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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the The Just -Finding Inspiration Through Role Models and Mindful Trust 2.11.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  8430 she's telling you like this.
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  It's there are two main ways if we said for a person to become
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  highly motivated to become very dedicated and has a beat and
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  serving Hashem. The one which is simple is
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  stopping and focusing and appreciating what you've given
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  and if you really let it sink in, it becomes emotionally
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  overwhelming appreciation of what you have.
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  We've been saying, but the problem however, is it's hard to
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  see that. We're often inclined to see the
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  gap. That's just the way life is.
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  That's Part 1. But if you do allow yourself to
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  see it, you'll be highly motivated.
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  The second part, I guess is motivated.
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  It are role models. Role model means you're watching
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  another person, you're seeing how they're acting, how they're
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  living, and you want to be like them.
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  When we explained yesterday, I think it's an important point,
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  which is what does it mean? I want to be like role model,
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  jump past him and be like his source, have his motivation.
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  The answer is it is sometimes I don't know what got him to where
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  he is, what triggered him. I don't have that same
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  inspiration like we've been saying.
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  If you look by the old fashioned stories that happened a couple,
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  100 years ago, I wasn't there. I didn't have their drive or
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  their world or their structure. They got into that spot, but I
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  still get inspired by the outcome because I want to be
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  like their story. I may not want to have, I may
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  not have had the same inspiration as they have.
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  I want to have that picture. Similarly, when you go and
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  visit, you think about your parents or grandparents or the
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  old country you want to be or the old way you want to be like
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  them. Even if you don't have the drive
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  that made them them, you have something about them back then
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  that makes you feel good and made sure it seemed like it was
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  right, seemed like it's the right way and you're inspired to
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  follow their outcome, even if you don't have their source and
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  inspiration. That's why it's considered the
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  second source of getting you going, because to one end, you
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  have your motivation, another hand you have just the
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  motivation of being like other people, and that will inspire
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  you to be great. It's a little bit the copy kind
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  of tell. If Fazal doesn't flip about, my
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  opposite is what? Not being like other people?
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  You see you guys and you say I'm going to learn from his mistake.
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  That guy did the wrong thing for years.
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  I'm not going to do. That do we have a source and a
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  concept of learning from someone's negative traits or not
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  to be like what not to be like. Let me think of me.
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  I'm trying to think of an example, make someone to do
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  example of what's wrong. I mean, we know we have what the
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  camera tells us about certain people.
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  That went too far for people that try to delve in Sham's way
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  too much. And three out of the four went
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  off, went crazy. We have that.
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  We have an individual, we call him.
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  Our head was the person that went off right?
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  I don't know. If we kept busy with making
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  negative examples out of people, why not?
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  I don't know what the simple explanation probably would be.
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  The more they're around, the more they're part of our life,
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  the more wary we are for the pull of the Ed Sahara.
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  This is kind of ready with his hair.
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  And you have many examples. That's all bad people.
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  You have kind, you have a sub, you have Ishmael, we go on and
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  on and on. The villains about we have, we
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  have Kolak, we have Haman, we have all these people.
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  The villains and triad are almost as interesting as the
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  heroes. Sure, but I guess it's really
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  the answer to Joe's question, which we do have many of them
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  and etcetera. They are role models and we all
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  direct Billam. We have all these people.
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  We talk about how Billam was as great a prophet, Mashrah, Beno,
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  they went the other way. So that is simple answer.
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  You're right, we do have people to talk about.
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  And Isab, we've been so much time talking about Isab.
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  What was this thing? He was red.
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  He went after his temptation. So I guess it's there.
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  And you're right, he's doing our.
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  Head is a good example right? He was on the right path like us
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  and he went off. You learn from him how not
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  thought. Yeah, I do think that however,
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  there's a is, you know, there's not all over emphasis stories in
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  the camera in a million and a half stories of great people who
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  did great things. We don't have as many stories
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  and they come out more more recent in a sense of bad people
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  do bad things to that. I think because there's a fear
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  of maybe even being a level of bad influence.
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  I would think that's the issue. But overall, we definitely have
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  villains in the total we do. And then we have role models and
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  the idea of role models as we're saying we're trying to copy
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  them, be like them. That's the idea.
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  That's the theme, even if we don't have that source and
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  inspiration we do have. So we have three points. 1, you
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  have your own source of inspiration, your own pole by
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  being connected to Hashem 2 and seeing Hashem's gifts to you. 2
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  You have your source of your role models, people you want to
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  be like. What do you need role models?
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  Why not just cut to the chase and go to the source and have
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  your own inspiration? So we're saying because you want
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  to be like their life, even though you may not have had
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  their makeup, their Gotham there.
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  And then we're throwing in Joe's point, which is definitely a
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  fairpoint. We do have villains.
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  We do have people that we learn or not to be like, you know, to
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  that we have it very much. I don't know if we have it as
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  much in the game or not. We do have a head and others,
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  but maybe that's because of a fear.
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  We have many of them, and those are all the humash and the
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  people I mean. That people did the wrong thing
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  and we learned from. That no, we don't have many
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  people like us who did the wrong thing with our friends and we
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  induct. I think that's because that's
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  probably not so helpful, Valley development to see people like
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  me who did the wrong thing. That's going to bring me all we
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  have yet. Done.
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  Did the wrong thing and it took the.
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  So is there a responsibility? We do have all those examples in
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  Torah Naveen Kituvi, in the original books.
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  And by the way, all those people were people who were great,
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  sorry, some of them, many of them great people, many of them
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  villains. We have but learn from there,
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  But we do not have many in. Like.
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  Oh, early, yes, sure. Right?
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  Can or early then he mentioned the problem.
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  However, with this mindset of development and with this
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  capability being inspired, whether it be from your own
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  inspiration or from following great people, is the fact that
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  our minds are very worried. And that means very often we're
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  not present and we're not present.
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  That means because if I me having something on my mind,
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  whatever it may be, I'm not here in the moment and I'm not able
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  to actually stop and stare and contemplate and appreciate.
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  I can't build my inspiration if I don't have a clear mind.
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  She's really out. If you break it down is that
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  inspiration starts with the mind, hits the heart, becomes an
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  emotion. You need to be fully here to be
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  able to get an emotion from your thoughts.
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  If I am thinking something, even if I am making sure to say thank
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  you, I've shot a million times and there I BH end of every
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  text, I'm making sure to be very, you know, in a certain
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  sense appreciated what God gave me.
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  And I am I'm not sketching, I really am.
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  But if I'm not here because there are worries, so my mind
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  can think that, but my mind itself is not even really
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  present and there's no shot that those thoughts and appreciation
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  are going to be absorbed by me to the point that they're going
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  to become an emotion, that they're going to become a drive
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  and an inspiration to do more. I'm not going to get there
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  because yes, I believe and I know that Hashem be great for
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  me. I can recognize.
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  And if you asked me to show you an example, I can find an
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  example for you. But I can't really think it any
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  if I can get it into my mind. I can't get it all the way into
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  my heart because of the fact that I am so much worried,
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  contemplating other things, busy on to the next, thinking about
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  so much going on in the world and in my life.
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  And it doesn't allow my mind to absorb what it's thinking and
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  definitely does not allow the emotion to set in.
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  So what do you do? Oh, Nam mashuhalish moret Adam,
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  what can allow a person to protect from the things stopping
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  him from being inspired? Which basically means really the
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  inspiration is technically there waiting to be had.
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  Instead, our issue is we have things holding us back.
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  How do we knock away, get rid of those things holding us back
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  from inspiration? Hua be tajon.
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  That's an additional aspect a trust in Hashem allows.
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  If you have proper reliance and trust in Hashem, you get rid of
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  those worries, as we'll see, enough to allow your mind to be
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  present and your heart to fuel your mind as a say.
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  You'll throw your worries on to God if you get used to this
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  idea. Now this is difficult because we
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  know we trust in Hashem, we believe in Hashem.
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  If they get used to the idea that there's nothing, then I can
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  be lacking. If God doesn't allow whatever
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  God wants for my outcome to exist, that's exactly what my
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  outcome will be. Even though I do my work and I
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  do my Asia lute and I know all the effort I have to put in.
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  I know that. But the worry part, the part
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  that absorbs my mind and the my heart because I'm nervous.
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  What's going to be? What do I have to do?
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  What's going to happen if I can truly believe and I could live
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  that parallel existence, which is I have to do my work, but at
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  the same time there is nothing lacking here and Hashem is
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  giving me 100%, necessary for me 100%.
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  And that is how we believe. We believe that because of Ashka
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  apathy. We believe that because of all
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  the ideas that we say it happened for a reason.
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  All that proves that Hashem is fully, fully delivering what I
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  need. That's true.
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  Then although I need to work very hard, there's no worry.
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  There's no worry, there's no concern.
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  There's no thought on to what's going to be.
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  If that's the case, I am able to be here and be present.
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  That's the structure. If I want to appreciate what I'm
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  given, I need to be able to recognize it.
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  But I only the reason why I cannot, because I'm not present.
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  Why am I not present? Because of the worries.
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  The worries I will eat up our mind.
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  So what's what's DNA? Shabbat.
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  You're worried about that? What's God's will?
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  I mean, maybe, yeah, I deserve it.
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  Maybe it's like so you should be worried.
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  Good. That type of worry won't have
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  this effect though. A very good point.
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  The worry that a person has based on Hashem's world, which
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  is if I'm worried, I'm not nervous.
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  If I learnt enough, prayed enough, I'm not learning.
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  We're not happy. I'm not sure if Hashem's happy
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  with me. Those types of worries are not,
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  you know, concerns of my gaps in life that exists or that may
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  exist. Those worries that you're
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  referring to are religious worries and they go in the same
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  stream as beat the horn, Yiraj Shamayim, Ahavach Shamayim and
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  beat the horn all go ahead. And then so the guy is always
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  comes. I'm not sure if Hashem is happy
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  with me. That person will not be taken
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  out of this world or he will not be taken out of the excuse me,
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  the present moment because of those kinds of nerves.
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  Those nerves might motivate him. Those nerves might make him
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  nervous in a sense, but it will not remove his ability from
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  recognizing Hashem. You're not going to be afraid of
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  Hashem and therefore not see Hashem.
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  That's what you're asking. It's not going to happen.
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  Instead, what's going to happen for that person is he's in the
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  right frame of mind, maybe a little too nervous, I
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  understand. But he's in the right frame of
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  mind, has still have the capability of seeing Hashem and
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  the same time as he has fears and nerves from Hashem about
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  appreciation and love just the same.
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  It's in the same track. The issue that we're referring
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  to is a person who has worries because of his fears outside, so
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  to speak, of Hashem. I don't know what I'm going to
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  make today. I don't know what's going to
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  happen with this child. I don't know what's going to
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  happen with me getting that house I need to get.
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  I don't know what's going to happen with me getting there
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  without traffic. The worries that a person has
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  and his mind are unrelated to God, those he lives with, and
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  when you live with those, you don't exist here.
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  If you're not present here, you have no shot.
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  Appreciate in God's way. Maybe just say that.
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  Yeah, that, but it was just so true.
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  There's a shot of mercy as I shall love.
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  But even if there's something called you're not the one you
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  know that's true, it's still will not take away for this
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  appreciation Kashaya da Ki vada. If it's impossible for you to
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  lock with, for you to not have what I want you to have, as our
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  rabbis tell us, all your income is established for you in the
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  beginning of the year. And no person, nobody can touch
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  what is coming to you even here is breath absorb that concept
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  over and over and over again. It is not possible for you to be
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  lacking anything and definitely not possible if you'd be lacking
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  anything because of other people.
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  Number one, you're not liking anything God wants to give you.
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  And on top of that, there's no one who can create a void and
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  lacking by you. You have 1000% what is destined
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  to you. If that's the case.
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  That's what I have now. That's what I'm going to have
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  tomorrow and next week. Where's the room for worry?
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  There's room for nerves. There's no for busy.
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  There's room for work, Sure, But where's the room for worry?
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  Nowhere. Don't worry.
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  I'm present. I'm present.
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  Nothing to be concerned about. That's what he's telling you.
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  A person. Technically, I'm the eyes of
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  God. Again, Technically only a person
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  who could sit there and not work by gazera Itami Kaemit and God's
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  will and God's gift would become flowing in.
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  It's not that way to day. It's not that way in reality.
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  It needs to work, but your work does not fill the gap.
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  It doesn't bring in the void. Which means from the start,
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  Hashem is a plan. There's a missile, there's a
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  mission, there's a delivery. It's coming for us in a good
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  way. It's travelling toward us from
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  God. We don't need to play into that
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  delivery from Hashem. Not an iota.
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  It is coming our way. You absorb this.
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  If I absorb this, if we live this way, then our worries would
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  not exist. Now you see it yourself.
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  But a lot of my development came from worries.
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  The truth is, if we believe in Hashem and we believe in this
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  track which we're saying, and Hashem would have got you
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  development as well without those worries as well.
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  Yes, you utilize your worries and your nerves as a mean to
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  expand, but Hashem could have utilized just your broad mind or
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  your broad capability has also no means to expand.
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  There is no place in the world for worry.
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  There's no place. If that's the case, if that's a
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  reality, then I'm here. I'm present because my emotions
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  here. How so?
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  I think about my mind. I know I have a some.
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  I don't have anything pulling me away from my present moment.
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  Temptation is a thing, luxuries a thing.
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  Those pull also. I'll deal with those.
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  But at first my largest, biggest, all in yoke on my mind
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  is my worries. All my worries, my money
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  worries, my family worries, my future worries, health worries,
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  whatever may be. Safety.
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  Does it interfere with his tablets?
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  Like sometimes you're going to say God will protect then you
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  just don't do the right thing. Good.
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  Now, the natural pole for a person to work are his worries.
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  But a real believer who moves on to the track of him and God,
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  he'll do it because it's God's will.
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  He'll work because it's God's will.
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  He'll move out of working because he's nervous about
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  things that have to get rid of that.
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  I need to make that money. I'm scared I need to be able to
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  pay that bill. And he'll instead do it because
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  he knows it's God's will. Is it a higher level?
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  Sure. Is there a level we can all
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  attain? I believe it definitely is if we
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  trust what we do, if we see our sham in our lives, which we do,
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  and we adapt This last part, the problem is that worry, it deals
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  with an area that isn't yet taken care of.
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  So I'm expecting, and we're expecting ourselves to not be
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  nervous about something that isn't yet handled, to not be
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  concerned about something that involves tomorrow.
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  How can I not be concerned about my safety, my children, my
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  money, my home? How can I be concerned?
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  I don't know what's going to be. And the answer is, you're right,
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  you can be concerned, but not from a place of a fear of what
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  would otherwise be, but rather from a face because you know you
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  have to take care of them. That's your job.
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  If that's your mindset, then you'll be fully present, have
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  the same level of work and effort with a completely
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  different existence because your existence will be here, your
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  existence will be focused, and it'll be on track with God.
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  So it's all card for the same God.
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  I have to work for him, I have to trust in him, I have to love
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  him, I have to fear him, and I also, I'm here.
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  There's nothing away that pulled me away.
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  Worries are a place where there's no Hashem.
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  It says that every person is worried.
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  There's no Shakina. Shakina doesn't arrest.
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  If he's sad that Shakina doesn't arrest, if he's worried that
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  Shakina doesn't arrest in him, why not?
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  Because while you're thinking about that area, you're not with
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  Hashem. The essence of being nervous
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  about something else is thinking about a non Hashem in our mind
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  place. That's the case.
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  How can I do that and also expect to be motivated to serve
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  God? I'm in two different tracks to
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  the world. I need to be in the God world.
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  The God world is. I am not nervous about what
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  otherwise would be. I know I'm set, not lazy, I'm
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  not sitting and you know, laying down and doing nothing.
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  I'm doing my work, but I know I'm set.
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  If that's the case, that's from Hashem.
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  If it's from Hashem, I am now able to actually see what's in
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  front of me with my track, my life, and I can live in the
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  moment. Besides, the fact that He's
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  telling you this gives you great inspiration to serve Hashem,
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  which seems a little bit distant.
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  How does it make me serve God? We don't know it so much because
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  we all worry so much. Have you stopped during a
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  moment? Let's say you find that time
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  during the year where it's the perfect time of year where you
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  have enough money in your mind for the next few months, Nothing
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  to think about. The kids are all in a good spot.
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  The relationships are all on the right flow.
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  Everyone's healthy during that time, time a year or time of
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  life, whatever that was or is, and you take a walk to that
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  time. You're like, oh, this is awesome
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  during that time. Trust me, if you bring a shaman
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  to the picture which you do, your service of Hashem and your
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  appreciation to Hashem will be overflowing, will love literally
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  overflowing and you'll be trying to figure out how do I do more?
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  How do I become more, How do I serve more?
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  How do I have more direct talk which is coming on in my prayer?
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  How do I learn more, how I develop as a person close to God
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  more? All those things will come
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  flowing in literally the moment you have that moment, that walk
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  on the beach, that walk wherever it is with sunny and it's
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  comfortable and there's nothing in your mind.
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  There's no ice, there's no fears, nothing.
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  That moment, whenever it comes, whenever is there beauty.
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  Problem is, it's hard to have the moment because you have a
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  million that have gaps and issues and things that are not
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  complete. What if we tell ourselves
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  they're complete? They're just pending, They're
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  complete, they're in process. Because you know what I know
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  after the fact? After a story happens, every
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  story of our life was all over, shed by God.
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  We can see retroactively, so we can see after the fact.
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  Then all we need to get to the point is seeing it during the
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  fact, while it's happening, and we can see while it's happening.
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  We lose the capability and the need to worry.
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  Imagine a world without worrying.
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  It's the most awesome world of life.
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  You know, you think to yourself, well, the guy who has a billion
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  dollars, the guy doesn't worry. He worries too.
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  Look at these guys. They're all crazy, right?
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  More possessions and more Larry. 'S might have been on the Khazim
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  mabed. I got exactly honey was all
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  right. So it's not a situation, it's a
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  state of mind. And a state of mind is something
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  that we're all blessed enough to be capable.
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  It's true. Hazid, the guy whose life is it
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  is very difficult. It's hard for him to get out of
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  the world of worrying. But thank God we're not that
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  way. And we're blessed because we're
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  blessed. Yes, we have gaps.
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  Everyone's got gaps, you know, but still you have much more
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  overriding the good then the gaps.
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  And your job is to see those gaps as pending development in
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  process. If it's in process, you're
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  great. Life and process we're all
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  comfortable with. If we can see everything that
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  we're missing as part of a developing picture, we're
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  perfectly fine. We're set, we're set, we're
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  here. We're here.
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  We're living in the moment. Besides making my life a much
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  happier life living in the moment and also makes my life a
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  much more legitimate religious connected share mine.
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  Stop with this right?