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Season 2 - Episode 75 - What are the questions you ask yourself? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about questions, and I've talked about
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  questions, many times on here, the power of questions and
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  whatnot. But I would love for you guys to
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  do a little experiment for yourself and figure out what are
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  the questions you're asking yourself throughout the day.
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  So just as kind of, like a debrief and a little exercise to
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  start asking yourself. Well, what questions am I asking
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  myself throughout the day? I've been doing lots of little
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  experiments with clients with this.
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  The answers are really fascinating like you know, just
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  in general, what people are finding is that the questions
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  are asking themselves, tend to be something that is not
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  necessarily the healthiest way to start off your day and really
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  focused towards the heavy negative side.
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  So, you know, everything in your brain, everything that we do, as
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  humans is driven by that question format.
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  You know, we ask questions were always asking, Questions and how
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  quickly you can change direction is by the quality of the
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  questions. You ask yourself.
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  So we all understand on some level that questions are very
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  important, but I don't know that we all check-in enough as to
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  what the questions are that were asking ourselves and these are
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  the ones that you maybe don't say out loud.
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  These are the ones. I mean, some people talk to
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  themselves which is totally fine.
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  I'm one of those people were, I do talk to myself sometimes, but
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  I'm talking about the ones that are quiet behind the Is like the
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  the constant chatter which comes in in the question form when you
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  are in situations that, you know, are going to drive you
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  crazy. So, let's use an example here in
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  your kitchen. It's after dinner.
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  And you find that you are the person that's standing there and
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  cleaning things up and nobody else is helping the question
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  that's running off in your head, is why the hell isn't anybody
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  else? Helping me?
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  Why am I the only one doing this?
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  Why am I the only The only one that always does this and you
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  can feel the level of frustration going up up, up up
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  up, as you ask the questions because they're getting more and
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  more stacked in the - frame. And this is where it's so
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  important to kind of hone in and say, wait, what's a better
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  question to ask? You myself in this moment.
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  So a better question might be. What's the reason I'm not asking
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  anybody to help and oftentimes just changing that your brain is
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  going to go. Well, I don't know why am I not
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  asking anybody help? You might get an answer.
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  Like what? They're not going to help but
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  that's not necessarily. True.
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  That could be a made-up perspective.
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  So you have to ask, you know, hey, who over here would like to
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  help me clean this up and they might laugh and say, well I
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  don't wouldn't like to help you but I will help you.
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  And then you have your help instead of getting all ramped
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  up. But that example, I'm using of
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  how those questions stack and how they feed your dysfunction.
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  Think about that, how they feed your dysfunction because it
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  starts off and it could already be a Hot spot and you're just
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  putting more effort into making it a hotter spot until it's
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  boiling. And before you know it you're
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  burning yourself. So the questions you look at are
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  the ones that are quiet. They're the ones that are the
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  behind-the-scene ones that you might 99.9% of the time are not
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  even conscious of asking them. So, a lot of them are tricky.
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  They come in under time like oh, oh, oh my gosh, am I going to
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  have enough time? Going to have enough time.
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  You start thinking to yourself that you're running around.
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  Like I'm late. I'm late for a very important
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  date and it's just constantly predicated on the fact that the
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  initial questions were dysfunctional to begin with.
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  So I'm going to challenge you guys to do some debriefing.
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  Ask yourself, what are these hidden questions, really?
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  Really, look at it and say, I'm going to actually write these
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  down, so I can be aware of them and you'll hear it.
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  It'll be all about. Out the people around you.
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  Why isn't this person doing it? Why is this left to me?
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  Why is there so much laundry? Why does nobody fold it?
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  Why don't they put this away? Why is there so much traffic?
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  Oh my God. There's already traffic yyyyy.
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  A lot of these questions will start with the word.
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  Why? And that is a very, very, very
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  toxic word. I work really hard in my world,
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  to not ask why questions? Because they just tend to be big
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  trouble. Triggers.
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  So it's a clue. It's a great little thing for
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  you to keep in mind on your path.
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  Look at it that way and you will probably be better off looking
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  for the wise. So I hope you guys have a good
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  time looking for this stuff. I hope you dig deep.
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  Pull it on out, and I will see you tomorrow morning and I hope
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  you have a blessed day. Bye.