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Waking Up to a Nightmare · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: This is Teddy Tea Pod with Hey guys, welcome back
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  Speaker 1: to this week's Teddy Tea Pod. I am on with
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  Speaker 1: my best deed Matt. I'm so happy he is going
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  Speaker 1: to co host with me today because I am officially
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  Speaker 1: a hot mess express like new Poor Matt has been
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  Speaker 1: getting text for me since like four in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: How do you feeling this morning, Matt? Thankfully? This is
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  Speaker 1: just audio, I mean, okay, So just to give you
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  Speaker 1: guys a little backstory if you don't know, I opened
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  Speaker 1: up my Instagram yesterday and just said, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: do this week's Teddy Tea Pod and I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: answer your questions, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
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  Speaker 1: Submit them all. Let's do this. I'm going to answer everything.
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  Speaker 1: And I was so excited to do it, not necessarily
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  Speaker 1: realizing what ally was going to come out. Because the
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  Speaker 1: show actually aired, You guys are gonna be listening to
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  Speaker 1: this on Monday, but we recorded it on Thursday. So
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  Speaker 1: um we are day after Real Housewives aired, and I
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  Speaker 1: woke up at one o'clock last night in the morning,
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  Speaker 1: looked at my Instagram and I probably had I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: over a hundred comments like wishing me dead, wishing harm
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  Speaker 1: on my kids, Like it's just unreal, which is why,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I had the choice of not saying anything,
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  Speaker 1: um because people are always going, oh, you know, don't
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  Speaker 1: let the haters get to you, don't don't let the
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  Speaker 1: trolls get to you. That feeds the trolls. But I
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  Speaker 1: was like, that's not who I am. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: do that. I'm gonna actually say that this is not right.
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  Speaker 1: I people don't have to like me, people don't have
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  Speaker 1: to agree with me, but I am on a TV
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  Speaker 1: show that is revolved around drama, and people that don't
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  Speaker 1: understand that is it's a little crazy to me. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't mind if people want to comment on my
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  Speaker 1: behavior or any of those types of things. But Death's
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  Speaker 1: taking it a little far. Yeah, when you text me
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  Speaker 1: that's it's crazy. Like As an avid housewife fan, as
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  Speaker 1: you know, since before you even wear a housewife, I
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  Speaker 1: know you and you are able to take criticism. I
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  Speaker 1: criticize you all the time, well, everyone does. To the
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  Speaker 1: level that some of these people take it is just
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  Speaker 1: out of control. And I don't know necessarily what you
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  Speaker 1: can do to get a handle handle on it, you know,
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  Speaker 1: but to someone to to write to you on your
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  Speaker 1: social media and tell you that, like your kids getting
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  Speaker 1: hurt is karma is just the most disgusting, vile thing
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  Speaker 1: and something has to be done about it. Like people, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean I think you know, I know, I watched
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  Speaker 1: TV for an entertainment value, and it's normal to have
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  Speaker 1: your favorite, whether it's a scripted show or not scripted show.
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  Speaker 1: You have your favorites, you have your ones. You can't
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  Speaker 1: stand whatever it is. And I get that, and that's
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  Speaker 1: the point of an escape and watching a show. But
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  Speaker 1: wanting to harm people or wanting people to harm themselves
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  Speaker 1: is really a place where you're just like what's going
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  Speaker 1: on in this world? Where you know, I appreciate when
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  Speaker 1: I have a good TV show to bene watch right now,
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  Speaker 1: because then I'm like, oh great, let's I'm loving this.
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  Speaker 1: I have this escape right now. I'm not then going
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  Speaker 1: on their instagrams, like I'm not going after the Real
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  Speaker 1: Housewives of Potomacs, the ones that I'm like, not liking
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  Speaker 1: what they're doing right now, telling them I hope that
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  Speaker 1: they die. I mean, it's just crazy. It's honestly, it's insane,
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  Speaker 1: But that you know, you can't let it bother you.
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  Speaker 1: It's just words from faithless dog profile people, and let
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  Speaker 1: it rull off. I know, I know. Well, speaking of
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  Speaker 1: where where do we start with the questions? Well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: why don't we save the housewife chatter for a little
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  Speaker 1: later and get into like some family questions because you know,
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  Speaker 1: your three children each have gone through something and people
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  Speaker 1: are very interested to know how they're all doing. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so you know, fill us in. We got a lot
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  Speaker 1: of questions about your kids. Okay. So, um Slate and
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  Speaker 1: her finger are one hundred percent healed. She is doing great,
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  Speaker 1: Like right now, she's like we can probably hear her
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  Speaker 1: yelling in the background. She's like throwing a football. She's
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  Speaker 1: you know, recovered and um dove mobility, full mobility. She
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  Speaker 1: can write with her right hand. Again. Everything is as
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  Speaker 1: good it looks. You know, if you didn't you know,
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  Speaker 1: if you didn't know about it, you wouldn't notice. Um
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  Speaker 1: it looks slightly different, but they said, with time, it'll
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  Speaker 1: just continue to start to match her other fingers. And
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  Speaker 1: you know, more importantly, she's not in any pain from it.
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  Speaker 1: She has no nerve damage or anything like that, so
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  Speaker 1: that's huge, um Dove surgery went so amazing. I was
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  Speaker 1: so worried and so concerned like how hard it was
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  Speaker 1: going to be on her, And really what it told
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  Speaker 1: me was how resilient kids are. I mean even in
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  Speaker 1: the hospital. I mean, she hasn't stitches all across her head.
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  Speaker 1: It's like a zigzag hand headband over her her head.
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  Speaker 1: She's smiling, laughing. One day her eyes were completely swollen shut.
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  Speaker 1: The next day she woke up smiling and the swelling
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  Speaker 1: had gone down. We thought we were going to be
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  Speaker 1: in the hospital for seven days. We were out after four. Um,
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  Speaker 1: she is you know, she still takes Thailand a couple
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  Speaker 1: of times a day, but that's it. Um she started
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  Speaker 1: sleeping through the night again. And now we're just in
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  Speaker 1: that next phase. So she's had one follow up a
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  Speaker 1: point men, and then she'll have one more UM and
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  Speaker 1: at that appointment, then we'll start having to go in
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  Speaker 1: where she's probably gonna need to wear the doc band,
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  Speaker 1: which is like the helmet that will work on the reshaping.
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  Speaker 1: But I mean she is such a rock star, so happy,
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  Speaker 1: you know it really remember like reminds you, like how
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  Speaker 1: kids are way stronger than their parents, because like she's
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  Speaker 1: you wouldn't wouldn't even know anything was going on. Um.
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  Speaker 1: And then when I was in the hospital with Dove,
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  Speaker 1: Cruise fell off his bike. Um, no one mentions anything
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  Speaker 1: to me about any such things. And then when I
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  Speaker 1: get home from the hospital, Cruise walks in to give
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  Speaker 1: me a hug and he's like, hey, Mom, and I
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  Speaker 1: immediately look at his thumb and I'm like, what's up
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  Speaker 1: with your thumb? And he's like, oh, I fell off
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  Speaker 1: my bike, but it's okay. And I was like, uh, like,
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  Speaker 1: can you move it? And he's like no. I'm like
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  Speaker 1: I don't think it's okay. Then, and I took him
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  Speaker 1: to an orthoptis and you know, the guy was amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Cracked me up, like did an X ray on Cruise
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  Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, Cruise, have you ever had any
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  Speaker 1: broken bones? And he's like nope. And the order the
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  Speaker 1: petis goes, well you do now, and so yes, he's casted,
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  Speaker 1: but he is excited that it's a waterproof cast. And
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  Speaker 1: you know, I said, why didn't you mention to me
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  Speaker 1: when we are on the phone yesterday that you heard
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  Speaker 1: your thumb And he goes, Mom, I knew there was
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  Speaker 1: going to be an elevator, and you know, I don't
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  Speaker 1: like going to elevators to go to the doctor, so
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  Speaker 1: I just figured i'd tell everyone I was fine. Nobody
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  Speaker 1: likes elevators right now, Cruiz. So that's the update on
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  Speaker 1: the kiddos. But they're all good, playing happy, so I'm
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  Speaker 1: grateful to that good. And well, speaking of having all
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  Speaker 1: of the children, um, people are asking, how are you
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  Speaker 1: dealing now you have another child? You have four kids,
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  Speaker 1: often with Bella coming to be with you. Guys, how
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  Speaker 1: are you working and managing a larger family? I mean, well,
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  Speaker 1: first off, I would say most of the time we
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  Speaker 1: are home now, so that that can make things easier
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  Speaker 1: and also more challenging. Um. You know, I think the
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  Speaker 1: first part is with having a bunch of kids that
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  Speaker 1: you know, have different things they want to do in
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  Speaker 1: different schedules. You know, normally you're going to a million
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  Speaker 1: different after school things, or you're going to you know,
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  Speaker 1: gymnastics about that's not happening now. You know, we're pretty
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  Speaker 1: much home, so that's that's made it easier, um, and
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  Speaker 1: but also it's made it a little trickier. You know, Dove,
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  Speaker 1: I haven't been able to do any of the things
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  Speaker 1: that I loved doing with the other kids, like the
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  Speaker 1: mom and me classes and all those type of things.
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  Speaker 1: So you know, there's there's good parts and bad parts
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  Speaker 1: about this, but the biggest thing is like our kids
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  Speaker 1: are really connected to each other's best friends. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: also not going to say that I don't have help.
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  Speaker 1: I think, you know, nothing I can't stand more than
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  Speaker 1: when a mom's like, you know, I just do it all.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I have a million dollars in a day.
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  Speaker 1: I never sleep. No, Like, we have somebody, her name's
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  Speaker 1: Maria that lives with us. She didn't live with us
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  Speaker 1: before the pandemic, but then once that happened, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I want to move in and she did
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  Speaker 1: and she you know, she really helps out a lot
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  Speaker 1: with with baby Dove and with cooking and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm very lucky to have help this time around.
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  Speaker 1: Um And yeah, so that that's really how I managed
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  Speaker 1: to be perfectly honest, staying in the same lane a
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  Speaker 1: little bit. People are also wondering, Uh, you know, they
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  Speaker 1: have kids, and they're saying in their marriages, how do
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  Speaker 1: they find time to you know, have spouse time, fun time?
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  Speaker 1: Are you how do you how do you find time
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  Speaker 1: for you? And Ed went to sneak away and laugh.
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  Speaker 1: Oftentimes it happens during the day time, like when they
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  Speaker 1: are like Dove maybe napping, the kids are doing something
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  Speaker 1: on their own, so we're more daytimers. Plus you know,
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  Speaker 1: cruises our roommate, so it makes things more challenging. Um,
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  Speaker 1: he is still sleeping in your room every night, in
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  Speaker 1: our room, not our bed, but in our room. He
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  Speaker 1: has his own little bed in there, And so when
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  Speaker 1: will you transition that out? When do you think the
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  Speaker 1: time is for that? It's unclear because the other day
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  Speaker 1: I was just joking. He was like being a chatter
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  Speaker 1: box before we went to bed, and I said, Cruise,
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  Speaker 1: keep this up. You're not gonna be our roommate anymore.
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  Speaker 1: And then he like fully he didn't get the joke.
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  Speaker 1: He didn't think I was like, he was sobbing so
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  Speaker 1: many hugs, Like Mom, you told me I was a
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  Speaker 1: good roommate. What if I getting footed out? So I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. I'm sure there's gonna be a point in
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  Speaker 1: time where he doesn't want to be our roommate anymore.
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  Speaker 1: But we'll have to say, did you deal with any
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  Speaker 1: postpartum with Dove? Not any postpartum like depression, Um, I have.
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  Speaker 1: I always struggle with anxiety, um, and so that definitely
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  Speaker 1: is there and is prevalent um still uh, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and and it's only been exacerbated by so many things
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  Speaker 1: that you know, you don't have answers for, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like we you know, for a while we're trying to
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  Speaker 1: figure out school is going to happen, or when filming
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  Speaker 1: is going to start back or what you know, whatever
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  Speaker 1: may be all the things that you can't control or
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  Speaker 1: dove surgery. Do you want control of it? So yes, um,
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  Speaker 1: And for me it's just huge. You know that I'm
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  Speaker 1: able to go on a run or a walk or
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  Speaker 1: journal or do those things, and you know, but some
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  Speaker 1: days it doesn't go away. Um. So advice for someone
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  Speaker 1: who is, you know, suffering from a bit of postpartum,
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  Speaker 1: do you have any specific tips or tools you would
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  Speaker 1: I would say definitely talk to your doctor. I know,
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  Speaker 1: even every time I go into the pediatrician office, they
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  Speaker 1: have me fill out a form now that says like
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  Speaker 1: how I'm currently feeling. And there's so many resources out there,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm grateful that people are so much more
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  Speaker 1: open about it now. I think for a long time,
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  Speaker 1: people didn't discuss it, but I had, you know, definitely
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  Speaker 1: had postpartum depression after Slate and I hit it and
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  Speaker 1: I tried to hide it from everybody, and it was
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  Speaker 1: the worst thing I could have done, because it made
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  Speaker 1: me feel worse. And the only way that my husband
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  Speaker 1: even figured it out was because I had my computer
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  Speaker 1: open and it was one of the last things on
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  Speaker 1: my web browser and he's like, why do you why
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  Speaker 1: are you googling postpartum depression? And I remember having this
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  Speaker 1: weird like I was ashamed to admit it because I
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  Speaker 1: felt like I should, you know, be the happiest I
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  Speaker 1: had ever been. And so, you know, the biggest things
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  Speaker 1: to talk to people, you know, talk to a professional. Um.
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  Speaker 1: Some things, yeah, you can cure by being active and
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  Speaker 1: taking care of yourself, but there's some things that you can't,
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  Speaker 1: and you may need medication or you may need, you know,
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  Speaker 1: to speak to therapist. But the biggest thing is reach
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  Speaker 1: out as for help. You're not alone, be open and
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  Speaker 1: talk about it. It's always very good advice. I think
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  Speaker 1: that the one other big question you've got a lot
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  Speaker 1: was about the snow had to google. But people really
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  Speaker 1: want to know if worked. Okay, so the SNeW did work.
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  Speaker 1: It complete game changer. Um. The positive amazing parts of
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  Speaker 1: the Snow is for newborns. Normally you are having to
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  Speaker 1: soothe them to bed every single time they wake up
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  Speaker 1: in the middle of the night. So in the middle
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  Speaker 1: of the night, you feed and then you have to
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  Speaker 1: soothe them back, and then you're trying to like place
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  Speaker 1: them into the bassinet or the carib or wherever you're
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  Speaker 1: having them sleep, and then they get jostled awake because
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  Speaker 1: they have like reflex with the snow that doesn't happen.
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  Speaker 1: You feed burke and then you put them into this
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  Speaker 1: like tight little like um swaddle that x into the snow,
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  Speaker 1: and then it simulates the mother's womb and it soothes
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  Speaker 1: them back to bed. And then if they're crying for
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  Speaker 1: a second, it knows like how fast it needs to
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  Speaker 1: move to soothe the baby. But if it's something else
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  Speaker 1: like the baby went poop, it'll turn off and notify
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  Speaker 1: your phone, so like it means like yeah, like hey,
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  Speaker 1: time to get up and take care of business. This
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  Speaker 1: is something we can't handle here. So it really is
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  Speaker 1: great for those night times because you know you're able
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  Speaker 1: to actually get some sleep. Um, so it's a huge
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  Speaker 1: game changer for me. I did transition Duve out right
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  Speaker 1: at three months because I didn't want you know, it
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  Speaker 1: is a pain to take around. So like if you
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  Speaker 1: when there's a time when you're gonna go on trips
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  Speaker 1: or whatever and you don't have this, you know you're
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: going to be in for a rough couple of nights.
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  Speaker 1: Because I tried to do that when we went to
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  Speaker 1: our beach house and I was like, oh, this is
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  Speaker 1: a doozy. So that's the only you know, hard part,
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  Speaker 1: But it's definitely worth it for first three months. So
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  Speaker 1: three months in the snow and then transferred to a crib. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think you can keep them in there for up
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  Speaker 1: to six months, but I just didn't want to be
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  Speaker 1: so dependent on it in case we are ever allowed
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  Speaker 1: to travel again and whatnot. But um, yeah, and so
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: Ladies said the poopil arts to only your husband. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sure. I don't want to hop right up
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  Speaker 1: for that one. I mean, that's great if we gotta
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: all filled in on the kiddos cruises birthdays coming up.
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  Speaker 1: I know he's a little leo. You only know that
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  Speaker 1: because it's your birthday. Don't try to act like your
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  Speaker 1: friend of the year right here. All right, Well, I
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  Speaker 1: do love me some Cruise. I love his attitude. I
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  Speaker 1: love it. Uh but he's a funny kid. But anyhow,
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  Speaker 1: so happy birthday to Cruise coming up. Um, So let's
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  Speaker 1: transition a bit. You got very fit quickly after you
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: had Dove, um, and that was a conscious choice, like
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  Speaker 1: you knew well you had a fit pregnancy and then
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  Speaker 1: you immediately bounce right back. What was your what is
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  Speaker 1: your main tip to somebody who has just had a
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  Speaker 1: baby that is struggling to get back into fitness. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I think the biggest thing is one knowing every journey
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  Speaker 1: is completely different. So comparison is going to kill any
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  Speaker 1: joy that you have. So if you're you're looking at
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  Speaker 1: me and you're going, oh my gosh, this it fell
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  Speaker 1: right off of her, But you know, whatever, it may
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  Speaker 1: be one that was not the case with slaying Cruise whatsoever.
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  Speaker 1: That's why all in came to you know, fruition was
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  Speaker 1: because I was struggling so much after Cruise on, you know,
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  Speaker 1: finding myself and finding what made me feel good and
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  Speaker 1: take care of myself. So I I hear you. I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot also depends on how you are during
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  Speaker 1: your pregnancy. So if you, you know, weren't active at
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  Speaker 1: all during your pregnancy, I wouldn't suggest jumping right back
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  Speaker 1: into it and expecting your body to be able to
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  Speaker 1: do things that it hasn't done in a very long
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  Speaker 1: long time. So the biggest thing is take care of
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  Speaker 1: your body. You know, listen to your body, make sure
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  Speaker 1: you're drinking water, cutting out things that are unnecessarily like
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  Speaker 1: processed foods, UM, and starting slow, you know, those first
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  Speaker 1: first couple of weeks, I would just you know, go
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  Speaker 1: on walks and um, the first couple of weeks after
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  Speaker 1: I was approved from the doctor that I could start
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  Speaker 1: exercising again, go on walks, go and hikes, things that
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: were better for my mental health. And then also just
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: eating as clean as you can. Well, since you're saying
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  Speaker 1: that people want to know, so take us through a
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  Speaker 1: day of of your like generally, I mean we you know,
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  Speaker 1: things change, things come up, but generally on a day
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  Speaker 1: that you're at home and you're eating, what are your
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: main meals, like, take us through the day of your
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: of what you eat. Okay, So normally I wake up
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  Speaker 1: in the morning early between five and six, Um, I
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  Speaker 1: will have a full glass of water before anything else.
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  Speaker 1: I try to work out first thing because then the
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: kids start to wake up at seven. I do not
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: eat before. If I work out early, I do not eat. UM.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I work out, which is normally either a jog or
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: I go on the bike, and then UM. For breakfast,
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: I either have oatmeal with a little bit of brown sugar,
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: not the pre made oatmeal that has a ton of
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: brown sugar, just regular oatmeal or even an oatmeal from Starbucks.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Add a little brown sugar and some fresh berries. UM.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Then I always will have a morning snack, and that
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: really depends on the day. It could be you know,
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: a handful of cashews, a half avocado, um, you know fruit.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: It's really whatever I have prepped at the house. And
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: then lunch. UM. One of my favorite things for lunch
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: is I make this a rugal of salad with the
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: pre made lintels from Trader Joe's, um, peppers, cucumbers, tomatoes, avocado,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: some balsamic vinegar, and it's so yummy. Have that for lunch.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I'll have an afternoon snack similar to whatever I had
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: for breakfast. I just make sure that it's clean, you know,
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: like I'm not. I'm not gonna eat a protein bar
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: or something that's filled with a bunch of sugars. I'll
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: have natural sugars from fruit of course. And then dinner.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I tend to keep my lightest meal of the day.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: So um, if I go out to dinner, it's something
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: I would normally have, is like the chicken pie yard
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: or I will have um uh, spaghetti squash pasta with
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: you know, even a bolonaise or something. But if I'm home,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: I will have maybe even a soup. It soup fills
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: me up and I love the taste of it, and
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: I feel I have a good night's sleep. If I
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: eat too much right before bed, I don't sleep well. Um.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: And then you know I play it by air. But
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: that's like a standard day. Um. And so what about alcohol?
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: People want to know what you drink. I mean, we
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: know you drink aprol spritzes, but do you know drink Yes,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: I mean appl sprits. But would you say that that
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: is like the skinniest drink. Skinniest people always say, like,
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: what do you drink? That's the healthiest thing for you
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: to drink, And for me, that's not how I drink.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: If I'm gonna drink. It's because I want to drink
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: something I actually enjoy drinking. So yeah, I'll have a
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: skinny spicy mark, not because I'm thinking that's the healthiest option,
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: but because it has taste less sugary, and I enjoy
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: the taste of that better or an apper all sprits
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: or whatever it may be. But I'm not for me,
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to have like a vodka on the
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: rocks because it's the healthiest version of an alcohol for me,
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: because that doesn't taste good. So I would rather drink
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: less times a week or a month or whatever it maybe,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: and drink things I like. Then I have to endure
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: drinking something straight because I'm trying to cut the cows. Well,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I was just saying that this isn't a teddy answer,
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: But you could drink a water which is vodka soda
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: with a squeeze of a lime or lemon, but it's
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: not good. Acasta is delicious, but that's you know, we
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: don't need to Also, I'm not the best on vodka.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: I'm a better tequila drinker. For the record, Well, you
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: do tequila soda with some lime? Um? People want to know,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: and I know you personally, and you've talked about this before,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: but they want to know about the mom pooch, how
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: do you get rid of it? And I know that
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: you wear your high waisted pants because you have a
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: little bit of loose skin, But do you have anything
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: to say about specifically the mom pooch and how to
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: get rid of it? Well, I think a big part,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: you know, first, the mom pooch, I've just kind of
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: learned to embrace a little bit by wearing my highwaisted
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: pants and knowing that like in due time, it will
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: continue to shrink. But also, like abs are made in
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: the kitchen, I could do five million setups and be
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: eating terribly and my stomach isn't going to change. So
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: I think the cleaner and the healthier that you're eating,
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: the more that your midsection is going to change. That
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: being said, if you have loose skin like I have
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: loose skin, you know in my lower abdomen, I don't
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: know if that'll go away now after my third child.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: That being said, do I really care? No, because it's
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: something out of my control. So I think it's really
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: important to focus on the things that we can control
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: instead of obsessing over the things that we can, So,
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: would you ever go in to get it, like any
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: kind of surgery, any any kind of you know, I
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: can't ever say never, but I don't think so. I mean,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I had my boobs done, so like there's no shame
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: in my game when it comes to like plastic surgery,
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: and I think you have to do what makes you
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: feel best. Um. For me, my loose skin on my
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: stomach doesn't bother me to the point where I would
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: I would probably get surgery on it. Um. But you know,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: who knows If I have fifty more kids, maybe please,
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna hanging up on this call right now. UM.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: So you've got questions, um, like specific things like what
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: do you think about waste trainers? Have you ever done
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: anything like a waste trainer? You know? No one? I
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not a doctor, but it just
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: seems strange to me to like squinch, like squish all
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: of your insides together. Like I read something that said
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: that like it pushes all of your intestines together and
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: it can make you sick. I don't know if that's
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: true or like what, But the main thing for me
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: is it's not comfortable even after you have a baby.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: You have to like wear the hospital sends you home
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: with not a waste trainer. It's like mesh, but like
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: you're supposed to wear it tighter on your belly, and
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: I did that just because that's the first week, because
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: that's supposed to help the swelling goes down and you're
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: gonna really love this part, Matt. But like get the
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: rest of the juices out. But no other than that,
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: I didn't. I wore compression panties like after week two
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: with baby Dov. But no, I'm not a waste trainer gap.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: So you don't have any kind of you know, any
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: gimmicks or any like tools or anything. You're just it's
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: just fitness, work out and eat cleanly. That's it. That's it.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Try to get it. I mean as a mom, it's hard,
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: but try to get as much sleep as you can. Um,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: that's not my best my best thing, but you know
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: that definitely does help. What about the thime Master that's
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: making a comeback? It is? Why haven't you sent it
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: to me? I would do a thime Master video, all right,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: I'll get you on to write an Amazon Uh. One
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: less thing to be more serious about this topic is
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: a lot of people ask questions about this because you've
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: been very open about it, which is great, but they
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: want advice for young girls who are struggling with body
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: image issues. Well, I think a big thing that we're
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: seeing right now is on social media, you're looking at
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: people that do not exist. You're looking at bodies that
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: do not exist. You know, when I was younger, I
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: had my own body issues and I wasn't even dealing
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: with in the world of social media when it comes
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: to face tune and s curve surgeries and who knows
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: what else everybody is doing. So I think the biggest
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: thing to remember as a young girl is like social
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: media is a highlight of something that most likely isn't
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: real life. So try not to compare yourself to others
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: and especially those that you look up to on social
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: media because half the time, you know, it's it's filtered,
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: it's air brushed all you know, all magazine covers all
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: of that stuff, it's all airbrushed. It's all you know
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: nine times out of ten. Um. And the other thing
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: is like, try to find somebody that you're comfortable sharing
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: what's going on with you. There's so many resources. Um,
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: there's easier ways now to get help. UM, you can
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: do it online their support groups. UM. And I think
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: the biggest thing that we, you know, always want to
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: do when it comes to body images, like we want
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: to put shame on ourselves and we want to you know,
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: add this extra guilt. There's nothing to be ashamed about.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: So if if you're in a room full of twenty
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: people and you ask how many of you have dealt with,
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: you know, body image issues, most people will raise their hands,
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: you know, So it's something yeah, I mean yeah, men
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: and men as well. So I think, you know, really
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: just finding somebody that you feel safe and comfortable talking to. UM.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: And if you're starting to see that you're going down
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: patterns that aren't healthy, UM, you know, don't wait, try
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: to take action immediately to get help. Whether it's talking
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: to your mother, your father, a friend, a guidance counselor,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: and they can put you in touch with somebody that
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: can help you before you go deeper and deeper into
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: the path. That's good advice. I think with people like
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Lizzo and you know, it's helpful that we have role
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: models now that aren't standard cookie cutter. Yeah. I mean,
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: I think the biggest thing is whatever is going to
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: make you feel your best wherever you feel comfortable in
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: your own skin, whether it's you are, you know, whatever
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: side of you know. You know, there's people that get
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: bullied because they're too thin and they were naturally done,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: and there's people that were you know, whatever it may be,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: there's always some You're not going to be perfect in
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: anybody's eyes, and you know, as a kid, you start
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: to want, you know, to be something that's it's just
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: not reasonable. And I think the biggest thing we all
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: want and that we all work on is just being
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: comfortable in our own skin wherever we are. Yeah, that's great,
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: great device, Matt. Before we get into our miscellaneous questions,
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: we have to take a little break. So the most
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: interesting one that came in was do you prefer to
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: wax or shave? Well? Excuse me, well, I um, I
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: used to be more of a waxing gal, but since
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: the pandemic, shaving has been the new normal, and you
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: know what, I'm getting used to it. I'm good, but
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: at some point in time I will probably laser to
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: be perfectly honest. But um, lasoring lasering, where are you saying? Okay? Well,
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: I mean you also grow hair, on your armpits and
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: your upper lip. What you're saying, I have a mustache?
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: What can you see it through the zoom right now?
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: What are you trying to say? No, I don't shave
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: my mustache, Matt, I ner it. Your listeners want to know, okay, um,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: And then you have a lot of people question I'm
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: sure you you've talked about it before, but a lot
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: of people want to know growing up with a famous father?
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: What was that? Like? You know, I never really and
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: it sounds like such a cop out answer, but I
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: really didn't know the magnitude of it growing up in
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: South Carolina. Like occasionally if you'd come to a volleyball came,
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: I'd see like one of the parents like whispering or
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: you know, whatever it may be. But it was never
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: really a big deal. Um. I think when people figured out,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: like in the fifth grade, like I think you had
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: a really big hit out when I was in the
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: fifth grade that all of my friends like hurd on
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: the radio. Um. I mean, I probably not the best
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: story to share, but everyone's like, your dad sings blah
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: blah blah. Your dad sings blah blah blah. And I'm
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: like I was adopted. I don't know why I said it,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: and they were like, well, why do you look exactly
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: like him then? And I was like, I don't know,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: that's up to you. You know, like I really kind
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: of always I never I never thought it was any
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: different than you know, Brooks dad, who was the headmaster Christians,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: you know whatever. It was like, I just really thought
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: of it like a job, his job. And it wasn't
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: until I came to California and I worked at CIA
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: and I worked for one of the heads of the
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: lift department is a huge agency. Oh yeah, cia' is
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: the talent agency and I was his assistant. I sat
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: in his office with him and I was like totally green.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: I had no idea what I was doing. And he's like, Teddy,
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: I need reservations up you know whatever was Mr chow
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: At blah blah blah. And I couldn't get the reservation.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: And I was like, hey, I I I'm sorry. I
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: couldn't get the reservation. I guess I called too late.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: And he's like, well did you use your name? And
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: I was like huh And he's like, well drop your
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: name and see if you can get me in his
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: that and that was like a complete like what because
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: nobody That's not how it was growing up, you know,
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: not to be the cliche growing up in a small town.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: But uh yeah, I mean that was kind of my
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: first like wake up call is like, oh, this is
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: a little different. That's interesting. Your your father will be
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: happy to know. He gave us one of the greatest
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: gifts music. Oh I thought you were gonna say, one
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: of the greatest gifts ever his daughter Teddy. No, you know,
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: I'm more of a Justice fan. Those that don't know,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: Justice is my sister, and Matt always talks about how
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: she's the cuter one, she's the funnier one. She loves Justice.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: I'm like, you're supposed my best friend. Not true, but no,
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: I think the sample for Jessica Simptons. I think I'm
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: in love. Oh, he would be the rell to know.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: It's just an f y. I jam all right, this
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: is the moment we've all been waiting for. We're gonna
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: transfer ourselves into a mindset of the Real Housewives of
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Beverly Hills. You're so excited to speak on it. Um,
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: you know, it's let's just say, it's been a tough
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: season for you. Yeah, I mean it's been a tough
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: two seasons. Yes, which season do you feel has been harder?
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: Puppy Gate nine or whatever we're calling ten. I know
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: it sounds so crazy, but the hardest season for me
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: was my first season. Even though it was the best
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: with the fans, they loved me, they embraced me, like
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: it was like, wow, this is so wonderful. Um, But
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: living it was very hard because I didn't know anybody.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: I wasn't comfortable, um and I just I felt like
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: I was like having to I don't know. The dynamics
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: just wasn't the same as it is now. And even
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: though yes, there was some hell in nine and there's
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: been a lot of hell intent, there are some friendships
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: that I truly love now and there's you know, a
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: real trust and a real bond and I've really learned
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: a lot. I've you know, regardless of what you can
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: can say about all of us is it's a group
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: of strong women that work hard, and you know, I'm
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: really grateful to them. So you know it, there's you know,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: hard stuff and and whatnot. But I do have some real,
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: true friendships that I you know, I couldn't imagine my
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: life without. Yeah, A lot of people were asking about
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: your and Kyle's friendship, which has been a matter of
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: contention on this season. Um, and they just want to know,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: you know, you really are friends who were life. Yes,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: what's it like? What? What what is your friendship like
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: with Kyle in real life? I mean, I think the
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: best thing about my friendship with Kyle for me And
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I know this is gonna sound a little bit weird,
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: but like it's easy. You know how some friendships it
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: feels like it's work. It's not like that. With her.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: We effortlessly are having fun. We're laughing, we're joking. Our
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: families mesh well together, our kids like each other. We
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: enjoy doing the same things, going on the same type
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: of trips. Um. You know, often times we're like sending
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: each other the exact same meme at the same time.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: You know, like our humor is similar, what we laugh
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: at shows, we like. So we just have a lot
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: in common. And um, yeah, so I really have a
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: great friendship with Kyle. And I think that that's really
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: what the women were talking about, is like they could
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: feel how strong our friendship was, and in this group
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: that can be scary. Yeah, I mean, what we know,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: I feel about that. People, How can you feel about that? Matt,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: It's just it's just strange. It was a strange I
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: don't know. I will tell you I believe that how
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: things have played out with you or how you acted
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: if I feel like you didn't do something properly. But
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: that was a strange term thing. And I've been around
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: you entire before and it's so weird. Do you guys
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: just have a nice, genuine friendship. I don't understand why
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: it's an issue. I am not aerial. I don't want
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: to be part of your world in that aspect anyway.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: But people are asking, you know, they are asking about
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: other castmates, and they want to know if you pow
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: are you and Camille? Camille? No, No, all right, we're
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: moving on. We're not. We don't talk, but I'm still
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: have plenty to say about me every week on Twitter, Yes,
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: uh Twitter. Um. And they also were asking, of course
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: about Lisa ander Pump. You know, have you spoken to her?
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: Do you think that she was missed from the show?
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: Do you think it's changed for the better of the
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: worst since she left? UM? I had The last time
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: I saw her in person was at Denise's wedding Um.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: She The last time we spoke, UM was because someone
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: in her life passed away and I sent her flowers, UM,
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: and she called to thank me. UM. And that is it. UM.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: I didn't speak to her before joining Housewives, and you know,
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: I didn't know her prior, and we don't speak and
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: we don't we don't run in the same circles. I
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: don't bump into her. It's there's really no crossover. UM.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: In regards to the show. Do I feel like there's
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: been a shift, Yes, in the fact that I feel
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: like a lot more people have let their guard down
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: and I've been able to see more of who everybody is. UM.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: But you know, she was part of the show for
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: a long time. Yeah, UM. And then all the other
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: girls people. People said in a lot of questions, of course,
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: so we can't ask all the Beverly Hills questions. But
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: one of the questions that struck was are you afraid
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: of Erica? No? And I think, Um, I I've said
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: this like impressed before, but and I've said it to
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: you and you got actually really offended. But I said,
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: if I were to get arrested tomorrow, Erica would probably
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: be one of the people that I called um because
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: I really trust her and I don't think she would
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: say you know, I think she would take care of
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: me in the situation. She is a very good person, Um,
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: and you don't need to get your feelings hurt. Matt,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: you'd be like sixth on the list. Well, it's probably
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: wouldn't answer the call anyway, so you just wrot. But uh,
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: you know, I think the issues that people saw with
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: Erica and I season one was truly because we never
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: had a one on one We never got to know
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: one another. We were put in a situation that was
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: just kind of awkward encounterunters over and over again that
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: like we never got to actually hash through until the reunion.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: And then once we had the reunion, we both had
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: like a big girl conversation and said, like, this is
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: what I did wrong. She said, this is what I
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: did wrong. Let's agree to move on, and we fully have.
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: And I think throughout these past two seasons you can
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: see the trust we started to form in one another
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: and the friendship that we have created because we both
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: really did move on. Yeah, And I think we even
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: saw that in the episode this past week's episode, and
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: you made a comment about it on Twitter. That you
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: know you're in Erica's friendship has really grown, and it's
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: something I feel, as Housewise fans we want. Andy has
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: even said he thinks that the shows are the best
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: when the girls actually genuine friendships and can play off
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: of that. So I think that that's a great thing
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: to continue to grow your friendship and become true, true
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: friends even off the show. And I agree. And I
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: also think that it shows how much things can shift
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: from year to year. You know, if you're willing to
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: be open and have those hard conversations. You know, a
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: lot of what we're struggling with this year is when
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: Denise will leave, or she'll walk away, or she'll want
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: to have a one sided conversation, and then we can't
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: move through it because only one side is being said,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: and that's why it becomes, you know, like a domino effect.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: But I think that when you can both you know,
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: admit you know, the things you said are the things
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: you've done, it can really help build friendships. And that's
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: why from year to year you see the friendships shift
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: on the show. Right. Well, since you brought up Denise,
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: I guess we should just go right into it, Okay,
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: as you are aware you've got a lot of questions
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: about this season's drama and everything that went down with niece,
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: and people want to know why you didn't tell Denise
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: off Why did you wait to tell her on camera? Okay, So,
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: the biggest thing about when you sign up to do
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: a reality show is you're never going to let any
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: drama play out behind the scenes. I learned my lesson
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: last year with the entire thing with Lisa vander Pump
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: and Derrite and the dog doing something off camera that
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: that really came back to bite me in the butt,
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: because as a somebody who signed up to show your life,
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: to show what's going on, you have to let the
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: things play out on camera. If not, you're going to
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: get screwed in the long run, no matter what. So
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: and once it was already out there on camera when
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: Brandy brought it up. When Brandy told us, if I
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: would have told her off camera, I would have been
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: been in a situation where I am doing something behind productions, back,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: behind this back, and that would was even more drama.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: So it's just, you know, I think it sucked that
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: I had to be the one that said it, But
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: would people have rather I never said anything and she
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: was just blindsided once the show aired. At least this way,
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: she was able to get everything in order have the
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: conversation she needed to have and handle her life out
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: accordingly to what the information was given. But you know
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: that that's what we signed up for. And then you know,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: people want to know why at dinner, why in the
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: group setting? Well, I think I wasn't When I originally
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: started the conversation, I envisioned it going differently. I envisioned
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: when I said, you know, I know you said these
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: things to Brandy. I know that this happened. I know that. UM,
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm in a situation where now I don't
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: trust you know all of this. And if Denise would
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: have responded with I don't remember saying that to her,
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: I don't feel that way, or I do feel that way,
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: but I didn't. I don't remember saying that to her. Um,
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: the conversation would have been over. But instead she doubled
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: down and said, I don't even speak to this woman.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: I don't know her. She's a loose cannon. You know,
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: all these different things that she said, which then as
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: you continue to see through the episodes, she then changes
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: her story four or five more times. Actually they did speak.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: Actually she said way worse things about me than she admitted,
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: you know all of those things. Um. So that's really
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: where I thought the conversation would go. I didn't realize
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: that she was then going to say I didn't know her,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: I don't talk to her. I mean we were just
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: at Bravo con where she had said on a stage
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: how close she was with you know, with Brandy and
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: how she would love for her to be back on
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: the show. Well she got her wish. Um. And I
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: think also, like it sucks. It sucks to be the messenger.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: But I would have hated being blindsided even more if
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: if I had not said something to her and group
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: or no group, things get around in this group. So yeah,
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: and you know, people want to know. I think it's obvious,
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: but people are asking do you believe Brandy or do
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: you believe Denise? Well, I think you know whether or not.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: And also I want to clarify something. When I said
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: this is really bad, I was referring to the fact
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: that an affair was being thrown around. It had nothing
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: to do with the fact a lot of people are
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: saying to me, like, is this because you're homophobic? Or
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: you're outing her any of these types of things, and
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: of course not I was saying this is really bad
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: because it was an affair that was being told on
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: national television or an a legend affair, and that's the
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: part I was saying, this is, you know, and I
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: was kind of leading up to it, trying to say, like,
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: you probably don't want me to say with this is
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: right now, like whatever it may be, you know, because
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: she said she already knew what it us. So you know, Yeah,
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: the that whole thing as a gay person. I the
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: people that are saying that, and they're they're not thinking
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: it logically, is that there's they're actually insinuating that you
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: were outing somebody, right, is what some of the arguments are. Um.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: And I didn't even know this was gonna come up.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: We were and talk about this, so it wasn't you
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: weren't outing anybody. First of all, Brandy brought it up
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: on camera first about the affair, and also, uh, I
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: think that Denise has talked about being by curious previously
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: in the press years ago. So I think that people
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: that are trying to come at you about that are
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: finding ways to attack you that aren't right, like we
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: know that you were just saying it was because an affair.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: The story came to you and it looked like, you know,
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: it was going to affect their marriage. So yeah, I mean,
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: of course, and so that even during that kind of thing,
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: it just none of it's fun, and but it's it's
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: something that's happened, and now we have to kind of
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: kind of go through the emotions, and it's it does suck,
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: and that's the that's the hardest part about doing reality television.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: But if you do sign up and you do, you know,
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: say you're going to show your lives and you're going
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: to whether there was alleged affair or not, she had
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody could potentially have been a friendship.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: It's not my place to say, but she was in
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: communication with Brandy and that was my point, right. Uh,
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: do you hope that next season it's a fresh start
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: with the nise, Like where do you see it go?
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: You know, I never say never. Um, I mean, everyone's
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: gonna have to tune in and watch the reunion, But
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: I mean I think there's probably a lot of work
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: that needs to be done, you know, and things that
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: need to be figured out. But you know, I I
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: things have changed so much from C into season. You
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: never know. I mean we were close last year, so
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: it's it's hard to it's hard to say you'd be
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: going in with an open mind, though, I mean, yeah,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: you gotta keep watching on that one. Is there a
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: specific celebrity that, if you could choose, you would have
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: been doing the cast? I don't know. Maybe Christy Teagan
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I think would be really funny. Boy would be amazing,
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: Like how good would she be? Um? I don't know.
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: I just think someone that's funny, someone that's opinionated. Who
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: who would your pick be? Oh? Boy, if you had
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: to do a celebrity, Oh gosh, now you put me
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: on the spot. I don't know. I don't know. You
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: put me on the spot. This is your podcast. I'm
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: here to do that. I'm here to just ask you questions.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: I delivered it an amazing response. I don't know to
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: get back to you. Oh, or Brad Garski, Oh, you
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: would do a house husband? A house husband like he
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: is so hilarious his um recent one where he's mocking us,
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: It's tears came out of my eyes. Yeah. He and Garagine.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Gargin's Instagram you should follow it if you don't because
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: it's hilarious. Well, well, I'm thinking to your listeners. Um,
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: So people want to know, though, do you see yourself
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: continuing to do the show over the next few years?
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: You know, we never know until about two weeks before
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: it starts shooting every season, So it's one of those
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: things that you just kind of you see keeping us
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: on our toes. So we don't know. So I can't
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: even I can't even say for sure next season. You know,
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: it really just depends. Okay. I think I save this
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: question because it's it's a good one to end with.
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: In general, in your life being on TV and all that,
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: people want to know. What is the biggest misconception that
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: you feel people have about you? Um? I think oftentimes,
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: especially this season on Housewives, it looks like I'm at
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: a loss for words, like they've panned me, and my
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: mouth is like open or like I'm making a weird face. Um,
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: I'm kind of always a blabber mouth. I'm always making
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: fun of myself. I'm very self deprecating. I don't take
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: myself so seriously. And I mean, you're one of one
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: of my good friends. What would you say it is?
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think that often times I look so
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: serious on the show, but I think in real life,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: like I am constantly laughing. I love to joke. I
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: loved to like for people to tease me, like I
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: I really that is who I am. Oh, I mean,
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: obviously it would be the B word. I would be
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: friends with you. I thought you were boring? What we
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: gonna scared each other with it? But I know that
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: that name is just un till the end of time.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, of all the things that you want
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: to come at before the B word, I'm like, but
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: here you are. Um. But yeah, I have to make
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: fun of myself. If not, I'd go completely crazy. But
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: I think another big thing that's really important to me
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: to say that for anybody in the public eye, is
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: how important it is to have, you know, true friendships.
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: Like I'm really grate grateful to our friendship. I'm grateful
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: to so many of you know, my other girlfriends and
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: my husband, and my parents and my sisters and brothers
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: and people that really keep you, you know, keep you
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: realizing what's really important. So, yeah, there's some drama, there's
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: some hate, or there's any of these things, but the
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: biggest thing for me is like I know that the
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: people life that really matter, that I love and I
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: care about are are real, and that's what's most important
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: to me. And the fact that I can have a
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: business where I know in my heart that we're changing
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: people's lives and making them feel, you know, ready to
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: take on new goals for themselves or ask for that raise,
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: or leave that cheating husband or whatever it may be
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: because they're feeling good in their own skin really makes
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: me feel good. So even though at the start of
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: this podcast, I was saying about, you know, like, oh,
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: today was so terrible, there's always a silver lining. And
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: I'm so grateful to have great friends, a great family,
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: be able to talk to you guys on Teddy Teapot
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: every week, have this outlet, and I'm so grateful to
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: you guys for listening. Please send an any more questions
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: you have and Matt, thank you, thank you, thank you
• 50:47
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