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71. How to Manifest Your Best Birthday, Vacation, or Date Night (works for any occasion) · Power Talk with Katelin Power

• 0:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Power Talk with Caitlyn Power.
• 0:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Caitlyn, a certified clinical hypnotherapist who helps you clear out the BS of conscious beliefs that have been keeping you from reaching your goals.
• 0:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I show you how to upgrade your identity into the most confident, the filled you that you were always meant to be.
• 0:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're ready to stop playing small and joint transformative conversations around mindset, manifestation, business, wellness, and here from the eighth girls that are out there living their dream lives, I'm so excited to have you here.
• 0:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's get started.
• 0:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: Hi friend, happy power talk Tuesday, or whichever day it is when you are listening to this, I'm so happy you are here.
• 0:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to do a deep dive on this topic that I wrote about on Substack, which if you missed it from the last episode, I'm now on Substack and I'm obsessed.
• 0:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: I think we all know I'm not a huge social media girlie which I love connecting with you and that's why I'm usually just in my Instagram stories and then here on the podcast because that's where I feel closest to you but I'm not like a great girlie that is always shooting out reels and care cells and sometimes I fun with it and it's great to reach new it girls for bringing them into our multiverse here.
• 1:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I just am not someone that's chronically online and don't want to be someone that's chronically online and I want to really have a balanced life and that is balancing business, that's balancing social, that's balancing these things and having it be in a healthy dose that makes sense.
• 1:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I just have not felt something feel as magical online as sub-deck has for me.
• 1:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm already locked in with putting out a post a week and because I'm so lit up by it some weeks there's going to be two posts and it's really fun for me because I feel like I finally have the right avenue to share with you about all eight areas of life, including my passion hobbies, which is book recommendations all the way and I've had so many fun conversations with you that are readers or that would like to be a reader.
• 2:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: In my Instagram DMs and now I get to share with you those recommendations here I get to share with you it.
• 2:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's kind of like a Twitter type feed or X, whatever It's all of now.
• 2:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not on there But there's one on sub-sac that's called notes where I have just been sharing my Unfiltered thoughts multiple times a day and having the best time on there even though I Am new so it's not like I'm doing it for any other purpose other than
• 2:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a way to connect with people.
• 2:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I really believe that higher self is connecting me with my most soul line community on subsac and I would love for you to be a part of it.
• 2:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: If that feels fun for you to get a lot more access to me, we're starting up the paid subscriber only chat, which is
• 2:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: new, which means there's not many people in there yet, which means right now I'm able to answer all questions in there.
• 3:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a super oversaturated chat with a bunch of people.
• 3:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's really focused and it's there for connections.
• 3:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you've been wanting to connect with other it girls and wanting to, you know, get each other's profiles and build a chat and connect and hey, this is what I'm manifesting right now.
• 3:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: Hey, I'm trying to strengthen my intuition in this way now.
• 3:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm really trying to celebrate myself more and I would love to share with you that I just accomplished this or had these moments of feeling like I was coming up against self-criticism and I actually noticed it, clocked it and put in self praise instead, could you help with celebrating me?
• 3:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like that's what this community is for.
• 3:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's really exciting because I finally feel like this is the place there's been other platforms where
• 3:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's an option to do like a chat and a community thing that has never felt right for me so I haven't done it that way this feels right so I'm really happy to have it feel like we can have a place where we can share ups and downs and
• 4:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm using this tool and this is really working for me.
• 4:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would love to hear what other people's favorite tools are for this and have this communication and this connection where we actually get to do this life together, do this life of manifesting, creating our dreamiest lives that just keep getting dreamier and dreamier and supporting each other when we are going through those challenging days and moments,
• 4:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm just thrilled about this opportunity for our, it girls, I believe it's just the most special community that we can come together and have this dedicated clear space to be in sub-sac as a whole just feels so amazing for me right now.
• 4:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's why I'm showing up there as frequently as I am in a way that I've never showed up.
• 4:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: on social media.
• 4:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel on that way because it's add free pretty much.
• 4:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's not a lot of people going by my thing.
• 5:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: Do this thing.
• 5:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're doing this wrong.
• 5:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's sharing your thoughts, your emotions and actually connecting being vulnerable in a way of, hey, I love support with this or this is what I'm going through right now and people showing up for each other and genuinely supporting each other and genuinely connecting, which at the heart of social media that was
• 5:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: a one of the pros of if there's balance to everything but that was where the best part of social media is like I wouldn't know any of you without social media.
• 5:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not that social media is this horrible awful thing and just that it often loses the plot and everything gets lost in there.
• 5:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like why even post in here none of my people even see it.
• 5:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sub-sack.
• 5:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: They you see it you actually get my post directly to your email as well as soon as they come out not the notes that I was just talking about with the posts of the actual articles that come out once a week or more and then those notes like the Twitter like situation or something that you can see on my feet and
• 6:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: and you can connect and you can restock other people's words and actually highlight other people's words and expression and there's a bunch of people on there that barely have any subscribers and I'm one of them.
• 6:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: I just started on there but it's amazing where it still gets seen.
• 6:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not like, oh you only get seen if you have a
• 6:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: 20,500,000 followers and subscribers, it's a really neutral playing field right now where I think it has a potential to be something amazing and right now is a really great time to enjoy it and attending that at stays that way.
• 6:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'd love for you to follow me over there.
• 6:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll leave my articles link so you can go ahead and read the ones that are already out and like I said,
• 6:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't do things that I'm passionate about in any small way, and I'm already marinating on what some bonuses are that could be just for paid subscribers, so that will be coming soon of tools that are nowhere else.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that I want to make just for sub-sex subscribers.
• 7:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm really tinkering with the idea, especially for those of you that might want to go on and write to yourself that you finally feel a safe place to express yourself on the internet, whether you start anonymous or you show up either way you're showing up.
• 7:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: And
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe steps are always better than no steps, but if you felt like, oh, I'd always love to do this, but it just wasn't possible because of the fact that I have, you know, it's it's too late, like the feeling of like Instagram or TikTok, we're like the boat already passed and it was the people that were dancing on the camera on 2020 that actually get their thoughts and words and creations scene.
• 7:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: and the boat has passed me.
• 7:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is your early, your early, your right on time with this, and if you felt like I really would love to express myself and be seen, and again, you could start anonymous if you wanted to and take those steps, but if you feel like those beliefs are in the way of I really feel like
• 8:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: no one would care what I have to say.
• 8:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: Why would anyone ever subscribe to me?
• 8:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're definitely wrong.
• 8:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're in it, girl.
• 8:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: That means you're brilliant or genius and that there are people that are waiting to connect with you and waiting for you to change their life in a small little like I was saying,
• 8:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: small little tweet like thing of two sentences that they were having horrible day and you just made them laugh or you just made them remember who the F they are they're waiting for you and so if that is something that you would like to do but you're like I don't think I'm a great writer or no one would care what I have to say.
• 8:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm tinkering with something and let me know something and DM if that's something you would like to see because
• 8:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm really feeling great intuitively about creating maybe a hypnosis for those of you that are paid subscribers that would like to have some extra tools that are specifically for showing up and identifying as a brilliant writer as someone who's words mean something to someone to a lot of people and
• 9:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the cool thing about Sub-Sack is it's really back to what it should always be about.
• 9:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Is if one person reads your article and enjoys it, that is worth everything, right?
• 9:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: We have to get back to doing things, not for the external validation.
• 9:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: but because you felt that intuitive pull, to write, to express yourself, to share something, and that is worth all of it without even needing one person to read it, but it is really magical to connect with another human being in that way that your words meant something to someone.
• 9:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: and often really change their life and the most beneficial way.
• 9:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: I am probably going way too deep into this because you can hear how passionate I am and I do want to get to the teaching in this episode today.
• 9:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I will leave that below.
• 10:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would love if you would subscribe, but you could also there's free subscriptions where you will still get access to some of the articles.
• 10:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: But the paid I just
• 10:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: be this price only now as I get started obviously each week there's gonna be more and more articles that are in that library So the value of my sub-sac is going to increase every single week and what's cool is that when you lock into the price of that paid subscription now You get to keep that even as I raise the subscription price for other people
• 10:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's pretty cool to me.
• 10:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you get to get in at this original price that the lowest it will ever be.
• 10:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you know me.
• 10:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be putting value in there, especially when I'm as lit up as I am about this, if you didn't know I have my degree in screenwriting.
• 10:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: I've been writing pretty much all of my life.
• 10:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not like this is new, but I'm excited to really increase my writing skill as we go increase.
• 10:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: my mastery in that skill of storytelling and sharing my truths and the hot off the presses, manifestation upgrades that I'm doing in my fields as I'm doing them.
• 11:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: I have so many ideas, but I really want to share some
• 11:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sessions anonymously, obviously, as always my clients, I was talking to one the other day that my last podcast episode, I shared some of the gold from her session and completely anonymous.
• 11:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I just sent her a heads up, like, hey, I shared a little bit about this in the podcast episode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And anytime I've ever done this, my clients are like, I'm too fast.
• 11:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: They're like, please, I would love to help someone else.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I know you've got my back like they would never worry and have like that panic feeling that I would
• 11:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: blast their what they've got going on to the world.
• 11:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: They know that I always make it so that it's big enough so that they're just protected and you feel safe being in our world and our community together.
• 11:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's very important to me.
• 11:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: More important than it is for most of my clients.
• 11:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: They're like no, please share.
• 11:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I really appreciate that because I know myself that even some of my friends that are really incredible Intuitives and do some of our things that I do when we share with each other the things that we're working through and upgrading through Often higher self knows who we're in community with and it's no accident.
• 12:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's no accident that you're on this community So our higher self knows
• 12:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: that we might be going through similar things or I just went through something that you're going to go through in six months and it's going oh yeah I remember on the episode on that or an article about this and higher self knows that so higher self is going to give you tools it's not going to let you just like flounder around.
• 12:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's really helpful that even if it's not completely applicable to in that moment or even in that way that you were like, oh, and you have that intuitive hit of like, oh, okay.
• 12:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, Caitlin used this tool for her in this way.
• 12:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have that going on, but I feel like something similar.
• 12:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: I could pretty much use that same tool for this if I just tweak it here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Higher self knows that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I know how valuable it is, sharing that source information that comes through in sessions.
• 13:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And what I'd like to do is start sharing some anonymous client sessions of pulling some of the gold from they came to you with this.
• 13:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: Here was the incredible tool that came out of it so that we can all really just blast off together and that's my favorite thing.
• 13:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: In the thought field article I already have all linked below.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I've already shared a tool that
• 13:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: you're getting some tools that are in my programs that are hundreds of dollars or thousands of dollars in these articles under the paid subscriber after the paywall and I'm just really, really thrilled about this.
• 13:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: I will move into today's teaching now that I have geeked out over
• 13:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: this episode is about an interaction I had with one of our members that's in the membership.
• 13:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: That commented on this post that I made on sub-sac member.
• 13:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like that kind of Twitter type thing.
• 13:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: I made a post and I'd like to not read you the whole post but just give you the essence of it.
• 14:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then read off her comment because she did ask for a deep dive on this and here we are doing the deep dive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So my post was about I just had my 33rd birthday and
• 14:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: The post was about, I'm really not a birthday girl, even though I wrote an article.
• 14:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so stuck about the 33 things I wish I knew sooner as, you know, living 33 years of this lifetime.
• 14:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so you would think, oh, she's talking about her birthday.
• 14:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: I posted it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: My birthday party with my friends.
• 14:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: We went on a boat in the Newport Harbor and it was so much fun.
• 14:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so you would think, like, oh, I love it.
• 14:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, we
• 14:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: give me all the attention and saying happy birthday to me.
• 14:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's really not the case.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel very neutral about it because I have cleared my fear of being seen.
• 14:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I feel neutral now when I get attention.
• 14:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I'm not someone that enjoys it and that loves it and I wish I was.
• 14:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's what this post was about.
• 14:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: is I wish that I have a couple of girlfriends in my life.
• 14:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: One of them when it was her bachelor rep when she was getting married.
• 15:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: It was so much fun celebrating her because she loves the attention.
• 15:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we went to Las Vegas for her bachelor rep and she wanted to get up on the stage.
• 15:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: She loved everyone we passed by and everyone sang congratulations.
• 15:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: He soaked it up and it's so much fun to be around someone that soaks it up that is enjoying the celebration That's not like oh, please don't sing happy birthday to me.
• 15:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no Don't look at me.
• 15:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not that fun to celebrate someone that you know the attention and and showing them how much you care and want to celebrate them It's not fun to shower someone in that celebration that does not enjoy being celebrated that way that does not enjoy
• 15:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: that level of really being seen and celebrated.
• 15:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: For me, I feel like I've cleared out the fear of being seen where I have it shared this before, but I used to be terrified.
• 15:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: My account on Instagram started anonymously where it was like a woman's empowerment page, because I felt this driving this pole to share
• 16:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: my words and my expression and I would share poems and different quotes that I made in that poll, which was I really wanted to connect to other women, lift other women up and I wanted to help transform their lives in the way that only I can because that is my what I'm supposed to do in my soul poll career in the lifetime.
• 16:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, we know now why that was why I started there and was filling that poll and that allowed me then to take each baby step.
• 16:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: to get to the point that I did feel comfortable being seen.
• 16:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I did feel comfortable changing the profile picture to a picture of me, changing the name of it to my name, and doing these things where I felt comfortable being seen, and having my words and my videos be shared, and at times go viral, having millions of views.
• 16:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had co-workers at my nine to five and like previous nine to five.
• 16:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had co-workers texting me with the link to my
• 17:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: my videos that were going viral.
• 17:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going, oh, look who I saw on my FYP today.
• 17:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: And in the beginning, that, I mean, in the beginning, beginning, I would have just wanted to delete the video and go hide under a rock.
• 17:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I got better and better at it.
• 17:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: That it felt more neutral.
• 17:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: That it felt like, okay, that's a little embarrassing.
• 17:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I, I'm more so care about the fact that this is bringing in my solo line community.
• 17:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm more so care that I'm building my business and doing
• 17:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: impacting other people while I'm doing it.
• 17:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: I made hypnosis audios to rewire my fear being seen so that I actually felt okay with it that I felt comfortable with it.
• 17:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: It just feels like it's part of the job.
• 17:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: It feels neutral to me and it feels not like oh no they saw me like no no no no it feels like oh we connected.
• 17:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: I connected with this person.
• 17:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: I helped impact their lives, especially like the sweetest things that you message to me and how different tools help me help you and how they have changed their lives.
• 18:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you keep me updated on the tools and the membership and the tools and the courses.
• 18:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you let me know like Caitlin, this is wild and share me your results.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That now I don't feel neutral.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That really makes my soul feel completely lit up.
• 18:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: But the whole part about like a video going viral
• 18:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: or just even being shared with people or people posting it to their stories, that doesn't scare me and make me want to hide anymore.
• 18:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: But when it comes to my personal life of just sharing who I am as Caitlyn of, like I'm not someone that just wants to post pictures of me to be like, look at me and comment on the pictures of me.
• 18:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: When I share it, it's really either because of the connection of wanting to celebrate my friendships
• 18:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: of like you feel fun and it feels nice when one of your friends post a picture with you and wanted to share that they were like connecting with you if that makes sense and like publicly like saying like this is my friend and we had the best time like it feels good it feels like you're connecting when people do that so like I do it for that reason and I do it for the business reason of I know that it's
• 19:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: you feel connected seeing pictures while I'm sharing something that's a teaching or the goal that I just uncovered with my intuition through my manifestation field and that's why I do it but I still don't feel like I enjoy the attention of just posting a picture of me on my birthday going it's my birthday if that makes sense.
• 19:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I only enjoy it if it connects to something that I value of meaning the connection of our community I value so if I feel like that increases our connection of me sharing a personal photo of me of me on my birthday with my friends I will do it because of that but it's not because I like the attention of people going happy birthday happy birthday I only like the connection behind it and when
• 20:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: I got so many dams from you on my birthday, and I loved that.
• 20:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: I loved the connection piece that you thought of me, the thoughtfulness.
• 20:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm trying to make this very clear, but it's not from I'm not someone like my friend of like, if it was my voucherette going out, I don't want like everyone going, it's her voucherette, it's her voucherette, and getting like all this attention from strangers and these people.
• 20:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, like that.
• 20:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: doesn't make me scared and doesn't make me want to hide.
• 20:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: I just want to enjoy that.
• 20:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I wouldn't sign up for that if that makes sense.
• 20:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I feel neutral about it of I would rather have the best time with like my best girls and us enjoy that.
• 20:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if I had a preference, I would prefer it to be someone else's bachelorette or someone else's birthday.
• 20:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I would have more fun.
• 20:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: having it be someone else's celebration that I get to be with my girls and have fun and be playful and and take pictures together and have memories captured.
• 21:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if I was able to choose, I would choose it to be someone else's birthday or someone else's celebration for their engagement or their graduation or their batter at their birthday, I would choose it for it to be
• 21:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: someone else's spotlight like their center of attention event.
• 21:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'd rather that like I want to be there and I love to celebrate and I feel neutral about it being mine but it's not like I want more and more of this and it's so funny because one of my best friends last year I went to Nashville to visit one of my best friends that lives in Nashville and one of my other
• 21:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: best friends flew out to meet us to celebrate together.
• 21:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we had such a fun weekend together doing the guerrillas things and had the best time.
• 21:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: They actually made shirts with my face on it as a surprise.
• 21:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I again didn't feel like no, no, no, no.
• 21:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't like this place.
• 21:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: Don't wear it.
• 21:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: I felt very neutral.
• 21:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: I thought it was funny.
• 21:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: It was funny when we were out and people were going, oh, like who's what's going on and happy birthday.
• 22:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't feel like please don't.
• 22:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just that.
• 22:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: I like would have preferred it to be one of my other friends birthday and been wearing her face on my shirt if that makes sense.
• 22:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's something that I'm so proud of myself because again, I'm not sure.
• 22:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not that I don't like it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't make me anxious or nervous or want to
• 22:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: it just is not something I love soaking up the attention of it.
• 22:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: And if I had to choose, I would choose to be wearing someone else's face on my shirt.
• 22:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what I want to talk about in this episode is how to have the best time.
• 22:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: meaning it might be new years.
• 22:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: It might be your birthday.
• 22:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: It might be your graduation or your wedding.
• 22:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to talk about the energetics of how to set yourself up for the best time, where it feels like you look back and you're like that was so incredibly great.
• 22:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I wouldn't want it any other way.
• 23:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what I want this episode to be about.
• 23:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is something that I have a few things that I'm working on in my fields right now, a couple different manifestation goals, if you will, or points that I have blue prints that I'm creating things.
• 23:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: And one of the things I do want to do at some point,
• 23:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: is be working on these tools about actually enjoying the attention and being like yeah I love this this is so much fun.
• 23:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel equally about if other people are wearing my face on their shirt or if I'm wearing their face on my shirt.
• 23:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel equally about celebrating someone else's birthday as I do about my own.
• 23:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to be there's no rush around this.
• 23:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going at an eight-year-old pace because there are like I said multiple things I'm creating right now.
• 23:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's things I'm creating in the business.
• 23:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: We have a subset coming in hot.
• 23:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: We have things that are creating just for sub-sac.
• 23:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: I have the last of the summer drops and the membership loading and will be drops.
• 23:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe by the time you're listening to this, it might be all leave it below if it's ready, but the third of the summer drops because summer is not over.
• 24:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to make that very clear.
• 24:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: This one is a dream-life connection that I'm so excited about because if you're someone that wants to make it familiar, that you are someone that goes on luxury, tropical vacations, that this is just like another normal day for you, that
• 24:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: You would be basically waking up to this dreamy, dreamy, dreamy, dreamy tropical vacation and having it be familiar to subconscious mind that it's not something like, okay, well, I better enjoy every second of this because I spent all this money on this and I am only going to be able to do this once every year or once every three years because of how much this was we want to make it comfortable and normal that you were someone that goes on vacations like this at this caliber.
• 24:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is the new dream life connection that is being added to the membership.
• 24:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I think it might be up if it's not up as you're listening to this at first drop in the morning.
• 24:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: It will be up by today.
• 24:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm going to make that commitment.
• 25:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: It will be up by power talk Tuesday sometime today for the members.
• 25:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we have all these things.
• 25:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know me a lot of things are happening.
• 25:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm having the most incredible one on one sessions that take a lot of mind.
• 25:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: focus and energy and I'm just having the best time and I do want to work on things for me personally and one of those being okay now that I don't have a fear of being seen, now that I don't have anxiety, now that I don't have PTSD, now that I don't have depression, now that I'm really happy and feel powerful and incredible where I'm at.
• 25:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: can I add in tools that I actually enjoy being the center of attention that I enjoy this spotlight in a very balanced way of not needing it for external validation, which again, I'm very new child now, so I don't feel that need.
• 25:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: And this I'm going to get into with this episode today of the first steps of how to not have the need for the external validation, which actually get
• 25:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: the external validation.
• 26:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm ready to dive into that, but I will keep you posted, especially I really, really helps if you let me know.
• 26:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: As you can tell, I have a lot of things that I'm creating and a lot of things that are marinating and testing and they take time.
• 26:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: So when I know what you need most and what would upgrade your life most, that really helps me have knowing where to focus on first of what you'd like to see first and then I can prioritize and organize these things in order
• 26:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: the way that you would like to see these be laid out to you.
• 26:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: Where I would like to begin with this is that post I was talking about I'm not a birthday girl I wish I was and I love when my friends make it like a whole birthday month and you know they're celebrating the whole month and they love every second of it.
• 26:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would like to be someone that feels
• 26:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: that I enjoy that and the way that I enjoy reading my romantasy books that I can't wait to do that.
• 26:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to feel more of that now that I'm at a neutral place and this is where it gets really intricate because you don't want to have it be that you need to have a certain experience because then the love of posing forces will come in and you will get the opposite of that experience.
• 27:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: An example of this would be like New Year's Eve.
• 27:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: I find that most people struggle with New Year's Eve because you have these extremely high expectations and pressure that come from the collective.
• 27:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's a collective contagion of feeling like if you don't have the best night of your life on New Year's Eve.
• 27:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then you are going to have a shitty whole next year.
• 27:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is a contagion that comes on us from media, social media, from friends, family, from the collective norm of it needing to be this incredible night.
• 27:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: And if it wasn't, then you're pretty much asked for the year coming up.
• 27:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now you're really worried that you started things off on the wrong foot.
• 27:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: And even feeling you could have like the best night, and then maybe you don't have the best New Year's Day, and that also you struggle around of maybe you actually stayed up all night New Year's Eve, and you don't feel great on New Year's Day, and now you're going, well, I started the first day of the year not feeling good in and not being all day, so now what now I'm everything is down the pooper for the whole next year.
• 28:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I see this happen a lot with some of these major holidays where there's a lot of pressure around what are you doing for the for the July what are you doing for this and if you don't have an answer if you don't have something spectacular planned then you're really messing up in some way.
• 28:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that is not fun to have in our fields because we will actually have that play out of the essence, the subject of what it is that we're feeling from that experience that we've been made to feel from our collective contagion, the collective thought fields around us is making us feel and there's a new sub-sac article by the way in the notes about our thought fields if you're new to knowing that you were actually reading people's thoughts.
• 28:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: surprise.
• 28:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: You do it all the time and you can find out more about that there.
• 29:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is something that we are taking on and we take the essence like the subject of the thought of going, I'm not cool enough because I don't have something planned for New Year's Eve.
• 29:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: I actually was going to
• 29:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: spend it with my partner at home having a great meal and not getting stuck out somewhere, not being able to get an Uber or having an Uber cost $200.
• 29:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: I decided to do this, but I'm actually wrong in that.
• 29:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you might take on that you're something feels wrong about your life and then you start having financial situations in which it feels very wrong.
• 29:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're like, oh no, I didn't know.
• 29:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: This payment was coming up and I'm actually behind on this now.
• 29:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel really wrong about this financially.
• 29:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: You actually take in the subject of these things and make it your own because your mind believes it's helping you by picking up on this information.
• 29:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it picks up and goes, oh, this is information we need.
• 29:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then it fills in the blanks.
• 29:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: with something about your life so it could be like okay this actually feels really wrong and is it my relationship now that feels wrong even though you had nothing that felt wrong about your relationship before but you start filling in those blanks and make it mean something about your own life because you're picking up on the information of
• 30:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: this feels wrong and again it could be something as silly as you're made to feel wrong that you're not going out on New Year's Eve and now it's taken this turn into it actually you believe that there's something that feels wrong or off about your relationship and you're going okay well now I'm starting this new year and am I in the wrong relationship and spiraling into something that never was actually a thing it's what you made it mean.
• 30:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sub-consciously, you are not even aware of this consciously because, again, our subconscious is responsible for 95% of what we create in our physical form in physical reality.
• 30:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: Only 5% is that conscious that you are aware of.
• 30:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, conscious, I know this feels like duh, but it's important to remember, conscious is what you're aware of.
• 30:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: 95% sub-conscious is under what you are aware of.
• 31:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is why this is important to understand how thought fields work, how we take things on, how our brain is working, and encoding information, and making it mean something about our lives, because what we meet, what we make mean about our lives is how our life actually walks out into physical form.
• 31:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: We take it and put it into our fields, and then all opportunities events people have to play out what we put into our manifestation fields.
• 31:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: and everything starts as a thought, a thought picks up evidence and emotion and then creates an emotion, then the emotions create the beliefs, the beliefs create the instructions that are written in tremendous frustration fields and now you're living out this life that you never intended because you took on this information at that beginning seed that thought that again came from someone else's thought field that you thought was your own and it was never yours.
• 31:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is why
• 31:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: It is really key to understand these things and coming back to this post that I'm talking about.
• 31:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't love being the center of attention.
• 31:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't hate it now.
• 31:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't dislike it now.
• 31:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel pretty neutral about it, but I would love to actually enjoy being celebrated because we all deserve to be celebrated for how we were uniquely designed by God and Higher Salt to be exactly who we are that we are all uniquely different.
• 32:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we should be celebrated.
• 32:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: And we should be celebrated for who we are.
• 32:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: So not just in how I was saying, I can enjoy and celebrate when it is something that I created.
• 32:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: Whether that is a connection with a soul aligned client, a soul aligned member, a soul aligned student, a soul aligned friend.
• 32:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: a solo line partner, a solo line family member, like I can, I can appreciate and celebrate that because I see how it connects to my high values of this connection and of having a solo line community.
• 32:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if it's just about celebrating me or like,
• 32:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: something about like how I look, that's where I'm like, I'm okay.
• 32:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm good because to me, it doesn't connect to that value, but I should celebrate because how I look and who is part of who I am, right?
• 33:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's part of who I am of having my specific eye color.
• 33:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: and having the, you know, body or the outfit that I laid out and designed and decided on, right?
• 33:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: I, that's still a manifestation that's still something I created.
• 33:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so I, I'm getting better at and working on how can I be enjoy being celebrated just for being me and not tied to an output.
• 33:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: or a creation because you know that I'm obsessed with creations.
• 33:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: I know that I have this intuitive channel that the most brilliant ideas, the most brilliant neuroscience comes through and comes into creation through me.
• 33:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I am extremely proud of every 12 ever created in the membership and every one of my courses and I know they're incredible and I know they're brilliant and again this is something I have had to work on the beliefs around to know that and to accept it.
• 33:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: and to accept the credit and celebration and being noticed for that and actually loving when you let me know that the tool worked and because that was something that again my fear of being seen would have not even allowed me to.
• 34:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: Celebrate something that I created that was brilliant and that is changing life So this is like again, I've come such a long way and everyone can do this if you feel like you're so at the point that you're like In no way Could I celebrate or be proud of you know an article on subsac or a podcast episode?
• 34:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would rather
• 34:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: Hide for eight million years, then ever have someone read my article or listen to me talk.
• 34:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: I get that because I was there.
• 34:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is all doable.
• 34:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, it's just working on that 95% subconscious that you can take a straight line there through hypnosis, which is the beauty of neuroscience of these tools of getting to get right under the hood, just cutting straight through.
• 34:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: And
• 34:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: fixing it if you will upgrading at that root.
• 34:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is all something that if I can do it you 3,000% can do it and I've actually short-short cut it all these things so that you don't have to figure out how to create these tools and they're right there for you and these tool boxes online.
• 35:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: So everyone has this easy access to it.
• 35:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: But this is something that now I want to take to, you know, to that next level.
• 35:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I was talking about it.
• 35:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to be a birthday girl.
• 35:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I want to be one of those girls that loves being celebrated because it's more fun for everyone.
• 35:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: And we should be celebrated.
• 35:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: We deserve to be celebrated just for who we are, not connected to the creation or the impact that we're having on people.
• 35:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you can tell I'm speaking, I'm needing to learn this and integrate this.
• 35:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: I get to just be celebrated for it being my birth.
• 35:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: like for it being my birthday party that happens every year.
• 35:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: I get to enjoy that and that's something I'm really working on and working on being it that way all year round of deserving to be celebrated all year round and not just in connection again to productivity or output where
• 36:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: a brilliant creation and of helping someone but of being us so I'm really working on that.
• 36:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: That is what the post was and I also want to mention at the end of the post.
• 36:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: I pointed out how freaking cute is it that us humans celebrate the day we came into the world every year.
• 36:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like that's so cute of us when you really think about it again this is something that's so normal to our brains.
• 36:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: But that I mean you could be anywhere like I was saying walking
• 36:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: through Vegas with my girlfriend that it was her bachelorette.
• 36:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like people want to celebrate they won and excuse to celebrate and you can be anywhere when my friends were wearing my face on their shirts.
• 36:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: People go, who's birthday is it?
• 36:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that's you.
• 36:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to celebrate you happy birthday and they like to celebrate you.
• 36:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like you get free, you get like a free dessert at dinner.
• 36:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is something we celebrate and I just think it's fun to take notice of how
• 36:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: How cute that is that we celebrate the day that we came into this world every year and we deserved to be celebrated for us again being just us of us is enough to be celebrated.
• 37:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: So one of our members in the membership commented on this and said, girl, I love birthdays, but I used to put pressure on myself to make sure I was celebrated and it was a big thing to make
• 37:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: like I was enough.
• 37:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: I liked the idea of having low expectations that was something I talked about in my post and what we'll talk about in a second and how to have them while still not being afraid of being seen having that spotlight on you.
• 37:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: With love a deep dive on this, so glad you're here on Sub-Sack by the way.
• 37:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: I just got started on here and excited to explore.
• 37:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: So a lot of us, it girls are here on Sub-Sack and we are ready for you to join us.
• 37:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: And thank you for that invitation to dive deeper on this because I think this is something that no matter what it is, it's a birthday.
• 37:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's some sort of marker that you feel like it's like almost there's an external pressure on the situation of like this should be so much fun, this should be amazing.
• 38:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: Something that I've shared before is my family and I went to Disneyland one year and it was my nephew and niece's first time going to Disneyland.
• 38:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I had this pressure of like this.
• 38:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: is their first time going to Disneyland.
• 38:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: It will always be the first time we took them to Disneyland.
• 38:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I had a pressure that I put on it.
• 38:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if my family did, but making sure that this was such a fun day for them.
• 38:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the fact that this was going to be so amazing for me to see Disneyland for the first time.
• 38:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: through these tiny humans that I love so much through their eyes.
• 38:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: For the first time I will always ever, that was the one and only time I will be the first time for me to see it through their eyes at the ages that we took them at.
• 38:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I felt myself so I wanted to talk about how to energetically set up the best time.
• 38:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: So like how to energetically set up the best blank ever.
• 38:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: It might be
• 38:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: the best birthday ever, the best date night ever, the best Disneyland experience ever, insert blank here with what you would like to set up to be the best time.
• 39:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is how you do this, and I want you to stick with me because when I learned this of how this is played out with the universal law, so this is something that we can't argue with, even though I tried.
• 39:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: We have to create low expectations for this.
• 39:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I want to use the Disneyland example.
• 39:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I'll use the birthday examples.
• 39:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: Our mirror neurons have the correct examples to understand this.
• 39:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you'll be able to apply it.
• 39:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: Your brains are going to do it for you.
• 39:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: As long as you're paying attention, you're letting this integrate.
• 39:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then we walk this out into physical reality, meaning that when you have that event, you're going to actually use these things and apply it to your situation.
• 39:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: So with the Disneyland example, this is how I did it wrong.
• 39:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I was looking forward to Disneyland, looking forward to Disneyland.
• 39:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: And everything I was doing.
• 39:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it was like every client session, every time I made like a custom hypnosis for my client and submitted it through.
• 39:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: Every time I like cleaned the house and got it ready because my family was coming to visit.
• 40:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: So anytime I was organizing something for them to come.
• 40:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: every time like a day went by.
• 40:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: It was like kind of like taking off the days of like this many days until Disneyland.
• 40:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: This many client sessions until Disneyland.
• 40:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: This many eyebrow appointments until Disneyland.
• 40:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: And everything was a marker of getting to Disneyland.
• 40:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is how I actually did this wrong and then I'll tell you how I did it right with my birthday and every birthday I've had has gone above and beyond where the goal with this at least and if you want a different goal you get to decide but how I'm teaching you to do is have it be the best ever that you look back and you're like that could not have gone better like you truly wouldn't change anything because it went above and beyond what you could have imagined for it to go.
• 40:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: can recall the last several years since I've learned how to do this, but Disneyland was a handful of years ago.
• 40:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to say maybe three years ago, maybe two years ago, I'm not sure, but I definitely did not do this right with Disneyland.
• 41:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: So everything was building up to Disneyland Disneyland.
• 41:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I have high expectations for Disneyland and also it's like, how could you not have an incredible time at Disneyland?
• 41:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I ended up having a great time at Disneyland, but I
• 41:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: plummeted after because when everything a lot of people do this around their weddings to everything leads up to the wedding, the wedding, the wedding, and then the wedding happens and now you have this huge
• 41:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: spiral really like you because there's a universal law of highs and lows it's an actual law just like how you've learned about maybe the law of attraction or if you've been around here you've learned to several other like the law of soul balance and this is something that if you have a high high high like that because of the universal laws you have to come back into balance so
• 41:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: It will, you basically, the universe will have you be like ripped down off of that high.
• 42:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the way it does that is typically by plunging into a low.
• 42:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: So whether it's your mood of just feeling like down, down, down, down, or something occurs where a big bill pops up and now you're like, wait, I was just having the best time or where you felt really excited about something like a job opportunity.
• 42:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you're like, everything is looking like this is going to happen.
• 42:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: Something came up that I wasn't even expecting and I thought oh my gosh, this would be so perfect and then Everything I got so excited.
• 42:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: I started telling people about it like telling my family about this would be so incredible This would do x y and z for me.
• 42:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: This would bring in more money.
• 42:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: This would bring in this.
• 42:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is this
• 42:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: built it up, built it up, built it up.
• 42:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: And everything was showing that that was going to come to fruition.
• 42:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: But because I went high, high, high, high, high, I had to get ripped down low.
• 42:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I ended up being passed over in that opportunity that I basically created with who the opportunity was going to be with.
• 43:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: They decided actually someone was a better match for that opportunity, even though we created that opportunity together if that makes sense.
• 43:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: And it was like, wait, what?
• 43:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: So low, low, low plummet to low and then you have to like go tell your family and everyone that actually that's not happening and it's a big low So with Disney land we had a really good time.
• 43:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not that I messed up how the time went But then when they left I was sobbing I was just like beside myself because now I had like nothing to look forward to in that way of this
• 43:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: this thing that I, everything was working towards it.
• 43:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I was saying, this many more days, this many more of this and everything was building building building and when that happens, now that thing has gone, like it already happens.
• 43:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now what are we building to?
• 43:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: with weddings.
• 43:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: I've heard from many, many, many people like I think it's more common than it is not common for people to feel down after their wedding because they're like, wait, this whole thing we're now I'm used to everything going and building up to this event.
• 44:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: Now the event is over and now I'm in this like very serious commitment.
• 44:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: with my husband or wife, and now this feels like really real and all the parts that everyone was so excited about and built up and the high, high, high, high, the high excitement excitement.
• 44:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everything's, are you excited for the wedding?
• 44:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: How are you feeling about the wedding?
• 44:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: Did it?
• 44:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you're like, oh yeah, and you're so you keep lifting yourself up higher.
• 44:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, yeah, we are, yeah, yeah, your voice is getting higher.
• 44:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, sure.
• 44:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then it's over.
• 44:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now we have to drop low.
• 44:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Unless you know how to energetically set yourself up for this.
• 44:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: even still as a human it's not always the easiest thing to do because of again the contagion of your community or the collective that there it's not like there is bad intentions the best intentions are there to celebrate you but because of the fact that you took that on of like okay a lot of how I'm valued right now is wrapped up in this wedding
• 45:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's happening happening but then the wedding is gone and it's if you know everything goes the way that I would think you would intend that you don't have another wedding.
• 45:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now you're like, oh wait, I'm just married now and now this thing that everyone was giving me all this external validation about is over and now I don't get that anymore overnight like it literally goes away overnight.
• 45:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is the part that you might argue with me over and that's fine.
• 45:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: But like I said, I did not make these rules.
• 45:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: They are rules.
• 45:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: They are the laws of this universe that we agreed to live in and participate in.
• 45:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you know them, you can use them and hack them in your favor.
• 45:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: But this is something that I was really upset about.
• 45:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, what kind of way to live is that?
• 45:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: But
• 45:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: Once you understand them and you practice with them, it actually comes in and it's very interesting to explain, but it ends up being a better way to live that you're not up and down all the time.
• 46:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not like you're always looking for the next thing of like okay well what's the next thing then that can give me like the dopamine hits and the external acceptance and validation and the next thing.
• 46:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's like okay well then I'll go for the next thing and like
• 46:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: all make a family vacation and then that's over and you're down again.
• 46:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: So these things that we do as humans because we are not taught how to use the universal laws.
• 46:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is the part that you're not going to like, this is what I did with, this is what I didn't do with Disneyland, that I would do this time.
• 46:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if I had to do Disneyland over with the situation so that I didn't drop afterwards and like, plummet and saw, then be like, what do I have to look forward to next?
• 46:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: is I would have gone, I am looking forward to this Disneyland time with my family.
• 46:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, it's going to be so much fun.
• 46:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be so fun to see it through the little ones eyes.
• 46:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that at every age that they are, we're going to have a new experience and it could potentially be even better, right?
• 47:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: They, when they're older and actually understand it more, when they can go on more rides later, I might even have a better time.
• 47:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this might not even be the best Disneyland experience that I have with them.
• 47:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: but how fun that I get to have one and it gets to be the first one.
• 47:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: I then would point out things that would balance out the situation that are things that I would not like like the lines.
• 47:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be standing in a lot of lines and it might be really hot that day and I'm going to be very uncomfortable waiting lines and just where I'm at in life and you might
• 47:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: be in a similar situation.
• 47:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have like a ton of patience for lines anymore.
• 47:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: It depends on what's going on, but if I were to walk up to somewhere to eat that I wanted to eat at, and there was a line wrapped around the place, which has happened many times when there's places that are new, and it's the new thing, you know, here in O.C., and then people find out about it, there's TikToks, and then there's a line around the block.
• 47:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, nope.
• 47:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm good.
• 47:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I know four other places that I really enjoy.
• 48:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: I will keep driving.
• 48:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not really, I'm not where I was 18 or 22 or 26 where I felt like, yeah, sure.
• 48:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll go wait for 45 minutes to an hour and a half in line.
• 48:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't see the value in that in the way that I did before.
• 48:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: So lines are something that are going to be like a big con about a situation for me.
• 48:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: standing in Disneyland lines.
• 48:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's something that I can easily pull myself from the high and go, yeah, I'm probably going to be standing in lines for the majority of the day.
• 48:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: And we're going to have little ones that don't really understand that you have to wait in line for this long.
• 48:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: They don't get that of
• 48:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: having to stand in this very long line like they're learning lines.
• 48:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: They've not really had a stand in lines before like this.
• 48:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's going to be an extra thing where they're probably going to get a bit fussy about these situations.
• 48:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the heat might be a lot or it might be really cold depending on the time of year.
• 48:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: and I might be physically uncomfortable with what I'm wearing in the weather conditions.
• 49:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I can start pointing out these things.
• 49:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's things like even at this Disneyland time that we did go, the Star Wars thing.
• 49:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had an experience yet, and the Star Wars ride that apparently is the most fun one.
• 49:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: We did go on the other one.
• 49:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: you have to go first thing in the morning before everyone's there and we didn't do that we didn't know and so I didn't get to go in that one and I still haven't gone on that one.
• 49:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's kind of like a bummer like I don't know what that is and I love Star Wars and I didn't experience it.
• 49:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that kind of thing of like especially going with kids, you're not going to go on most of the adult rights.
• 49:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like you might get away with a couple, but you're probably doing Dumbo and
• 49:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: The cars ride and these sorts of things the whole day.
• 49:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that is again another thing.
• 49:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you see all this balances me out that I'm going How magical Disneyland and I get to still think that and believe that and I get to bring attention to the fact that there are going to be
• 49:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: situations and potential circumstances that I'm not going to enjoy.
• 50:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: And this balance is me out.
• 50:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now I go into this scenario balanced.
• 50:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of going high high high, I need high expectations of everything being perfect and magical.
• 50:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: because what do I force the universe to do in the laws of the universe that we live in that there's no emotion around it.
• 50:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just the way that the laws are in the same way that gravity works for us.
• 50:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: If I'm high high high high, the universal law of high and low is what is that going to do for me?
• 50:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to have to be brought down low in order to try to balance me out.
• 50:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: So usually the way that I've seen it, if you're out of high high high high.
• 50:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Typically, you have to get brought down lower than the middle.
• 50:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you look at the neutral, if we're looking at balance, neutral, middle, being a balanced person, you typically get pulled down lower.
• 50:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like a pendulum swing before you can then swing back into balance.
• 50:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's not fun.
• 50:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: And what could that look like at Disneyland?
• 50:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of things, like maybe a million rides are shut down, and you only have the option of like two things, or
• 51:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: maybe you've actually get ill on a ride like you actually throw up or something and maybe the kids don't like it and they're like I want to go home and you've been there for like an hour and you did all that and paid all that money to go.
• 51:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's so many things that could occur that you're like oh
• 51:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is not at all what I expected, and that is why you can come into this situation, not ruminating and wallowing on the negative, but also not hyping up all the positive, and not seeing all.
• 51:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: When you come in balanced, you're then matched to a balanced time, which you then can have things go better than expected, because you're not needing
• 51:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: an external force in the same way that like an external validation attention that if you're looking for that on your birthday or something, you're not going to get it.
• 51:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you don't need anything externally to come in and rescue you and like save the day of making this be the best thing ever, but you're like, no, I'm balanced inside and I know I can have the best time ever by using my universal laws, like using them in my favor of being balanced.
• 52:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: and then focusing on these things of like, you know what, no matter what happens, what rides are open, whatever, externally, I know I'm with my littles that I'm obsessed with, and even if they're crying or not having good time, I'm so grateful for this quality time together, so I can focus on that and be law focusing on the quality time, on being together, of being with my family that doesn't live in
• 52:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: my city, they don't live nearby.
• 52:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that is something I can use a lot of focus to focus on that to and create more of that.
• 52:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: But it's from a balanced place.
• 52:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not from an external thing that I need something else to make me feel good.
• 52:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I need Disneyland to do X, Y, and Z for me to feel like I got my money's worth and I got the time I needed.
• 52:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: I have complete confidence in myself as the
• 53:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: that it grow creator that can manifest anything.
• 53:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: I know that any situation I'm in, I can just manifest a better situation or another option or a solution.
• 53:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you come in with these things with the balanced expectations and the feeling of it's just going to go incredible or it could go you know better than I could have planned.
• 53:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: I just don't need anything from this if that makes sense.
• 53:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm expecting to have a horrible time so that I have the best time.
• 53:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's going and balanced, leaving open the magic for God to come in and make it better than you could have expected, because you don't need anything externally, you know that you yourself can have the best time no matter what situation you're in.
• 53:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you want to manifest having the best birthday ever, which ever since I've learned this, year after year, I
• 53:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: Look back and go that could not have gone better.
• 53:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: I felt so celebrated and valued and loved and truly felt so special if you want to create this what you need to do is everything that we just learned But you go into it going I am so grateful for this life that I get to wake up on this birthday that I lived another year in really feeling the gratitude of these things that you have created of
• 54:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: whether it's the career you've created or the relationship or the friendships or the home that you live in and starting to focus on the things that you know that you created and are a part of your day-to-day life.
• 54:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not about this day is different.
• 54:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's going every day wake up as wonderful because if we need this day to be a certain way of this high expectation of proving to us that we are special in
• 54:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is again where we're working against the universal law of highs and lows and we don't leave the magic for people to come in and totally like spoil us and celebrate us more than we would have imagined like it surprises you and this is how you get those surprise.
• 55:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: surprise like show up at your birthday of I didn't think you could come or surprise gift that means so much to you it was so thoughtful or one year I got gifted with at the place that we were at like a whole private section that was like roped off so that we had our own our own place to like dance and enjoy ourselves without feeling like we were crowded or separated from each other and that wasn't something I planned or organized.
• 55:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: it was just they heard it was my birthday and set it up for me.
• 55:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: So these are things that can happen when you don't have these huge expectations.
• 55:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: The other part of it would be looking at the things that would make you feel really down of, I would not feel
• 55:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: special.
• 55:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would not feel like it.
• 55:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: That was a great birthday.
• 55:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: So maybe it's people like posting for your birthday.
• 55:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: I know some people get really upset if there's not Instagram stories posted about your birthday party.
• 56:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you feel like overlooked and that people forgot or that they didn't care and didn't want to like celebrate you publicly.
• 56:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's something that you know.
• 56:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, if I got zero posts at all or I didn't get one from
• 56:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: a specific person maybe it's your boyfriend or husband or wife or best friend and you feel like if I did not get one from them I'd be really let down and feel like deflated.
• 56:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then we want to look at that and ahead of time go, okay, how could I be okay with getting zero birthday post today?
• 56:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I know that I'm doing X to celebrate, so you might be going out to dinner.
• 56:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: You might be just doing a little much of date, like maybe you don't want to do anything this year, and that's also so fine.
• 56:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you're like, I'm doing the one thing that I wanted to do.
• 56:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: you're doing that thing to celebrate so you can focus on okay even if I got zero posts and insert whatever it is that you would care about maybe you get zero gifts maybe you get zero people saying happy birthday like maybe all your friends forget maybe all your family forgets
• 57:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: and going, how can I still, myself have had a great birthday where I feel special and celebrated and you give yourself those things.
• 57:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it might be, well, I want to get my favorite cookie from my favorite bakery.
• 57:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I want to take the day off of work and not work that day.
• 57:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I want to actually disconnect a little bit.
• 57:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to go to the beach from my phone and
• 57:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: Not have it be super accessible to me so that I'm not worried about like who texted me or what and that's something that on my birthday It's wonderful to have the texts and calls come in and it it's so lovely and you get to like you get to enjoy being celebrated and People like going out of their way to show you that they care about you.
• 57:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying to
• 57:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: close off your phone or whatever is going on.
• 57:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if it would bug you if you didn't get that, do something that you kind of don't have the time to be on your phone.
• 58:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't mean to do this this year, but what I wanted to do on my actual birthday, so not like my birthday celebration with my friends that weekend.
• 58:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: But
• 58:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: I went to breakfast with my aunts and my mom, and then I wanted to go shopping with my mom on Balboa.
• 58:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I just wanted to have time.
• 58:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: I took the day off work.
• 58:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: I wanted to have time to read my book, and just enjoy my book.
• 58:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I wanted to either head to the pool or the beach, just whatever was easiest for me to be able to do before dinner, depending on the timing of
• 58:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: Being in my own timing, being in my feminine of being able to just do whatever I wanted and my friend was meeting me at either the pool or the beach, whatever I wanted to do.
• 58:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I got to just do what I wanted to do that day and because I was out at branch and I'm not someone that has your phone out at branch and having all these calls and stuff coming in and then went to shopping.
• 58:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: I
• 58:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: wasn't available for these calls and texts so that when I looked at my phone there was like a bunch of calls and texts and and DMs from our community and all these things that I wasn't expecting because I truly wasn't expecting it.
• 59:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean that with every part of me because I also am like not great at remembering these things I try to put them on my calendar and.
• 59:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: when for other people's birthdays and stuff.
• 59:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I don't get offended if someone were to forget or something.
• 59:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I also just felt like I was doing what I want to do this day.
• 59:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I took they off work.
• 59:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: I got to be my feminine.
• 59:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: I got to be with my family and I just was doing the things that I wanted to do.
• 59:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: I also plan to go to my new favorite restaurant that has the best desserts in Orange County.
• 59:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I had been thinking about this brownie all a mode since the week before when I discovered it.
• 59:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so I actually changed what I like where I was going to going back to this place.
• 59:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm just thinking of those brownie and
• 59:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm getting to have that that night and I just was so filled up by what I had wanted to do that day that everything else was extra and everything else was a bonus so I felt very much if I get zero external validation today
• 1:00:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: do I feel like I'm going to be really hurt by that?
• 1:00:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: No, I don't think so because I did exactly what I wanted to do that day.
• 1:00:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: And when you're not, it's like, you know, the watched pot never boils that saying, if you're staring at your phone feeling like I need to get all these external pieces of validation of evidence that people love me that they care about me that they thought of me today,
• 1:00:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: that's not going to come in.
• 1:00:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: You just will not match to that.
• 1:00:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: If it's like I'm so filled up by my life, that I don't need this, then it comes in and it's so it's an extra.
• 1:00:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a cherry on the top.
• 1:00:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's how thoughtful.
• 1:00:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Wow.
• 1:00:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so surprised by these coming through because you genuinely are not expecting anything too come through.
• 1:00:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's not like a performant of thing.
• 1:00:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can't like outperform or outact the universe.
• 1:00:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's what in your fields and you can't go, no, I really, I don't want anyone to make me feel special today, like wink wink.
• 1:01:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're making yourself feel special by doing the things that you want to do.
• 1:01:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so anything else that comes through when you might notice this, when you're doing things that you're having so much fun, and like I just went to a concert, and it was so much fun and we didn't have service in there because it was a whole festival.
• 1:01:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: And it was a Daisy chain field festival here in Orange County so much fun and so many people and so when we walked out I got like all these text messages where it was like five times them out of text messages from special people in my life that we're just wanting to connect and to hang out and to see me and the normal like it was I went whoa like I haven't heard from this person in a minute and
• 1:01:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: a lot of people like wanting to hang out, hey, what are you doing?
• 1:01:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: What are you up to?
• 1:01:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because I was so present where I was disconnected from social media because there wasn't service at a certain point of like when all the headlines were on and so they just all came through and this is again not having any need for this, need for attention, for acceptance for people wanting to see you for wanting to talk to you.
• 1:02:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is how this happens.
• 1:02:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: So when you go into your birthday going,
• 1:02:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, what would really bum me out if I didn't get on my birthday?
• 1:02:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: You have to come up with a plan that you would be okay for you to not get that and actually genuinely feel like, okay, yeah, like that is an ideal.
• 1:02:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not what I would choose, but I could actually be okay with that and still have a really incredible birthday.
• 1:02:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's when the magic comes through and it's when you have people in your life that want to go above and be on for you and make you feel so special.
• 1:02:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: But
• 1:02:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: it's because you already feel special yourself.
• 1:02:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: You cancel out those fears, those worries, the disappointments before they happen.
• 1:02:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you go in going, okay, how can I create the day?
• 1:02:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: That I know I would have the best time doing these things.
• 1:02:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it could be the brownies, could be going to the beach.
• 1:02:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: It could be going to a lunch or breakfast or dinner and going, I would be so good with this.
• 1:03:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: and then seeing and noticing that there isn't any pressure for you to feel special this day that you're already special you already feel that every single day.
• 1:03:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now there's not that extra pressure coming on you that we are talking about with New Year's Day New Year's Eve for the July with what are you doing for your summer?
• 1:03:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: Are you have any summer?
• 1:03:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: Things are going okay well now I have to have the best summer ever.
• 1:03:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's no pressure
• 1:03:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: coming on you because it's like, as I was talking about, I know we can go to Disneyland all these different ages and they're all going to be special in a different way because they're at different ages.
• 1:03:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Even if this one were to absolutely suck, I know that I had a great birthday last year and I could have a great birthday next year.
• 1:03:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: So my whole life isn't writing on this one day and the celebration in this birthday.
• 1:03:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's
• 1:03:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay, even if this word to not be great, it doesn't have any marker on how love Diane, of how appreciated I am and how people want to show love to me because there's all these other days of the year that people can do that.
• 1:04:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: So when you take the pressure off of it has to be
• 1:04:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: where I make this the best or I'm going to regret it.
• 1:04:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's where you get in trouble with this of putting too much pressure on the day and going, okay and this is something that happens a lot of people do pull out of your birthday where something came up and they can't go like one of my girlfriends really wasn't feeling well for something that she was dealing with and so she couldn't come last minute and that's okay when you have it where all these people this exact list has to come or I'm going to be
• 1:04:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: When you have that going on, you can guarantee that people are going to pull out and not be able to come.
• 1:04:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: When you come at it from the lens of higher self-nose, how to make this the best, how I'm going to look back and be like, that could not have gone better.
• 1:04:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: And maybe one person that was originally a yes to coming.
• 1:05:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: They are a 3P yes.
• 1:05:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe they would have been in a really poopy move because of something they're dealing with or maybe their stomach wouldn't have felt good.
• 1:05:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: Something that might have brought the whole vibe of the whole group down like that happens where someone might come in and even if someone doesn't feel good, like if you had a tummy ache or something and someone's crunched over and pain in the corner, like that inevitably is hard to keep the vibe up when you see someone that you care about like suffering and not feeling good.
• 1:05:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: the best people to arrive to celebrate you that day.
• 1:05:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: And again, the person I can't come, probably can come next year.
• 1:05:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's going to be fine, but they know better than you.
• 1:05:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: What's going to make the best possible situation.
• 1:05:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: Someone might be really stressed at work or even I booked a boat.
• 1:05:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we had to be at the dock at a certain time.
• 1:05:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: And if we weren't at the boat at that certain time, if anyone was late and I had girlfriends coming from LA,
• 1:05:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: from San Diego all driving to come be there at this time.
• 1:05:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: The traffic if you know is wild coming from either direction that we would have been late for the boat and that would have cut into the hours that we had the boat.
• 1:06:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: So even if someone was late and say they're 30 minutes late to the traffic
• 1:06:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: it's completely out of their hands.
• 1:06:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then everyone on that boat we would have to wait for 30 minutes sitting in the dock like swaying back and forth because they we were waiting for them to get on the boat and then that's you know 30 minutes that we didn't get to cruise around the harbour and see different things around the harbour.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These are things that higher self would know so if you have that incredible trust in God and higher self and really set out that intention of it being
• 1:06:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: The best birthday, the best time, the best celebration, the best holiday that you could have ever imagined, like it goes even better than you planned, and then you actually let go, like, of your grasp of, like, you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you, of you,
• 1:06:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: on the steering wheel of like your holding the steering wheel so tight that your hands turn white.
• 1:06:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you let go and go, no, God and higher self have my back.
• 1:07:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: I trust 100% and God and higher self that they no better than me.
• 1:07:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I think that, you know, all these people need to come or I think that it needs to be at this place, but then if it gets canceled, you're going, now everything's ruined, it's going, okay, well this has to be better than, this has to be better than I could have planned myself.
• 1:07:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: when you come at it that way that's your intention and then you actually act out what you are saying.
• 1:07:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you got a practice which you preach for all of us.
• 1:07:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is often easier so than done.
• 1:07:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if something comes up, if someone is late or if you spill all over your birthday outfit and you have to quickly pivot and find something else to wear,
• 1:07:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: you have to trust in what we talked about that you trust in God and higher self that maybe that outfit would have been see through in all the photos higher self just did you a solid and now you're actually in a better outfit you have to trust in these things that okay this has to be going better than I plan
• 1:07:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: And even if this was the worst birthday ever where it was too hot or no one had fun or it just didn't go the way that I had envisioned in my head, that's okay.
• 1:08:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm still going to feel special.
• 1:08:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel special tomorrow.
• 1:08:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel special the day after tomorrow.
• 1:08:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: getting to these places that might seem hard to do, but it's just repetition.
• 1:08:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, reprogramming your mind that 95% of these things so that you don't need the external validation or acceptance or attention to tell you how special you are, how incredible you are.
• 1:08:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: that you feel confident whether you get that or not because often people are thinking things too.
• 1:08:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: They're thinking, oh, she looks amazing.
• 1:08:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, she's so much fun.
• 1:08:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I'm so happy to have this friend in my life.
• 1:08:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm so happy to be here celebrating her.
• 1:08:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes they don't say it and these are also things that you can do in your fields that are fun to play with as a grow creator that you are to actually create different experiences.
• 1:08:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: But often people are thinking things that they don't say, and it might just take one person to be like, Oh my gosh, that was so much fun.
• 1:09:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then everyone else jumps in and they're like, no, that literally was the best time.
• 1:09:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: We need to do that again.
• 1:09:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's everyone thinking it.
• 1:09:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: So sometimes they don't say it.
• 1:09:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: So you need to trust in these things, have confidence in who you are as a person.
• 1:09:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the people that you have brought around you in your life and their relationships you've cultivated and knowing that one day doesn't ruin all that.
• 1:09:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: One day doesn't prove that you haven't created that.
• 1:09:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you get to the point that all your friends for out your birthday and you still feel like you have the best friends in the world, you still feel so loved by your community and so celebrated and supported, that is where you are unstoppable.
• 1:09:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: That is it, girl shit.
• 1:09:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm getting to that point that you do not need that.
• 1:09:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's when it overflows into your life and you go, oh my gosh, that was so thoughtful.
• 1:09:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's ways that people show love to you, whether it's gifts or a handwritten note, or showing up, like I need to stay vague about things.
• 1:10:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I had a couple of friends that are dealing with a lot right now.
• 1:10:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: And they still chose to drive hours to see me in traffic and showed up with a smile on their face, the warmest hug so happy to be there and celebrate even when they had a lot of things going on and you know did everything to to make sure that they.
• 1:10:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: that I knew how loved and appreciated I was and that they were happy to do those things.
• 1:10:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: I've no one like sitting in traffic.
• 1:10:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: It was such a hot day.
• 1:10:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: That day was wonderful being on the harbor with the breeze, but it was hot like so many of us had to get ready just sweating everywhere.
• 1:10:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: And people will do this when
• 1:10:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's in your field as I love me so obviously every other love is extra and you get to enjoy it and it feels special and like I was talking about enjoy having that love pouring but it's not because you don't love yourself first and that's the biggest piece of this and then with the other things looking at okay what would really piss me off what would really make me bummed if this happened.
• 1:11:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: How can I be okay with that and still have the best time and just walking yourself through just usually it's not a ton of things that you would be upset about but just a couple things like okay if everyone forgot or even if I maybe makes you really anxious to even think about having like a birthday party situation, which again, I used to be there, but you could just walk yourself and go okay.
• 1:11:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: Even if I felt really anxious about this and just didn't, like, regret it even doing this, I could have all my girls over for a movie night and said, I'm just like, you guys, I'm actually not feeling good.
• 1:11:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: I have a tummy ache or not feeling great.
• 1:11:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Could we actually pivot and just order pizza in and watch a movie?
• 1:11:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like you could just show your brain that there's these options of anything that you were to fear to happen, that there's a solution for it that would be wonderful.
• 1:11:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: And again, it's your birthday.
• 1:11:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: People want to celebrate you in the way that you want to be celebrated.
• 1:12:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that would be perfect if that is what you ended up wanting to do and often the brain just needs to see.
• 1:12:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, that would be okay that would happen.
• 1:12:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would survive and I would have to know that if that's where the night went then that was the perfect thing to happen.
• 1:12:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like that that means that that was the best way for us to feel connected maybe.
• 1:12:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of doing that, we are planning to go to a concert or something where it would have been really loud and hard to hear each other and connect.
• 1:12:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: And a movie night at home, we actually would get, you know, my other friends that don't know each other, we get to know each other so well, we could play games, have a game night and have even more fun.
• 1:12:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: So taking your brain through those situations of like, okay, if that scenario were to happen, that would also be so perfect.
• 1:12:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: that's where you end up creating and setting up energetically in your fields the best time ever that you truly look back and go wow that was so much fun that was perfect I feel like that went better than I could have planned this is how you do it I hope that you take this and start creating some magic in your life of creating some really fun things and it doesn't have to be one of
• 1:13:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: felt the pressure you could use this and suck the pressure like out of that pressure cooker of holidays coming up, but you can also use this on date night of girls night and creating the best girls night ever that you look back and go, oh my gosh, those girls.
• 1:13:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: just film my soul up like we have the best time together.
• 1:13:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: I feel revived coming into my work day next week.
• 1:13:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can start using this on vacations on these things that you want to feel really special and magical and set yourself up correctly to actually have it be better than you thought.
• 1:13:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: and not have high expectations that either it goes so extremely well and you crash the next day like I did with Disneyland and then it's almost like not worth it because you feel so not well after it's where you're feeling down and having it takes weeks to get you back to balance of feeling good again and like excited about life again.
• 1:14:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: or it doesn't go that great because you've created that situation in your field and that thing you were looking so forward to things happen and the plans get all messed up and you go how did this get here?
• 1:14:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: So these are things you can infuse into these special events, special moments and also make ordinary moments extra ordinary.
• 1:14:31
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• 1:14:34
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• 1:14:39
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• 1:14:42
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• 1:14:43
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• 1:14:46
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• 1:14:48
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• 1:15:00
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• 1:15:07
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• 1:15:11
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• 1:15:13
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• 1:15:20
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• 1:15:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: coming out with these really fun things that are through email access only members on that note you will be getting an email today with that new summer drop and then remember you have those two other new summer drops that just came out over the last few weeks of the surround sound manifestation techniques we have a new diamond one so now there's two diamond ones in the
• 1:15:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: It literally programs you to be the diamond of every season.
• 1:15:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: So again, it's not like these things that you're special for only one season.
• 1:16:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: Things are all working for you for one season.
• 1:16:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: You get to be someone that things work out, that you're someone that's chosen through every season of life and career and romance and friendships that you are someone who is chosen.
• 1:16:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: and you get to shine and not be scared of shining.
• 1:16:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: This would be, I'm actually just putting this together now, seeing how great that new surround sound manifestation technique, the newest diamond one.
• 1:16:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: It starts programming in that you feel safe, shining brightly, you feel safe being the one that is noticed and seen in the room.
• 1:16:34
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• 1:16:42
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• 1:16:44
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• 1:16:46
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• 1:16:51
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