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why you get into a cycle with your ex · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: I built my dream life, my dream income, dream physique, dream marriage, friendships, home, business with all the practices I share in my podcast and in my courses.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you feel good, you truly want others to feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're a winner, you want others to win.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just the laws of humanity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the level of joy that I've reached, the level of self-love that I've reached, I discovered a passion for helping other people reach the same feelings that I feel every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feelings that I didn't always feel and dreamt of feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to be very lost, broke, no friends, no self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: The list goes on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Basically the complete opposite of what I live today and who I am today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in one day, I just decided to read this book called As a Man Thinketh and just kind of learn more about the law of attraction.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just decided to give it a chance.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just personally what I started with.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it can happen in a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you can actually shift identities in a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you just have to know the practices to sustain it until it becomes your brand new baseline.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is exactly what I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I did an episode recently on your relationships with coworkers and bosses.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I said I was gonna do a series, so this is gonna be a part of this mini-series, and we're gonna talk about your ex today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we're gonna talk about them, boo.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to talk about specifically why you might be stuck in this back and forth with an ex.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you in this cycle?
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  SPEAKER_00: When you break up, your soul typically guided you away from that relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your soul knows what's next.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your soul understands that chapters come to an end.
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  SPEAKER_00: You learned everything that you were meant to learn with this person, and now you get to take this new identity into the next chapter of your life, potentially onto the next person who you will learn more lessons from.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they will give you new parts of yourself, like a puzzle piece, more pieces of your identity, becoming more of who you are through people that cross our path.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're constantly gaining wisdom from people and experiences in life every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're learning what we want, what we don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so your soul eventually guided you away from this relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And suddenly you start feeling regret.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start wondering, was that the right choice?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did I make the right decision?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're thinking, I definitely could have been better at this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like maybe it was my fault, maybe I should have done this instead, spoke this way, acted this way, been more patient.
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  SPEAKER_00: If only I was this way and not that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it could have worked.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe it can work now because now I have this and am that and X, Y, and Z, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you start considering going back to this person, but most of the time it's not because you're meant to be with this person, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's happening is your soul is seeking harmony because that is your purpose here in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are here on earth to achieve love and joy, the utmost vibrational emotions to embody that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every single experience, every good experience is the essence of joy in love, the two highest vibrational emotions that we are meant to feel in this life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your soul is only seeking harmony.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, your ego, your logical mind, your analytical mind, that's what our ego is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's specifically seeking experiences based on your past and how to achieve harmony based on past experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I opened the window.
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  SPEAKER_00: I my new office is a little echoey, so I do apologize if it's over stimulating.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your ego is your logical mind, it's the analytical part of your brain, and it only bases your future off of your past.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, that's natural.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your ego is there to keep you alive, and so it tries to predict your future based off of your past experiences, which means you are constantly recreating your past by accident, even if it's harmful, because certainty, predictability, equals safety to your ego, not to your soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uncertainty is unsafe because your ego cannot predetermine how to respond, how to planned, how to plan and act accordingly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's likely that you had wonderful experiences with your ex.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, you did achieve harmony at one point, and that's why your two souls were brought together to achieve harmony at some point or another.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was divine alignment at some some time, some point, but it was temporary until the next chapter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your logical mind, your ego is convincing you to get back with your ex to achieve harmony again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because naturally we replay the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: How could I have done better?
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  SPEAKER_00: How could I have responded better, shown up better, and you start to blame yourself for the ending of this relationship, but this was the natural unfolding of the chapter so that you could seek harmony in the next experience, in the next person, in the next general life chapter.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will seek harmony in new ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: And everything that was happened was meant to happen to get you to the point that you are at right here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't second guess decisions that once felt in alignment for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not everything stays in alignment forever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And don't doubt yourself in your own ability to guide yourself through your own life.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are your guidance.
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  SPEAKER_00: You take yourself to the next divine experience in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's normal to want to surround yourself around people who are already in a place that you desire to be in.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, I think that's very healthy to do, or just to seek guidance to get that nudge to help push you into the next chapter or help us learn how to practice these things that we talk about here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, my Inline Babe Academy is that where I teach you step by step how you personally manifest because it's not the same way that I manifest.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I teach you how to discover what your limiting beliefs are because most of the time you're not aware of it because it is subconscious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so something you're not even aware of yet is holding you back right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: I teach you how to release the plateau of your physique, reach your dream body, teach you how to remove the obstacles that sit in front of you, blocking more money from coming into your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I guide you on how to feel more love and receive more love from your partner, how to manifest whatever it is that you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every single category of life, this Enlightened Babe Academy applies to.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why it's an investment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is my most lengthy course I've built today.
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  SPEAKER_00: It requires someone who is ready to sit down and do the work though and finish it and really look inward.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's called shadow work, where you sit down and you face the very hard parts of yourself, decisions you make, habits you have, beliefs that you have, or just how you might view yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very difficult, but that is how you receive self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you enter into the next identity of someone who loves themselves and attracts everything they desire guilt-free.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you only get out what you put in.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a general statement about life, about this academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you only give half of yourself, you will only get half the results.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can find all that in my bio at GorgeousBioyssa on all platforms, and payment plans are available.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is investing in yourself, your education, and that was a part of my journey too.
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  SPEAKER_00: I invested much, much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, but it was worth it because it got me here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I fully believe decisions are portals.
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  SPEAKER_00: But until then, you can read books that I recommend on my social media on my Amazon.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can come here to this podcast and do all the free practices and mindsets and mindset shifts, perspective shifts, all here on my podcast and my social media platforms.
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  SPEAKER_00: So never doubt yourself in where you are in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are right where you're supposed to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're craving more, that is your soul guiding you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's grabbing you by the hand saying, let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's time, it's time for the next leap.
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  SPEAKER_00: The net will always appear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just leap and trust yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust your intuition.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Leave your past in your past.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you feel yourself trying to guess your future based on your past, you just have to snap your fingers and say, no, thank you, ego.
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  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate you for trying to protect me, but you're not needed right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allow your soul to guide you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am sending you so much love and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.