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153. Replay: Finding Joy In The Challenge · The Shift Podcast

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And come join us inside The Shift of Frontline Static 138,
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finding joy in the challenge. I am talking with you on the
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very last day of the year. It is December 31st.
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I know you guys will get this on the very first day of January
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1st, 2026, but I've spent a lot of time reflecting in this last
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week and a half. I'm taking two weeks off of
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coaching. I've literally never done this
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before in the 15 years that I've been a nurse.
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I always worked holidays and continue to, you know, work as
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all of you guys are during this time.
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But I really wanted to create some space to be with my family
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and really just enjoy the magical experience of having my
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twins, who are seniors, home for the last Christmas before they
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move out. And so I've been, I want to
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share with you something that I have been personally working on
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and that I've spent a lot of time thinking about how and
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reflecting how I've taken myself through this process of finding
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joy in the challenge. In the last about I would say
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six months, maybe even a little bit more.
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I've been really coaching with my mindset, personal one-on-one
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coach about creating desire of what I really want.
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In the last six months, I've spent time really asking myself,
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what is it that I really desire? What is it that I want to
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contribute in this world? What is it that I want to say
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and impact in my coaching business?
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And for weeks I would come to my calls with her and I would just
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be like, I wish I had an answer. Like I don't know what it is.
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And she just allowed really for me to have the space to, instead
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of making a quick decision on it, just really allow myself to
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super think and create space for what I really do truly desire to
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coach on inside my coaching business.
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Now running it for the last four years.
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I really wanted to take time to reassess where am I going in the
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next five years? And this is really just been
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because I've blasted through my goals.
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I created a five year goal for my coaching plan for my coaching
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business and I hit that this year, a year early.
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And so I think that this is just a reflection of where do I want
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to be in the next 5 years? Who do I want to impact?
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What is it that I want to teach? What is the voice and the
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lessons and the tools that I want to bring to you guys?
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And so the last six months of really asking myself that and
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pondering it and leaving it in uncertainty and unknown, I
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finally come to an answer. And I am not ready to completely
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share with you my new offer, but it is coming.
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And I do want to let you know I am continuing the Flight Prep
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Academy. That is something I deeply
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desire to do to help more nurses and medics get into this
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industry. I loved, loved, loved every part
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of being a flight nurse. It was the best job ever.
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And I want to help more people who want to create that goal for
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themselves get there in a shorter amount of time with more
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clarity, more ease, less overwhelm, and a community and
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support. So I'm going to take you through
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kind of my process of how I found joy in the challenge and
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how you can start to find joy in the challenge of the goals that
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you're creating for 2026. I spent 2 days ago mapping out
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my entire next year. And that's not something that
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I've typically done in my business, but I know where I'm
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going this next year with more clarity and ease than ever
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before. And so I spent probably maybe
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two or three hours really thinking about what are some of
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the webinars trainings that I'm going to bring you.
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I mapped it out for the next 12 months and really what that's
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going to look like. And so I want to kind of take
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you through as I have discovered after six months of pondering
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really what I desire, how I got to that and how I found joy in
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the challenge and in the goal. So I want to start out before I
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go take you through these steps for really just expressing my
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gratitude. I am so grateful for all of you
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guys. This was an idea that I
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pondered, put a lot of love into when I decided to leave nursing
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and flight nursing and go all in on my coaching business.
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And I knew what I wanted to create.
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I knew how I wanted to impact people, but I just had to
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believe that there were people that wanted to come along.
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There are people that wanted to join my communities and utilize
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me as their coach. And I just wanted to take a
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moment before getting started this week to express my
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gratitude to all of you for coming along with me in this
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journey, for entrusting me to be your coach.
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Even if you aren't working with me as a client, just listening
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to this episode, I hope like my my goal is that you guys feel
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better. I know the work that you do is
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hard. I've been there.
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I've been in the trenches with you, and my goal in when I found
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these coaching tools is that I can give you guys a sense of
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feeling better, of confidence, of willingness to chase after
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your big audacious goals and to not get rid of the fear, but to
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learn how to bring it with you. And so as I now have over 100
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people inside of the Flight Prep Academy, I've helped dozens of
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people get hired into flight now.
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I created a new offer for healthcare workers and 1st
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responders for general life coaching.
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I have a small group with 20 people in it.
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I've helped over 100 clients and people one-on-one.
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I just want to express gratitude for you going on this journey
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with me for entrusting me to be your coach.
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And I just want you to know I have so much more to give this
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year. And I just wanted to start this
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episode in complete just thankfulness and gratitude for
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being here with me. And I want you to know that I'm
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thinking about you guys often. I am thinking about how do I
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help you feel better quicker? How do I put everything into
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processes and steps as I'm going through them so that I can share
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them with you? I have expressed that the last
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two years have been a struggle for me and I've really had some
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really deep emotions that I've never ever felt before in my
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life to this extent. Sadness, anxiety, depression,
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shame. And I'm as I'm coming out of it,
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as I'm like really stepping into the next version of me.
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I want you guys to know I got you because I've felt these
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feelings, I've allowed them. And so I want you to know these
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podcast episodes are for you. And again, I want you to be
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thinking about me and you just having a conversation across the
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table. Maybe we got a drink together or
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we're just having lunch or dinner together.
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And I really hope that you find some of these general life
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coaching topics. And I'm going to be talking
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about flight topics too. I'm helpful for you, but I just
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want to express gratitude and thankfulness for you coming
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along with me. OK, today we're going to find,
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we're going to talk about finding joy in the challenge.
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I'm going to talk to you about the steps that I took myself to
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create some desire for this and how I got through it.
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So I'm going to take you through four steps.
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The first one is we have to create a desire for what we want
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or our goal. That means we have to give our
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self time to super think. I know I've talked about this on
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previous episodes and my business coach talks about this
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a lot. Just really giving yourself time
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to quiet the noise without your phone, without the TV, without
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your kids, just like in a quiet place to really super think.
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I like to go into nature. I like to go for a walk.
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Like those are things where I can really get clarity, feel
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alone, and really take some time to ask myself what is it that I
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desire? Not what my family wants for me,
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not what my kids or my husband or my parents.
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What do I want? What do I want now, what I want
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in the next 5 years? What are some goals that I want
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to create? What do I truly desire to do
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with my life to impact? Really take the time to ask
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yourself that without the pre notions of like what everybody
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else wants for you. I don't even know if that's a
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word, but I just came up with that right now.
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I don't think that if I was really honest with myself, I've
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spent a lot of time asking myself what I want.
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I really have just done sometimes a hard thing because
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I'm like, oh, that's what so and so wants for me or that's what
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is the next thing that life tells me I need to be doing.
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But this is really like asking yourself, what do I want now?
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What do I want in the next 5 years?
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What do I want to create in 10 years?
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What'll, what's the stamp that I want to leave and the legacy
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that I want to leave for my children in this world?
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What's the impact? And I really allowed myself to
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let that question remain open for the last six months until it
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really came to me. And then when it hit me, it just
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hit me like so hard. I knew what it was.
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And I really believe that you can't wait to feel it.
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You have to go out there and start to cultivate that desire,
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Cultivate and ask yourself those hard questions, tapping really
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into, if this isn't something that happens to me, what do I
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want to create? And you have to go out there and
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get it and ask yourself that. So I think it starts with that,
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creating the desire of what you want, super thinking and really
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listening, giving yourself time and space to find out what that
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is. OK #2 this is actually really
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difficult for me, but I have been really practicing this as
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I've been asking myself, what do I desire in the last six months?
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Number 2 is creating gratitude and feeling proud of yourself.
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This is hard for me. This is a challenge because if
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you're a goal setter like me, which you are, if you're
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listening to this podcast and you're a doer and you have
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always found that doing a bunch of things is what creates
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success for you, that feeling proud is hard.
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Realizing that it can be simple and slowing down and taking the
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actions that will actually move you forward instead of taking a
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bunch. That's hard.
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And so learning to stop, create gratitude and feel proud for
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where you have come, where you were a year ago, where you were
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two years ago, where you were 10 years ago, and how far you have
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come and what you have accomplished is hard to take
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time to do. But we have to do this because
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if we don't close the loop of feeling proud and close the loop
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of the accomplishments, then we just say going to the next thing
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and we chase the next thing and we chase the next opening hit.
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Feeling proud closes the loop for us.
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Having gratitude helps us really set into what do we desire next?
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And so I really took time in these last after I what really
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hit me, what I really want to do, I just took time to really
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just feel proud of where I've come, who's come with me,
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grateful for for all all of you guys and just really dig deep
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into what are you proud of? And I want to offer that
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sometimes in this process of goal setting, we can indulge in
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trying to feel like this is what happened to me in the last six
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months. Like really leading up to it is
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I was indulging and why don't feel desire.
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I have to feel desire before I start taking action.
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And I just had to keep telling myself, I'm going to keep taking
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action until I figure out the desire.
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So you don't want to wait to feel it before you start taking
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action. You want to become the person
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who just keeps taking the action.
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And then with the action, you'll gain the momentum.
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And in the momentum, you'll find the desire.
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So I want to to also offer you that.
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I want to ask you the questions. What decisions am I keeping
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myself from making because I'm indulging to try to feel desire
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or feel motivated? What decisions am I keeping
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myself from making because I keep beating myself up?
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What decisions am I keeping myself from making because I
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have fear of what others will think of me or that I will fail?
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These are the three things that I struggle with the most.
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Dropping into gratitude, beating myself up and fear of what other
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people will think of me and seeing them, seeing, seeing,
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watching myself fail in front of them.
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And I think these are common things that we all face.
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But what I have really, really taught myself to do in this
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process, in challenging myself is taking action.
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Even though I have those thoughts.
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And you do not want to indulge in beating yourself up, having
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fear or waiting to feel desire motivated.
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Do you want to start taking the action anyway?
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So that's number two. Feel gratitude, feel proud of
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yourself. That will help you take the
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action #3 We want to create a plan.
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We want to tell her. We want to stop telling
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ourselves, I don't know. And we want to start telling
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ourselves, I have a plan. I hope that you have a plan for
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2026. I hope that you can.
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This is a thing we can't prevent ourselves from saying, I don't
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know. It is natural for our brain to
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tell us that. But what if you're coaching with
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me in any of my programs? I just don't allow that answer.
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I say, well, if you didn't know, then what if you didn't know?
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What would be the first step? What's the first step that
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you're going to take? So we have to start telling
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ourselves I have a plan versus I don't know.
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I thought I want to offer you that.
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We came up in the shift coaching group for healthcare workers and
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1st responders. And the last one that we had was
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let's try it. And I have a plan and that
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thought will propel you forward. We just don't want to take time
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to indulge. And I don't know anymore.
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An example that I gave them and I wanted to give you guys is
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this is like one of my husband's favorite movies is Ford versus
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Ferrari. And there's a part of it that I
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just will never forget. He is talking to his son about
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going around the track, and he's talking to his son about doing
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this race that's 24 hours long. I can't remember the name of it,
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but his son says, Dad, how do you plan ahead when you're going
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that fast for all the laps that you have to complete and do in
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24 hours? And he says that when he gets in
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the car and when he starts moving and going really, really
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fast, that for normal people, things move faster.
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And it's like binoculars and a lens.
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Like this is what I'm paraphrasing in my head.
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But what I'm thinking as he's telling his son this is that
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it's like binoculars and most people, as they're going faster,
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things speed up and they're narrowing in on the track.
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But he says for him that when he has a long race or the faster he
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goes, time actually slows down for him.
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He actually scrolls out with those binoculars and sees the
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bigger picture. He sees the whole race from
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start to finish in that moment. He sees how many times he's
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glided through the track and how he's accomplished it and how he
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has done it. And this is similar.
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I remember that for one reason is this is similar to what
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happened to me when I would land at sinkholes and there was mass
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chaos. And maybe there were multiple
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bodies and multiple crashes and multiple things going on.
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And there was fights between family going on here.
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And then you had police here, and then you had fire
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extricating someone. And for me, the more chaotic a
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scene, the slower I slowed down in my mind.
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I saw the bigger picture. I focused in on what patient I
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was going to take in that very moment and from start to finish
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of my entire call, grabbing that patient and taking them to the
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level 1 trauma center. And I did that all in like
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seconds. And the reason why I was able to
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do this is because I always told myself I don't need to know the
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how. I just need to have a plan.
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And there is a part of me still that had a lot of fear.
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And there is a part of me that was like, I don't know.
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But I had to not indulge in spending time with that part.
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I had to keep telling myself, this is it.
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This is the plan. We're going to follow through
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and trust myself that I could do that.
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So when we have that thought, I have a plan.
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The actions will lead us down that way.
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We'll take the first one and then we'll know what to do for
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the second one, and so on and so forth.
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When we continue with the thought, I don't know, you
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continue to spin, begin confusion, be stuck being
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overwhelmed. And I know you guys know this
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feeling because the more you tell yourself you don't know,
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the more you don't know. And so I think it's really
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important to create a plan and then have a thought that's going
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to propel you forward in that plan, which is like, I have a
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plan, let's try it. I have a plan, let's move
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forward with it. And so I just want to offer you
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guys that thought. I also am a big believer in
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exposing yourself to your worst fear.
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So often times clients come to me and they're like, I'm just
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afraid that my my patients going to code and I'm like, OK, let's
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do it. Let's walk ourselves through it.
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You got your critical patient high acuity they code.
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Now what do you do? And we take them through
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verbally every action that they're going to take.
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This is how I help people get ready for case scenarios and
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verbal case scenarios for flight companies.
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Or they're testing once they're already a flight nurse or flight
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medic. Let's go to your worst case
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scenario. Take me through what's going to
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happen. Get to that code, bring it, do
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it. And the only reason why I've
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allowed myself to do that is because even though I've had
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fear about it, I take myself to the worst case scenario.
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I tell myself I have a plan and I walk myself through it.
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So that's number three is creating a plan and telling
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yourself you have one. The most important part is when
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your brain is going to push up against, I don't know, and then
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it has a lot of fear. You have to tell yourself that I
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have a plan and let's, let's try it.
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Let's do it. OK, this is the last one.
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And this kind of wraps up what I want to talk to you guys about
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on this podcast #4 finding joy in the challenge.
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You guys, you got to find some joy in challenging yourself and
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getting to the next level and leveling up and doing something
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that no one's done before. If flight was so easy, everybody
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would do it at three years. But it's not.
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It's for the people who find the joy in the challenge.
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Because here's the thing, once you get hired into flight, it's
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not like, oh, OK, successful. No, it's testing after testing
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after testing and continuing to challenge yourself.
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You're asked to be superhuman. You're asked to have the
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autonomy and make quick decisions and think critically,
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not just for your team, but for your patient.
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And that's why it matters. You have to find joy in the
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challenges. You have to find joy in the
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goals. One thing that I think about a
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lot, I love to go on hikes. I love to be in nature and there
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was this one hike that I did with my family.
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And I know I've talked about this on my podcast before, but
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this is what I'm thinking about and finding the joy in the
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challenge where my husband's like, this is just going to take
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a half a day to get to that peak.
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And I said it's not. And I only brought snacks.
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I didn't bring enough things. You know, it took us over
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12/13/14 hours to get to the top, but I had to find joy in
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getting there. And I remember every step of the
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way thinking, Oh my gosh, like this is fun.
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OK, what's on the other switch back of this?
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What happens when we go up there?
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And just really telling myself like, OK, this is so fun to be
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with my family, to be with my kids, to challenge myself.
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You have to be able to say I'm the person who loves this.
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I'm the person who loves every minute of challenging myself to
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to grow into the next version of me.
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Two thoughts that have really helped me in challenging
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situations and when I set big goal for goals for myself to
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find the joy in. It is this is my sequence of
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events that led me to success. It doesn't mean that I got
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everything right the first time, the second time, the third time,
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the 4th time, the fifth time. Guys, it took me 8 times to pass
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my CFRN, 3 times to pass my CCRN.
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That thought is this is my sequence of events that leads me
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to its success. The seven times I had to not
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pass it led me to the 8th time of passing it.
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I had to keep being willing to evaluate and get back up and do
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it again. And so that thought is really
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powerful for me. This is my sequence of events
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that leads me to to success. Pass or fail, whatever it is,
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I'm going to get back up. The other thought that I have is
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this is the plan. This is exactly what is supposed
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to be happening. This is the plan.
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And I just want to invite all of you guys find joy in becoming
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who you, who you are becoming, who challenges yourself, who
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gets to that goal because it feels good to get to that goal,
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but it really, really is about the person you become while
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getting there. So find some joy in it.
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And the last thing that I want to offer you in finding the joy
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in the challenge and creating desire for your goals and what
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you want in your life is the importance of community and
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support. This is what I'm creating in my
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programs this year. Don't do it alone.
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Come and join us. There's other people who feel
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the exact same way as you who are challenged right now with
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beating themselves up and we're going to help you get unstuck
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and out of overwhelm and create confidence and feel better in
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the jobs that you're doing and the next version that you want
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to level up to community support is everything.
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I've set myself up for community and support this year because I
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am taking myself more seriously this year than I ever have.
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I'm drowning out my own personal doubt and the doubt of others,
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and I'm allowing myself to go out all out and play big, not
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without fear. I'm going to have fear, but I
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just have this deep desire to input impact more healthcare
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workers and 1st responders, you guys in general, to stretch
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myself to greater legs and to put myself out there more, to
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fail more to to get back up and to seeking feeling better.
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If you guys want that, if you want community support, feeling
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better, growing your confidence, stepping into the next version
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of yourself, creating really big things.
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Come with me this year because I am going to be doing things I've
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never done before and I want you guys to join in on that and I
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can and will support you as your coach.
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I have a new offer coming it's in March.
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Stay tuned. I'm going to be telling about
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telling it about you guys for you guys shortly and join my
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e-mail list to find out more what it's about.
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You'll be the first to know and if flights your goal finally
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start taking action towards that.
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You guys, if anything, do not wait till the three years.
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We don't wait three years to marry someone.
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You got to speed date the whole three years before to find out
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who's to get a good fit for you and if you're a good fit for
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them. And you want to start doing ride
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alongs as soon as nursing school.
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I have pre nursing students and nursing students inside my
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program and they're doing ride alongs and base visits right now
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and they're having the time of their lives.
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Come join us inside the Flight Prep Academy.
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If flight is your goal, start taking action towards it now.
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Stop waiting and preparing yourself mentally for it.
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We got to start taking action towards it.
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I'm going to teach you how to do a ride along in the first month
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that you join. That's it for this week.
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You guys. I hope you find joy in the
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challenge and come along with me in this next year. 2026 is going
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to be the best year yet. Bye guys.
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If anything, if anything in this episode sparked your interest in
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learning to manage your mind and feel better to create confidence
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in your life, come join the shift.
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We are an entire community that meets together on a weekly basis
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with an ongoing group chat. You can click on the link to
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join in the show notes or DM me on Instagram.
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I hope to see all of you guys inside.