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New Dirty Little Secret: History that shouldn't repeat! · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Get off your chest to promise you'll feel better.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to see you.
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  Speaker 3: Bring on those secrets. We get your Bruno Mar's tickets
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  Speaker 3: shots win those next. I mixed one on two point nine,
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  Speaker 3: be Able at a Kid Candice Loan pants producer, Pooh,
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  Speaker 3: whatever your secret is, big secret, little secret, get it
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  Speaker 3: off your chest.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, man, I mean I've kind of been carrying this
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  Speaker 4: around and for years now, and nobody really knows about
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  Speaker 4: it because I was kind of like born into it.
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  Speaker 4: But you know, my family is openly racist, Like you know,
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  Speaker 4: that's just kind of how I was raised.
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  Speaker 2: Did you say, like I'm racist? Yeah, oh, openly racist. Wow.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I'm from one of those like small towns
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  Speaker 4: where like even though like it's twenty twenty six, like
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  Speaker 4: in this town, like everything's still divided like it used
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  Speaker 4: to be. Like I mean, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, like the black the black people stay on the
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  Speaker 2: east side, right.
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  Speaker 3: No, you know what I hate that there's all these
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  Speaker 3: cities actually still exist.
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  Speaker 2: First they do.
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  Speaker 3: Second of all, like what if they call it Sunset
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  Speaker 3: Sundowntown Sundowntown, That to me is wild just anyway, so well, I.
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  Speaker 4: Mean the part that messes with me is that, like
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  Speaker 4: you know, even though like things are new, Like you know,
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  Speaker 4: the mindset never changes around that town, right, you know,
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  Speaker 4: And I guess because I was living in it like
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  Speaker 4: most of my life, I didn't really like question it.
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  Speaker 4: You know, It's just how things were, which is no
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  Speaker 4: longer an excuse ever, the beliefs, Like I started to
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  Speaker 4: like absorb certain beliefs without even realizing it that or
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  Speaker 4: realizing that I kind of had a choice. And so
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  Speaker 4: like a couple of years ago, I went to like
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  Speaker 4: I went to therapy for something that had nothing to
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  Speaker 4: do with this, and you know, as I was sitting
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  Speaker 4: there and talking, like, that's kind of when it hit me,
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  Speaker 4: like I finally saw how much of like that kind
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  Speaker 4: of thinking was in me, and like how it was
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  Speaker 4: like dangerous and I mean especially because like I've got
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  Speaker 4: a job that puts me in the public eye. I
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  Speaker 4: mean but not just that, like it's wrong, of course.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to ask what you do or anything
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  Speaker 3: like that, but so this is something you think you
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  Speaker 3: were kind of ubconsciously being racist for a while.
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  Speaker 4: Wow, right, you know, I just during that therapy session,
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  Speaker 4: I kind of realized, like part of my past mindset
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  Speaker 4: should like never be in that position and so like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I'm I'm in this process of kind of unlearning,
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  Speaker 4: which I mean it's been super slow and it's been
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  Speaker 4: really uncomfortable. But like, you know, I had to make
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  Speaker 4: that decision like either I can keep my family clothes
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  Speaker 4: and like continue how I was raised, or I could
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  Speaker 4: like walk away and be the person that I wouldn't
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  Speaker 4: be ashamed of being. And so you know, I kind
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  Speaker 4: of chose to walk away. And I mean, you know,
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  Speaker 4: I don't really talk to my family anymore, which you
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  Speaker 4: know sometimes can be a little isolating.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I don't talk to your family anymore.
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  Speaker 4: No, because I had that conversation where I was like, hey,
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  Speaker 4: you know, this kind of stuff is wrong, and they
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  Speaker 4: were like, well, this is how it is. I was like, well,
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  Speaker 4: that's not how it has to be now, you know
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  Speaker 4: it's now the only real person I talked to is
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  Speaker 4: my older sister, who like moved up north a couple
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  Speaker 4: of years ago.
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  Speaker 3: But she's not she doesn't have those believe those awful beliefs.
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  Speaker 4: No, she left first, and like you know, and now
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  Speaker 4: I'm kind of understanding why she left, you know, And
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  Speaker 4: I mean the reason I wanted to like call in
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  Speaker 4: and share this is like, you know, silence is kind
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  Speaker 4: of what keeps this cycle alive. And like anybody else listening, like,
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  Speaker 4: choosing differently is really the only way that these inlet
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  Speaker 4: cycles are ever going to actually truly end. And so
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  Speaker 4: I really felt compelled.
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  Speaker 2: To like, oh, I'm glad you did.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, because I got a lot of friends when I
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  Speaker 5: was growing up whose grandparents thought like that. They always yea,
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  Speaker 5: they would refer to me to those derogatory names, and
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  Speaker 5: you know, you know how I am, like refer to
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  Speaker 5: you as that. Yeah, yeah, they what they would tell
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  Speaker 5: they would tell their you know, their grandson. I remember
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  Speaker 5: Bubba Hort and this guy grew up with his his granddad,
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  Speaker 5: would you know, call me the in word? But he
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  Speaker 5: said I was a good in word, I swear. And
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  Speaker 5: I'd be like what And Bubba was like, you can't
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  Speaker 5: say that. And I told him, like I understand, Like
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  Speaker 5: I don't condone it, but I understand why his grandfather,
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  Speaker 5: you know, because he was in his late set.
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  Speaker 2: Doesn't I get it? But I don't get it. It's
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  Speaker 2: just crazy, you can't.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I'm glad he admitted it, right and he
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  Speaker 5: got away from it, and that sense and no, but
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  Speaker 5: that's not acceptable.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care what oh, whatever context, it is not acceptable.
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  Speaker 1: No, but sometimes I wish people like you would stay
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  Speaker 1: in those communities to try to be the change, you know, right,
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  Speaker 1: at the same time, it's so difficult, though, when you're
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  Speaker 1: that person to be surrounded by it.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna ask.
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  Speaker 3: But it sounds like you did have the conversation with
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  Speaker 3: your family, and you can't force people to change once
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  Speaker 3: you get that effort. I get why you're exhausted by it. Like,
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  Speaker 3: as long as you try to me, that's what matters.
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  Speaker 3: You try to make a difference. You try to go
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  Speaker 3: this is not right. But then I don't want to
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  Speaker 3: be around it. I get it.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, it's difficult to like continually have those conversations over
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  Speaker 4: and over and over.
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  Speaker 3: Right, right, yeah, yeah, it's especially when you don't believe
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  Speaker 3: that you're so far removed from that world mentally.
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  Speaker 2: And we need.
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  Speaker 1: To teach critical thinking, yea, because if we don't were
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  Speaker 1: this continues.
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  Speaker 3: Well, and I didn't grow so to me, like I
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  Speaker 3: didn't grow up here. I grew up I've spent the
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  Speaker 3: last twenty six years here. But for you, my child
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  Speaker 3: that I was in Detroit where to me, I didn't
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  Speaker 3: experience racism like some people did. Hear, and because I
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  Speaker 3: mean I grew up where I was, maybe it was
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  Speaker 3: fifty to fifty black kids, white kids, you know, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: we were mixed. It was a mixed group. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: even look at race like that. Yeah, honestly, until I
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  Speaker 3: moved here. They will still make note of it.
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  Speaker 5: Remember there was an instance when me and Billy were
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  Speaker 5: right across the street at the mall and a guy
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  Speaker 5: threw his keys to me.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like I was valet.
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  Speaker 5: He goes parking up front, and like before I could
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  Speaker 5: even say anything, Billy jumped on and he's like, what
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  Speaker 5: are you doing, dude?
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  Speaker 3: He assumed because he was the black guy standing at
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  Speaker 3: the valet stand that he was the one valetan. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and I said, no, we're actually here to eat, and
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  Speaker 3: I threw his keys back at him. It's sickney, But hey,
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  Speaker 3: props to you. I'm glad you came out and said
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  Speaker 3: something about it. And you know, I mean, I do
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  Speaker 3: understand why you You wouldn't be proud of your family rightfully.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, I mean I just realized how much of it,
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  Speaker 4: like I was holding in that I didn't even realize
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  Speaker 4: that that was my mentality, and I just think the
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  Speaker 4: discussion needs to be had more.
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  Speaker 3: Good for you, well, thank you, and yeah, I'm glad
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  Speaker 3: you did what you did and you're and you're breaking
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  Speaker 3: a cycle that I think people don't realize it's so
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  Speaker 3: important when you're not just this but in any case,
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  Speaker 3: like you know, with me, my dad wasn't around. I
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  Speaker 3: was not going to let I was not going to
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  Speaker 3: be a bad father to my son. I want to
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  Speaker 3: break that cycle. Yeah, right, generations to come be like, hey, no, no,
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  Speaker 3: my dad was around. You're breaking a different type of
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  Speaker 3: cycle that's just as important.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly. YEA, so good for you, and thank you for
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  Speaker 2: calling up.
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  Speaker 4: You got it man, You have a great risk you day.