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Bad Parenting Vs Good Parenting By Brett Keane · Brett Keane and Eve Show

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  Well, hello, ladies and gentlemen.
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  My name is Brett Keane and you're watching and listening to
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  the Brett Keane Show. I hope that a lot of you have
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  had the opportunity to check out my international radio station
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  that seems to be doing really, really well.
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  I'm doing 100 times better on my radio station than I'm doing on
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  YouTube. I don't know if many of you been
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  noticing lately, but YouTube has been extremely boring.
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  It's been dull. A lot of people are just simply
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  not making videos. People are leaving YouTube.
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  People are talking about leaving YouTube.
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  And of course the people who run YouTube are absolute assholes
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  who are screwing a lot of folks over.
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  Demonetizing, kicking people whether they want to go or not.
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  So I guess a lot of folks are running towards Rumble or many
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  other video sites. Well, when you get an
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  opportunity, if you're not checking out my radio station,
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  you can check out my merchandise, you can check out
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  my shirts. And also I've written books.
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  If you're into reading scifi or science fiction, fantasy, that
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  type of stuff, dark horror, then my books are right up your
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  alley. And of course I do music.
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  I'm in the graphic design, art and all this.
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  Well, besides doing all that stuff on Friday 7:00 PM Central,
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  I'm going to be doing a live show.
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  Now I have rules to my show. You're allowed to cuss.
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  You're allowed to act like a damn fool.
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  If you want to. We can talk, we can debate, we
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  can discuss. The only rule that I have is
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  that before my music drops, I do about a 10 minute intro where I
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  do music and announce that the show's going to begin.
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  While I'm getting my technical stuff together now, I don't
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  enjoy doing live shows by myself.
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  I usually have a set of topics together, but I usually wanted
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  to, where there's at least one person in before the music.
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  Before the intro drops, you're able to come in right away and
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  you just wait for that music to go and then I'll be on the
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  screen and then I'll bring you up and then we can talk.
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  I don't want to be sitting there by myself talking for 20-30
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  minutes all by myself for an hour, waiting for people to come
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  in. So if I don't have at least one
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  person, I will shut it down within 15 minutes after doing my
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  intro. If at least one friend or
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  stranger comes in and has a conversation with me, that is
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  the reason why I do like shows, so I can talk to people.
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  If I want to do a solo video, well, I've already got 500 to
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  1000 of those made the chat. The shows are about chatting
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  with you and hearing your views and perspectives and ideas.
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  And Speaking of perspectives and ideas, as many of you know, on
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  my community page I put a poll system up and I asked people
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  what would you like me to make a video about?
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  What would you like me to talk about?
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  It could be anything from advice to Do you want me to talk about
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  God, religion, atheism, politics, the state of the world
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  and reality, existence? It could be anything from What's
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  your view on this book or this movie or this game?
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  Or on this subject matter having to do with sociology or
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  psychology. And a lot of you have said that
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  you want to hear my thoughts on parenting.
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  I gave a topic about bad parenting up there.
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  So many of you voted for that. So today we're going to discuss
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  that. And remember, Friday, 7:00 PM
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  Central, I'll be doing a live show.
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  If there's any videos that you disagree with or you have
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  something that you want to say about it, that's the time to do
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  it. All right?
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  So I'm not a professional therapist.
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  I'm not a psychiatrist. I'm not a doctor.
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  I don't have any credentials for any of that shed.
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  I've never went to school for being a teacher or a
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  professional parenting therapist or any of this shed or
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  counselor. But I can tell you that I have
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  the cred, the street credibility of actually being a father of
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  two successful children who are now in their 20s.
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  I have a son that just recently turned 25 years old.
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  He had him a cake. Ice cream and all that.
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  And we watched some Star Trek Strange World shows together
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  recently and talked and chilled. My son has a beautiful working
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  young lady in his life. He's may marry her.
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  He's his views on marriage are unusual because of how
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  relationships work nowadays in our modern times.
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  A lot of a lot of strange women out there, a lot of women out
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  there take advantage of young men, so he's taking his time
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  with it. There's a lot of boys out there
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  and young men who jump right into relationships and then they
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  find themselves getting screwed or whatever.
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  But I've taught my son all of his life that whether it's a guy
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  or a woman, friendship, relationship, whatever.
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  The deal is always get to know them as well as you possibly can
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  before you make the decision to tie the knot or commit yourself
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  to anything. That's what I've taught my son
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  and daughter, My son, I'm at 25. My daughter is 21.
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  A few months ago she had a birthday.
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  She also got her a new truck. My son doesn't need a new
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  vehicle because when he started driving, he ride out the bat,
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  got him a new truck. So she's been having some tough
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  times with driving. She's got a lot of anxiety.
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  She's been involved in a car accident whenever she was a
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  child. My wife was driving to an
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  intersection. She had the right of way and
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  somebody slammed in the vehicle and almost killed my wife and my
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  daughter. And ever since then my daughter
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  has had anxiety. She's okay with sitting in the
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  passenger side but driving. And on top of that, she's seen
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  repeated car accidents throughout her life.
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  On the highway. Yeah, my wife and daughter were
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  almost killed in a car accident many years ago.
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  I didn't talk about that back in the day.
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  Very often during that time I was having a lot of social media
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  problems and I was kind of just dealing with whenever I made
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  videos, just talking about the usual topics I got into.
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  My wife is okay now and so is my daughter, but that is something
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  that happened. Well, as far as parenting goes,
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  I remember thinking whenever I was younger, whenever I started
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  to get to the point where I started thinking, do I want a
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  family, do I want to get married, do I want to be in a
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  relationship, All this kind of stuff.
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  I remember thinking that it was very scary and I also had very
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  negative views about having children or bringing them into
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  the world when I was younger because my parents were such
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  failures. My mother and father, they had
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  some good things about them, but they were not good as parents.
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  They weren't even really decent as people.
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  They were very self absorbed. My father was very into car
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  restoration and mechanic stuff and he seemed as though he
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  preferred either going solo fishing by himself or working on
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  cars all day as opposed to spending time with sons or
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  daughters or kids. In fact, he made it pretty clear
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  to me whenever I was younger he didn't even want to be a parent,
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  that apparently my mother wasn't doing her birth control
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  properly. Yes, my father actually told me
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  that it's probably one of the most wicked things a parent can
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  tell you, but my father has never been one of those people
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  that holds back his feelings or his thoughts.
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  Or that is one thing about my dad that some people like is
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  they like the fact that he's truthful and he won't.
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  He doesn't give a shit if he hurts people's feelings, even if
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  they're his own kids. So if you don't want to know
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  something, my dad's not this type of person.
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  You want to ask unless you're ready for the fucking cold
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  hearted truth. My mother was a bipolar manic
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  depressive who was on so many medications she was referred to
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  as the human pharmacy. So watching them fail repeatedly
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  at the parenting accomplishment, it made me think that.
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  It made me believe on a psychological level that if I
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  ever had kids, I probably wouldn't be very good at it.
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  And I also watched other family members.
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  I watched my friends and seeing how their parents were, and I
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  seen how some people turned out later on in life.
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  I'm now 45 years old. I was born in 1976.
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  I've seen countless marriages go bad.
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  I've seen countless parenting go bad, where kids ended up getting
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  on drugs, joining gangs, getting into bad shit, failing at
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  school. I've seen young women get
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  pregnant before they're even grown up enough to even be
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  considered anything but a kid themself.
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  So I really didn't have any reason to think at all that
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  having children myself would be a good idea.
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  And on top of that, I've always been pretty damn poor.
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  Not poor like in living in Africa pulling flies and maggots
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  out of my fucking hair. Kind of poor, but the kind of
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  poor that makes it harder to take care of a home that you
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  own. Paying bills, all that kind of
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  shit. I'm one of those type of people
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  and middle America who find it very difficult to afford health
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  insurance. In fact, they don't even have
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  any. I either have to choose between
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  Netflix, live streaming or being able to get worked on when I get
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  sick. I come from a family, a lot of
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  them Iris and Indian, and their attitude is unless you're
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  fucking dying, you don't need to go to a hospital.
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  You know if you got fucking cancer, their words are wow.
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  You'll just shrug it off, you fucker.
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  You'll be fine. What doesn't kill you makes you
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  stronger. Why do I need to buy you some
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  floss and toothpaste? Just use a fucking rusty nail.
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  That kind of attitude, Yeah, it's like that.
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  I originally grew up and lived in the city for the longest
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  fucking time and then I moved out in the country and it
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  literally is country. I'm so far out in the fucking
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  woods, ladies and gentlemen, that Jason Voorhees would get
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  lost and be horrified if he tried to walk around here, even
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  though we've got lakes and ponds and rivers and shed.
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  So eventually, obviously, I got older.
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  I ended up meeting a really good woman.
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  I got the nowhere for quite a few years before I tied the knot
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  with her and put a ring on her finger.
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  I remember we had talked off and aren't about doing the whole
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  marriage thing, but I kept on thinking to myself, why do we
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  need a piece of paper? Why do we need a court or church
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  to tell us we're official? As far as I was concerned, I was
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  getting all the benefits of what you'd get in a marriage anyway.
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  But as time went by, my wife, who would become my wife, did
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  decide that it was very important to her.
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  She wanted to have that. She wanted to be able to say,
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  yes, I'm I'm like legally married to this man and we went
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  ahead and debt it. And I think one of the major
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  reasons that convinced me is because one I knew that it would
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  help our the income basis. When you're married to someone,
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  you kind of share the whole taxes and all that kind of
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  stuff. And also, I didn't want my son
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  to be born into a world where his parents weren't actually
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  married. I felt like that was important.
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  So although I loved my woman who would become my wife, it was
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  also important that if I was going to have children that they
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  know that their parents are official, that they're legal and
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  all that kind of stuff, if that makes sense now.
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  I did it for all those reasons before, but later on in my life
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  I'm very happy that I did all that, but most of it was for
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  kind of appropriate reasons or what kind of fit in society.
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  But nowadays I'm glad that I'm married.
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  I'm glad that me and my wife tied the knot.
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  I think that it was a good decision on the basis of love
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  and caring and all that. I'm just saying that during the
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  time I had a different mindset, well, I found out something
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  shocking. I found out that if you bring
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  children into the world and you love them, you spend time with
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  them. Don't be so quick to yelling and
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  screaming or disciplining them by whipping their ass, but
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  actually when they make a mistake or do something wrong,
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  if you can find the patients and yourself to sit down with your
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  kids, explain why something is fucking wrong or immoral or
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  something they shouldn't do. And also explain in great detail
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  what the fucking consequences are of, you know, playing out in
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  the street or drinking poison. That kind of shit.
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  And you give them advice and suggestions and actually pay
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  attention to them and also learn how to not only instruct but
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  also listen to your child. Because believe it or not, as
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  children get older, they start getting really good at
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  communicating what it is that will make them happy, what that
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  will make them feel good. And if you don't look at them
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  like some parents do, as if they're your fucking property,
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  but actually look at them as another human being who didn't
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  ask or choose to be in this fucking world.
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  If you think of them as another person and not just a part of
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  you or just something that you made the decision to have, you
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  think of them as a person who has a mind, a brain free will,
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  and make choices. They're sentient and have a
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  heart as well, and you treat them as such.
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  Surprisingly, you will learn that you will have constructed
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  some decent human beings on the planet, that you will actually
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  have kids that you can be proud of and never disappointed in if
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  you keep what I'm telling you in mind.
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  Too many fucking parents out there.
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  They want a carbon copy of themself.
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  They feel like if their kids don't go from A to B and do
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  things like they do immediately, then their kids ain't worth the
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  shit. There's parents out there
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  nowadays that force their kids to do things that their children
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  don't want. I think that if a kid doesn't
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  want to do something then you shouldn't make them do it.
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  Like for instance my kids told me whenever they were younger I
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  suggested and encourage them to go to church.
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  They said no, don't want to go to church.
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  They were willing to have conversations with their father
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  and their mother about a higher power or the concept of God or
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  their belief system. But they didn't want to go to
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  some church where they were surrounded by strangers
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  listening to some imperfect man behind a podium tell them how to
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  walk with God. They figured if they were going
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  to get any good spiritual advice, it would be from the
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  people that they trusted and loved, people that wouldn't rob
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  them one day down the road or do something scandalous or sinful
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  in their eyes whenever it came to entertainment or anything in
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  this world. You know, if my kids said I need
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  some clothes, if I need this, if I need that, I made sure they
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  had it. They knew summer was almost up.
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  They were getting ready to go back to school.
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  We would sit down and say, what do you need for school?
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  What do you need in order to be as useful as possible in the
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  classroom? The kids would put out a list
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  for me, we'd go to the store and we would get what they needed.
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  A lot of parents nowadays, they don't even care when they're
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  going grocery shopping. They want the kid to be quiet.
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  Instead of telling the kid to be quiet and expect the kid to be
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  completely chill out in the store, why don't you try having
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  a conversation with them? Like say, So what do you think?
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  Should we get some milk and orange juice?
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  Should we get this? Tell them that the orange juice
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  has vitamins in it. That milk in some ways, is good
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  for you. Unless you got a relative who's
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  got some kind of problem with drinking milk.
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  I forget what the word is called lactose or something.
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  I've got some family members like that where they get sick if
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  they drink milk, so they get the shits.
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  So you got to be careful with that.
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  So I ended up finding out that as long as you love your kids,
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  as long as you truly, sincerely love your kids, your kids are
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  going to feel that vibe. They're going to know it.
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  And I also discovered that kids tend to respect you if they're
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  doing something wrong, and you make sure you spend time with
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  them explaining things. They really appreciate that.
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  They really appreciate the fact. And even if it seems like at the
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  moment when you're disciplining them that they're not enjoying
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  it or they're rolling their eyes, later on they will be
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  telling you stories. That I remember when I was
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  little, Dad, and you did this and you told me that.
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  And I remember I wasn't happy then.
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  But I thank you for, you know, what you've done, how you
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  fathered me, how you were the man in my life that took care of
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  us and all that kind of thing. That's one thing you got to
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  realize by kids. Nobody likes to be told that
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  they're doing wrong. Nobody likes to be told you're
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  not doing that right. But if you do it in a sensible,
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  decent way, like you would with any other human being.
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  You're not going to offend them or hurt them or make them feel
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  uncomfortable or awkward in that position.
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  A lot of parents nowadays, I've noticed whenever I've had a lot
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  of friends, where some of them, their parents would just the
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  first thing they would do when they were mad at their kid was
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  yell or scream on top of their lungs or instantly tell them to
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  get in their damn room where you're grounded.
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  Or you know, some parents, I watched them beat the shit out
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  of their kids and all that over something trivial or minute.
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  I got to say that. And all the time that I have
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  been a father, I've only had to spank my son once, give him a
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  couple swats across the ass because he decided that he
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  wanted to grab some stuff out of the store whenever we were
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  getting ready to leave. And I had already explained to
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  him a few times that you don't take things that aren't yours.
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  He was still a a young boy whenever he did it.
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  So you know, I didn't get all, you know, Charles Bronson on his
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  ass or anything, but I gave him a couple swats and I said that's
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  no, no. And because I rarely ever
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  spanked him or rarely did anything, that was the first
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  time I remember him thinking, man, I don't want any more of
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  that shit. I don't want Dad's big old hand
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  or Paul going across my ass in a mall like fashion.
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  So that I took care of that. Yep.
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  I see a lot of parenting. A lot of parents do wrong
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  because a lot of them don't seem like they ever want to have
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  kids. They don't seem like they want
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  to be patient. A lot of parents have gotten
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  into this routine where they work all day and then they don't
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  spend any time with their kids. When they do come home, they're
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  exhausted, they're tired, They're pissed off about their
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  day, and then they either take it out on their spouse or the
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  children that they have and they're rarely there and they
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  leave it up to the government and the schools to raise their
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  children for them or their grandparents and all that kind
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  of shit. I didn't have that benefit when
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  my kids were growing up. My grandmother ended up dying
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  and my real mother ended up passing away years back while my
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  boy was still a baby. So my kids never had that.
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  There was never anybody I could call on the phone and say, hey,
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  can you watch my kids? Can you do this?
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  And plus I have. Me and my wife had seen so many
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  videos and so much shit where people would hire babysitters
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  and then the babysitters would abuse the kids or do horrible
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  things to them and shit or scared them.
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  So my wife and I decided if we're going to bring kids in the
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  world, then we're going to be responsible for them.
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  When we go to the store, we take them with us, We go anywhere the
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  kids come with us. And that also kind of helped us
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  because it kept us away from parties.
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  It kept us away from shit that might have got some young adults
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  like my wife and I in serious trouble.
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  If we were only willing to go places that were acceptable for
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  children, then that meant that we weren't going to be the kind
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  of parents that were going out the bars and drinking and doing
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  stupid shit. Instead, we were being the
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  adults that were required in order to take care of kids.
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  A lot of people, they're now like that.
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  There's some people who think it's a good idea to go out to a
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  party with their friends, even if they're adults, drink their
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  ass off, and then come home vomiting and falling all over
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  the place in front of their own children.
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  And of course some assholes get addicted and then they start
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  becoming a problem for their spouses and their kids.
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  Drugs, alcohol, all that kind of shit.
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  My kids never had to worry about that.
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  I've always had a clear, stable mind.
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  The only thing my kids have ever had to deal with, whenever it
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  comes to me that was negative was having to deal with my
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  health issues. As I've gotten older, I've had a
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  lot of problems and all that, and that's something they've had
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  to experience and deal with. And also, my daughter has had
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  some health issues in the past that involved a lot of doctor
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  stuff. But besides that, we made sure
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  she made it to her appointments, made sure she got her medicine,
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  yadda yadda yadda. And it is what it is.
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  I think a lot of parents who do want their kids to be
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  successful, they don't want their kids to be successful in
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  the way where a kid is successful based upon their own
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  accomplishments or what they desire to do.
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  Have you noticed that some parents, they only think their
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  kid can be successful is that their kid does exactly the kind
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  of same shit they do or inherit their career or job that they
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  have. Our parents hate it whenever
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  they hear that their kid did something good that has nothing
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  to do with what they're capable of or what they know how to do.
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  A lot of parents don't understand that if the kid says
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  I really enjoy doing a job that you would have never done, you
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  should still tell them I'm proud of you.
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  I think that's great. I'm glad that you found
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  something that makes you happy. I'm glad that you found
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  something that gets you paid so you can pay your bills and do
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  your stuff. Unless your kid is getting into
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  something that is dangerous to them or, you know, being a porn
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  star or something. Really, anything they do,
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  whether it's computers, design, or working in a factory or even
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  a restaurant, you should tell them I'm proud of you.
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  You're proud of them because there's a lot of kids out there
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  that don't even know the first fucking thing about what they're
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  going to do or what they can do with their life.
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  If your kids start getting jobs and doing things, which I've
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  seen my son and then daughter do, and they're making their own
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  money and they're making the world, one of the things I'm
• 26:19
  most appreciative of being a father is, is that I know that
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  if I died tomorrow, my kids would be able to take care of
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  themselves. That's awesome.
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  I can't tell you how much anxiety I had when I first
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  brought my son in the world. I was like, what is my kids
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  going to do? How long do I need to exist or
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  be alive until they realize what they got to do?
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  How old will they be by that time?
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  And I that's a realistic fear ladies and gentlemen, because
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  I've seen so many fucking people out there.
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  I've seen things on the news where some kids never grow up
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  and they stay in their parents house till they're like fucking
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  40 years old and don't do anything for themselves.
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  And that's terrible. My son, by the time he was 22
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  years old, said actually at about between 18 and 20, he
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  decided he wanted to move into his own home.
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  He said I'm ready to drive. I'm ready to have my own home.
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  And he did it. He got it going.
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  We helped him out a bit. We made sure that he got some
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  good deals and some stuff and he did well for himself.
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  And my daughter's doing great. She's still living with us and
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  all that, But she had a she's had a bit more of a difficult
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  time because of her health issues and all that.
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  So it's going to be a little bit of time before she goes out of
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  the house. But she's already got her a good
• 27:51
  job. She started doing good things.
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  People have to realize when you're raising kids, it's not
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  like some kind of a job performance rating.
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  It's not about just how well you can perform because some people
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  don't have a whole lot of tools, some people don't have a lot of
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  money, some people don't have a lot of resources.
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  But the kids are not going to think about that kind of shit.
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  Maybe when they get older they'll be aware of, hey, we
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  don't have what these people have, but you need to teach them
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  not to covenant other people's stuff in the 1st place.
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  Don't idolize others. Just be yourself and do the best
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  you can in life, the thing you're going to be graded on as
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  a parent does. Did you love them?
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  Did you care about them? Were you there for them when
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  they needed you? When they needed someone to
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  listen to, When they needed someone to hold them and when
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  they needed to be hugged when their heart was broken?
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  These are the kind of things you're going to be graded on as
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  a parent from your own children. Doesn't fucking matter what
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  other people think. Doesn't matter what some
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  stranger outside of your home thinks.
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  Did you love your kid? Did you love your child?
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  That is the only thing that fucking matters.
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  It's not about how rich you are or how successful you are at
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  your job or your career. Whenever it comes to parenting,
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  it comes to Were you there? Can your kid?
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  Once you have left this world, can your kid honestly and
• 29:31
  sincerely look another person in the eye and say My father was
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  good to me, He loved me. He seen me as being the most
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  important thing in his life. And that's how you got to look
• 29:45
  at your children. You got to look at them as God's
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  gift to you, God's blessing to you that they originally came
• 29:54
  from God. They are not yours.
• 29:56
  They are not your property. But they are sentient human
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  beings that God put in your life to love and care about and
• 30:05
  experience joy with. And that's how you become a good
• 30:11
  father or mother. Cherish the little things, don't
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  cause your little ones to stumble.
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  Love them, care for them. But to be honest with you, the
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  most important thing that a lot of adults need to learn how to
• 30:27
  do, You need to grow up, and you need to learn how to love
• 30:31
  yourself. Because I've always said this,
• 30:35
  if you don't learn how to love yourself and care about yourself
• 30:39
  and your needs, then you have no business trying to love somebody
• 30:45
  else. Because if you don't even know
• 30:47
  how to love yourself or take care of yourself, then you're
• 30:49
  not going to know how to love somebody else, right?
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  And all of your insecurities will subconsciously or
• 30:57
  unconsciously, continue to be pushed down on the other person
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  you're with, whether they're your child or your spouse.
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  Love and accept yourself for who you are.
• 31:08
  And once you do that, you have room in your life and the skills
• 31:12
  and the learning and the education to be able to love
• 31:15
  someone else and take care of someone else.
• 31:20
  Yes, our kids are a part of us. They are genetically a part of
• 31:25
  us. But they are God's gift to us.
• 31:28
  Don't look at them like a slave or some kind of property or a
• 31:32
  carbon copy of yourself. Do not imagine or fantasize or
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  visualize in your head that they have to do everything you do or
• 31:41
  commit to everything you've committed to in order to be
• 31:44
  considered good. Besides, a lot of parents
• 31:48
  nowadays, they forget that they used to be kids too.
• 31:52
  They forget that they have made a lot of mistakes before they
• 31:55
  became the person they are now. And when people forget that, and
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  you raise your kids and expect your kid to ultimately be
• 32:04
  perfect like you perceive yourself to be, well, you're
• 32:08
  going to have a lot of problems with that.
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  To be an adult, to be a man or a woman, you have to have a lot of
• 32:15
  experiences. Making mistakes is just as
• 32:18
  important as accomplishing things.
• 32:21
  Making mistakes gives you the opportunity to be able to learn
• 32:25
  and make better decisions and be able to accept the opportunities
• 32:29
  when they come. So yeah, and that's the deal.
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  I hope that with all my description and explanation of
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  myself as well as my wife and how we raised our kids, this
• 32:45
  will give people an idea on how not to do bad parenting and how
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  to be good. Not just good parents, but good
• 32:52
  people. Good people tend to make good
• 32:57
  kids. That's the way it is if you're a
• 33:01
  bad person. Or and because there are some
• 33:05
  bad people out there who actually think in their head
• 33:08
  that they're actually good when they're not.
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  And then they wonder why it is their kids end up totally fucked
• 33:15
  or stupid. Well, that's the reason.
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  All right, Ladies and gentlemen, I hope you enjoyed the video.
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• 33:25
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• 33:26
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• 33:30
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• 33:34
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