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The EYES of a narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people today?
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  In today's episode, we're going to be talking about the eyes of
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  a narcissist or a toxic person. If you're new here.
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  My name is Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of Be Narcissist Code. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, today we're talking about the the the eyes, the eyes of
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  the window to the soul. We talk about the eyes of a
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  narcissist. You can tell a lot by the eyes
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  of a person. Y'all you really, really can.
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  You know, I just want to tell people that right there, the
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  eyes of a narcissistic person or a toxic person.
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  This is not every narcissist is the same.
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  This is not just saying you can look into somebody's eyes and
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  tell with who they are. No, this isn't.
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  I'm not telling you on the first date they get this close to
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  somebody. Let me see your eye.
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  Hold your eye open. Hold it open.
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  Let me see if you're a narcissist.
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  Hold the eye open. If you blink, you're a
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  narcissist. I'm not telling you out here to
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  have a staring contest on the 1st and 2nd date to test the
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  narcissism to somebody, but you can tell a lot by the eyes of a
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  narcissist. You know, one of the main things
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  that I've done a video about this before is the the situation
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  where people call the the black eyes of a narcissist the black
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  eyes of a narcissist. A lot of times people, you know,
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  you hear this, you hear these stories about people when
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  they're dealing with a narcissist that's in the throes
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  of narcissistic rage. And they say they're looking
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  their partner in the eyes or their parent in the eyes, their
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  friend or whoever it is in the eyes, in the eyes go from their
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  regular colour, whatever it is, to the the eyes kind of fade to
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  black, right? The eyes kind of they you don't.
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  There's not the person that you met.
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  It's not the person that you love.
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  This is not your parent or your partner, right?
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  This is somebody else. Like, the bottom looks the same,
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  but the eyes, I'm like, whoa, what the hell.
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  You know, in this scary. A lot of people will tell you
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  that they've experienced this, the black eyes of a narcissist,
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  right? A lot of people will tell you
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  that they've had this experience, that they've shared
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  this experience before and it's, you know, it's scary as hell.
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  You hear these stories, People are just like, damn this those
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  stories about the eyes are creepy, Lee, those those eye
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  stories are scary as hell. They absolutely are.
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  But one of the reasons behind this, this black eye phenomenon
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  could absolutely be a psychotic break.
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  And that's can be even scarier because have I had, have I had
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  little mini psychotic breaks before?
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  Yes, if you see their pupils dilate or seemingly change
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  colors, they are, they could be in the in the throes of
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  narcissistic or psychotic rage. Y'all they could be having a
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  psychotic break. And when they have a psychotic
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  break, they really are. They really are.
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  They really can't be extremely dangerous people, right?
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  They can have a extremely psychotic break where they like.
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  In my experience, when I had my psychotic break and my wife was,
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  she described it to me, you know, because I black out.
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  I don't know what's going on. You see, I black out internally.
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  Maybe that's why my eyes turn black externally.
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  Think about it like I black out internally and my eyes turn
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  black externally. You see what I'm saying?
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  So what are the, like, I don't know what I was doing.
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  Like, I grab, I was grabbing pictures off the wall and
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  slicing them up with a knife. Like, we had these beautiful
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  pictures that were cut. I took off the wall and cut up.
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  And I didn't realize I did it, you know, until years later.
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  I thought my wife, they did it. And because I saw the pictures
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  in the closet and I was just like, why'd you cut those
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  pictures up? And she's like, you did that.
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  And then she shows the text messages where she sent her her
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  aunt the messages saying, hey, look, Lee's losing his mind,
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  He's cutting pictures up, He's humbling, whistling, and got a
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  he got some scissors and a knife going around, cutting pictures
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  off the wall and stuff like that.
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  And I didn't come to, I didn't understand what was going on
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  until the police popped up. I think she called her aunt, had
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  called the police, and just like the police showed up all of a
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  sudden, I came through, I came to all of a sudden.
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  It's kind of like the narcissism took off running and left me,
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  left me by myself. So I didn't know what the hell
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  the police are here. All right, what the hell?
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  You know, I didn't know what was going on.
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  And I and actually the fact that I didn't know what was going on,
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  I think they actually kept me from getting arrested.
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  You think about it. Like, it actually helped me from
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  getting like he really don't know what the Hell's going on,
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  you know, because I didn't, honestly.
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  But the psychotic break happened because I didn't.
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  I didn't remember, you know? And it's scary.
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  So that could tell you a story like they had if their eyes have
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  gone, if their eyes have gone black before, then yes, they
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  could absolutely have had a psychotic break before.
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  But the eyes can tell you a lot about a person, not just a
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  narcissistic person. You know, other than them
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  turning black. Looking at the eyes of a person
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  can tell you a lot. Narcissistic people talk to
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  people or just a deceptive, manipulative person.
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  Like they will stare at like you know people can make eye contact
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  when they're looking at you, right?
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  Is healthy. Eye contact is a real thing.
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  We we keep trying to communicate a point.
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  You're like, OK, cool, cool. It shows trust.
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  It extends trust or whatever. Narcissistic people, they use
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  their eyes to lie because they understand that if I'm staring
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  at you, you think I'm trusting, right?
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  You think you I'm. I look more believable if I'm
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  making eye contact with you. If my eyes are not darting all
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  around, I seem more believable when I'm looking directly.
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  I'm looking you directly in your face, don't I?
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  If I'm staring at you directly into your face and you see tears
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  coming from my eyes, you I seem believable.
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  Don't I like the stuff that I'm saying out of my mouth?
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  Seems like it's more reasonable. It seems it's more believable
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  right now because you see me crying.
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  You I'm looking you in your eyes.
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  I've heard this story so many times.
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  People just like, yeah, they came over and they were crying
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  and they looked me in my eyes and told me that they were sorry
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  and I looked into their eyes and they were crying and this is
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  that and they didn't. They they hardly even blinked.
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  They were staring directly. It's like they were staring into
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  my soul. They were staring into your
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  soul. They were trying to convince
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  your soul of the they were trying to deceive your soul.
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  They were staring. They were staring into your soul
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  and deceiving it. You know, they use their eyes to
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  lie. Like, yeah, normal people, if
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  you're having a conversation with them, they look, yeah, you
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  can make eye contact, but people's eyes dart around.
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  Human beings. Eyes are darting because you're
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  having thoughts while you, while somebody's talking to you,
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  you're having thoughts. You're thinking about what?
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  To respond to this person with. You know, they're like you're
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  searching for the answers and whatnot.
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  Narcissistic people. When they're lying to you and
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  they're trying to convince you that they're not lying, they
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  will keep looking at you in their eyes.
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  They'll look at you directly into your eyes to try to.
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  Damn, they're trying to fear monger you and to try to because
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  it can be scary if they're looking at you, looking you,
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  looking at you directly in your face like this and not blinking.
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  You have to believe me. I would never do like that.
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  I would never do anything like that.
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  You have to believe me. Please look at me.
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  Look at me. My eyes.
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  You think I would look into your eyes and lie to you.
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  That's why I want to see you face to face sometimes.
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  Because if you've broken up with them and you've trying to move
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  on and you're completely done with them, that's why you say a
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  lot of times they're trying to see you face to face because
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  they want to see you. They want you to look into their
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  eyes and see the pain in their eyes or the lies in their eyes.
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  Y'all no, look, look, look, y'all.
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  You can Google it. Normal people.
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  You can make eye contact, healthy eye contact, just like,
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  yeah, OK, cool. And just you break eye contact
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  here and there. You mean healthy conversation.
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  Narcissists, when they're trying to convince you of something,
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  they'll stare directly into your face like this.
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  You know, they'll look into your into your face, you know, to try
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  to manipulate you with. Toxic people will do this.
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  They're like, please believe me, look in my eyes.
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  You know, they're feigning emotion because they don't know
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  how. They really don't know how to
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  express it in a healthy way. So the only thing they can do is
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  try to make themselves cry or stare you into your eyes and try
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  to convince you that they're telling them the truth because
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  they're making direct eye contact with you.
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  Pardon the Interruption just won't let you know that.
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  I do have courses and support groups available as well.
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  Courses to help you understand what you went through and
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  support groups to help you during or after the toxic
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  relationship. Link in the description and back
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  to the video. If you don't think a person will
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  look you directly into your If you don't think a toxic
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  narcissistic person will look you directly into your eyes and
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  lie, you got another thing coming to you.
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  They will look you directly into your eye and lie their asses
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  off. Yeah, and another thing like,
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  y'all can do this research and you know this is research you
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  can do on your own when you have a conversation with people.
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  Like people are going to like dart off their eyes and be
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  thanking them stuff. Like I'm right now, I'm looking
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  up into the my left, I'm looking up into my left, right.
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  This is like, this is the the truthful part of your brain.
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  If they're looking up into their left, which would be your right,
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  they're looking for some truth, right?
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  If their eyes are darted up into the their right, like this is my
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  right, this is my right hand, this is the lying side of the
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  brain right here. They're trying to make something
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  up. So watch their eyes.
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  Y'all you can tell a lot about a person from their eyes.
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  Like even if they're not just making direct eye contact with
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  you, normal people's eyes dart and they're searching for
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  information. Like right now, I'm trying to
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  think of what to say next. And I'm, I'm going to tell you
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  the truth. Next, right here, right with my
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  thoughts. I'm looking over here.
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  I'm thinking of some craziness over here.
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  This is the this is the imagination side of the brain.
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  I think from what I was reading, y'all can do research on that
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  right there. The the eyes can tell you a lot.
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  Y'all they really really can. Like not only do some
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  narcissistic people have this blank stare, their eyes go black
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  or change colors or whatever, they super they get super big
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  and dilating. Like if the eyes, if they're
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  angry at you and the eyes start looking like this, you might
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  want to get out the house. You know what I mean?
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  Color change or not. If the eyes get this, get this
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  big, it might be time for you. This might be time for you to
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  get out the house, you know what I mean?
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  But I know it can be scary. But if their eyes get that damn
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  wide y'all, it might be time for y'all to bounce, right?
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  But that's the space that a lot of people fall into right there.
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  So watch their eyes. They'll do research about the
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  eyes of a narcissistic person. I promise you, the research and
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  the stuff that you do will help you tell.
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  Like, damn, I knew that they were lying.
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  Just make sure you make sure you get the directional part right
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  when you do eye research and they're closing their eyes and
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  trying to make stuff up. Or they're looking up into their
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  right, Up until my right is me. Kind of conjure up a lie.
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  Typically up until the left, My left is truth.
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  The more truthful part of right there.
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  Y'all. So watch that right there.
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  I'm just telling you because this type of stuff, this type of
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  research is how you get ahead of toxic, narcissistic,
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  manipulative people and you can tell if they're lying to you or
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  they're trying to lie to you. They're trying to use their
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  their lying eyes to tell you this story right here.
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  You know, this type of stuff can help you out so much.
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  Y'all when you're doing research about even not just narcissist.
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  Y'all. Anybody.
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  Research about any type of relationship.
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  Research about any type of dynamic research about anything.
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  Or the human, the human body. You know it's ain't far.
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  If they smile to one side of their face there's contempt.
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  They feel contempt. You see them doing this, there's
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  contempt. Look up micro expressions.
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  Micro expressions will help you out so much.
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  Y'all Anyway, y'all I do have a one-on-one over zoom.
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  Peace.