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How to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone and Into Growth · The Inspired Speaker Network

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  Your travels have brought you to the Surfing
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  Your Edge podcast, where we explore what it
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  takes to create the bigger, bolder, badass life
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  you know you were born for.
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  Not a life that simply looks good on
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  paper, and not another spin on the self
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  -help hamster wheel.
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  If you're ready for more joy, more peace,
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  and more contribution, you're in the right place.
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  I'm Kristine Goad, the Surfing Your Edge coach.
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  Let's get surfing.
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  Hello, and welcome to episode 5 of the
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  Surfing Your Edge podcast.
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  Today, I want to talk to you a
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  little bit about my vision for why we
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  are bothering to do this, right?
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  Not everybody needs to have a podcast, so
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  what made me think that maybe I should?
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  So let's talk just a tiny bit about
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  what we've covered so far.
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  Surfing Your Edge, in the way that I
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  think about it, is standing on the edge
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  of where you are and what's possible, right?
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  It's standing a little bit farther out on
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  the edge of your comfort zone, and staying
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  there a little longer than you may want
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  to, so that you actually start to expand
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  your comfort zone a little bit more.
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  And the reason I think you should do
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  that is because there's a great quote from
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  George Adair that says, everything you wanted is
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  sitting on the other side of fear.
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  And I am not telling you that you
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  have to overcome your fear, because I really
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  don't think we do that.
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  I don't think fearless is a thing.
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  I think fear is there, and you do
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  it anyway, right?
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  So surfing your edge, in my world, is
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  a way of learning to make friends with
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  your fear, and really appreciating that it serves
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  a big purpose, right?
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  It's there to keep you safe, but it's
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  also there to show you the way forward
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  into growth.
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  And a lot of people treat fear like
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  it's a stop sign, when it's actually just
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  a sign that's saying, keep going, it's that
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  direction, you've got it, right?
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  So that is what surfing your edge is
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  for me, and why I think it's important
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  that you do it.
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  If you're here on this planet, you've got
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  more to do, right?
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  So instead of sitting here being afraid of
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  everything, and saying one day you'll take care
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  of that, one day you'll do this, I
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  would really love it if you'd take a
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  step toward it today.
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  So if you haven't yet taken that step
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  forward, we've also talked a little bit about
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  some of the reasons why.
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  There are internal reasons.
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  We've all been conditioned by the time we're
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  adults to start thinking about what our limitations
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  are, right?
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  We look more at what our limitations are
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  than what our possibilities are.
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  And the older we get, I tend to
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  find that becomes ever more true.
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  And you'll get those people who are feeling
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  like, oh, my time to do that was
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  20 years ago, I've lost my shot, I
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  can't do it.
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  We've also got people who are feeling like
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  they're not ready to take that step.
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  They may never be ready, right?
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  And that's the thing, we are never ready.
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  And if we are, we've waited too long.
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  You'll hear me say that again and again.
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  So obviously we've got all of these ideas
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  about who we are and how we should
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  behave and how the world works and how
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  things are done.
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  And we've internalized a bunch of those.
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  We've also got people out in the world
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  happily policing those boundaries for us, telling you,
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  oh, no, you can't do that.
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  That's not right for you.
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  You should do this, right?
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  That's one of the things that people love
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  to tell you.
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  Oh, you're interested in this?
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  Well, then you should do this.
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  And it's like, no, that's not what I
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  want to do.
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  I want to do this.
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  And we learn to make, I call it
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  reality sizing your dreams.
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  We learn to make smaller visions, right?
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  We're afraid to go for the big thing
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  that we really, really want.
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  So we bring it down several levels and
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  we go for something that's in the right
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  direction, but that doesn't really take us all
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  the way to what we want.
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  Oh, I've got to tell you something.
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  You know, I like to go on tangents.
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  And it's a tangent that we should go
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  on.
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  Psychology research is starting to show that it
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  is not the ideas you have about your
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  past that determine who you are in the
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  moment.
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  It's your ideas about your future, right?
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  What you think is possible for you is
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  much more powerful in determining how you're going
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  to behave today, the choices you're going to
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  make, the words you're going to say out
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  loud.
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  What you believe is possible, what you believe
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  is a true potential for you, that's the
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  power, right?
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  We think, oh, this happened and this happened
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  and this happened and I was raised to
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  be this way and my parents were this
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  way and that's why I am the way
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  I am.
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  And that is true, right?
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  We have been influenced by all of those
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  things.
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  But the true predictor of how you're going
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  to behave tomorrow or this morning or today,
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  whatever, is what you're thinking about, what you're
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  thinking is possible for you in the future.
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  If you think you're going to go surfing
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  with me in Panama one day, then, you
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  know, you'll be making decisions that lead toward
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  that.
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  If you think you're going to stay at
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  the job you're in for the rest of
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  your life and retire and, you know, sit
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  on the couch with your spouse and watch
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  television, you're going to be making decisions that
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  lead toward that future.
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  So, coming back to where we were before
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  that little side trip, I really hope that
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  you will come on this journey with me
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  because I love watching people's ideas of who
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  they are and what's possible for them explode.
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  And I am really good, actually, at asking
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  the kinds of questions that get you to
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  think a little bit differently and start to
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  open up what's possible.
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  I lead an annual event that's my Ignite
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  event and I routinely see people's minds explode
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  when they think about what is possible for
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  their year, what is possible for them to
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  aim toward.
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  And I would love it if you'd come
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  along and aim for something a little bit
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  more bold, a little bigger, a little badassier
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  than what you might have woken up this
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  morning thinking was in your future.
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  And the reason I'm doing this now is
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  because I feel like the world has sped
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  up and it is becoming more chaotic and
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  the things we thought were true are not
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  holding to be true.
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  The future that our parents had in their
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  minds is not the future they may have
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  instilled in us.
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  It's not the future that's unfolding.
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  And a lot of times, your first instinct
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  might be to stay small, to play by
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  the rules, to not ruffle any feathers.
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  And yet, if there are feathers to be
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  ruffled, I think now is the time to
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  ruffle them.
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  There are forces at play right now that
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  are...
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  I really do see, this is going to
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  sound crazy, but I really do see that
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  we are in a battle of light and
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  dark.
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  And the darkness, there is a part of
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  the world that is meant to evolve and
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  there are people who are still holding that
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  vision, who are terrified of the evolving.
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  And this is their last gasp, right?
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  This is their last stand, trying to hold
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  back the vision for the world that really
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  needs to come.
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  And I want you to be part of
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  the light.
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  I want you to be empowered enough to
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  recognize not only can you have the life
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  that you dream of for yourself, but you
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  can become part of the solution, right?
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  You may not have any clue what you
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  can contribute to the world's greater issues.
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  And yet, there is something in front of
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  you that you care deeply about.
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  And if you just took a few steps
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  toward making that problem a little smaller, and
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  we all did that, if we all stood
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  shoulder to shoulder, and we all just did
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  a few small things that mattered to us
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  individually, the whole world would shift, right?
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  I see the world's problems as fractals of
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  each other, right?
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  At the bottom of most of the biggest
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  problems on this planet is the fact that
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  we don't treat each other well, right?
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  We don't, that whole love your neighbor thing.
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  And when people aren't cared for, when they
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  aren't loved, when they aren't nurtured, then they
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  do dangerous, scary things in the world that
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  are driven by fear and anger and hurt,
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  right?
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  So it all comes down, believe it or
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  not, to having more love in the world.
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  And so poverty, racism, sexism, climate change, right?
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  All of it comes down to, they're all
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  just fractals of the same problem.
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  And we don't have to solve them all,
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  right?
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  We don't have to solve even one all
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  by ourselves.
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  But if we all pick the thing in
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  front of us that speaks to us and
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  just move forward in that direction, it comes
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  to like Mother Teresa, I think.
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  I don't know if these were her words,
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  but my idea of the way Mother Teresa
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  thought was that you do what you can
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  for who you can with what you've got,
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  right?
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  You start from where you are, you do
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  what you can.
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  And that's the movement I want to lead.
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  And if you have a movement in you,
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  even if you haven't yet defined what that
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  movement is, then I want you to come
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  and let's all be movement makers together.
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  And I know that we've gone from little
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  things, talking about things in our personal lives
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  to zooming all the way out to solving
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  all of the world's big problems, and that
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  can be a little overwhelming.
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  So let's bring it back down to the
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  personal level.
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  And just, I'd love it if you wanted
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  to take the first step with me.
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  I am creating a community for movement makers.
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  And I would love it if you would
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  join us.
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  Again, you don't have to do it alone.
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  We have got some of the most amazing,
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  heart-centered, brilliant, curious, wonder-seeking people.
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  And we would love to invite you to
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  come join us.
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  Check us out.
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  It's not a big commitment.
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  You can join for a month, you can
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  join for the year, whatever makes sense to
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  you.
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  So click the link below and join us
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  in the Surfing Your Edge salon.
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  And let's go surfing.