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A Standing Ovation for Katy Perry's Boyfriend's Estranged Wife · I Do, Part 2

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Speaker 1: Have you heard, Well, sure you have, because everybody is talking.
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Speaker 1: Justin Trudeau has a new girlfriend, and everybody seems to
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Speaker 1: be talking about that. But Justin Trudeau also has a wife.
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Speaker 1: She's talking too.
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Speaker 2: Man.
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Speaker 1: You know what, we like this lady. And with that,
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Speaker 1: welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ Robes.
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Speaker 2: We celebrating, right.
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Speaker 1: A lot of people are very excited about Justin Trudeau
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Speaker 1: and Katy Perry dating Canadians. It's fun. It makes sense.
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Speaker 1: They're available, both recently out of long term relationships. This
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Speaker 1: seemed to be something people endorsed.
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Speaker 3: Yes, they look great together. I think everyone they look
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Speaker 3: happy together. And it's been interesting because they are official,
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Speaker 3: I guess because they made the choice to walk out
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Speaker 3: of that cabaret show hand in hand. It was her birthday,
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Speaker 3: so they never actually released a statement or put anything
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Speaker 3: on Instagram.
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Speaker 2: Okay, wait, do they have to, babe?
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Speaker 3: I don't think so, because when you walk out of
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Speaker 3: a restaurant on your birthday when you know, speculation because
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Speaker 3: there were some other photos that were taken earlier, a
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Speaker 3: month or so prior, and so yes, they made the decision.
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Speaker 4: But I guess they're calling this a soft launch of
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Speaker 4: a relationship.
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Speaker 3: You don't have to talk about it, but just the
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Speaker 3: mere act of holding your hand. You know, the paparazzi's
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Speaker 3: going to be there, you know the cameras are going
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Speaker 3: to be there.
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Speaker 4: And now you're.
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Speaker 1: Saying, okay, I want to put that to RESK because
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Speaker 1: they haven't officially done whatever, put out some statement these
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Speaker 1: two are dating.
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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, we're good, Yes, all right.
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Speaker 1: I just want to make sure I'm not missing something here,
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Speaker 1: because there were some people even wanting to be cautious,
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Speaker 1: if you will, after they walked out holding hands. What
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Speaker 1: else are we talking about here other than that? Okay,
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Speaker 1: thank you for tearing.
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Speaker 3: All that of one of those What else could it be?
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Speaker 3: So even by process of elimination, obviously they're dating.
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Speaker 1: So through all this and romes, I didn't keep up,
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Speaker 1: but I didn't realize. It's been two years since the
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Speaker 1: announcement of Justin Trudeau's separation from his still but a
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Speaker 1: strange wife at this point.
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Speaker 3: Right. Yes, her name is Sophie greg Guar. I'm not
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Speaker 3: really good at French names, but yeah, Sophie greg War.
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Speaker 3: She's fifty years old. They announced their separation in August
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Speaker 3: of twenty twenty three.
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Speaker 4: So yes, more than two years ago.
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Speaker 1: So that was a big deal at the time. He
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Speaker 1: was still I believe prime minister he was at a
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Speaker 1: time of that announcement. These two have been together for
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Speaker 1: a long time. She has been a part of national politics.
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Speaker 1: People know her. She had her own career in journalism,
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Speaker 1: she's an advocate. So this was a This was their camelot,
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Speaker 1: if you will. He comes from a family and it
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Speaker 1: has a whole background. Everything's great. How old are the.
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Speaker 3: Kids they are right now, I've got their ages, so
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Speaker 3: eighteen years of eighteen years of marriage. And yes they
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Speaker 3: have Xavier who's eighteen, Ella Grace who is sixteen, and
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Speaker 3: Hadrian who is eleven.
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Speaker 1: Okay, now they announced their separation and I think folk
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Speaker 1: we don't follow that closely politics in Canada, but we
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Speaker 1: know him and when her they were getting separated, and
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Speaker 1: just kind of oh, it just kind of.
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Speaker 3: Sucked or this, as you mentioned, like the camelot of Canada.
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Speaker 4: They were a beautiful couple.
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Speaker 3: She was a former model, TV presenter, so yes, they
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Speaker 3: were a beautiful couple with a beautiful family.
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Speaker 4: And I think especially when you see them.
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Speaker 3: Leading the nation and showing up as representing your country,
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Speaker 3: people are rooting for you.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, you look great, you seem great.
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Speaker 3: Everyone wants to believe you are great because we all,
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Speaker 3: like I think, to have couples and families to model
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Speaker 3: our own after to say, look at them, they've made it,
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Speaker 3: they figured it out. Look how happy they are. Maybe
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Speaker 3: I can be happy too. So when, yeah, those relationships
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Speaker 3: fail somehow, it puts a little chink in our trust
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Speaker 3: that our relationship is going to be able to succeed
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Speaker 3: as well.
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Speaker 2: You know, That's what it was.
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Speaker 1: I was very, very hopeful, and so this was like, oh, well,
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Speaker 1: that one couldn't work. I was hopeful that one could. Okay, fine,
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Speaker 1: But even when that happened, right robes. Look, we're used
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Speaker 1: to it here or in the US, of a celebrity breakup,
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Speaker 1: and there be a lot of tabloid headlines and a
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Speaker 1: lot of that is to come. I don't remember necessarily.
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Speaker 1: Please correct me if I'm wrong, But it didn't seem
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Speaker 1: like there was a lot of mess surrounding their separation.
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Speaker 4: No, it didn't seem like that was the case at all.
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Speaker 3: And in fact, they both put out statements and they
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Speaker 3: both seemed to you know, it was one of those
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Speaker 3: friendly recoparenting please respect our privacy, but you know, our
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Speaker 3: family is being put first.
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Speaker 4: YadA, YadA, YadA, YadA YadA. But yeah, it was just
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Speaker 4: that there was.
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Speaker 3: No scandal, there were no rumors, there was no whispering,
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Speaker 3: not that I saw or read anywhere.
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Speaker 1: So here we go fast forward and Robes, I forgot
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Speaker 1: about it, he of course says, since not been. He's
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Speaker 1: not the prime minister anymore. He's still active and around.
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Speaker 1: But I didn't think about it again until I see
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Speaker 1: of course, I guess it was the summer that first
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Speaker 1: picture of him and Katy Perry having a dinner. Now,
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Speaker 1: when I first saw that, I pooh pooed Itai was
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Speaker 1: a big deal.
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Speaker 3: I mentioned it to you and you were like, please,
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Speaker 3: they're just they're they're both, you know, in the same
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Speaker 3: city and they're Canadians, and yeah they yeah, didn't think.
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Speaker 1: It was a big deal. Didn't think it was a
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Speaker 1: big deal. I don't remember when it got more serious.
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Speaker 3: What was the next thing, because then they found well,
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Speaker 3: first of all, after that dining together in that Montreal restaurant,
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Speaker 3: then Justin Trudeau was spotted in the crowd at Perry's
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Speaker 3: concert there in the city with his teenage daughter so
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Speaker 3: he had his daughter with him.
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Speaker 4: But they were there at her concert.
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Speaker 3: And then there were some pictures, some paparazzi pictures of
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Speaker 3: them on a boat together.
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Speaker 1: Okay. The daughter thing I could explain away as well. Right,
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Speaker 1: his daughter wants to go see Katy Perry. Hey, I
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Speaker 1: got the hook up. It's your hero dad to take
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Speaker 1: your daughter something like that. Okay. The yacht thing, I
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Speaker 1: don't remember that. The boat pictures, I didn't see those.
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Speaker 4: It was Katy Perry's yacht.
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Speaker 2: Okay, but it was obvious that it was.
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Speaker 4: Yes, they they seemed like they were more than friends.
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Speaker 2: They looked friendly. Were there other people? Was he one
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Speaker 2: of several on this boat?
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Speaker 3: Or I can try to pull out the picture enough
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Speaker 3: to be able to kind of answer, but it would
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Speaker 3: see as though they were captured enjoying their butting romance.
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Speaker 1: Okay, so now if we don't have to debate about
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Speaker 1: the next one.
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Speaker 2: They were what was it last month?
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Speaker 3: Yes, Paris her birthday, Paris the Crazy Horse, Perry's birthday,
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Speaker 3: exiting when they knew the cameras were there, hand in hand.
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Speaker 3: She had a beautiful red dress on, so she was
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Speaker 3: dressed to impress. He had a dark suit on. They
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Speaker 3: looked great together walking out. They knew what they were doing.
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Speaker 4: They were ready. This was their announcement without having to
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Speaker 4: put any words to it.
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Speaker 1: Okay, And that's fine. And to your point, that picture
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Speaker 1: was perfect. Those were two people who knew we were
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Speaker 1: about to go viral.
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Speaker 3: Yes, we were about to make it official without having
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Speaker 3: to utter a word.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: So as we have been watching I guess robes that
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Speaker 1: first dinner date and then him showing up at the
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Speaker 1: concert and there he is on the boat and here
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Speaker 1: they are holding hands. As we were watching it, there
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Speaker 1: was somebody else watching all this apparently as well.
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Speaker 4: Yes, his a stranged wife.
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Speaker 1: Estranged sounds so awful, I know it has. It just
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Speaker 1: sounds like it has a negative connotation. But what we're
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Speaker 1: talking about they've been separated, yes right.
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Speaker 3: Yes, soon to be x A strange look divorce. I
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Speaker 3: don't know how it works in Canada, but oftentimes, as
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Speaker 3: anyone who has been through it knows, sometimes they're not
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Speaker 3: as quick as you'd like them to be. So there's
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Speaker 3: it doesn't even have to mean they're contentious. It just
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Speaker 3: sometimes takes.
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Speaker 4: A long time.
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Speaker 3: And so yeah, these two had been married for eighteen
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Speaker 3: years and we had not heard yet from Sophie publicly
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Speaker 3: since these pictures, since it first started as rumors, then photos,
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Speaker 3: and then of course the soft launch of their relationship,
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Speaker 3: we have not heard her reaction. And so, yeah, she
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Speaker 3: is still technically his wife, but obviously they have been
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Speaker 3: a part living separate lives for more than two years
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Speaker 3: at this point. And so she actually went on a
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Speaker 3: podcast this week, and the host is always funny to
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Speaker 3: watch how people try to slide it and the question
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Speaker 3: that they actually really want to ask the entire time.
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Speaker 3: So as she's being interviewed about a myriad of different topics,
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Speaker 3: the host basically addressed Justin Trudeau's relationship with Katy Perry, saying,
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Speaker 3: I don't know how you stay cool, and I really
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Speaker 3: admire it because I would probably not be that. I'm
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Speaker 3: not sure if the implication is it somehow, because your
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Speaker 3: soon to be ex husband has moved on with a
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Speaker 3: public figure, you're supposed to be wrecked or horrified or
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Speaker 3: not cool with that. But she was clearly baiting her
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Speaker 3: in that question.
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Speaker 2: What was the last part of that?
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Speaker 3: She said, I don't know how you stay cool, and
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Speaker 3: I really admire it because I would probably not be that.
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Speaker 2: I don't know what that means. You tell me, as
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Speaker 2: a woman, what does that mean?
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Speaker 3: She's trying to get her to say that I'm upset, okay,
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Speaker 3: that Justin is dating Katy Perry. I'm upset that he's
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Speaker 3: out in the public eye in front of cameras with
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Speaker 3: another woman.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: I took it as she was saying something sincerely about
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Speaker 1: where she might have been the situation, versus her just
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Speaker 1: trying to get an answer out of a response time.
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Speaker 3: It could be a little truth to both, but I
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Speaker 3: sincerely believe she was trying to kind of say, yeah, girl,
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Speaker 3: I get you. I understand that must be tough, because man,
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Speaker 3: I don't know if I could stay cool if I
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Speaker 3: saw my ex husband dating Katie Perry. So it was
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Speaker 3: kind of like trying to commiserate but also trying to
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Speaker 3: get her to jump on that shit.
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Speaker 1: Should I stop there about that point? I don't know
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Speaker 1: if to wait for the end, because that's an important point.
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Speaker 1: Why or what point can anyone stop being upset at
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Speaker 1: the person they were with has moved on after two years? Yeah?
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Speaker 3: I mean I think that out of respect for the
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Speaker 3: person who you spent eighteen years with, who you raised children,
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Speaker 3: with who you made a mutual decision with. It seems
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Speaker 3: as though that was the case in this one, particularly
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Speaker 3: you actually you can maybe personally.
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Speaker 4: Of course, there might be.
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Speaker 3: Some sadness or it might be hard to look at
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Speaker 3: or hard to watch.
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Speaker 4: But that's to be expected.
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Speaker 3: But it's also no one's done anything wrong here, So
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Speaker 3: I actually I hate the idea of pot stirring, like
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Speaker 3: trying to get a woman to say something bad about
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Speaker 3: another woman or some sort of you know, negative comment
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Speaker 3: about their ex husband's new romance because it's in the
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Speaker 3: public eye, maybe because Katy Perry is a decade or
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Speaker 3: so younger than her, you know, who knows what, But
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Speaker 3: I do I hate the idea of trying to bait
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Speaker 3: someone into saying something controversial about something that no one
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Speaker 3: has done anything wrong, Like there is no Katie and
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Speaker 3: Orlando were never even married. Actually Orlando Bloom they split
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Speaker 3: after nine years together, so they were never even married.
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Speaker 3: They share a daughter together, but they seem to have
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Speaker 3: an amicable split as well, so no one has done
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Speaker 3: anything wrong. It appears in any of these But.
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Speaker 1: If everybody's being honest, no matter what public eye, are not,
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Speaker 1: and nobody wants somebody you or in a relation of
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Speaker 1: caring and loving a successful one for a long time,
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Speaker 1: to see that person then happy with somebody else. Now,
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Speaker 1: that's just a lot of people can stomach. I'm not
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Speaker 1: saying everybody's We've seen great stories of people and couples,
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Speaker 1: And think about our guy. I think he talks about
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Speaker 1: it guardier, right, he talks about having this blended family
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Speaker 1: where exes are all involved. More power to you, But
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Speaker 1: I just that's not the norm.
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Speaker 4: Well, look, yes, you're right, that is not the norm.
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Speaker 3: But I would say if there really was love there,
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Speaker 3: if there really was respect there, then you would want
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Speaker 3: that person to be happy, truly, especially if they're the
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Speaker 3: father of your children. I know that's idealistic and not
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Speaker 3: probably that practical, but I do. I want to believe
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Speaker 3: that it can happen, and I'm hopeful, like this is
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Speaker 3: maybe what we're looking at, that you can be that
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Speaker 3: you could have loved somebody and respect them enough as
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Speaker 3: at least having been someone you loved and having been
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Speaker 3: the father and having are the father of your children
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Speaker 3: that you would want the best for them. You would
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Speaker 3: want a happy father for your children.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just hard to see that not that person,
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Speaker 1: not just be in another relationship, but being celebrated, almost
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Speaker 1: being uplifted, being spotlighted constantly in such a way. And
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Speaker 1: that person is high profile, she is successful, she's an
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Speaker 1: international star.
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Speaker 4: Right.
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Speaker 1: It's just there's a lot there, and we all do
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Speaker 1: it as human nature. We size each other up.
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Speaker 3: And your daughter probably looks up to her because we
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Speaker 3: just mentioned Justin took his daughter that would be Sophie's
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Speaker 3: daughter as well to go see Katie in concerts.
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Speaker 4: So that has to be a little difficult to process.
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Speaker 1: Okay, so I didn't plan on stuff, but it was
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Speaker 1: right there on top of mine after you said it,
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Speaker 1: so I wanted to pause, but yes, get into what
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Speaker 1: she did actually say, and I roamed this was this
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Speaker 1: is impressive stuff.
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Speaker 4: I was very impressed with what she said.
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Speaker 3: So after she was prompted by the podcasting host to
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Speaker 3: kind of say something perhaps even negative or I can't
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Speaker 3: believe you can keep your cool. I wouldn't be able
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Speaker 3: to do it. This is what Sophie said. She said,
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Speaker 3: we're human beings and stuff affects us normal. How do
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Speaker 3: you rea to stuff is your decision. So I choose
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Speaker 3: to try to listen to the music instead of the noise.
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Speaker 3: I am very aware that a lot of public stuff
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Speaker 3: out there can be triggers. What I do with it
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Speaker 3: is my decision. The woman I want to become through
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Speaker 3: this is my decision. Does that mean I don't have
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Speaker 3: emotions that I don't cry, scream, laugh, No, especially that
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Speaker 3: I'm a super tender heart, right, But it's my decision
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Speaker 3: after that, between the emotion and the reaction.
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Speaker 4: I loved how she put that.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this lady's been through some stuff. Does this
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Speaker 1: lady you, I would dare say, it's hard to find
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Speaker 1: somebody who can give that answer that's younger than fifty.
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Speaker 2: It's hard to add act.
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Speaker 1: I'm serious that that woman has been through some stuff.
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Speaker 1: She has studied, she has read it. It is familiar,
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Speaker 1: and I love it. It does not matter what is
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Speaker 1: out there in the world, it's what's in you, and
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Speaker 1: that's going to cause your reaction. Oh my goodness, this
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Speaker 1: lady is giving a master class.
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Speaker 4: She went on to say a few more things. Yeah,
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Speaker 4: I was. I was so impressed.
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Speaker 3: I'm so impressed because this isn't like a prepared statement,
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Speaker 3: and I'm sure she knew that the podcasting host was
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Speaker 3: going to obviously try to get her to say something,
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Speaker 3: but this really felt heartfelt, and I loved how she
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Speaker 3: put it. So she went on to say, I'll let
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Speaker 3: myself be disappointed by someone. I'll let myself be angry,
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Speaker 3: be sad, And I know for a fact how important
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Speaker 3: it is as a mental health advocate to feel those emotions.
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Speaker 3: I'm also learning at fifty that people will meet life
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Speaker 3: as where they are inside of them. It's your choice
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Speaker 3: to see that and be like, how am I going
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Speaker 3: to let that affect my happiness?
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Speaker 2: Oh? I didn't even know that was the quote.
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Speaker 1: Yep.
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Speaker 2: Well what's that thing again about what's inside of them?
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Speaker 1: Yep?
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Speaker 4: She said, they will meet life with what's inside of them.
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Speaker 4: Oh wow, So it's really cool.
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Speaker 3: And this is when you get to a certain part
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Speaker 3: of your life, you're going to have experienced some sort
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Speaker 3: of heartbreak, some sort of disappointment, and some sort of
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Speaker 3: and some of it will be perhaps not as public
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Speaker 3: and painful in that regard. But these are all lessons
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Speaker 3: each and every one of us can use.
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Speaker 4: And learn in our own lives.
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Speaker 3: With whatever didn't go the way we wanted it to,
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Speaker 3: if we felt shame or humiliation of bet our ego
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Speaker 3: got bruised, this woman nailed it and how she responded.
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Speaker 1: You know, every relationship a good, bad, beginning, middle in whatever, show, serious, silly, whatever,
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Speaker 1: anything happen to do for relationships dating, there are lessons
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Speaker 1: right there in front of us every single time. I love, love,
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Speaker 1: love this, but still robes in the midst of all this.
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Speaker 1: We can go back and forth all day, but people
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Speaker 1: still end up with this question, when is it actually
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Speaker 1: okay to move on? We'll answer that after the breaks.
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Speaker 1: They hear, all right, folks, welcome back. I mean, you
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Speaker 1: teach you. I probably didn't set that up the right way.
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Speaker 1: I said, we're going to answer this question when we
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Speaker 1: come back, when is it okay to move on? And
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Speaker 1: I don't know if there is a right answer to
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Speaker 1: that question because of so many things role but what
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Speaker 1: we're talking about here, I mean, Justin Trudeau has been
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Speaker 1: separated from his wife for two full years. He ends
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Speaker 1: up dating someone he didn't initially flaunted. They weren't out there,
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Speaker 1: they were trying to have dinner somewhere. Okay, fine, you
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Speaker 1: can make the argument they should have been more discreet.
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Speaker 2: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: After two years, I honestly don't know. But what is
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Speaker 1: or when is it okay, And where do you factor
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Speaker 1: in the fact that the divorce isn't official and the
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Speaker 1: fact that they are public figures.
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Speaker 3: Now here's what I actually have a very strong feeling
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Speaker 3: about this, having had marriages and relationships begin and end
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Speaker 3: in the public eye, so to speak, and ways, And
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Speaker 3: here's what I would tell every person. And you know
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Speaker 3: this is the truth from your own personal experiences. You
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Speaker 3: cannot Yes, you can give a date of separation. You
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Speaker 3: can give a date of divorce. You can give a
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Speaker 3: date where one spouse or one person in the relationship
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Speaker 3: moved out. Fine, but can you put a date on
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Speaker 3: when your marriage actually ended? And I think it's always
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Speaker 3: always months and sometimes years before you actually acknowledge it
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Speaker 3: and admit it. So I always want to give people
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Speaker 3: some grace because by the time you get to a
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Speaker 3: point where you have now made the move out or
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Speaker 3: signed the papers or filed the papers, or has had
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Speaker 3: the conversation that you don't want to be with that person,
17:45
Speaker 3: it's been inside of you for a long time.
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Speaker 4: Most likely, these things don't happen overnight.
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Speaker 3: So by the time you then move out and you're
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Speaker 3: kind of a lot of folks might already be lonely, numb,
17:58
Speaker 3: ready for some thing else, or ready for love again
18:02
Speaker 3: because they haven't had love for months or years. Perhaps,
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Speaker 3: So I just think for every relationship it's different. But
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Speaker 3: there are so many things that happened behind the scenes
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Speaker 3: and perhaps even in ways that weren't overtly discussed or acknowledged,
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Speaker 3: but were still a part of your life. So you
18:18
Speaker 3: might have been like actually kind of dead inside for
18:21
Speaker 3: a long time, you might be really ready.
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Speaker 4: For a new relationship.
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Speaker 3: So I don't think you can say what the proper
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Speaker 3: amount of time is because it's so different for each person.
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Speaker 1: That is a very good point. That is as laid
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Speaker 1: out and well put as I could ever do.
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Speaker 2: So, but that's true. There are people.
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Speaker 1: Who who move out on a Tuesday and they are
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Speaker 1: primed for dating on Wednesday, correct, because they put that
18:53
Speaker 1: relationship to bed a long time ago, long time ago.
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Speaker 2: So I know people do.
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Speaker 1: Look, we've had tons of relationship experience, like you said,
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Speaker 1: and then out of the public eye. But when you
19:05
Speaker 1: that is, I think that's one place where personally or
19:10
Speaker 1: privately folks can understand it, but publicly you immediately get judged.
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Speaker 2: For WHOA, that's too fast.
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Speaker 4: People at that time.
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Speaker 2: So yeah, they want that to explain to them.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, they want to.
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Speaker 3: Say, you should do this, then you should wait this
19:24
Speaker 3: amount of time, and then you should do that. But
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Speaker 3: it's so easy to say when you actually don't know
19:31
Speaker 3: all the details, and no one can possibly know. Every
19:33
Speaker 3: relationship is so unique and so different, and people are
19:38
Speaker 3: in much different phases of that relationship than they've acknowledged publicly,
19:42
Speaker 3: and a lot of and a lot of these relationships.
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Speaker 1: Look they Katie and Justin, this is where life is
19:48
Speaker 1: and where life is taking them, and they all I
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Speaker 1: see is pictures they look happy and look knock yourselves out.
19:59
Speaker 2: I just I.
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Speaker 1: I am rooting for anybody who is who is happy,
20:04
Speaker 1: who's not hurting somebody else, not hurting yourself, like yourself out.
20:08
Speaker 1: And I didn't know much about his wife, but she
20:12
Speaker 1: is by the way she handled herself and by what
20:16
Speaker 1: she said. I am a fan and I don't know
20:18
Speaker 1: anything about her other than this.
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Speaker 3: This podcast is yes, And I just thought it was
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Speaker 3: so cool because what Sophie said, she said it better
20:25
Speaker 3: than I could have ever actually articulated it, because it
20:29
Speaker 3: just resonated with me. I think anyone who's been through
20:33
Speaker 3: anything difficult to be able to actually reclaim power. I
20:38
Speaker 3: think so often the default, I will say for women
20:41
Speaker 3: is to be the victim and to blame. Look what
20:44
Speaker 3: happened to me, Look what he did to me, Look
20:46
Speaker 3: what that other person did to me. I love that
20:48
Speaker 3: she is owning it and saying what I do with
20:51
Speaker 3: what happened is my decision and the woman that I
20:55
Speaker 3: want to become through this is my decision. How empowering,
21:00
Speaker 3: how cool? And I love that she's owning it. This
21:03
Speaker 3: is not what we typically see and hear, and I
21:05
Speaker 3: love that this was her response. I want to read
21:09
Speaker 3: and reread her comments because this is how we take
21:14
Speaker 3: back our It's funny we all want to in our ego,
21:19
Speaker 3: want to blame someone else so we can defend and deflect.
21:21
Speaker 3: But when you actually own your role in everything and
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Speaker 3: own the power you actually have and don't put it
21:26
Speaker 3: on someone else for how you feel, that is the
21:29
Speaker 3: way forward.
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Speaker 4: So bravo Sophie, Greg Buire.
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Speaker 3: We are very appreciative of your words, and thank you
21:35
Speaker 3: everyone for listening to us.
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Speaker 4: I maybe Robock alongside TJ. Holmes, we will talk to
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