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00 | Listening Louder · Where We Rise

• 0:00
  Khalila McCoy: Hey there, welcome to Where We Rise.
• 0:02
  Khalila McCoy: My name is Khalila, and I'm so excited that you are here with me.
• 0:06
  Khalila McCoy: This is gonna be so much fun, and I'm so excited to share all of the things, all of the things with you.
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  Khalila McCoy: Now, when I say all the things, you're like, okay, what things?
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  Khalila McCoy: We're gonna have such great conversations with different people.
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  Khalila McCoy: The point of this podcast is for people to get on here and share about their lives, to share about a joy, to share about a struggle, to share about a circumstance, to share about anything that they feel they want the world to know.
• 0:34
  Khalila McCoy: I truly believe that every single one of us has a story to tell.
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  Khalila McCoy: Every single one of us has something that can help and improve the life of others.
• 0:44
  Khalila McCoy: So let me tell you about how this podcast came to be.
• 0:48
  Khalila McCoy: I love talking to people.
• 0:51
  Khalila McCoy: I tell people all the time one of my favorite things to do is to talk to strangers.
• 0:56
  Khalila McCoy: I've had strangers just start talking to me and opening up to me about very personal and private things.
• 1:03
  Khalila McCoy: And I'm sure some of you listening have had that same experience.
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  Khalila McCoy: And when that's happening, like in my head, I'm like, wow, like I don't even know you and you're sharing this with me.
• 1:13
  Khalila McCoy: But also, I'm not thinking that in a weirded-out type of way.
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  Khalila McCoy: I'm thinking of that in such an honored way.
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  Khalila McCoy: Like you don't know me, but you feel comfortable enough to share these intimate details about your life with me.
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  Khalila McCoy: And I understand that it might not just be me.
• 1:29
  Khalila McCoy: You might just have had the day and need it to get off your chest.
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  Khalila McCoy: And I just happen to be there, but I still feel honored to be that person to be there, to listen to them and help them.
• 1:39
  Khalila McCoy: I don't want to say that I help them in any way, but I just give them that space and that opportunity to share what they're thinking.
• 1:46
  Khalila McCoy: But one cool thing that I feel like I do is I'm a very reflective person.
• 1:50
  Khalila McCoy: So after I've had these conversations and heard these intimate details, I always take it back and think, okay, what did I learn from this situation?
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  Khalila McCoy: What did I learn about myself?
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  Khalila McCoy: What was I thinking when they were saying things?
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  Khalila McCoy: Was I being judgmental in my head?
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  Khalila McCoy: Was I learning new information?
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  Khalila McCoy: Am I now aware of a different perspective that I didn't know existed?
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  Khalila McCoy: Does it give me pause to think in the future?
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  Khalila McCoy: How am I going to handle a situation that might come around like that?
• 2:17
  Khalila McCoy: And it also gives me things to be thankful for.
• 2:20
  Khalila McCoy: It gives me things to be mindful of.
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  Khalila McCoy: It gives me reasons to pray.
• 2:24
  Khalila McCoy: It gives me reasons to laugh.
• 2:26
  Khalila McCoy: It gives me reasons to, when I see somebody else, kind of respond to them differently than I might have had I not had that conversation with that person.
• 2:35
  Khalila McCoy: Whenever somebody talks, especially when they're telling us about themselves, when they're opening up about themselves, I love the line that says, we need to listen louder than we speak.
• 2:47
  Khalila McCoy: I've had people tell me some things that I'm like, hmm, that's very interesting, but like in a negative way.
• 2:53
  Khalila McCoy: But the more I hear them speak, I understand their lives and where they're coming from and why they might feel the way they feel.
• 3:00
  Khalila McCoy: It doesn't necessarily mean that I change how I feel or I change my core values, but it gives me a different perspective.
• 3:07
  Khalila McCoy: It gives me a different way to now engage with the next person that I meet or to understand why somebody acts or reacts the way they do or doesn't react or act the way I think they should.
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  Khalila McCoy: It helps me to grow as a human being.
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  Khalila McCoy: It helps me to rise.
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  Khalila McCoy: Get it?
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  Khalila McCoy: That's where it is.
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  Khalila McCoy: That's where we rise, right?
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  Khalila McCoy: When we take the time to truly understand those around us, we elevate not only ourselves but our community.
• 3:33
  Khalila McCoy: And we can share, we can share those lessons.
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  Khalila McCoy: When we listen to others, when we allow other people to share a little bit of themselves, we become better.
• 3:47
  Khalila McCoy: We become stronger in that relationship and as an individual because it elevates our next conversation, it elevates our next interaction.
• 3:56
  Khalila McCoy: And there's always a place to rise.
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  Khalila McCoy: No matter where you are, you can rise, you can do better, you can encourage and love and guide.
• 4:05
  Khalila McCoy: So that's kind of the point of this: just to have chill, laid-back conversations with just everyday ordinary people.
• 4:13
  Khalila McCoy: And we get to dive into their lives.
• 4:15
  Khalila McCoy: They are, you know, they know what they're getting into.
• 4:17
  Khalila McCoy: They're choosing to come on to this show and just share something that's important to them.
• 4:23
  Khalila McCoy: I truly believe that every single person has a story to tell.
• 4:27
  Khalila McCoy: Everybody has an experience.
• 4:29
  Khalila McCoy: Everybody has something that they can say that can inspire and help other people.
• 4:34
  Khalila McCoy: I have gained so much from these types of conversations.
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  Khalila McCoy: I feel like I have not that I'm like this great, wonderful, amazing person.
• 4:41
  Khalila McCoy: I mean, I think I'm pretty cool.
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  Khalila McCoy: And hopefully you'll think so too, as we journey together.
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  Khalila McCoy: But I think that because I've had these experiences talking to different people, I can look at people differently and I can create relationships with people easily because of what I've learned in the past.
• 5:00
  Khalila McCoy: And I want that for everybody.
• 5:02
  Khalila McCoy: I want that for you too.
• 5:04
  Khalila McCoy: And again, I'm not expecting you to be like, oh, I'm a brand new person tomorrow after hearing the first episode.
• 5:12
  Khalila McCoy: But I really want you to reflect and think and just, you know, like I said, is it, is this story now giving you gratitude for the life that you live?
• 5:21
  Khalila McCoy: Is it pushing you to change something?
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  Khalila McCoy: Is it driving you to now go talk to somebody else that you weren't talking to before or have a new perspective?
• 5:29
  Khalila McCoy: What can you take from the conversations that you hear?
• 5:33
  Khalila McCoy: And at the end of every conversation, I'm gonna ask the person who's sharing, based on what you've shared with us today, how can we rise?
• 5:43
  Khalila McCoy: What is it that you want us as listeners to take away from this conversation?
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  Khalila McCoy: Because I think that's so important.
• 5:48
  Khalila McCoy: A lot of times we say things and we're misunderstood, or the point that we think we're making doesn't necessarily get across.
• 5:56
  Khalila McCoy: So I wanna give my guests the opportunity to get their point across and for you to hear what their point is.
• 6:03
  Khalila McCoy: And I love that because sometimes when they're talking, you're gonna be like, oh, I didn't get that at all.
• 6:08
  Khalila McCoy: I got something completely different, which is fine because there's so much that we can take from what people say.
• 6:14
  Khalila McCoy: But I think it's so important for the person who's telling their story, who's sharing their life to let us know what they wanted us to get from it, how they felt they came off in this situation, how they grew and what they wanted you to really hone in on.
• 6:30
  Khalila McCoy: And then we just take that and we grow with that.
• 6:33
  Khalila McCoy: So always reflective, always listening louder than you're speaking.
• 6:38
  Khalila McCoy: I want you to hear what everybody has to say, and I want everybody to be heard.
• 6:42
  Khalila McCoy: Again, I'm just so excited for this journey.
• 6:44
  Khalila McCoy: I hope I did a good job explaining why this podcast came to be.
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  Khalila McCoy: No matter where you might be when this podcast is playing, what you might be doing, I really hope you take the time to soak in the real conversation, give yourself some time to reflect, and then go and share with others.