Latest / Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad / Dear Banya: Smack That

Transcript

Dear Banya: Smack That · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio Podcast.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub du du. You
• 0:16
  Speaker 1: should have said scrub, scrub, scrub, and my heart goes scrubs.
• 0:20
  Speaker 2: I don't get that joke.
• 0:25
  Speaker 3: Heavy sigh. You never saw Zena Xenon.
• 0:30
  Speaker 1: You've seen Xena the Warrior Princeress, but you haven't seen
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: Xenon the twenty first century?
• 0:34
  Speaker 4: Correct?
• 0:35
  Speaker 3: What is it Xenon Girl of the twenty first Century?
• 0:38
  Speaker 3: You've never seen that? Never? Is that true? Swear?
• 0:42
  Speaker 5: I haven't seen a lot of movies like Father of
• 0:43
  Speaker 5: the Bride, Pretty Woman.
• 0:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we want.
• 0:50
  Speaker 2: Why, I don't know. It's like one of.
• 0:52
  Speaker 5: Those things that I like missed. I missed the mark
• 0:54
  Speaker 5: on and like now it's like it's so far gone
• 0:56
  Speaker 5: that like what's the point.
• 0:57
  Speaker 3: First of all, you didn't miss the mark because it
• 0:59
  Speaker 3: was it's like an old.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: Right, right, So like I missed it, so it's like fast,
• 1:06
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, you need to watch uh, well, you
• 1:08
  Speaker 1: need to watch both of those. But I didn't see
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: Father of the Bride for a very long time in
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: my life, so that one I understand.
• 1:13
  Speaker 3: Even though it's people's favorite movie.
• 1:16
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 1:16
  Speaker 5: Robbie said literally last weekend, he was like, we need
• 1:18
  Speaker 5: to watch Father of the Bride tonight and I was like.
• 1:20
  Speaker 4: You will cry.
• 1:20
  Speaker 1: You will be very emotional because you have a very
• 1:23
  Speaker 1: like sweet relationship with your dag.
• 1:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and Pretty Woman's a classic.
• 1:27
  Speaker 2: You'll will So I know people always reference it. They're like, oh,
• 1:30
  Speaker 2: a pretty woman.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, just take take a like take a
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: break from your scripted series from twenty eighteen.
• 1:40
  Speaker 3: Put on a class that.
• 1:42
  Speaker 4: I know Island.
• 1:47
  Speaker 2: So I just found out that Love Island Australia.
• 1:49
  Speaker 5: They have a casa or they have uh a more
• 1:53
  Speaker 5: hotel or like the hideaway, like the room that they
• 1:55
  Speaker 5: go to.
• 1:56
  Speaker 2: It's like whatever, it's like talking to them walls here.
• 2:00
  Speaker 3: Believe me, we get it. We get it from the
• 2:02
  Speaker 3: other side. Rude.
• 2:05
  Speaker 2: So I'm gonna give Love on Australia try.
• 2:07
  Speaker 3: I can't believe you haven't already.
• 2:09
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's I already do UK. There's so many
• 2:12
  Speaker 2: there to watch.
• 2:13
  Speaker 3: You did Traders from every.
• 2:14
  Speaker 2: Because there's like one or two seasons of each.
• 2:17
  Speaker 1: This is like, oh you're gonna try, Oh yeah, yeah,
• 2:20
  Speaker 1: take We've lost her again, folks.
• 2:22
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but I'm actually watching someon current right now, what
• 2:25
  Speaker 5: are you watching Disclaimer.
• 2:29
  Speaker 2: Movie show?
• 2:30
  Speaker 3: I heard it's good. It's good, It's only dark. Oh yeah, yeah,
• 2:35
  Speaker 3: like dark.
• 2:36
  Speaker 4: Because you asked people, I love Breaking Bad? What else
• 2:39
  Speaker 4: should I watch? This kind of that vibe? People say?
• 2:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah, people said Disclaimer and Diplomat were like the two showstoppers.
• 2:45
  Speaker 3: Do you not think that Breaking Bad was stark.
• 2:50
  Speaker 2: Weirdly? Yeah, a little bit. But I found the story
• 2:53
  Speaker 2: so interesting and intriguing.
• 2:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so you're able to look past the darkness.
• 2:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's like, oh he makes math, who doesn't?
• 3:01
  Speaker 1: Ye? Yeah, could be worse, could be worse. Yeah, Yeah,
• 3:05
  Speaker 1: that's exciting. Well, speaking of Love Island, I went to
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: the Gladiator premiere and h as I had told you,
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: the cast was there, Yes, on the carpet.
• 3:15
  Speaker 5: I needed to know the specificity of this whole situation.
• 3:20
  Speaker 3: Okay, so first of all arrived. First, First of all.
• 3:22
  Speaker 1: I get so anxious going to things like that because
• 3:25
  Speaker 1: the carpet's so intimidating to me, because I don't know,
• 3:28
  Speaker 1: you're kind of like at this massive premiere. Granted, at
• 3:32
  Speaker 1: this one, it was nice because none of the celebrities
• 3:35
  Speaker 1: from the movie, like the real celebrities weren't there, so
• 3:38
  Speaker 1: it was kind of like reality people my wheelhouse, of
• 3:42
  Speaker 1: like camaraderie in that sense.
• 3:45
  Speaker 3: So I felt a little less like intimidated.
• 3:49
  Speaker 1: And so I get there, I do the carpet tailor's
• 3:54
  Speaker 1: with me.
• 3:54
  Speaker 3: Taylor's like talking to all the people, like e news people, like.
• 3:57
  Speaker 1: All her friends that are in the press, and I
• 4:01
  Speaker 1: see Hannah Ge she was doing interviews. I just have
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: to say, Dylan Barber, Hannah G's husband, is one of
• 4:10
  Speaker 1: the nicest best guys to come out of the Bachelor franchise.
• 4:15
  Speaker 1: Every time I've talked about, every time I've talked to him,
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: he's so warm, he's so kind, he's so engaging, he's
• 4:20
  Speaker 1: not like trying to be anything, no ego, just so nice.
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: And then Hannah's obviously just love the affect and so cute. Yeah,
• 4:30
  Speaker 1: the Montana boys were there.
• 4:31
  Speaker 5: No Mark Estes, Yeah, Caleb, I don't I don't know any.
• 4:38
  Speaker 1: It's like Montana Boy one, Montana Boy two. I think
• 4:41
  Speaker 1: Montana Boy one is Mark I got Hannah Boy two
• 4:43
  Speaker 1: is Caleb got it. I don't know the third one,
• 4:45
  Speaker 1: but he was just the two of them.
• 4:46
  Speaker 2: Okay, So I saw the cowboy hats.
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: From a distance, I said, there they are in person
• 4:52
  Speaker 1: stad this carpet. And then I saw Krishelle and Emma
• 4:56
  Speaker 1: from Selling Sunset. I love Krishelle, and Emma was so cute.
• 5:01
  Speaker 1: She brought her dad, so he was just like halving
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: the time of his life. And then I look down
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: and I see Kendall.
• 5:07
  Speaker 2: You see oh no, the boys.
• 5:10
  Speaker 3: I see the.
• 5:11
  Speaker 1: Boys and then I see Live and Kaylor. So go
• 5:14
  Speaker 1: up to the boys first, and I'm like Hi. I
• 5:16
  Speaker 1: was like, my name is Becca. I was like, so,
• 5:18
  Speaker 1: my friend Tanya is obsessed with Love Island. I was like,
• 5:21
  Speaker 1: can y'all just if I do a video? Can y'all
• 5:24
  Speaker 1: just say hi to her? So they it was.
• 5:27
  Speaker 3: Funny that they all said pull up. Yeah. Is that
• 5:30
  Speaker 3: a Love Island thing? Or is that more like a
• 5:32
  Speaker 3: gen Z thing?
• 5:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm starts saying it. You have no
• 5:34
  Speaker 2: idea like having text? Tis like, Tanya, where are you at?
• 5:37
  Speaker 3: Pull up? Where are you? I was like, pull up?
• 5:41
  Speaker 5: I'm pulling up in bed, Yeah, pulling the sheets right
• 5:44
  Speaker 5: on up, right on up over my head.
• 5:50
  Speaker 1: Kaylor was talking to someone, but Live was standing there,
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: so I was like Live and she turns but to like,
• 5:55
  Speaker 1: oh my god, Hi, I love you.
• 5:56
  Speaker 3: You're sunning.
• 5:57
  Speaker 1: But like she had no idea who I was. She
• 5:58
  Speaker 1: was just like such a girl's girl that she was
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: just like it's so sweet.
• 6:02
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh. I already knew that about her. But
• 6:05
  Speaker 5: I love getting confirmation. Yeah, And I was like on
• 6:07
  Speaker 5: the boots on the ground confirmation.
• 6:08
  Speaker 1: I was like, so I have a podcast with my
• 6:10
  Speaker 1: best friend. And then Kayler's like, Tonya.
• 6:12
  Speaker 3: Where are you at? Like and I'm like, wait, let
• 6:14
  Speaker 3: me video this.
• 6:15
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, just say how to Tanya. So Live
• 6:17
  Speaker 1: starts and then Kayler jump jumps in. Yeah, pull up,
• 6:22
  Speaker 1: pull up the f up?
• 6:23
  Speaker 3: Where are you at?
• 6:26
  Speaker 1: So they were so sweet, and we went into this area.
• 6:29
  Speaker 1: It was like a cocktail area where there was a
• 6:31
  Speaker 1: bar and like heaters and stuff for us is.
• 6:33
  Speaker 3: Staying around and I love a heater. Live was so sweet.
• 6:36
  Speaker 1: She kept coming up being like come hang out with us,
• 6:38
  Speaker 1: like come stand with us, you know. So You're like
• 6:40
  Speaker 1: I'm good, no, no, no, well, I mean we were
• 6:43
  Speaker 1: more just like kind of browsing, like looking around waiting
• 6:45
  Speaker 1: for I wanted to see if I could get a
• 6:47
  Speaker 1: glimpse of Denzel. You know, it's just like you know,
• 6:49
  Speaker 1: seeing it where I could get a glunch of people.
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: I was trying to star.
• 6:52
  Speaker 2: Watch yeah, and she was like partying.
• 6:54
  Speaker 1: They were party. They were just like at the bar.
• 6:56
  Speaker 1: They were like, I don't even know if they came
• 6:57
  Speaker 1: to the movie. Well, they had gone to Vegas and
• 7:01
  Speaker 1: saw a screening of it, so they literally may not
• 7:03
  Speaker 1: have gone to the movie.
• 7:05
  Speaker 5: I knew that Live was going to be my girl.
• 7:08
  Speaker 5: Well Kaylor's my like real girl, yeah and lives like
• 7:11
  Speaker 5: my girl girl.
• 7:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 7:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 7:13
  Speaker 3: There. They were really really fun and sweet and nice.
• 7:16
  Speaker 2: But they said they would come on the pod totally.
• 7:19
  Speaker 1: They're totally down and I genuinely think that they want
• 7:23
  Speaker 1: to if the schedule is a line that they will
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: definitely come on.
• 7:26
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 7:27
  Speaker 5: I don't think I wish that you So, first of all,
• 7:30
  Speaker 5: that Monday night, I also got invited to the Sabrina
• 7:32
  Speaker 5: Carpenter concert, and I was like, I already turned down
• 7:35
  Speaker 5: my best friend Becca to go to Gladiator premiere because
• 7:37
  Speaker 5: I cannot do two nights back to back, so I
• 7:39
  Speaker 5: had to decline the Sabrina Carpenter show. So I didn't
• 7:42
  Speaker 5: even see I don't even think I saw nine to
• 7:44
  Speaker 5: twenty one o'clock that night, Like I was fast shoes gone.
• 7:48
  Speaker 5: By the time when you had sent me those videos
• 7:50
  Speaker 5: of them, I was literally in bed in my pajamas,
• 7:54
  Speaker 5: actually naked, because that's how I sleep.
• 7:55
  Speaker 2: But I always always, yeah.
• 7:58
  Speaker 4: Even when the kids are there. Yeah really yeah, interesting.
• 8:02
  Speaker 2: Well I don't like walk around naked, but I get
• 8:04
  Speaker 2: I have my robe.
• 8:05
  Speaker 4: But what if one of them comes in the middle
• 8:07
  Speaker 4: of the night, Oh, I need your help, come kill
• 8:08
  Speaker 4: a spider or something.
• 8:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true, or like they're like bad, I don't
• 8:12
  Speaker 1: feel like I don't feel well and they want to
• 8:13
  Speaker 1: get in bed with you.
• 8:16
  Speaker 2: Never happened.
• 8:16
  Speaker 5: Well, one of them has come up in the middle
• 8:18
  Speaker 5: of the night because of something, and then Robbie just
• 8:20
  Speaker 5: gets up in help.
• 8:22
  Speaker 4: If one of them's sick in the middle of the night,
• 8:25
  Speaker 4: you don't run in there.
• 8:27
  Speaker 2: I put my robe on.
• 8:28
  Speaker 5: Something they yell from downstairs or something, I'll put my
• 8:31
  Speaker 5: robe on and go down there.
• 8:33
  Speaker 6: But yeah, interesting, Yeah.
• 8:36
  Speaker 5: Anyway, so I'm in bed and but we didn't have
• 8:40
  Speaker 5: them that night. But I was in bed and I
• 8:42
  Speaker 5: see these text messages and I'm like screaming like a
• 8:45
  Speaker 5: little girl, Like I literally feel like the cat Love
• 8:47
  Speaker 5: Island cast sends me back to like my teenage years
• 8:51
  Speaker 5: because also I had like the space buns in my head,
• 8:54
  Speaker 5: so it was like a really double whammy. I felt
• 8:56
  Speaker 5: like I was a fifteen year old girl getting a
• 8:58
  Speaker 5: video from like or something, Yeah, Kira or whatever. I
• 9:04
  Speaker 5: was freaking out so cool. Yeah, and I feel like
• 9:07
  Speaker 5: they just seem so cool.
• 9:09
  Speaker 3: They were all so nice. Yeah, Kendall was so nice.
• 9:13
  Speaker 1: And then I don't know where Janey was when when
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: I was talking to the girls, but at one point
• 9:18
  Speaker 1: she like walked by and I was like, Janey, you
• 9:20
  Speaker 1: look beautiful, and she's like, oh my god, you know
• 9:22
  Speaker 1: did her She's I mean, they're all like beautiful in person.
• 9:27
  Speaker 3: And then did you change numbers?
• 9:29
  Speaker 2: Did you get any of their numbers?
• 9:30
  Speaker 1: I did not ask, but you have Kayler's numbers, so yeah, yeah,
• 9:35
  Speaker 1: we got a drag line.
• 9:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: We're standing there waiting for Denzel and other star sightings,
• 9:42
  Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, Gracie Abrams walks into our section,
• 9:46
  Speaker 1: which is like literally all influencers. Like, it's not none
• 9:49
  Speaker 1: of the celebrities are in there. Okay, it's like real,
• 9:52
  Speaker 1: just like reality people you know, and you feel, which
• 9:56
  Speaker 1: is so interesting.
• 9:57
  Speaker 2: Then where do they put the movie stars?
• 9:59
  Speaker 1: I think they just came later like they like once
• 10:03
  Speaker 1: we went in there, like basically the carpet started, which
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: I actually liked because a lot of times they knew it.
• 10:08
  Speaker 3: At the same time, no.
• 10:09
  Speaker 2: One wants to walk a red carpet in front of
• 10:11
  Speaker 2: like the Rock.
• 10:13
  Speaker 1: Well yeah, and the Rock doesn't want anyone walking like
• 10:16
  Speaker 1: in front of him.
• 10:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure he wouldn't care. He seems so kind.
• 10:19
  Speaker 3: You love the Rock. I had no idea your fandom
• 10:22
  Speaker 3: of the Rock.
• 10:23
  Speaker 2: It's new.
• 10:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, but yeah.
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: So Gracie walks in and we're and she doesn't have
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: like she has two people with her, but they're not
• 10:30
  Speaker 1: like security or anything. They were like publicist or something,
• 10:33
  Speaker 1: and I just like got it. I just was like,
• 10:35
  Speaker 1: she's so beautiful. She looked like she like floated in.
• 10:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I did see the video and it really did
• 10:41
  Speaker 2: look like she was floating.
• 10:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: So I went up to her while we were like
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: walking out to go into the theater, and I was like,
• 10:47
  Speaker 1: I loved your uh surprise performance with Taylor. I love
• 10:51
  Speaker 1: that you were surprised. When she's saying out of the Woods,
• 10:53
  Speaker 1: it's one of my favorite songs, She's like, oh my god,
• 10:55
  Speaker 1: me too. I freaked out. She was really cute.
• 10:57
  Speaker 2: No selfie with Grazie Abrams.
• 10:59
  Speaker 1: No, because one was asking for selfies and I felt
• 11:02
  Speaker 1: like it was more of like an.
• 11:03
  Speaker 3: Experience just to like say hi, proud.
• 11:06
  Speaker 2: Of you, thank you. Yeah, I would not control myself here,
• 11:10
  Speaker 2: she would.
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: You think you've been in so many things where you're
• 11:12
  Speaker 1: like so and so is here and you haven't even.
• 11:14
  Speaker 3: Said hi, cool girl, and yeah, yeah, just super cool.
• 11:20
  Speaker 1: And then we went and watched the movie. The movie
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: is like amazing, but very gory, like if you liked
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: I don't remember the first one came out so long ago.
• 11:28
  Speaker 1: I remember I think it was gory, but this one
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: was just like left right, someone's losing body parts due
• 11:36
  Speaker 1: to swords and yeah, but it was good.
• 11:40
  Speaker 3: Paul came and inentered the movie.
• 11:43
  Speaker 2: Paul Mescal.
• 11:48
  Speaker 3: He's not a drink.
• 11:49
  Speaker 5: I know, it's like mescal Pedro Pascal.
• 11:53
  Speaker 2: I know it's all mes. Yeah, there's a lot, okay.
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: But he came in to interer the movie. Very cute.
• 11:59
  Speaker 1: I will say. After seeing the movie, I was like,
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: I totally get it because the whole movie he's like buff,
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: he's tan, his eyes are just like piercing blue and he's,
• 12:08
  Speaker 1: you know, like the hero of the movie. So I
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, he's really cute, So I'll give you that, Sam.
• 12:16
  Speaker 2: He is cute, big Paul fan.
• 12:20
  Speaker 3: Yes, I get it. Yeah, yeah.
• 12:22
  Speaker 4: Is it weird that he looks nothing like your boyfriend?
• 12:27
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 12:28
  Speaker 7: We actually got into like a little tif over it
• 12:29
  Speaker 7: because I just said how much I want to see
• 12:31
  Speaker 7: Gladiators too, and he was like, oh, I didn't know
• 12:33
  Speaker 7: you liked the first one, and I said, I've never
• 12:35
  Speaker 7: seen the first one.
• 12:36
  Speaker 2: I have no idea what these movies are even about.
• 12:38
  Speaker 3: I just need to.
• 12:39
  Speaker 7: Go see it in imax for Paul mescal And he
• 12:42
  Speaker 7: was like, you could just look a picture of him
• 12:44
  Speaker 7: at home, like.
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: I was like, well, no, that's really funny. Yeah yeah.
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: I mean listen, I have a massive crush on Chris Hemsworth,
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: and Haley looks nothing like him.
• 12:56
  Speaker 3: So can't.
• 13:01
  Speaker 2: A huge crush on the rock.
• 13:06
  Speaker 4: That's not intimidating to Roy at all problems.
• 13:10
  Speaker 2: I don't have a crush on the Rocks. It's new.
• 13:13
  Speaker 2: I heard rotch red one. I was like hmmm. And
• 13:16
  Speaker 2: then I saw this video of him like brushing his
• 13:17
  Speaker 2: daughter's hair once, and I was.
• 13:18
  Speaker 3: Like, once.
• 13:22
  Speaker 4: Was space buns something like that.
• 13:24
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: I gave Tanya space funds because everyone liked the episode
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: and thought it was.
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: Really funny, and yeah, she's not into him.
• 13:34
  Speaker 4: Today, we're trying to recapture the magic.
• 13:37
  Speaker 5: The magic I do feel like the buns like I'm
• 13:40
  Speaker 5: going to give Actually, I'm gonna give a really big
• 13:42
  Speaker 5: p s A to anybody, to everybody listening right now,
• 13:45
  Speaker 5: and I'm gonna do when we come back, is it time?
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: Is that right?
• 13:49
  Speaker 6: But that okay?
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: Thank you, all right, Tanya take it away after that
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: big teeth.
• 14:14
  Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you so much. So this is a PSA
• 14:15
  Speaker 5: to anybody listening. If you are in a rut in
• 14:18
  Speaker 5: your life, if you are feeling a little mundane, a
• 14:22
  Speaker 5: little black, maybe a little gray, change your hair. I
• 14:27
  Speaker 5: felt like Cindy Luhu on Monday. I felt like I
• 14:31
  Speaker 5: was a little girl running around Whoville waiting for Christmas
• 14:35
  Speaker 5: to come.
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: What. I just don't know that that would do it
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: for me.
• 14:40
  Speaker 5: It might not not saying space buns. I'm not saying
• 14:43
  Speaker 5: like give yourself space bunds. What I'm saying is like,
• 14:46
  Speaker 5: change the color of your hair, change the length of
• 14:48
  Speaker 5: your hair, change the part of your hair, like, do
• 14:51
  Speaker 5: something different with your hair, because I'm telling you it
• 14:54
  Speaker 5: changed my dynamic on Monday, Like I was not Tanya.
• 14:57
  Speaker 5: I was Tati. My god, the look, although I did
• 15:05
  Speaker 5: have to take them off because I never was so
• 15:08
  Speaker 5: funny to post this video Robbie saying like he's like, Okay,
• 15:11
  Speaker 5: I think they're cute, they're goofy or whatever he's like,
• 15:13
  Speaker 5: but I'm not like romantically into them. I was like, okay, great,
• 15:20
  Speaker 5: I'll take them down before we go upstairs, if you
• 15:23
  Speaker 5: know what I mean. And so many people were dming
• 15:26
  Speaker 5: me saying that this is a giant green flag because
• 15:28
  Speaker 5: they're like, he doesn't.
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: Want you to look like a young little girl.
• 15:30
  Speaker 5: I was like, the fact that that's a green flag
• 15:32
  Speaker 5: is concerning.
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: Bars on the ground.
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: Bar is very low.
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: But yeah, so I think they're cute and goofy, but
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: not romantically romantically.
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: I'm not into that.
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: You didn't want to like, grab one of the space
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: bun give it a whirl.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: Let's see what this. See what she brings to the bedroom. Why,
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: I think she'd be fun too, But he'll never know.
• 15:54
  Speaker 5: Nows his lost Yeah, but now I have him again today,
• 15:59
  Speaker 5: So back.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: Up He's probably like Becca, how dairy betray me like this?
• 16:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so these are a little different today. These are
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: Becca buns, but.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: Either taller, they have more energy to them.
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they do have some more height.
• 16:15
  Speaker 5: Yeah, like Mickey like mini mouse ears.
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: So now you're like just like the kid.
• 16:22
  Speaker 5: And yes, that's my PSA change your hair. It brings
• 16:26
  Speaker 5: out a different side of you.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Wait when you look at the camera, because I'm thinking
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: about one of the scruncheese is huge and the other
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: one's small.
• 16:34
  Speaker 5: Yeah, one of them you can see and one of
• 16:37
  Speaker 5: them you cannot. That's my That is the user error.
• 16:40
  Speaker 5: I did not bring. I did not anticipate this hat
• 16:42
  Speaker 5: to happen today, so I didn't have two of the
• 16:43
  Speaker 5: same size. We're still troubleshooting, fine tuning, fine tuning if
• 16:47
  Speaker 5: you will.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: Well, we do have a Dear Bonnie episode today, So
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: shall we get to it because time is of the essence.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: No, we so much to good Chetah, what Phoebe and.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: Pretty much just your dog isn't like rivetting.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: We could do.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: If you want updates on Phoebe that happens on my Instagram,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: But I don't think that's a podcast conversation.
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: My dog's knees needs searcher.
• 17:18
  Speaker 5: Oh but you know what is interesting what happened? I
• 17:20
  Speaker 5: think I went viral for the first time. Oh on
• 17:23
  Speaker 5: what on Instagram?
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: Oh the real that you?
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there a million views and climbing.
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: But it appears that it has hit a weird part
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: of the internet because I'm getting trolled like I've never
• 17:37
  Speaker 5: been trolled in my life, trolled like like people will
• 17:39
  Speaker 5: being like she's so annoying, how pathetic, you're a you're
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: an adult.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: I saw some of those comments and I was like,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: this has really hit a strange corner because there's as
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: you don't know you, they don't know people do not
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: know Yes, because I've come across your video randomly. Yes.
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: And the best part is I'm responding to all of
• 17:59
  Speaker 5: them that they're like, you're so.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: Annoying. I'm like, yeah, i am, that's my whole like brand,
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: thanks for listening.
• 18:08
  Speaker 5: Like I'm like, you're trying to call me out and
• 18:10
  Speaker 5: be a bitch, but like, funny, you don't even know
• 18:12
  Speaker 5: that I own that.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: You're like hit the follow for more of this.
• 18:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah, make sure to follow and subscribe.
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: And I have a podcast as well.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: Yes, please subscribe to that.
• 18:24
  Speaker 5: If you want more insecure insecurity, please please follow along there.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I just didn't find it, Like, I don't think wanting
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: to be on the end is an insecurity thing.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I apparently it is, but I do.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: Think it's a funny.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Like it just sometimes when you go viral, that's you
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: can't control.
• 18:42
  Speaker 5: And then people were like, you made the photos so ugly,
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: Like why do you have to smile like that? I
• 18:46
  Speaker 5: was like, I think I made the photo, but like
• 18:48
  Speaker 5: I kept just keep hitting the back saying I think
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: I'm gorgeous.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: But things.
• 18:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah, every troll, everyone that's trolling me is getting some
• 18:56
  Speaker 5: sort of response, but like not what they want.
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's interesting. I just like, don't engage.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: Oh you don't engage.
• 19:04
  Speaker 5: Yeah, if someone's gonna call me ugly, I'm gonna say, actually,
• 19:06
  Speaker 5: I'm really beautiful.
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I thank you.
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: For these comments. She ruined the pick. Anyway, all that work,
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: and look what happened. By the way, you didn't you
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: look just.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: Like photo and smiling.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: This is the most immature, annoying.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: Ass Yeah wait, what did I respond to?
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: That level of insecurity is insane? Are you said?
• 19:31
  Speaker 5: So?
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: The burden said, this is the most annoying immature ss
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: and somebody else said it's immature to want to be
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: close to someone, and then somebody said when other people
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: are already surrounding them posted the picture, then yeah, and
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: then somebody else said, you realize if they had a problem,
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: they would have never made this right. And then you
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: said that's correct.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: Like someone I saw a comment that was like you can.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Tell, like they're all closer because they have the same
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: hair color. Look at their hair color versus I'm like this,
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: who are these are these children? Like who's commenting on
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: this is the weirdest you really hit like this niche
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: weird pocket. Yeah, you never know like when that is
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the thing with TikTok and reels like you just you
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: throw it up and you never know where it's gonna go.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: And first time going viral and I'm like, bring it.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Off, baby, Engagement is engagement.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah you want to troll me atroll right back? Thank you.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: I just posted that like clip of Gracie walking into
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: the party at uh oh my TikTok and it's at
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: one point seven million views, like her fans are just
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: like so obsessed.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: Not quite as viral as mine, but.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, it's not.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: It's like half I'm not even in it though, so
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: anything negative is just like but everyone's like wow, you.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: Know, yeah, do you have any trolls on that? No?
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: No, yeah, no, they're like she's ethereal she looks like
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: Lexi Gray, you know, they're like.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: Assess of her.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: Anyways, that was a little bit about me this week.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Well, just thrilled for you that you have hit a
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: viral streak and just taking it in stride.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, bring on the trolls.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: I don't want them. Don't come. I don't like the trolls.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: I can handle them.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good. Okay.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know me, they don't know me at all.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: I'm still going. She does not care, but we're still going.
• 21:23
  Speaker 5: If my friends and family were saying this stuff, I
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: would care.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: But these trolls. Please. Yeah, no, pack a lunch, Pack
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: a lunch. Yeah. I think we have to go back,
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: and I think we have to take another break.
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: No, we don't know, we know. No, man, it's been
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: like five minutes staying.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: But we are gonna do at least one dear Bonnie
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: before we take our next break, all right, Mark to do.
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: The first one here? Yeah, first off, I just want
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: to say a big thank you for all the positive
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: energy and light you bring every week to the podcast.
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: There's a guy I used to work with for six years.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: We became close. We got lunch together multiple times a week.
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: I didn't think much of a first, except that I
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: really appreciated his friendship, But as the years went by,
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: I caught feelings. I never did anything about it because
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: we were colleagues that would have made things awkward. Well,
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: he was let go last year, but we've maintained our
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: friendship and made up once every few months. We don't
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: text regularly, but he likes and replies on my instagrams.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: We can go weeks without talking, but we meet up.
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: I always feel like we have the best time. Last
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: week we met up, he'd smile and wink at me.
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: He asked to hold his hand to feel how cold
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: it was. He he had to wake up early the
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: next day, but we ended up walking around aimlessly and
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: chatting in a park until two in the morning. We
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: talked about going for pickleball and he said, yes, we
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: should definitely do that. Message me when you're free. So
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: this makes me confuse and frustrated because I'm not sure
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: why he's not taking more of an initiative to find
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: a time to meet if he's really interested, instead of
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: waiting for me to reach out to him. We have
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: mutual colleagues and friends. They say he's obviously into me
• 22:51
  Speaker 4: when we meet up. Sometimes I feel like he does too,
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: but I don't know why. When we're not together, he
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: doesn't put in the effort to chat or meet up
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: more often, which makes me think that maybe he doesn't
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: like me that way. I don't want to ruin the friendship.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: What should I do help?
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: This is one of those where I think you just
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: say hey, kiss me. I think you saw I don't
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: think you say kiss me. I think you just say hey.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: Is this do you see?
• 23:20
  Speaker 8: Like?
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: Is this friendship? Or is there like do you see
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: me more than a friend? Or is this friendship?
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: Because like you know, it's better than words. Actions exactly
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: what an action is?
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: What kiss that? You said kiss me? Which is words?
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: So instead of saying kiss me, just kiss him, just
• 23:40
  Speaker 5: go in kiss him. If he backs off and says WHOA,
• 23:42
  Speaker 5: then you have your clear answer. If he leans in
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: and makes out with you, you have your answer.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: I would much rather be rejected by.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: Words than a pull away.
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah, coming from a girl that's been pulled away many times.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: Yes, yes, who's pulled away from you?
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: I don't know Matthew from college, Pete, that's real.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: You've been pulled away from when we need to kiss.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: It's fine, I'm fine, everything's fine.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: She's hitting all the friends characters.
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: Yeah, So anyways, I think you just go in for
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: a kiss. That's the telltale way.
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: You can decide words or kiss. But it's time for
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: you to make an initiative here. And you're worried about
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: we're in the friendship. There is no this is over.
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: It's already over because you have feelings for him, So
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: there is no future friendship here. So you need to
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: make the move, whether it's with words or with actions,
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: because this we need to We need to get out
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: of this limbo that we're in. We need to get
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: out of it.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: I don't think the friendship's over because I think if
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: she's like, hey, are we you know? What is this
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, I just here as a friend.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: If she needs space, she can take it. But I
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: think that if they have a and she knows the
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I don't know, I had her friendship with a guy.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and guess what. He had a crush on you,
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: But then and then he was like I just need
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: to take time, and then we were friends again, and like.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Now are you still friends?
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: Now?
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, when's the time you talked to this guy?
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: I mean he lives in San Diego, he's married.
• 25:04
  Speaker 8: Now.
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: I know he's saying your friend Lee, but like, the
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: friendship's ruined no matter what, You're not going to keep
• 25:10
  Speaker 5: this friend when you're married.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: I know, but she's not married and neither is he.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: So I'm just saying if it's if he's like, I
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: don't I like you as a friend and she enjoys
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: being around him and is like, now she has a
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: clear idea of what the relationship is. They can just
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: be friends without any expectations.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: Can But I think there the friendship has a cell
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: by date on it because one of you are going
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: to be in a relationship and that's the end of
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: the friendship. And that's fine. I know what's in a relationship,
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: but there's going to be some day.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Yes, So you're just like, you don't have friends with
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: people because they might eventually get into relationship.
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: Friends with people I used to have crushes on.
• 25:44
  Speaker 9: Yes, same interesting yeah, I disagree anyway, Guys, there's something
• 25:51
  Speaker 9: about this generation of guys, whether it's millennials or gen Z,
• 25:54
  Speaker 9: they really are bad at taking the initiative.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: And obviously that's a big generalization and I'm sure there
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: are exceptions to that, but generally speaking, they seem very
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: scared of making a move. It's time to make a move, Anonymous, Yeah.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: I just also am like, here's my thought on if
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: I like, if I like someone, do I want to
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: be with someone who is like, you know, the whole
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: thing if he wanted to do he would?
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: Or do you want to see she would?
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I've always thought like, well, some people are just more shy,
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: they're a little more hesitant. But it's also like, do
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: you want someone who's not gonna take the initiative? Like
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: do you want someone that you have to ask to
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: make the move? Or do you want someone who's gonna
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: make it clear that you don't have to be in
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: this confusing state? Like is it even worth it at
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: this point? Is this your guy? Because it's the guy
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: that you want gonna be like scared to be straightforward
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: with you about his feelings.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: This is a fair point because they were saying if
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: he wants to be with you. You will know it.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: I have never had a fleeing a relationship where I
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: wasn't one thousand percent sure that the person had the
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: same feelings for me.
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: But why is he if I'm him, I'm not walking
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: around till two in the morning with somebody I don't.
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: But I'm also like, so is he shot? What's the
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: hold up is he? Is it a personality?
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: It's fear of rejection.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: Man.
• 27:16
  Speaker 5: Now I'm thinking about things a little differently because I
• 27:18
  Speaker 5: was thinking about.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: You know who?
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: I know who? Oh yeah, we used.
• 27:25
  Speaker 5: To hang out all the time, just the two of
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: us hung out. He loved hanging out with me as
• 27:30
  Speaker 5: a friend. Called to you, told me you want to
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: get a drink? I want to do this, I want
• 27:35
  Speaker 5: to go to this workout. And I was into him.
• 27:38
  Speaker 5: I was like, why is he making a move? He
• 27:40
  Speaker 5: clearly didn't want to. Now he's married to somebody else, spoiler?
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: What was he doing all that?
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: I know as a person and wanted to.
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: I'm cool, very beyond cool, but just as a friend,
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: that's all.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: It's odd to me. It was so odd to me.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: I was like hell, hell, how much more? Like can
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: I put my boobs up?
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: And like, yeah, I mean you can only put your
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: boobs up so much.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: You can only put your boobs up.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: And if he wants it, he wants the boob he doesn't.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: Right, And so like, moves could have been made.
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: But did you kiss him?
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: No?
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: Did you ask him to kiss you?
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: No?
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: I don't know why I didn't, though in hindsight I
• 28:23
  Speaker 5: wish I would have. So that's my advice to you, anonymous.
• 28:27
  Speaker 5: In hindsight, I had a similar situation. I did not
• 28:30
  Speaker 5: make a move, and I will always wonder what if
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: I mean really?
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: But yeah, so I think you should just make your.
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: Move, all right, right, great, not all in agreement.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: And I also think you deserve to have someone who
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: just makes a move, even though I know a lot
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: of people disagree and be like.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: Not everyone straightforward.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: Some guys need a little push personally, I think you
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: deserve not to be in a state of confusion with
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: the person that you're gonna be.
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: I was so confused in that situation, and he wasn't
• 29:01
  Speaker 5: the right guy right right.
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: And the right guy didn't make you feel confused about
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: his feelings for you.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: No, he didn't. He said, I'll pick you up on
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: my way to the date.
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: I hope she can put all this advice together and
• 29:13
  Speaker 4: make it somewhat cohesive and make a decision bullet points.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: Okay, well now let's take a break.
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: But we'll tease it.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, this is a good one. Okay, is
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: bad at texting a red flag?
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: Oh no?
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: All right, well, all.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: Right, we're back mark.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: This is well, we know Tanya's opinion, but let's hear
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: the meat of the question.
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: I love the podcast and hearing all of your stories.
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: You guys make the work week easier, So thank you
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: for that. That is very sweet. That is the goal, right,
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: we want to make the tough week easier. That's sweet.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: I'm twenty nine, started dating again after a long bad relationship.
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: I've gone on a few okay dates, but I know
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: it's a numbers game, so I keep trying. I've finally
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: met a guy and we clicked on our first date. Chemistry, conversation,
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: We're great. We've gone in a few dates since then.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: They've all been great. My issue is the communication between
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: the dates not so great. Texts are short, sometimes he
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: leaves me on red gives me reasons like, uh, my
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: phone died, I was busy at work. I told him,
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: you can just tell me if he's busier can't talk.
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: Sometimes he goes a day or two without saying anything,
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: and it's just weird to me. He's three years younger
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: than me, so I'm not sure if it's an age
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: thing as well, am I overreacting? A part of me
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: wonders if he's just not interested. Of note, we've both
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: initiated making plans to hang and he says he really
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: likes me. But at the same time, actions speak louder
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: than words. I'd love any advice all four of you
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: could give.
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: Goes back to just goes back, similar, similar, But.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I also here's my thing with this, because I don't
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: think that everyone is a good communicator, especially over text
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: and calls. Like I do think people are just like
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: lazy about charging their phone, like I have some people
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: that just their phones never.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: Charged, and I do believe that.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: However, it seems like you want someone who is a
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: good texter and is a good communicator, and I don't
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: think that this is something I think this is something
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: that's going to continually bother you.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, in the relationship.
• 31:32
  Speaker 5: So as someone who is not a good texture myself thyself. Yeah,
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: like in the beginning, I would always like screenshot Robbie's
• 31:39
  Speaker 5: text and send it to you to come up with
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: like a funny, witty response.
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's not the same as not responding.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I could that could have taken a day,
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: Like you know what I mean.
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: We never took a day to respond, lovely, it's running
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: a day workshopping responses.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: Very different. This is very different, by the way.
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: Group of ten people similar demographic to Robbie, how would
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: you respond if I said this to him?
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: But it could be the same thing.
• 32:02
  Speaker 5: It could be like this guy is maybe not the
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: best text or he wants to be like funny and
• 32:05
  Speaker 5: witty and on it with you, and so he's like
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: afraid to respond because his response is lame, and like
• 32:11
  Speaker 5: he's sending it off to his friends to workshop as well.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: Is that delusional?
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: I say yes, But there are others who will say no.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: Some guys, some people are just bad at texting. I've
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: got guys like my friend Kurt. I know if I
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: text him here from him in three days. Maybe it's
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: just kind of how some guys are. So I think
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: maybe it's just how he is. But like Beca said,
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: if this is important to you, then yes, it's a
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: red flag because everyone's what flags are.
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: Different, it's a beige flag. I like, it's not that bad.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I just think if it's y'all aren't even an official
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: couple and it's bothering you, then when you get together,
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: that's going to be annoying.
• 32:49
  Speaker 5: But also she hasn't even told him that it's annoying.
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: Why don't you tell him, Hey, I don't like this,
• 32:55
  Speaker 5: because that's.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: Going to come across like naggi and like, I'm not
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: even your boyfriend. Why are you expecting me to just
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: like respond on.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Your Then maybe she shouldn't.
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: Shouldn't what expect that?
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: This is just who he is.
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's fine, but she wants someone who's gonna communicate.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: She thinks you Robbie's a very good texter and communicator
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: and if.
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: He wasn't, you would not. You are talking about you
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: never miss a.
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: Beat, like you're the other extreme from this guy. This
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: guy like season and Red just ignores it goes back
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: to work. Were you obsessed about what you're gonna say? Back? Becca?
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: What should I say? And even when you're not in
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: that situation with him. I think you respond very quickly
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: and very well. Yours respond to me immediately. I understand,
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: But I'm just saying I think I don't think you're
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: a bad texture.
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: No, and I also think that.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: But your reason of not being what you consider not
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: being a good Texter is because you're thoughtful about your response.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: And I don't.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Necessarily think this guy is being thoughtful about his response.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: But that's you know what that is. That's an assumption,
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: it is.
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: And you're an overthinker. He's an underthinker.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Assuming makes an ass out of you and me.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: Yes, but I don't I feel I feel confident in
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: my my stance here.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: Well, you have two different stances, Anonymous, So take the
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: yellow brick road.
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the yellow brick road.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: I just think that, and I do think if you
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: want to, if you really like him and you want
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: to have a I'm scared you're scaring me.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: She's staring at me the head.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: Down makes really standing straight.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just gonna say, if you want to have
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: a conversation, like hey, like I I can't tell if
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: I'm expecting too much, but I'm not used to not
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: hearing from the person. I don't want to take it
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: the wrong way, but it's, you know, making It's making
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: me wonder if you're like interested and I just wanted
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: to make sure we're on the same page.
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: That would be a very mature, healthy way to handle it.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: If you can get there.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Take your take your brick road, take your time, Take
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: your time, take your brick.
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: Becka, do you want to jump with the most salacious
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: of these?
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: Is that my sex life? Yes? It's short and sweet.
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: Hi guys, so grateful for your pod. I love every
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: Monday and Thursday because of you. Again, I need some advice.
• 35:09
  Speaker 4: My husband and I've been married four years and have
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: a one and a half year old. Ever since we
• 35:12
  Speaker 4: had our child, our intimacy has been black. Oh no,
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: he claims he isn't cheating, he isn't watching porn, he
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: isn't masturbating, et cetera. I genuinely believe him, But why
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: does he never want sex with me? I've tried initiating.
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: Oh this, this sentence hurts me. I tried initiating and
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: he turned me down because you wanted to watch a
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: show or go to sleep. I feel sad at this point.
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: Am I crazy? How do I fix this.
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: I don't think that's sad.
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: I think it's so sad.
• 35:41
  Speaker 5: Why if you're tired, the last thing I want to
• 35:44
  Speaker 5: do is be jumping around on someone.
• 35:47
  Speaker 4: Well, and I'm again with the generalizations. I feel like
• 35:50
  Speaker 4: with women that is the case. I feel like men
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: will take the jumping around any chance they can get
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: the jumping around.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: Yes, you think.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: I don't think I have a get time an opinion
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: of this because I don't. I'm not dealing with the
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: man woman dynamic, you know.
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: I mean, I don't. I think it's different for everybody,
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: and it's certainly in my case that is the case.
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: I don't that's a wonderful offer, and I'm never turning
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: that down.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: But I also think that you offer something every day.
• 36:18
  Speaker 4: If only that were the case.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: But I agree, if it's like a one off, he's
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: had a long week and he's started, he just wants
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: to decompress and watch the show. But if it's like
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: every time she's offering, well.
• 36:27
  Speaker 5: Well, I think the difference here is because I don't
• 36:32
  Speaker 5: think it's a bad sign. Like I've I've wanted to
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: and he's not wanted to. But I like, I'm ready
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: to go every day. So it's not like this like
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: exciting thing, do you know what I mean? Like I
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: it is what it is, but the fact that they
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: aren't having it, they are not having sex and then
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: she's tried and he turned it down that you know,
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: that hurts I think more because it's not like they
• 36:56
  Speaker 5: just had sex the day before, you know what I mean.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe talk to someone about it and try to
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: figure out because remember when we had that sex therapist
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: on and did.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: We have a sex therapist on? No?
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like a sex like couple therapists, and she has
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: like she had like the show where they figure out
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: their styles of.
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: We did have someone yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah we
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: did trying to make me feel trying to gaslight me.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: No, So I remember I found it so interesting because
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: she was like trying to find like what turned your
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: partner on and like what it is, like.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: The languages of sex or something.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Yes, I think that is so such valuable information because
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: it could be figuring out what it is that gets
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: him in the mood because it might just be different
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: than what gets you in the mood, and if it
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: could be like a date before or something that makes
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: y'all feel connected, so that that that natural progression of
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: sex is like open for him. He might just be
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: like shut down right now, not feeling like intimate or
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: connected with you. And I think it's like refinding that
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: those things that excite you about each other.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: Because I've heard.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: From every single person that I know that's had kids,
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: especially in those first years. Mark, I feel like we've
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: talked about this that it's hard and like intimacy and
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: trying to connect with their partner is just different. It's
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: a different phase of life.
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: You have like a baby that you're trying to I bet,
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: and so it might just be an adjustment.
• 38:28
  Speaker 4: And you know how like guys are like afraid to
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: do it when you're pregnant because they think they're going
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: to hurt the baby or something, you know, the silly things.
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: But you know, we have that in mind because everything's different.
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: And even after you have the baby, things are different.
• 38:41
  Speaker 4: Your boobs are now feeding your children, Like it's weird
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: to be like excited for them when they're actually generating. YEA,
• 38:50
  Speaker 4: so body it's much more functional now and I don't
• 38:52
  Speaker 4: and it's so it's a weird. It's not that it's
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: not sexy anymore, because it absolutely can be. But guys,
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: I think are a little freaked out by some of
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: those changes and and so there might be something to that.
• 39:03
  Speaker 4: But I think Becky, you're right, you should have a
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: conversation like what turns you on? Yeah, if you were to,
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: you mentioned watching porn, If you were to, what do
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: you like to watch? What are you into? And maybe
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: we can incorporate some of that in the bedroom if
• 39:14
  Speaker 4: it's not too.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: Weird or if it's not.
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: But I think there's a conversation there because you could
• 39:23
  Speaker 4: be freaked out by certain things. He doesn't want to
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: mention because it doesn't want to hurt your feelings, But
• 39:26
  Speaker 4: it would be that you know what that is, And maybe.
• 39:28
  Speaker 5: It is maybe it is exactly that, Like he sees
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: the boobs as like his child's food supplies, if he
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: doesn't want to suck on them and accidentally get some
• 39:38
  Speaker 5: of the food, you know what I mean?
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And the kids just came out of the other area.
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: It's weird for you to want to do things to
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: that area that just created life.
• 39:45
  Speaker 5: It's weird, right, you know, I didn't even think of
• 39:48
  Speaker 5: it like that, Like, you're not gonna smack.
• 39:50
  Speaker 10: My, I'm sorry, smack your What what's he smacking that
• 40:03
  Speaker 10: sounds so painful?
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: Anything other? What is he smacking? Not the smack.
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: The thing is he's not smacking it, okay, he's not.
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: Just upset to know that he does. That's really upsetting.
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: There's something about the space bunds that makes it more.
• 40:41
  Speaker 5: The first are also loose, like they're super loose, so
• 40:43
  Speaker 5: I feel like they're.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: Like jiggling on my head.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: Man.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, well any next question?
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Mark?
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: All right, well shall we? I mean, we're getting towards
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: the end of our time.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: We should wrap it up.
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: We can jump to the fun one. Yeah, yeah, let's
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: This is from mollyhi Beckatania Mark and Eastern Day one
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: scrubber Here. This is a fun question that I ask
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: my friends and people I meet and find that they
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: be telling of who they are and their personality. You
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: all may have experienced this already, especially Tanya. But who
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: is a celebrity that you know that you know you
• 41:14
  Speaker 4: would hit it off with and become friends with if
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: you met them organically at a bar and why or
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: in the case of U four, a work or an
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: influencer event, And if this has happened already. Who is it?
• 41:24
  Speaker 4: Mine has always been Jamie Lee Curtis. I have no
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: real reason to believe this, but I just know in
• 41:28
  Speaker 4: my heart to be true. She wants to hear our thoughts.
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: So celebrity, you just know, maybe you've never met them,
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: you just know that if you did meet them, you
• 41:34
  Speaker 4: guys would hit it off and you'd be besties. I
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: got one. I can go first, Jason Bateman. I think
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: Jason Bateman and I would be best friends.
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we're similar age, our kids are similar age. I
• 41:49
  Speaker 4: always think he's great in his movies and such. He's
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: a baseball fan. I think we'd be good friends.
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: Good one. That's actually a really good one.
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: Do you have anyone off the top of your head,
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: So off the top of my head.
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: You can't say Kayler.
• 42:09
  Speaker 5: Top of my head. I want to say Chloe Kardashian,
• 42:12
  Speaker 5: Oh that's a good one, thank you, or Courtney Kardashian
• 42:16
  Speaker 5: or Kim kard I honestly, all the Kardashians adopt me.
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: I'm kidding. Yeah, I feel like I feel like all
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: of them. Weirdly, I feel like, yeah, they.
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: Would love you, they'd want you hanging out at the mansion.
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like maybe Chloe Moore, maybe Courtney Moore.
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know. It's a toss up.
• 42:34
  Speaker 5: You could really just hit And I think Kendall and
• 42:37
  Speaker 5: Kylie would enjoy me as well.
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: Sure, kind of like an aunt.
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I always feel that way with Kylie Jenner.
• 42:45
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that shots fire came over that comment. Uh, that's
• 42:53
  Speaker 5: kind of where my brain went. Was the Kardashian clan
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: and Chris Jenner. I'd a that holiday party.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: I feel like it'd be fun times.
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: It's so basic to say this, but I always feel it.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: When I know what you're gonna say. Jennifer Anderson, No,
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I bet you would, though I do.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: I think so too.
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: But I was gonna say Taylor Swift, like I just
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: feel like, I literally feel like if we just like
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: hung out and had a conversation that like outside of
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: her fame world, that we would be friends.
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but she's so famous.
• 43:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it changes people.
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: I don't think it changes her. I just don't know
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: that she has time for me.
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: I think that level of fame cannot help but change people.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: I agree, Oh yeah, because every friend you make you
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: have to go like, yeah, why are do they just
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: would they be friends with me without the success.
• 43:41
  Speaker 9: Right.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, there was somebody I saw interviewed recently and I
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: was like, she is so funny and I feel like
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: I could be like, she has the humor that I love.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: But I can't remember who it was, but it was like.
• 43:53
  Speaker 5: A Drew Barrymore, no man love her, but no Martha Stewart,
• 43:58
  Speaker 5: no Ben Hathaway.
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: Someone wrote me on Instagram and said they worked for
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: her and they worked in a store and they all
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: used to fight over like not wanting to help her
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: because she was so rude.
• 44:11
  Speaker 5: I imagine, Yeah, I imagine that she's quite prickly.
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, Like I don't know that she'd be the
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: one that i'd have.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: A dinner party with.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I agree, but she's fascinating. Yeah yeah, So
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: I guess it's so basic, but I think Taylor.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: I know, I went basic too with the Kardashians.
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: I'm doing.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: My My FIRSTLF.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: Was Kylie Jenner because every time I see her videos,
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: I think she's so funny, and I really I think
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: the Kardashians were a good one.
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: Thank you not to scroll then, yeah.
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: You don't need to. I was scrolling millennial woman.
• 44:43
  Speaker 8: Celeb Yeah wow, all right, well that's all for now,
• 44:52
  Speaker 8: but we will be back on Monday.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, stay tuned for that. We can't wait. Have a
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: great weekend.
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: We love you, somebody love you.
• 45:01
  Speaker 10: Bye mhm.