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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Shelah-Lessons from the Spies 6.12.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  So the Barshah Barshah Chalak has the story of the spice and
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  that term spice is already a negative term that we use to
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  describe these people. The overall story, we'll go into
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  the details is that beginning Barshah Hashem del Mushira Veno
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  send these people, send for you people a nashim to go tour the
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  land like Tudor, which is a word for it.
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  Tour, inspect, learn about the land, the land we're about to go
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  into. Let them go and look out, seek
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  out the whole land and then come back.
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  And that's fine. Send those people who are the
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  people that can be sent 12 leaders of 12 Naseem, leaders of
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  each tribe. Every tribe will have a
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  messenger to go out and spy the land.
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  That's opening story of Alfred Asha.
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  Now they're called a Tutu to tour the land.
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  Eventually. We call them spies.
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  Miragalim, we call them spies. That right there gives you a
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  little inkling as to what happened.
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  There's another thing. Another thing is this.
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  Or she opens up the parasha by saying that this parasha, the
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  story of these spies comes right after the story of Miriam
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  talking about Moshev and Lasha. That's why she it should have
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  learned we put the two stories connect to each other because
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  these people and the whole Jewish people who asked for
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  these spies should have learnt a lesson, which is you speak
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  Asharah, it's a bad thing. And these spies as well, we're
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  about to speak Asharah about the land.
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  They should have learnt a lesson and not spoken bad about the
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  land. That's already an inkling as to
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  what went wrong with this Blaharah, what went wrong with
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  this mission of the spots. All right, now what is this idea
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  when you I said the words that we use for them are La Tudu,
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  which was tore the way and the word that we used end of the day
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  is Marigalene, which is part. What does that mean?
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  What's the difference? The difference between what the
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  mission was and what the mission became is that they were sent
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  out do something positive, which means God told them to take you
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  into the land. God told them the land is great.
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  I'm going to take you and just go look at it.
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  You want to look at it, Go look at it.
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  There's a big debate if I shouldn't want them to go in or
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  not, but OK, you want to do it, do it.
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  Then Amban says that it's very normal before you go into a land
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  to look at the land. That's fine, right?
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  She says the overall mission was not necessary either way you go,
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  fine. But the overall thing was look
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  at the land. That's not what they did.
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  They came in and they spied the land.
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  Spied the land means they came in and they came with a negative
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  approach. They came with a negative
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  approach and they turn this trip instead of it being looking at
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  the land and the spine of the lamb.
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  Now let's break down how that switch happened.
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  Very important. Pasuk says Shlah, Laha and
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  nashim, they were called men. Men means they were originally
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  great men. And nashim is a word for
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  distinguished men. They were originally great men
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  and they became spies. What happened?
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  They go to the land, look at the land.
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  They come back with a terrible report about the land.
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  Everything that they see, it turns one negative everything.
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  How do you explain that started off as distinguished men sent to
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  do a holy mission. They come back as spies and they
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  come back with terrible news. They explain it.
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  So I saw one explanation is a very important point.
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  It says originally before they were chosen, before they were
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  chosen for this mission, they were distinguished great men.
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  When did they go wrong? One explanation is the moment
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  after they were chosen, the moment they were given that
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  position, they lost their logic, they lost their mindset, they
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  lost their mission, which is originally when they were
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  chosen, that God picked out distinguished men.
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  I have a mission for you. Please go look at the land.
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  Then they were chosen, says the Stipler.
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  Once they were chosen, they said, oh, I was chosen, I have a
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  job, I have an important mission, and now we got to the
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  head. And now they decided to
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  interject themselves into this job.
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  Once they inject themselves into the job and arrogance and their
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  own opinion, they change everything.
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  They went from people looking at the land to people spying in the
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  land, people who are supposed to deliver an obvious positive
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  report to those who delivered a negative report because they
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  interjected themselves. OK, so you interject yourself,
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  how does that turn into negative?
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  So there's this point at the Zohar rights.
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  And these individuals had a very significant fear about going
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  into the land of Israel. And that is that we're afraid
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  while we're in the mid bar, we have a job.
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  Our job is that we're the leaders of the tribes.
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  Now we're giving a task to go to on the land.
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  Once we go into the land of Israel, very positive.
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  And potentially we're going to lose our job.
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  Maybe we go into Israel eventually and we settle and the
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  tribes settle, maybe we'll lose our job.
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  And so once they're interjecting themselves and they were given a
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  mission to tour, now they had their own mindset and their own
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  ulterior motives playing a role into their mission.
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  And they're thinking to themselves, hey, if we ever go
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  into this land, we might lose our job.
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  And they interjected that into their mindset that developed a
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  negative opinion and upward negative outcome.
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  So the picture is, sorry, people who was sent?
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  Schlac Lagard, you have a mission, you're a messenger, do
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  your job and come home. You don't know.
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  They interject themselves. They thought about themselves.
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  They had the arrogance in themselves, and they turned a
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  very simple open shot case into what we have today.
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  OK, All right. Well then.
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  They could have done the other way also.
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  They can go into the land and they could turn out be leader to
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  the lands since they were the first.
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  People to go in there, they didn't have confidence.
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  Of course those are grossly so they have they got a very good
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  report. So this plays into a broader
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  question on the Oprah Asia. If you had to pinpoint the one
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  floor Magdalene Spies story is a challenging story because like
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  we said, those went in, they went in to give a negative
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  report and they impacted our ability to go and we were about
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  to go in a couple of days. Scott was going to take us in,
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  walk right in. No war, no fighting, no issues,
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  stray miracle. And because they came back on
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  negative report and the Jewish people accepted that negative
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  report, it turned into 40 years staying in the desert, not just
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  four years. All the people who were adults
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  at the time, 20 year old at the time while on the desert, all at
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  the pass away before we went in that entire generation lost the
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  right to go into Israel. That was the only hope.
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  He lost that right. That was the ultimate goal and
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  lost it because of this spy mission.
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  So it's a major destructive mission.
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  So all those we still never made it into the web.
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  They stride the the the leaders themselves passed away right
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  away right away. Only Caleb and Yoshua from the
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  entire Jewish people. Two good spice survive out of
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  that the entire army sale a pair were killed Thai army sale over
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  the next 40 years. It's an unbelievable thing.
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  So now to your question which was it could have gone like I'm
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  I'm describing it that they had Ontario motive and therefore
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  they turn it into a negative. They could have had Ontario
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  motive and thought about it as a positive.
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  That plays into this broader thought.
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  What is the core issue with the spies?
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  Was it was was it looking at things in a bit of light?
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  Oh, that's it. The core issue was a lack of a
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  muna, a lack of faith. And if you play into that plays
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  right into your point, which is I'll give you a clear example.
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  I'm constantly mind all the time people think about from Jola one
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  day will they move to Israel? You know better than I should be
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  rebuilt to move to Israel. So in the back of your mind, if
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  you have anything established over here in Brooklyn or New
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  York or America, people even, let's say they don't do it.
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  Let's say we'll move to Florida. Not much.
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  Yeah. Or move to Florida in the back
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  of your mind automatically. What happens?
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  So it always works. It's eases up.
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  What's going to change? What am I going to lose when I
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  move there? Alright, I'm established here.
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  I have a shul here. I have a job here.
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  I have a business here, I have my family here, whatever it may
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  be. And you thinking to yourself,
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  oh, when we move it's going to be different automatically.
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  It's always works. And when people are bored up,
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  you know, people are, people are very afraid to change.
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  Again, it could be a move, could be phenomenal, but people are
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  afraid to change. What's the difference?
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  The difference is how much faith you have, especially when it's a
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  godly move like Mashiach coming. How much faith does a person
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  have? Every person is lacking faith
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  and thinking themselves move means upheaval.
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  I mean challenge. If a person has faith, I think
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  themselves move means God is moving us, especially if Hashem
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  is taking us dead cell or Hashembling Mashiach, God is
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  taking us. And I'll make sure my situation,
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  your remains is good and even better.
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  And that plays into the fact that the spies, they had a
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  negative, they looked at everything in negative light.
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  They had a negative report like Shana at the core, Altera motive
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  at their core and a lack of belief.
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  And because of that lack of belief, they were nervous about
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  the future. And they therefore, because of
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  that nerve, saw things in negative light and because of
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  that set over things in negative light.
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  But at its core, core core over the lack of belief.
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  All right. And he rejected themselves into
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  the picture with their lack of MO na.
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  And that's how it's laid out. And therefore a person has to
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  realize whenever you look at anything in life, if you add
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  more beta horn to that picture, you can see it in the positive
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  light. If you add less beta horn, see a
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  negative light. You name the world story, you
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  name the news report, you name whatever it is in life, it can
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  always be a negative perspective and a +1, whether it be stocks
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  going up and down, upheaval to the world, whatever it may be to
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  see a negative light, you see a positive light.
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  It all depends on how much you interject got into the picture.
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  That's what you see in front of these spies.
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  Interesting thing when they came back they were punished, the
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  whole Jewish people were punished and the punishment was
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  40 years staying in the desert with 40 years coming from we
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  always know of 40 years, 40 years came because the spies
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  travelled in it as you sell in the land of Canaan.
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  At the time of 40 days, God said I want to punish the people a
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  year per day. Why?
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  Why the punishment should be with the amount of words that
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  was spoken. That's the issue, the amount of
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  negative reporting that was spoken.
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  Why are you punishing for the the years based on the amount of
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  days that they travelled? So I've always had this
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  question. It happens to be last time I saw
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  the answer and the answer is, is that the issue at its core we're
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  saying and we're not. But even beyond that, the issue
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  was the negative. Look at everything.
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  Was the land a beautiful land or was it a terrible land?
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  Depends who you ask if you ask Hashem, well, Shenabano hard on
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  it's a beautiful land, it's a miraculous land.
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  It's a gifted land. It's great.
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  If you ask the spies, everything that they saw was bad.
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  They saw people dying. They saw giants, but the giant,
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  but they're actually giants. So that's they were actual
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  giants. People who lived in the land at
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  the time to read Basuk says they came there and they saw giants.
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  They got afraid. There are humongous people of
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  how can we fight them. Scary thing they saw.
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  There were a lot of burials going on, a lot of a lot of
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  funerals going on. So my gosh, it's a land of
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  giants and people die here. What's going on over here?
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  Meanwhile, Hashem's perspective was a land of giants means it's
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  a very healthy land. The air is very good over here
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  and it's a people are being buried.
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  God did it on purpose to distract the locals from
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  noticing these spies. Everything was all part of the
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  frame, but the spies didn't see it that way.
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  Everything that they saw was turned into a negative.
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  And if you have an arterial motive and you have a lack of
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  belief, whatever the with everything in the back of your
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  mind, you can see anything in turn to bad and you can see
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  anything in turn to good. That's the power of it's funny.
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  La Shunara is not really a sin of speech at its core.
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  It's really a sin of perspective.
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  That's just telling you over here.
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  So every day that they travelled in the land was another day of
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  bad perspective. So God says my punishment is not
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  going to be something for the words that they say, my
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  punishment actually going to be more effectively and more
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  importantly on the site that they saw because that's where
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  the problem really lies. And we're saying even deeper
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  than that be the horn, but at least it's a sight that they saw
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  and it tells all of us. If you can, if you you have you
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  interject yourself into the picture, you may very well have
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  an alteria motive and see these in negative light.
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  OK, I can't tell you how many times the rest two weeks just
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  because I'm thinking about this. I've had conversations with
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  people about the same event. One person told me one of the
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  greatest days of their life. Another person told me it was a
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  total waste of time. OK, two different events that
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  came to money, two different events came to mind, come to my
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  mind and the same conversation happened.
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  One guy told me it was one of the greatest days of his life.
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  Other person told me a waste of time.
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  How is it possible? The answer is the person who's
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  at the greatest event of his life.
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  He actually, that event was promoting him in the sense not
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  him directly, but his type, whatever it may be.
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  Let me give you exact examples. So because of that, to him,
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  greatest event of his life because what they do, they got
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  up there and they spoke about people like him.
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  So of course they felt great. And the other person who saw his
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  waste of time, he doesn't go to that institution and he actually
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  feels a little bit small and significant about not being part
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  of that institution. So to him, waste of time.
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  And this happened twice. A couple of days ago, same
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  thing. There was a local event with all
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  the rabbis about something and one person told me I he can't
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  believe it or the the leam around was so special and the
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  other person told me I can't believe.
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  So you know what happened to you?
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  Why? Why do we even have that event?
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  I'm telling this scene and what's the difference?
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  One guy, he felt very good by that event.
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  He was central stage. The other person was back in the
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  room. Because of that.
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  He's so in a competitive light and you have to realize your
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  opinion. I've always had this talk and I
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  confirmed him on my father many times and that is how does it
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  work that every Republican always is in alignment, all
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  Republican opinions. You're telling me that the I
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  know that today there's something called the social
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  Republican or they have a word for it, a fiscal Republican.
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  But technically speaking, in general, Republicans and
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  Democrats, they usually step in line every He's telling me they
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  have the same opinion about guns, wars and the same opinion
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  about the economy. It's all in line.
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  It's not exactly the same mind over the time you led to believe
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  in your mind. That's the same way of thinking.
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  It's not. It's one discussion about being
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  conservative when it comes to finances.
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  There's another discussion about being aggressive when it comes
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  to war. Right now we know that we think
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  in line with certain people most of the time, but how does it
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  work out? My father used to say all the
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  time, He used to say, when do they lose their their opinion
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  Republican specifically when they talk about the need the
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  right to bear arms. He's to say that happens to be
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  in his opinion. That was when he thought
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  Republicans overdo it. It's a good example.
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  He says, because you're telling me about martial law and the
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  ability to rise up and stuff like that.
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  Come on, just tell me about that.
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  Whether that's an opinion or not, that's fine.
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  But the point is how does it work out that everyone's in the
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  exact everyone steps in line perfectly.
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  You ever watch a Democratic show, a liberal show?
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  Everything's in line. How's it work that the social
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  laws and that the financial laws and all these things all in line
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  and go to a Republican show? Everything's all the answer is
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  you start to think about the back.
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  I'm right, my group is right and we're in the right opinion.
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  And eventually you start to think that it's all one head,
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  right? I can't handle you give me one
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  liberal view I can't handle. I'm gonna make it what it's
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  regarding. I can't stand you.
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  Give me one to every conservative view I like, even
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  if you tell them you're right to bear arms, even though I have no
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  plan of getting a gun and I have no idea what I want to do with
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  the gun. But fine, Kaka, That's how
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  people think. But the point overall is just an
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  example. The point is, is that that's
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  however on my team gonna make me feel good and look good.
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  I think it's a good thing. Off my team, the other team
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  couldn't make me feel bad and look bad.
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  I think it's a bad thing. And overall, that's how we
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  think. That's how we report.
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  That's how we talk. You listen to any Shabbat table,
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  any time you hear people talk and schmooze every time they say
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  an opinion. Most people let's turn above
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  that every time they say an opinion.
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  What they're saying, in short, is I'm great.
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  I'm great. I'm great, in other words, and
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  talk about, oh, the weddings are so big.
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  How do people spend on the wedding?
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  What they're saying is I can't afford a wedding, right?
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  This typical people say I can't afford a drawing.
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  I don't understand why people spend on their wedding.
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  They're making me feel small. Oh, everyone's.
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  Just give me an example. Everyone has the the biggest
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  houses who everyone's, you know, vacation driveway or this or
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  that or schools and all these things or camp, all these
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  things. What they're saying in short is,
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  is that they're not part of that.
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  And those who are saying the opposite, saying it's not the
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  biggest deal. What you make is a big deal
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  about wings. Why make it just be about
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  vacation? Why maybe it should be about
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  Sunil. Do I make sure you do what
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  they're saying is that's still me and I don't want to hear
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  bashing. And the truth is this is really
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  where judgement, A judgement really hits its core.
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  If a person's a judgement to person, they do this all day
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  long. If a person is a real legitimate
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  work on person, sure, they make judgements.
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  Still, we all make judgements, but at the same time, they're
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  honest with themselves and they're able to say those people
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  are not terrible. These people are not awesome.
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  It is what it is. Everyone's just trying to get
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  along and go along and move on. And don't bash all the long If
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  you can make a change, call a kabut.
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  If you can't make a change, keep it shut.
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  There's no reason to talk. And that's a whole different
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  approach that's based on the fact that I do not need my ego
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  to be built on bashing you and I.
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  You don't need your ego to be built on bashing me.
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  But if you do, then automatically every view that a
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  person who simple has is a view that says I'm great, they're
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  terrible. That's the whole view.
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  And no matter what they do is wrong and no matter why I do is
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  right. That's how it works.
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  Alright. That's I believe it's very
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  friendly and you see it with the spy as clear as that.
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  Stop by this.