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90 Day Fiancé Couple, Michael Ilesanmi, Angela Deem, Divorce · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Bantu
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  Lorenzi. How are you all doing if you're
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  doing great? For today's episode, I want to
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  talk about Michael Elisa, me and his now ex-wife Angela Dean.
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  Now these two people met on Facebook and Angela was in the
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  US, Michael was in Nigeria. So they decided to go on the
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  reality show 90 Day Fiance to, you know, enable them to get
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  their ball, get the ball rolling, and then get Michael to
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  the US for them to start their lives together.
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  Now Angela is, I don't even know how to put it.
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  Angela was very abusive to Michael.
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  She, she, she literally listen, she put her hands on him.
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  She accused him of fraud. She accused him of cheating.
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  She accused him of every. Angela threw the book at
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  Michael. Now let me just play the video
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  for you to see the journey of their relationship and how they
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  are now divorced. To be my love for.
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  Husband to love and to obey to love and to obey what love and
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  to. Obey.
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  Obey what? Obey who?
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  You're saying if I can have a baby, let Michael have it with
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  another woman. No, that's not happening.
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  Who goes and has a baby with someone else?
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  And by the way, who's going to raise it?
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  Because I'm not and it come out of me and I didn't have fun
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  having it. So I'm not taking care of
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  someone else's baby. No, I'm not.
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  No way. There's your cake, Michael.
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  That doesn't work this time. You got pictures in your phone?
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  You're stupid. Let me see.
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  I want to see everything your DMS on Instagram.
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  Wait, wait, wait. No, no.
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  Let's stop. Can I see your phone please?
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  It's my private. Is that a no?
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  I said no. Is it true that?
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  You haven't. Been intimate.
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  Since Michael stepped foot in America.
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  We should have it. We can't even have a
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  conversation. She says all sorts of things to
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  me. I am your husband, for Christ's
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  sake. All those things, all those.
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  All those things you cheated and told that bitch you would come
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  to goddamn America and get the visa and you'll handle me.
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  Then. Send me.
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  Back home a few moments later. You found finally.
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  I'm divorced. Here's the paperwork.
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  Yeah, that's the code down there.
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  I'm right here in his Ross, his Ross, Georgia.
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  And I want to see a big thank you to each and everyone for the
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  love and support. You know, that will be the easy
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  journey or I want to say thank you to everybody.
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  God bless you all. I'm officially because thank
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  you, Father, Lord, thank you, thank you, thank you.
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  Single life here I come. Thank you, Shout out to you,
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  Michael, thank you so much. Thank you.
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  Thank. You now, I think everybody and
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  their Mamas are happy for Michael because this guy went
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  through a lot to get to the US. Because listen, on a normal day,
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  I don't think a Nigerian man will put up with what Michael
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  was able to endure in Angela Dean's hands.
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  Yes, we can all sit down and say Michael is calm.
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  Michael, yes, he has a very calm personality, but he knew exactly
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  what he was doing. These two met nine years ago.
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  And since then, Angela had, you know, she called a private
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  investigator because she thought he was into, she was trying to,
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  he was trying to defraud her. Now, as we all know, Angela was
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  a little bit on the, you know, big side when they met.
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  She was very insecure. She thought Michael was
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  messaging everybody. Michael, listen, she went on a
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  weight loss journey. She lost a lot of weight.
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  Michael wanted them to have a child.
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  I think that was the genesis of the problem.
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  Angela, obviously, she's in her 50s or 60s, she can't have
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  children. So Michael was maybe trying to
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  get them to have IVF to be able to for at least for Angela to
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  give you a child. If they're going to be married,
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  then Michael wanted a child, but Angela did not want that.
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  Instead, she took the money that Michael felt they could have
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  used for IVF to do liposuction and weight loss surgeries.
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  I think that was when things got worse.
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  She lost all the weight. But she, she, she that's, you
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  know, insecurity was still there.
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  She was asking Michael to show her his DMS women.
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  She was going through his phones accusing him of cheating.
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  She got a privacy private investigator and it was revealed
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  that Michael never cheated on her.
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  Michael was not there to defraud her.
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  Michael never had any you know I'll intentions because she said
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  he has so many bank accounts and all those were proven false.
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  Michael then started to go fund me to file for a divorce.
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  I think he wanted maybe 5000 lbs and he raised over $50 million.
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  And today Michael is divorced. He's happy, he's celebrating in
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  single life. I come, he's in America, he's
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  travelled to Nigeria. So yes, you can say this is kind
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  of a bitter sweet moment for him.
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  Be listen, he, he went through a lot to be able to get to where
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  he is today. A lot of Nigerian youths are
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  marrying grandmas thinking you know, it's the easiest option to
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  get to America. Your sanity will not be the
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  same. They will traumatise you because
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  getting married to a grandma at the end of the day, it's not
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  like I'm being insultive. Angela is actually a
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  grandmother. You can't have children with
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  them. And most Nigerian men, they want
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  to, most men want to have kids. That's just the reality of the
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  of the whole thing. So if you're getting married to
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  that kind of person, you know that eventually, at some point
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  you're going to want to have children.
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  What happens at that time? And then regardless of how you
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  want to see this whole thing, they still have that colonial
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  mentality. They still see them as, you
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  know, people who are just below them.
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  So the way they will talk to you, the way they will treat
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  you, some of them, some of them, not all of them, but the the
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  ones that are elderly, these are, they are coming from a
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  different generation of people who that was their reality.
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  So trying to change or teach an old dog a new trick most times
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  doesn't work. I am happy for Michael, but let
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  this be a lesson to everybody who thinks the easier route is
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  the best option. Sometimes you have to go through
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  the process. If it takes you going back to
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  school to learn skills, to to learn anything, start afresh to
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  give yourself a better opportunity or a better chance
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  to, to travel gainfully, to be gainfully employed, take that.
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  Take that route. Sometimes things that look easy
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  turn out to be the most challenging and most difficult
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  things you would ever have to go through or you would ever have
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  to endure. A lot of Nigerian men, not just
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  men and women, boys and girls, are marrying older people.
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  It's a trend. But that is not the only
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  options. There are scholarships.
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  There are so many things you can do.
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  Well, anyway, what do I know? We are here happy for Michael.
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  Michael, congratulations. We are happy for you.
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  We're rooting for you and we hope that you have more success
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  because you, you deserve every good thing coming your way.
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  Let me know what you think. Would you marry somebody for
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  papers? Would you marry a grandma or a
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  grandpa for papers? Knowing that there's a
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  possibility you may not have kids with this person or even as
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  a young girl, if you have children with this person, they
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  might not be there to nurture that child.
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  My maximum maybe 10-15 years they're gone or even less than
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  that. Would you be able to to?
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  Are you happy to go through that?
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  Let me know what you think. Thank you very much for watching
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  today's episode. Please like, like, like and
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  Thank you very much for watching.
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  Bye Bye.