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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 2_ EPISODE _26_ HOST BLAQUE DIAMOND · DA CREW Podcast

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A person Percy, all things and what they used to where having all the
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Blue Sky's boys. It's the blot from the Lord and something wa persons,
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all things and what they used to be know. Hello Hello, Hello,
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Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to the Crew Podcast. I am
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the Visionary Queen Angela and welcome to season two. I want to thank you
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for tuning in and for all of your support throughout season one. We're back
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the Basic Black after Dark, an all new podcast show with your host,
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Black Diamond. Hello, Hello, Hello, I am Black Diamond from the
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Crew Network, and you're listening to Basic Black after Dark to show that meets
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you where you are and gives you what you ask for. If you decide
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that you are, in fact tired of being nice all the time, or
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tired of absorbing any or all consequences, it's time to stop going on autopilot
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and begin to make choices and change some behaviors. Tonight's guests, Nicole S.
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Brown, is returning to Basic Black after Dark. She grew up in
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an error like most of us, with sticks and stones will break your bones,
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but names will never hurt you. She also grew up learning about the
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First Amendment, which protects freedom of speech and pertains mostly to the spoken or
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written word, but not all speech is protected under the First Amendment. According
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to history dot Com, forms of speech that aren't protected and clues obscene material
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such as child pornography, plagiarism of copyrighted material, defamation, libel and slander,
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and true threats. Nicole decided she was tired of being nice and let
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it out in her book Wet Dreams. Please welcome Nicole is Brown back to
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Basic Black after Dark. Hein, Nicole, how are you hi, I'm
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fine? Are you I'm good? Thank you so much for joining us again.
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What I want to tell everybody is that you've been here before for part
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one of your mini series, and we were going to continue that with part
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three in a couple of weeks. But tonight we're gonna be talking about your
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book, Wet Dreams of What some may not know is that not just an
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educator, you are also an author and we're talking about one of your books,
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Wet Dreams. I've been trying to figure out this title of your book.
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Tell me what does the title what Dreams suggest? M Well, what
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Dreams is It's a It's about a side of people that a lot of people
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don't get to see, you know, only your special someone gets the scene.
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And so when you say a side of people that you don't get to
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see, are we talking about ourselves or we're just talking in general? It
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could be in general or it could be yourself, because you know, some
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people, you know, venture out in different ways when it comes to that.
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Okay, okay, So was what was an early experience where you learned
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that the words that you write have power? Oh? Wow, that's really
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that's really something. When I was a kid, well, i'm you know
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to some of my siblings and some of my family members, even though I'm
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middle aged people, they still think I'm a kid. Well, I'm the
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youngest of seven kids, and you know there was like nine people, you
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know, nine or ten people are always telling me what to do in their
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perspective on life, and I wasn't always I wasn't heard. So when I
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would get tired of them, you know, doing the things that they were
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doing, they were nagging or being bossy or whatever or just you know,
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you know, I had two siblings, sisters that argue dollars have and I
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didn't like that, and I would just you know, tell them like it
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is on their paper. After I got tired of trying to tell them in
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a diplomatic way, I started writing down on paper that I give it to
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them, and they'd be like, they'll read it. They but they be
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like, she kicking out tell on this paper. She punched us out on
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these phrases, in these phrases, and they were they would they would literally
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stop doing what they was doing because they were like, you know, so
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in two occasions, I was heard, uh in my family singing. I
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was heard singing and I was heard writing. So I can tell you a
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story about singing too. Because my mom used to be a clean cleaning later
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that was her profession, and she cleaned for the dignitaries. And you know,
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uh, they would listen to the Top forty at their house and we
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liked Top forty two. And and when I was a kid, maybe about
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four years old, I me and my mama liked the song Abra Cadabra by
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Steve Milberman. Let me ask you something you're passing for writing? Did it
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come from what was going on in the family. Music. Music was always
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played a the house. Music was always passion growing up. Music was always
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so what dreams have taken people the places that others did adventure? How did
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that make you feel? That your books move people? So when they're reading
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your book, I'm talking about, oh, you know, it really moves
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them, because I recently spoke to someone who read one of your books and
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that they said, wow, well really I heard a lot of that from
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people there, especially when I their response to Wet Dreams. They were like,
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you really keep it real, you keep it out there in the open.
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A lot of this turns me on that kind of stuff. But it's
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just I just write. I do everything for my heart. I write for
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my heart. So basically, you know, there was so many experience experiences
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in love that I had, experiences and education that I had that I feel
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really dear too, and I just write it to a point where people can
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really feel it. So you hearing more from the women or are you hearing
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more from the men? Bo okay? All right, all right, So
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you've written fifteen books. You say, does writeing energize you or does it
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exhaust you? It energizes me. Sometimes it can be exhausting because sometimes I
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get it a creative mode and can't stop writing. You know, I can't
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go to sleep until I finished writing something, so to make sure that it's
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completed. Yeah, all right. So are all your books of the same
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genre? No? Oh, okay, so it's a little bit of everything.
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So how do you pivot from genre to drown? You from genre to
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genre when you're right? And where do you and where most of your books
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standing at now? Because you said that some of them are not you know,
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the different genres that you right, you picking from one to the other.
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Well, it depends on my mood at that particular time, or how
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I'm feeling, or what really inspires me at that time, you know,
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because sometimes I'm just in a mode or write about God, or sometimes I'm
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just in a mode or write about education. It just depends on how I
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feel. Like I said, I do everything for my heart. So it's
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not difficult to write spiritual one minute and then erotic the next. Yeah.
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Okay, okay, now you said it. So where do your book stand?
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Now? Do your books stand now? You're more on the erotic side
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or more on the spiritual side? Well, I'm on the lovey, lovey
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side now to that like me love you w Depending on the w you could
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be lovely to God. But I think that you know you'd be love you
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on that side and w on that side. But I'll take that. I
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think I know where you're coming from. Do you want your books to stand
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on their own or are you trying to build a body of work with connections
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between each book. Well, some books that already have stand on their own,
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and then some of them are parts of series. So I kind of
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got a little mix of both. You know, some books standing on their
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own, like Life Support, Trials of the Northeast Louisiana. And it's another
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one that stands on their own, the School of Hard Dogs. But The
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Wet Dreams stand on his own just by the title alone. And what I've
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been hearing from other people that, well, it does got a whole corner
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by itself. It does because you know, it's the most popular one and
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actuality. People think that's my first book, you know, and it's really
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not. It's my it's my fourteenth. Oh wow. So some of your
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books are in three major US university libraries. And What Dreams was given five
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stars? How to your five star author? It's also it's miraculous, to
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be honest, I got four or five star ratings in less than a week,
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you know, from last Monday until this Wednesday, I got dreams.
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Yes, well, so what dreams is doing pretty well with what we view
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it. Okay, that's great. So how many unpublished and half finished books
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do you have? Because you say you have fifteen books in all, how
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many have you published and unfinished books do you have? Now? Maybe about
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six that are half six that are unpublished, and maybe three that are half
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published. Like you know, almost there. Most of those books are rotic?
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Uh uh? Yeah. I think people really want more erotic, and
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I think I have aenough material to do another alrotic. Okay, So when
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did you cross over from erotic to spirit you or was it spiritual to erotic?
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Which one? It's like the I was writing spiritually and about education before
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I did an idiootic. Can you hear me? Or you hear I can
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hear you? Yeah? I started off with education in God and spirituality first,
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and then when people saw some things that I didn't think that they were
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supposed to see, that's when I got into a writer to explain why you
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know, certain things happen, Certain things happened for a reason. So do
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you hide any secrets in your books that only a few people will find?
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Can you tell this Victoria your secret? Well, there are some secrets,
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and there nurse some things that are just all out there. It's like somebody
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that I used to care about used to say a badge word for you know
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what. So that's that's a secret, and what it is really not a
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secret in the war. Thank you for keeping it covered up. I appreciate
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that. But I think most adults and I hope no children are watching Go
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to Bed. I hope no children are watching tonight because I do have to
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disclaim of going across the bottom, letting them know that this might be a
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little different than what we normally do. What is the lesson that you're trying
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to convey through your books and what does literary success look like to you?
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The message is you with my writing is that people can be versatile, and
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there are pieces different pieces of a person. There's not just you know,
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one person, one thing about that that that that's just that person. There
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are a lot of pieces of a person. You know, there's a spiritual
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out each side, education side, there's you know, there's a whole bunch
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of different sides of a person that makes up a person. And I feel
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that my purpose for writing is to enlighten people, to entertain them, to
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educate them, and inspire them. So that's why I write the way I
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write, not because not not, you know, in different different way,
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different genres or different topics, because I want to be somebody that's a little
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bit for everybody. And that's how there's the educational side and spiritual side and
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the rodic side. What side do you leaning more towards them? Which are
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you more comfortable with the I'm more comfortable with the education and on the spirituality
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and inspiration, But a lot of where you can educate people spiritually, and
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from what I'm seeing with your book with Dreams, you're educating people on different
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things as well. So what Dreams is a collection of spicy, erotic poetry.
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Did you get pushed back once your book was published? Well, I
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got a lot of responses that I didn't think I was gonna get. Uh,
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some of them were positive and then some of them weren't. Weren't so
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positive. So is it perfect for anyone or is it better for those who
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are still trying to find themselves? Well, it's not perfect for everyone.
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It's for mature audiences only mature mature The real twenty one and up, not
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the fake twenty one and up, the real twenty one and up. If
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you're not the real twenty one and up, you don't need to get this.
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Because it was a lady they read this book. She was seventy eight
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years old, and I told her not to buy it because she was at
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church and I said, this is a for you by spiritual for you,
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but she about it. Do you think that the title meant when she saw
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wet Dreams on that? Because I've asked that question by posting it. What
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do people think, you know when they hear wet Dreams? And I've been
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getting some responses that make me just blink a couple of times, like I
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just didn't think that I would be hearing this type of language in the day
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and age, But nowadays you can hear just about any and everything. But
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you know, there's people's own personal opinions as far as what they believe wet
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Dreams mean. I have been told that it means a little bit more to
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the male than it does to the female. Well, well I'll just take
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that word for it, you know, not wanting to sit here and say
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yes, it do No, we don't if that's their opinion. That's their
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opinion, all right. Now, with that, we're gonna take a short
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break, and when we come back, we're gonna talk more about the why
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why Wet Dreams. So we're gonna go into a break and your break.
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This break is gonna give them a little teaser book trailer of your book,
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Wet Dreams. H Wow, you just smile. Wow. What I want
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to know you you mentioned that Wet Dreams. When I first saw the book
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cover and spoke to you about Wet Dreams, I would have never associated it
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with poetry. How does that work? You're talking erotic, but you're mentioning
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poetry with it. Yeah. Really, that's how I guess. That's what
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I'm really more comfortable with when I get close to writing books. But I
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do write a paragraph form. And it was just something, you know,
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different pieces of different information that I went through that I could share in in
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a rhyme instead of, you know, just a paragraph because the rhyme and
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sometimes it didn't rhyme though. I guess how I could say this. How
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I could say this is that. And I was a speaker at a adult
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party and I started. I had already had some of these and they wanted
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more. So I just went on and wrote a whole book of it,
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you know, finished the book. I had about thirty of them already.
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And so it's one hundred and ninety one pages. Yeah, it's one hundred
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and ninety one pages. So so I hear another book is going to be
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coming through. So is it safe to say that your book takes you from
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fantasy to reality or runchiness and revolution? Uh? Kind of all love it?
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Tell me what all of it means? Well, like I said,
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I gotta I have a creative mind. Uh so some people like to act
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out certain things, and so I think you know some of it and there
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is real and some of it's not. So I'm just gonna that you figure
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it out. So what part is fantasy and what part is reality? Well,
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it's hard to really say because it has three sections and some of it
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parts of the some of the some of the sections. Some of it is
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fantasy, and then some of it is reality. The little piece called Buddy
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Ears, that's reality. That's okay. So okay. The question of the
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hour, why what dreams? You said that it was intentional, So how
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intentional was it? Well? People shared things of me that I didn't really
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think that other people should have seen and I was getting viewed. I was
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getting an that was given people a negative depiction of me, and I just
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wanted to explain. You know, it's an exploration of some of the things
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that they saw and why it happened. Oh wow, So for you it
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was more reality based than it was fantasy. But those who may not know
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you, it could be on the fantasy side for them. But for those
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who do know you, it's more reality. But then they twist the reality
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their way. Am I correct? So far? That's correct. They had
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their own story for me which really wasn't true, and I had to explain
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it my way and then it really was true, and then and then then
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then then your book Dreams is like artwork. No, I take that back.
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It's like a stained glass window. It's captivating with a certain light that
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evokes meaning, honesty and intensity. Is that where you were going with this
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book? Yes, because I wanted it to start off like you know how
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you know that saw proud be and they would say, I'm talking about that.
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They was gonna make it nice and easy and rough. Yeah. Yeah,
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So I'm not gonna mention that sounds like a quote because that was at
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a different error and her life and for what people may have thought about her.
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But we're bringing it back to here to you. How did you push
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past the worst point in your life and still see the light every day to
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write such great books because you had shared with me that something's happened during the
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course of your life that caused the shift in your life. Well, I
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was in a situation where I was with somebody I really cared about. It
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couldn't get out of it. So I had to turn to God to get
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out of that situation. I had. I joined a woman's parer group and
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got out of that situation. I had to tell that person a lie to
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tell, you know, not to not to say that I was going to
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the Pearl group I was going to. I told him I was going to
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Chasa And I ended up getting away getting out of that situation with the help
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of God. But in court during that that time, it cost you a
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lot, it did, it really did. It could have cost me costed
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me my life. Uh. I lost my livelihood a lot of times.
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My family meant my family really didn't have a good relationship anyway. I was
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the black sheep of the girls and you know, I didn't really gotta get
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a lot of support, and I had to move away, uh, to
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exile in Mississippi because I was black ball in my hometown. And then after
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that I started to find it out. I thought it was you know,
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I thought people were just being hateful for my gifts and talents and uh,
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the way that I taught as a day, because I used so everything to
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teach, you know, singing, write and dancing, you know, just
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you know, I get down with the you know, so that's what I
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really doubt. And then I get to Mississippi and I found out all this
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stuff that's had been going on in my life for the past ten fifteen years
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behind the scenes, and I was really like whoa, you know, I
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was, I you know, I was in tears, you know, for
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days, weeks. But because I was just so abased before that. You
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lost friendships, you lost your job, you lost school housing. And that
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was through this because of this other person or was other people involved as well?
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It was other people that were involved, other people that were involved,
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A lot of people that were involved that shouldn't have been involved. You know,
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in the South, people don't mind their business well up nor if they
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don't either, so don't feel bad. They don't mind. People just are
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in other people's business for whatever reason, you know, maybe they don't have
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enough time on their hand to take care of their own business. But on
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a serious note, it it just cost you so much where you're now living
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in a hotel with your child, and that can't be easy. Is it
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hard for you or is it impossible for you to go back or it is
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just someplace you just rather not be bus It's not it's not really hot possible
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at this point for me to go back. It's too much under the bridge.
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Too much has happened that was negative. Too much has been exposed,
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you know too. It's too much, maw. So do you have any
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connections with your family at this point? Oh, just a few people,
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not everybody. Like I said, I saw some people in my family that
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I put on the way with, you know, because when I when I
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was in my time, I mean, they treated me like I was an
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invalid and I didn't have anything ever going on in my life. But I
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never been that type of person to my family. I done did everything that
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over and beyond the call of duty when it came to them. But you
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know, a lot of them didn't have my back. A lot of people
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I had a family. I had family that invited people that did me wrong
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on jobs to family gatherings and never never thought that there was anything wrong with
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that. And I thought that was just the most hurtful, one of the
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most hurtful things that you could do. And I could go on and on
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about, you know, stuff that happened. I wrote a poem called my
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family sucks in one of my books, because they really suck. And have
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any of your books been helpful towards your healing? Yeah, this is what
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I wrote that when you know later that I worked with in the past,
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laughter it that I want to go back a minute when you wrote which when
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Wet Dreams, when I wrote something, when I wrote that poem called my
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family, I wrote that in another book. But as far as Wet Dreams,
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it was a lot of stuff that I that that I held in a
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particular season in my life secret and sacred. So when Wet Dreams came out,
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my family was upset because they didn't know this stuff was going on,
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you know, and they really don't know. It's saying that she's on Amazon
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right now looking for your book. It's Wet Dreams, right, and Patrice
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is saying that she read the book wet Dreams. Wow. Have you considered
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using the pseudonym, you know, with with your books because of what's going
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on back home? Oh? I did, but I'm not a person that
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throws freaks and hides my hands, so I'm not gonna do that, you
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know. Okay, So since you've written that book, exactly when did that
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book come out? That book came out in twenty twenty two. That's not
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really my latest book. My latest book is about education, it's not as
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doing a book dreams. How long after that incident did you decide to write
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that book? Well, after I found out what was going on, I
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kind of just like, you know, it was like, I'm finna move
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on from this, don't worry about this, blah blah blah blah blah,
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and just keep trying to get jobs and stand on the job that I'm on.
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And then I had to move back home because my elderly parents got really
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sick, and kind of glad I did because the time that I was there,
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I was able to see my dad in his last days, last three
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years, and that's when I I had a lot of hard times, a
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lot of hard times with going to the store, you know, doing doing
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going to I didn't I didn't even want to go to church anymore because of
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several things that was, you know, revealed to people at church. You
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know, it was just a lot and people were like, I s stuff
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was that was? That? Stuff was said in church. Were those individuals
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that was involved, were they members of that church as well? Nope,
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they just knew that I sung in a lot of choirs and I was a
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soloist of a lot of different churches in the region of my birth, because
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I mean I seen really well. So I mean I was always on program
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somewhere. My daddy always took me and uh to those events. I wasn't
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groomed to be whatever they said that I was. I was groomed to be
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housewife. I didn't do nothing but go to church. My first kiss was
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this. Well, it's usually the case for some people. So it's usually
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the case for some people that you know, it happens there in church,
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and if it's happening underneath the Lord's house, then that was the person that
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he may have meant for you to be with him to spend the rest of
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your life now. Ain't gonna talk about all other stuff that happened, hopefully
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didn't happen in the church, but it did that. I don't play with
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the Lord like that. Have you ever looked back at the book with Dreams
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and said, I wish I didn't write this. I wish I could take
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it back. Uh? Yeah, I'd be like, I'd be like,
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Uh, I read the book and I was like, what what was really
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going on? By what? I? Yes, yes, And I look
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at it and I'm like, I wrote this. So some of the characteris
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that's in the book or any of the characters like you? When do you
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feel as though you're like any of the characters in your book? Uh?
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Yeah, okay, and this other individual or other individuals because I remember we
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talked briefly and you mentioned that some sisters was involved with the sisters that you
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were talking about with sorority sisters, and I thought that there was a cohesiveness
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with sororities. How did that turn out once they found out? Are you
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still in contact with the sorority? You still do things with them? Uh?
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I really wasn't, you know, Because of the of a relationship that
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I was in, I never really felt part of the organization, all of
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that person that I was in a relationship, and it made me feel like
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and so I did oubts, you know, because you no, go ahead.
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I'm sorry because it ruined my life because it didn't stand what it stood
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for didn't really apply to me. You know. I learned all of the
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stuff you know that that involved it, and I did those things to those
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other individuals, but they never did that to me. So, you know,
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I only was involved with the formal things and not the informal things,
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you know. So, and the only and the only way that I was
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involved with the informal things was with somebody I was involved with. So for
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you to have lost housing, lost the job, had to relocate, and
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it wasn't something that you wanted to do. Yeah, and they thought it.
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Yes, and those women they thought it was funny and they still think
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so, you know, So you lost the relationships, some of them were
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severed with family members. This individual that you speak of, in order for
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that to have happened, he had to have some type of power in your
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state that you were living in. Was he a powerful person? He was
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a powerful person. Wow. So he used his power to I would say,
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knock you down a bit. Well, he was a powerful person at
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school too. Yeah, we we this started in college. Oh so you
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knew him way back then? Did he have Did your family know him as
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well? He was friends with my brother? Wow? Season a fraternity was
33:39
my brother. Wow. I don't know too much about fraternities except what I
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see on TV. So I let it. I let it stay there.
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Wow. If you could tell your younger writing self anything, what would it
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be and what inspires you or gives you hope these days? Younger self,
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knowing that you knowing what you know, now speak up. Don't be afraid
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to let your light shine no matter what you know. Don't be don't don't
34:19
don't dumb yourself down for anybody. And you know when people don't accept you,
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don't think little of yourself. Think being what I'm said, What,
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if anything, do you owe the real people upon whom you base your characters?
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Do you think that you owe them anything? No? I don't think
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I don't owe them anything because I didn't list anybody's names, and to be
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actual and factual, only listed and I I kind of you know, switched
34:52
around a lot of events. But uh, some people read in between the
34:57
lines and thought that they could get a payday for him at don't and it
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didn't happen. Well, some may say that some of the things that you
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say are apologetic, and some say that you mean what you write. Years
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of what you wrote is what you really meant. And then how much of
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what you wrote you seem to be apologizing for, Well, that's kind of
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It depends on the book What Dreams, What Dreams? Well, What Dreams
35:32
maybe maybe thirty percent apologetic and seventy percent I seen what I said. Have
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you seen this individual? Now, you said that some of this was your
35:47
fault, some of it was that person's fault, but then there was others
35:51
that was involved. Have you actually apologized to anyone for any of this that
35:58
may have happened. Yeah, y'all said everybody that it was directly and people
36:02
that were directly involved in the situation. Now, people that stuck their nose
36:08
in it, Well, I didn't apologize to him, But the people that
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were really really involved I did. Were they able to receive your apology?
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Two of them saw it as a threat, and I think the other person
36:23
that's mainly involved really took it uh as a sincere apology. I'm not really
36:31
sure about that, So I can only go yeah, I can only apologize
36:39
to him. Was that face apology or was it on the phone a letter?
36:45
It was like a letter and a voice recording, and you haven't hearded
36:52
back from them at all. I could only go by what you know people
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uh that know both of them really say. So it sounds like that your
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books are about your life with one particular person, and it also sounds like
37:08
old wounds that need healing. How was the healing process working for you on
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the level of the relationship that you once had with this person. It's hard
37:19
because before I loved that person, it was stuff that I never told that
37:23
person that I told that person and and it really bothered me for a long
37:32
time. I blocked it out of our bevering because I didn't want to remember
37:37
it anymore. And I deal with it. I still have problems with it.
37:45
I think that person has problems with it, because the last time I
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talked to the person, which was in twenty fourteen, they said how they
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felt about the situation, and it kind of tore me up because that person
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never said and to think about it when we were in contact direct content.
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So you had mentioned earlier that it severed some relationships within your family. But
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we had spoken also, and you said that there's some people in your family
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that just seem to have come around because they sometime it went past they've gotten
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to know the situation a little bit more. Yeah. Yeah, one of
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my siblings, because like I said, I got tired of dealing with that
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sorority. She didn't know all of the stuff that had happened because she was
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in it before I was in it, and she was really close to somebody
38:46
that was involved that really hurt me in the situation, and she really didn't
38:51
know everything that was going on because I didn't tell I helped that situation with
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those people Seeker and Sacred because I didn't want nobody to know that. You
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know, there wasn't a part of our life that I wanted to share with
39:05
people because I kind of felt convicted about it. But at the same time,
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you know, it was an escape from being from home life, and
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it was escape from you know, racism and poverty and abuse, you know,
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in my hometown area. So it was something that I never had before,
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you know. So I can't really say the situation was all bad,
39:27
but parts of it was. And I really believe that that sibling understands that,
39:32
y'all, that it wasn't that it wasn't. I really wasn't trying to
39:39
tell them everything. And then they were really upset because especially a one particular
39:45
incident that they were really upset about because I didn't tell a soul about it,
39:51
you know for a long time. You know, you mentioned spirituality a
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few times. What is your relationship like now with God, now that all
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of this has happened, do you think are you looking for God's forgiveness?
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Oh? I already God God forgiveness from that. You know, a lot
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of people still want to condemn me for that. But when I was in
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their prayer group, I was getting forgiveness for that, and I was breaking
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away from it, and I stayed out those situations like that for the longest.
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I mean, I don't even live that type of lifestyle anymore. You
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know, I don't go I'm not in a relationship with anybody. I really
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don't care to be in one. It was a time that I did want
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to be married to that particularly individual, but I don't want to be married
40:38
to anybody. I just want to be in a situation where my children are
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provided for and I am as well. You know I'm providing for you.
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You have a go fundme page and if you would like to send blessings and
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the closed way, you can do so at go fundme dot me meaning gofund
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dot me slash the number eight, the number one, the letter E,
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the number four, the letter A, the number five, the number eight,
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the letter E. You can stay in contact with Nicole. She's on
41:21
Facebook and she's on most of the Instagrams and other social media as well.
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You had mentioned that I'm so glad to see this smile on your face because
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when we first met, when we first started talking, I felt a little
41:37
sadness there. But I see that, you know, you're smiling, and
41:39
it's great to see that big smile on your face. It's just wonderful to
41:44
see. You had mentioned that you are not in that life anymore, but
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we are going to go back into some portions of that lifestyle on the twenty
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ninth of March, when we talk to the X Mistress part of Nicole S.
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Brown, who's gonna tell us a little bit more and she's gonna share
42:07
some more details about her situation. I'll call it that. It's a situation
42:13
that had occurred, and with some very powerful people, as she explains it,
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and some people who seem to have gotten involved. So she's gonna share
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a lot of that with us. And I'm just happy that you are in
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a safe place and that I can hear my little guy in the background giggling,
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So yeah, happy with his mother, and it's just a blessing.
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So we're huge. Thank you to our incredible guests Nicole S. Brown,
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42:47
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