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ITS OK NOT TO HAVE SEX · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. You're not always gonna like you'll
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  Speaker 1: always be attracted to your partner, but like if there's
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  Speaker 1: a time where, for some reason, in this certain instance,
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  Speaker 1: like you're not turned on around them like that, it
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  Speaker 1: just means like that, it's not that doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 1: you're not attracted to them, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: I wish someone said it to me when I was younger,
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  Speaker 1: maybe because like.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay not to have sex.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, like it's okay to not fucking be horny
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  Speaker 1: around them all the time. Like sex isn't everything.
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  Speaker 3: The Relatables podcast is hosted by Jake Craig aka scrub
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  Speaker 3: Daddy and myself Audie Clark a k.
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  Speaker 2: Scrub Mummy, scrub Mummy bro.
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  Speaker 1: I have a scrub Mummy in my It sounds like
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  Speaker 1: a brand deal advert or some sort, but it's not.
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  Speaker 3: That is so funny, you know. We like to talk
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  Speaker 3: about equality. Yeah, and normally there's an ongoing joke that
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  Speaker 3: guys like to make that girls are meant to be
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  Speaker 3: in the kitchen.
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  Speaker 2: Yep, no stupid joke.
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  Speaker 3: You can come clean with me right now, scrub Daddy.
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  Speaker 3: I fucking that is so fucking funny. And I can't
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  Speaker 3: take the claim for this. My girlfriend's mum saw him important.
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  Speaker 1: For us, really.
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  Speaker 3: She was like and she listened and she was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and she saw them and she thought of us.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, are so good.
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  Speaker 2: This is by the way, get him out of it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I use a fucking like downstairs, I have
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  Speaker 1: a scrub mummy, and the scrub Mummy is.
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  Speaker 2: Way better than the scrub Daddy. That's right, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: better at you.
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  Speaker 1: It's it's I don't know if it's how they've advertised
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  Speaker 1: it or anything, but it's like twice as good for
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  Speaker 1: the same price, really, and it's kind of like a
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  Speaker 1: funny thing if you think about it, like, because the
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  Speaker 1: scrub Mummy has like the hard side and the soft side.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't want to get details of it, and the
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  Speaker 1: scrub Daddy is just the hard side. Yeah. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: if you think about it, like, you know, femalely, I
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  Speaker 1: guess it is twice as good.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's where we're going to that.
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  Speaker 3: You never know, maybe that was the marketing behind scrub
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  Speaker 3: mummies better than scrub daty.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, facts, bro, it's the same price.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, scrub Daddy can fucking honestly, such a good business bloy,
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  Speaker 3: but so such a good idea.
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  Speaker 1: You know. They were on Shark Tank.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, and they actually came out of it
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  Speaker 3: and now it's all global.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe it. And scrub the scrub Daddy page
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  Speaker 1: on TikTok. Yeah have you seen it? No, bro, it's
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  Speaker 1: fucking huge, millions of followers, shit, millions of Maybe it
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  Speaker 1: was good to bring them up.
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  Speaker 2: We'll get some clout. You never know, you never do know.
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  Speaker 1: Have you also seen While we're on the topic of
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  Speaker 1: fucking brand TikTok pages, we've spoken about the Ryan air
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  Speaker 1: one before, wild scrub Daddy, scrub Bummy. They got a
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  Speaker 1: big TikTok page. There's a whole all these American brands
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  Speaker 1: have cottoned on to the fact that you need to
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  Speaker 1: hire someone in from gen z to to market your
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  Speaker 1: social media.
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  Speaker 3: I'm glad America gets it. To be fair, there's one
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  Speaker 3: big one in Australia. I think she's got a clothing
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  Speaker 3: brand or something. She's really good and she has a podcast.
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  Speaker 3: He's really good at marketing.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I'm know. I'm talking about big yeah,
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  Speaker 2: well established brands.
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  Speaker 1: Ryan air Airline.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, obviously, what's the next one.
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  Speaker 1: There's one that has taken it too far. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and it's cold nutter butter. Oh brodder Brand, I'm pretty sure. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's like more peanut butter. I don't know cookies
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  Speaker 1: as well. I have no idea, but they have taken
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  Speaker 1: it way too far.
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  Speaker 2: Really, yeah, like I mean, do you want I can?
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  Speaker 2: I think I can imagine.
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  Speaker 1: I would say, like they've taken it so far in
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  Speaker 1: the sense of, like, so they've gone brain rot.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, right, that's what gen Z love. So it's gone viral.
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  Speaker 2: I also love my pant butter. Yeah, to be.
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  Speaker 1: Fair, but like he's gen Z the ones buying groceries. Yeah, oh,
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  Speaker 1: we do wear gen Z. But also it's like, really
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  Speaker 1: that's what shouldn't be their target market. But they've taken
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  Speaker 1: it too far in the sense of like it's like
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  Speaker 1: the only thing it's like jump scary really type of
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  Speaker 1: thing that's weird? Isn't that so weird? Like like they're
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  Speaker 1: just standing there like have you watched Solad Fingers?
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't know what solid fingers the.
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  Speaker 1: Guy Solad fingers. It's like, oh, like rusty spoos, you've
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  Speaker 1: never seen that? What not cultured You've never seen that
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  Speaker 1: a brain. You've never seen that video. So it's like
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  Speaker 1: talking about that in school. He's like, it's like so freaky.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, my mom is salad finger and he's like
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  Speaker 1: this like a weird cartoon dude, and he's got solad fingers.
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  Speaker 1: And then he goes like random places and he's like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: like rushy spoos. You've never seen that.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't. That's such bullshit. I haven't seen that one.
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  Speaker 1: Have you seen Two Girls, One Cup?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, you redeemed yourself. I remember watching it
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  Speaker 2: turning it off, but I remember I've never watched two.
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  Speaker 3: But this is not how I wanted to start an episode.
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  Speaker 3: Bring I love Rusty spoons and two girls, one club.
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  Speaker 2: One Cup.
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  Speaker 3: We wanted to start the episode with the Golden rules
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  Speaker 3: of dating.
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  Speaker 2: Jake before this episode said I'm not going to yap
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  Speaker 2: this one. All right, I say, let the man yap.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll let you yap when you're not talking about
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  Speaker 3: rusty spoons and two girls in one cup.
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  Speaker 1: Guys comment, if you want to hear about rusty spoons,
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  Speaker 1: you never know they might want to hear.
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  Speaker 3: So this is the Golden rules of dating. We've been
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  Speaker 3: big advocates for writing down the list of the non
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  Speaker 3: negotiables in a relationship before doing it. And this is
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  Speaker 3: sort of like along the same lines of these are
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  Speaker 3: the things that you should think about when dating. These
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  Speaker 3: are I haven't gone on I've gone personal. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: I went like broad spectrum.
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  Speaker 1: Oh okay, I mean that might be interesting then, because
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  Speaker 1: so these are like the golden things that I do.
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  Speaker 2: I do these as well, like broad spectrum. People should
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  Speaker 2: use these as.
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  Speaker 1: Well, right okay, okay? Because so yeah, because I've thought
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  Speaker 1: of personal ones that I don't think are like a
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  Speaker 1: really make or break of like a relationship thing, but
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  Speaker 1: it's like a nice it's nice.
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  Speaker 3: You startus thing because they're y different. Yeah, okay, so
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  Speaker 3: these are these are.
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  Speaker 2: Like the golden rules in your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like golden rules, golden actions, golden behaviors. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know something like that now, Like the first the first
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  Speaker 1: two are very cliche, but for some reason, I've just
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  Speaker 1: landed on them and I've stuck to them. And I
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  Speaker 1: would say, after like thinking about it and writing these down,
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  Speaker 1: I think one of my love language, like one of
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  Speaker 1: my main love languages is either acts of service or
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  Speaker 1: gift giving. Like maybe too combined, if.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I mean, Like, I love quality time,
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  Speaker 3: but I do think that if this says bioflowers, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not gonna be happy.
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  Speaker 2: But is that all it says?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 2: But so I do think that maybe I'm thinking active
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  Speaker 2: like this is just things I do. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not saying someone has to do that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I don't have to justify your actions. Man,
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  Speaker 2: that's all good.
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  Speaker 1: What do I always sound like? I do need to
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  Speaker 1: just fine when you say, if this says bioflowers, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna be happy. So as you guys know, one
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  Speaker 1: thing I always do is the car door and I
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  Speaker 1: don't really do like the house door.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really I don't mind. But for some reason
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  Speaker 1: I have this thing where I now I like have
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  Speaker 1: to open the car door for her.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Would you say that's a golden rule though, No, say
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  Speaker 1: this is something I do, Like, I don't think it's
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  Speaker 1: like a golden rule of like relationships.
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  Speaker 2: This is a golden rule of your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like it's become a thing where it's like
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  Speaker 1: I feel, is that.
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  Speaker 3: A key fundamental that if you didn't do that, your
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  Speaker 3: relationship wouldn't be as good.
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  Speaker 1: I think if I stopped doing it, it's not going
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  Speaker 1: to ruin our relationship. But I think that it's like
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  Speaker 1: it's such a small thing that actually plays a big part.
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  Speaker 2: No, I agree that in my relationship a big party.
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  Speaker 3: I reckon go through all your lists, okay, because we
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  Speaker 3: weren't completely different.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah right, okay, it's interesting seeing any brain works. And
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  Speaker 1: so then another mine and this is things. Yeah, so
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  Speaker 1: this is you're not gonna light this one. This is
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  Speaker 1: just this is just another one that that I do. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and I've just noticed that I do it, and it
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  Speaker 1: is that obviously not every time I see it, because
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  Speaker 1: that's fucking over the top, but I really try to
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  Speaker 1: make it like, so, she's not going very long without flowers.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why.
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  Speaker 1: I'm serious, Yeah, I don't know why.
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  Speaker 2: And I think it's a very nice gesture. I bought
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  Speaker 2: my girlfriend flowers.
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  Speaker 1: Yes there, Yeah, like not that I think if I
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  Speaker 1: stopped doing it, she'd leave me. But I find it
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  Speaker 1: now to be a thing where it's like I don't
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  Speaker 1: even think Beth expects it, Like I don't think.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think very nice gesture that goes a long way.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't know what's going on in my
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  Speaker 1: head where I'm like, you know, So on the weekend
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  Speaker 1: I brought her flowers and I was like, oh, I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 1: I haven't actually got you some flowers for a little while.
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  Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, no, it's all right, it's fine.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then I actually had a dream two nights ago
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  Speaker 1: that she said to me. In my dream, she said, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you haven't brought me flowers for a while, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, sorry, sorry, like they you know, money's
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  Speaker 1: a bit tight. I was like making up excuses as
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  Speaker 1: to why I hadn't bought her flowers for a while
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  Speaker 1: or something like that. But even but the day prior,
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  Speaker 1: I fucking gave her flowers and I was like, sorry,
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  Speaker 1: I haven't got you someth for a while, and she
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  Speaker 1: was like no, no, it's fine. She loves it.
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  Speaker 3: Every time I do it, she loves it, like it
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  Speaker 3: doesn't matter what flowers. I think it's good that you
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  Speaker 3: value that so highly.
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  Speaker 1: I just don't even know why, though, Yeah you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean, Like I just kind of would do
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  Speaker 1: it every now and then just because I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: do it.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's good to normalize men buying girls flowers
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  Speaker 3: more often than making it normal because a lot of
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  Speaker 3: our friends think, oh, I'm doing too much.
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  Speaker 2: You never you never do too much.
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  Speaker 1: True. Yeah, I don't know. I just and I don't
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  Speaker 1: think I'm all that worried that if I stopped it
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  Speaker 1: would be bad. But at the same time, if I
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  Speaker 1: did stop, it would send me be like I'm putting
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  Speaker 1: less effort in.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, or you could be putting effort elsewhere, Like you
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  Speaker 2: could change that to a note like it doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: to be flower yeah, true, it don't always have to
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  Speaker 2: be flowers.
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  Speaker 1: Ye.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you just stop doing things all together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, for some reason, I have landed on flowers. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and the car door as like my two very cliche things.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Another golden rule that I've that I do is every
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  Speaker 1: night we if we're together or if we aren't together,
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  Speaker 1: we'll FaceTime and do it we do in the New
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  Speaker 1: York Times games, so there's like the word or all
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  Speaker 1: that stuff we do, the mini crossword and the connections.
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  Speaker 1: We always do it together.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a thing we do together.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know, I cherish it so much, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: really cherish it. And I would never ever, ever, ever
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  Speaker 1: be able to do either one of them without her,
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  Speaker 1: because I have. We went through a phase where I
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  Speaker 1: was like, Okay, well we'll be on the phone when
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  Speaker 1: we do it, but like let's do it and maybe
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  Speaker 1: try and race each other or like, you know, see
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  Speaker 1: if we can do it without the one another. And
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  Speaker 1: she always beat me, so I was like, now let's
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  Speaker 1: do it together.
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  Speaker 2: She's mad way more.
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  Speaker 1: Number three No, sorry, this is number four, Yeah, FaceTime,
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  Speaker 1: whether to get whether we're together in bed. I cannot
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  Speaker 1: go to sleep without saying I love you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's good.
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  Speaker 1: I can't do it. I know some people would like
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  Speaker 1: I think some people it's not a bad thing to
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  Speaker 1: fall sleep without saying it for yeah, but I just
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  Speaker 1: always like I'll be like maybe I'll be dozing like
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  Speaker 1: I love you.
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  Speaker 2: That one's cute, and then this one is the last one.
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  Speaker 1: I only had five. There's probably more, certainly five I
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  Speaker 1: could think of. And this is like a new one
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  Speaker 1: for me in terms of like compared relationships. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 1: it's really really trying to like not judge how she
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  Speaker 1: feels about something, even if she thinks it's stupid. Now
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  Speaker 1: that makes sense, Yeah, Like really trying to reassure.
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  Speaker 2: Her thoughts in a moment. Yeah, Like sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: Beth and she I'm sure like males and all other females,
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  Speaker 1: and it happens quite often, you know, maybe before she's
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  Speaker 1: getting her period and she'll be maybe a little upset
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  Speaker 1: about something, and then she'll kind of like apologize about
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  Speaker 1: being upset and be like I'm sorry, like and then
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  Speaker 1: she'll be like, I'm actually getting my period in a week,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, but I know there's been a
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  Speaker 1: few times where I've been like, yeah, but like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, even if you are getting your period in
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  Speaker 1: a week and maybe your hormones are all over the
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  Speaker 1: place and your more emotion, it's still an emotion. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: So I think it's pretty valid, Like I think you
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  Speaker 1: should still be able to feel that feeling. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't want to fucking be out
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  Speaker 1: here like I'm perfect.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think that's just like a good support system
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  Speaker 2: for Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Plenty of things I need to work on. Maybe maybe
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  Speaker 1: a cool thing would be what do we think we
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  Speaker 1: need to work on a relationship and when we bring
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  Speaker 1: it up with each other and then maybe on the pod.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's probably smart bringing on the pod,
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  Speaker 1: but off off pot. We could bring it up with
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  Speaker 1: each other what we think we need to work on
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  Speaker 1: in our relationships.
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  Speaker 3: And I wonder if we do it, like that's a
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  Speaker 3: good idea, that's probably not a great idea to.
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  Speaker 1: Do one hundred percent if we should do it on
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  Speaker 1: the pod, Like we could do some little we.
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  Speaker 3: Do all the behind the scenes and then actually implement
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  Speaker 3: and then talk to your girlfriend about it, true, and
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  Speaker 3: then bring it back onto the pod.
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  Speaker 2: It's even work. But I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, because I'm sure there's like those are five
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  Speaker 1: things that I do that I think are good, where
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  Speaker 1: there's probably ten things that I do.
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  Speaker 3: That Okay, and you're gonna see where mine and Jake's
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  Speaker 3: brains are completely different.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah I like that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, I took this question completely different. All right,
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  Speaker 3: So the Golden rules of dating?
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  Speaker 1: Can I ask you something?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: For next week? Could you bring your version of mine?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? Like, f do you do all these?
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  Speaker 1: Anyway?
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  Speaker 2: I do all these?
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  Speaker 1: But ask me if you still want more after you Okay, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 1: because what I'm thinking is you're also going to be
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  Speaker 1: like things that everyone just should do.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, So Golden rules are
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  Speaker 3: dating prioritizing yourself and your independence. Yeah, yeah, I think
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  Speaker 3: that's so important, and a lot of people lose sight
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  Speaker 3: of the independence when they're in a relationship because, to
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  Speaker 3: be fair, so good when you spend time with them.
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  Speaker 3: But it's realizing that it's so good to be a
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  Speaker 3: part and also enjoy those things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah shit, I would say the hardest part with that.
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  Speaker 1: So, like, I don't think that's something I struggle with
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  Speaker 1: at all, because maybe obviously you're not either, because like
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  Speaker 1: neither one of us live with our girlfriends yet. Yeah true,
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  Speaker 1: But like when that happens, I wonder if that's when
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  Speaker 1: it becomes a bit more of a problem.
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  Speaker 3: Every person knows people that spend every single minute with
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  Speaker 3: their partner. Yeah, it's been prioritizing yourself. My next golden
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  Speaker 3: rule number two building a safe environment to be sad, angry,
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  Speaker 3: say no, or just be able to express yourself with
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  Speaker 3: whatever comes out and not be judged or judge said person.
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  Speaker 1: Fuck.
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  Speaker 3: That's a good one and my first like semi relationship.
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  Speaker 3: I've never had that, Like I was never able to
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  Speaker 3: voice how I actually felt. I was always like hiding
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: behind these walls that maybe are built in my head
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: or we built together in our own heads.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: We never really told each other how we really felt.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: No, that's fuck, that's a good one. A And I
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: think that is a common problem of like maybe you
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: don't want to be a burden.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And there's always assumptions in relationships when they shouldn't be.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: And like you make someone feel a certain way and
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: you don't even realize, and you should be able to
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: voice that. And you also always need should like your
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: last one, validating your feelings, Like you should always have
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: a safe environment even if Beth feels silly when our
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: emotions are heightened, Like you should be like there should
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: be an environment where you can say whatever the fuck
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: she wants, even if.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: It is silly or not. Yeah. I think it's also
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: a thing of like maybe trying to learn that you're
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: not going to take offense to everything.
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And like you don't have to agree on everything,
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: you just have to understand what their POV is. Yeah,
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: Like honestly, Yeah, next golden rule number three, This is
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: probably the most important one. I just definitely broad spectrum
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: have similar core values and goals that finish around the
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: same line.
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, Like, because I.
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: Feel like a lot of people just oh, I like you,
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: you like me. Let's dy didn't have sex, And then
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: a couple months or years and you're like, oh, so,
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: like you don't want to get married. Oh shit, that's
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: something I've always wanted, Like you don't I want two
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: kids and you don't even want one.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Oh damn fuck. That was based in nine months. Spoken
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: about that earlier.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and obviously there's more little ones that obviously all
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: add up.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: But definitely talking about those things is really important.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: I think the big ones are a big, very important
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: thing to bring up pretty early.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: Next one is I reckon a big one that no
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: one talks about enjoying sex to a similar amount.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, so.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: I reckon especially, Oh no, I reckon it's even both
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: people want to have sex like same sex drive, but
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: also enjoy sex to the same amount where some I'm
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: just saying a lot of dudes in my head anyway,
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: or like just want to fuck all the time and
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: we get di lemos all the time.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: I can't match my boyfriend sex drive.
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yah ya yea, yeah, Like I think you
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: should have that conversation earlier, like, so, how much you
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: like sex?
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: Honestly?
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: Like, and that's A big thing that some people can't
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: accept is that they don't match each other's sexuals and
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: that means they went maybe not right for each other.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: They just see this. It's just.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I yeah, I agree. I think that also that little
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: honeymoon phase maybe go like I go into the honeymoon phase.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: Everyone's knowing then yeah, yeah, like I know, like, oh.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: This isn't last forever like all times of the day,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: I know, yeah, like fucking I think like a big
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: scary thing that might scare people is how do I
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: even say this? And it's you're not always gonna like
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: you'll always be attracted to your partner. But like if
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: there's a time where, for some reason, in this certain instance,
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: like you're not turned on around them like that, it
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: just means like they it's not that doesn't mean that
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: you're not attracted to them, you know what I mean?
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: Because like there's times where you just aren't turned on. Yeah,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: and you don't want to like force I mean for
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: a male, I won't lie, it's pretty easy to get
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: turned on.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you force it.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I just want to. I just
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: like I feel like reassurance and people like I wish
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: someone said it to me when I was younger, maybe
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: because like.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: It's okay not to have sex.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, like it's okay to not fucking be horny
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: around them all the time. Like sex isn't everything, No,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: it's not. Yeah, if you go about if you go
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: a few months without it, there's potentially an issue there.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: But yeah, I know sex isn't everything. That's also a
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: great point you bring up, But I still think it's important.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, oh no, it's majorly yeah. Yeah.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: And my last one God rule this is we've been
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: talking about this a little bit. Not to cast this
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: person as someone they're not. Don't put them on a pedestal,
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: and to live in the present moment with the person
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: who you're falling.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: In love with the fuck yeah, let them grow. Yeah,
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: don't like, I'm not just gonna be what you wanted
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: to be all the time. A lot of people will
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: picture him or her as a wife or a husband. Yeah,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: and then when when they fucking spend all your money
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: in the pokey, you're like, oh fuck, he's still gonna
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: be my husband. Like you just you just brush it
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: under the door mat and you're like, oh fuck, rather
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: than dealing with it right now in the present moment,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: and thinking like maybe he's not right for maybe she's
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: not right for me, and she's not this person I've
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: built up this false pretense in my head.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she or he's not really real. I've just made
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: them up.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well we figured, we figured with a few dilemmas
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: that a lot of a lot of a.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Lot of things that happen is like either he or
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: her will.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Look at the partner and kind of understand that who
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: they are right now isn't obviously like wife or husband material. Yeah,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: but like you said, they they think of them in
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: the future as that, and then they hope like that
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: they will turn into that. Yeah, but I mean, they're
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: their own person, and it's not overly. It's not really
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: their fault if they're not meeting your expectations, because there's
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: expectations like that, don't even.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: There's a long way to go before he gets to
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: this thing you've made up in your head. Yeah, and
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: if he gets there, like fucking oath, but like he's
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: not there yet or she's not there yet.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: Fuck that's a good one. Ah.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: Honestly, like I for me, I often think I want
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: to marry my girlfriend in the future, but we're not
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: there yet.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: Nah.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think of it as like my wife
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: right now.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: No.
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: No, he's my perfect girlfriend, but she's not my wife,
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: And that funny A.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: I feel like dating is like, you know, you can
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: talk about it as much as you want, and you
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: could learn about it as much as you want from
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: any professional or something like that. I don't know, but
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: like maybe one thing that like I want to accept
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: and I think I do accept it, is that you're
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: never really gonna have all the answers to all the problems.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: And why do you think like guys don't talk about
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: it as much? Like I know for a fact, our
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: friends and have in depth conversations about the Golden rules
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: of dating.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: No, and before podcast we probably wouldn't have either.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: No, Like we talk about it a little bit more
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: Like we started this podcast, we were having conversations around
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: campfires traveling Australia and we had similar to this in
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: a certain extent, Yeah, but nowhere near as in depth.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: But like, why don't guys talk about these sort of things?
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: And like, I feel like a lot more relationships would
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: benefit from their friendship groups talking about like these intimate
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: conversations about feelings and how we want to have a
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: really healthy relationship, but instead, like, I don't know, if
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: we just talk about fucking do she just talk about
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: the dumbest shit?
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: D even thinking about it? Now that you say that,
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: the amount of probably arguments that could have gone as
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: conversations instead of arguments when when I was younger with ex'es,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: if I was to just like, maybe if it was
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: normal for guys to talk about that type of shit,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: and then I would bring things up, and then all
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: it would have taken would for one person with a
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: sensible brain to be like, yeah, I mean, you're kind
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: of putting her on this like pedestal that she doesn't
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: even know about, and then I would have been like, oh, yeah,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: you're right. And then there's probably like a fair few
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: arguments in my relationships that I can think of that
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: probably didn't even wouldn't have even happened, because maybe one
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: person would have just been like, oh, yeah, but you're
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: thinking like like that because you love her and you
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: want her to be a certain way to match you,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: whereas you know she's her own person. Like if someone
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: had a sensible fucking response, Let's be real, but isn't
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: that yeah, like she did, do you reckon?
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: It's something to do with like the male independence power
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: trip that like we don't want to hear that from
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: other people.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: We've got to figure it out ourselves.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it could be a pretty common thing that men
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: don't want to accept. Because I'm looking, that's also showing
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: a bit of weakness.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I'm looking. I've definitely done things in the past.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: But like a lot of my friends relationships, I could
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: have said, like you don't have any independent like whatever
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: a your independence man, eh, Like that's really important in
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: a relationship.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: I found that the only time we ever talked to
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: a friend about their relationship is if it's gotten so
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: toxic that we notice, Yeah, and then everyone kind of
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: says something, but I shouldn't get to that.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: We're going off the last episode two No One.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: He's taught how to love and like if we had
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: more conversations about how to love properly and like we
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: shared Jake says, I bought my girlfriend flowers and I
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: open a car door every time we go, and she
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: loves it. Like it's such a healthy thing through a relationship.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: Like we're the only two dudes you've probably fucking say
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: that true, yeah, and not say it in yeah, like
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: we never talk you like you said in another episode,
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: we never talk about our relationship. It's in a positive light.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: It's only ever if it's toxic or in a bad way.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: I think it's the time to like normalize, especially with
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: our other friends who are more manly than us. Yeah,
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: the like we should tell them about the good things
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: that we do, and like, yeah, say how much you love.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Her, bring up all the good things. If you're in
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: a girlfriendship group that doesn't do it, say how much
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: you love your boyfriend, bring up all the good things.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: So then when you bring up the bad they they're
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: not totally biased towards you, because, yeah, your boyfriend's a human,
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: your girlfriend's just a human, and they're all was fucking
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: living for the first time.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: I'll tell you one thing I'm talking about.
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: Finished this segment on I did one think good thing
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: that I think my girlfriend really appreciated.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: Yesterday, He's going for a run. She's really struggling with
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: the kilometers.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: She's training for one hundred kilometers, struggling and having a
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: few manty bees here and there, as you would, And
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: she went for a running.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: I was driving home. I was like fuck, I surprised.
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: And when she was running, when I bought her flowers
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: and a little chocolate to put in the fridge, little
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: chocolate lava cake actually carb hit yeah, and I read
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: a little card proudy pooky checked it and make her
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: feel great. Checked the freezer and check the freezer. Chocolate
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: lava cake and like she loved it, and she said,
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: I appreciate you, and like, I think that after a
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: shitty run, she's been really sad about the maun kilometers,
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: the ruling one.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, little things like that, I'll say something bad that
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: I do. That's good, that's good.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: See, I'll open up about the bad thing before you
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: were about to outdo me.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: Then I will not be out doing you.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: As I said said. You know, I like to open
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: the car door for my girlfriend Beth. I like to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: give her flowers when I can, but I still do
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: give her shit. And when we went away one weekend,
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: she asked me to get her a glass of water,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: and I said, you got two legs, get your own water.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: And let's be real.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: If she said no, no, no, I would have went
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: and got it.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: But she went and got it.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: And then later that day I think I asked her
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: for something.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: She was like, you got two legs. I was like, yeah,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: nice joke, fucking material.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I do. Yeah.
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: Look, and maybe next time I'll fill up my girlfriend's
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: water bottle when she asks.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: Maybe now that you've told me that.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was good.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Maybe.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Okay, I've got a I've got a synopsis synopsis.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: It's been a minute.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: You've got a TV show synopsis for you. We haven't
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: done with ages, and I'm like semi stressed about giving
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: this synopsis because I want the synopsis to give, like,
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: do the show justice.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: It's a good show.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: I will start off with.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: It's a show, bro, it's a show.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: For reference, back in the day, Jake is a movie boy.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: I used to love them. He used to come every
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: week with a new movie. Yeah yeah, for his research.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. Okay.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: I wasn't watching Netflix for a while. Okay.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: And then.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: A week ago I went out for dinner with my
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: girlfriend Beth, her best friend Casey, and we went and
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: got oh my god, have you I won't talk about it.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: We won't got food. Yeah. I was gonna tell you
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: about the food, but fuck too long, And so Casey
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: actually suggested the show, and it kind of went through
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: one ear and out of the other. Yeah, I thought
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: that I wasn't listening to her, but I was just
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: like but I was like yeah, and she suggested it
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: because podcasting isn't it And she said it was really good.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: But then we also got a post in the Facebook
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: group asking, really asking if we'd watched it, So thank you, Casey.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I would just want to give her some credit, not
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: that she's listening, but also the person.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: What's the show man?
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Tell me the show?
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: What's called Nobody Wants This? Nobody Wants This?
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: It's called Nobody Wants This. It's got starring Adam Brody, Kristen,
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: Kirsten Bell, Kristen Bell, Dak Shepherd's wife mate, your Favorite
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: your favorite podcast a Dak Shepherd, and so I wanted
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: to talk about I'm sure so many of the go
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: the post listening I've watched this, Like I don't want
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: to give anything away, okay, I but haven't seen a
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: single thing I will, Okay. What I want to say
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: is they So Kristen Bell is one of the stars,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: and her and her sister have a podcast in the show,
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: and the podcast is called Nobody Wants This. Okay, good name.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: It's actually a good name. Like there is definitely going
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: to be a podcast called Nobody Wants This Now, by
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: the way, and I'll probably listen to it.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: Or maybe Kirstin Bell her husband fucking produces shit.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Maybe she's in STARTE don't care whatever, But okay, first off,
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: the person that asked in the Facebook group said, I
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: want to know what it was, like, how did they
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: depict podcasting? How like did you do you guys experience
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: what they experienced? And is it at all accurate?
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: Probably really good.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: That's what I want to talk about first. Okay, so
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: first things first. One thing I really enjoyed and I
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: was very happy about is that they didn't actually show
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: very much podcasting because I was like, how did how
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: are you going to portray it? Like every there was
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: maybe there's ten episodes. They are all twenty five minutes,
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: which I loved because like it was a good little
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: taste to get back into watching TV.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: And it was like, have you finished it?
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Finished, I've watched all ten episodes twenty five minutes,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: so it wasn't that long.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Hi, I'm proud of you for working.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: Thank you. I was like, this is work. I'm getting
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: paid to do this, and so uh, of all ten
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: episodes that I didn't even think every episode had a
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: scene of podcasting. That was probably seven scenes of like
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: a bit of a segment of a podcast. So they
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: didn't overdo it, like because they had to fake it obviously,
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: but I think they did a great job not making it.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: But what was happening with the girls with their podcast
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: is they are in a stage that we are in.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: So I really related to it in a sense of
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: So they have a manager and the podcast is about
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: sex love relationships okay from two women though, and they
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: get some guests on but you don't really see it,
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: but they do that, so it's not the same podcast.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: But they are currently the process of being signed, which.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: We were not.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: We're not like in the process. We're just like we
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: we talk to people, we have meetings and stuff. But
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: I will say in the show, with the meetings they had,
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: they were we haven't experienced this, but some of the
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: some of the like execs or whatever that they were
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: talking to, we're trying to kind of make them change
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: their show. Oh, which we haven't experienced yet. All we've
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: experienced is people wanting us to lean in.
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: We've also done put our foot down in most of
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: these meetings and said we know what we wanted.
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: Yes, we like what we do, yes, because there could
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: be also a lot of their meetings with execs were
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: in person.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: Doesn't happen.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: It's all zoom, guys, Yeah, you know, it's all zoom.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: And also one thing I found very funny that they
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: got quite accurate was her and her sister have some
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: scenes where they'll go just it, don't tell me Saven
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: for the podcast, which.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: Is very relatable. When me and Jack lived together, we
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: were doing that fucking daily.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: So they got that quite correct, if you guys wanted
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: to know. One thing they didn't get very correct unless
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: what they were trying to depict was that their podcast
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: already later made a lot of money. Was there was
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: really it's obviously a TV show, But like they it
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: was it looked like they were producing the whole thing themselves.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: They had the gear, they were doing it in their
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: their lounge room, a little Neon sign, but like they
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: didn't show any of the work that went into it.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: They made podcasting look very very easy, and not that
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: it's like we love it, but I will say that there.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: Is work that goes into it a lot behind the
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: scenes work. Well, most podcasts that you probably listen to
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: have teams of people who think of the content for
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: the two people talking about it yep, and then post
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: production have a couple of editors who edit the whole
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: thing for yep.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: So that's what I'm assuming. They had to pick it
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: in on this show, which we don't have us personally,
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: we produce and edit everything, which we would love to
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: let go of one day, Yeah, to focus more on content.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: But she did. There was a scene actually where where
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: the guy says, don't you do a lot of research
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: for the show, and she goes, well, my manager does it,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: and then she sends me the note and I kind
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: of just choose the things I like. So maybe they
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: are like that to be fair, So maybe like some
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: people's podcasting life is different to ours, where they don't
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: work all week and then they do a one hour
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: show and then they're sweet. So they could have got
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: it accurate for some, but for us it was not accurate.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: I think it's accurate for people who are influencers already, yes,
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: and then they started a podcast.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, So for anyone asking that question, that's how I
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: feel about the podcasting side.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: They did good and there wasn't much podcasting, which I loved.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: Okay. Secondly, Addie M, if you miss that giddy feeling
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: of when you were first talking to your girlfriend.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: Watch this fucking show.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Really, I'm telling you. I was sitting there kicking my feet, giggling,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: covering my mouth.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: I couldn't stop smiling, making me want to watch it bad.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: You have to watch this show, Okay. Tonight, what I
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: could think about was, Okay, this isn't really giving anything
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: away because you understand this is going to happen, all right.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: They produce single handedly the best first kiss scene in
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: a show I've ever watched, Really, bro I wanted my
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: girlfriend there with me, and I just wanted.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: To I want to reenact.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: I can't. Oh fuck, do you.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: Want to reenact it?
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: We'll turn the camera.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Picture of it, okay, so be ready for that.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I will now go with the other character that is
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: the love interest, and I'm really going late and I'm
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: not giving anything away here because I don't want to.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: So there's a spite. His character is first of all, rugged, sexy. Okay,
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: I will Sayjack, skinny lumberjack. When you first see him
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: you're like mm hmmm. And then his personality comes out
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: and the amount of money I would pay to be
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: that fucking smooth with women. I know it's a written
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: TV show and he's probably not like that in real
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: life and nobody is, but the amount of money, it's
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: a fucking Harvey Specter.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: But I don't know wholesome, you know what I'm saying.
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: Fuck man, it's crazy shit. But he is a rabbi,
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: which is a Jewish religion thing. He's a rabbi of
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: a temple, which is like their church, that's temple. I
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: can't talk about how accurately they depicted Judaism because I'm
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: not Jewish. I would love to know from someone that
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: is Jewish. All I know is there was a slight
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: bit of feedback about how they made all the Jewish
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: women seem like bitches. Yeah, and I think some of
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: the only feed like feedback they got was that they're
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: not that bitchy. But they really really got a very
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: very accurate Okay, I'm gonna finish on this because I
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: want you to watch it and then we can talk
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: about it together and give spoiler alerts and talk about
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: it together. Because so another thing that they got so
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: fucking insanely accurate. Is the spiraling that you do when
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: they haven't maybe replied to a text, or the spiraling
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: that you do of when your sister or your brother
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: or a good friend of yours has an opinion about
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: the person you're seeing the spiral.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: It was fucking crazy accurate. Sh that's cool, crazy accurate.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: There's some cringey scenes that I was like, you know,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: it's part.
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: Of life, yet that's the element.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: It just made it. I just was.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: I was binging the shit out of it. And oh shit,
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: I don't even I just I'm saying this to trying
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: and people to watch it, which they'll pay me for this.
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: But once you watch this, Brom, we're giving spoilerlets and
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: we're going into it, okay, because I've never felt more
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: giddy watching the show in my life.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: They make you love the brother really he is hilarious. Okay,
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: and yeah, I want to watch it.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: Yea, one hundred percent you have to watch it.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: Talking about inside knowledge on like podcast thing, well maybe
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: live it on this one tip. Probably you didn't know
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: all your favorite podcasters who do movie synopsis get the
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: TVC series early and get paid to promote it. Yeah,
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: so if you're here and like, oh, like I don't
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: know what's just what's it's called?
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: Again?
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: This is God nobody wants?
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeahy say it came out today and then your
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: favorite podcast is doing a full synopsis on it. He
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: probably got it two weeks ago and he's getting paid
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: to promote it. This is coming from the goodness of
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: Jake's heart. This is coming from the good from my heart.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: Because you guys asked and yeah, that was my So
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: that's my opinion on the accuracy of the podcasting. I
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: want you to listen, let me know what you think,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: because I've I watched it all very quickly, so there
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: was probably a lot I left out. Yeah, they the depiction,
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: like the accuracy on what it's like to start seeing
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: someone new, and the obsession and the limerens and the
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: and the and the judginess from people and the different
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: types of families, meddling, and like, I really want to
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: know how accurate they got the judaism thing. I really
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: want to know because it was very intense and oh
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: is there anything else? Oh that first kiss.
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: Over one thing?
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: I want to say the Jake Jake came to me
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: about six months ago with the idea to have a
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: TV Netflix series about podcasting. Because it hasn't happened yet. Yeah,
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: this is probably being recorded in the background. When he
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: had this idea, I was like, Fuck, that's a good idea.
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: And they did it. They did it good, and they
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: honestly did a good job. They did a great job.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: And last thing that I will say is it obviously
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: was fine in this scenario because both the co stars
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: are married two actors. Dax Shepherd is an actor and
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Adam Brady is married to one of the main characters
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: of Gossip Girl. Oh really okay, who's very attractive and Okay,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I just don't understand how a married person can be
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: okay with the intense love that they that they that
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: they do in this show, the Kissing bro Like, you
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: couldn't watch it. I would be like, look, you're getting
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: a payday fair, this is your profession.
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: That does bring up a good point, like where's the line?
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: Where is the line at the point of like because
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: also another thing is they're both very successful before this show.
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: They don't need this show.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: They're probably doing it because it's a good opportunity. It's
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: something with Netflix. It's probably a good payday.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: They love the writing, but they don't.
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: Need the show.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: But is it playing on your insecurities? I don't know,
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: But is it an insecurity that I don't.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Want my fucking wife kissing someone else intensely work? I know,
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: but think about it.
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I think you brought up a great point that, like,
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: because the partners are actors, they probably know the difference
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: between acting and you see it as intimate connection, but
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: they see it.
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: As like good save guys.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Yes, a good point.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: I just put my I've always never understood jokes like
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: how do dudes do those scenes about getting bonus or
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: they just like the tape it to their undies before
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: they start us.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: There was like really the good thing about this one
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: was that there was all just a load of kissing
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: scenes and then it was like you knew they had
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: just had sex, but they would just see in they.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: Get excited when I'm doing both those things.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: Like an attractive But I'll end it on this is
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: off topic. This is talking about where you were talking
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: about just then. Nicole Kidman. Yeah, big actor, biggest trod actor, huge,
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: massive actor. She's doing a current show where there's a
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: lot of sex scenes, and apparently she made a comment
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: to the press or something on somewhere she's like, she goes,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: she's a married woman, by the way, and she starts
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: talking about like, I can't stop having orgasms during these
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: sex scenes. I didn't even think that would be an issue.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: But also what that says is that either they're actually
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: having sex or that he does have a boner and
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: it's very much rubbing up on the area unless she
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: can just orgasm like by thinking of stuff. And that's
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: just not what I don't know.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: But because she's.
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: Married, that also takes away in my part where she's
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: not acting because she's actually feeling it.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: She's dedicated to the craft.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's enveloped by the seeds.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: But yeah, so that's that's my synopsis without any spoilers.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: I want Addie to watch it. Once you watch it,
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: I think you will binge it if you like it.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: I will say the first like, when you watch it, yeah,
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: Jack left heaps out, So when you give for the
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: first episode and I think you'll love it after.
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: That, I'll come back let everyone know.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it won't take you long. Sweet, Okay, thank you
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: very much for listening, guys.
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: I would like to read one more page from how
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: to Piss Men Off.
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: We would like to piss some men off right now.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going to read the small blurb first. My
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: roommate used this on me once and I had to
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: immediately turn my head away so she couldn't see the
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: tears coming from my eyes. Quote you say to him,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: I was thinking about your posture the other day.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: Damn, this would get me. Hey, this would get me.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: Make it sound like the prelude to an intervention. Oh
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: that b How good is that I'm using that? Hey,
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: it's a good one. I have a bad posture to
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: I get hunch. Just I don't even know I belave
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: it on my height, but I have a hunch.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I get bad posture too, And I've had a little
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: insecurity about it ever since. We posted a story about
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: something and you and I were both in it, and
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: then one of the comments of the stories was like, sorry,
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: the hunch has given me an ick, babe, And you
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: were standing up straight and I was hunting, so I
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: know it was about it, and so now I'm.
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: Just like, oh, fuck for funny you bring it up
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: to comparing you to me.
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: Someone came up to me in real life and was
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: talking about the pod and then met you before, and
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: they said, he's bigger than I thought he.
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: Was in person.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: He's bigger in person.
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's bigger in person. And he said it's because
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: I'm next to you and make you look small.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: Like.
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: So here's the thing is, I think I would prefer
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: to be uh.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: I would prefer people to be like, oh, you're taller
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: than I thought, yeah, instead of being like, oh you're
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: shorter than I thought. That would hurt.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: They also they said it was like, maybe you're extremities
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: because you like got big forearms and stuff.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know, it might look like you're a
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: bit of a short stumpy guy, might.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: Start sitting on my knees or something. And I was
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: just like, eh, my.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: Heart beats him again. Well, thank you everybody. We love you,
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: love you,