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Do It For Yourself – The Power of Self-Discipline. · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I wanted to win, not like beat somebody else. It
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  Speaker 1: wasn't about that. I just wanted to go the distance
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  Speaker 1: everything in my life and something got hard. I quit.
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  Speaker 1: If it was reading, that's where you know. I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: great at reading. I wasn't great at writing, so I
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  Speaker 1: just quit. I couldn't catch on as fast as you.
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  Speaker 1: I had to work harder than you, so I quit.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I wasn't great at things, so I quit.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm not good at this. Like man, if
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  Speaker 1: I could just go that distance, that extra mile, to
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  Speaker 1: just go just to finish. I want to finish. I
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  Speaker 1: want to feel victory, and victory for me wasn't winning.
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  Speaker 1: It was just finishing. So I said, you know what,
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  Speaker 1: if I could feel like these guys feel, it would
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  Speaker 1: change my life. But what I realized, the best feeling
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  Speaker 1: I had was when I was by myself trying to
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  Speaker 1: lose this weight, how to lose it in literally less
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  Speaker 1: than three months, one hundred and six pounds less than
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  Speaker 1: three months, And literally I started feeling victory just by
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  Speaker 1: putting myself in the battle. It wasn't about going to
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  Speaker 1: Navy seal training. It wasn't about being the twenty third guy.
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  Speaker 1: In that chair, I started realizing, man, just by going
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  Speaker 1: to war with myself every day and putting these challenges
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  Speaker 1: and these goals and these obstacles, these insurmountable obstacles. So
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't about losing one hundred and six pounds. Me
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  Speaker 1: losing five pounds was an accomplishment, me losing ten pounds,
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  Speaker 1: and then fifty pounds. And then the more I did,
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  Speaker 1: the more I gained confidence. And then the more I
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  Speaker 1: gained confidence, the more I realized these navy seals, man,
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  Speaker 1: these guys can't do what I'm doing right now. I
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  Speaker 1: had no coach, had no trainer, had no money. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know how to lose weight. I had no knowledge
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  Speaker 1: of what I was doing. I was just working. I
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  Speaker 1: was just sacrificing. And then through that all these differ
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  Speaker 1: different tools started coming up. But I would have never
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  Speaker 1: found these tools if I didn't put myself in a
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  Speaker 1: very uncomfortable place. We all look for toughness, we all
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  Speaker 1: want it, but we look for it in a comfortable environment.
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  Speaker 1: You will not find toughness in a comfortable environment. Those
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  Speaker 1: of you who are listening to this, whoever hear this,
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  Speaker 1: you will not find it. I was trying to look
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  Speaker 1: for it everywhere. The only way you find it is
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  Speaker 1: to drown yourself in a position where you're just out
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  Speaker 1: of sources, where you can't swim, and you're drowning. When
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  Speaker 1: you're drowning, you're drowning in life. But you say, no,
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  Speaker 1: what man, dad, I'm gonna figure out how to backstroke
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  Speaker 1: of something. I'm gonna figure out how to And then
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  Speaker 1: through figuring out all these tools, your mind starts to
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  Speaker 1: when you quit, your mind does this because you're out.
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  Speaker 1: Once you say I'm not gonna quit, this is the
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  Speaker 1: forty percent. When you quit, your mind says we're done.
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  Speaker 1: So it doesn't expand there's no expansion when you quit,
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  Speaker 1: when you say you, uh, this sucks. I'm drowning. I'm miserable,
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  Speaker 1: I'm suffering, I'm broken, but I'm not going anywhere. What
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  Speaker 1: happens to your mind is it does this. It says,
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  Speaker 1: he's not leaving, So we gotta expand, we gotta grow,
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  Speaker 1: we gotta figure this thing out. So then these compartments
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  Speaker 1: in your brain start to have they have to work,
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  Speaker 1: they have to work, and then you start to engage
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  Speaker 1: parts of your mind that you're never engaged before. But
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  Speaker 1: you can't engage it by sitting back in these nice chairs,
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  Speaker 1: drinking this nice water, talking to you, talking about what
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  Speaker 1: I want to do. That's where So that's where the
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  Speaker 1: forty percent thing comes in. It comes in when you're
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  Speaker 1: in suffer mode and you say, I'm not gonna quit
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  Speaker 1: your four This in your brain now to operate on
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  Speaker 1: a level is not used to but then it becomes
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  Speaker 1: used to. It.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you what I think messes up the
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  Speaker 2: mind the most. Doing less than you can it causes
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  Speaker 2: all kinds of psychic damage. Being less than you can be,
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  Speaker 2: trying less than you can try somehow damages your mind,
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  Speaker 2: your self image. Here's what I've discovered. The minute you
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  Speaker 2: turn this cycle around and start motivating yourself, you'll see
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  Speaker 2: immediate rewards. Maybe not monetary ones, not yet, but it's
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  Speaker 2: how you feel about yourself that's of the greatest value.
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  Speaker 2: Discover all you can do, See how much you can earn,
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  Speaker 2: how much you can share, how much you can start,
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  Speaker 2: how much you can finish, how far you can reach,
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  Speaker 2: and how far you can extend your influence. Some people
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  Speaker 2: out there would have us believe that positive affirmation is
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  Speaker 2: more important than activity. Instead of doing something constructive to
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  Speaker 2: change their lives. They would have us repeating slogans and
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  Speaker 2: canned affirmations like every day and in every way, I'm
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  Speaker 2: getting better and better. Well, improving our lives doesn't just
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  Speaker 2: happen with wishful thinking. Getting better and better only happens
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  Speaker 2: with the discipline of doing better and better. Discipline is
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  Speaker 2: the requirement for progress, and affirmations without discipline are in
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  Speaker 2: all reality delusions. Affirmations can be effective as long as
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  Speaker 2: you remember two very important rules. Number one, you should
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  Speaker 2: never allow affirmation to replace action. Feeling better is no
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  Speaker 2: substitute for doing better. And number two, whatever you choose
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  Speaker 2: to affirm must be the truth. If the truth happens
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  Speaker 2: to be that you're broke, the best affirmation would be
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  Speaker 2: to simply say I'm broke, face it, accept it, be
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  Speaker 2: responsible for it, and change it. By admitting that you're broke,
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  Speaker 2: By saying it out loud, you'll probably be disgusted enough
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  Speaker 2: to start thinking about how to change the situation. Anyone
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  Speaker 2: saying I'm broke with any conviction will most likely be
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  Speaker 2: motivated to take action. Confronting harsh realities has an incredible effect.
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  Speaker 2: Confronting the truth and then Disciplining yourself instead of failing
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  Speaker 2: to take responsibility inevitably leads to positive change. Reality is
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  Speaker 2: always the best beginning you see. Within reality lies the
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  Speaker 2: possibility to create your own personal miracle. And the power
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  Speaker 2: of faith starts with reality. If you can bring yourself
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  Speaker 2: to state the truth about a situation, then as the
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  Speaker 2: saying goes, the truth will set you free. Here's another
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  Speaker 2: old saying. Faith isn't faith unless it's all you're holding
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  Speaker 2: on to. If your life and your circumstances have resulted
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  Speaker 2: in a situation that is ugly, call it ugly. If
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  Speaker 2: you've lost it all, admit that you've lost it all,
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  Speaker 2: be responsible for it. And if faith is all you've
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  Speaker 2: got left, use it create your own personal miracle. Once
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  Speaker 2: you understand and accept the truth, the promise of the
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  Speaker 2: future is freed from the shackles of deception. Once you
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  Speaker 2: accept the truth, the promise of the future will pull
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  Speaker 2: you forward. Our lives are affected by two major things.
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  Speaker 2: One is price and the other is promise. And it's
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  Speaker 2: not that easy to pay the price if you can't
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  Speaker 2: see the promise. I think kids are having problems these
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  Speaker 2: days trying to pay the price because they can't see
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  Speaker 2: the promise, But nobody would mind paying the price if
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  Speaker 2: they could have a clear view of tomorrow, next week,
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  Speaker 2: or next month or next year. If we had the
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  Speaker 2: assurance that everything we're going to work out. Do you
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  Speaker 2: think we would hesitate to pay The answer is no.
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  Speaker 2: But everybody hesitates if the future isn't clear. So we've
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  Speaker 2: got to do two things to help our kids. Help
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  Speaker 2: them see the promise and help them pay the price.
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  Speaker 2: It is so much easier to pay the price if
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  Speaker 2: we can see the promise. My karate instructor said, mister Rohan,
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  Speaker 2: you cannot believe the incredible feeling of walking down any
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  Speaker 2: city street unafraid. I said, let's get on with the classes.
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  Speaker 2: I was willing to sweat. I was willing to put
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  Speaker 2: myself through the paces to achieve that feeling. What would
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  Speaker 2: you do for an extraordinary promise, the most unbelievable things?
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  Speaker 2: Would you crack the books? Would you burn the midnight oil?
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  Speaker 2: Would you engage in the extra thoughts and the extra
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  Speaker 2: disciplines if the promise were adequate? And the answer is
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  Speaker 2: of course, But who wants to read? Who wants to
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  Speaker 2: burn the midnight oil? Who wants to put themselves through
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  Speaker 2: the paces. If the promise isn't clear, nobody, so do
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  Speaker 2: what it takes to discover what you truly want. Once
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  Speaker 2: you have seen and felt that ideal future, that promise
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  Speaker 2: of achievement, you will be ready and able to pay
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  Speaker 2: any price. Engaging in genuine discipline requires that you develop
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  Speaker 2: the ability to take action. You don't need to be
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  Speaker 2: hasty if it isn't required, but you don't want to
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  Speaker 2: lose much time. Here's the time to act when the
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  Speaker 2: idea is hot and the emotion is strong. Let's say
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  Speaker 2: you would like to build your library. If that is
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  Speaker 2: a strong desire for you, what you've got to do
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  Speaker 2: is get the first book, then get the second book.
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  Speaker 2: Take action as soon as possible, before the feeling passes
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  Speaker 2: and before the idea dims. If you don't, here's what happens.
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  Speaker 2: You fall prey to the law of diminishing intent. We
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  Speaker 2: intend to take action when the idea strikes us. We
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  Speaker 2: intend to do something when the emotion is high. But
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  Speaker 2: if we don't translate that intention into action fairly soon,
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  Speaker 2: the urgency starts to diminish, and a month from now
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  Speaker 2: the passion is cold. A year from now it can't
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  Speaker 2: be found. So take action. Set up a discipline when
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  Speaker 2: the emotions are high and the idea is strong, clear
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  Speaker 2: and powerful. If somebody talks about good health and you're
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  Speaker 2: motivated by it, you need to get a book on nutrition.
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  Speaker 2: Get the book before the idea passes, before the emotion
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  Speaker 2: gets cold. Begin the process, fall on the floor and
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  Speaker 2: do some pushups. You've got to take action, otherwise the
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  Speaker 2: wisdom is wasted. The emotion soon passes unless you apply
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  Speaker 2: it to a disciplined activity. Discipline enables you to capture
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  Speaker 2: the emotion and the wisdom and translate them into action.
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  Speaker 2: The key is to increase your motivation by quickly setting
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  Speaker 2: up the disciplines. By doing so, you've started a whole
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  Speaker 2: new life process. Here's the greatest value of discipline self worth,
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  Speaker 2: also known as self esteem. Many people who are teaching
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  Speaker 2: self esteem these days don't connect it to discipline, but
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  Speaker 2: once we sense the least lack of discipline within ourselves,
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  Speaker 2: it starts to erode our psyche. One of the greatest
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  Speaker 2: temptations is to just ease up a little bit. Instead
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  Speaker 2: of doing your best, you allow yourself to do just
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  Speaker 2: a little less than your best. Sure enough, you've started
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  Speaker 2: in the slightest way to decrease your sense of selar
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  Speaker 2: self worth. There's a problem with even a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of neglect. Neglect starts as an infection. If you don't
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  Speaker 2: take care of it, it becomes a disease, and one
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  Speaker 2: neglect leads to another. Worst of all, when neglect starts,
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  Speaker 2: it diminishes our self worth. Once this has happened, how
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  Speaker 2: can you regain your self respect? All you have to
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  Speaker 2: do is start with the smallest discipline that corresponds to
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  Speaker 2: your own philosophy. Make the commitment I will discipline myself
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  Speaker 2: to achieve my goals so in the years ahead I
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  Speaker 2: can celebrate my successes.