Latest / The Bull Brotherhood / Episode 17 - Dungeon Secrets: Power, Pleasure & the Psychology of Submission
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- 0:00When I'm doing a negotiation with somebody I
- 0:02don't know, and it's in this setting as opposed
- 0:05to like a kink setting, it's very different.
- 0:08Because if I'm in like a BDSM dungeon, we're
- 0:11definitely probably pre -negotiating for up to
- 0:15weeks, depending on the type of play we're doing.
- 0:19And in a BDSM dungeon, play does not necessarily
- 0:21mean sexual contact. Like penetration doesn't
- 0:24typically happen in those types of settings.
- 0:27And so here it's a little different because I
- 0:30don't know the person that's coming. It's considered
- 0:32pickup play. They'll see maybe me working on
- 0:36somebody or they'll see Craig working on somebody.
- 0:39And they'll come up and they'll be like, can
- 0:40you do that to me? And I'll be like, I can do
- 0:43something like that to you. We can try. You know,
- 0:46and I'll come and I'll set them up. And right
- 0:48before we get on there, I'll ask them, hey, do
- 0:50you have any medical conditions that I need to
- 0:52be made aware of? taking blood thinners because
- 0:54i don't want them to wake up the next morning
- 0:56and they've got bruises everywhere with my handprints
- 0:58on them some people like that some people don't
- 1:01um are you okay if we leave marks on your body
- 1:04maybe because bruising won't happen are you okay
- 1:08if i put my hands on you if i lay my body on
- 1:10you can i put my hand around your neck can i
- 1:12put my hand in your hair um and then sometimes
- 1:15what i'll do a lot of people will be i'll be
- 1:17like what are your limits Let me go get some
- 1:23scissors. We better have a good time. I'll be
- 1:27like, you know what? When they give me that type
- 1:29of response, I'm like... This podcast contains
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- 2:25If you're not comfortable with frank talk about
- 2:28sex, kink, dominance, or emotional power, this
- 2:32probably isn't the show for you. But if you're
- 2:34ready to step into your masculine edge and embrace
- 2:37a lifestyle that demands mastery, welcome to
- 2:41the Brotherhood. Welcome to the Bull Brotherhood
- 2:46Podcast, where we talk power, pleasure, and the
- 2:50art of dominance in ethical non -monogamy. This
- 2:53is not your average lifestyle podcast. This is
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- 2:59leave a lasting impression. If you're here, you're
- 3:03not just curious. You're ready to elevate. So
- 3:06to all the bulls, hot wives, stags, and open
- 3:09-minded explorers, we see you. Let's go. What's
- 3:33good? What's good, y 'all? This is Socrates from
- 3:37the Bull Brotherhood Podcast. I'm kind of rolling
- 3:41solo this time, y 'all. So, Siren is... off doing
- 3:47her thing. We are at Splash Mocha Fort Lauderdale
- 3:512025, y 'all. And I'm really excited today. We
- 3:57got Brian Morgan is off, y 'all. He's chilling
- 4:01in home base and the wifey is off probably flirting
- 4:06with some dude at the pool right now. But we
- 4:10got a really special, exciting episode for you
- 4:14guys today. We got some awesome people from the
- 4:18dungeon here in Splash, and they're going to
- 4:20talk about, you know, what they do in the dungeon
- 4:23and how it works. And first we're going to start
- 4:26off with Mr. East Coast himself. What's going
- 4:29on, brother? Not much, man. How you doing? Real
- 4:31good, real good. I just, I remember the first
- 4:34time I saw your ass, I was like. Who is this
- 4:38nigga right here? Yeah, that happens a lot. People
- 4:42say that a lot in their first impression of me.
- 4:44Yeah. Then we got Barbell Vixen. What's going
- 4:49on, girl? Not much. How are you? Not much, man.
- 4:52Y 'all have heard her before, so you know what
- 4:55you can get with that. I'm excited. I'm excited.
- 4:57And then the lovely Eve. What's going on? Gallivanting
- 5:04here at Splash Mocha. Yeah. So, you know, I'm
- 5:09usually the interviewer. I'm the one that asks
- 5:10a million questions. But this time, you know,
- 5:13I'm more than solo. And we're just going to have,
- 5:15you know, the crew here kind of explain how it
- 5:18goes down at Splash Mocha when it comes to the
- 5:21dungeon. Because, you know, kink is a little
- 5:23different than what we normally do in Splash.
- 5:28And, you know, it's a different world. and we're
- 5:31going to have them kind of talk about it. So,
- 5:33you know, I don't know how you want to get it
- 5:35going, brother, but, you know, tell them, like,
- 5:37what the dungeon is all about and what can they
- 5:42experience when they come in. All right, so first
- 5:45of all, I want to say I became, I run the dungeon
- 5:49here at Splash. This was originally set up by
- 5:54Glim, who is... Serge Rez. I want to give a shout
- 5:58out to him. Unfortunately, he passed away several
- 6:00years ago. This is all still set up in his honor
- 6:05and his memory. You see there's a sign outside
- 6:08with him standing on it. Again, unfortunately,
- 6:11he passed away several years ago. I don't consider
- 6:14this... This is kind of like dungeon light to
- 6:18me. If you come to Splash and you're... Looking
- 6:23for a real dungeon experience. That's not what
- 6:26this is. I do a lot of flogging. You'll see people
- 6:30come in and do some flogging of their own. At
- 6:33a couple parties, you've seen someone doing some
- 6:35shibari, some rope tying and stuff. I do have
- 6:38a violet wand, and I'll use that. But it's more
- 6:42of dungeon light for several reasons. But yeah,
- 6:46it's not a dungeon like people would consider
- 6:49it to be. in the street if they were to pay to
- 6:53go to a dungeon. It's a little bit different.
- 6:56I just feel like you're introducing this to the
- 7:00community. This is a lifestyle party. It's not
- 7:03a kink party. A lot of stuff you may see in a
- 7:06real dungeon, you're not going to see here for
- 7:09several reasons. As I say during a lot of my
- 7:11seminars, I don't want to scare somebody off
- 7:14to the craft. I do lighter stuff that are going
- 7:18to help people get over their fear of pain and
- 7:23different things rather than reinforce their
- 7:26fear that it's going to be painful. Thankfully,
- 7:29I've been able to turn a lot of people on to
- 7:31flogging and different parts of being at the
- 7:35kink side of things. Every time I'm here and
- 7:39I talk to people about their experience, one
- 7:42or two people talk and say, man, I had a great
- 7:45time in the dungeon. They talk about the experience
- 7:47with one of you guys. what do you guys like the
- 7:52most about it barbell like what is the thing
- 7:55that you get most excited about when you're in
- 7:58here and you're knowing okay it's going to be
- 8:00friday night saturday night it's going to be
- 8:02popping and you're going to have a new always
- 8:05have someone new in there what is the thing that
- 8:08excites you the most about it i think really
- 8:10just them coming in And, you know, they all want
- 8:13to congregate in front of the door. I have to
- 8:15try to bring them on in. Like, you can come in,
- 8:17walk through, see what's going on. And to see
- 8:20them come in and watch. And they might turn around
- 8:22and leave within a few minutes. But then to be
- 8:24able to see them come back again. So they'll
- 8:26come back and they might cycle through a couple
- 8:28of times. You know, and sometimes it takes them
- 8:31a couple of times to come in before they actually
- 8:33are ready to try it. You know, so it's. I like
- 8:37seeing them come in and out and kind of learn
- 8:39a little bit as each time they've come in. Yeah,
- 8:41yeah. Just like when you first come to the door,
- 8:45there's usually like a crowd at the door peeking,
- 8:48right? I don't want to step in there too much.
- 8:51They might hit me or something. They might be.
- 8:53Exactly. No, come on. Yeah, yeah. So I think
- 8:59when it comes to... The kink dynamic, there's
- 9:03a power exchange, right? Yes, yes. So talk to
- 9:07me about that power exchange and, like, how you
- 9:09guys kind of fit in that. So, again, I run the
- 9:13dungeon here. I don't consider myself a dungeon
- 9:16master, and partly because of what I explained
- 9:18earlier. There's a lot more that goes into being
- 9:21a master than the things that I do. My craft
- 9:25and my specialty is the flogging. But as far
- 9:27as the power stuff, you have the different types.
- 9:29There's the top, there's the bottom, and then
- 9:32there's the person who does both, and they're
- 9:35a switch. And that's... what we represent up
- 9:39here at the top, the bottom, and the switch.
- 9:41In that order. In that order. So you being a
- 9:47top or a dominant, right? Right. What does that
- 9:51entail? For people who are just really gotten
- 9:53getting into this, what does that mean? What's
- 9:56the difference between a top and a bottom? We
- 10:00got into a little bit of this yesterday in the
- 10:02class. The top is the one that's mostly administering.
- 10:06And the bottom is the one that's receiving. I
- 10:12was going to say submissive, but, I mean, it
- 10:14doesn't mean you're submissive because you're
- 10:16on the receiving end of it because there are
- 10:19some tops who will be on the receiving end. Like
- 10:23Tim was over here yesterday, and he actually
- 10:26said there's certain things. Like he likes fire
- 10:29play. He likes needle play. So he is a top. In
- 10:35those forms, he can't do it on himself, obviously,
- 10:37so he has to bottom out for someone. Gotcha.
- 10:40But I like what he said yesterday. He said instead
- 10:44of giving and receiving, he will ask people,
- 10:48do you want to do what is being done, or do you
- 10:52want to have what's being done to you? And so
- 10:57that's how he kind of explained it in our class
- 11:00yesterday. And as a bottom, From your perspective,
- 11:06what does that mean to you, especially in contrast
- 11:09to being a top or a switch? So I have no desire
- 11:13to administer anything, to be the one doing any
- 11:17of the actions. I am always the bottom, so I'm
- 11:21always the one receiving, whether it's... the
- 11:23shabari was being tied or the flogging or with
- 11:26the violet wand. I'm always the one that's receiving.
- 11:30It's always being done to me. And that's where,
- 11:32that's where my enjoyment comes from. What do
- 11:35you look for in a top? Like if a guy, from what
- 11:39I hear in the King community, there's a lot of,
- 11:42um, not just guys, right? You could be a top,
- 11:46could be a female, could be male, could be, right?
- 11:48So a lot of tops say, oh, yeah, I'm a master
- 11:51at this, or I'm a top, or I'm a dominant. And
- 11:54I hear a lot of subs say, nah, he don't know
- 11:58what he's doing. So what are you looking for
- 12:01in a top that, whether it be male or female,
- 12:04that you're looking for something that says he's
- 12:08going to be a good experience? To be knowledgeable,
- 12:11to be able to explain to me what they are going
- 12:14to do, to be able to ask me what I would like
- 12:18for them to do, because that tells me that they
- 12:19at least know what they're doing. And so then
- 12:22in talking with them, you know, be able to get
- 12:25that sense of. Like I said, knowledge, but then
- 12:28the safety and the security within that. There's
- 12:31still a certain level of trust. So, like, obviously
- 12:34my level of trust with him is much greater than
- 12:37with anybody else. But Eve has vlogged me. So
- 12:41there is that sense of trust with her that I
- 12:44knew that I was good with her. Yeah. So I practice
- 12:49shibari. I've been practicing that for about
- 12:50three years now. And I agree with you. If somebody's
- 12:55not asking a boy, do you have any joints that
- 12:58we have to look at, right? Where are the places
- 13:01that are sensitive? Do you have any? Some people,
- 13:03if I'm going to put you in a contortionist position,
- 13:07you have back problems. You have aches and pains
- 13:10here, right? Flexibility issues. Flexibility
- 13:12issues, right. If they're not asking those things,
- 13:16I know at least you don't have. I wouldn't call
- 13:19myself a master or like an expert at it yet,
- 13:22especially in the suspension. side of it, but
- 13:26I know if you're not asking those important questions,
- 13:29then you have a lot more to learn. Now, the switch.
- 13:34That is the thing that fascinates me the most,
- 13:38man. Because to me, it's a mode. As a dominant
- 13:43person in general, I own businesses. I'm the
- 13:47head of my household. I like to run things. I
- 13:49like to direct things. I'm in that mode all the
- 13:53time. And I'm not at the stage where I kind of
- 13:57need to get away from that just yet. So it's
- 14:00weird to me to switch that mode. How do you do
- 14:03it? It's definitely a power dynamic type of thing.
- 14:08I don't submit to somebody I have no respect
- 14:12for. There's a respect factor. There's a trust
- 14:15factor. I don't bottom for very many people.
- 14:17And everybody here could probably attest to that.
- 14:20If anything, it shocks people when I do bottom.
- 14:24because I just don't do it. But that shows a
- 14:27level of respect that I have for the person that's
- 14:29topping me or that is my dominant or whatever
- 14:31the case is. I didn't come into the lifestyle
- 14:34as a switch. I came in like re, where I was just
- 14:37like, nah, I don't want to do anything. I want
- 14:39to sit here, I want to look pretty, and you're
- 14:41going to do stuff to me. But I am dominant in
- 14:45my everyday life and everything that I do. And
- 14:48so eventually I... In my effort to want to help
- 14:52my dominant in this type of space, I was like,
- 14:55oh, well, you know, I could hit some people with
- 14:57some stuff. And then I liked it. My partner now,
- 15:04every time he introduces me, he says, this is
- 15:06evil. And I'm like, no, no, Eve. I'm real nice,
- 15:14I swear. I don't know. She's got a look on her
- 15:18face at some point that would make you think
- 15:21otherwise, honestly. People have to come and
- 15:24find out. But I eventually evolved. I had the
- 15:28evolution. Not everybody has that, and that's
- 15:31okay. But I evolved in that space here at Splash
- 15:36Mocha where I learned, man, I really like manipulating
- 15:39people's bodies and making them be like, ooh,
- 15:42I kind of like that. And they didn't even know
- 15:46they would like that. And so that's what I get
- 15:48off on. Now that's what I get off on. We do a
- 15:53little pre -negotiation because I don't know
- 15:56a lot of the people that I'm out here slapping
- 15:58up or playing with my hands or pulling hair on
- 16:03the bench. I don't know most of them. So I like
- 16:06to talk to them a little bit. Hey, do you have
- 16:08any medical conditions I need to be aware of?
- 16:10Are we on blood thinners, contusions? Do you
- 16:14have any fractured ribs? That's kind of important
- 16:16to know. Oh, you have stitches? Oh, wow. Because
- 16:20sometimes what I do, you know, is sexual in nature.
- 16:24There's no penetration or anything like that.
- 16:26But I'm touching you in a real sensual way. And
- 16:30that might pull on some skin. And if you've got
- 16:32stitches, girl, we can't play like that. Because
- 16:35I don't want you bleeding. But, yeah, for me,
- 16:38it was an evolution. And it's a respect factor
- 16:40if somebody's going to top me or be a dominant
- 16:43for me. What are you looking for in that area?
- 16:46Especially now you're pointing out respect. What
- 16:48are you looking for that you can respect in a
- 16:50talk? Somebody has their shit together. I move
- 16:54real slow when I look at partners. And I really
- 17:00watch for a while because I want to see how people
- 17:03move. Because you can watch somebody from the
- 17:06corner of the room and be like, I don't know
- 17:08how I felt about that. and some people will turn
- 17:12me off. They didn't even know they turned me
- 17:13off. But I just, I like to, I move slow, especially
- 17:17when it's me that's on the bottom. I'll move
- 17:19real slow. And then if it's like a bottom, you
- 17:23know, I just kind of have to pay attention to
- 17:25their body at that point. Body language is so
- 17:26important. Your body tells on you before your
- 17:29mouth ever will. Facts. Very true. So we have
- 17:34some people in the audience here. Anybody want
- 17:37to ask any questions? That's what they're here
- 17:39for, to kind of... educate you on how this part
- 17:42of the lifestyle works and, you know, what we
- 17:44do here and any kind of questions that people
- 17:47might have when they're, you know, getting into
- 17:49it. It's ironic that Tim walked in because we
- 17:52had just finished talking about you. Were your
- 17:54ears burning? Yeah, we just finished talking
- 17:56about you. No? Okay. Now, I got a question for
- 18:00Eve. Is there a time where you have topped and
- 18:06bottomed in the same night in the same dungeon?
- 18:08Yeah. Are you talking about like at the same
- 18:12time? Not at the same time, but like, you know,
- 18:14you'll top somebody and then you'll switch and
- 18:17be the bottom that same night. Last night. Yeah,
- 18:21I was in here last night. My partner was in here.
- 18:23He beat me over there on that bench. My legs
- 18:27are too short for that, so now we know that.
- 18:28And then right after, I had some people that
- 18:33know me came up and were like, can you do something
- 18:35like that to me? And I was like, hell yeah. And
- 18:37I was high. I was like, this is great. Like being
- 18:40beaten or being the bottom gives you this high
- 18:44that they call subspace. And that's where I was
- 18:47last night. I was in that subspace. I kind of
- 18:50came down from it a little bit. And then I was
- 18:52like, oh, I'm ready. I've got energy. And my
- 18:56style is very sensual. So I use a lot of my body.
- 18:58I use a lot of my hands. I don't use very many
- 19:00implements. I grab hair, I might put a hand around
- 19:05your neck, but we negotiate all of that too.
- 19:07I make sure, hey, are you okay if I put my hands
- 19:09on you? Are you okay if I put my hand around
- 19:11your neck because I don't want to trigger anything,
- 19:13right? Are you okay if I pull your hair? Those
- 19:16can be triggers for some people. For me, it's
- 19:18fun. Don't get me wrong. But for some people,
- 19:22those can be triggers. So, yes, I have definitely
- 19:24done that on multiple occasions. It's great when,
- 19:28I love it when Eve is in here because you get
- 19:30to see a contrasting style. I am, like she said,
- 19:33she's a lot more hands -on, and I use a lot more
- 19:37implements. I do a lot with my floggers. I will
- 19:41do some touching and stuff like that, but there
- 19:45is a huge contrast in the two. Yeah, our styles
- 19:48are definitely different, but great. That's the
- 19:51beautiful part. And there's also, you know, there's
- 19:55some men that come in that want to be a bottom,
- 19:57and they may have an issue being a bottom for
- 20:00another man. So we, you know, especially if he's
- 20:03here, we're like, if that's really what you want,
- 20:05like, when she comes back, she'll be back, like,
- 20:07you know, and they're a little more comfortable
- 20:08being a bottom as a male, you know, for her.
- 20:12Yeah, I have two men lined up for tonight, actually.
- 20:15Yeah, I love it. It's great when she's in here.
- 20:17It really is good. Tim, you got to say something,
- 20:21man? I just have a question to ask if there are
- 20:23any questions. I would say that currently it
- 20:26sounds like each one of you are in your position
- 20:30that feels right, top, bottom, whichever. Are
- 20:34there any times where you guys reevaluate your
- 20:37position and say, you know, is this best for
- 20:40me? Or how do you stay open to life? growing
- 20:44and evolving into something else, like just being
- 20:46open for the possibilities. You know, man, it's
- 20:49like Eve said. I've always been a naturally type
- 20:53of dominant personality. You know what I mean?
- 20:55I've always been, like in college, I was voted
- 20:58captain. You know, I've always been, like at
- 21:03work, I say, hey, let's do this. You know, I'm
- 21:05kind of out in the front leading everything.
- 21:08You know, so I'm not really. as interested in
- 21:11becoming a bottom or a switch. I like that lead
- 21:14role. Just like she said, she likes that submissive
- 21:17side. I like that dominant part of it. It's just
- 21:20in my nature to be a dominant, leading type of
- 21:25person. So I really don't have an interest to
- 21:27be a bottom. And for me, in my everyday life,
- 21:31I am like Eve. I am. Alpha. I am in charge of
- 21:35everything. I've raised my children by them by
- 21:37myself for most of their lives. And and I make
- 21:40all the decisions. And, you know, so I'm I'm
- 21:43dominant in every other aspect of my life. So
- 21:46when it comes to the relationship side, the lifestyle,
- 21:50the kink side, I'm just a bottom. That's just
- 21:53all I am. And and so for for Eve, when she said,
- 21:56you know, she gets pleasure of being able to
- 21:58manipulate somebody's body and make it do something
- 22:01they didn't know they might even like. For me,
- 22:04just to be in here and watch that happen. So
- 22:06that's where I get off, is being able to watch
- 22:09either one of them make that happen for somebody
- 22:12else's body. There's a lot of people that are
- 22:15like that, too. They're in charge. When I first
- 22:18started getting into kink and the first time
- 22:21I picked up floggers, I remember there was a
- 22:24girl who she wanted me to be dominant. And again,
- 22:28I was just... coming into and learning all of
- 22:30this. And I didn't understand it at all. And
- 22:32she said basically the same thing. She said,
- 22:34I am the boss at work. I am a single mother.
- 22:38I run everything. So when I get into the ethical
- 22:43non -monogamous part of it, I want to be completely
- 22:46dominated. And there's a lot of people, I mean,
- 22:48my cuckolding group, there's a lot of people
- 22:52that are like that in there, you know, that is
- 22:53their release for that, you know, to be. the
- 22:57submissive side, away from everything else in
- 23:00their life. I love that part because the cucks
- 23:05that I first got involved with were very high,
- 23:09either high security clearance or very high up
- 23:14in corporate America or military. And these are...
- 23:20On the outside world, you would call them alphas,
- 23:23right? These are domineering men who have not
- 23:26only a personality presence, like not only you
- 23:30know when they walk into the room, their personality
- 23:33shines the same as you, but their physical presence
- 23:36is there. But seeing them in the room and, you
- 23:40know. caged or tied up you know and and their
- 23:44significant other is just barking orders and
- 23:48and it it's amazing to me so uh you you you've
- 23:52talked about uh negotiations so um tell me either
- 23:57one anybody who wants to jump in on this one
- 23:59tell me how you what you're looking for in that
- 24:02negotiations are you just i know you're looking
- 24:05for like okay you know what are your aches and
- 24:07pains what are your do's and don'ts but are you
- 24:10going beyond that are you looking for anything
- 24:12beyond that or you just want to know hey what
- 24:14are the things that you want me to do and not
- 24:16do and then i'm going to work with that um when
- 24:18i'm doing a negotiation with somebody i don't
- 24:20know and it's in this setting as opposed to like
- 24:23a kink setting it's very different because if
- 24:26i'm in like a bdsm dungeon we're definitely probably
- 24:30pre -negotiating for up to weeks depending on
- 24:34the type of play we're doing And in a BDSM dungeon,
- 24:38play does not necessarily mean sexual contact.
- 24:40Like penetration doesn't typically happen in
- 24:43those types of settings. And so here it's a little
- 24:46different because I don't know the person that's
- 24:49coming. It's considered pickup play. They'll
- 24:52see maybe me working on somebody or they'll see
- 24:54Craig working on somebody. And they'll come up
- 24:57and they'll be like, can you do that to me? And
- 25:00I'll be like, I could do something like that
- 25:01to you. We could try. And I'll come and I'll
- 25:04set them up, and right before we get on there,
- 25:06I'll ask them, hey, do you have any medical conditions
- 25:08that I need to be aware of? Do you take any blood
- 25:11thinners? Because I don't want them to wake up
- 25:13the next morning and they've got bruises everywhere
- 25:15with my handprints on them. Some people like
- 25:17that, some people don't. Are you okay if we leave
- 25:21marks on your body? Maybe because bruising will
- 25:23happen. Are you okay if I put my hands on you,
- 25:27if I lay my body on you? Can I put my hand around
- 25:29your neck? Can I put my hand in your hair? And
- 25:32then sometimes what I'll do, a lot of people
- 25:34will be, I'll be like, what are your limits?
- 25:36And they'll be like, oh, no, you can do anything.
- 25:38I'll be like, girl, let me go get some scissors.
- 25:42We better have a good time. I'll be like, you
- 25:45know what? When they give me that type of response,
- 25:47I'm like, what do you not want me to do? Because
- 25:51that's a good indicator. Is there anywhere you
- 25:54don't want me touching? And most of the time
- 25:57I don't touch genitals at all. I don't touch,
- 26:00you know. Female genitalia, depending on the
- 26:03person, and if I know them well enough, I might
- 26:05touch their breasts. But we got people in here
- 26:10that come out squirting, and I haven't touched
- 26:12their genitals, and that is the high. Ooh, that
- 26:16feeling is real good. But that's typically what
- 26:18my negotiation will look like. Nice. See, I passed
- 26:23it to Eve, and one thing I say, and they can
- 26:26attest I said it yesterday, is that in this setting,
- 26:29I'm only in here from 10 to 2. You know, and
- 26:32there's a lot of people that come through here.
- 26:34You know, a lot of people there. I mean, there's
- 26:36days where I think in Houston, somebody said
- 26:38there was like 70 people up in there. And I don't
- 26:41get a chance to go through a full negotiation
- 26:45and a full scene with somebody. You know, if
- 26:48I do that, then there's a lot of people that
- 26:49are not going to come back in the dungeon because
- 26:51they never had an opportunity to do something.
- 26:53So it's like I waited in line for two hours for
- 26:56you. So I tell people it's a shorter journey.
- 27:00So a lot of times, and because I'm not as physical
- 27:02with things as she is, it's, okay, I'm going
- 27:06to do this. Are you okay? Have you been flogged
- 27:08before? No? Okay, well, relax. I'm good at reading
- 27:11your body language. Speak up if I do something
- 27:15that you're not happy with. I can usually tell
- 27:18from your body language, but if there is something
- 27:20that you did not like or something that triggers
- 27:23you, yeah, say. I didn't like that. Turn around
- 27:26and let me know so I know not to do that again
- 27:29or to tone it down some. But it's a journey,
- 27:33man. I take people from here and I have to bring
- 27:36them up here really quickly because I don't have
- 27:38the time. And then I don't have the time for
- 27:40aftercare the way that I want to or should be
- 27:43doing because I bring them up so fast, I bring
- 27:46them back down kind of, I wouldn't say as quick.
- 27:50You know, because you still have to be conscious
- 27:52of a lot of things. But it's a quicker journey.
- 27:55So because of the environment in here, I have
- 27:59to be different. So I'm not allowed to have those
- 28:02negotiations like they have. Now, if you come
- 28:06in here, you will see Eve and you'll see Tim.
- 28:08Tim comes in a lot. And you'll see them sit on
- 28:11the floor for 20, 30 minutes before they work
- 28:13on somebody. I just don't have the time to do
- 28:17that. While I'm sitting there talking, there's
- 28:18people in the dungeon just sitting around looking.
- 28:20And now they lose interest in how they lead.
- 28:23So I have to keep things kind of moving in here.
- 28:26Nice. I like that. Barbell, as far as negotiations
- 28:31from a subs perspective or a bottoms perspective,
- 28:36what are you looking for? What do you want to
- 28:38hear your top ask you or how they approach you
- 28:43or how they... Do the whole negotiations part.
- 28:45I think my favorite thing is what Eve just said
- 28:48a second ago. What do you not want me to do?
- 28:51Because as a sub, as a true bottom, I can answer
- 28:56that a whole lot easier than I can answer what
- 28:59I want you to do to me. Because, I mean, I'll
- 29:03try anything once, you know, and maybe again.
- 29:08And it's just, maybe it takes twice just to make
- 29:11sure. Maybe the first person didn't do it right.
- 29:16And so because of that, I know there are certain
- 29:19things that are, that's a no. So I can easily
- 29:22answer what I don't want you to do to me. But
- 29:27I can also, if there are certain things that
- 29:29I've, again, I'll kind of try anything. So if
- 29:32there's something that a top wants to do to me
- 29:35that I don't, I've never had done. tell me what
- 29:39you're wanting to do with me. You know, and describe
- 29:42that to me. And let me make a choice. Do I want
- 29:44to try that or do I not want to try that? So,
- 29:47again, that goes back to that knowledge. You
- 29:50know, like Eve said, somebody that's got their
- 29:52shit together. Like, you know, I need you to
- 29:54be. asking me what my triggers are, you know,
- 29:58and what I'm OK with and what I'm not OK with.
- 30:00Those things are easier to answer than what do
- 30:03you want me to do? You know, so again, more what
- 30:06do you not want me to do? That's those are some
- 30:08hard answers that you can just boop, boop, boop.
- 30:09We check those off, you know, move on through
- 30:11that negotiation. Nice. I don't know if you want
- 30:16to answer this as well, but Eve, will you go
- 30:18through? the different implements that you are
- 30:21going to use on them. Like when I walk in and
- 30:24I show somebody they may not have been in here
- 30:26before, I say, hey, here's my floggers. Here's
- 30:29what I use. This is made of this. Do you like
- 30:32this? But this is probably what I'm going to
- 30:34use. I don't. I like that sensory deprivation
- 30:39piece where it's an adventure. We're going on
- 30:43an adventure. It's a trust thing, too. Oh, yeah.
- 30:46Yeah, because, and I'll tell them, I'll be like,
- 30:50I'm not here to cause you pain. I'm here to cause
- 30:52you 100 % pleasure. Some of that might be through
- 30:56a little bit of pain. Now, if I'm going to work
- 30:59with somebody that's maybe like a heavy masochist
- 31:02that they want to be beaten, I'll show them certain
- 31:05implements. Because if I'm going to hit you that
- 31:07hard with it and that's what you want and you
- 31:09get pleasure out of that, yeah, I'm probably
- 31:11going to show you the heavy ones that are over
- 31:13there and tell you this is one of the things
- 31:14I'm going to work on using on you. So in this
- 31:19particular setting, no, I'm not showing them.
- 31:21I usually just use three little things. A nice
- 31:23soft flogger that's back there, a soft paddle
- 31:27that's back there with a real cold handle that's
- 31:29real nice when your ass is on fire. Yes. And
- 31:32then one other thing I might find that might
- 31:35be interesting on somebody. But other than that,
- 31:37I don't really use very many other implements
- 31:39but my hands and my body. Yeah, definitely for
- 31:44me, each... occurrence is going to be different.
- 31:48I'm going to, it depends on the bottom and what
- 31:52is happening at that time and that day and that
- 31:54specific thing for the bottom. If I feel that
- 31:57the, there's a lot of anxiety for the bottom
- 32:02and this is really like one of their first times.
- 32:05then I may go to the point where I am explaining
- 32:08and showing out one of the tools and implements.
- 32:11However, if that anxiety is so high where more
- 32:14information is not good, then I'll cut it short
- 32:17and I'll be like, it's going to be okay, we're
- 32:19going to do this, we're going to do this, and
- 32:20I'll just work through the process. So it depends
- 32:22on what their level is. And each person has a
- 32:25different thing that they do, the way they live
- 32:27their life. For some people, more information
- 32:30makes them... more comfortable because they have
- 32:33the information and here's a here to here to
- 32:35here and they can play now and vice versa but
- 32:38for the other person so it really depends on
- 32:40the scenario um i started out last night with
- 32:43a process and it made the it helped i felt like
- 32:47it helped the bottom like okay here's what we're
- 32:49going to do and here's the thing and okay all
- 32:51right now let's do this thing let's do this thing
- 32:53and another person was like oh but like this
- 32:55like this i'm like this i was like all right
- 32:57sure we can do that you know that never got there
- 32:59because the this scene changed and we were moving
- 33:03and pivoting during the scene change but it was
- 33:06their comfort level so stereotypically as I identify
- 33:12as the top stereotypically bottoms are looking
- 33:16to be led and are looking to have more of the
- 33:19process catered for them you know so asking them
- 33:24questions about the scene is like contrary to
- 33:29what some bottoms are looking for, you know,
- 33:32more of just laying out the process and having
- 33:34more of a direction and then building that direction.
- 33:37You say left, and you maybe go a little bit right,
- 33:39but you start somewhere, and then I like to interact,
- 33:44and then as the bottom is leaning the other way,
- 33:46then go the other way, kind of just flow with
- 33:48the process, but start off something and then
- 33:50be able to say. the things that they don't like
- 33:53oh you don't like this okay so we'll put that
- 33:54way over there and you don't know about this
- 33:57well this is not that let me try that and then
- 33:59gauge that temperature and go from there so pulling
- 34:03out all of the tools is fun for some people but
- 34:06then it is it is not something that i do most
- 34:09often because i have so many tools and it's so
- 34:11many different things and you're only going to
- 34:13use a certain amount of stuff going on you know
- 34:17for sure So for those of us who have not been
- 34:22here there, if you walk into this room, there
- 34:26are several. What do you guys what's the name
- 34:29you're using for? I call them instruments of
- 34:32pleasure. What's the name you guys call it? For
- 34:36the implements? Implements. Implements. So when
- 34:41you walk in here, there's a whole table full
- 34:44of different kind of floggers and other implements.
- 34:47Yeah, talk to me about that. Yeah, talk to me
- 34:49about that. So, again, I mostly use floggers.
- 34:56So I've got different ones all the way from...
- 34:59And as I said, if there's somebody that is new
- 35:02to all of this, I'll go through and say, hey,
- 35:04this is made out of finger floggers that are
- 35:06made of lambskin. And then I've got some that
- 35:09go all the way up as rough as bison. And then
- 35:13I'll show them the different levels and show
- 35:16them this is how I'm going to build up. But again,
- 35:19as he said, I mean, this is mostly for the people
- 35:21that are new to the experience, just to show
- 35:24them, hey, this is really soft. And then sometimes
- 35:27I'll say, I don't want to try that. Okay, you
- 35:29ain't got to try it, but, you know. But so, again,
- 35:32it goes all the way from light all the way up
- 35:34to really coarse and stiff. And some of it can
- 35:39be kind of deceiving, too, because I have a couple
- 35:41pieces that are really thick. And what we say
- 35:45is it's a thuddy feel to it. But it's really,
- 35:50it sounds violent, but it's not violent. It's
- 35:54a... big, strong, heavy sound. And with the one,
- 36:00I think it's made out of bison or buffalo. And
- 36:04it's really thick and heavy. So when I hit, I
- 36:09mean, you hear, bam! It's a big, heavy sound.
- 36:12And sometimes when I hit them, when I strike
- 36:16them, you'll see their whole body jump forward.
- 36:19But then they're like, oh, I kind of like that.
- 36:21It's a different feeling. And then the ones that
- 36:23are smaller, they're more stingy. And, you know,
- 36:30just the different feelings of them. But then
- 36:32I've got one over there. It's kind of deceptive.
- 36:36So I try to tell people, I try to keep my eye
- 36:38on them because it's made out of like a paracord.
- 36:41But in the middle, there's chain. So you get
- 36:45people that grab it and start swinging. I'm like,
- 36:47hey, hey, calm down. Why would you do it? And
- 36:50then I show them, they're like, oh. So, I mean,
- 36:54it's a wide range of different things. And as
- 36:57Tim just said, I don't even get to use everything
- 37:00on my table. You know, I have my favorite pieces,
- 37:03and especially for a 10, 15 -minute session,
- 37:06I'm using a bunch of, you know, mainly the same
- 37:08ones. But then for cool down, I have a flogger
- 37:12that's made out of rabbit fur. And that's another
- 37:15one where I can hit you as hard as I want to
- 37:18hit you, as hard as I could ever hit somebody.
- 37:21And you'll hear it. But it's rabbit fur, and
- 37:24it doesn't hurt. It doesn't hurt at all. And
- 37:28then to calm people down, I have rabbit fur gloves
- 37:30with some spikes in them, which is a lot different
- 37:34sensation. And then once I get people up and
- 37:37have their blood flowing and everything, I've
- 37:39got a pair of chain floggers. And they're sitting
- 37:43in ice. No, you didn't see it. Chain. Floggers.
- 37:46Got a pair of floggers made of chain. And they're
- 37:49sitting in ice. And you just rub that across
- 37:52people. And like Eve said, you know, that different
- 37:54sensation, man. You see people going through
- 37:57all sorts of stuff. Yeah, when you've got their
- 37:59body all warmed up and their skin is all red
- 38:02and you can touch it and you can feel that heat.
- 38:05And then you take that cold and put on there.
- 38:07It is like it's a whole different experience.
- 38:10Ooh, y 'all got me going. Feel that heat, too,
- 38:12man. Once I get a really good session with somebody,
- 38:16like 15 minutes later, you can still feel heat
- 38:19coming off of their ass. It's a great feeling.
- 38:22It's like you want to see them do that Tom and
- 38:25Jerry cartoon where he gets on fire and just
- 38:27sits on the ice and has nothing around him. Because
- 38:31that ass is on fire. That butt is on fire, man.
- 38:35Temperature play is so fun and deceiving. People
- 38:40are like, oh! Wow. And that gasp and it's everything
- 38:45to feel them and see them. See their whole body.
- 38:48Yeah, I've seen it. And it is the word that you
- 38:53wouldn't think you use in kink to me that is
- 38:56so much there is seductive. Yes, yes. It is so
- 39:01seductive. It is. My finger floggers, so I've
- 39:07got floggers. Most floggers you see has a handle
- 39:11on them. Mine, there's a couple that I have where
- 39:14they attach through my fingers. There's a little
- 39:16loop on the end, and I swing them, and I can
- 39:19get to, like John Wayne with his six -shooter
- 39:23swinging them through the air and doing all sorts
- 39:25of stuff, you know. And I've had people comment
- 39:29on how I handle the floggers and do that. It
- 39:33is rhythmic, and people love and enjoy watching
- 39:37me work like that. Yeah, yeah, trust me. I've
- 39:40seen people in the audience, and, you know, you
- 39:43hear people whispering to each other, and they're
- 39:45like, oh, my goodness. It sounds like it's a
- 39:48journey. It sounds like you're taking them, and,
- 39:52you know, the audience can't see, but, you know,
- 39:54from a low point to a much higher point. And
- 39:57it seems to me that you guys, after... the experience
- 40:01that you have, you start knowing where to take
- 40:04them to get to the next level. Yes. Right. And
- 40:07that's about reading body language. That's about
- 40:09reading the person. How does the couple come
- 40:12involved? How does this whole, let's say a, a,
- 40:15a male female come in and the, and the, and the
- 40:17females in the bottom position and the husband's
- 40:21a cuck or a stag and he wants to see his significant
- 40:23other go through this. Are you interacting with
- 40:26him as well and kind of seeing what he wants
- 40:29to see? Or is it all really about the person
- 40:32that you're? Me personally, it's about me and
- 40:35that person who I'm flogging. Because, again,
- 40:38if I'm paying attention to something else, I
- 40:41may miss a body clue. That, you know, I'm flogging
- 40:44her and she may react and I miss it now because
- 40:48I'm paying attention to him. Now, what I have
- 40:50done is I flog people and have their significant
- 40:54other sit in front of them and watch. And I actually
- 40:57had one couple. They I flogged her and she got
- 41:01so turned on and he came up to me the next day.
- 41:04He sat there and watched her, watched her body
- 41:07reaction, watched her face. And they. started
- 41:10holding hands and they connected and he came
- 41:13down the next morning he was like man thank you
- 41:14so much for that we went upstairs and we fucked
- 41:17like crazy it was it was unreal he said thank
- 41:22you so much for that so i've done that to where
- 41:25you know um they've connected but i haven't really
- 41:30interacted with that person because my focus
- 41:33and I tune out everything that's around. I have
- 41:37to be locked in to her. I have a girlfriend of
- 41:41mine though that he, when she comes in and he
- 41:43flogs her, she wants me to sit there in front
- 41:47of her and hold her hand and rub her face. But
- 41:49then she also does it for me when he's flogging
- 41:52me. And, you know, to, to get that, there's times
- 41:55that I need that, you know, that connection with
- 41:57somebody else there too. So it's, it's a different,
- 42:02it's a different connection, you know, when you
- 42:05need somebody there, especially with him, because,
- 42:08you know, he, he can take me through. All sorts
- 42:11of emotions, you know. And again, he still needs
- 42:15to be reading me. And to have somebody there
- 42:18for the other part of it that I need is always
- 42:20nice. For me, it depends. Because, for example,
- 42:25last night, I have a lot of couples that will
- 42:28come in and the husband just wants to watch me
- 42:30vlog or do whatever it is that I'm going to do.
- 42:34He just wants to watch me do it to her. And that's
- 42:37the turn on for him. You know, beautiful woman
- 42:41doing all of these really sensual, like naughty
- 42:44things to his wife or his partner. And he's just
- 42:47sitting there watching from like the sideline,
- 42:49kind of peeping on the corner and just doing
- 42:52his thing, you know. And then there are some
- 42:55couples that I'll be like, hey, did you want
- 42:57to be a part of this? Like I can give you a certain
- 43:00instruction and this will be your post while
- 43:03we're playing. And so there is a couple that
- 43:06I have in mind right now. Every time that I work
- 43:10her on a station on one of the benches, I'll
- 43:13tell her husband, hey, I want you to come up
- 43:15here and I want you to say some nasty, dirty
- 43:17stuff to her. And I want you to pull her hair
- 43:20when you think you should be pulling her hair.
- 43:22And I want you to put a hand around her throat,
- 43:24but firm every once in a while. And I'll see
- 43:28them up there and I'll kind of listen to what's
- 43:29going on and I'll see what's happening and I'll
- 43:31flow off of whatever is going on with him. And
- 43:34what he's doing to her and making sure that he's
- 43:36turning her on and he's not turning her off.
- 43:39Because that's something that I have to watch
- 43:40out for, too. Like, I'm here to give you pleasure,
- 43:42baby. Pleasure is our birthright. So I want to
- 43:45be able to give that to you. And sometimes it
- 43:47will depend. Some husbands want to. Some husbands
- 43:49don't. Some husbands don't even know that they
- 43:52want to. So it really just depends. I love that.
- 43:56I love that. So you guys are looking at how they're.
- 44:01like vibing with each other as a couple you're
- 44:03looking at how you know their experience level
- 44:07right how much they know you're looking at body
- 44:10language you're looking at all those things to
- 44:12kind of see where i can get that where they're
- 44:14starting at and how i can get them to where i
- 44:16want them to be talk to me about subspace so
- 44:19i i have to admit i think it's something that
- 44:22i don't understand um so In Shibari, subspace,
- 44:30a lot of times, they're almost there when you
- 44:34start restraining them. And it's a long process.
- 44:39But it seems to me that impact play and other
- 44:41things like that, there's a point of subspace.
- 44:44But I'm probably getting ahead of myself. So
- 44:46talk to me about subspace. What is it to you?
- 44:49And describe the feeling, you know, that when
- 44:52you're in subspace, what is it and how does it
- 44:55feel to be in that? I don't know, thinking, state
- 44:59of being? I don't know. I'm not thinking. I'm
- 45:03not. I mean, when I'm in subspace, and especially
- 45:07with him, not really so much here. I mean, it's
- 45:11happened in the dungeon here a time or two. But
- 45:16for me, like, I'm not, I don't hear other people
- 45:20around me. I don't even hear the music anymore.
- 45:23And, you know, there's always music in here.
- 45:24I don't. I don't feel, you know, with your body,
- 45:29you can feel things moving around you and coming.
- 45:31I don't feel anything except him and where he's
- 45:35at. So I am totally not thinking. It is all just
- 45:40feeling. It is what I'm feeling at that point.
- 45:42And so then, you know, when he does bring me
- 45:45down, I will, my whole body will shake. I mean,
- 45:50there's been times I get off the bench and I
- 45:53have to be laid down on a table or on the floor
- 45:56and covered up. That's aftercare, right? Yes,
- 45:58and covered up and brought water because it takes
- 46:03me some time to learn, like, regain my bearings
- 46:06of where I am. So, yeah, I'm not thinking when
- 46:10I'm in subspace. It's all about what I'm feeling.
- 46:13It's a euphoric state. You know, you just...
- 46:18I don't know if I've not experienced a subspace.
- 46:21I mean, we have a top space, but I mean, it's
- 46:24kind of like consciousness. I'm being unconscious
- 46:28while you're conscious. Oh, damn. I mean, I mean,
- 46:33we've got one other philosopher. We've all, we've
- 46:39all kind of, yeah, we've all kind of had some
- 46:42sort of subspace where you're, like I said, you're
- 46:44consciously unconscious. I mean, Eve probably
- 46:48could explain it a little bit better, but I think
- 46:51you're conscious of things that are around you,
- 46:55but you kind of lose control of things. And you
- 46:59sense things, but it's like you just lose, not
- 47:05control, but it's harder for you to control your
- 47:10being because you have this state of euphorism.
- 47:15That's a word. State of euphoria. Yeah, because
- 47:18for me to be moved from the bench to the table,
- 47:22I can't do that on my own. Yeah, you get them.
- 47:25They get deer -legged, man. I can't take myself
- 47:28from one point to another. There have been times
- 47:32they hand me water, and it's just like, I can't.
- 47:35Hands are shaking and everything. It's definitely
- 47:39a body high. uh from the bottom perspective subspace
- 47:43is definitely a body high top space is a little
- 47:45different um subspace is you know you're you're
- 47:51literally floating that's why we call it space
- 47:53because it's like you're floating through space
- 47:56and you're just like this being and you're there
- 47:58and i know that that sounds real metaphysical
- 48:00and weird but it's true because you're out there
- 48:03you're floating Yes, you get deer legs. That's
- 48:06why, you know, we'll take people off of these
- 48:08benches and we help them into a seat because
- 48:10they typically cannot stand. And what we do here
- 48:15is really just little demos. You know, 10, 15
- 48:19minutes. We're giving them these feelings so
- 48:22quickly. And then we're setting them off into
- 48:24the playrooms. Go do something fun. Go do something
- 48:28nasty. Yeah. You know, it's literally like being
- 48:33in a really soft hammock for a little while and
- 48:37your body just feels real good. You know, you
- 48:39feel the heat on your ass or you feel it wherever
- 48:41it is that you're feeling it. You still sometimes
- 48:44feel the tingles on your skin from whatever it
- 48:46was that they were using. You know, temperature
- 48:48play, all of that stuff. And it's just a really
- 48:52nice meditative almost state. Nice. Well, we're
- 48:57coming up on time here. Is there anything I didn't
- 49:00cover you guys want to talk about or, you know,
- 49:03experiences that you like to see when you guys
- 49:05are in here? I mean, the only thing I like, again,
- 49:11I like seeing people turned on to the craft.
- 49:13You know, I love it when someone new comes in.
- 49:16I've had people pull me over in the pool or outside,
- 49:20say, I want to try it. I want to come in. You
- 49:22know, just come in. I love. And again, this is
- 49:25part of the reason why I don't do heavy impact
- 49:27because people already have a sense that this
- 49:31is going to be painful. It's going to hurt. And
- 49:33I love turning them on to where they say, wow,
- 49:36it doesn't hurt. It's this. I kind of like this.
- 49:40You know, I like how it felt. And then I'm trying
- 49:44to describe it. It's it's a good feeling to have
- 49:47people turned on to this and have them do a 180
- 49:49from. No, there was a girl. several years ago
- 49:54who I went to a house party of a friend of mine
- 49:57and she saw me with the floggers and she goes,
- 50:00you stay away from me. And she saw me flog some
- 50:06people. She saw me flog some people at the end
- 50:09of the night. She goes, she looks, she goes,
- 50:11Hey, come here. And we were staying in the same
- 50:21hotel. And that night, I went over to her room
- 50:23and flogged her. We had a great time, but she
- 50:26was turned on by it after that. That is what
- 50:30I love more than anything, to see people turned
- 50:33on. to a new kink that they may not have known
- 50:36that they liked or, you know, or changing a person's
- 50:40opinion where, you know, they've had a bad experience.
- 50:43They were somewhere and somebody walked up to
- 50:45them and fire out. They get hit with something,
- 50:48you know, and they're like, I didn't like that.
- 50:50I'm like, well, he never should have done that
- 50:51to you. He was wrong for doing that. You know,
- 50:54so that is what I love more than anything is
- 50:57turning people on to. to this new experience
- 51:02and then them gaining i've had people text me
- 51:05hey man i need this where can i get a couple
- 51:07floggers where would you recommend i get something
- 51:09like that that is what i like more than almost
- 51:12anything yeah i agree with that that's i think
- 51:16that's mostly what we're all after at that point
- 51:18is just being able to like i said i want to manipulate
- 51:21somebody's body and be like oh you didn't know
- 51:23you were gonna like that did you i love that
- 51:26i love that um and if i was going to give anybody
- 51:28advice Just like I was saying to Reed, try anything
- 51:32twice. Try everything twice. Try it once. You're
- 51:36still scared. You don't know what to expect.
- 51:38Now, after you've tried it once, there are some
- 51:41things that you're going to be like, nah, I'm
- 51:42never going to do needles. Don't come over here
- 51:44with that. I'm good. But there are some things
- 51:47that you'll be like, you know what? That wasn't
- 51:48so bad. And now you know what to expect. And
- 51:52maybe with a different person, it'll be even
- 51:53better. So that's why, you know, there are certain
- 51:55things I don't like, but I'd be willing to try
- 51:57it with certain people. Just because maybe they
- 52:00do it different. Like me. I do it different.
- 52:04So what I always tell people, even in the vanilla
- 52:07world, try anything twice. Well, and I think
- 52:10we said yesterday in our seminar, somebody asked,
- 52:13what advice would you give somebody walking in
- 52:17to this dungeon for the first time? And my biggest
- 52:21thing is come in with an open mind. Be curious.
- 52:24Because, like I said, even if you're just stepping
- 52:27in the door so you can see what this room looks
- 52:29like at night when the lights are all off and
- 52:32the music's on and you can see what people are
- 52:33coming and doing in here. And then maybe you
- 52:36come back again and you're seeing different scenes
- 52:38going on in here. So each time you're coming
- 52:40through, you're getting a little bit more of
- 52:42information. And if you come into this with an
- 52:44open mind of, let me just see what it's about,
- 52:47then you have room to go somewhere with that.
- 52:51Whereas if you come in to this room like, oh,
- 52:54I'm never going to do this, but I need to go
- 52:55see what this looks like. You kind of limit yourself
- 52:59in the space that you have to go from that point.
- 53:01Right. So just kind of open yourself up and,
- 53:05you know, be open and let a kind of experience
- 53:07come your way and see where it takes you. Did
- 53:10you guys want to give your social media or handles
- 53:13or how can they get in touch with you if they
- 53:15want to ask you any questions or see what kind
- 53:17of flogger they want to buy or anything like
- 53:19that? I am almost on everything. Missed the East
- 53:23Coast. M -I -S -S -D -A, East Coast. So, Missed
- 53:28the East Coast. On, again, almost every site
- 53:31that I can think of, that's where you can find
- 53:34me. Nice. And on every site that I'm on, I am
- 53:37Barbell Vixen. So, Barbell like you would pick
- 53:40up in a gym, and then Vixen with three X's. Nice.
- 53:43Nice. And I am Beloved Eve everywhere. So, SDC
- 53:48and Telegram. Just tell me how you got my information
- 53:52so I don't think that you're a creep. Because
- 53:55I'd be like, who are you? What do you want? Go
- 54:00away. Well, thank you guys for being on the show.
- 54:04We appreciate it. I know all of you guys, and
- 54:07you guys are just amazing people. You know, like
- 54:11I said, when I first met Mr. East Coast, I was
- 54:14like, who the fuck is this dude? But, you know,
- 54:19cool people, easy to talk to, you know, friendly,
- 54:23but don't play. And that's the kind of people
- 54:27I like. So, you know, again, this is we're coming
- 54:31from Splash Mocha, Fort Lauderdale, 2025. You
- 54:35know, so if you want to go to I think it is SplashMocha
- 54:38.com if you want any information there. They're
- 54:40here every one of their locations to have the
- 54:43dungeon, right? Yes. So, you know, look online.
- 54:47You can always, if you end up talking to Tina,
- 54:50ask her questions and she'll, you know, tell
- 54:53you what she knows. And then there's always things
- 54:57in the emails and the website if you want any
- 54:59information. So with that, we're just going to,
- 55:02you know, get it going. Ended here, and thanks
- 55:06for all the audience here. Thanks for all the
- 55:08questions you guys had, and I look forward to
- 55:11seeing you guys in the next one. We'll be in
- 55:13Houston, but I think the next one is... Oh, yeah,
- 55:18so we'll be there. We'll see y 'all. I don't
- 55:22have Brian here because he usually has this really
- 55:25nice. Yeah, so anyway, what we're going to do
- 55:27is the ladies do this. I ain't doing that. I'm
- 55:29just going to say I'm out of here, y 'all, and
- 55:30have a good time.