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Is it a narcissistic injury or a narcissistic collapse? What's the difference? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So have you ever heard of a narcissistic injury?
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  What about a narcissistic collapse?
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  Are those two the same thing? Are they different?
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  Do they go together? Like peanut butter and Jelly on
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  a wheat sandwich? Wheat with a sandwich with wheat
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  bread. That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist here
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  to give you the inside look at the mind of a narcissist.
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  And that's what we talked about today.
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  Y'all narcissistic injuries and narcissistic collapses.
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  I know y'all probably heard of it.
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  Y'all, if you have dealt or dabbled in a narcissistic or
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  toxic relationship, then you've definitely heard about the
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  narcissistic collapse or narcissistic injury.
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  Oh, Lee, did I? I get this in my comment
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  sections all the time. Lee, did I cause a narcissistic
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  injury when I said this? Did I?
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  Did I cause a narcissistic injury when I did this or did
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  that that? Yeah, did this?
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  Is this what a narcissist the collapse really looks like?
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  Lee, can you please help me out? Lee, you were diagnosed
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  narcissist. Tell me, tell me, tell me.
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  I got you. Calm down.
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  Let's vibe. Let's vibe a little bit first.
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  Like buy me a drink first. Damn.
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  No, but seriously, narcissist, the injuries happened, y'all.
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  They're they're not the same thing.
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  I would say that, and this is my perspective.
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  Y'all, some people might disagree with me.
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  Y'all, you're allowed to disagree.
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  Let's just keep it respectful. Can we keep it respectful?
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  Let's all ask, right. So narcissistic injuries are
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  smaller than narcissistic collapses.
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  I truly believe that a narcissistic collapse is a, an
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  accumulation of narcissistic injuries, right?
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  So if you don't know what a narcissistic injury is, it's
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  when the narcissist image or their ego or their reputation or
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  something like that, or their identity is threatened, right?
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  It's a threatened. It's threatens it like a
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  criticism. A small criticism can be
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  perceived as a narcissistic injury, like a small criticism.
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  Like you tell me something like you're not as good as you think
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  you are. You're not as smart as you think
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  you are. Hey, you could do.
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  Yeah. Even constructive criticism can
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  be perceived by that narcissistic person as a
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  narcissistic injury. And I know that sounds crazy.
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  I know that sounds weird, but that's the truth.
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  Constructive criticism can actually be perceived by that
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  narcissistic person as a narcissistic injury, right?
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  They're just thinking like, well damn, what are you saying to me?
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  What? What, what?
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  Why are you saying this to me? Why are you attacking me?
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  This is what y'all, This is why we are dealing with a
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  narcissist. And you say something to them.
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  You say something small to them if they make it something bigger
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  than what it needs to be. And you, you're like, I didn't
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  say nothing mean to you. Why you being so mean to me?
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  I didn't say nothing to you. I didn't did nothing to you.
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  Why you being so angry with me, right?
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  And that happens to so many people when you're dealing with
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  a narcissist, right? When you're dealing with the
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  manipulator or abuser, this is what happens.
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  So you understand exactly where I'm coming from when I say this,
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  There's like something small to a narcissist will be taken will
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  be amplified to the maximum extent.
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  You'll be like and you be you be confused as hell.
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  You be like, what the hell did I do to this person to to make
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  them attack me? I didn't say nothing wrong to
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  you, but damn, you coming at me like you crazy.
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  We got my voice cracking, y'all. I'm going through narcissistic
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  pubies. So if you hear my voice get high
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  because I'm growing up, y'all, I'm coming in empath.
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  When a narcissist goes to therapy for long enough, they go
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  through narcissistic puberty and they're they're narcissistic
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  voice cracks and they become a they come become an empath.
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  It's like becoming a butterfly. I'm kidding, y'all?
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  I'm kidding. Yeah.
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  I joke. I joke on this channel.
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  This channel is not just about narcissism.
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  It's about bringing levity to a tough subject to a tough subject
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  to a tough topic. So I'm going to joke.
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  Yeah, I'm sorry. We want to.
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  We joke over here, right? And This is why so many things
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  happen like narcissistic people do this, right?
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  Well, you, they take some, let's say you, you question their ego,
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  you question their motive, you question their authenticity.
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  You catch them in a lie, you hold them accountable, you call
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  them out. Those are narcissistic injuries.
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  Those little things add up, right?
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  Those are threatening my ego. Do you haven't fractured the
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  ego, You threaten it like you crack like every time you
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  criticize me or hold me accountable or hold that
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  narcissistic person in your life accountable, Every time you call
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  them out on something, every time you catch them in a lie,
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  every time you catch them cheating, they're lying,
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  whatever, right? You catch them doing something.
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  Those are little cracks in their ego.
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  Those are little cracks. Those threat that look, you can
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  drive your car with a crack in the windshield.
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  I got a crack in my windshield right now.
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  I don't know where it came from. I got a crack in my windshield
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  right now. The car is still drivable,
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  right? So just imagine that narcissist
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  ego in their identity. It's like a car's windshield.
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  It's got cracks in it, little little spotter line crack.
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  You can still drive with it, right?
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  It's fine. But when guess what happens,
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  when too many of those cracks happen?
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  That's when the rearview, that's not a review.
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  That's when the windshield collapses and that's when you
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  get a narcissistic collapse. When you get too many
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  narcissistic injuries and they add up, that's when you get a
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  full on collapse of the ego. That's when you get a full on
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  narcissistic collapse exposure too much.
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  You've questioned my identity so much.
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  You threaten my identity so much over and over again.
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  You hit me so many times with the truth.
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  You hit me so many times with accountability or whatever the
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  case may be. And now crack, boom, the
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  windshield caves in there. Look, hey, look, you can still
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  drive a car with a with the windshield missing, but it's not
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  recommended. Just imagine driving a car.
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  Just imagine driving a car with the windshield missing.
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  That would be a very interesting experience You get to see.
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  But back to all the bugs and the debris.
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  Imagine all the stuff that your windshield protects you from,
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  like a bird. Bird you'd be driving and a bird
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  to fly for your windshield you eat.
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  So that's what the that's what the narcissist ego is protecting
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  them from all this stuff from the outside world.
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  So now that the I've got so many narcissistic injuries, my ego
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  has collapsed, my identity has collapsed.
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  I don't know who the hell I am anymore.
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  So now I lash out. Now you get more narcissistic
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  rage. So narcissistic rage is a
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  protection of the ego, right? It's a protection of the ego.
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  It's a self-defense mechanism. This is why when you cause
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  narcissistic injuries, you typically get narcissistic rage.
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  But once you finally cause the narcissistic collapse, you might
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  get a psychopath, you might get a psycho on your hands, you
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  might get them snapping and blacking out and trying to hurt
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  you or harm you and do so many different things to you.
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  This could happen to so many people, right?
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  This happens over and over and over again.
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  This is what you're going to experience sometimes, right?
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  This is what you're going to go through when you're doing a
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  narcissistic person. They can become very, very
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  dangerous. Now when a narcissistic collapse
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  happens because they don't know who they are anymore, like this
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  happens, Let's let's just say you threaten to expose them.
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  That's a narcissistic injury. But now you expose them on a
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  TikTok and it goes viral. That's a collapse because they
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  have this reputation of being an outstanding member of society,
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  but now they're there's videos of them being physically abusive
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  towards you or getting caught cheating.
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  There's something online that exposes them for who they really
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  are. And now they can't keep lying
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  anymore. Now the truth is out.
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  So now their ego is their fragile ego is going to collapse
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  and now they don't. They don't know who the hell
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  they are, what the hell to do next.
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  So you guys, this is what's going on.
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  So now they snap, now they're lost.
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  Now they don't know who they are.
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  So when a narcissistic collapse happen, watch out, seriously
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  watch out because they can become extremely dangerous.
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  They can be they can be dangerous when you cause a
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  narcissistic injuries, but when you cause the collapse, wash the
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  hell out, right? Just think about it right here
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  in this, in this instance, right here, I'm going to give you an
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  example. Like let's just say you have a,
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  you're dealing with a narcissistic person that's in
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  the like this. Let's just say they're in the
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  Marines or something like that, right?
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  They're in the Army, armed forces, Navy, whatever.
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  The military in the military, right?
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  And the military is their life. They were, they, they were their
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  uniform everywhere. They just they, they saluting,
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  they doing all kinds of stuff. They just, you know that they're
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  in the military. They got the haircut.
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  They, they in the military, right?
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  They live in military lifestyle and then now you expose them for
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  cheating. You know cheating in the
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  military get you, they can get your ass kicked out of the
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  military, right? You can get you kicked out of
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  the military. You can lose rank pay.
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  You lose so many, so many different things.
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  So now you catch them cheating and you expose them to their
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  higher ups, to their, to their, to their, I forgot what they
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  call it to their commanding officer and now they get kicked
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  out. The military collapse, right?
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  Narcissistic collapse. Now they don't know who they are
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  anymore. Now because I'm not in the Army
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  anymore, I'm not a Marine anymore.
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  I have nothing to lose. You see?
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  You see how dangerous somebody like that, like that can become?
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  Because now they feel like they have nothing to lose.
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  They might come for you. You might be a target now
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  because they feel like they have nothing to lose.
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  So they might come to for you and try to hurt you or try to
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  harm you or something like that. They might try to harm
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  themselves because now they don't know who they are.
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  They don't know who they are anymore.
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  So you have to watch out for that.
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  That's very, that's a very unique thing to be a part of
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  right there. Y'all, when you're dealing with
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  a narcissistic person because they can become very, very
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  dangerous when their ego finally collapses, like when their ego
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  finally collapses, they can become an extremely dangerous
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  person. So you have to literally,
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  literally y'all, you have to literally be careful.
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  You know, that's why people ask me like, should I expose them to
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  the new supply? Should I expose them to the
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  higher ups? Should I expose them to their
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  boss? Should I expose them to their
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  family? I tell people you can do that,
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  but always be careful, always be safe, always think about what
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  will happen. Always think about what happens
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  next in these situation, in these scenarios.
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  What's the what's the outcome that you're expecting when this
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  happens? If this were to happen, when
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  this does go down, what are you expecting the outcome to be?
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  Because that's important that you acknowledge what you expect
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  the outcome to be. Because I'm just telling you,
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  narcissistic people are typically going to lose their
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  minds when they collapse, when their ego is threatened, when
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  they can no longer be a police officer or a firefighter or a
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  nurse or a doctor or a lawyer or whatever.
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  They are whatever they, whatever, they're the most proud
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  of the people they introduce themselves as, right?
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  They help the homeless, whatever it is that they do, their
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  identity or the reputation is threatened.
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  That can cause a huge collapse of their ego.
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  When their ego collapses, they lash out at everybody else
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  around. Instead of taking accountability
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  for what happened, what caused the collapse, they lash out at
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  everybody else around them. They blame everybody else around
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  them for what has happened, not themselves.
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  They don't look internally. What?
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  Because they are looking internally?
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  Would make too much sense now, wouldn't it?
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  Looking deep inside of you would make too much sense now,
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  wouldn't it? So instead of doing that, they
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  look externally, they go crazy, they lose their minds, this type
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  of stuff starts to happen and they can become extremely,
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  extremely dangerous. So that's why I just like when
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  you expose them to the new supply, to their family, to the
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  higher ups, to the police. When you call the police on
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  them, they get arrested and they lose their job or whatever.
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  Their family knows who they are. The church, like I said, higher
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  ups in the church, a pastor or somebody like that.
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  Be careful, be careful. You expose their affair to
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  everybody. When they've been they looked at
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  as as this good, holy, holier than thou person.
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  You expose their affair, you expose their their actuality,
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  right? They're not, they're not as
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  hetero as they presume to be, right?
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  You threaten your identity in that case right there.
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  That's when they could lash out at you.
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  Pastor Hammock out here lying and cheating and doing all kinds
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  of stuff with he this heathens and these these whores in the
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  Pew. You know what I'm saying?
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  They can expose me and cost me my identity.
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  So there's a difference between a narcissistic injury and a
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  collapse. I always think the collapse is
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  worse. You know, do you want to get
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  people at the district rule with me to say, hey, Lee, they're
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  both the same thing and I can see that, right?
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  They can just be more words than you have to learn and whatnot.
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  So I'm actually working on the narcissistic alphabet.
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  I know I mentioned this in the previous video, but I'm working
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  on the narcissistic alphabet. Every letter of the alphabet I'm
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  going to assign a I'm going to sign a definition for like a
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  could be accountability, right? C could be collapsed,
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  narcissistic collapse. I could be a narcissistic
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  injury. You see, I'm going to do that,
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  but I I need just thoughts right here.
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  Should I do it all in one video, every letter in one video?
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  Or should I break it up into a series?
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  I can do it in one video, just be a longer video, but to to be
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  a series, I might do it in one video.
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