Latest / The Action Catalyst / Leadership Is Worthless, But Leading Is Priceless, with Dr. Thom Mayer (Sports, Ukraine, 9/11, Medicine)
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- 0:29Adam Outland: Today's guest is Dr. Thom Mayer, an author and
- 0:32keynote speaker who's been a leader in times of crisis for
- 0:35over 25 years. He's the medical director for the NFL Players
- 0:39Association, served as a command physician at the Pentagon on
- 0:439/11, led a mobile emergency team in Ukraine, and has
- 0:47authored the new book Leadership is Worthless, But Leading is
- 0:51Priceless. It's my pleasure to introduce Dr. Thom Mayer. Thom,
- 0:55great to meet you.
- 0:56Dr. Thom Mayer: Good to see ya.
- 0:57Adam Outland: I actually want to know a little bit of your
- 0:59backstory like where did you grow up? And then how did you
- 1:02end up where you are now?
- 1:03Dr. Thom Mayer: Well, I grew up in a small town Indiana
- 1:07Midwestern classic Midwest way to be raised to one of those
- 1:10factory towns that feeds are fed General Motors 70 miles
- 1:16northeast of Indianapolis, and football player A lot of people
- 1:21played football in order to go to college I went to college in
- 1:25order to continue playing football and dreams of playing
- 1:29in the NFL and aside from I did play in college was all
- 1:34conference linebacker and you know, the old saying is you
- 1:37know, the longer go we played the better we were didn't have a
- 1:41chance I had broken my leg my or I didn't break it somebody broke
- 1:44up for me in my junior year a pretty bad fracture. So I
- 1:47couldn't play my senior year. But I was invited to training
- 1:52camps with the Vikings and the bears and I thought hey, let's
- 1:55give this a shot and discovered that What did they tell me? They
- 1:59said aside from my side speed, strength and talent. They said I
- 2:03had talent other than that I would have been a perfect
- 2:06linebacker in the NFL.
- 2:08Adam Outland: Oh, how nice.
- 2:09Dr. Thom Mayer: Yeah, I decided to go to I was in at Dukes
- 2:12medical school and I thought no matter how nasty the professors
- 2:16at Duke were they couldn't be any worse than the guys trying
- 2:18to take my head off with the Vikings and the bears so became
- 2:22an emergency physician. I trained in surgery at Salt Lake
- 2:25City and we worked a deal out so that the surgical residents
- 2:29covered the park Doctor role at Yellowstone National Park. Oh,
- 2:35and we've been going back ever since. So 25 years ago we we bit
- 2:39the bullet and bought a place and have enjoyed it ever since
- 2:42it's still a small town atmosphere a lot more people
- 2:45have moved in from other places, but we love it.
- 2:47Adam Outland: How did you... that's a big reevaluation right?
- 2:49When you switch gears from thinking I'm going to be a
- 2:52professional athlete to you obviously had another trajectory
- 2:56in mind to even be considering Duke Medical.
- 2:59Dr. Thom Mayer: Well I was actually a theology major when I
- 3:01was in college, and it wasn't that I was particularly cerebral
- 3:06or reflective. It was because you didn't have to take tests.
- 3:10You just wrote papers at the end of my sophomore year. My two
- 3:15professors my theology professor and a biology professor name was
- 3:19Dr. Pray, you can't make that stuff up, said if ever thought
- 3:23about going into medicine instead of being a theology
- 3:26professor after duke i was very clear I wanted to go west, but
- 3:30decided I was either gonna go to Colorado or Utah. So I read Salt
- 3:35Lake number one and loved it met my wife Maureen there she was a
- 3:39newborn ICU flight nurse. I was a pediatric trauma fellow, just
- 3:43a magical series of serendipitous circumstances.
- 3:47Adam Outland: And then how did you decide to reengage with the
- 3:50NFL or how did they decide to re engage with you?
- 3:52Dr. Thom Mayer: The people ask me all the time, how do you
- 3:55build How do I build my resume to get a job like yours? Just
- 3:58the Medical Director of the NFL Players Association in my answer
- 4:01is, I became the medical director on August 1 2001. Korey
- 4:06Stringer, a tackle for the Vikings died inexplicably of
- 4:10heatstroke. And I got a phone call. The phone call was from
- 4:14Gene Upshaw, then the executive director of the NFLPA and he
- 4:19called me not because he had done a resume search, but he
- 4:22called me because we were best friends. And we were best
- 4:25friends because his youngest and my youngest were best friends.
- 4:28Our family said had countless dinners, we coach T ball
- 4:32together. We coached football together. And so he called me
- 4:36because he knew me and he trusted me. So I always tell
- 4:39people don't build resumes, build relationships. And I think
- 4:43that's the key, particularly as we move forward. And so I've
- 4:47been doing that for the last 23 plus years, and it's been an
- 4:52honor and a privilege to be a part of guiding the health and
- 4:55safety of our 2500 players per year.
- 4:58Adam Outland: But it's a huge responsibility. What are just
- 5:02one or two challenges that you ran into?
- 5:05Dr. Thom Mayer: Sure. You know, when our boys were younger, I
- 5:07used to take them to school every day I was entailed. When I
- 5:10dropped them off. I always said precisely the same thing. One
- 5:13more step in the journey of discovering where your deep joy
- 5:17intersects the world's deep needs. I swear I said this to
- 5:21them, you have to start with your deep joy, not the world's
- 5:25deep needs, the world's deep needs are infinite unfathomable.
- 5:29There's no bottom to that well, but if you start with your deep
- 5:33joy, with passion that drives you why you do what you do. And
- 5:38that has been a constant in the job because you know, Lord Acton
- 5:43said, as you know, power corrupts, and absolute power
- 5:46corrupts absolutely. NFL is now was then in 2001, the most
- 5:52powerful sports organization in our business in the world, and
- 5:56keeping in mind that the deep joy of representing the health
- 5:59and safety needs of our 2500 player patients. That's not the
- 6:04same interests as as the NFL, which represents the interests
- 6:07of 32 billionaires who are the owners of the clubs. And so you
- 6:12just have to be willing to stay constant to that it was true in
- 6:16the concussion crisis, when we recognize there was a problem
- 6:20that had to be fixed. We we the NFLPA, Sean sands, very our
- 6:25attorney at the time, and I wrote the original concussion
- 6:29protocols. And there were significant pushback from the
- 6:32NFL, different commissioner and different medical director and
- 6:36chair of what was then called the mTBI. Committee, we stayed
- 6:40constant to that. And now, you know, we're at a place where the
- 6:44league takes great pride in the calling of the NFL concussion
- 6:48protocols. That's great, as long as it's for the good of my
- 6:52player patients. But having the courage, the integrity to stand
- 6:57up and say, No, we are going to have guidelines. And these are
- 7:01the scientific protocols that are our best knowledge at this
- 7:05time.
- 7:06Adam Outland: This leads us to actually something you write
- 7:07about, which is sucking down, instead of sucking up.
- 7:10Dr. Thom Mayer: The book, as you know, is kind of a litany very
- 7:14brief, 176 pages of contrarian types of statements, starting
- 7:19with the title leadership is worthless. But leading is
- 7:22priceless. What I learned 911, the NFL and Ukraine, you know,
- 7:28when I was called to the Pentagon on 911, I was a command
- 7:31physician at the Pentagon. And I got there, first of all, you you
- 7:36fly in and think Oh, my God, these are the gates of hell. I
- 7:39mean, you see the Pentagon of all things burning, you know, I
- 7:42couldn't even see that there was any remnants of a plane in the
- 7:45southwest wall was completely on fire. But the gates of Hell take
- 7:49you to some pretty interesting places. And so what I learned
- 7:54was that, first of all, is a civilian operation, I was the
- 7:57Medical Director of the local EMS agency, and the chairman of
- 8:02the emergency department. But we had, I had 32 generals standing
- 8:06behind me, facing the Pentagon willing to help in any way good
- 8:10men, good women, who were there to help me any way they could.
- 8:15But I realized, I'm not gonna get anywhere. By sucking up to
- 8:20these generals, I have to suck down to the people actually
- 8:24doing the work, to the structural engineers, to the
- 8:27Army Corps of Engineers, to the paramedics, to the firefighters,
- 8:31to the suppressant folks to the FBI evidence recovery team, in
- 8:35order to secure that building, so we could safely they could
- 8:38safely get into the building, to help rescue those who are in
- 8:43there and recover those who had not made it through the horrific
- 8:46crash. And I think that's true in all of our lives, we kind of
- 8:49suck up guests, I always say the boss is someone who thinks that
- 8:53he's the most important person in the room. Whereas the leader
- 8:57knows that she's her job is to make sure that everyone else
- 9:02feels that they're the most important person in the room, no
- 9:06need to suck up. We need to suck down and discover the answers
- 9:10within us.
- 9:12Adam Outland: It is hard, right? You you step into a leadership
- 9:14role at times if you are the leader, and you have people
- 9:17reporting and sometimes they're sucking up to you, though, when
- 9:20you reframe and say, it really is about hey, I'm not here to be
- 9:24the most important person. I'm here to serve the people that
- 9:28pay my salary really, that that actually put me in this position
- 9:31to begin with.
- 9:32Dr. Thom Mayer: Yeah, when I shortly after I first started my
- 9:34job, I had a very difficult issue with the NFL and I laid
- 9:38the issue out and I knew that you can't just say Hey, boss,
- 9:43solve this problem for me. I had to come in with solution. So I
- 9:46had three solutions. And I laid out the solutions and said Here
- 9:49they are 123 some What do you want me to do? And he said he
- 9:54thought for a second he looked at me and he said just go be Tom
- 9:57mayor. That's why you are Tom mayor. That's why are down
- 10:00mayor, I realized what he was saying is, I trust you trust
- 10:04yourself to be able to make the right this decision. And I'll
- 10:09support you all the way. You know, the leader, we're looking
- 10:12for the leader you're looking for as you. You are the one.
- 10:17Adam Outland: I feel that you operate probably at very highly
- 10:21autonomous level to when you're taking on these roles. And I
- 10:24mean, not in the way that you don't work with a team. But it's
- 10:27the position you're often put in as, here's the football, you got
- 10:31to figure out how to get the rest of the way down the finish
- 10:33line, that that ends up being a big strength of your stat. And I
- 10:36feel like you have very high risk tolerance.
- 10:39Dr. Thom Mayer: Well, that's true. Definitely. You know, I
- 10:41always talk about innovation at the speed of not genius,
- 10:44intelligence, creativity, but of cost. Because if people don't
- 10:48trust you, they're not going to step outside the lines and try
- 10:51something that might fail. And we have to make failure fuel, we
- 10:55have to understand that if you're not failing, you're not
- 10:58innovating. You know, you're only adopting best practices,
- 11:02adopting what has already been identified maybe as the next
- 11:07phase. But something that's clearly there, you know, we want
- 11:10people to be able to think we're really completely outside the
- 11:14box, most of the time when the boss says, think outside the
- 11:17box, they are box, they don't mean that they mean think inside
- 11:21my box, the way I'm thinking Guess what I'm thinking. So
- 11:26that's like sucking up. So the answers are not in the you know,
- 11:31they're not the C suite, they're in the Weast suite. They do the
- 11:36work, that team of people who do the work in the trenches on a
- 11:40daily basis. And that's where innovation should come from.
- 11:44Adam Outland: The challenge in leadership is getting honest
- 11:47feedback. From that we sweet that you have, do you have any
- 11:51thoughts or tips or like personal anecdotes on how you
- 11:55created an evolved a culture where people would tell you
- 11:58sometimes what you didn't want to hear and felt okay, doing
- 12:01that?
- 12:01Dr. Thom Mayer: Well, first of all, I always heard people not
- 12:03only who were better than me, but were much better than me.
- 12:06People would say, What's it like working for you? And the answer
- 12:09is I have zero idea. Because no one's ever worked for me, they
- 12:12work with me, I started almost every statement that I made to
- 12:16my folks, my team by saying two things. One is, I need your
- 12:22help. Now, instead of you've got a problem already with I need
- 12:27your help. I mean, even if the person you're working with is a
- 12:31difficult person, you know, egocentric whatever it might be
- 12:35locked into the boss mentality, instead of the leader mentality.
- 12:39You when you say I need your help, most people are going to
- 12:42say, Okay, I'm going to try to help you, too, is I like saying
- 12:46what would have to be true. My point being what would have to
- 12:50be true. In order for us as a team to be able to deliver what
- 12:56it is, you've just told me is something a desired state we
- 12:59need, you know, here's where we are, here's where we want to be,
- 13:02what would have to be true. In order to get there. There's a
- 13:06difference. There's a fundamental paradox between a
- 13:10team of experts, a very smart, talented group of people. And
- 13:15that's not the same as an expert team, people who work seamlessly
- 13:20across boundaries, who understand what the goal is the
- 13:23ability to trust each other, to come up with ideas. The Kansas
- 13:28City Chiefs, you know, famously are a very innovative team.
- 13:32Well, that starts at the top with Andy Reid, who sits down
- 13:37with his entire staff, his entire team on the whiteboard,
- 13:41and looks at ideas about different plays that they could
- 13:45run, how could we exploit in this situation this down in
- 13:48distance, they're going to uncover one this, they're going
- 13:50to be uncovered three, that's an expert team, a group of people
- 13:54saying, let's take Creative Chemistry.
- 13:57Adam Outland: You know, I know what you think of when you think
- 13:58of the antithesis a lot of these principles, but it might help us
- 14:01move into this other part of your life. You know, I read all
- 14:04these anecdotes and news articles about Russia, and at
- 14:07Putin's leadership and this whole affair with Ukraine, and
- 14:10it seems almost completely countered everything we talked
- 14:14about, I mean it, you get the sense that the generals, pander
- 14:18to Putin and tell him what he wants to hear instead of what he
- 14:21doesn't, which might be the reality on the ground. When you
- 14:24got a phone call to go help Ukraine at the start of this
- 14:28war? What went through your mind? Were you concerned? What
- 14:31How did you make this decision?
- 14:32Dr. Thom Mayer: That's a great question. First of all, I didn't
- 14:35get a phone call, I made a phone call. Well, I picked up the
- 14:39phone, and I saw what was happening. I thought, you know,
- 14:42I've been very fortunate, as you know, to have bled in in some of
- 14:46the most prominent crises of our generation. It's an honor to
- 14:50serve others in the in the course of that and to have been
- 14:53asked to have done so. But to me, I thought this is an
- 14:56injustice that that can't stand. I'm an emergency physician. So
- 15:00I'm uniquely trained in Have a mentality, you know, we have
- 15:04this weird thing of, you know, explosions fire, you know,
- 15:07gunfire, we run into that, not away from it, they're, you know,
- 15:11we're just not normal. And so I made phone calls connected with
- 15:15Team Rubicon, a group of former Marines. And so literally,
- 15:18within three weeks of the invasion, we were there boots on
- 15:22the ground and in Ukraine, in order to take care of patients.
- 15:26So having been at the tip of that spear, exposed to air raids
- 15:29of literally every day, and every night, you know, I saw the
- 15:33results, people are blown out of their homes blown out of their
- 15:37apartments, in the middle of the night, having to get on a train
- 15:40and go 900 miles west and hope someone would be there to take
- 15:44care of him. But you see, it's hard not to think about what
- 15:48kind of mentality results in men doing that. I think your point
- 15:52is extremely well taken that authoritarian way of dealing
- 15:55with things does not in my opinion, have the right results.
- 15:58Adam Outland: No. And not to be too contrarian. But I also think
- 16:01like in times of crisis, I mean, you're shaking Team Rubicon over
- 16:05there. And I imagine it's a all hands on deck, a pretty intense
- 16:08experience. And there's there's got to be some motivation,
- 16:11sometimes to be a little authoritarian, because there's
- 16:14the speed element that if you are the one making all the
- 16:17decisions, you can make them so much quicker, right?
- 16:20Dr. Thom Mayer: You know, how does a team operate as an expert
- 16:23team? Certainly, you recruit smart people. But you know, Bill
- 16:26Belichick said, talent sets the floor of a team, but character
- 16:30sets the ceiling of a team. And I think that's true in any t.
- 16:34So, you know, our group came together and bonded, I mean,
- 16:38serious badass is, and that's the highest compliment I can
- 16:42give somebody. And in an emergency situation, you quickly
- 16:45develop those bonds of trust, you talk about team, how are we
- 16:49going to react in this situation, I can tell you, when
- 16:53I was dealing with those patients, they're right there
- 16:56working with me. And I never, almost never had to ask them to
- 17:00do anything. You know, it's like in the midst of an emergency
- 17:04resuscitation, I put my hand out when the nurse puts a chest tube
- 17:08in because she knows what I'm thinking. The same thing
- 17:12occurred there. So you know, from great teamwork comes great
- 17:16preparation, great trust, a great sense of the ability of
- 17:19people to work across boundaries. And you develop that
- 17:23very quickly. And I think the more we understand that the work
- 17:27begins within, but it turns very quickly towards teamwork.
- 17:31Adam Outland: It's almost like that expression, leadership is
- 17:33assumed before it's assigned, right?
- 17:36Dr. Thom Mayer: Wherever we're leading, whether we're leading
- 17:39our family, our kids, you know, whether we're leading a large
- 17:43organization, we have to learn to tell the story of the people
- 17:47we serve. Tell a story about the people that you represent. In
- 17:51too many organizations, too many teams are so bogged down in
- 17:55statistics and data, instead of telling the story of the people
- 18:00that we serve. Mark Twain was very good at this as most things
- 18:04when he said, If you want to rise to the meteoric heights of
- 18:08literary greatness, don't write about man, write about a man
- 18:12tell the story of the person who's doing it.
- 18:16Adam Outland: Curiosity has had to have played a role in your
- 18:19life, because of your well read and well study. How much
- 18:24importance do you put on curiosity and being a person
- 18:27that asked questions?
- 18:29Dr. Thom Mayer: Yeah, obviously, I think failure has to be our
- 18:32fuel. But driving failure is curiosity, that that wonder why
- 18:36why why not? Why did we do it this way? And why not do it a
- 18:40different way? Why are we doing it this way? We hear that all
- 18:44the time. And the most common answer to that, because we've
- 18:48always done it that way. Because we've always done it that way.
- 18:52That doesn't show curiosity that doesn't show, you know, hey, why
- 18:57couldn't it be done another way? So the question, you know, why
- 19:01should be it adds value to the people we serve. But the bigger
- 19:05question is, why not? Why couldn't we do it another way?
- 19:09Because I asked people to think about leading in a radically
- 19:13different way to act on those thoughts within a week, because
- 19:17if the people who listen to this don't, in some small way, do
- 19:21something differently, if they don't act on it within a week,
- 19:25they're not going to add in the third is to innovate, think, act
- 19:29and innovate, and to innovate takes that curiosity to say,
- 19:33what I couldn't have been done another way, why couldn't this
- 19:37the play that we drew up? Why couldn't that have been done in
- 19:41a different way? Why the strategic plan that we laid out
- 19:45how did it fail? How did it to what extent did it fail? Sure.
- 19:49It's nice to have stats to show data to show the you know, the
- 19:53delta between what we aspired to, and that which we achieved,
- 19:57but again, that human story that's behind that. So to me,
- 20:01it's read Tilly read to lead read the lives of great men
- 20:04Right women, those who've been through it, I just got back from
- 20:09Normandy, had the great privilege working with Donnie
- 20:12Edwards, a former NFL player, Best Defense Foundation, we took
- 20:1660 World War Two veterans back to the Normandy beaches. Wow.
- 20:20Unbelievable cold chills just thinking talking about, you
- 20:24know, listening to those men, what they went through how they
- 20:28faced it, you know it, you can't do better than to see the people
- 20:32who've been through it before and hear their experiences, read
- 20:37their lives, how did they make decisions? What guided what went
- 20:41right, what went wrong? It's just that curiosity, as you so
- 20:45correctly says, is the only thing we can do to fuel our
- 20:48failure to understand how did we fail?
- 20:51Adam Outland: Failure, you know, you talk about it as a lesson in
- 20:53a learning experience. And I don't know if you've got a good
- 20:56story for this. But sometimes we learn our lessons life, not
- 20:59because we did it, right, because we did it wrong, and
- 21:02learn from it. What's the a personal example, where either
- 21:05you didn't follow your own advice, and it cost you something?
- 21:08Dr. Thom Mayer: Anytime I put myself in front of those I
- 21:11serve, I feel like you know, I'm too old to be making that
- 21:14mistake, I made that mistake so many times. And I just made it
- 21:18over again. And whenever I've you know, answered a reporter,
- 21:22given a talk or been in a meeting, and I've let my ego get
- 21:26in the way, as opposed to thinking first, last and always
- 21:29in between, about the people I serve, then then I've regretted
- 21:33it. You know, I give you a great example of what I said once and
- 21:37there was a shooting at the CIA, and I was the chairman of the
- 21:41emergency department at the time. And I tell the story of
- 21:45permission to the patient and his family. He's got a nick star
- 21:49worked at the CIA waiting to turn in was shot at close range
- 21:52with a ak 47. And he came into our trauma center, flown in by
- 21:56by my police paramedics that that are the police helicopter
- 22:00unit got 28 units of O negative blood. For some reason, they
- 22:04determined that I was the only person that was going to talk to
- 22:08the press through the national story. So I walk outside the
- 22:12emergency department for reporters are all there. And as
- 22:15you know, often you can hear the question go into their earpiece,
- 22:19lightly but before they asked the question, so they're
- 22:23peppering me with questions. And Dr. Mayer, everybody was
- 22:26interested in donating blood to help because they knew he had so
- 22:30much blood. They said, you know, patient had 28 units of O
- 22:34negative blood, what blood type? Is he in before I could think I
- 22:38said, I don't know what he was before. But he's Oh, negative
- 22:42now. And I thought, Oh, my God, I can't believe I just said
- 22:46that. And I thought, Well, this has been a good job, you know,
- 22:49I'll pick up a neck up the office, got a phone call from
- 22:53the chief of police. And I thought, well, this is it, you
- 22:57know, and he said, Doc, I just want to tell you, that's the
- 23:00funniest thing I've ever heard of you real human being say. So,
- 23:04you know, just trust your heart, as I said earlier, you know,
- 23:08keep the patient in fraud, the people we serve in front of the
- 23:12team, and yourself way, way back. CS Lewis, as you know,
- 23:16said, you know, humility consists not of thinking less of
- 23:19yourself, but thinking of yourself less. Don't be so
- 23:23humble. You're not that great. Good advice to keep in mind.
- 23:26Adam Outland: That's good advice. Quick round of
- 23:28questions. These are just kind of quick answers. But we have a
- 23:32lot of guests who've had a lot of different forms of success.
- 23:35And something that's caused us to ask is, hey, you know,
- 23:39success isn't quite universal in its definition. I'm kind of
- 23:42curious for you, how you define success, and how you know when
- 23:46you've achieved it?
- 23:47Dr. Thom Mayer: Well, it's a corollary question deeply
- 23:50related to, you know, the joy of which my deep joy is helping
- 23:54others find and fully express their deep joy. So
- 23:58understandably, my definition of success is the extent to which
- 24:02I've been able to help them understand they are all leading,
- 24:06because leadership is worthless, because it's just what you say.
- 24:11And anybody can say anything. But leading is priceless,
- 24:15because it's what you do all day, every day. And are you in
- 24:19the course of what you do all day, every day, consistent to
- 24:23your deep joy. That to me is success.
- 24:27Adam Outland: The last thing I guess I love asking would be you
- 24:31know, there's there's a young man, somewhere in the state of
- 24:34Indiana, thought he was going to be a professional football
- 24:36player. If you went through a portal in time and happened to
- 24:39bump into this young man, what advice might you have given
- 24:42yourself in that stage of life if you had the opportunity?
- 24:46Dr. Thom Mayer: Well, the first thing I'd probably say goes, I
- 24:49couldn't restrain myself. It'd be Are you out of your mind. But
- 24:53when I was 11, I was on an all star baseball team at
- 24:56Meadowbrook Little League. And ended up winning the city title,
- 25:00which, in effect was the county title, the regional title at
- 25:04that time was a big deal. We had two things that happened to us
- 25:08as a result of that. The first of which I thought was the best
- 25:12thing that could ever happen to a person in their life, which is
- 25:16they put us on the top of fire engines, sirens, blazing, lights
- 25:20flashing, and drove us all around the town with people
- 25:24waving. And I thought it just doesn't get any better than
- 25:28that, you know, just put put me to sleep. This is not going to
- 25:32get any better. Well, it turned out I was wrong. Because we had
- 25:36a banquet at the banquet, a guy named Carl Erskine. Carl was for
- 25:40Anderson, Indiana, and he had played for the Brooklyn Dodgers,
- 25:44and was the World Series strikeout record holder until
- 25:47Sandy Kofax broke it. And he said something I'll never ever
- 25:51forget, which was gentlemen, you can't do everything in life. No
- 25:55one can. But he paused for a fact. And I can see him saying
- 25:59it and hear the tone in his voice. He said, but any of you
- 26:03can do any thing you choose to do. And I never forgot that, you
- 26:07know, particularly when failure was looming when, you know, it
- 26:11was like, okay, it can be done, you know, and that's why I say,
- 26:15you know, read to lead. Curiosity, as you so correctly
- 26:19said, that ability to see Yeah, it can be done. You know, it's
- 26:23awesome. But Mandela said, it's always impossible until it's
- 26:27done. The one great Mandela line of many is being resentful about
- 26:31failing or being resentful towards other blaming failure on
- 26:35others. He said, resentment is like drinking poison, and hoping
- 26:39it'll kill your enemies. Yeah, shocker. Doesn't work, it kills you.
- 26:43Adam Outland: Yeah. Wow, this has been an amazing interview
- 26:46with a lot of good lessons. And you've managed to pack quite a
- 26:50few those in the book that you've published as well. So
- 26:53where can folks go at Tom just to track yourself and anything
- 26:57else that you have?
- 26:58Dr. Thom Mayer: The book is in leadership is worthless, but
- 27:01meeting is priceless is available on Amazon or all major
- 27:05sites. If you enjoy it, then please leave a review. Untold
- 27:09that helps. If you don't enjoy it, read it, reach out to me,
- 27:13because you can reach me at THONMYER. MD. So Tom Mayer
- 27:17md@gmail.com. If I can help you in any way, I will need a phone
- 27:21call. We need to zoom happy to do that. My deep joy is helping
- 27:26others find their deep joy and fully express that. If there's
- 27:30anything I can do to be helpful in that regard. It would be an honor.
- 27:35Adam Outland: Right? And if they really really enjoy your book,
- 27:37they can send you a bottle of Silver Oak.
- 27:41Dr. Thom Mayer: Hahaha, well played, well played.
- 27:44Adam Outland: Really appreciate your time today. Lots of wisdom
- 27:47and picked a lot of good anecdotes as well. So appreciate
- 27:50that.
- 27:51Dr. Thom Mayer: Thanks so much. It's been my honor entirely.