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90 Day Fiancé Before the 90 Days Season 8 Episode 4 “It's Going to Be a Bumpy Ride” · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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  Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, This is Chris Farrah and welcome to Vanity
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  Speaker 1: Fair with Chris Ferret's my podcast. It's my name and
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  Speaker 1: also I host it. Hi, Happy New Year. How are
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  Speaker 1: you all? I honestly cannot wait to get some great
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  Speaker 1: guests back in the studio, but as it's been the
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  Speaker 1: holiday season, I wanted to kind of give everyone grace,
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  Speaker 1: including myself. I've been traveling to make sure that I
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  Speaker 1: can get episodes out without having to worry about people's
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  Speaker 1: schedules because it's hard. At the same time i've been traveling,
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  Speaker 1: it's really me. I'm blaming other people. It's me, obviously.
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  Speaker 1: I went to London and Paris for the holidays. It
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  Speaker 1: was great. I've never been to any place besides my aunt,
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  Speaker 1: uncle's house or my own house for Christmas, so it
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  Speaker 1: was lovely to be abroad, abroad, abroad, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean. And at the same time, I'm so excited
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  Speaker 1: to be back. But let me tell you I had
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  Speaker 1: so much fun. One cool thing that happened two years
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  Speaker 1: ago was that I got to invest in a Broadway show.
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  Speaker 1: One thing about me you should know is that I'm
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  Speaker 1: a theater nerd. You know that now you do? I
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  Speaker 1: was a theater arts major and I studied comedy. I
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  Speaker 1: do a lot of comedy my whole life. And I
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  Speaker 1: saw the off Broadway production of Oh Mary, written by
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  Speaker 1: Cola Scola a couple of years ago, and I knew
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  Speaker 1: that it was hilarious. It's very funny, very well written
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  Speaker 1: and at farcicle, and I just was like, this is great.
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  Speaker 1: And so when I was given an opportunity by my
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  Speaker 1: friend Julie Boardman to invest with her in this musical,
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  Speaker 1: we certainly did. And if you follow Broadway, it's been
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  Speaker 1: a really big hit. Turns out it was a really
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  Speaker 1: good investment. And I think that, first of all, I'm
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  Speaker 1: lucky also be it's like the one thing that I
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  Speaker 1: do know right, Like I know theater, I know comedy.
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  Speaker 1: So it was a really awesome, awesome like moment for
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  Speaker 1: me to be like, oh, I know that what's good,
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  Speaker 1: and I know that it's funny, and I'm so happy
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  Speaker 1: that other people do as well, like and for sure,
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  Speaker 1: like as any sort of business woman or any sort
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  Speaker 1: of like financial person, I was like, oh, impressed with myself,
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  Speaker 1: but most so more so, most so, more so, Oh
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  Speaker 1: Mary's success has been really exciting to watch as an
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  Speaker 1: artist because I love camp comedy like I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I love camp comedy. It's like a whole situation. I
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  Speaker 1: love it so much. I think it's one done right,
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  Speaker 1: which is grounded in truth. It's you know, subversive, it's smart,
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  Speaker 1: and it's joyous. So if you get a chance to
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  Speaker 1: see Oh Mary, I certainly would. I mean, obviously I
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  Speaker 1: invested in it. But they opened the West End production
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  Speaker 1: of it. I got to go to the opening, so
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  Speaker 1: that's why I was in London. And then when I
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  Speaker 1: was there, my dad went with me. I have no siblings,
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  Speaker 1: and so we were just like, well, what are we
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  Speaker 1: worrying about getting back to America for, Let's go to Paris.
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  Speaker 1: And we certainly did. Oh my god, I ate so much,
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  Speaker 1: so much cheese. I think I have like mild and
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  Speaker 1: ezema breakout because of the cheese. But it's completely worth it.
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  Speaker 1: At the same time, though, I'm so pumped to get
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  Speaker 1: some fun guests back in to talk about dumb shows,
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  Speaker 1: and dumb shows are on the docket for Today ninety
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  Speaker 1: Day Fiance. It's Before the ninety Days. It's season eight,
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  Speaker 1: episode four. It's gonna be a bumpy ride, Like, how
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  Speaker 1: do you say that? Without saying like that it's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be like a bumpy ride. That's I guess, Emma for you,
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  Speaker 1: but it should be. It's gonna be a bumpy ride. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: she told you she liked camp only mere seconds ago,
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  Speaker 1: so that's what's happening. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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  Speaker 1: This is my fourth episode as a solo podcast. If
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  Speaker 1: you haven't yet, please give me five stars and just
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  Speaker 1: let people know that you know you're enjoying what's happening here. Also,
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  Speaker 1: you can follow me at Chris el Farah wherever you
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  Speaker 1: follow people. I have a YouTube, I have a Patreon,
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  Speaker 1: I have a sub stack, I have an Instagram, I
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  Speaker 1: have a TikTok. It's Chris sel Fara on almost all platforms.
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  Speaker 1: Can you believe it? All? Right, my loves, let's get
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  Speaker 1: in to this very like long but good episode. And
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  Speaker 1: we had so many people. Okay, Emma Anxiet or back,
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  Speaker 1: but let's start with Lisa and Daniel. So Lisa we
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  Speaker 1: surely met last episode and we're like, oh my God
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  Speaker 1: obsessed with her and she know she has led a
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  Speaker 1: life and that life has led itself to five marriages
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  Speaker 1: and you know, God bless that's like one thing. And
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  Speaker 1: I'm so happy that she has been able to express
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  Speaker 1: herself and her sexuality in many different ways, and she's
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  Speaker 1: been married, as she's told us to men and women,
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  Speaker 1: and all of that is like awesome inspirational. Not not
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  Speaker 1: that she can't, you know, find a person for the
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  Speaker 1: rest of her life, but she's someone who certainly is
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  Speaker 1: a relationship girl, and she's not afraid to go after
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  Speaker 1: what she wants, and those things are prevalent now because
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  Speaker 1: she is like a little schoolgirl obsessed with Daniel. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't bode well. I mean, this entire storyline is plucked
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  Speaker 1: from the ninety day archetypal map of an elder seasoned
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  Speaker 1: woman who is not quite ready to accept that it
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  Speaker 1: takes certain things to entice a younger, hot male, and
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  Speaker 1: that you know, in lieu of some of those things
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  Speaker 1: like youth or you know, society standards of beauty, there
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  Speaker 1: is like a false hope that love their own side
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  Speaker 1: of the relationship, the love only they have for the person,
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  Speaker 1: will somehow conquer it all. And you know what, it doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't. But listen, it makes great TV and we're
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  Speaker 1: here to watch. You know. Lisa starts when she's packing,
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  Speaker 1: and she's nervous and she's afraid, like, what's she gonna do?
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  Speaker 1: She might pee when she sees him. That could happen,
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  Speaker 1: and continence is an issue. I also we also know
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  Speaker 1: that she wears wigs. She's already talked about that, and
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  Speaker 1: she's not the first person on this episode Emma season
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  Speaker 1: to wear one, and she does pack her brand new
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  Speaker 1: wigs to wear. She also shows us her natural hair,
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  Speaker 1: and her natural hair is like super thick. It's also
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  Speaker 1: dyed like what looks like a beautiful color. There's some
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  Speaker 1: dimension there. Sure it's not combed. Sure she didn't comb
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  Speaker 1: it for this packing episode, but she doesn't need a
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  Speaker 1: comb her hair anymore. She's like relying on these wigs.
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  Speaker 1: She's got three brand new ones, and she's like, I
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  Speaker 1: have to deal with a lot with these wigs. They
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  Speaker 1: cause rashes and lots of sores. And we're like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, why or if you wear a wig, are
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  Speaker 1: they supposed to She's like, I'm gonna sleep in them,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, that's probably why. Hm. One thing
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  Speaker 1: that's really sad that I can lay claim to is
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  Speaker 1: Lisa is obsessed with the idea that Danielle Danielle Daniel.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like I called him Danielle Daniel finds her
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  Speaker 1: attractive and he's not right going to And that's sad.
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  Speaker 1: I wish I didn't have to say it, but because
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  Speaker 1: she knows that underneath it all she's obsessed with like
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  Speaker 1: trying to pretend that's not gonna happen with these wigs.
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  Speaker 1: It's not just the wigs, you know, that are that
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  Speaker 1: her problems are. That are her problems. She also loves women,
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  Speaker 1: and he loves women and he hates women who loves women,
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  Speaker 1: And that's I there's the rub. One sad thing about
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  Speaker 1: Lisa as well is that she has a complicated relationship
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  Speaker 1: with her daughter, and it seems like her daughter seen
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  Speaker 1: some shit and is still processing the trauma from that,
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  Speaker 1: And we're like, no, well can you just can you
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  Speaker 1: just also do some work on yourself, Lisa, Like what
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  Speaker 1: is the work that has been done? Because if your
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  Speaker 1: daughter can tell you that she has trauma from your
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  Speaker 1: choices and you can look her in the face and
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  Speaker 1: be like yep, it doesn't also seem like reasonable for
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  Speaker 1: you to lie to her face by saying you won't
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  Speaker 1: get married to a man that you are absolutely wanting
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  Speaker 1: to get married to the Only thing stopping Lisa from
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  Speaker 1: getting married to Daniel is not her daughter's absolute wish
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  Speaker 1: that she won't. It's more so the fact that she
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  Speaker 1: knows that if he knew, I mean one tenth the
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  Speaker 1: actual Lisa, that he wouldn't get married to her. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't even mean physically sure, Like the wig is
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  Speaker 1: one thing. She doesn't even need the wig. She has
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  Speaker 1: like very thick hair. She could grow it out. To me,
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  Speaker 1: it's not a big deal. I have short hair too,
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  Speaker 1: right now, it grows. But it's this she is still
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  Speaker 1: legally married to a woman now. When she met Daniel online,
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  Speaker 1: he was like, are you free to marry? And she
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  Speaker 1: was like, yep, totally free. Uh huh free, free, free,
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  Speaker 1: just like a day after Christmas sale. Shit's free here,
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  Speaker 1: you know. And no, she is nine years separated from
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  Speaker 1: her wife, and as she decides to hurry up and
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  Speaker 1: go to Nigeria, she like entrusts her daughter to get
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  Speaker 1: this certified divorce letter and then have to turn it
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  Speaker 1: around and mail it to her so that she can
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  Speaker 1: prove to this man that she's no longer married and
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  Speaker 1: to a woman. Lisa is too old too seasoned, But
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna stay old because I'm mad at her to
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  Speaker 1: let some young dumb man make her feel like she
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  Speaker 1: has to change her whole fucking life and lie to
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  Speaker 1: him to feel loved. Lisa, it's too late for you,
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  Speaker 1: and I mean this to play around with dumb shit
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  Speaker 1: like that. You've been married five fucking times. Why do
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  Speaker 1: you not know that people either love you or they don't.
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  Speaker 1: Like that's it. People either see or love you, accept
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  Speaker 1: it all, or they don't. You can't hide like your
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  Speaker 1: traits you think are unlovable or lie to them and
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  Speaker 1: think that's going to work. That's insane. It really is,
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  Speaker 1: it really is. And what's upsetting even more is that
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  Speaker 1: is that I guess that her daughter has to watch
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  Speaker 1: it all. I mean, that's it, and her daughter knows
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  Speaker 1: half of me. Is like, if the only good thing
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  Speaker 1: that happens from this whole season is that Lisa's daughter
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  Speaker 1: gets a fucking like breath of fresh air away from
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  Speaker 1: Lisa's trauma and Lisa's insecurity to finally, like make some
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  Speaker 1: friends that love themselves so she has an honest chance
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  Speaker 1: at this world at feeling good or fine or surviving.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you have to like, find a way to
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  Speaker 1: just be okay with yourself and not give a fuck
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  Speaker 1: what anyone else thinks. Because you like yourself, because you
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  Speaker 1: love yourself, because you feel like you're a good person,
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  Speaker 1: and you can't be told differently. Why why is it
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  Speaker 1: like so difficult for people to love themselves. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what Lisa's issue is, because on one side of it,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I've never been married to me. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: you should feel lovable only in that you found five
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  Speaker 1: people to love you, or at least pretend to you
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  Speaker 1: enough to get married. I would assume that the self
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  Speaker 1: confidence garnered from just other people claiming you would give
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  Speaker 1: you like some semblance of your own self love in
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  Speaker 1: this world. But it hasn't. For Lisa, it certainly hasn't.
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  Speaker 1: And I wasn't there for those relationships, although her daughter was.
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  Speaker 1: And again like, this is a again the best possible
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  Speaker 1: ninety a fiance situation where you're like, oh, it's horrible
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  Speaker 1: and she has no idea what's going to happen and
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  Speaker 1: it's bad news, and also be like, please don't make
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  Speaker 1: me sit through this again. I can't. It's true, it's true,
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  Speaker 1: Like it's traumatic for me to watch Lisa and I'm
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  Speaker 1: not her daughter. I'm just another woman living in this world.
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  Speaker 1: And also having had watched fourteen billion offshoots of four
• 12:23
  Speaker 1: hundred and sixty nine You're Welcome season of Nona Day Fiance,
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  Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh my god, so we get the
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  Speaker 1: she's obviously on her way to Nigeria, and the twenty
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  Speaker 1: four hours little jump back we get is of Daniel.
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  Speaker 1: He calls himself a Christian Igbo man Igbo. I'm so
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  Speaker 1: sorry if I said that wrong. They love competition, they
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  Speaker 1: love to work hard. Now what's interesting is it's always
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  Speaker 1: interesting when to me when there is kind of a
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  Speaker 1: marriage between what is a people and like culture and
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  Speaker 1: lineage that has nothing to do with Christianity, but obviously
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  Speaker 1: got people missionaries that came to their part of the
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  Speaker 1: world and preached Christianity, and some people were like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we'll buy it, we'll sign up, but we're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: let go like loving our gods. Like I find that
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  Speaker 1: so interesting. And I do like because I was obviously
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  Speaker 1: raised Catholic, and some Christians are like Catholics are a Christian,
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  Speaker 1: but that's not true, and we are and they are.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, one thing, about having to like submit
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  Speaker 1: to like Christianity is, you're supposed to definitely be like
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  Speaker 1: God and Jesus, not even Mary, fuck her. We don't
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  Speaker 1: like women. But God and Jesus are the God. It's
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  Speaker 1: one in the Holy Spirit, sometimes two, and they've been
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  Speaker 1: fighting over that Holy spirit one billion times. But Christians
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  Speaker 1: are like, we will you know, we're not gonna worship
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  Speaker 1: false gods. We like just that one. And so obviously
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  Speaker 1: Daniel's People is not the only like Christian group that
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  Speaker 1: subscribe to Christianity, and was also like, no, we got
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  Speaker 1: our own deal too. We're gonna have some brujaja, we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna have some witches, We're gonna have like some pagan shit,
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  Speaker 1: and we will just marry the both. Yes, we're Christian.
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  Speaker 1: Also we talk to God's through this spiritual healer. I
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  Speaker 1: like that because it's hypocritical, and then therefore it almost
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  Speaker 1: does seem kind of like christian Y. Right, Listen, the
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  Speaker 1: Christians out there that live by what Jesus said is
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  Speaker 1: to love thy neighbor as thyself and don't throw stones
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  Speaker 1: and all that stuff, if they could just get a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of a louder voice in politics or whatnot,
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  Speaker 1: I certainly would talk less shit, but that's not what's happening.
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  Speaker 1: So great, okay. So he's like, so this is what's up.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a great catch, very close to my family, except
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  Speaker 1: that my mom died, and so let me tell you,
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  Speaker 1: I'm still close to her. And she told me a
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  Speaker 1: couple of things that one time she was in war
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  Speaker 1: and the only way in which she survived that was
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  Speaker 1: that a white woman saved her from it. And so
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  Speaker 1: before she died, she was like, you find yourself the
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  Speaker 1: white woman that's going to save you, and Daniel did.
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  Speaker 1: Now Daniel is like, great, I found an old white
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  Speaker 1: woman who has boobs and money and she pays for
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  Speaker 1: my life. And I'd tell you that she has boobs
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  Speaker 1: and it's great, She's perfect for me. I'm just going
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  Speaker 1: to go talk to this spiritual person and find out
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  Speaker 1: if she's a good or bad omen And that spiritual
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  Speaker 1: person is like, yeah, I'll talk to the ancestors slash gods.
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  Speaker 1: We we actually believe in because we've been doing this
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  Speaker 1: shit longer than when the missionaries came here. We just
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  Speaker 1: had to like say yes to those crazy Bansheese to
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  Speaker 1: get whatever fucking food and money they were giving and
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  Speaker 1: the minute they loved like yep, Christians. And also let's
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  Speaker 1: get back to the real real religion here, which is
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to go speak to a spiritual man who's
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  Speaker 1: going to do some dice rolling honey in a cave
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  Speaker 1: and tell you what they think. And he is just
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  Speaker 1: like rolling this dice and he's like, you tell me,
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  Speaker 1: ancestors and gods, I'm not deaf, and listen and you
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  Speaker 1: eat that. You take that, and you tell me and
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  Speaker 1: the gods did. They're like, well, guess what that, Well,
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  Speaker 1: white woman's a good good sign. Now want to I
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  Speaker 1: want to say that we know Lisa isn't, but I
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  Speaker 1: want to think that like maybe the white woman that
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  Speaker 1: the ancestors and God saw was like one of the
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  Speaker 1: producers of nand Fiance, Like maybe that's what they saw
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  Speaker 1: and they're like, yeah, it's a great thing that they're coming,
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  Speaker 1: and like you'll be famous, so you'll be on TV
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  Speaker 1: and you know you can maybe get some sort of
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  Speaker 1: opportunity from that. But I can't imagine Lisa is only
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  Speaker 1: because we know all the things about Lisa. Yeah, Daniel
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  Speaker 1: is not a Daniel is like we don't like homosexuals here.
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  Speaker 1: We don't believe in it, and so no one can
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  Speaker 1: do it and we cast them out of the village. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I wonder how many times Lisa had to hear that
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  Speaker 1: and then just smile and like swallow. I don't one
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  Speaker 1: other thing about her. It's not just the gay thing,
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  Speaker 1: and that part is like one thing, but another thing
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  Speaker 1: that I wasn't expecting and neither were you. Was like,
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  Speaker 1: here's the problems with Lisa. One she vape. Okay, first
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  Speaker 1: of all, I think like everyone vapes. Uh now, okay,
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  Speaker 1: I mean if they're not vaping or spoking cigarettes. Oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, everyone's booking cigarettes again, have you noticed? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: he's you know, lived the world and it's different from ours,
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  Speaker 1: and everyone has their judgments. It's so interesting. It's interesting
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  Speaker 1: because Daniel is like, I'm so thankful that she pays
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  Speaker 1: for everything, and I want to be like, okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I get that. It's funny to me to have someone
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  Speaker 1: offer to pay for my whole life and then be like,
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  Speaker 1: but you better not do the things I don't like
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  Speaker 1: you to do. Don't leave the seat down, wait, lead
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  Speaker 1: the seat up. Sorry, that's what it is. Don't put
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  Speaker 1: the toilet paper roll where the paper comes out from
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  Speaker 1: the bottom. It just seems like if you are operating
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  Speaker 1: in a place of absolute gratitude for someone to pay
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  Speaker 1: for your whole life and change your life, I would
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  Speaker 1: try and like hinder any preconceived notions about what they
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  Speaker 1: can't do. That's just me. Listen, he really likes those
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  Speaker 1: boobs though, He's like, she's got them, and that's what
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  Speaker 1: I want. She's got secrets. Those boobs are full of secrets,
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  Speaker 1: daniel And you know what, many people have loved those boobs.
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  Speaker 1: They've squeezed them and they've grabbed them, and you gotta
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  Speaker 1: be okay with all those people. I wonder how many
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: times I wonder how many sexual partners Danielle thinks that
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Lisa's had, just knowing that her age alone, Like, is
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: he gonna be like, you've had more than two? You know,
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: just the person you had a baby with and maybe
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: one other. You're the person you just got divorced from
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: a man. I don't know. Again, this is so shitty,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: and it's shitty because of the fact that she has
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: a kid. It's always so shitty when they have kids.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: And I don't even care how old they are, but truly,
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: obviously her kid is older. It's just that she lied
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: to her daughter, and they have a code pendant relationship,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: and she's already traumatized her daughter. So if you're gonna
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: traumatize your daughter, don't lie to her. And at the
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: same time, Lisa's daughter has to watch this if she
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: doesn't know her mom and understand that her mom is
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: a lying sack of insecure shit. I know I'm being
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: harsh towards Lisa. It's just that I think that when
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: you take the responsibility of like caring for and raising
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: someone else, you have to be good about your word,
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: and you have to try to be like a good person,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: not just for yourself now, but for them. And Lisa
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: has like, you know, the mental emotional IQ of someone
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: who is like almost like a heavily sheltered fourteen year
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: old that has lived in a cult and is like
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: wanting to get away from the cult by pretending that
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: it's all going to work out with obviously one bad
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: choice where you're like no, but I understand because you've
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: never known anything and you think this person's your way out.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: But Lisa's obviously had five different weighs out. It's really
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: hard to deal with. And I also feel like, yeah,
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: I want her so badly to just be with a
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: hot lesbian that will allow her to have the normal
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: hair that she wants. She is obsessed with Daniel in
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: like his physical form, and so maybe she wants to
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: be with a man again for sure. But I mean
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I think that there's a part of Lisa that really
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: has to understand that she should find someone that like
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: is a little more on her page. And I mean
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: that across the board. I mean like someone who has
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: lived a life, has some more years on them, who
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: maybe isn't as physically attractive, and who probably doesn't need
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: her money as much. Like that's what she needs to find.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: And I wish to God that at some point that
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: at a certain age, we were all gifted like a
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: level of wisdom so that we don't make like horrible
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: choices over and over again. It's really hard to watch
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: someone do so, like, especially at an elder age, because
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: then if you're someone like me, you're like, well, am
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: I going to do that? Am I going to just
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: live in a fucking delusional world where I suddenly pretend
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: to fall in love with someone who obviously isn't for
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: me When I'm sixty goddamn seven and just like wants
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: to pretend that I'm with like a twenty two year
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: old from Columbia. I mean, no is the answer. But
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: also I wonder if Lisa is just like underneath it all,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: I have been so supremely unhappy that I'm willing to
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: risk everything, my reality, my own like hopes and dreams,
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: like how I'll feel at the end of this under
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: a morsel of hope that some man is going to
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: like I guess, marry me, claim me, and then live
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: happily ever after with me. I wonder what Daniel's mom thinks.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I feel like Daniel's mom has to come through with
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: that spiritual healer and be like I didn't mean her,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: I didn't mean that white woman. Can you go back
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: on plenty of fish? Can you find another one? Or
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: go to like Farmers only? I need you to like
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: marry like a I mean, like a conservative one, honey,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: like I don't know. Okay, let's move on. Uh oo, Okay,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: let's move on to a brand new couple, Jovon from
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: Alabama and Aneline. So we start off and we have
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: a very fun atmosphere. It's already like a good time
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: and the good time is bingo with old people. I
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: love bingo and I love old people, oh my god.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: And so does Devon too. He's like, let me tell you, honey,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: it's pure fucking comedy with them. They have absolutely no filter.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, then can they tell you about
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: how you might need some help anyway? God bless he
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: comes in to this old folks home with lemonade. It
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: is not just bargain basement lemonade. He's at least if
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: it's not freshly you know, freshly squeezed, it's been doctored
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: up with fresh lemon slices and herbs. And I found
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: that to be delightful. Ah. I was so happy for
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: these people. Honey, they're gonna have like just not some
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: country crop. I'm not gonna have just some minute made lemonade, honey,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: no country crock made lemonade. But they're gonna have what
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: felt like mint or basil. And this one nice lady
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: is like I tell you.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: I met my husband. He was a soldier and then
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: on our first date, he went to a fair and
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: he bought me this ring. It's a rose ring and
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: I still have it, and.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. First of all humble brag.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: He just kidding. It was a lot easier I guess
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: to just like meet the love of your life back then,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: or you just settled real hardcore and you didn't ask
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: any questions. I'm not quite sure which one it was,
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: but this lady did it. I loved her for a
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: bunch of reasons. A her eyebrows. B Because my grandmother
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: also married a soldier. My grandmother. It's like such a
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: crazy story that I'm gonna say real fast is from Oakdale, Louisiana,
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: where Oakus king and Pinus Queen, that's the phrase. And
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: she's Syrian, like very Syrian, but her dad was her
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: parents are Syrian. I mean she obviously her parents are
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: born in Syria. She is born on the boat coming
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: from fucking Syria, but she lands in Louisiana, so she
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: never has an Arabic accent, and she just has a
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Southern accent her whole life. She's like in the middle
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: of ten kids and they're just kicking it up in Louisiana.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Now at this point, it's like the nineteen thirties forties, right.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: I found this so interesting because I knew there was
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: like Arabs in the South, but when I went to Clarksdale, Mississippi,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: which is not where Louisiana is, but obviously you know,
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: somewhat some south, somewhat south Mississippi Delta. I got to
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: like heavily be where Tennessee Williams wrote all his plays,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: and he there there was a lot of Syrians. They
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: talk about the Syrians and the white people and the
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: black people around this area and like, wo how everything
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: came to be or whatever. Clarksdale's a very interesting town.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: If you watch Centers, that's Clarksdale. It's a birthplace of blues. Also,
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: as I said today Sue Williams, going back, I didn't
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: think about like how many Syrians there were. There wasn't
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: a Syria Lebanon yet because it was just called Greater
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: Syria because you know, other people decided to just make borders,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: and then Lebanon was born. And a lot of Christians
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: will call themselves Lebanese when they're in fact Syrian, just
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: because a lot of Christians Lebanon and that's how they decide.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: Because you know, people are feudal people, as you can tell.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: I tend to hang out with like minded people, and
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: religious religious divides are along those things all that to say,
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: my grandmother is living in Louisiana in the war, there's
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: like people that are stationed in the war, soldiers and
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: some of the Syrian soldiers, because they're Syrian soldiers, they
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: are told that there's a part of Oakdale, Louisiana where
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of Syrians, so that if they go
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: into town, they can be expected to be like hosted
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: by people, you know, cousins, not really, but you know,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: by people that know them or know their family. So
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: there would be Syrian soldiers that would go into her town,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: and then just other Syrian household would just open up
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: their homes and be like, come on in for dinner.
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: Here's some kefta, here's some hummus, here's some tabuli. We
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: know what you like. Thank you for fighting for America,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: the land that we're all in now. And my grandmother
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: met a Syrian soldier in her small ass fucking town,
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: and then for the rest of my grandmother's life she
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: was like, you marry another Syrian too, it's super easy.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, Grandma, I don't know, Grandma, okay. So
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: it worked out for my grandmother, though it worked out
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: for this nice lady at the bingo home. I don't
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: know if she's gonna get bingo, but it feels like
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: in her life she already did. Javan is waiting for
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: his bingo to come up. Honey, Javon tells us his story.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: He's like, it's hard out there for me. Women nowadays,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: American women, they want a six pack, they want six
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: figures and they want six inches and I don't have that.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: And we're like, wow, that's a lot of information about
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: your dick. We didn't know. Oh no, Javon, I mean
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: we can talk about this, Okay, let's let's break this down.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: I personally have never wanted a man with a six pack,
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: and I feel like society in the Internet has made
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: it perfectly fucking clear that a lot of women don't
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: need like a hard bodied man. In fact, we kind
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: of like a little bit of a dad body, or
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: a little bit of softness at least I do. I mean,
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: maybe if you are like a very fit person, I
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: mean very fit, I mean like a very low percentage
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: of body fat. Yeah, maybe you're like I also want
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: people with low percentage of body fat, But that's not me,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: and I don't feel like a lot Javonne. I don't
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: think a lot of women around him are like, we
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: won't tolerate you because of the way you look. Because
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: he's attractive. He's like, you know, tall, attractive, he's kind
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: of he has a great face, he has great hair. Like,
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: there's nothing about his physicalness that would make him to
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: me that he should feel insecure. But he tells us
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: this line, the six back line. We're like, okay, six figures.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Now he's like, I don't make a lot of money
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: in this home, and that makes me sad because I
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: love how he's caring for these older people, and I
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: feel like he should be compensated. And I'm going to
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: agree with him that women want a man that has
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: financial means. Yes, that is the one. Yes, we do
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: women and this is a generalization, but cisgender, heterosexual, whatever,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: God bless, Yes, they usually want a man that has
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: financial security. But you know who doesn't, Lisa. You know
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: who doesn't, Laura. These women can't believe how lucky they
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: are to be with men that have no money, not
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: one figure, not one figure anyway, Javon, So you're right,
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: And then he says the six inchest thing, and we're like, oh,
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: what a weird way to say, you have a small dick,
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: and how small is it? Why do you feel insecure
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: about it? Okay, the number is the sixty six and
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: six is a devil's number, huh. But also be as
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: some throwback. Obviously as a female, I can say that
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: there has been also things that we have been told
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: that men want. And I can tell you numbers five, three,
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: under one, ten that was like something that like in
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: the fifties and sixties men wanted, and then from like
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: the fifties and sixties until now it felt like oh
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: twenty or thirty six, twenty four, thirty six right. For
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: some reason, it's very well known that men like love
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: hot women, and there are you know, it is true
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: for me that the size I am has affected the
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: the I guess, the flirtation and or dates I've been
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: asked on, or the way men treat me. I feel
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: confident in saying that. So for Javon, I'm like, I
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: think you really only have to worry about the figures
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: the money, because I even think that there's like women
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: who are like yes, I think they're women that are
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: like size queens. And I also think that women are like, eh,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: that's fine. What else can you do, you know, and
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: what else can he do in bed? He could easily
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: make that up. We find out that he is married,
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: which is interesting because this is supposed to be before
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: the ninety days, and it kind of is in that
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: they've never met, and also it's it's she's not we're
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: not talking about a visa yet. But the reason why
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: they got married was because a Anna was like, you
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: can easily come into the country if you're a spouse
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: or family, and this is how you do it. Now,
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: what happened was they found an online marrying place. They
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: get married online, and then COVID happens, and again he
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: doesn't have the money so he can't go to the Philippines,
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: and then years go by. They've been married, he says,
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: for two years, and she's like, no, he's dumb. It's
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: almost three. But it's a six year relationship. And she's
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: also like he is to look at honey, he is yummers.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: He's like, I had doubts about her, but I also
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: had faith. And when you know, you know, I wonder
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: if like Lisa heard that. She's like, yeah, you know,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: you know. He also says when he first met her,
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: it was like super positive vibes, but unfortunately, he says
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: she has changed, and then she says, honey, that she
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: didn't change, She just doesn't like to be controlled and
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: she doesn't want to be like a typical submissive person.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: She literally says, men's do not control me in obviously
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: a way we've heard before, and we respect it. Men's
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: don't control me either. Girl. I don't like this because
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: we start to realize that there's like this storyline of
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: her being crazy or abrasive or whatnot, but what is
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: making it happen is his shittiness. So he's out shopping
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: with his sister, Ashley, who is cute and has her
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: shit together because she has adorable tortoise shell glasses on
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: so she can see what's happening. And she also picks
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: out a shirt for him that is hideous, which I
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: also feel like she knew it was bad. It's purple.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: It looks like it looks like again, one of those
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know why I say it again. It looks
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: like one of those weird art pieces like from the
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: nineties where you have to look at it and then
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: fuck up your eyes and then like something pops out
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: at you in the middle. It's like geographic, it's gross.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: He buys it knowing it's gross. She's like, here's the thing.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: Your wife calls me, like while I'm at my work
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: and I can't get off the phone, and she's complaining
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: about you and some woman. Now half of me is like, Ashley,
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: watch you pick up the phone. If you're at work,
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: that's on you. That's a boundary. If you don't want
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: to talk, then don't pick up the phone. Or if
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: you're at work and you can't talk, don't pick it
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: up the phone. Or if you're at work and someone's
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: texting you, you say you're at work, you can't talk,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: and you'll call them when you can, Okay, But like,
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: don't pick up the phone and then complain that she
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: won't get you off the phone. You have like every
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: option to just hang up. She also is like, so
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: what is this thing about this woman? And like what
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: is what's happening? And then she has to hear her
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: dumb brother be like, yeah, uh, I just kept I'm
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: talking to this lady that I used to know and
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: we like lost touch. But then when I was feeling
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: shitty about my marriage, I reached out to her again
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: and we've been talking and then I somehow told that
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: to Annalin and she had the absolutely astute reaction of
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: being like, that's emotional cheating. Don't fucking do that. And
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: I've like not taken that well, I think she's crazy,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: and Ashley's like, why the fuck are you saying? That's
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: exactly it. I mean. Javon then turns all of this
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: around to be like.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well she just like isn't you can't talk to
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: her and like it's really hard and just like feel
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: really bad for her myself, and so I had to
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: talk to this lady. They're like, yeah, maybe one time
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: we almost hooked up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, there.
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: Was like a little history there, and that's what Ash's like,
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: shut the fuck up, you asshole. That's what I said.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: As she's like, Anna, it's a good time. She's funny,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: you know, So if I were you, I would just
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: fucking bite the bullet and just like whatever she's saying
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: is probably true. He thinks it's okay to go outside
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: of this marriage to talk about the marriage, and then
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: this is another weird thing. He's like, yeah, Annel and
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: blocked me. But the next day he's supposed to be
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: finally going to the Philippines. So then they FaceTime. This
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: feels fake and she's like, yeah, your sister told me
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: to unblock you, and now what do you want? And
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: he's like, well, can you not be so fucking harsh?
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: And I would be like, are you guys seeing are
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: you seeing each other tomorrow? And on her stand, are
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: you planning on okay, he's like, you just won't take
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: accountability and she's like for what and he's like, yeah,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: because you're not easy to talk to. And she's like,
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: so talk to someone in your life then about it.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: And he's like, well I tried. And he's like, She's like,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: you have a fucking mom, and you have a dad,
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: you have a sister who I talked to, You're American.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: Get therapy. And I loved it for that statement. Now,
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: this also made me feel like she thinks that he
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: has more money than he does. But it also made
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: me think, is he working in the health industry in
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: a way that they provide benefits? Because if they're providing benefits,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: then we would see if mental health is one of them.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: He wants her to take accountability for how she made
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: him talk to another woman. And that's when I said
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: to myself javon, Your small ass dick is the least
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: of your problems. That's the least of your problems, buddy.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: That's crazy. The fuck are you gonna say that this
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: woman should be nice to you all the time, and
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: if she isn't, you're going to go have a conversation
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: with some bish you've already like tried to hook up
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: with and then put that on her. No, that's not rational.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to turn it around. Okay, So if I'm
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: married and I can't talk to my husband, which then
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: I would talk to a friend you know, or someone else.
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: But let's just say, would I blame? Would I be like,
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: You're you're not easy to talk to, So I talk
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: to someone else that like, is only too happy to
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: also maybe give me his dick. It doesn't bode well
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: because a couple of things. You should be able to
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: talk to your significant other in spouse. You should also
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: have like boundaries and security within yourself so that you
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: can say the things you need to say and then
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: be okay with the consequences. The consequences when you're married
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: to someone you've never met is like that person yells
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: at you on a phone or on a FaceTime, in
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: which case, just like Ashley, you could just hang the
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: fuck up, or you could also just not marry someone
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: that you've never met. I mean, I don't quite understand
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: why you would get married to someone if you don't
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: even have enough money to go visit them. I wonder
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: who pushed for that, And if it was her, then
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: I need that to be then I do need to
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: lean into the fact. But how rich does she think
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: that he is? And is it one of those things
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: where she thinks all Americans are rich? At the same time,
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: it's like a little bit of a like a double
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: edged sword, because what he's saying is that American women
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: won't be with him because he doesn't have six pack
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: and six figures and six inches And so what is
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: he expecting, like a really beautiful woman in a different
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: country to be okay with because we already know, you
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: know what he doesn't have, And he also doesn't have
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: like communication skills, and he doesn't seem to have a
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: lot of like wherewithal or a lot of like dignity
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: in himself. Also, are we all like, why aren't you
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: with that bitch that you keep talking to? Then why
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: don't you just like Meneline, you made a fucking mistake.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: And the good news is is that you know it's
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: just a marriage online. You can easily get rid of it.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: I'm sure you've never meant real life. It's surely not
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: been consummated. Is that a real law Who knows? But
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: this same time, this feels kind of like Laura and Michael,
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: like who is this woman and why aren't you with her?
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: Maybe he's like, yeah, she's in a marriage too that
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: she's unhappy with. And then I'd be like, does her
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: husband know that she talks to you and that she
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: once also had ad alliance with you? And is her
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: husband in this country? Answer all these questions for me?
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: So Anneline's like, I've sacrificed by waiting for you. I've
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: been waiting for you to get your shit together, and
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: you surely haven't until I guess now, and then I
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: really wouldn't want to see you. And she sort of
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: gets him to say that he'll stop talking to that
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: other woman, and then he's like, yeah, only if we
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: work on communication. I would be like, Oh, if you
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: want to be with her and you want to talk
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: to her, then just be with her and talk to her.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: Good Bye. I can go back to doing whatever the
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: fuck I'm doing. Now. We have to believe that she
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: really has aneline sacrificed by waiting for him. We have
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: to believe that she's not entertained any other suitors. She
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: surely I believe that she finds the physically attractive, at
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: least on paper. I really want to know if he
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: sent her any money. That's what I need to know.
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: He does have a job, and he lives in Alabama,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: so he is making money in a place that doesn't
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: seem to cost a lot of money to live. Okay,
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: that's rude, I'm sorry. So all I'm gonna say is
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: that where is the money going that he makes? And
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: is this like a temporary job or is this like
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: a part time job. He seems sad and he knows it.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: He seems just like a little like a failure to launch,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: or like someone who is like stuck in a cycle
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: of feeling bad for themselves and like not wanting to
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: like really take accountability for where they are. I really
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: would have been on his side up until he said
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: that she needs to take accountability for the fact that
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: he went to go talk to another lady. And now
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: I know he isn't shit. I mean, and by on
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: his side, I would have still been like, oh, buddy,
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: you and your small dick, Why why broadcast that to
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: the world, you know, because we have to assume that
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: you know, there's a good possibility that this is gonna
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: work out with Anna Lyin, and you have a lot
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: of years on you to let the entire world know,
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: like how you can't fill out like a boxer brief,
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: you know. Okay, let's move on to Emma and Zaied. Well,
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: after the first night that was horrible, he decides to
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: go play with something that is easier for him to
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: deal with, snakes. He just goes into town, honey and
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: just is like, I'm gonna like hang out with a
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: snake charmer and do some of that some of these
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: like b roles. I'm like, oh my god, how prevalent
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: are snake charmers in Morocco. I guess I have to
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: go to be like is this on every street corner?
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: Because it feels like a trope by the way, I mean,
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: a lot of people are saying from the other way
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: that like, well, I'll go back to that. Maybe Dylan
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: of the other way like has his awtiness that's a
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: kind of a trope, like how much he eats kangaroo
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: and all that stuff. But so I want to always know,
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: like how many snake charmers are happening in Morocco, because
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: it seems like it seems wild for Zaiuy to be like,
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: I need to get out of the house and do
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: what I like to do. Play with some snakes, flew
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: with some snakes. So when we get back to Emma Honey,
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: we get a lot of information just by virtual cues.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: She's using a hair straightener to straighten her already straight
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: wig hair. I guess that's what it lays, right, So
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: she's just constantly straightening fake fucking hair synthetic. I didn't
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: know what the smell of that hot tool smells, like,
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I can I can smell it. You
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: know who can also smell it? That lovely woman who
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: is like the worker servant of the home that they're
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: staying in. She's also putting on bronzer and it's in
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: a stage at Beverly Hills, and I see that on
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: her Instagram. I have seen a lot of comments. She's
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: curating her Instagram so that people are like, oh, you're
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: so hot and what makeup do you use? And she's like,
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: oh girl, this and that. At one point I saw
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: a Reddit post where she said that she has like
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: a part of her is African America's Black American, black American.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: We I don't know if that's where that is exactly.
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: I have to just I guess believe her and pretend
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: you know that I didn't see her twin sister, And
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: if it was just her sister, it would be like okay,
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: but it said she said twin. I mean, I don't know, listen,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: is Emma Rachel dalzol or does she have black American
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: and her who knows? I have no idea, but it
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: was like brought up like as maybe like talking about
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: whether she uses wigs or not, and she's just like,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: I have hair. I just like wigs better. She I
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: bring up like the fact that what her ethnicity is,
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: because she seems to be doing what the Kardashians did,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: not just the fact that she has absolutely modeled her
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: entire entire vocabulary in cadence to the Kardashian tongue, but
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: also like she certainly seems to be bronzing herself darker,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: like wanting to appear of a different ethnicity, because I
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: do feel like if you were to take off the
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: wig and the makeup and the bronzer, she would look
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: just like her twin sister. And I think her twin
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: sister is really beautiful, and I think that Emma is
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: like a pretty girl. It's just that everything is very distracting,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: like the amount of caked on makeup, and like the
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: like colors of her makeup, and of course the wig
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: and where it's sitting, and also the bronze of her hairline,
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: and I mean and the fillers and all of the botox.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: You know, it's a lot. I will say that think
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: that her boob job is like a lovely size though,
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: And obviously women have a horrible time in this world
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: trying to be as beautiful as they can be to
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: attract whatever men they can attract, you know, because that's
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: the way things are. Emma has already been married to
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: another Moroccan man, so I don't know if like she
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: just has like a thirst for hummus she got that
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: hummus fever, honey, I'm quite sure, but it's it's interesting
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: she because she said that she's been married before, it
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: does feel like she is aiming towards a certain life
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: like Tiger Lily was like this too, where they want
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: to be treated like princesses and they feel like Arab
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: men treat them like princesses when they play along, and
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: that is that is it? I would say, like from
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: my vantage point as being a Syrian Lebanese woman, the
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: kind of man that is Arab that wants to treat
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: their woman like a queen or princess, and like this
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: only works if you play along with making them the
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: king at all times and the king's word always flies,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: is it? Now? If you're American, that's a hard fucking
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: pill to swallow because what you're swallowing is your entire self, identity, tongue, opinion,
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: all of that. You just have to like keep it
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: down so that you can pretend to be a pretty
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: little princess, you know, and pretty little princesses you know. Yeah,
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: Like maybe they hold a door for you, or they'll
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: put in your chair and that's to be expected, or
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: they'll hold your bags for you. But you sacrifice a lot,
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: especially for someone like Zayed who isn't even making her
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: feel like a pretty princess in that he can pay
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: for her whole life. Yeah, he can buy her like
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: a wallet, but Emma just seems to be wanting to
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: cosplay as like someone else. So I don't know what's
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: to be believed or not. People in the streets are like,
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: she's tried to be on the show before, that's why,
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: And maybe she just wants to be famous, and certainly
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: I think that she does want to be famous, Like
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: I certainly think that she would absolutely love to be
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: considered like a hot girl Instagram Battie Kardashian influencer, which
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: she's not the only one, you know. She a lot
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: of people that are like, oh, Hakaina, you're like Shakaina,
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: and I think that she's eating that shut up. But
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: basically they go and have a beautiful breakfast. She hates eggs,
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: but she'll eat them, and she apologizes for rejecting his
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: kiss and that this is awesome okay, and then he's like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: thank you for apologizing to me. Let me hear it again.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: And then they go out and about they go to
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: a bizarre suit Bedina to shop. She lets him know
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: that she's been fired from her job and he's like, yeah,
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: I don't worry about those other jobs. It's like very typical.
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: Uh huh, Okay, she gets that's not gonna be. She
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: has to understand if she wants comfort, it's not going
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: to be from Zayed. I think sometimes a lot of
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: Americans want emotional comfort from, you know, the people that
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: they're interested in that are from different countries, and those
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: different countries don't value emotional comfort talks. Annelin doesn't from
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: the Philippines, Like she doesn't want to fucking have to
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: hear her dumb husband and complain about his problems. No,
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: and zay Ed is from a country where they don't
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: talk about that shit. I just don't. He doesn't want
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: to hear about your problems, not at all. But as
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: they shop and as she's like hold this, and she's like,
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: I just, you know, want to tell you about things,
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: and he's like, I don't want to hear it. She's like,
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: I just want to tell you about my past. He's like, fuck,
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: that past never happened. He's like, if it happened, fine,
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: but I already know. If they need to know about you,
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: you're hot and you're here and she's like, no, no, no,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: that's not it. There's things you don't know about me.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: I've been married before, I don't have a Morocan and
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: he's like, n I just don't care. Really hear me
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: when I say I don't care about that, I mean again,
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: she didn't actually say that, she thought that in her mind.
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: But he doesn't care about her past because he doesn't
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: want to hear it, and he doesn't definitely want to
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: tell her about his and he doesn't want any negativity.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: Arab men don't. They just want like a woman just
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: to sit there and look pretty and like make them
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: feel good about themselves. Period. Not all men, but the
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: Arab men that like portray this like I'm gonna do
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: this and you're gonna be that, and I'm the king
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: and you're the queen. It's like the tiger lily ad
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: non stuff. It's that like specific kind that are this way.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: They don't want to hear about your problems. They don't
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: want you to tell them that they're wrong, and they
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: don't want you to like make it hard for them
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: to get to the next moment. They only want women
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: that will lubricate the present moment so that it's easier
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: to get to the next moment in the future. By lubricate,
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: I mean lubricate the present moment with utter sweetness and obedience, levity, fun, sweetness,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: maybe affection. That's it. But don't come with any other
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: part of you. Definitely don't come with like your thoughts
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: or your worries. Leave them at the door. They're not
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: to be here. So I will say that it's interesting
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: they are in this beautiful like shopping area. There's like
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: horse rides and stuff like that, and it was like
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: almost like, I mean, this might feel like a very
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: truisty part. It was like it's almost like, yeah, you're
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: taking a horse ride in Central Park, but it's in Morocco. God,
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: he decides to eat snails in front of her, and
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: she's like, girls, that's someone grons evil. How can you
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: do that? And I also want to be like, okay, well,
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: let me just say this. If you're going to try
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: and be a Kardashian Instagram battie, one part of that,
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: other than you having to look a certain way, is
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: you having to portray aspirational wealth. You know what I'm saying,
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: Like all the Instagram people like want to take pictures
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: of them in beautiful places and a beautiful dinner, so
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: that you like, you know, showcase a certain amount of
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: aspirational wealth, which is like what the Kardashians and the
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: Real Housewives do. It's like kind of their thing. It's
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: like this the thought, and I think it's dying if
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: it's not completely dead that people want to follow people
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: to be like, oh that could be me, or I
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: wish that would be me. I wish I was rich.
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: I wish I drove around and Armae covered Bentley's and
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: I wish I, you know, went to capied in Rock.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: I wish you know whatever it is? So why am
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: I saying all this? Because snails are like a delicacy,
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: Snails are risk cargo, go to France, it's fucking everywhere.
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: So to me, I was also like, Emma, I mean,
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: you can't talk about snails and then try and be
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: like a sophisticated bitch because like, snails are kind of fancy,
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't eat them. I'm just unfortunately, I'm getting to
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: be even more like closed off when it comes to foods.
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: I've gotten to this place where I basically only eat
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: chicken and beef and a salam in like salami, Like
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: I'll only eat pork if it's aged. I don't even
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: like pork fresh. So weird. He's like, yeah, I'll eat
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: these snails. I'll tell you what's weird. Sushi. She's like sushi,
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: that's crazy. And then she gets to be like, well,
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: if I can't give you a kiss, I'll give you
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: air kisses. And she's happy to be like when he
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: tells her that he does not want to hear about
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: her past, we have to in real time watch someone
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: realize that he does not care about her, but she's
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: gonna hold on to like the play of it all
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: by being like, Okay, you don't want to hear about
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: me in my past? What anything I've been through? You
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: just think you know everything about me? She knows he
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: doesn't know everything about her. She knows in that moment
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: how stupid he sounds by being like, I don't know
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: nothing about you. The fact that Zayid could say such
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: a thing obviously makes him makes him well, he is dumb.
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: He's like a stupid, ignorant boy from like a from
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: a very you know, interesting part of the world, and
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: he has like rarely thought about what life is like
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: out of it. But so is she. In fact, I
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: thing that like, maybe the only thing on this show
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: that you have to be is a little bit ignorant
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: about how other people live. It is like, you have
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: to be ignorant how other people live, and you have
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: to have and I like some sort of also a
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: deep desire to change the person you're with, to only
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: live in the world you've known. Anyway, I mean to
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: think about that for a long time, but I think
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: it's true. So let's move on to Forest and Sheena.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: Now this is hard, so a let me say, the
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: streets have on Reddit have brought up Forrest's tweets where
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: he's like less than kind about like different people like
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: Sabrina Carpenter about being like and I'll like her or whatever,
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: and people have been like, oh, Force is a bad
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: person because of that, And I don't understand those things.
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: To me, these tweets are just very online with someone
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: who is a person who's on the spectrum open about
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: that and a virgin and has lived with a person
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: like Molly. All of his tweets, just not to beat
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: a dead horse, are just the ignorant tweets of a
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: man who has never put his penis in a woman
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: and then has probably watched a lot of porn and
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: then decides to you know, voice his own opinions without
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: you know, really caring how they look, and they're direct,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: very rude opinions, but that's on brand to me. Okay, Sheena,
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: I will tell you Sheena and I have forged a
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: relationship on TikTok. This is Chris Farah talking. This is true,
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: And I love Sina, and I think Sheina might be
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: on the show, like I'm gonna try and get her
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: on the podcast. But I like Forest and Sheena, and
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: obviously Forest's mom is the villain here, and whether she's
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: actually a villain or whether they're making her out to
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: be a villain. It's interesting because one thing about this
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: is that we've met Mollie and she obviously is an
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: antagonistic person in this storyline, but we also are supposed
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: to also believe that she Anda's parents are also antagonistic
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: and or villainous. Now in the next episode, in the
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: previews for the next episode, Sheina has to literally say
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: to Molly, my parents are bad people. And Molly's like,
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: what the story is a change in now and I
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: want to be like, Molly, you're a bad person? Are
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: you good or you bad? But the truth of the
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: matter is, well, this is the truth. No one is
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: entirely good or entirely bad. That's just the way it is,
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: Like black and white thinking this person's bad, this person's good,
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: it's just not it. The farther way can get away
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: from like judgmental thinking bad good, black white, you know,
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: like it's just well. The more emotionally evolved we are
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: as people, and we can hold space for others. We
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: can see others, We have empathy for others, and we
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: understand I mean the many lives, not all of them,
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: the many we understand, like the many worlds there are
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: on this on this planet. And how you can be
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: from Nigeria and you know, say you're a Christian and
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: be talking to gods through some healer, you know, like
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: that's different from us, you know, But how can you
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: be Javon and then finally find a woman that tolerates
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: you and is happy that you, you know, call her
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: and she's hot, she thinks you're hot, and she certainly
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: doesn't care about your you know, lack of abs or
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: your bank account. And how can you fuck all that
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: up by talking to someone else? I don't know, it
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: just does. People make choices, and people think the things
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: that they think, and people are raised in whatever ways
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: in worlds and religions that they're raised, and it's as
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: individual and specific as it is to you as it
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: is to them. And all of the things that they
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: know that they have like put money on the things
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: that they hold true that they then base other things
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: on being true, like has to be true for them
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: for them to understand how the world works, as long
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: as in the many times in which you can like
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: open up your mind to see that, like the what
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: you thought was right might not be right, or what
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: you thought was true changed, because there is no constant
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: in this world but change. Here we are, so we
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: get a lot of information. So mom, so the mom,
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: I was sorry, Molly, is you know, making sex jokes
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: with Forrest? And shea like a lot And she obviously
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: has had a weird relationship with Forrest where she feels
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: very comfortable to make sex jokes, but at the same
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: time she's like, and he does it with me. He's
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: been talking that way with me too. Well, you're the mom. Also,
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: Forest doesn't seem like he has a lot of friends.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: It seems like you're only his friends. So he kind
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: of like probably put on you a lot. And that's
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: something Mollie as you if you, if you have like
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: the wherewithal to have, probably you or Dev should have
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: told Forrest to like make some male friends and talk
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: about sex with them, and not Dev and your mom.
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: We also find out that Sheina owns an apartment, but sorry,
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: Sheina has a part. Shina has an apartment that her
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: parents own, and that when Forrest and Mollie and Dev
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: came to visit her, she and his parents were like, well,
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: you can't stay with us unless you pay us rent.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: And they were, you know, horrified by that, and we're like,
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: absolutely fucking not. And I agree, I heartily agree. I
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: think it's very telling of them to want to charge
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: them rent. It's not how you treat anyone that you
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: think is gonna be a family, And it's definitely not
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: how you treat anyone that you want to impress. And
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: it's definitely not how you treat anyone who's going to
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: marry your child and you respect your child. Yeah, they're
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: driving in the Philippines and forces like it's hectic, you know,
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: But we got there and they go into the like
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: Airbnb where they're staying and he's holding that jackfruit, uh,
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: and he makes a sexual joke to his mom. She
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: touches the top and she's like, it's dicky. He's like, well,
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: don't touch it there, it's excited at the top. So
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: what he said is don't touch what looks like a
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: big dick because there's come on it to his mom.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: And I do think that this is a very toxic
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: relationship between these two people that is weird and I
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: don't like it, and Dev hates it even more. It's
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: why like Dev barely speaks because like he's so disgusted,
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: and I think that it like it comes from you know,
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: no one telling Molly to shut the fuck up about
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: sex in front of her like son and also at
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: him some fucking friends. The place they stay are staying
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: has two bedrooms and the two bedrooms are shared by
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: a wall that is as thin, I mean as a
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: business card. It's a very thin wall, so thin you
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: can hear Dev's thoughts like it's a small wall. And
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: the first night, Forrest brings out all the lingerie that
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: he bought for Shena and she's like into it. He
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: also lets us know, well, let me say this, he
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: buys her that he brings up the lingerie and he's like,
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: I got this cloth that goes on your body to
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: accentuate your sexuality. And when he said that, we all laughed.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: Cloth that goes on your body to extenuate your sexuality,
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: like not your curves, but your sexuality are your are
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: are the It was all so formulaic. It was almost
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: just like, yeah, it was so textbook. It was so
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: what a nerdy thing to say. Shina loved it. She
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: loved it. And also, I want to give them the
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: props for having this scene in what looked like very
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: stark overhead lighting. The lighting was much too bright. It's
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: much too I mean, what's the word when it's not
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: incandescein it's, well, that's stark white lighting. It's I mean
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: it's not yet, it's I mean, it looks like you're
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: about to, like, you know, take an sat test, honey.
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: That lighting was too much. And Forrest is like, you know,
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: I want to wait to have sex because I've waited
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: this whole long, and she is a virgin, I'm a virgin,
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: and like it just seems like we should get to
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: know each other before we have sex. And it's like
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: a really beautifully mature thing for them both to say.
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: I was really happy about that, because it is hard
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: to like, I'm sure be a virgin with another virgin.
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't know, and you know, feel all the feelings
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: that you're feeling and then not just get super excited
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: and be like, well, I'm supposed to do this thing,
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: and she wants to do this thing, and we're supposed
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: to be doing these things, so let's do it to
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: be a good normal couple or whatever. Like they don't
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: have that. It makes me really proud of them. They
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: seem to, within themselves, have found like a language and
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: an understanding that feels respectful for both people. Even though
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: Forrest and Shina seemingly have one thing in common, I'm
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: sure they talk about a lot, which is a fear
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: of their parents. For still thinks he can blow sheina
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: socks off, and I mean, i don't know exactly why
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: he feels so confident. I'm assuming that he feels confident
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: because like he's been making sex jokes to his mom's
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: whole time, and his mom laughs at them, and somehow
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: he thinks that like that alone will be indicative of
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: a being good at bed. If I'm good at sex jokes,
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, the answer is now the next day they're
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: driving to Chinatown and then shein it gives us this
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: like great history that before the Spanish, you know, came
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: over and pretty much did whatever they did to the Philippines,
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: that China had been there a long time was a
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: huge trade route. And so there's like one of the
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: oldest China towns there with a really like fascinating history
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: and lots of cool old timey things. There's a word monuments.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure what she said, and she herself
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: is like Chinese and Filipino. Now in the car, Molly's like, well.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: I heard some interesting things. I heard some sounds last night.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: Did you guys do the old nookie nookie?
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: And this is this is after she had made the
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: joke about them when they're the confessionals, where she was
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: like a little Wonka Wonka. There's a part of Molly's
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: like sex humor or humor that is like cat skills,
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, like very old timey, like Charlie Chaplin esque
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: or whatever, like the circuit of like comedians. The old
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: nookie nookie is this cringiest thing you could possibly say.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: All of our faces like melt off at like the
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: thought of this woman saying that, Oh, so you didn't
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: hear that. You didn't hear any interesting things. What you
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: heard was Sheina being like, thank you for this purple
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: fucking laingerie, and yeah, turn off the lights. That's what
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: she heard. Also, could you imagine a world in which
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: she knows, like Molly, I heard dev gurgling up your
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: pjuice last night. I mean no, I mean obviously not.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: I just this. The fact that she has no idea
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: how she comes off or how horrible she is is sad.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: Now is Molly horrible? Not entirely, but surely she's not
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: aware of her capacity for horribleness. And I'm always somewhat
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: shocked because I feel like I am. I do feel
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: like I'm aware of my horror, of my capacity for horribleness,
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: And I feel like if I was on TV, you
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: would see a different version of me. You would see
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: someone on their fucking best behavior. You wouldn't see the
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: person you're listening to or talking to. Now, I mean,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: this is my real self, But I mean I'm not
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: being paid to be on TV. You know, I'm just
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: getting opinions on TV. But like, my horribleness is like
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: probably rooted in, like my privilege and me being an
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: only child, and I have always been, I think, definitely
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: aware of that, and so I just I just yeah,
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: I think. But on TV I would be like, well,
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: what a beautiful part of town, Sina can't wait to
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: meet your loving family who just seems to have some
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: disagreements with how we'd feel comfortable. But let's just see
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: what happens. You know, I don't know Molly doesn't have
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: those problems. Molly's been you know, hyped up by a
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: son and by Dev her whole fucking life to like
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: come to a whole different country and tell people how
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: to live their world. So in this car we have
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: to have Molly being like, well, if you want to
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: talk to me about sex, you can always talk to me,
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: or you can talk to Dev, and Dev's voices his
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: voice to be like, I'm interested in sex. Let me
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: tell you it takes a good long time to be good.
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: And Molly's like yeah, yeah, yeah. And if you don't
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 1: want to have penetrative sex, you can have oral sex
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: or fondling. And then Forrest is like fucking what. And
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: also if I want to talk to you about sex,
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: which mom I usually do, let's be honest I'll come
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: to you, I'll ask you to talk about it. But
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: this seems awkward to do in front of Sheena. Now,
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: Mollie doesn't want anything to change. Molly doesn't want anything
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: to change in her life or Forrest's life. She somehow
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: wants forced to like absorb Sheena's entire life and then
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: have Sheina just be well, I guess what Zaied wants.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: Molly wants Sena to provide the lubrication of ease in
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: the present moment, to get her and her son to
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: the next moment without a care in the world. And
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: Sina is like a whole ass person with wants, dreams, desires,
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: fears and securities, and that is annoying to Molly. She
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: doesn't want to hear it. It doesn't help what she wants.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: We get a little bit of interesting b roll, which
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: is that or whatever or interesting snaps during this part
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: of Chinatown, which is that there is a procession of
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 1: Catholic culture, and then Sheena is like fiesta. It's a fiesta,
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: which is you know, the bord party in Spanish. And
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: I had to do a deep dive, and my deep dive,
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: I literally just had to text my beautiful Filipino producer
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: Christina be like, what what is that? What's fiesta? And
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 1: then Christina was like, oh girl, it's like a feast.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: It's like they're just like it's a feast of one
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: of the saints. You know, You're like, oh yeah, we will.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: Catholics love a fucking feast of a saint. I mean,
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: my god, you don't even like talk about that anymore.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 1: That that's like some hardcore Catholic shit, like where you
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: have name days and the feasts of your name day
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: when you like you name your child, whatever the saint
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 1: was that was that day. There's three hundred there's more
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: than probably two hundred and sixty five saints, because there's
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: a santy day of the year. Every sorry, every day
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 1: there's a saint associated with that day. They must have
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: processions like this all the time. Must be like a
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: parade culture. So at this point, Shina is showing them
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: around and doing a great job, and then she is like,
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: wait one second, I know what you guys like. It's eating.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna take you to a place where they do
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: handmade noodles and I'm like, oh my god, it's handmade,
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: like ramen or handmaide whatever. I'm not quite sure exactly
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: and I'm afraid to fuck it up, but obviously handmade
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: noodles is what I'm gonna like rest my laurels on.
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: And she even is like, yeah, you guys enjoy slurps up.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: I know you're gonna do it anyway, And they do.
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: They slurp the shit out of this like yummy ass
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: soup with these noodles like looks like us. I guess,
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: like Ramen, like I've already said. And then Mollie is
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: like sweating a from the yummy noodles and also how
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 1: hot it is, and also because inside she knows that
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: she should not fucking do what she's about to goddamn do,
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: and now she's sweating. She's like, Sina, why did you lie?
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: Why did you lie? Gina? Why did you lie? Do
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 1: me too? Floors to me? Now what she's mad about,
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: which the entirety of the money in the universe is
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: like whose money is it? And we'll understand this. Sheena
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: has a whole ass job. Obviously, she takes care other animals.
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: God bless her for doing it, and not just animals.
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: She actually also is a breadwinner for her family. I
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: don't know if she's the only bread winner. I'm not
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: quite sure, but obviously she makes more money than other
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: people in her family, and therefore she gives them money.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 1: She comes from a culture where it's part of the
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 1: culture that you give money to your parents and stuff
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: like that. This is so wildly different from American culture
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: that Americans can't wrap their head around it. They cannot.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: In America, your parents are the ones that give you money,
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: and this generation, like the generation of like most people, well,
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 1: I don't want to say this unless it's true, but okay,
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: let me just say to me, it seems like a
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: blanket thing of Most people my age are not as
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 1: financially stable as their parents. So a lot of people
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 1: my age got help from their parents past, you know,
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 1: past the years in which you'd want to get help
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: from your parents. I mean, I know people that got
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: help from their parents to buy homes. I know people
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: that wouldn't be able to buy, wouldn't have not would
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: not have been able to buy the current home they're
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: in if it wasn't for their parents giving them that money.
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 1: So that's gonna feel very fucking different from the culture
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: that we're talking about. Shina is like my parents guilt
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: me to give money. She has been putting money into
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 1: a savings account only her, not Forrest. It's her money
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 1: that she has told Molly and Force that she is
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: saving up so that she can get herself to America.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: And that's what Molly's mad about. She's Molly that Sheena,
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Molly is mad that Sheena gave away her
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: own money to her parents and lied. She says to
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: Molly and Forrest about that, and she does not understand
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: why she lied. And so Sheena is like, let me
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: tell you. My parents made me feel bad. They guilted me,
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: used the obligation of her culture by saying I need
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 1: to give them that money or I'm a bad person
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: and I have a hard time making people upset or
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: hearing bad things, or hearing people yell at me like
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: I this is like she just starts to break down.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: So it's very fucking obvious that she feels this way.
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: She starts to have a like a panic attack. She's hyperventilating,
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: and Forced and dev are watching this, and Mollie does
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: not stop. Molly's like, this is stupid. You're just being
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: manipulated with your tears. I don't understand and I don't
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: understand why dev and Force is Like Mollie, she just
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: fucking answered you. She at the end of the day,
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: Sena has like whoever amount of people that she feels
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: like she wants to be truthful with or wants to
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 1: be fair with. And she does not have any boundaries.
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, she doesn't have a good she doesn't, she
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: seems seeing she seemingly needs help enforcing boundaries. So being
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 1: able to tell her parents I need money so I
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: can move to America didn't work. And maybe it didn't
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: work because maybe her mom, who knows, was like, well,
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: your dad's sick, so you're just gonna go to America
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: and leave your sick dad. Stupid, you know, I don't know,
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: and made Sina feel bad. And so Shina did what
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: Sheina could do with her own money. And Mollie doesn't
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: want to hear that, so as Shina answers her by
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: being like, I lie to you because my parents are
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: scary and I can't say no to them, just like
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: it's scary to be in front of you right fucking now,
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: just like you're hounding me. Can you imagine if you
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: actually gave birth to me and I actually felt guilt
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: and obligation. It's impossible. Forrest finally, after like not stepping in,
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: is like, well, I have to step in, and is
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 1: like shut up to Mollie after too long, and is
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 1: like you are being hostile, and also I understand how
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: hard it is to tell a person no mom. Now
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: Mollie is like, well, I see that she has got
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: her claws in him, and now he's gonna start doing
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: things different. And it's like, yeah, bitch, because you've had
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: your clause in him this whole time, and he's sick
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: of it. He's a grown ass man. He doesn't want
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 1: to deal with you anymore. I don't even know how
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: Dev does by not talking. I'm assuming Dev'm Freudian slip.
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 1: I'm assuming Dev has some hearing issues or he has
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: a crazy way of compartmentalizing what he's hearing to not
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: have to fucking pay attention to that. Molly's like, yeah,
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: now we're the big bad guys that were getting mad
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: at his beautiful Sheena. And it's like, well, I mean yeah,
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: Forrest thinks that, and we all do, girl, we all do.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: Mollie is like, I need to protect my son, and
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: I think that Dev has to be like he's too
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: all this to get away from you. He's protecting himself
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: from you right now. That's like what the thing is.
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 1: He can't wait to get away from you. He probably
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 1: he can't even get hard yet until you get the
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: fuck out of his life. Probably. I don't think that
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 1: he's gonna be able to be good in bed as
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 1: long as he can have awkward sex jokes with his mom.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: I think that there's a direct relationship to force ability
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: in bed, to how sexless his humor and conversation is
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 1: with his mom. True truth. Oh my goodness, gracious, I
• 1:12:33
  Speaker 1: can't even So we have a one more couple left,
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 1: and it's Laura and Burkin. Oh lord, lord, Laura, Lord,
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: I don't even know. This is also bad. It's really bad,
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 1: you guys. It's not good. So she's letting in Turkey
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 1: and he's ironing a shirt. I'm happy that he irons.
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 1: I can't iron I can only steam things. She rented
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: a big air and b and b sorry, a big airbnb.
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 1: That's uh, and he, you know, doesn't actually have a
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 1: place to live, so he's staying there. She's obviously on
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 1: her way from Washington. It shows that Chirn she's from Vancouver, Washington,
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: and I was like, Oh, is that is that awkward?
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: Or is that confusing for people in Washington If you're
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 1: from Vancouver, Washington, I don't is that just a city
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: right by the actual Vancouver and you have to be
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 1: like Vancouver American? Or is Vancouver, Washington far enough away
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: that when they say they're from Vancouver, people are like, Canada, Canada.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 1: Why can't I talk? And why did I start a podcast?
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 1: I'm kidding, it's because my thoughts just like go too fast.
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 1: But yeah, like I thought that was confusing. They should
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 1: rename Vancouver Washington something else, like Van Cuter Washington. Okay,
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: she's nervous to meet him, and it's because she has
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 1: gone through like a weight loss journey, and I'm sure
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: she's felt like other people have felt, and certainly like
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: I felt. And I started about it that like men
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 1: don't look at you if you're a certain size, and
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 1: you know, she doesn't quite know if she's the size
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 1: that's appropriate yet or tolerable to him, which is like
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: such a shitty feeling, and I know that feeling. Okay,
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 1: So she gets there early and he's on the way.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 1: She texts him that she's art at the train station
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: and she changes into a cute dress and then she
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: comes down the escalator and he's there looking at her,
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 1: and he says, hello, gorgeous to her right away. She's
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 1: very into that, and they kiss and it's like a
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 1: kind of like an okay airport greeting moment. But then
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 1: they go outside and then we have like the telltale
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 1: confessionals and the producers are like, what did you think
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: when you saw her? And then he says, I don't
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: even have to see her. She's perfect. She's perfect. And
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 1: then when you start to realize he actually won't look
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 1: at her. He's actually avoiding looking at her in this moment,
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 1: and she's holding on to him honey, as if he's
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 1: like the strongest slash only branch off a fucking cliff,
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 1: and she's about to fall over. I mean, she's grabbing
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: onto him like nobody's business. He is like, yes, so perfect.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: So then they get in the car or like I'm
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: sorry a bus, and she realizes that it's not good.
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: He again won't look at her and is just staring
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 1: off in the distance, being like, good, you're here. It's
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, we can throw around words to me it
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 1: felt little neurodivergent. The he's not making eye contact, you know,
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 1: like I don't know if the streets are like she's
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 1: just not attracted to her. But I don't think that
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 1: could be the case, because Laura is Laura is beautiful.
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: I think that Laura has like Laura is beautiful period,
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 1: and Laura has like a gorgeous face and gorgeous eyes
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: and a gorgeous body that has like gone through, you know,
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 1: the ups and downs of living in this world. And
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 1: I don't understand how you can't look at Laura's face,
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 1: because I can. I think it's beautiful. And if you,
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 1: like had ever talked to her, if you would ever
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 1: like shared intimate moments, an emotional connection, if you can't
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 1: make eye contact with her, it's indicative of either you
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 1: being really nervous or you having some sort of problem
• 1:16:21
  Speaker 1: within yourself. So they get to the Airbnb and she's
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 1: certainly like, Wow, this place is fucking big, and he's like, yep,
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 1: I love it. I love the TV. I love the couch.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: And they go outside to the balcony and I took
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 1: a picture, as one does. Oh okay, I took a picture,
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 1: and I didn't put it up, but I'm gonna have
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 1: to just trust me that when they go on the balcony,
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 1: he has like a red light, almost like a laser
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: that's being pointed at his skull. And at first I
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 1: was like, I'm sorry, is Michael. There is Michael on
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 1: one of these rooftops. Is Michael about to fucking sniper
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: the shit out of this bitch? Anyway? He also, like
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 1: burkin beer Can, says a lot of like fluffy fuck
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 1: and pontificating shit that he thinks sounds like poetic and maybe,
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 1: like the first one, you're like, oh, and then as
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 1: it goes on, you realize this person is just saying
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 1: bullshit lines without feeling present in the moment and connecting
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 1: with someone. Architecture is the art that we live in.
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, so is the fashion. So's what you're wearing.
• 1:17:22
  Speaker 1: People consider fashion to be an art form. So if
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 1: you're wearing clothes, technically that's the art you're living in.
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: But Okay, she's like, I know it's ridiculous that he's
• 1:17:33
  Speaker 1: always saying dumb shit, but I don't mind it. And
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 1: we're like, yes you do, Laura, be honest with yourself,
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: Yes you do. You don't want to hear some twenty
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 1: ninthe year old pretend that he's fucking a philosopher. No,
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 1: you're not, You're not smart. You're just saying things you've read,
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 1: pretending that you thought about them. And also you're not
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: even present in the moment to look at someone. This
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 1: isn't real to me. To me, artists and thinkers draw
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 1: upon what they experience or what they see around them,
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 1: and so you can't really be an artist or a
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 1: philosopher if you are embedded at some points in the
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 1: present moment seeing what's actually around you. If you don't
• 1:18:14
  Speaker 1: have like that openness to take in things, if you're
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 1: always in your head, then you're not. I'm not saying that,
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 1: like people always have to give great eye contact to
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 1: be artists or philosophers. But when I'm watching this man,
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 1: I just, yeah, I don't see like a great mind.
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 1: I don't even see like connections happening behind his eyes
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 1: that make me feel like his thoughts are warranted. So
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 1: they get back to the Airbnb and it's still fucking awkward,
• 1:18:47
  Speaker 1: and she's like, well, I'm exhausted and I'm going to
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 1: shower and then and go to bed, and he's like
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 1: well to nine. So I'm just gonna stay here and
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 1: watch TV. You know, I don't really get a chance
• 1:18:55
  Speaker 1: to watch a lot of good TV on flat screen
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 1: TVs and big apartments, So I'm gonna stay here and
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: do what I want to do. And she thinks that's dumb.
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: She's right. Then she goes to her room and she's like, yeah,
• 1:19:07
  Speaker 1: Michael's been blowing my shit up. Michael tracked my flight.
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: He's texting me, and when he texted her, he's like,
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: how are things and she's like fine, And then he
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 1: in the text was like, doesn't seem fine. That tone
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 1: isn't fine. That's not how you say I know you
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 1: you know, And she's like, yeah, it feels off, and
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 1: I just I can't believe he could feel that he
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 1: knew that. And it's really interesting how she can in
• 1:19:33
  Speaker 1: real time viscerally feel the connection she has with Michael,
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 1: and obviously this really not feel the non connection she
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 1: has with beer Can, who I mean is doing whatever
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 1: he can to get like one hour of TV watching
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 1: on like a couch because he knows this isn't going
• 1:19:49
  Speaker 1: to last for long. I wonder what he thinks she
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: gets from him, like beer Can, what do you think
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: she's getting from you, like love affection? What has she
• 1:19:57
  Speaker 1: been getting from him? Just like some weirdo that's like
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 1: quoting vague concepts to you all the time and you
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 1: were like, that's it. I don't know, but it's interesting
• 1:20:08
  Speaker 1: because Laura and Lisa, besides the fact that there are
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 1: two ladies on this show whose names begin with el
• 1:20:16
  Speaker 1: and who are dating younger men who don't see men
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 1: into them and you know, have their own you know,
• 1:20:24
  Speaker 1: and are dealing with and themselves dealing with their own
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 1: insecurities wig or body or whatever. You can see how
• 1:20:31
  Speaker 1: I feel like Laura has a better propensity to be
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 1: real with herself and be like self aware and also
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 1: like see the situation at hand. I don't know how
• 1:20:39
  Speaker 1: she actually got herself to this exact position, but I mean,
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 1: surely her parents have the same question. But I think
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 1: Laura's going to quickly realize that he's not for her.
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 1: And I wonder if Michael's going to come out to
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 1: Turkey like she's had that place it's overlooking the water,
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: there's like a whole part of me or I'm like,
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 1: I wonder if she's just gonna be like, yeah, what
• 1:21:00
  Speaker 1: beer can get the fuck out of here, buddy, Michael.
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 1: Hey hayboo hey, I still had this place for another week.
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 1: Turkey's great is Dan Bull Constantinople? Just like that song,
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 1: we can sing it together. It's your favorite song. I
• 1:21:14
  Speaker 1: don't know it's Dan Bull Wisconstantinople? Okay? Uh that that
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 1: reference just aged me so long, I so many years.
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: I just have to pick up my life, my dignity,
• 1:21:24
  Speaker 1: and move on my loves. That was the end of
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 1: the episode. Ugh. I really found it so interesting though.
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 1: I really love this season. I mean, I know I
• 1:21:33
  Speaker 1: wanted to say it every episode, but it's true, Like,
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 1: I love this season. It's so good. It's awkward and
• 1:21:41
  Speaker 1: definitely some people like give me the heb gbs. But
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 1: at the same time, there's just a lot of information
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 1: that's like fit for consumption and discussion. And I mean,
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 1: guess what, that's why I have a podcast. I can't.
• 1:21:55
  Speaker 1: I just love talking about why people do the things
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 1: they do, how it relates to maybe us. And also
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 1: I love talking about what they're wearing. Like I loved
• 1:22:07
  Speaker 1: Sheena's lemon dress when she was in Chinatown, and I also, yeah,
• 1:22:11
  Speaker 1: I also loved Laura's dress when she turned into changed
• 1:22:14
  Speaker 1: into that like navy number. And for some reason, I
• 1:22:16
  Speaker 1: really care about a lot of people this episodes, like
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 1: I really care about I really care about Gena, I
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 1: really care about Laura, like I want the best for
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 1: them and every in every way, and I care about
• 1:22:26
  Speaker 1: Lisa's daughter. I have no one to care about with
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 1: Emma and Zayed Jovan and annalyin I mean, I'm not
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 1: I don't. I think it's not great for by either
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 1: one of them. And so yeah, that's that's where I
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 1: stand of who I care about and who I don't
• 1:22:42
  Speaker 1: care about. By caring, I mean who I like, have
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 1: love for, and the other people I don't mind watching
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 1: and talking about, and I don't hate them. I'm just like, Oh,
• 1:22:51
  Speaker 1: your character isn't a weird play that I keep watching
• 1:22:56
  Speaker 1: a weird cereal play. Okay, my love's can you believe it?
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 1: That's it. So the way I'm working right now is
• 1:23:04
  Speaker 1: Vanity Farah will host The nine A Day Fiance before
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: the ny Day's season eight recaps on Patreon. You can
• 1:23:13
  Speaker 1: go and see the video if you want to see
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 1: me in real life talking about it. I have barely
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 1: to makeup on. I put too much blush on though.
• 1:23:19
  Speaker 1: For this I have been obviously abroad, so I haven't
• 1:23:22
  Speaker 1: been able to keep up the YouTube in the past week.
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 1: But coming up on YouTube, I will do a combo
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 1: episode of the Other Way for the ones I missed
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 1: and Sister Wives those exist on YouTube, and then at
• 1:23:38
  Speaker 1: some point I'll put more episodes on Vanity Farah. Okay,
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 1: my loves. I know it's confusing, but just bear with me. Also,
• 1:23:44
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• 1:23:48
  Speaker 1: it to me, all right, No, but truly, thank you
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 1: so much for being here. Thank you so much for
• 1:23:53
  Speaker 1: like spending any time listening to me talk fucking up
• 1:23:56
  Speaker 1: words left and right. But also know that I appreciate
• 1:24:00
  Speaker 1: I appreciate it like I I appreciate that you listen
• 1:24:03
  Speaker 1: to me, or you care about, you know, the thoughts
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 1: in my head, or I hope more so that something
• 1:24:09
  Speaker 1: I say during episodes of this podcast feel good to
• 1:24:16
  Speaker 1: you or feel like universally sound to you, or that
• 1:24:22
  Speaker 1: you feel like a connection to And I know that
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 1: anyone's opinion can be like judgmental or whatnot, So give
• 1:24:30
  Speaker 1: me the grace if you can that we're all living
• 1:24:33
  Speaker 1: in this world and trying to be our best, but
• 1:24:35
  Speaker 1: also that we're trying to, you know, change and make
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 1: better choices. So having said that, your choice to give
• 1:24:43
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• 1:24:46
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• 1:24:50
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• 1:24:57
  Speaker 1: with Sheena and also hopefully we'll even and get manan
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 1: on from the other way. Chris el Fara on TikTok,
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• 1:25:18
  Speaker 1: but so am I, and so's Aneline, says Javon's sister Ashley,
• 1:25:24
  Speaker 1: who sees things beautifully through I mean gorgeous tortoise shell glasses.
• 1:25:30
  Speaker 1: I wish she could tell her brother what the fuck's up?
• 1:25:33
  Speaker 1: All right, my loves, I'll talk to you later. Take
• 1:25:37
  Speaker 1: a deep breath with me one more, because we're all
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 1: present right now in this moment, and being connected and
• 1:25:42
  Speaker 1: present is what makes us artists and what makes us thinkers.
• 1:25:48
  Speaker 1: It's by observing and being here all right, my loves,
• 1:25:50
  Speaker 1: So take care of yourselves and one another. This is
• 1:25:54
  Speaker 1: the brand new year, so it's really important take care
• 1:25:56
  Speaker 1: of yourselves and one another. Sent up what you believe
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 1: and make art. Alright, my babes, I will talk to
• 1:26:01
  Speaker 1: you later. Thank you so much. Bye,