you sure you know? I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: but we we joke because I always say, if I
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  Speaker 4: was an attorney and I was the defense attorney and
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  Speaker 4: I'm building my case and I feel good about it,
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  Speaker 4: and then I hear the other side tell theirs, I'd
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  Speaker 4: be the first one to go, oh, good point, good point,
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  Speaker 4: you know, because I don't. I'm just easily, you know, manipulated.
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  Speaker 4: I guess, so I can say that I do believe
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  Speaker 4: that I am. There's a reason why Kevin will say
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  Speaker 4: we're gonna go look at cars together, or we're gonna
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  Speaker 4: let me before you order that, let me look and see,
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  Speaker 4: because I just assume that everybody's got good faith.
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  Speaker 3: Do you have a hard time? I know that. You
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  Speaker 3: know how you see roles for different people, like women ministers.
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  Speaker 3: It's kind of hard to watch a woman minister. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know why. What about male nurses? Do you know
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  Speaker 3: how you have this idea of what people should be
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  Speaker 3: and what they should do, and then when they're in
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  Speaker 3: an opposite role, it kind of messes with you. Oh
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  Speaker 3: that's interesting.
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  Speaker 4: Do you ever feel that way? I know, I mean
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  Speaker 4: I remember our grandmother Kaki. She felt like she didn't
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  Speaker 4: want a female pastor, head lead or a newscaster. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: she she just felt like that. You know. Of course,
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  Speaker 4: this is a forties bride, you know, and I understand
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  Speaker 4: how that's kind of evolved, but there still is this
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  Speaker 4: like in our family, the men are the head of
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  Speaker 4: the household. We're in the neck, we help turn the direction.
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  Speaker 4: But I guess this generation kind of is more aware
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  Speaker 4: of what you can do, whether you're male or female.
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  Speaker 1: If you'd like to ask our American mamas a question,
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  Speaker 1: go to our website americanaarup radio dot com slash mamas
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  Speaker 1: and click on the ask of the Mama's button. Terry Net,
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly bro listen, thank you so much, Ye