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Season 2 - Episode 135 - Finding what you expect · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Whoop. So you know, the old phrase, you
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  get what you expect. I'm gonna put a Twist on that.
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  And say you find what? You expect, you don't have to
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  keep it. Meaning, you get it.
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  Yeah, you don't have to keep it but you'll definitely find it.
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  And this is a very tricky subject to navigate, because
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  people will argue this point with me regularly.
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  And they'll say, well, it's right in front of me and say,
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  yes, but how is it right in front of you?
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  Why is it right in front of you? And there is a Is a real
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  struggle with that because we will vacillate as human beings,
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  back and forth, back and forth, back and forth between the idea
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  of it's there and I see it. And this is a behavior or a
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  situation that continues in my life and I don't like it and I'm
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  working to fix it. But the real question is, do you
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  expect it? Do you expect that?
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  To be there. Do you expect that person to act
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  a certain way? Do you expect someone to change
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  and or do you expect them to say the same you, when you start
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  really thinking about the expectations and you start to
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  delineate them? All you find that there is a
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  huge piece of this that comes down to the fact that you have a
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  thought process behind the scenes that's constantly a
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  never-ending Lee working. It's Is going on, always going
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  on, always feeding the stream of Consciousness and those thoughts
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  start to show up in reality over and over and over again.
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  So let's, let's do this for a minute in reference to a
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  situation where someone acts away you don't necessarily like
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  that person really acts away that you don't like and you, you
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  know, you want that to change. You really don't like it, you
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  think it's annoying, you think it's frustrating, you feel
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  disrespected, whatever it might be.
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  Be you have an operating system behind the scenes that is trying
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  to constantly protect you. When you're this is and this is
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  your brain is constantly trying to protect you and it's constant
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  necessity to protect you. It is going through the process
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  and it is telling you handedly that there is a danger, danger,
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  danger, like member that show those Lost in Space.
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  Danger Will Robinson danger and the Robert robot you To say that
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  all the time because it was trying to protect him.
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  Well, that's similar to how what happens in your brain now, how
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  can change take place, how can something shift when you expect
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  the absolute opposite of it. Well, theoretically it cannot
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  because you have to be the first Catalyst for it.
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  You have to be the first Catalyst, you have to have the
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  ability to see or to let go, at least to neutralize.
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  Now you know, often we talk about You don't have to go all
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  the way from having happy drive the bus or so, having anger
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  drive the bus all the way to happy because it's a big driver
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  shift. But you can at least get to
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  neutral and have somebody driving that bus.
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  That's just, you know, ambivalent about it or just
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  completely neutralized. And this is where you're the
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  only person that can do it. You have to come in and say,
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  okay, I'm expecting this person to be a jackass.
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  Or I'm expecting this person to be.
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  This and you got to be honest with yourself.
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  Because once, you know, you can fix it.
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  So, our expectations are a true drivers in so many different
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  ways because they are the most consistent thoughts, that happen
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  behind the scenes, and overriding them takes work and
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  effort. It's not easy, but it can be
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  done, of course. But the reality is, it's running
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  behind the scenes and unless and until you decide to really take
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  a look at that and figure it out, you're going to have a
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  struggle with it because it will I'll keep it, we'll keep at it
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  and we'll keep at it. It will keep at it until you
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  make a distinction and say, okay, this has to be fixed.
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  I don't like this. I'm not, I'm not going to put up
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  with this with myself. So how do you do that?
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  Well, the very first thing is you have to say, in these
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  situations. Once you identify it, you have
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  to say, Okay, do I expect this person to show up this way or do
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  I expect this to be a failure? Do I expect it to be a success?
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  And the only reason I'm leaning more towards - right in this
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  moment because this works for the positive.
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  And the negative is that we're hardwired for these challenges
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  to be - we we are hard-wired to keep those negative things
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  coming and it's just part of how we are wired to protect
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  ourselves. We look for what's wrong, end of
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  story. That's what happens.
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  So, we find things because Law of Attraction, says, when you
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  look for something, you create it, so There you have it and
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  until we make those distinctions and we shift them, we can't get
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  out of it. So today I'm going to ask you to
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  really look and shift and see what in the in your world.
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  What in your world are you expecting?
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  And instead of getting it, you know, don't expect to get it.
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  You'll find it. But you don't have to keep it.
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  Give it back. If it's not what you want, give
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  it back and change what you're expecting.
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  All right, my friends. I hope you have have a blessed
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  day and I'll see you tomorrow. Bye.